who would like to study at the lyceum, and it turns out that the minister of public education, who was involved in all the details of the creation of the lyceum, organized these tests directly at home, on tour, count alexey kirillovich razumovsky, had a beautiful palace and park ensemble on the banks of the fontanka, this is literally opposite - today's building of the great drama theatre, from the fontanka to the suburban avenue. it was a luxurious building, where applicants for this high title of lyceum student began to gather. the exams were really serious, a good half of these tests failed, but still 30 people were selected for the first one. course for the first

graduation, having received notification that they had been accepted to study at the lyceum, these boys , accompanied by their fathers or grandfathers, began to gather in the tsar’s village. in tsarskoye selo, they were first of all brought to the house of the director of the lyceum, and the house of the director of the lyceum was literally opposite the tsarskoye selo lyceum, it was what they would call a service living space, at first vasily fedrovich malinovsky lived there, then another began to live there director, yegor antonovichelgard , the director of the lyceum, lived there, from the period when he graduated pushkin and his friends, and to this day , on the pediment of this building, the coat of arms of the lyceum, installed there in 1816, has been preserved, this hero of the lyceum was invented by yegor antonovich

engelgard himself, he also came up with the motto, the lyceum for the common benefit, because it was for the common benefit that those boys who came to study at the lyceum should have been brought up to work. and finally, on october 19, 1811, the solemn ceremony began, of course, first of all, the divine service, and then all the guests gathered in the large hall of the imperial tsarsko-selo lyceum. and in this hall, which we now see, the most honored guests were at the table. emperor alexander entered this hall, a solemn ceremony began, and future lyceum students began to be introduced to him. and for the first time then, here, in the arches

of this hall, the name alexander pushkin sounded. there were a lot of speeches. at first the speeches were quite official, official, and then the adjunct professor was given the floor, kunitsin, who threw away all sorts of pieces of paper , addressing the pupils, made a speech where... he never mentioned, unlike others, the name of the emperor, but where, addressing them, he said: love for glory and the fatherland, let them be your leaders, emperor alexander liked this speech so much that, unexpectedly for everyone, he immediately awarded one professor kunitsin with the order of vladimir. you have a new reminder, events. results of the year with

vladimir putin. don't forget to turn on the tv on december 14 at 12:00 moscow time time. old barrel cognac is a product of the stellar group. it didn’t take long for the heart to start, but now it’s stopped again, the condition is stable and serious. valeria, direct cardiac massage in these conditions. eh, it can’t get any worse, this is her last chance, is he completely asleep or already , is he drunk, toma, take him away, this is already a crime, what are you doing, come on, what are you doing, toma, i came to this city, to correct the mistake, instead made new ones, ask the nurse, tomorrow, after the program, time, maybe, to spit on the past? you are alive, your arms are intact, your legs are intact, and

memory, why do you care, we can’t get out of bedabir, let’s break through. for the day of heroes of the fatherland, the badaber fortress on saturday on the first. i need you alive. our story from the tsarskoye selo lyceum continues, sergei nekrasov is with you. lyceum life began. it was unexpected in many respects for the lyceum students, because it was announced to them. that the lyceum is a closed educational institution, that various kinds of trips outside the lyceum are prohibited here, that there are limited opportunities to meet with relatives who can come and visit you, at first this caused

dissatisfaction, ivan ivanovich writes that they were upset to tears by such a harsh order. true, further in the next sentence, since he wrote all this already in his declining years, he writes that this was precisely one of the reasons for that friendship, that lyceum brotherhood, that unity that arose between the students of the first graduating class . everyday life began, which involved training, very dense training, if we talk about the schedule, it... is calculated from 7:00 am to 7:00 pm, this does not mean at all that lyceum students had to sit and 12:00 uh, listen to lectures continuously or answer one or the other, no, everything was done very wisely, because general

lectures alternated with general walks in the park, in any weather, they had physical games, of course, mainly in the so-called fence, now we see here - this... rare, one-of-a-kind watercolor , which represents the fence, as it was called then, since they surrounded this piece of wood with a fence, here is an image of this place from the time alexander sergeevich pushkin studied there. one of the important subjects in the lyceum was drawing and the teacher of drawing was a man who simultaneously held the position of senior inspector. and now being the eldest. he had an apartment in the lyceum on the fourth floor, it was in this apartment that his students sometimes gathered, quite a few hours were allocated in the curriculum for drawing, but since every evening, from 7:00 to 100 there was free

