i would say this, but i say in september, i say, and they just ask me, yurn, what are we focusing on now: denim or knitwear, i say, let's knitwear, let's give knee socks, for some reason i really wanted more warmth and comfort, given today's moscow and such a winter, we guessed it, now the demand for knitwear is colossal, wait, each zodiac sign, or each zodiac sign has its own direction, well... most likely, each sign has its own direction, but there is general trends of the whole year that astrologers say, here is the year whether it will be successful or unsuccessful, there for practically everyone, so she said that people’s desire for coziness, the comfort of home, an emphasis on something warm and pleasant, warming, it will be, this is regarding the classical horoscope, yes, yes, for example, if about china... the horoscope is talking about, this is the year

of the dragon, the year of the dragon dictates more in terms of colors, now of course there is an incredible surge in red, gold in green , and black as always, well, it doesn’t go out of fashion, it’s in trend, but gold and green, it’s right, if we haven’t had red for a long time it was used only for the new year, but now they want red directly, well, red was already actively shining on the podium in the twenty-third year. like, yes, in the twenty-third year, i ’m now at the greatest possible demand , you know, especially for such a bloody red wine red, that is, in the twenty-fourth year it will be active, although the trends say something completely different, the trends there dictate lilac colors there, pastel ones, but it seems to me that this is not for ours countries now, by the way, how do you feel about this color of the season, i admit, i even asked our supply department now

place orders for feathers of this color so that by summer, but i say, given our time of year and so on, maybe there will be a direction in the summer, but still i focus more on the classic colors for our country, these are white, black, yes, pink is in fashion, but it will probably be more aggressive, because now everyone wants pink neon, everyone asks for pink, specifically bright. this podcast is not lykomshity and we continue to talk about the features of the evening fashion of raw sapran. that's how it seems to me that if before it was fashionable to wear all the best right away, that is, if this is, say, a rhinestone , then it is a rhinestone from head to toe and some other tiara, decoration, well, that is , just luxury luxury, then now it is very popular to mix, for example, this glamorous style together. with a homeless style

, yes, that is, for example, some kind of skirt in sequins, like i have sneakers, a sweater, and even some kind of stretched sweater or t-shirt, that’s how it is, and i’m even watching this trend , launched collections of colors and crystals, and people increasingly want to add some kind of glitter and really dilute it with sneakers with sparklers, torn sparklers, this is just the maximum trend for them. this is luxury in everyday life, this shine, which is mixed just with a trip to the store, yes, that is, with a vacation outside the city, yes, that is, there is a big request for home clothes with rhinestones, okay, who wears your clothes? and if earlier it was mainly stars, celebrities, now it’s almost everyone, well, that is , stage clothing goes into everyday life and is mixed with certain details. casual

clothes, yes, casual, just, if i used to think that it was only for parties, now we are focusing more on the basic collection, these are lights, i don’t know, sports trousers after all, tracksuits, crystal decoration. irin, now if you take the marketing strategy of any fashion brand, there are always influencers there. which influencers do you collaborate with? well, we collaborate with many influencers to a large extent even abroad, yes. that is, america, the arab emirates, almost all influencers tops, lozhana mran, marina abadi, that is, in general, there seemed to be some names unfamiliar to me, yes, well, as if for those who now spend a lot of time in the united arab emirates, they know, and so well, but what kind of stars are there for those who don’t spend time in the united arab emirates, and well, paris hilton is our ambassador, you understand, i barely pulled out a name from you that all our viewers know. pienza madonna prepared

some of the stage images, costumes for madonna’s concert, and that is, this is for their last tour, madonna ordered outfits from you, and we sewed them very quickly almost overnight. urgent gloves were sent through friends by delivery to london so that she would receive them in time for the performance, who selects, collects images for madonna, and her team of stylists, yes, a team of stylists, they knew that you were a russian brand, they were not confused at all, yes no, it doesn’t bother anyone, that is, no sanctions, nothing works, when when beautiful things, when it comes to beautiful things, yes this almost like art, you know , this is why this... also doesn’t bother anyone now for pestilence, but what are the wishes, because after all, stage clothes, there are special wishes in terms of convenience, comfort , we always sew them in there, it’s always shows that they assume, i don’t know , there is an artist hanging upside down and accordingly

