like every person, this is a psyche podcast, and we continue the conversation with our heroine christina and expert, clinical psychologist nikita yanochkin. you can watch all podcasts on the first channel website 1tv.ru. now about comparing yourself with others, about breasts, about all this, yes, about some kind of extensions and so on. so, firstly, beauty standards.

history, yes, but i, since we have a program here, i allow myself to do this, let’s say, here i am a psychologist, i have some kind of professional, that means history, there was the period when i was a green student who was not yet very well versed in the issues that i am working with today, now there is some experience there, tomorrow, i hope there, if i... develop, god willing, then how- then i will also become even cooler in this matter, and so at every stage at any stage there will definitely be someone cooler than me in terms of profession, that is, there will definitely be people who will be more erudite, more well-read, more prepared, and more the technician will know some techniques for everything else, at each stage, always will be...

in my profession, that is, in general, i don’t need other people for this in order to develop. the same applies to appearance, why do you need this world of these models of some kind - that is, artificially created some kind of stereotypes, when there is you, here is your garden, roughly speaking, god gave you your appearance, your body, your soul , here is your hair, your eyes, this is yours, develop this. decorate it, because,

you see, what makes a woman ugly is not her appearance, it’s what makes her ugly these flashes of jealousy , this hanging on a man, because it gets boring, it destroys relationships, when a person is dependent, when he is essentially in such a stuck slave state, he becomes uninteresting, because personality is erased, and personality is freedom and intelligence. in a dependent state, we are crazy and not free, that’s why such a person, he gets boring over time, that’s why this self-fulfilling prophecy happens, it’s absolutely true, when his husband actually leaves such a woman, who has become too much in his life, so therefore, a woman is painted if she takes care of herself, if she respects her man, if she takes care of him, if she is affectionate, then in general this is quite enough.

yeah, well, christina, there was some kind of light at the end of the tunnel or some kind, yes , those are the last words, about the comparison of jealousy, there were very good trigger points, i’ll try to work through them, i ’m sure you you will be happy, i am sure that you will really appreciate yourself , no matter how it is, no matter what cliche it didn’t sound, and let go of those shackles on your feet from your childhood, from your... adolescence, which are still preventing you from being happy. well, in the psyche podcast we will continue to look for these paths to the sun, to the light, to the edge of the forest, so that everyone is happy. clinical psychologist nikita yanochkin helped me today analyze the story of our heroine, christina toure. nikita, i wanted to talk to you today about one more technique that you demonstrated, the appeal of this adult. a person to himself in childhood, in what

this technique, how safe is it, can a person somehow use it without a psychotherapist, without a psychologist? yes, sure. look, this method was originally brought by psychiatrist eric byrne, so he spoke about three ego states, the state of a parent, an adult child, this is precisely the interaction with this traumatized, unloved , rejected, therefore, child part of our experience, on behalf of a loving, accepting, caring adult , in questions like these...

first you need to recognize the feelings that a person experiences, that is, i see that you you are afraid, i see that you are despondent, i see that you are sad, for example. or you are offended, acknowledge these feelings , and then, that means, well, yes, depending on the situation, you can reassure, you can cheer up, that is, this is such a skill of self-consolation, self-soothing, self-acceptance, and you need to lay down for this, well, for two years, let’s say, two or three years, you have to get used to it, because a person has never done this to himself, yeah, so it takes time to get used to... this attitude towards oneself, and it will bear fruit when you can harm something like this technology, only when we support our infantility and irresponsibility, when , well, you suffer there, well, suffer, as if passively, i allow you to suffer, i suffer for you, i allow you

to do nothing, suffer, as if and in no way not to take responsibility for your life, after all , for harmony, such a harmonious state , there must be an inner mother, this is it... affectionate, caring, and a father who motivates to activity, when mom has worked, consolation, but at the same time you give get up and do certain things there, that is, this is already dad, and as in the case of christina , we can see that seemingly unrelated things between your today’s adult problem and what happened to you in childhood suddenly turn out to be connected, and therefore are healed , yes, of course, that is, as if you don’t even understand, perhaps how it works, but... your today’s adult problem can submit, as if by itself, in fact, because you descended into your past, the root cause, the root cause and it was decided