time in the evening, sergei gavrievich chirikov, the senior tutor's art teacher, lyceum students were gathering. they told different stories, and he gave them pencils, paper, almost every evening they added drawing exercises, and they really drew absolutely delightfully, here in front of us is one of these drawings, uh, the apostle, who was depicted by ivan malinovsky, and another drawing, the head of an athenian warrior, belongs to the pupil lomanos. the question immediately arises: what about pushkin, we know his drawings, his later drawings, here is his early drawing, drawn by alexander pushkin, a dog with a bird, this drawing on a given topic was executed by alexander sergeevich. it must

be said that among the compulsory subjects others were added, why? because, in fact, speaking in modern language, the lyceum was a very successful, innovative project in the field of pedagogy at the beginning of the 19th century. the most important thing was to discern in the student his inclinations, his abilities and to do everything as much as possible to ensure that these abilities were developed. therefore, those who wished to become military and dreamed of military service, special teachers came for them, officers from st. petersburg, who additionally... were very seriously involved in military affairs with those who chose a military career in the future. gorchakov, lomonosov and other lyceum students were extremely interested in diplomacy, so the college of foreign affairs constantly brought them documents with which they

worked. and here’s an amazing thing: the lyceum was neither a diplomatic academy, nor a naval corps, nor a literary institute, but since each azunkt professor, er, ordinary teacher, still discovered his main inclinations, tried to facilitate their development as much as possible, then from.. .diplomats, not to mention prince alexander mikhailovich gorchakov, the future minister of foreign affairs, poets came out of the lyceum, poets delvik, poet kichelbecker, and of course, the brilliant poet pushkin. pushkin did not need to study poetry, but he had to learn many other things. and the main one. there was no need to be distracted by what was useless to him, in his memoirs ivan

ivanovich writes about how professor kartsev once called him to the blackboard, and pushkin had to solve an equation, he puffed for a long time, could not express anything when professor asked him, well, what does x equal , pushkin answered zero with a smile, well pushkin, in my class everything ends in zero, the professor said, sit down and write poetry, pushchin, by the way, remembers that thanks to professor kartsev, that not tortured pushkin. pushkin really wrote poetry and , of course, the tsar’s village became his poetic homeland, and it is not without reason that in one of the versions - the eighth chapter of eugene onegin, pushkin wrote: “in those days, in the darkness of the oak groves, near the waters flowing in silence, in the corners of the lyceum passages, appear "the muse has become to me, then in the final edition, these words already began to sound differently, in those days, in

the mysterious valleys in the spring, the calls of swan, shining in the silence, the muse began to appear to me, but all the same, in the corners of the lyceum passages or near the parks of tsarskoe selo, anyway , it was here in tsar’s village, and it was not for nothing that pushkin called it his fatherland, as well as the fatherland of all his comrades, it was here that this sacrament of the birth of the pushkin muse, it just happened, i must say that pushkin valued it very much friendship with his fellow training, and of course, it was a great joy for him to celebrate this birthday of the lyceum, as a big joyful holiday, in one of his poems pushkin wrote in a draft, i establish an order for the holiday,

this order of the holiday established by the poet on october 19, it really was for holy is important to all lyceum students, but what kind of holiday is it? it was like this, exactly a year after graduating from the lyceum, lyceum students gathered to celebrate this event, the opening day of the lyceum. and they liked it so much that they decided to gather until their death, constantly together and celebrate this day. pushkin, when he was in st. petersburg, he was always with his comrades , on this day, october 19, and not only was he there, he always kept minutes of this meeting, minutes that sometimes ended with humorous words, well, for example, once when he needed was already going to tver province. after the celebration of october 19, pushkin

completely filled out the protocol, added four lines at the end, fervently prayed to god, shouted hurray at the lyceum, goodbye brothers, i’m on my way, it’s time for you to go to bed. biography of pushkin it turned out that, of course , sometimes he was forced to be absent from these gatherings due to... this was the case, for example, in 1825, when pushkin was in exile in mikhailovsky, but three of you, friends of my soul, were embraced here by me, the poet disgraced house, oh, my house was abandoned, you were the first to visit, you sweetened the sad day of exile, you turned the lyceum into the day of his lyceum, in fact , pushchin came to pushkin literally for one day, bringing with him french

champagne, and most importantly the manuscript of greboyedov’s comedy grief from crazy, really pleased exile, a sad day, in his memoirs, ivan ivanovich pushchin wrote about this in detail, and of course, we cannot help but remember this friendship, since in the lyceum, which was, as we have already said, a closed educational institution, there were drutoirs... .. on the upper fourth floor, it was there that pushkin’s room and pushchin’s room were separated only by a thin partition, so talking in the evenings, er, or very early in the morning, they discussed some important things for them, and ivan ivanovichin was not only alexander sergevich’s closest friend pushkin. he was amazing authority for all lyceum students. he was treated with great respect, and pushkin, of course, too, and pushchin amazingly appreciated his lyceum friend.

