it warms, even after the end of the show people do not leave for a long time, such beauty will remain in the memories and hearts of st. petersburg residents and of course the guests for a long time: valery kuznetsov, vladimir smirnov, andrei vetrov, ksenia ugarova and yulia khodorova, channel one st. petersburg. that's all for now, see you later. well, let’s talk about your story in more detail, since we are so lucky, and you are here today with such a strong studio supervisor, really, let’s start with the fact that for a long time i really worked with my father’s issues, but with us long, difficult relationship with him, such a very tyrannical father was all my life, in general , when i grew up, yes, when... i got married,

i worked so that i could come to visit them, for example, and feel collected , don’t force yourself to always come every time as if you were coming to your parents’ house, yes, and not like for an exam, yes, more like for an exam, i probably came and every time i had to get ready, to be honest, i have never succeeded like this, to get into the car, come and say, hurray, great, here i am, no, every time... to gather all my resources into a fist and conduct a meeting on such positive feigned more, probably, probably, this also influenced my decision to break off the relationship, because at some point very unpleasant crossings of my personal boundaries began , yes, they began to advise me, not even advise, strongly recommend how to raise a child, how much money to give him for... personal

expenses, what kind of car should i drive, what kind of fuel should i refuel, or can you describe some picture to us so that about self-understanding, a fresh picture right there, when a child had health problems, and we started working on the fact that he went on a diet, naturally, with such a diet, no cola, no chips or anything else, but it’s simply absolutely forbidden, i asked the parents if he sends them a request, send it there... 100-200 rubles. for pocket money so that they don’t send it or at least agree that he will most likely go buy something that is prohibited. yes, and mom seemed to come to terms with it, and dad quietly sent him money or some kind of cash conveyed or gave. and several times i drew attention to this, i said: dad, well, this is harmful to health, this is dangerous to health now we don’t need this now, yeah, okay, i heard you, it’s passing.

day, money falls on his card again, i see that the child comes there with cola, with something else, i call, i say, dad, well, so and so, i understand everything, you want to pamper your grandson, but still, and how old is your grandson, 12, yeah, he has his own card, yes, you want to spoil him, okay, but let’s differentiate somehow, yes, i heard you, i understood you, just like that over the course of a month, i paid attention to this every time, and every time... if money was handed over to him personally, dad would say , just don’t tell your mom or your mom won’t find out, this erasure of authority has also happened in parallel, well, the opposition is like that, yes, and i see that the child also began to lie to me about this, no one gave me anything, i didn’t buy anything, in general, i began to hide cans of cola somewhere under the pillows, so that god forbid my mother would see, due to with this whole position, naturally i came to them, i say, so the question is. "or you don't give at all

money, yes, or we stop interacting with you, we seem to have heard, but after 2 days the money account falls again, naturally, at that moment i said, that’s enough, but if you don’t want to hear me, we end the interaction here, i warned you, uh-huh, i blocked his phone so that he didn’t have the opportunity to answer, because in such situations, when it’s hard for dad to defend his point of view, he starts to either yes..."

always put pressure on you, she will never give you the opportunity to choose what, what do you want, well, this is a position that i just distanced as much as possible from my family and i really didn’t want to... be in such energies, wait, you said about your family, that is, for you this situation in itself is not new, for you was there anything similar in your childhood? yes, well, my father controlled me all my life, to the point that he kept track of which store i went to, which friends i went with, that is, i had such a thing that i turned around when i was walking with friends, my dad was standing around the corner, looking , where are we, if you broke daddy's rules, then what it was, it was very difficult, we had, well...

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be there, today on the first. bourbon starsman is a product of the stellar group. season premiere. my son wants to be a pirate. is adventurism in his blood? is it from mom or dad? more like a second dad. or rather, a little bit from everyone. i have advantages. are these some kind? the evidence is dead, she loves it. give me one more day, i need to connect all the facts. i give you a day, i suggest you spend the evening together. bloodhound, new series. tomorrow after the program time. the new season is when everything in a new way, you look and learn nothing. everything,

everything will be new. and the actors, and the children, and the costumes. thick sofa, everything, everything, everything is gold. the stars are so rainbow colored. it will be. cool, there will be even more backpacks with sweets. the new season is when it was renovated. it's like new year, only without santa claus. the show will be even better because i will be there. so that not everyone would clap, so that the presenter would say: “you really are the best. best of all, new season, from december 17 to sunday.” this is a psychic podcast, my name is natalya loseva and today we are talking about who will help the psychologist. alla, what request do you have for your supervisor, a request for me not to feel this guilt

