i’ll say right away that not a single scientist predicted pain of this level in this cycle, in this entire cycle; let’s say, in the previous cycle of activity for 11 years there was not a single pain like this. before this, there was an equally powerful solar emission in september 2005, but with the current strong activity, experts say, we have at least another year to live. that's all for now, see you later. for some reason the child knows that if the weather is bad, yes, with rain or wind, then this is bad, he somehow knows this by birth, i don’t know, from literature, from cartoons, or because he too, like the sensitive child considered some kind of, for example, mom’s disappointment in this weather, mom’s disappointment, i can’t be realized. i promised the child to take a ride

on the tram, we have already drawn this ideal picture, the ideal picture, and the child feels what he feels at this moment, i cannot make sure that the mother realizes her expectation, and he gets upset, yes, he gets upset because because that picture is there, i won’t be able to make my mother happy on the tram or trolleybus, so i think. i would also happily go with him in a taxi, that is there are no indignations, we basically have how i will explain to him that we will go in a taxi, you are these, these are the situations when we have already discussed with him, we have talked, we have prepared everything, even when making adjustments, there we will wear boots instead of sneakers, yes, you are already starting to do something, fuss, do something, maybe faster, something not... and the child reads this tension,

they are just bundles of energy at 3 years old, intellectualization doesn’t work there yet, a child can’t explain something there, piece by piece arrange it like we do as adults, yes he did, he looked at mom, mom was a little tense, mom quickened her pace a little, mom started changing things a little faster so that the child wouldn’t get upset, and you both drag out this knot, but feeling each other's tension.

so that that energy is directed towards me, they still somehow interact, they interacted like this before me and will interact like this in the future, and i will watch this, i feel calmer this way, i feel more confident, the thing is, what do you understand? if a mother directs the vector of her tension to her daughter, the daughter is also lost and thinks, what should i do about this, it’s the mother who is so used to communicating with the elder , she does this... no, by the way, she competes very much with her brother, that is, she she is quite jealous of the fact that she needs, right now, to be picked up, she looks at him very much, that they took me and i’m now in my mother’s arms, and there, to go to her there, moreover, if misha behaves calmly, then at that moment masha starts uh-huh. today with a family psychologist

olga shubina we meet with a married couple who do not know how to find the right harmony between parental responsibilities and their marital happiness. let's talk now about denis's life, how is your day going in your family? i wake up, wake up my daughter, dress her, have breakfast with her, so which one of you will have a daughter? together, no matter how i comb my hair, dad dresses me, that is. when i don’t have time, faith will wake her up, basically i try to wake her up, dress her, then we go to breakfast, comb our hair there before breakfast, the day after breakfast let's go to the garden, they go to different places, that is, they have different places, different games, and you distributed the distribution in a generally fairly fair way, it turns out, yes, yes with misha, that

he wants to spend more time with him, misha on principle go with mom, and he seems to be walking around, but he stays at home, sometimes he gets capricious, so i go only with masha, mostly, but what? do you feel at the same time when misha is capricious, when i’m angry with him, yeah, that is, you both experience such tension, yes, that’s why it’s better, of course, to hand it over to your mother at this moment, but how do you cope? now it has become a little easier because masha went to the garden, and that is, i have at least some thought that now i will take him to the garden, then i will have breakfast there, for example, there or something else - then i can do it, and as if when you... understand that you need to wait out this mood for some moment, then it’s easier to cope, and so, of course, when you understand that you need to run further there, what else there is a child and he needs to devote time, then now you’re nervous and in a hurry, trying to somehow make it on time, uh-huh,