and so it had to happen that when, after december 14, 1800 - 25 years after the event on senate square, after the decembrist uprising, in which ivan ivanovich took an active part, he was sent to hard labor, the first one who met him at hard labor , in chetinsky ostrog, as ivan ivanovich pushchin himself writes, there was his friend, alexander pushkin. in his memoirs, pushchin writes, that on the first day of his arrival in chattinsky ostrog, alexandra grigorievna muravyova, the fourth cousin of alexander sergegevich pushkin and wife , decembrist muravyova, born countess chernyshova, came up to the fence, and held out a piece of paper, on this piece of paper, ivan ivanovich pushchin read, my first friend, my priceless friend, this was

the poem that pushkin sent here with muravyova, and of course, this was a huge event for ivan ivanovich pushchin and , of course, powerful support. the relationships between the lyceum students were different, but they were all welded together by this lyceum friendship, this lyceum brotherhood. we continue the conversation about the tsarskoe selo lyceum, with you sergei nekrasov. we just remembered how alexander sergeevich wrote about pushchina. who was the first to visit him in exile, and then he writes about korchakov, because prince alexander mikhailovich korchakov, having arrived in pskov, let pushkin know about this, and pushkin met with him, and did not forget to say about it in that very poem on october 19, which is this hymn to lyceum friendship, the anthem

lyceum, tygorchikov, lucky from the first days, praise to you, fortune, cold shine, unchangeable. your free soul, you are still the same for honor and friends. we were assigned different paths by strict fate; when we entered into life, we quickly parted ways, but by chance, on a country road , we met and embraced brotherly. of course, neither one nor the other knew what exactly the most serene prince, alexander mikhailovich gorchakov, was destined to become. that last lyceum student who celebrated the day of the lyceum, exclusively in solitude, who experienced all your friends. in this poem, pushkin also remembers anton delvig, his closest friend, also a poet, he was the author

of the texts of famous romances, based on his poems, on delvig’s poems, as well as on pushkin’s poems. wrote the music - their neighbor in dortoire on the fourth floor, mikhail lukyanovich yakovlev, yakovlev, in whose apartment lyceum students gathered in recent years. pushkin adored delviga when the wrath of fate befell me, a stranger to everyone, like a homeless orphan, under the storm i hung my head languidly and waited for you, prophet permer maidens and you came , my inspired son delvik, your voice awakened the heat of the heart that had been lulled for so long, and i cheerfully blessed my fate. the service of muus does not tolerate vanity, it is beautiful, it should be majestic, but youth advises us, crafty and noisy, dreams delight us, but we remember, but late, sadly, we look

back at the traces. without seeing there, tell me, wilhelm , wasn’t that what happened to us, my dear brother, by muse, by fate, here’s the name of another friend, another poet, police nickname, his name was kyuhlya, this same kyuhlya, kindest a man of soul, a wonderful comrade, a reliable friend, but nevertheless, he was a very hot-tempered person, and of course... when he found out that kuchelbecker went out onto senate square, and even tried to shoot grand duke michal with a pistol. this struck him to the depths of his soul, here is the drawing of pushkin, which we now see, precisely depicting kuchelbecker, who with a pistol went out onto

senate square, and next to him there were relays, a poet one of the leaders of the december uprising, pushkin knew nothing about this uprising, he not even anything didn’t feel it, but somehow he felt an urgent need to go to st. petersburg, and he ordered to harness up, he already... the relevant documents, he sat down in the rank, and a woman with an empty bucket crossed the road, a bad omen, pushkin got angry, then the hare began rush about, literally in front of him, and alexander sergeevich canceled his decision, returned back, in two evenings, wrote, for december 13 and 14, wrote count nulin, and when the poet learned about the events... in st. petersburg, he, having the habit of setting the date writing his works, he added a phrase that is quite often remembered, there are strange rapprochements