that burdens me for breaking off relations with my parents, i understand, as an adult, that this is necessary, and this is the healthiest thing solution in this situation. but i still feel guilty, because it’s hard for a child to go through this parting with his grandparents, but after all, he communicated with them for 12 years, suddenly it’s not, and i myself somehow m, based on social, probably , frames, yes, with parents, we need to communicate, it is precisely society that spurs me to experience this feeling of guilt, and it is very difficult for me to separate myself from this point. i want to feel more free, or something, in this , well, i made a decision, well done, keep it, everything is fine with you, but this position, that everything is fine with me at this point, is very difficult to maintain. hello, please tell me, what other love languages ​​besides sending money

are present in your family and in your parent’s family and the interaction between the two families, i in my family, i still try to do this through hugs, and through... i try to understand what he says and why, even based on the fact that he came yesterday and said, i’m very tired and don’t want to go to school tomorrow, we sat down , they sorted it out, i’m really tired, i say, okay, stay , this didn’t happen in my family, that is, in 11 years i never missed school, under any circumstances, even when i was sick, yeah, but in terms of interaction with parental family, well, in general it was like that, that is, if... we, for example, went to their home, then i understood that i need to take something with me, this is such

an indicator that i paid attention to them, not that i arrived, but that i brought something, for example, i don’t know, a cake, some kind of gift for a holiday or something else, basically for the last 2-3 years we met only on holidays, allah, what makes you believe that the feeling of guilt is unnatural in this situation, apparently that... other people, but i still have some kind of relationship with my parents , yes, and you can always call your mom, you can call your dad there, but probably in mine there are no people around who have broken relationships with their parents, apparently this affects me very much, well, plus - my husband always loved my mother, they had a warm relationship, your mother or his mother, his. yeah, so what makes you

believe that feeling guilty in the current situation is unnatural, as for me, it is very excessive, because sometimes in the evenings i start to drive myself into a state of, well, almost such apathy, yes, when you don't want to do anything, because... doesn’t communicate with your parents, my husband received several insulting messages from my father and said, i don’t want to communicate with him anymore.

what was your reason for ending your grandchild- grandparent relationship? a message in the night from a drunk grandfather , and that you should never trust your mother, and i’m not sending you money just because she sends it back to me, in general, well, there was an outright lie, and on top of that, - this is an insult to me, humiliation of me as a mother, and it is precisely this message that i have already i wrote from my phone that we disagree at this point, and i forbid you to interact with my child without my presence, and the father’s alcoholism has been going on for a long time, a long, long, long time ago, it began after the death of his mother, when this happened, how old is my father, about 25 years ago, probably, yeah. yeah, i was just entering college, how old is dad now ? 61, it turns out that when his mother died, when

he was about forty, probably, yeah, but the cause of his mother’s death was that she was lying in hospital, she had diabetes, and upon discharge from the hospital, in fact, while packing her things, she simply fell and did not leave the hospital, yeah, that is, it was an unexpected death, were any mental features noticed before... dad? in fact, yes , since childhood i have observed this story, tyrony on his part, we had a lot of ugly situations when they offered me to go to an orphanage, when they locked me in the bathroom, and there, they taped my mouth so that i i didn’t talk again, well, in general, there were a lot of difficult situations that i i sorted it out, in fact, and it gave me this general picture, that in general, dad, if you need him. if he didn’t get better before sixty, then it’s unlikely that anything will happen to him at 60, but where is

his mother? no, my mother has this energy component, i never felt it, i saw her at home, i knew that i had a mother, and she also taught at school, she was my class teacher, a mathematics teacher, in general, yeah, so comprehensive, yeah, and at the same time i didn’t feel like i had a mother there in... the lessons i was the first in whom everyone was testing solutions to problems who was crucified first near the blackboard in front of the whole class i will notice a parenthesis, something probably separately from... when there were some conflicts between me and my dad, i didn’t have even attempts to turn to my mother, because my mother defended me for support, yes, because my mother was somewhere in the room at that moment, she always stood back like that or generally went somewhere to the side, that is, i basically didn’t see her never, i understand correctly that

interrupting contact is one of the most common ways to leave a relationship. including, perhaps, the feeling of guilt is due to the fact that you really decided on your son, grandparents, and he is 12 years old, they have their own relationships, they are important, significant figures in his life, now another one has come into his life a significant figure , why, yes, the boy needs to somehow adapt to the new space, and here relying on familiar relatives would also be good support for him, do what... will be best and most comfortable for you, the decision that you accepted just cutting off contact, perhaps this is not the optimal solution, yeah, when we become adult children of our parents, and especially professionals, perhaps this is precisely our task, to try to teach our two families