there must be some wishes, yes, most often these are corsets built into the dress, which are not worn separately, if the dress is short, then it must be a bodysuit so that if suddenly... with something was visible on the stage, then it should also be beautiful, yes, that is, the bodysuit is most often in crystals, if the dress is with crystals and always a pocket for a microphone, a pocket for a microphone, there in the back, yes, in my opinion, in the back, yes , and it should also be in crystals, well , in the color of the suit, especially for our regular stars, our polina gagarina, olga buzova, which of the influencers did you collaborate with, because it’s one thing when they order suits from you for themselves , but it’s another thing when you work with them as... lensers, well, basically it’s still russia, because here it’s more about the history of advertising, because who are the names? well, i like to work, i always worked from the very beginning, i started as soon as i opened the hotel, i didn’t have a brand yet, it was ksyusha borodina, and vika lopyreva - these are two

influencers who really supported me as a brand and believed in me for a long time, now i... work with many, yes, i can honestly say, but i would still leave two of them in the top for myself. and there were examples of unsuccessful cooperation? yes, there were, of course, i have a star discount, i don’t sew dresses for free, and for me this has always been a certain star discount, by the way, it’s different for everyone, what is yours? i have from 40 to 50%. well, that is, it’s like marara sews with a fifty percent discount. then he puts a mark on your dress, yes, that is , there is such a thing, at his own discretion, that is , for me, this gives me the right to use the photo, i don’t require a big mark from the mark in the sense of a link , we’ll explain to our viewers what to give on social networks link to

brand, yes, she installed it, but probably 2,000 subscribers signed up, but this is generally not bad, now there is no good organic growth anywhere in social networks. in the hall, practically, well, no one, boris hilton always tags us, always in every photo, even if these photos were taken 2 years ago, she repeats the post, he still tags us, but there are no orders from these stars, i can honestly say, that’s why collaborating with them as influencers is probably not advisable from a sales point of view, but it is advisable from a fame, they ordered a dress from me for the new year at a star discount, everything... was discussed, well, naturally, without a contract, when we sewed the new year's race, people sew at night, then the star comes, puts on the dress, we say, well, here's the rest of the payment , she says, well, i won’t pay

, you understand that the mark on my page costs twice as much as your payment without a discount, you still owe me money, that’s what i said, i don’t need marks, return the dresses, please, i basically have in my head... now there are several names of who it could be, who is this? i don’t remember, it was, oh well, at least name your profession, who is the singer, singer, yes, and in the end, how the story ended, i took the dress and said that i’m sorry, but you will sing naked, no, she managed to him, i just said that i don’t need your mark and i don’t need to pay anything, i’m taking the dress and you don’t even have to post, that is , that’s my plan, i mean, she took this dress in the end. came out and brought it back, then brought it back, yes, she gave a link to the brand on social networks, she, no, no, no, and we we didn’t even use these photographs , it turns out that after all, these stage things are such one-off pieces, who is your main target audience, who buys your

things, this is, well, because they are still for special occasions, in the majority, well, in fact , the most interesting thing is that most often these are women who work in banks. sphere, women who are financiers, who run complex businesses, going to a restaurant, going to the theater, that’s where they are transformed, and it seems to me that a woman. which is aimed at men's work, in in many ways, yes, where masculine energy is very dominant, she wants to compensate in everyday life, then she transforms into the most feminine, beautiful, graceful woman, a lady, whom everyone looks at and wow, and will never assume that they work in real estate, well by the way, i noticed, yes, that people who work in some kind of serious offices, where there is still a certain dress code, mean that where there is enough... a restrained , boring style of clothing - these are the people who on holidays or for some special

exits especially come off, that is , i even remember male bank employees who are very serious, there in suits and ties as always in the office, but when they go somewhere to a nightclub, i directly remember this, it seems to me from the beginning of the two thousandths, this these ones, i even remember one banker in a fur hat, that’s how slavik gyo’s style is now, yeah. with a huge fox tail in some kind of suit with rhinestones, and it’s absolutely impossible to imagine this man at some serious job, because apparently they are so bored with this boring gray office style that they want to have a blast in it, so 80% of clients are just ladies who work in male professions, who can afford such outfits, now we are perceived as a luxury segment, but i still try...