, telling this story, and of course , kuchlyu recalled, probably recalled that duel that arose between kuchelbecker and pushkin, yes, yes, a duel, uh, because it would seem that such close friends could not quarrel, but they really quarreled, moreover, kuchelbecker... sent a challenge to pushkin, pushkin was forced to agree, and although friends tried to dissuade him from this duel, kuchelbecker was adamant, it was winter, they measured the appropriate number of steps, barriers were set up, the duel began, just as shown here, kuchelbecker began to aim at pushkin, delvik was a second, paodel stood, and... being myopic, his hand was trembling, he could not shoot, pushkin even turning to delvik he said:

“delvik, take my place, it ’s safer here.” but then a shot rang out, and thank god it missed, and pushkin, throwing the pistol, ran to hug kuchelbaker, no, shoot, shoot, - kuchelbaker shouted, how can i shoot when the gun is already jammed. snow, as contemporaries recall, several versions of the story about this duel have been preserved, but the duel really took place, and it was literally a year after graduating from the lyceum, but again kuchelbecker, he would not calm down, once , in mockery of his works, they brought him to the point of that he ran to drown himself, ran to drown himself in the nearest alexander ... park, there was a pond there, 1.5 m deep, and kuchelbel was about 2 m tall. and here, in a caricature , it is depicted as teachers with a bogro, er,

pulling him out from this very place, and of course, uh, they save, uh, which made many lyceum students laugh a lot. the fact is that all these pranks, uh, they, of course, gave some kind of charm to the face. in life, lyceum students remembered this with great pleasure when they gathered for a lyceum day with one or another teacher; in recent years they gathered, as we have already said, in the house of mikhail lukyanovich yakovlev, he became a kind of lyceum headman, and those caricatures, those manuscripts, those lyceum relics that were collected by yakovlev, they really claimed to be... then become museum exhibits, and that’s exactly what happened. the last time alexander sergeevich pushkin was at the meeting of the lyciists, october 19, 1836, 25

years have passed, remember about others from the time when our circle of fate was connected, to which, to which we were witnesses, the play of a mysterious game, confused peoples rushed about, and rose and kings fell , people fell, now glory, now freedom, now pride, scarf, altars, this is a fragment of a poem that pushkin wrote on october 19 , 1836, he could not read it to the end, as recalls one of the participants in this meeting, tears choked him, pushkin put these leaves aside and went to the window, one of those present took them and read them. to the end, after 100 days there was a duel, pushkin passed away, and his comrades were getting old, and it so happened that by

the mid-fifties of the 21st century , few people were alive, that’s when mikhail lyukyanovich yakovlev came to fellow student madest andreevich korfu, who headed to the imperial public library in order to donate those manuscripts of pushkin, that he had, those lyceum relics that he had, perhaps this would have happened, but he was present at this one. also general miller, the head of the imperial lyceum, here it was decided not to leave these things here in the library collections, but to begin the creation of the pushkin museum, and of course, then, from 185, that collecting work began, as museum workers and

employees say. which led to the opening on october 19, 1879 of the first museum in russia of alexander sergeevich pushkin already 20 years later years when all of russia celebrated the centenary of alexander sergeevich pushkin in 1899, when for 20 years the first pushkin museum of russia existed, under the imperial person. even then the number of exhibits was about 2,500, we are glad that this museum did not fade into oblivion, did not die, but constantly developing, passed from one incarnation to another, after 1917, it existed under the auspices of the academy of sciences for another half a century, and then was transferred to the management

ministry for another 5 years and we will celebrate the 150th anniversary of our museum, the all-russian museum pushkin, which was collected by all of russia, and which originates from the lyceum museum that was created by pushkin’s friends, i hope that by this time we will be able to talk. especially intended for the most important parts of the public service, remains as relevant today as it was in those days when the outstanding russian reformer, mikhail mikhailovich spiransky,

proposed. to create a new educational institution wrote its charter. in one of his letters , spiransky wrote: the idea of ​​the lyceum belongs to me, onov’s charter was written by me, although all the glory others kidnapped. it was a podcast of precious history, and i, its host, was the director of the all-russian museum of alexander sergeevitch pushkin, sergei nikras. friends, hello, this is a sit down podcast about raising children, and possibly adults, our guest today is larisa surkova, an amazing woman, mother of seven, seven children, psychologist, children's, adult, author