to communicate and be together in this way, which will be comfortable for everyone, parents just can. don’t know, but how can they do it differently, they know how to please a five-year-old child, and buy chips, but how to please a forty-year-old woman whom they love, and perhaps want to communicate with, dad conveys that he wants to communicate, he is trying, yes, this is undoubtedly an important thing, and natalya, of course, a very valuable comment on your part, that most likely such an alcoholic debut in adulthood indicates that dad already had. .. already had mental characteristics before, now he is at an age at which they will only get worse. isolating a grandson from a possibly mentally ill grandfather is one thing, yes, and also you, well, pay attention to where the value of this contact is, for you, for the child, what and why there was a connection, yes, what

this male figure gave so much value to a boy, think again, do you even have the right? yes, make a decision and cut off this male connection, yes, especially since the boy’s husbands changed, there is probably a need to remain in good contact. this is a psychic podcast, my name is natalya loseva and today we are talking about who will help a psychologist. you said that when you are in personal contact with your parents, when you have the opportunity to hug and be together, everything is quite good. so, it’s possible to sort things out on the phone, and even more so by correspondence with parents, this is the space in which you will definitely quarrel and break off the relationship. here, i’ll probably correct it a little, yes , because those moments when we hugged are quite rare and i just found a moment when they were in a more collected state, but if we talk about such an environmentally

friendly showdown, and when we ... we started discussing something, this particular feature of my father’s psyche, it was just blooming and smelling, because the last conflict we had literally arose when i was 35-34 there, this is fresh, and i came to talk about how i feel, yes, what kind of work i now see for myself and what kind of family i now see for myself and how it all should be in my mind. at that moment we were sitting drinking tea at the table. .. i was scared for my life , so this is a moment that, well , we need completely different specialists in this situation, i want to point out that my mother died of diabetes, these are white lips, outbursts of anger, it looks like that dad may also have diabetes, and need

completely different specialists, i didn’t think about this, by the way, it’s interesting. you, you expect from him that he will be an adult dad like he was in your childhood, but before us appears, well, a rather unhealthy, adult man who may need help, uh-huh, ekaterina, if only alla, being in such a state in the state of these acute experiences, at the moment of conflict with dad, there a day, two days after that, experiencing resentment, and the desire to break off this relationship, experiencing an acute feeling of guilt. because of the desire to end the relationship forever i met with a client, what kind of injury could there be, what kind of injury could she get, how serious is all this? of course, being in... in a state of acute emotions , well, you have an open emotional wound, and here everything that can remind you and even does not relate to personal history at all can become the

salt that will make you feel, the client’s story would aggravate those experiences , which alla would have experienced, because at that moment everything was triggered, even there was an incorrectly served cup of coffee, of course, that’s why important. professional space, because perhaps, being in this state, you would also like to hide in client work, so that for at least an hour of time you would not think about your conflict in the family, which you absolutely could not do at this very moment, categorically or not, this is precisely what your supervisor, a person who knows you well, should have answers to, not to be isolated, but to be a part of which can definitely show: look, you are like this now, look how... you react, please take pause and not work with clients, because psychologists, psychotherapists, we are people too, our relatives die, unfortunately,

things happen in our world that touch us, so always be in the best shape and never worry, it’s impossible, yeah, therefore , we need another person, a colleague who, knowing us from the outside, can give an assessment and say: slow down, not now, take a break. “take a break, it’s better if this supervisor is permanent in the psychologist’s life, that is, he knows him for a long time and understands tell me, which psychologist has more opportunities to realize himself in the profession, the one whose childhood and youth were more or less prosperous, or the one whose childhood, like the ualas, was also accompanied by some kind of trauma, some kind of upheaval, that is, he walked the path of salt himself, he ate the salt with himself, he became a good psychologist or not? what you are talking about is personal experience. a psychologist is a professional with a high level of

professional training. if we were talking about what is valuable in solving a problem, human experience, then we would n’t go to psychologists, to the grandmothers who sit in front of the entrance, because they definitely have a lot of experience. yes, but we don’t do this, because the psychologist is a psychotherapist. these are professionals, and they work with professional tools. well, friends, psychologists are people too, we congratulate all psychologists on the holiday they celebrate on november 22, we wish them patience, simple human joy and a good supervisor nearby. it was a psychic podcast, today we had as an expert ekaterina makarova, psychotherapist, supervisor, our heroine, psychologist.