uh-huh, it turns out that he is, of course , more nervous about this, when you left for the maternity hospital, please tell me how to discuss? it turned out very abruptly, because at the twenty -seventh week my water broke and they took me to the maternity hospital, they took me to such a center to go for a walk, yes, but basically that day he was in a good mood, because his cousin came, and he was very i’m glad, in principle he didn’t even want to be with us to leave, he was calmly in the room, playing with her, and then the fact that i wasn’t somewhere for probably two weeks, while i was in the maternity hospital, he was with my grandparents, but outwardly it looked like some kind of so that he would cry. yes, he asked there, and where is mother, well, no, well, he probably felt, but this tension that arose in the family age, what was it, a year and a half, you can imagine, the loss of a significant adult, it’s scary, there is no mother, everyone is tense, but they explain, well, at a year and a half, hand to hand

they convey that everything seems to be fine, i receive warmth, i receive contact, but there is no one to express it with, and naturally we haven’t been there for 2 weeks, yes. when you arrived, how did the child react? well, he was very happy, yes, that’s when he came home, and it so happened that masha was in the maternity hospital for 3 months, while she was at full term, and as if for these 3 months he was without his sister, yeah, well, well, we’re together here everywhere, this time the first 2 weeks, somewhere after you appeared, did he hang in his arms, that ’s different, he always hangs in his arms, even now that he's a half and a half. it’s as if he constantly wants to be hugged, to sit, to be hugged there, to be held by the hand, here and there, we even walk down the street, he always walks by the hand, even if there is no danger, in principle i can

let him go, he will insist on walking by the hand, your dad and mom praised you, well, yes, but our dad left, as if when i was 2 years old, and i was very worried, i probably somewhere... i sat in the hallway for a day, waiting for my dad to come home from work, because they explained to me that it was working, and i kind of waited, and then we somehow got used to it, probably the older sister was more worried, and my mother praised me, but my mother is quite demanding, but please tell me, i’m now i saw such an emotion in you, here you are about the fact that your father left, you sat and waited for him to come, now you are telling me what feelings, well, i don’t know, it seems to me.

phone call - it's dad calling, the doorbell rang, it's dad came, there's a man who looks like him walking down the street, it's dad surely, it turns out that you are both practically at the same age. suffered the loss of a significant adult, and you both want to distance yourself from each other, the first child is generally considered in family psychology as a projection, all the mother’s projections that come from her parental family, they will be very strongly reflected there, but here we can smoothly discuss the question, why does mom try so hard to be a good mom? and the boy’s praise is important to her, and she doesn’t say that about her daughter, yes, so that she

misha praised her three-year-old son, misha, by the way, is very similar to me in appearance, that is , he has the same hair, the same eyes, he seems to be very similar in appearance, marusya is with us, she is fairer, blue-eyed, she probably i look more like my dad, i want to hear from him that i’m good, but at the very beginning she started talking about how i want to be a good mom. good, so he hears, he hears it, you know, emotionally, and he always tries, it seems to you that when you seem to have dressed the child, fed him, he’s all right, he has toys there, something else, they spend time with him there, and sometimes we try to separate the children, so that only misha goes there with his parents, so that this is his time for a while, there or only masha went somewhere with her parents, so she also separated them so that... only with her mother, marusya, for example, was very happy when the two of us went to

a cafe, when she found out that we would go later take misha, this of course upset her, she was not going to take him away, she was i’m happy that they’re just doing something to her, how can i say it, i want to be such a good mother that i can be with my children, there, but of course, when you, for example, pay attention to one child, of course, at this moment there, well, this is not being paid attention by a friend. mom will disappear, and if mom gets distracted, and if mom gets lost from sight, yes, this is all

very, very, i think i understand, you mean that faith, having set within yourself such a pace of this race to yourself first turn, yes, these are the obstacles that are higher heads that you need to jump over, yes, fly as you want on the morally strong-willed, and a distance that a person cannot overcome and a speed at which horses do not run, but i came up with faith for myself. to the milky way, and somewhere on the side

there are standing a little stunned denis and masha and don’t understand what they should do about it, they don’t even know where to run, we, where to run, we can’t keep up with you guys, well i certainly didn’t look at it from this angle, yes, it opens up a little new, that is, you came with a request for help, that you don't take it out. about the fact that you don’t have enough resource, yeah, but before you came here with this request, you pushed away, you know, like then buy a later ticket, yes, yes, all the opportunities that i understand were offered to you , yes, you have already dismissed them, rejected them, devalued them, or with the best intentions, of course, exclusively with the best intentions, of course, your husband should eat the best pasta, of course, i...