tell me, since you touched on the regions where bright shining things are more popular, krasnodar and kazan, in krasnodar and kazan we like girls to dress up, and also, perhaps, probably dagestan, well, not so much, here's the first one krasnodar and kazan are in second place, probably dagestan is the caucasus region, in simferopol, moscow, moscow,

of course, moscow is dressing up more, yes, well, st. petersburg is now showing more interest, and literally since december it has started showing large orders from us precisely at the boutiques of st. petersburg. ira, this is how today new clients find their favorite brands, how they reach you, through influencers, through advertising. now it’s more difficult through influencers, now, but why? well, social networks are not so active they are working, well, it seems to me that now there are even more opportunities, we are now actively developing russian social networks, so we started working on vkontakte, but there are still not many of our target audience there, so from there they are mainly viewed and interesting, but clients they don’t come, yandex zen is the same, that is, we are trying to pro...

yes, on recommendation and for moscow, i always told all brands that want to launch and said, we will work online, i say, no, there is a location in moscow , you still need to have a place where clients can come to see you, and by choosing the right location, by choosing a good location, you choose clients, and of course people from the street come, thank you irene, very much, a very interesting story about that. what is hidden behind the production of clothing, we even revealed some terrible, but very useful secrets,

it was very interesting, thank you very much, good luck in the new year, to learn more about fashion, trends and style, watch all issues on the first website. hello, dear viewers, this is the triggers podcast and its next episode, with you presenter, psychologist, tatyana krasnovskaya. psychologist psychotherapist sergei nasebyan, but our guest today is elvira. hello elvira. hello, please tell us what you came with? oh, i came, i’m very nervous, but how can i love myself?

sorry. probably since childhood, i don’t know what self-love is, i don’t feel protected, elvira, tell me your story, i was raised by two wonderful grandmothers, when i was 3 years old, my mother was sent to prison, she came out of prison when i was. years, as a child i did not know that my mother was sitting in prison, and this was carefully hidden, and i grew up thinking that my mother, she is a wonderful, kind person, and where is she, as they explained to you, we didn’t say that my mother was in the hospital, we actually came to the colony and there they wore robes, that’s why it

was all like this, such a theater, let’s say, here. she left prison when i was already 6 years old and graduating from kindergarten, she spent 2 years in freedom, during these 2 years she gave birth to my beautiful sister, and then from time to time she still ended up in prison, but when she came out, it seemed to me that she was mentally raping me, so... manipulation is a lie, at the same time, i loved and love this person very much, probably because of this i don’t know how to love myself, because i lived the idea of ​​saving her, she was addicted to drugs, when she died 2 years ago, this idea faded and... i don’t

know how to live further, let’s say, where to move, who i am, what i am, what i love, and how old are you now, 25 years old, do you communicate with your sister, yes, she is 16 years old, yes, we lived in different families, she lived with her stepfather and with his mother, i was raised first by my great-grandmother until i was 13, yeah, and then raised by my grandmother, then i left home, i was in a relationship, how old were you when you left home? at 16, and at that moment i entered college, but my mother was sent to prison, and i left college and went to work, because i had to go on a date and needed to help somehow, and

why did i need to help, i wanted to help , and this is a different conversation, but why did you want to help? because this is my mother and i didn’t want her to suffer, okay, but how did you help, did you bring her sausage biscuits? yes, that is, it seemed to you that this was improving, this was my manifestation of my love, what did you feel when you were bringing her another package, that at these moments she needed me, yeah, you knew your father, you know him, no, no, i don’t have a father, i found out - uh-huh, this gives me no sense of security, but responsibility, goal-setting, i don’t feel my dad behind me and some kind of male support

that should have been there in childhood, it wasn’t there, it was just love grandmothers, can i get a little... back from you, with what how did you feel when you left your dates with your mom? well, it’s always different, no , mostly of course, probably with hope, with the hope that now everything will change, now it will stop, why in your mind did it have to stop, what did you hope for, what? i was hoping she would choose us? but she didn’t choose, no, when she came out during these intervals, when she was free, you say she mentally raped you, how? she deceived a lot, deceived a lot, manipulated, and this was from childhood, that’s why i’m so already, i still