this is a podcast 20 years later, i am the host konstantin mikhailov, we continue with the people's artist of the rssr, with my father, alexander mikhailov. today we remember the film love and doves. whether we’re going to kiss or not, what else did you come up with, kissing, look at the resorts there, stay happy, we met you too, it was absolutely amazing. because it’s really without editing, you have to learn it, it ’s all shot in one shot, it’s a piece of a house, as i understand it, they built it on the pier, not at home , they brought the door, only the door was brought, when

you look carefully at the picture, the door swayed a little, because at the top there was a crane under fire and they kept this door roped up and without a threshold, without a threshold, why right away, when nevsky, the operator entered the sea with me, they lifted the door without a threshold. and he filmed for a long time when lyuse and i were filming in the water there, it was 14° then the month of november in batum and i filmed the whole entire frame, it took a whole whole price due to this, it wasn’t very warm , of course you had to swim, but there wasn’t any there was only one person on the beach, there was no one there , the lights were removed, the drivers were paying them some money, so they created the appearance of this atmosphere, ilistik always said, let’s quickly leave yours. “heroes , let’s throw this sled, i’m already petrified, he says, she was terrible, there were divers below, when they lowered me

there, i fell there. well, as a human being, he floats up, and there were two divers there on purpose, they were waiting , they let me in and undressed me, helped me in a suit, yes, but i should emerge already in shorts, yes, i heard there was a moment when you had a tie for yes, it ’s a long story from there, there wasn’t, there was a double, a double, a double , a jacket was there, there was even a double of panties, but there was only one tie, this tie woolen, and there was generally a problem, the first take. they took me off, they took a long time to undress me and volodya gave them a scandal , guys, we need to quickly, the faster the better, you two healthy men can’t undress one, and i remember very well when i was falling there, and the dressmaker came up to me with this tie i also pulled up this tie, and it was wet, they dried it, but it was still wet and she would have tightened the knot, but with a wall, when they began to untie it, it was pulled so tight that it

was impossible to untie it. and that means i started fighting , you’re choking, that’s it, i can’t surface, they drag, drag, i’m tugging, tugging here, then i accidentally saw one, and at first i started hitting the guy on the mask, he fell behind me , the second one was hit, in my opinion, by the genital organ, he lay down, they fell behind, i began to float up, because i was choking to float up, one of them came, came to his senses, took him by the leg and brought me back, he brought me back again... they grabbed me by the tie, because well, volodiska took it all away, they took everything off, but left the tie, and i, god still exists, i don’t know how it is with me, but it could have been a drama, if not a tragedy, because i saw them, frightened eyes in these two, two healthy men, scared that they had not completed the director’s next task, it was the second take, but they couldn’t do anything, they couldn’t break it apart and i will see, and i saw it attached to my leg. so

he accidentally took a knife, a knife, and he took out a knife and began to hit the blade, he took it out, cut it, then i lost my temper, so only the third take came in, because after the second take they baited a little bit of thread there, they grabbed the first one, right away in the third take, they immediately picked the fish, they did the rest, there were three takes in total, yes, only three takes, in 2009 mtv, russia recognized love and doves as the best soviet film, that is, it turns out that

sergei yuryevich, you, nina doroshina, yana there, and igor lyakh, and you for something we came up with it ourselves, a lot, we, you know, i’ll open it now secret, many years have passed, almost 40 years, uh, our atmosphere was, firstly, amazing, friendly, and secondly, we were hooligans, a lot of hooligans, and volodya always entered into our atmosphere, volodya laughed more, yeah. i will never forget him most of all, we were playing ludny markovi with lyusya on some stage, then volodya fell, which means the menschov, to the ground, raised his legs in the air, he was so hooligan too and laughed, we stand with our eyes covered in tears, watching how he laughs, then his colleagues come to him says: well, let’s take more takes , let’s try another one, this is the option, it was so cool, he worked with the actors with such love, and i’m the only one who really regrets

that... that she had the whole picture already played out here, everything and he remembered, he did it all, then, when there was a premiere, i will never forget, volodya and i were sitting next to each other in the house of the cinema premiere, and i looked, horror, look, this scene is not there, this scene is not there, this scene is not there,