once upon a time, these places were the bottom of the ancient sea, and today there is one small but very beautiful republic located here. we are water friends, tell us what kind of instrument you have in your hands; in adyk it is most often called a shorter. can you show me the most difficult figure you know? to tell the truth, you have so many spices that if you smell them, you can fall, we can start salt, here is pomegranate, oh, these are already rapids, have you managed to study any features of the language of alpacas, alpacas, llamas, they peck, they they mark their territory this way, whoever took the last bite

wins, the life of their own.

well, thank you, they took you away, guys, you can’t be beaten more than once, you can’t be broken, olga, come on let's try to give the guys some kind of correct trajectory so that they figure out their roles, and vera allowed denis to help herself, yes, and denis was not afraid to offer vera that one of his own, as i see, yes, that he wants to help, he loves, he... is interested, he came to us, for men it’s a feat to even come to a psychologist for an appointment, you can already be given a hero right away, i just, i don’t know, a regional hero for the region, but you still came to the program, no, in fact, denis is a very involved dad, that is, when he comes home, he always he immediately goes to the children, he’s there as soon as he hasn’t even changed his clothes yet, he’s already walking

there, but it turns out, what are you doing at that moment, and i usually serve dinner, and he’s... and you so you distribute a little responsibilities, yes, and i go to the children, she does everything, yeah, and then when you call them to the table, well, i call them to eat, so they all come, well, misha is naturally the first, but mostly misha, whom misha he praises, and well, misha usually comes, looks at what they put in for him, says, oh, there’s this favorite soup there or there, well sometimes, of course, he says: i won’t eat this, but then he still sits down and mostly eats, yeah, but i also want him to praise, but eating himself is bad, often, and yes, he mostly tries this infantile behavior, that is so that his mother would feed him, so that his mother would give him something there, and the mother begins to suffer that her child is not eating well enough, as an ideal child should eat, no,

it seems to me that if something is not difficult, then it’s like, how can he, for example, ask there... broke through, say, faith, let him change clothes himself, but they got it right there, no, a little about another, i say, don’t feed him so often, too much, he himself ate more, she feeds him all the time, why don’t you listen to your husband’s words, because i feel sorry for my son my beloved, yes, he eats in the garden by himself, he doesn’t have such problems in a cafe, that

is, if we come somewhere, he’s great at eating on his own, he has this problem and only arises at home, you don’t need to feed him, you just need less delve into this, denis. something that you feel, that my wife doesn’t hear you, that you the wife doesn’t hear, so the child doesn’t hear dad either, so the child isn’t proud of dad, dad isn’t an authority, so staying with dad is like, what if something’s wrong, yes, what if something’s wrong, yes, mom will scold us , if anything, yes, and now we return to the beginning of our program, you came with a request on how to save... yourself, yeah, and at the same time raise children to be independent, independent, from the short that olga and i just heard , with whom do children behave more independently, with their dad? yeah, then is there anyone good? dad, dad is great, but say again, dad is great, yes, well done, well done, and at home you praise so much, at home,

probably, well, like sometimes, yes, well, maybe just admit this fact and say, dad, listen , you’re doing great, i’ll have to follow your example, maybe i really shouldn’t feed him, as he advises so often. about myself, yes, what will i wear, for example, yes, where will i go, what do i want to become a doctor or a teacher there, yes, something about