continued to do it, that is, when you understand that you are being deceived, but you leave some amount of faith, you help, but then the realization comes that you were deceived again, and so on over and over again, you hoped save her? yes, what did she die from, liver fusion? how old was mom when she died? 41 years old, very young age, yeah, so you said, you don’t know how to love yourself, yes, yes, well, that means you know how not to love yourself, yes, tell me how you don’t love yourself, well, that’s... engage in self-flagellation, being in the position of a victim, not being able to say no, that is, sometimes i can say yes to some things, then i really regret it,

and then again, it’s like a funnel when you understand that you don’t need to do this, but you still you say yes to this, then you start to scold yourself, and so over and over again, you say yes, when people ask you for something, right? but now you are 25 years old, how do you live now, what does your life consist of today? now i live with my grandmother, we live together, i work, got back on my feet, slowly

i’m moving forward, it’s very difficult, because, because i don’t feel support from myself, probably first of all, that is , i can’t support myself, i can’t ... i don’t know, admire myself for the fact that i’m doing something right, it always seems to me that i’m doing it wrong, what do you think , how many years are you tired of living, the first thing that came to mind was 100, that is, there are still 100 years left to live, yes i am, why is this the first goal, i want to live a long time, okay, okay, now you have 100 years left to live, now imagine that you are 120, uh-huh, you still have 5 years ahead of you, uh-huh, some? and now, from the perspective of your 120-year-old self, you look at today, where you are sitting in front of us in the studio? what do you think about this day?

there are still 100 years ahead of you, i don’t know. well, how do you perceive the 25 years you have lived, is it a lot or little, in comparison with well, this is little, very little, of course, this is very little, how can you, that your whole life is ahead and that... “everything can be fixed, that’s the most important thing , now let 's see what we're going to fix, well, here's what would you like to improve your life right tomorrow, but i would like to stop constantly scolding myself and constantly proving to someone that i exist, as you do today, scold yourself and prove to others, well, i lie down and scold. " well, like you and i tell myself that yes, el, that’s how you are, that’s who you are, that’s who you are, well, yes, stupid, irresponsible, and well, for many moments in

my life i can’t forgive myself either, for example, i’m starting this scroll through everything in myself, but how i can’t forgive this, i don’t really understand, well, for the fact that, for example, i used drugs, well, it harmed the body very, well, as if the key context. i couldn’t do it here, but i really wanted to go to study, well, there’s a moment of omission , i always have a moment of omission, where would you like to go to study, as a child i really wanted to go to law school, what’s stopping you now, but i can’t combine it with work, probably, well , wait, you can enroll part-time, conditionally study part-time, i can, but who do you work for? this is a company, we organize events, this is also very important to me i like it, and i like giving people emotions,

seeing emotions, yeah. them, and if you became a lawyer, what kind of lawyer would you like to be? lawyer? yeah, i would like to help people who are lost, save them? well, yes, but how does a lawyer help people who are lost, protects them, sometimes gives them a chance, it ’s obvious that this is such a childish fantasy of yours that a good lawyer would allow your mother not to go to jail, would help her. not going to jail, perhaps, but the lawyer doesn’t really help, the lawyer finds gaps in charges, if there are any, then the lawyer , accordingly, either drops the charges against the defendant or commutes the punishment, as if in a romance somewhere in the head, yes, we may think that the lawyer is a savior, but he actually doesn’t save anyone, but the responsibility is still on the person, but it’s a good one. work

and i always removed this responsibility from her, as if it were not her fault, of course, well, yes, and you always tried to save her, now what you are talking about, i couldn’t, i couldn’t save my mother. do you think it was possible to save her? i don't know, what could you have done that you didn’t? it’s possible to believe when she really felt very bad, but i didn’t believe it anymore, so for you to believe, would it change? i think that i would have helped again and maybe everything would have worked out, but i just didn’t

believe it, you are watching the triggers podcast, its host tatyana krasnovskaya and sergey nasebyan are with you, we are talking with elvira about how difficult it is to love yourself with all your history, elvir, what was it like to be you when you were little in kindergarten, at school, well i was a happy child when i was a child, i was surrounded by people.