hello, my name is elena korabelnikova. this is a dream in hand podcast. today we will talk about christmas dreams. our guest, candidate of philosophical sciences, member of the international association of dream researchers, author of monographs on dreams, artist maria volchenko. maria, hello, good afternoon. well, in general, christmas time is a holiday that is somewhat paradoxical in an emotional sense, that is, on the one hand it is very fun, yeah. on the other hand, these are horror stories, these are nightmares, well, this is terribly funny, this is how it should be, this is terribly fun, it demolishes all internal barriers, the fear of asking a question, the fear of learning something, and the main thing is just to have fun, and

this is also interaction, on the one hand, this is the interaction of a group of friends, relatives, this is fun, this is caroling, this is a feast . on the other hand, the rituals themselves are performed strictly alone, on the sly, so that no one sees or hears; if they see you, that’s it, nothing will happen. what is specific to the russian tradition associated with dreams? this is a tradition of practical dreams that are useful in the household, i would say so. these are special items, special rituals. i have prepared one photograph here, where various... objects are collected, here you see, this is a painting by bryulov, it has a very interesting story, it is a story about christmastide, bryulov actually lived in italy, painted paintings on historical themes, finally, he brought a large picture of the death of pompeii to russia to present at

the academy of arts, but it was just christmas time, during christmas time, he was invited to stay at the estate of his friend, his friend famous. under the pseudonym antony pogorelsky, the author of fairy tales, here bryulov, for the first time, finding himself in the village on christmastide, was amazed by the magic, beauty, and christmastide. rituals, it was then that he painted this picture, at the same time everyone heard zhukovsky’s poem, here we see just one of the objects that is considered special - this is a mirror that is used at christmas time, why exactly the image of a mirror, just for a long time, when there were no such mirrors, people looked at their reflection in the water, it was believed that when you look at your reflection in a lake. it's you you see not your reflection, but the reflection of that part of the soul that travels in a dream. oh,

we were talking about special subjects. it seems to me that these are the items shown here. yes, that's absolutely right. items can be divided into three groups. these are household items. here, please, a thimble and a comb. then these are special items. this is a mirror, this is a belt. well, you can weave a belt like this. in this version, the second group of items are edible items, in this case salt, onions, bread, and also porridge, porridge just in time for christmas time refers to when the sheep from the village moved to the city for the winter, they could not, like village girls, run there at night to the well to perform some kind of ritual, then very interesting replacements appeared for this...

let's leave the intrigue, leave the intrigue, and there were objects dangerous, these objects were primarily used by guys, you could put a knife, an ax under the pillow, among the dangerous objects that girls used, here is just a mirror, a needle, a needle stuck into a night fish and could prick at night, and this also has an effect on the content absolutely true, the most dangerous object, in any case. i don’t know how it was then, but now , when i was talking about this, there were live cockroaches,

they were tied into a knot in the hem of a shirt, or stuffed into a stocking or sock, then pulled over the leg, but there they left the sock free, they are there, and why cockroaches, why? but it’s very interesting, it means that the cockroach, drum, as they said, symbolized the horse, here’s the cockroach, drum, take me everywhere, that’s what’s interesting is that she was the quietest

girl in the class, she didn’t have any boys it was, but the next morning, first of all, we were in a panic, because the cockroach was lost somewhere , and what happened to this girl, she was the first to get married right after graduation, yeah, and how can a logical connection be built here so that to get married, what she saw, she didn’t tell, there are also some special songs, yes , so-called sub-dish songs, tell me a little about them, we’re talking about the fact that, again, at gatherings, they put out a big dish like this deep, water is poured into it, girls go there they throw some objects , some a ring, some an earring, a younger girl who doesn’t yet need to guess about the groom, she pulls out these objects, the water is very cold, she can’t feel anything, and

the girls sing a long song, each the song is a line of wishes for what will happen to this person this year, the girl pulls out a ring there, shows whose it is, yeah, the ring is considered charmed, the girl who got this ring, she takes it when the ritual ends, this the ceremony is called not my water, everyone disperses to their homes, but they should not utter a word, that is, they behave very impolitely, if someone greets them, they pass...