myself, in the future everything, everything about myself, please tell me where now about you, they are now they look at you, and well, yes, i also understand that of course, if you are, well, just a mother, and this is the only function, then you’re probably not very... interesting, no, no, no, and how children, well, they see that you are giving everything to someone, uh-huh, that’s right, they will be a third more, uh-huh, no, they don’t see that you fulfill any social role, you don’t even fulfill a marital role, you pulled away from your spouse, i’m all about the children, i need to cook food, i need everything, everything, she’s still holding the dome, she olga told you, she is holding the dome. i , as a woman, have generally lost my role and as a social object, yes i have, and as a daughter

for my mother, most likely also keep such a dome, because i need to prevent my mother from interfering in the upbringing of my children, let’s dream up, it’s just the world right now dreams and what if suddenly you become like this, and i want a picture there. decorate, bought myself a painting, sleep until 9, today is daddy’s day, daddy’s morning, that’s it, i sleep until 9, what will happen to the children at this moment, well, masha, he will probably take it more calmly, but misha, he will knock, rush, try to open the door, we even carried out a general cleaning here this weekend , closed the door with a mattress so that they could not get in there, there were just battles going on to take the room by storm, go there,

dads in the eyes of their children, that is, do not protect, on the contrary, invest now as much as possible in the authority of the dad, that is , send the child, say, mom, what am i going

to eat, ask dad what should i wear, dad will say, i will be there today walk as you please dad, look, the most important thing in your condition, in your emotional stress, is to just sit down with a piece of paper and write. mothers write what percentage is the role of the mother, write the role of the woman, what percentage is the role of the woman, yes, the role of the daughter of her mother, and what percentage, yes, then see if i can somehow weaken my maternal role, where will i weaken it, here here, here, here, here, and add something about yourself, the children will be happy to see her happy. happy, who takes care of herself, for her daughter, like this it will be wonderful to see a woman who takes care of herself, she will love herself just

like that. what will the boat do? well, it won’t work, it will spin and turn over. and you also need to talk about grievances, you need to sit down at the table and talk a little about each other’s grievances, why? because look how much sincerity is in his eyes, he says, the very first thing he said is, i want her to get some sleep, so a man can say the one who is simply crazy about his woman, who is simply even himself...

i feel myself connected, between those who are alive and who were taken away by the war, and although the five-year plans are running in a hurry, this connection is becoming stronger, this connection is becoming ever closer, i am connected, even though the roar of the battle has died down, the report from fear has become. my verse, from

cauldrons, encirclements, abysses, defeats, from great bridgeheads, victorious battles, i am connected, wandering in the partisan forest, carrying from the living to the dead, no, nothing is forgotten, no, no one is forgotten, yes... the one who lies in an unknown grave, hello, i’m larisa guzeeva, this is a podcast letter, my guest is agla ibatnikova, we today we will remember the poet yulia drunina, who would have turned 100

years old on may 10. hello, hello, larisa, when i was at school, uh, the girls were rewriting poems back then, you are nearby and everything is beautiful, and the rain, and the cold wind, thank you, my clear one, for being in the world, thank you for these lips, thank you for these hands, thank you, my clear one, for being in the light, you are nearby, but we might not have met each other at all, my only one, thank you for being in the light. but it will be very not soon, it will be so to speak, such a monologue of adult women, but to begin with it was already dedicated to the privateer, but little julia dreamed of being a writer, she dreamed of being a poetess, she read a blog, she was such an exalted young lady, all of a sudden she’s 16 years old front, what do you think, why, why? well, i think it’s just her heroic nature, that is, she was

an amazon, she... i came from school to the damp dugouts, from a beautiful lady to my mother and change, because i couldn’t find a name closer than russia, she she worked as a nurse, that is, she worked, yes, as a foreman of a medical orderly, well , she also had to rise to the rank of foreman, she practically received the title of foreman at the end of the war.