i know that i had, and now you have, on the way here, i imagined this conversation several times, in my head there was the thought that well... she’s a mother, well, you can’t talk bad about her, why? i don’t know, there’s a lot, she just did a lot of bad things, of course, i don’t want to say, no matter how difficult it is to explain, probably, well, look, she did a lot of bad things, that doesn’t make her bad, her actions are her actions , it's her choice, her decision, her responsibility, but that doesn't make her bad a person, well, she just lived such a life, she lived a very natural, logical,

short life. you can speak badly about your mother, it is clear that this is usually not accepted, but if you do not allow yourself those feelings that you so, i don’t know, gracefully hide, then of course you will never be able to love yourself, because you cannot to love with these feelings, with these emotions, with these memories, how to accept yourself with these emotions, you also have a choice, the same choice as your mother. and you can stay in this and conditionally, do not accept yourself with this and continue to live such a life, but it is destructive, it destroys you inside, and it is also unlikely to be a very happy, very long life. what would your behavior, your life look like if you accepted yourself? it would be easier for me to live, i can’t even

imagine. honestly, what would you allow yourself if life could be easier for you, just imagine what you don’t allow yourself now, it seems like i allow everything, well, i don’t have any... restrictions, well, imagine, you are free from this story , it doesn’t exist at all, everything is the same, only there is no story, and you can choose, as if any, then what would your personal life be like, but i don’t know if it would be me or not, if i had chosen a different story, perhaps it would have been some other elvira, but what? what makes you to you, you said, if i were different, what would you have left then? i would leave everything, all my experience, all my memories, it’s just that for some reason it’s hard for me to live with this, i don’t know, because you

make these memories heavier, because you wrap yourself in emotional interpretations and you suffer not because your mother was in prison or used drugs, but because it seems to you that the... fact that she did this says about you that you some kind of bad, well, yes, that there are good children, good mothers, maybe you also kind of live in this, it gives you the right to do nothing for yourself today, yeah, and you seem to be chewing on this all the time chewing gum, all that well, when you ask how to accept yourself is to stop doing what you do today, because everything you do... today is clearly not self-acceptance and self-love, right? do you somehow take care of your body, for example, yes, you apply cream, yes, you go for a manicure, is this part of the manifestation of

self-love, or do you do this to please others? no, i do this to please myself, yeah, but there are times when i also want to please others, that’s normal. i’m definitely fine, i can definitely say that if you like yourself, others will definitely like you, as if to let to love yourself is to betray the whole story, as if allowing yourself to be happy, is to betray the history of your family, you see how you were born into the world and your parents and mom and dad basically cut off all channels of energy from you. in the form of love, care, protection and so on , it’s true, in theory you should have died, well , because if it weren’t for your grandmother and great-grandmother, then accordingly you wouldn’t be able to survive, well, if you weren’t fed there anyway further,

yeah, yeah, at that moment you were lucky, because many are dying, you were raised by good people, but now you are 25, you can live without these channels, you yourself are already... a person who can become a source of love for the children you give birth to, god willing, there the man with whom you will be, and you are still sitting there in your children's room and thinking about, well, yes, why mom is not there, and you can’t get out of there, no, what would you say to this girl if you were now found ourselves in this room where this little elvira sits and is afraid to leave. i would say that i love her and that you don’t need to be afraid, you tell yourself this at least once a day, no, i don’t tell myself this at all, i can’t even take compliments, you run in circles and

ask how to love yourself, that’s an obvious tool, right here is the obvious one, when you wake up, and the first thing you do is you tell this little one to yourself... these are exactly the words you say, you would tell her that you believe that she will succeed, of course, of course, i believe , you would tell her that you give her the right to live, be happy, yes, and that i will always protect her, so who should i protect her from, no one attacks, love, well, no one attacks, apparently they attack me, what’s the matter? that you are trying to convince her of this, that someone will definitely attack now, or maybe you just already, well, that’s how your head works, perhaps, yes, of course, that’s why i ’m telling you, turn off this program, now