of numerous books, they call larisa. lawyer for children's souls, we have a huge number of questions for larisa, how many years should we invest in a child, here it is believed that up to the age of 7, yes , that’s all that was laid down, and that’s kind of the end, until the age of seven it’s already quite good, but at that time there was a wave when everything is said up to three, and fortunately only then there was such an exposure of this information that a wonderful book , which was once translated from japanese, after three it’s already too late, it was not translated... it was cut out correctly and so on, in general everything is not written there like that, so 7 years is already quite good , but in fact, i would say that the end of the edge is not visible, because there is no such age, no one came up with it, i think, you know, this myth came from the fact that once upon a time, especially in soviet times, we were told that nerve cells do not recover, the brain does not develop, everything is dead, in principle, i lived to be twenty , then that’s it, so in the end this is what we need

for parents. how to somehow let go a little and give air to your children? you know, i would answer this question like this, parents need to be, in principle, period, because the main joy of the child and his main point of support , the point of development, is when... he has family, when he comes home, he has someone to talk to, and i’m not naming a specific time now, it doesn’t have to happen exactly there at 13:00, a lot has been said, i repeat once again, it’s not the quantity of time, but its quality that matters, mom may come in the evening after work, very tired, eat, exhale , sit down, spend half an hour with the child, but it will be so effective, and he will be so developed, because every time spent with him, mom and dad will spend on what talk to him, tell him about what they they themselves know or know how to do something together with him, so i always think that in fact , what is inherent is genetics, but it is more important and, as it were, everything, it doesn’t matter, that is, if he has talent, which is inherent in it, and genetic in general, as if

by nature, then it will still manifest itself somehow, there is such a wonderful direction called psychogenetics, in our country it is not so, probably still actively developed, abroad it really very developed, they spend huge. the number of long, such longitudinal, extended over time of research, they have been monitoring families, children for decades, every year they publish more and more new statistics, at first they said there about 15 years ago, 70% genetics, 30 environment, and the latest research says that 57% genetics, the rest environment, because that the environment has a very big influence , i have an eldest son, for example, but he really wanted to study from the very beginning, he was very like that, and well, he was very drawn to history, geography, and when we went there somewhere travel there instead lying somewhere on the beach, i had to go to some excavations, to endless museums , that is, he knows all the museums in moscow, in general , right down to some exhibits, and he was always

very drawn to knowledge, and as soon as he went to school, the older he became , yes, so these desires to learn something, it all seemed to fade away, that’s how in general, this is the child’s thirst for knowledge, how to keep it, this such an important thing is how to preserve this, yes indeed it is very important, because unfortunately, when children find yourself in a school environment where there is not one significant adult, not two, like mom and dad , yes, who supported you, ran around museums, and there are different people who can discourage the desire to study by the fact that they do not objectively evaluate you, by that they don’t notice you, ignore you, that they may even laugh at you, that sit there, don’t show off, don’t interfere. shut up, things happen in schools, of course we, as parents, are faced with this, but what is important is that when a child always returns home, he receives this support from his parents, i always praise my children very much, that is, i ’m there for my eldest son, there you are

, i’m the smartest, you have such potential, and i’ve also heard the opinion of psychologists that this, on the contrary , has the opposite effect, is there such or there are really a lot of non-psychologists now, i adhere to the opinion that was once voiced a long time ago in... that you can’t love a child, that’s when you give him a lot of love and a lot of support, it’s like you know, such an oxygen cylinder, here you are you hang a big balloon on him oxygen, you send him on such a conditional diving trip to big life, to school , somewhere else, and he is constantly fueled by this oxygen, because no matter what they tell him, no matter how they try to lower his self-esteem, no matter how difficult he is i haven’t met, he always has a mask... which he can breathe, remember that he is really loved very much, he is very supported, he will always be helped, so our love, our fullness, our support is the most important thing when it is there , and chinese and japanese and mathematics are all good it will fall down, and it will be easier for the child to express

his desires, because this is also very important, because sometimes it seems to us that well, i know mathematics well, my husband knows mathematics well, our child should know mathematics well, but he doesn’t like mathematics . that’s when we gave him this support and acceptance in any situation, we have this rule at home: no matter what happens, come tell us, together we will decide, if we don’t know what’s happening to you, we won’t be able to help you, then it’s unknown what can happen to you happen, yes, so it is very important for the child that he can come at any moment to say, listen, guys, well, i can’t do it, then you will sit down and decide together what kind of support you can give him, that is, we praise him, in short, children, everything is fine, like love, it is love. we actually reciprocate, because it is always very difficult for parents with growing children, little one, he loves you anyway, you understand, yes, that he runs to you, he reaches out to you, he adores you, accepts you absolutely in any way, as the child grows up, he begins