she was accepted only when she returned from the medal for courage with the order of the red star, she still had a dream of becoming a poet, a poetess, but she was not at all like that, it seems to me, no, i think that she was an idealist and she was simply eager to go where the main events were taking place, where the people were, where the country was, she wanted to be at the forefront, she went to dig for returns podmazajskie first. even before she became a nurse, she was surrounded there, experienced some events, and then she returned to the front, by the way, when she was surrounded, she got lost, lost, she

got lost and many were injured, some -he died, her friend zina died, zina was, no, zina was after that, many years later, zina was then, a blonde soldier, she called it. his friend zina samsonova, with whom they served together. here is a poem large enough for drunina, dedicated to zina, it is quite famous. zinka, we lay down by the broken spruce, waiting for it to begin to get lighter, under our overcoat the two of us are warmer than the rotten earth. you know, yulka, i’m against sadness, but today it doesn’t count. at home in the apple outback, my mother, my mother, lives. you have friends, my love, i only have one. the house smells of sourdough and smoke. spring is seething beyond the threshold, it seems old, every bush is waiting for a restless daughter, you know, yulka, i’m against sadness, but today it doesn’t count, we barely warmed up, suddenly there’s an order to march forward, again side by side in a damp chenille, a light-haired soldier is walking, every day

it became worse, we walked without rallies and banners, our battered battalion was surrounded by the orsha, zinka led us into the attack, we made our way through the black rye, through craters and through a gulley mortal milestones, we didn’t wait for... she didn’t wait, for me heroes, even the fact that you experience this at a young age, death, when they kill for your country, before your eyes, and you become a witness, is already you somehow reshapes, yes, it

already reshapes you somehow, you have a completely different view, a different concept, a different position in this life, she had specific injuries after the war, two concussion doctors flew by - yes, he is, let’s say, simple-minded, that is , good poetry, a flying institute, maybe without this medal for courage they wouldn’t have taken her, without these tarpaulin boots, they didn’t take her, it’s clear that they took her to the institute because she deserved it, this classmate of hers nikolai

starshinov, he was the same after the front with wounds, she can be felt some common themes, no, i know another story, pavel antakolsky, a teacher who saw this beauty... because they had a daughter, so they got married to nikolai starshinov, but they didn’t have a job, it’s the same as when you go to college, these connections play a role, there somewhere to work, somewhere like this, but the phone didn’t ring, look, you know, we

are now talking after the passage of time, here she is a poet, he is a poet, everything is so romantic, everything, in fact, they lived, there were two people who got married , the child was born, there is nothing to eat, you understand everything, where is love, love is simple evaporates. nikolai starshinov recalled that yulia drunina was not a housewife at all, she did not know how to run a household, and how he and he reproached her that she... did not know where the literature editorial office was located, so they wanted to be poets, but she didn’t know where the editorial office was located and didn’t know who was in charge of the poetry department, although these are very practical things, that is , she really wanted to be a poet, but not to do anything for this, well, conventionally, yes, that is, no, well of course, listen, well, everyone is a poet females suffered from this, they were all homeless, they had no idea how to survive, but it’s like part of the image, you know, just like artists, yes, i don’t know how to do anything, everything falls out of my hands, i i just know how to love and write,

you know, create, that’s because if you also sew a little bit on top of everything, then it’s somehow funny, it doesn’t fit, like you’re a bad poet, but it’s like if an artist is so collected and so on, she and priori mediocre, that’s why, of course, to be a little crazy, absent-minded like that, therefore, it’s the same with poets, in this sense , julia, of course, supported the image of a real poet, she went through this very difficult situation, when she had to sit without money with a child, she even described that it was more difficult for her than at the front, of course, because at the front - war is war, lunch is on schedule, then suddenly you have to answer for everything, very soon alexey kapler appears with her, a kapler, of course, because the man from tv with such a fate is still handsome, unreal handsome, unreal handsome, an adult with such a train, so famous. and her daughter, by the way, he accepted as his own, and her daughter