you’re just she is there, and you can take her by the hand and lead her out of this room, guarding, preserving, supporting, yes, i don’t know, instructing somewhere, yes, and even about the word. support yes love yes care yes but protect the one you tried to protect mom. they tried to protect her there, i don’t know from the judicial system, but how did you do it, why, well , because i loved you, i thought you needed to be protected, so no one attacked you, it seemed to me in childhood that they were attacking, you know, i thought that the whole world was evil and that everyone was attacking, that’s why now you need to stop thinking like that, the world is just a world and you know how... options in the multiverse, there is a universe in which you are

absolutely happy, beautiful, wonderful, but there are also options where you dying of a drug overdose in a ditch, there are those too, this means that every second you have a huge amount of choice, but the action of choosing - it will always be one, you will always have to choose one thing, and you can choose to be happy, not to be happy, but first of all it’s really important for you that you little by little learn to admit to yourself... love to say to yourself these simple words, choose this little elvira, you say: i can’t say no, i can’t refuse, i must live for others, as it were, choose her, who will choose her besides you, so you say, it’s difficult for you to take compliments, so i’ll tell you, you have very beautiful hands, how cool, what’s the difficulty in taking this compliment? i don’t know, i think it’s flattery, but why should i take revenge?

i don’t know, well, that’s how i perceive it, yes , well, let’s do it right here, now, why should i take revenge on you, to calm me down, maybe, yeah, no, i can really upset you now, so these are my hands, specifically my hands, here are your hands, i look at them and say, you have beautiful hands, thank you, but you’re welcome, but what kind of feeling does this evoke, well, i don’t think so, it’s like that. well, what do you think , ordinary hands, but if i tell you, you are very charming, you laugh so much, you smile so much, you just attract attention to yourself, how nice it is for you, that is, i’m not flattering, i know that i charming, what about your personal life, elvira, m... and she is

, i’m alone, well, yes, i’m alone, well, yes, me and work, yeah, and the young people, where did they all go, we’re happy, where share the young people around you, well, there are a lot of them, well, i’m more so far i don’t want them to be, well, after one relationship, i probably don’t want them to be anymore, you were hurt in that relationship, that’s it, i was 16 years old and...

it was as if he chose another daughter, so so it’s in my head, it was very painful, well, of course, he chose more than once, but in general he sort of chose another daughter from me, probably this is this, this is this pain, and since then you haven’t want a relationship, you know, when we fall in love, we always a priori doom ourselves to disappointment, it’s always like this, because... falling in love is a feeling that is associated with charm

, and if associated with charm, then we see not a person, but our fantasies about him, yeah, which he naturally should not correspond to and , as a rule, does not correspond to, falling in love does not last long, we fall in love, as they say scientists, there is the big toe of the right foot , for example, yes we can fall in love , but disappointment will always be there, but we fall in love again, only for one reason, because... it's just cool, you just have to allow yourself to do it, no matter what , you can fall in love with a person completely you don’t have to live with him, for example, you can fall in love with your job, with your neighbor, no matter who, yeah. into an actress, into an actor, yes , because falling in love gives us a lot of charge, and we become disappointed at the moment when people stop living up to the very fantasies that we make of them, well , we form, depriving ourselves of such a great power as love, like falling in love, you also

deprive yourself of a very wide range of experiences that people and you need, well, it seems to me that loving is a pain. simple, that's why falling in love is also very painful, listen, well, look, you love borscht , i love borscht, great, imagine that you are sitting, eating borscht in a restaurant, very tasty borscht, yes, you like it, you have a real love affair with borscht, you love borscht, you might even at this moment it seems that the borscht loves you, uh-huh, at this moment i come and start eating the same borscht with the next table and that you will start to be jealous or something, well, no, you share the love for borscht, right? well, yes, then why does it hurt to love a person? how is it different from borscht? well, borscht can't hurt, but a person can do because a person has a why? what else? well, from my experience