to look like a hedgehog, such a porcupine, you can’t touch him here, you can’t touch him there , he’ll snap at you, he’ll answer you something, our parents have a fear that the child doesn’t love me, since he talks to me like that, then he doesn’t... love me, we forget that a child’s concept of this love, our concept of love is completely different things, and of course, sometimes they are at such a wonderful age, i love him very much there 5-7 years. when they are already such young manipulators, they understand what there is for their parents, well such words are triggers that can somehow offend them, and i regularly receive letters when they write to me, larisa, my child said that he doesn’t love me anymore, i don’t know how to live on, god, what am i saying ? , i say, seriously, now you are an adult woman, a five-year-old child told you, i don’t love you anymore, and you perceive it like this, that is, they sit, sob, for the child’s psyche it works, wow, how great, then yes, it’s not because he ’s your villain, but because it’s

subconscious process, feedback , so vivid, yes, why are you doing this, you need to understand that he is five, you are 35, and not to confuse who is the adult here, who is the child, but this will always be very important, tell me, you are a psychologist, yes, this is how it happens at home with a psychologist, firstly, i have two adult daughters, they already live separately, they don’t live with us, there are always five of them, we have a lot at home. noisy, we have children, my husband is also a psychologist, by the way, we once studied together, he is really involved in organizations, that is, another little bit of history, corporate psychology, but nevertheless , it’s always noisy here, and we never stop children in this regard, i usually joke like that, i say, thanks to the neighbor downstairs, whom we don’t have, because we live in a house in the countryside, our children can run, jump, play ball , bark at our dogs, that is, we really are always very noisy, and this is important, because when in society, in kindergarten or at school, of course children

keep themselves within limits, and when returning home, if we are from them, we or you, no matter who, demand that we remain silent, do not breathe, do not walk, but this is impossible, let’s always remember ourselves, we come home from work, we want to kick off our shoes, take off our clothes, wash off our makeup and also relax, the child is also a person, why do we very often make demands on the child that we don’t even make ourselves to ourselves, that is, we. when we come home, we want to rest, we can tell everyone not to touch, not to disturb, not to approach, and no one will pester us, but therefore about the child, we believe that we know everything, we understand everything well, it’s a question of the regime, yes , here we are now we say that we are, as it were, freedom, but there are some kind of framework, a regime, especially for children who go to school, to kindergarten, who live in the system, it must be, we have it at home, returning to that , that just like at home, we have common routine moments, so let’s say, and this is absolutely correct in my opinion, the child should have... a fixed number of hours of sleep at night, this is

important, because there he grows, there he is getting healthier, his immunity is working there, so there should be a fixed time lights out, a child of school age must sleep at least 7-8 hours, absolutely, the child must eat, and we must do everything so that he eats, because now, fortunately, the psychology of eating behavior tells us that we no longer need to kill ourselves for soup or porridge, yes, the main thing is that he eats. he must drink, this is also a regime moment that parents forget about, and children forget, sometimes there is simply no access to normal water in the house that you can take and drink, you need to accustom both yourself and the child, and if a child lives within such a simple regime, of course, it will be easier for him to get up in the morning, go to school, yes, he will feel physically better, you are watching the podcast, sit down normally, today we are talking with psychologist larisai. surkova, we are trying to understand how to raise a harmonious personality

, my middle son, yes, i forced him for some time, he went in for sports, then there was some kind of break, he got out of some, yes, that is, i still forced him, how it would be necessary to force people to go to sports clubs, it’s a must, there’s probably a difference here concepts, that is, you can say, force, you can say persuade , you can say, motivate, you can say, sell it profitably to show the child why he needs it, or you can ask him himself what he wants, because, for example, in our family there is a different the problem was when it started before the start of the school... the special stages that they want, that i sat down like this with a schedule, and i thought, where should i even shove this here for them, yes, because we have my children, they want everything, there’s a lot at once, they never have enough, maybe because mom and dad are like that, and this is very important, this is about the issue of the environment, that is, if a child sees that his parents are developing all the time, they are interested in everything all the time for little time, he wants to do the same, because the parents are ideal. of course, in some kind of good picture of the world, a child has an example