volodya is sitting, also looking at the screen, i say, volodya, what don’t i understand, we do you remember, this was one of the amazing scenes and you were happy, and the footage and the anti-alcohol company said. i now understand what you’re talking about, i remember that yes, i was present on the set there as a small child, even there at some point they filmed me in an episode, but i regretted it, by the way, by the way, i’m telling volodya, well, more it was necessary, you appear there for 3.4 seconds somewhere, such a sad moment in the film, when you remember this village fool, and in your childhood, and in your childhood for some reason you fell in love with pigeons, this funeral such a moment with... the darkest moment, and i remember, at some point, either you or menshov came up to me and said: so, you will be kuzyakin jr., stand by the tree and look, look, it’s sad, and i said, by the way,

here’s an episode, what good eyes you had there, menshov then said, sasha, how wonderfully your son knows how to remain silent, let’s watch this episode, little me, i’m leaving for a resort. i’ll go to barts, i’ll try this, what’s his name, cocktail, yeah, the new ones will have chicks soon, make sure the cat doesn’t i drowned some wheat, buy it, don’t forget, okay, yes, i know, i’m done, dad, but show me your trick, what a trick, well, popeye pigeons, what a trick, daughter, this is studying, well, give me a mug, come on, he’s drinking, he must , he’s not afraid, we have this in alekhin , volodka was a fool, so he ate five of them from one mouthful, the fool, yeah,

they loved the bruise, we, the whole village loved it, whoever asks for help with the housework will come right away, to work, to resist, heaps of masters, yeah, god didn’t give him a mind, but soul and strength, take as much as you want, there’s no end in sight, they killed him poor fellow, who, yes, the shabby ones came from the city in large numbers, they were settled in our village , they didn’t seem to settle yoshka’s cat before, they settled something here, well, why don’t you go on a rampage, drink and fight, that’s how volodka is once he got into such a fight, well, like kids threaten, the little ones started shaking their fingers, saying, it’s not good, they’re ugly. what are you doing? why are you fighting? well, what about those who will understand? they took him and stabbed him with a knife. our church was abandoned. pigeons lived in this church. so volodka began to feed them, he would come and crumble them a loaf, they will stick around him from all sides,

surround him in the face, put it on his cheeks, why won’t they hit him, but he laughs, he’s already laughing. funny, funny, they are not afraid of him, they weren’t afraid of one thing, volodka. yeah, i remember , she also had a shirt, a red one, all full of small holes, from claws , they kept it in it while they were burying it, they kept circling over the grave, and only then...

my clothes, here is the padded jacket, kirzachi - this is exactly how vladimir menshov appeared on the set, i remember, now. yes, i love you very much, i like it

script, i’m in front of you with a blank sheet of paper , here’s some news for me, that’s it, there ’s never even been a hint of any kind of conflict situation, there’s never been one, she ’s an amazing writer herself, she’s got two books out, by the way, in she wrote one of the books, even about filming, something about me , she wrote a lot of dialogues, but i remember minishov appeared. in this village, in the courtyard of this house in kareli medvezhegorsk, and the actors showed him what they had come up with, he was like that, he laughed, he said: “hey, let’s shoot, yura nevsky, cameraman - they were filming on camera, i remember, menshov also appeared in a padded jacket and kirzach, with a little thing sticking out of one boot, yes, yes, it was a little bit, a little bit, well, for

the atmosphere, this place looks like a fairyland, the rivers are hot, the landscape is reminiscent another planet, there is one bear for every three local residents, i’m on turup, friends, the largest island of the kuril ridge , kuril eggs, we take a little crust, but now naturally, i noticed that absolutely all the tourists feed the leaf, this very bad. she stops hunting, they no longer see any other food , she’s a beauty, you can smell the smell, well, give away the coop, the aroma will be all over ivanovskaya, how much vitamin c is in it, more than in oranges, finally something happened that we we waited so long, we saw a live bear, smoking in all its glory, the life of our own, the premiere, today on the first. mancacher whiskey, a product

of the steller group, i apologize for my appearance, here, but i would like to make some clarity, who exactly are you, and i, actually, viktor vladimovich major kalyony, although retired, volodya, i killed a man, sometimes women with high social responsibility are much worse than women with low social responsibility, but nothing. it was from this point that the fatal blow was struck, how is that? is this how it is? if i had known that you were coming to poison cockroaches, i would have come in a limousine. you know among muslims how a child belongs to the father’s clan. dad, what did your real wife do in the car with her first husband? you know, well, this is

exactly what the investigation has to establish, but here we have in the yard, an interrupted season, today is the first, december, big hockey, a tradition that remains unchanged for many years, the tournament we are waiting for, our team is back on the ice. channel one cup. russia-belarus. december 16. russia-kazakhstan. december 17. live broadcasts from st. petersburg. on the first.