so there is a proverb: it was hard, it was good to guess, that is, the more effort, danger difficulty in getting objects, the better it all works. and here’s another, as far as i know , some kind of ritual associated with a sliver, an absolutely wonderful ritual, when you really want to really like someone, and

this someone lives in the neighboring village, which means you have to go to the neighboring village at night. wherein the guy had to gnaw off this sliver from the gate - the house where the girl lives, and the girl had to gnaw off a sliver from the cart, which is near the guy's house, yeah, again this sliver was brought home in complete silence and hid under the pillow. and in this picture, what is shown is a very well-known, very popular ritual, one of those that was done at home when it was impossible. go to the well, and interestingly, this ritual exists in the gypsy tradition, it is called ointment of bridges, that is, there is a twig and - some kind of glass, bowl, which water is poured before going to bed, well , naturally , there was no other lighting with candles then, the twig is carefully

examined, all the jagged edges, broken pieces, knots and so on are remembered on it, then it is placed across the bowl, it symbolizes the bridge over the river, they look at how it is reflected in this bowl, what kind of water is there, then what should be done before going to bed, the bowl of water itself is placed under the bed or at the head somewhere so that it is at the bottom, that is, the person remembers that the bowl is there , through which the twig is laid, and this a twig is a river and mo.

going the other way, it’s scary to cross , it’s not a bridge, that is, another assistant appears, yes, that is, a request for an assistant, a request for an assistant, but what kind of assistant, it depends on the questioner, someone needs a bride, someone is a groom, someone just needs an assistant, and we can use this ritual with a twig, of course,

famous godparents and their godchildren met in our studio, i am a very responsible person, with one of my goddaughters. some kind of trouble, the soul begins to suffer, the temple, there is an answer to questions that are sometimes difficult to formulate,

my son’s heart stopped, we lost him and katya saved me, katya tells me: be a godmother, for me it was such a gift, we have the best godmother in the world, saturday on the first, we are not cooked. we are not raw, we will not give up , we will get angry, we are always very beautiful, ha, they brought me two females, i was furious, babies, but loud, it’s not there, it’s not there, a spider escaped, you have some kind of special finger, probably there, no, i can twist it for you, twist it like are girls who play checkers called checkers players? and for me it seems like everything started out well, yes, now it’s going to end badly, best of all, a new season, on sunday on

the first, you eat buns, very rarely, and if your mother is kind, she can allow it once a week, we continue the podcast dream in the hand, of course, this is human nature, this is how we fall asleep, how we wake up, how our imagination works, now we

have lost a lot from the culture of dreaming, simply because the culture of sleep is disrupted. what has changed compared to what was before? before, attitude towards sleep, sleep culture? well, firstly, the culture of sleep was greatly spoiled by the advent of electricity, the so-called effects, yes, artificial light. artificial light, which will primarily affect urban residents, but then rural residents, well, i’m not even talking about the fact that the worst thing is, of course, watching tv before going to bed, when phones with endless chat have been added to this, that is, the tv is already turned off, and the person is lying in bed and on the phone, which means he is looking at something else, well, the same scientific research on this topic that they say that... electronic devices emit blue light, which destroys melatonin, melatonin is a sleep hormone, well, plus , the eyes are part of the brain, if

melatonin begins to be naturally produced a couple of hours before the usual bedtime, then in this case, it is better to have the overhead lights on in the house, and if, for example, you are reading a book, then let the light be directed at the text, and not at your head. the eyes of a dream were considered as a certain state, and the boundary between the worlds, uh-huh, the world and natural, real and the supernatural world, and there are deities , and demons, and the brownie, well, the connection - it’s good to show this with the example of christmastide, christmastide is two weeks, which are divided in half, the first part of christmastide is caroling, feasting and ... collecting items for mining , mining items for fortune telling, these are ryazhiny, this is a masquerade, they last from christmas until

the old new year, more precisely it was called a generous evening or vasiliev evening, yeah, after it and before baptism it was believed that those were coming days when the line between worlds it opens up, all sorts of cheerful evil spirits... comes out, on the one hand it’s scary, on the other hand it’s fun, on the third side you can ask her for something, uh, for example, it’s considered when they say, betrothed, mummer, come to me for dinner, having put a plate, a knife, a fork, and so on under the pillow, then in a dream it is not the betrothed mummer who comes, but these small evil spirits that take on the appearance of the betrothed mummer, and - he appears as a brownie. well , he’s a brownie all year round, he sends nightmares, these are the second part of christmastide, they’re called scary days, during this part of christmastide,