to follow, so it is very important to record the time, when you have quiet time, there is time for each child, then again the question comes back to the regime, but after all, if, this is my regime adult, excuse me, i'll interrupt you, i have the time of each child written in my diary, each of my children knows, just like my husband, today i went to work, yes there, and my husband, he knows that he has time today when he takes the girls to the stables , we call it let's play a game, that we have only two children in the family, there is a game, let's play, that we have only one child in the family, sometimes we go to the store with one there, everyone has their own activity, which is interesting to him. and she is included in my schedule, not theirs, she fit into my life, in my schedule , in my calendar, and i tell them, dunyal is there, tomorrow is your time, we are there, i have three children, all completely different, yes, the eldest wants a museum, the middle one wants to go to football , masha wants, i don’t know, to buy a dress, yes, but you seem to have little time, like

many parents now, and you seem to spend time with all three children, and let’s say everyone ends up going to the museum, let's say, because the eldest is the eldest, as it were, everyone. to the museum, so this is it, this is it for him i wonder if everyone else is walking around and thinking, god, i wish this hellish torment would end in this boring museum, as i highlighted on sunday, and you kind of think, here we are all a family, dad, mom, three children , we spend time together, it turns out that - we do this for ourselves, because we, share, that is, we need to separate, we need to separate, it shouldn’t even be every week, it can be once a month, yes, maybe even less often , for example, my eldest son says, listen, mom, come on here in general, this year there will be one time at the end of the year on my birthday, but we will go with you to japan, this is my dream, i say, okay, we will go together, he says: no, let’s take dunya, because she is 10, and she is already interested too, and it will be in june, well, he took it upon himself completely, he built the entire program, where it even scares me to read this number of excursions,

he agreed with his sister on this, and this is already important for them relationships, that is, they sat down, they have some kind of secret of their own, they everything was lined up there, they told me to go. yes, earn money for it, pay for it, but he says, i don’t need it for a year, i’m busy, it’s better, it’s better, i’ll be left alone, leave me for my allotted 2 hours there a week, yes, so that i can at least sat on the computer, looked down, because i don’t have time for this, because in addition to school, he also has preparation for college and a lot of other things, but then in june you will be there for 10 days, that’s just mine, that’s all and i’ll be with discuss everything i want with you, so maybe this option, lachka, let's go back to the routine, let 's say it's 9 pm, okay, 10, 11, your child, i have a younger girl who only starts in the evening, which means measuring the plastic, turning on the music, and she's inspired, and even if mom only came in the evening , but what to do, there must be a routine, but it must be adjusted to the feeling of the family itself, because in one family the parents go to work at 6 in the morning and come there, i don’t know, at 50 in the evening,

yes, in another the parents leave at 12 and come at 23, when, someday, children should exist in this picture of the world, right? if a parent doesn’t see the child, we definitely won’t get anything good, so of course, everyone, every family adjusts this regime to suit themselves, and we, for example, are residents of the market , we all get up very early, we all, i always say, please, if you it’s necessary to film at 6 am , no question, let’s meet you at 6 am and we’ll film, in the evening i don’t think anymore, my children don’t think either, at 21 it’s dark in our house, everyone is still asleep, so it’s strictly necessary anyway - there must be some kind of punishment be some kind of how to enter into this framework , after all, the main nuance is that for a child, especially such a small one, and at 6 years old, her biological internal clock has not yet been formed, she does not have this feeling, late, early, dark , not dark, nothing is clear at all, so it’s better, of course , to introduce all this as gently as possible, and i know that now many families are switching to the alice, marus mode,

whoever has a speaker at home that programs, there they say, dear masha, we have lights out in half an hour, in 15 minutes we have lights out for us, yes, that is, she... begins to teach us very gradually, it turns out that this is good, the parent does not play just this punisher who walks and talks, after half an hour, after 15 minutes, it takes some kind of a device, some kind of technique, but in general, it’s not me, it’s a technique, but we naturally explain to the child in advance why this is important, at 6 years old we can talk about the fact that there are cycles of wakefulness and rest, why it is important that the little head is asleep so that the brain can rest, if the child does not understand why it is he needs, what is his benefit, he doesn’t care anyway. then of course there will be no result from this, so it is very important to lay out a theory, just like with questions, when he already knows in advance everything that we will ask him, there are funny situations for him when the child himself comes home from school and writes, normal, ok , goodbye, well, that is, yes, he already knows all the standard questions, i always say, please.