came straight to him, you know, afterwards she remembered him very well, yes, but because starving is somehow not very good, you want everything, during the war everyone was hungry, larisa, i it seems that the issue there, maybe nikolai starshinov and yulia drunina had, perhaps, not only this poverty, because even the very fact that nikolai, remembering his wife, he says that she was mismanagement and there i didn’t know where the department was, this is the poetry department, right? already says a lot about the fact that, after all, there was some kind of discord, somehow they probably didn’t get along, and kapler idolized the drunina, well, firstly, he is 20 years older than her, of course he will do good, from letters from alexei kapler, my little twig, we are starting a completely new life, in which it will not be the same as before, in happiness mixed with bad, there will be so much happiness, there will only be you, as the smartest, most beloved, most unforgettable woman, well, everyone wants to hear such words, but this is... a dream, especially since he was

married, he promises, after they met secretly for 6 years, they both deceived their spouses, you know, but he just keeps making up a story in runes: my wife is sick, i haven’t slept with her for a long time, everyone is sleeping with them happens as in the previous life, or even better. 6 years is a long time, then she took him away and his wife, it’s impossible, okay, no, status is one thing. this is reverence, he was a womanizer, but

after his relationship with drunin they began to call him henpecked. look, he was, of course, a lavilas, and one story, so much courage what kind of masculine core do you need to have for svetlana alliluyeva - this is pure death, a relationship with the daughter of the almighty stalin at that time. moreover, svetlana aleluev’s portrait is beautiful. they closed it, so to speak, yes, he served his time, came out and the first thing he did, he again gave a telegram to svetlana, as if he was not afraid, they closed him again, this is about the fact that he was not just handsome, he was not just a fatal man, he was not only, well, a man and men, and it’s clear why women fell in love with him, but the man was 50 years old, this today's 86, because of course, just like today's forty-year-old woman. this is the old 25, but this is cosmetology, because

it has advanced, no, because backpacks, sneakers, sneakers, parties, you know, it’s all from there, it was the same before, especially people who went through the war camps, they all grew up very much, he’s just very the adult was already overstrained, and despite that army of bowing fans who were simply annoying, who were going crazy, who said that even women, before sitting on the sofa before watching the next movie panorama they put out a marafet, they put on makeup, they put themselves in order, it’s like... just to see him on the screen, but years are years, for example, i understand that she’s 30 years old, yes, also already old for those times, suddenly - such a star television, adult, mature, wealthy, in 1954 they met, she went to a higher course for screenwriters, and he taught there, that is, she

was his student, well, such a classic plot, and also a student professor, and then he had a good taste, he was very educated, and he gave her the correct literature. you can understand it even from the telegrams he gave her, there is sometimes a very witty person there, he signs, there is one complete intellectual, i want to read them, the main thing is that i will see you, like, for example, now, when the door opens, i have you everything opens up towards you, eyes, heart, chest, hands, my beloved, why do i write so ugly and you don’t have the talent to write everything as it is, coquetry, yes such, oh, the author of the script for the amphibian man, the striped flight, doesn’t know how to express it, doesn’t know how to find words, of course, but when the fact that the twisted soul and heart described the comedy, and also from a letter, here alexei, congratulations to you, a miracle, a random spark, there is a big real account that we are given only rarely, rarely, and even then we don’t fully understand, but it is , in this regard, mine, our

beautiful, bright, one-piece, i bow at your feet, one-piece, what a word, here i am... i say, he is a talented man, that is , it’s not even just that he was a tv presenter, that he he had connections, money, opportunities, but in that, and you also know, how conscientious he was, because he there was money, he considered some kind of unfair distribution of this money, for example, when western movie stars came to see him at the cinema panorama, well, ours, okay, listen, they wear it second-hand, they borrow from each other to wear it, and so on, but then a star comes,

meet us, and we will try real belarusian potato pancakes, of course, wow, finally, some kind of mishtal has closed for me, and you know how potatoes will be in belarusian, like pulba, the first couple in belarus is made with horseradish, i want make braised ribs with...