, animal instincts, which he - more than animal instincts, which a person begins to follow, as if to follow, and does. it hurts someone else, well, listen, it’s clear, well, well, look, it hurts you not because you love the person more, it hurts you when a person ceases to be yours, the pain is caused by the desire to possess this person, moreover , it’s an unrealizable desire to possess, of course you can’t possess, you can be locked up there in basement somewhere and know that i have you like this, and love you for the fact that you are sitting in the basement, although it won’t be very good in the basement, love should not be confused with the desire to possess, love is what you feel , what fills you, when you begin to train in this very self-love, you will slowly, of course, melt your heart, with a high degree of probability

a man will come into your life, and this is wonderful, but this man is unlikely to come without instincts , you know, no, i understand that he will have to. the pictures are like this, where little elvira is, she tells you, we will seriously never try again, we will seriously end up like this and this is how these 100 years of ours will pass, 100 years, never. of course we’ll try , it’s just difficult for now, yes, and then it will be difficult, for now it’s difficult, last time it was difficult, now it will be difficult, it will always be difficult, loving in general is difficult, because loving means giving, very often i get nothing

in return , but you should only do this for yourself, not for another person. what's there to be sad about? well, about the fact that i gave up, probably, well, you gave up at some point, now maybe it’s worth it, you know, in fact, if you gave up, you would stop biting yourself, because if, again, you ask how, for example, to love yourself, how to accept yourself, well this is where you have to give up, and you are always trying to find some ideal

elvira, an ideal mom, an ideal dad, and as if you are trying to somehow correspond to them, but you understand that you do not correspond to them, so no, you do not correspond. this is the meaning of the ideal, that we do not correspond to this ideal, somewhere, to some extent, we want to strive for it and something even makes us better, but you have to accept the fact where you are now, that’s why i say that if you are asking how to love yourself, here start the day by simply remembering this child and telling him that you love, that you will be there, that you will support, try to avoid the words i will protect. on the contrary, say that no one is attacking us, yes, this is very important, because if necessary, it will work out, you have experience, you've dealt with this. with the number of such difficult stories in your life, you can cope with any result, but

there is no point in expecting it to defend itself in advance while sitting in a trench, your pain really, i can imagine how i really look forever, no, now you look really nothing, in in a trench you look bad with a machine gun against the whole world, yes, who are not fighting against you at all, that is, you know, you are sitting in a tank, in fact, not in a tank.

i’m not delighted with her either, but i loved, and this is the most beautiful love, and reciprocal love, she it’s good when you love yourself, because you will always receive a response immediately, and this is the only person who will answer you right away, and you will see directly, you know, it’s like if you started, i don’t know, the bush would have been looked after, you’ll immediately understand, they watered it, it blossomed well, yes, they overwatered it, they burned it, it begins to... rot, they didn’t finish it, it begins to dry out, uh-huh, the same thing happens to you inside, you know, elvira, you are fantastic, really, you are

an incredibly beautiful girl, and especially when cry, sergey loves when women cry, and i’ll tell you that it’s simply not fair to the world, not to try to build relationships anymore, to sit in a trench, it’s not fair, i’ll just try. what do you leave with, with such a head, with ease , i probably felt better, you know, do something like this, well, at least for a couple of months, do this practice, go to the mirror, look at yourself, just start noticing what you like it, there will be elements that you don’t like, your knees are pointing in the wrong direction, i don’t know there, not in that side the leg bends, all this. will be, but mark what you like, let it be some small elements, it doesn’t matter what, but at the same time, don’t

pay attention to what you don’t like, it, you don’t like it, you say, yes, yes, okay, now we are looking at what you like, you like the left eye, look at the left eye, at this time your mind will say, yes, the left, of course, the left is okay, but the right one let us down, yes, and you say, yes, yes, we’ll figure it out on the right one later, look only at the left one, little by little the left eye will begin to open. in general, in principle, what is it like to have such an attitude towards yourself, just do these two exercises every day, the first is to confess your love to this girl, the second is to stand in front of the mirror, love what you just objectively like, because obviously you don’t see yourself as beautiful as we see, and i’m not just talking about your appearance now , thank you very much for coming, for talking to us about this, this is not an easy story, not an easy task, but i am sure that if you start this do you can handle it this. thank you, thank you for being so open with us, thank you very much, thank you, i can hug you, yes.