well, let's try to find a thesis, that is, father gario, does his passion for his daughters cause him, and this is precisely passion, he loves these daughters madly, goes out as an old-timer in their carriage, lives in this very poor boarding house, where he constantly cuts, cuts, cuts this boarding house for himself, he practically doesn’t eat anything anymore, this is his crazy passion for his daughters, and before his death he told eugene rastegnac to his neighbor.

and also to the lover of one of the daughters, says that he made a mistake, and if he had not given these daughters a fortune, but left him with him, then his daughters would love him and come to his deathbed, this is his feeling for his daughters, it is generally normal, it looks touching, perhaps not, it looks different depending on the angle, this story people mostly read about father goriot inattentively, where it begins, it begins with a description of the boarding house where he lives and its inhabitants, that is, we have life before us, these are not the lower classes, these are not clochards under the bridge, yes, these are not completely degenerate people, but in general it’s already kind of like the penultimate step, that is, in this who live in the boarding house, widows of officials, that is, generally quite respectable ladies, some students, yes, that is, this is not some kind of marginalization, yes, this is, these are just people, there is no money, but at the same time the whole way of life,

which works in high society, here he is, we see his own projection, just divide by a lot, it’s interesting, yes, the considerations that motivate people there, they are all exactly the same, when some guest is friends with the hostess of the boarding house and thanks to this friendship he lives for free for six months, and then he moves out without paying, he doesn’t move out paid this is a completely divine story, yes, that is, a person at the expense.

who, who, wraps the dead in new clothes? a new one will come in handy, i want to say about this episode with madame vauquer with her friendship, which turned out to be not friendship, this is in miniature exactly the same thing that happens in high society, only there are just different stakes, yes, of course, yeah, then , what we have in this boarding house, we have, in my opinion, there is even a plant in its own, between us in completely helpless discussions about the nature of all things, it does not a philosopher, he too, but he is still small, he also tries to somehow divide it all into categories, and there we have it, which means that family is like peace, humility, struggle and rebellion, and rebellion represents, yes, it is, it is, who is actually a thief in law, he is the holder of a common fund for a minute, and at the same time he lives in this boarding house for this, he lives in a boarding house for the poor, because - in the law, as we know,

luxury is not shown, he chust for this vanity , you know, that is, he does things, he’s like such a daring robber, he is not supposed to fall into effeminacy due to his status, all these branches exist there in parallel in one frame practically and it is very beautiful, but at the same time we see through the eyes of a plant, probably because he is just trying to make his way into high society, ah... we see these intrigues of high society and we see what stands behind trina, this brilliant one, we see girls who, for an invitation to the vicantess to the ball, are ready to abandon their father, who is dying, that is, we understand that there the stakes are so high it’s so important to get this score that it’s really not now, it’s not up to my father now, let him die, and so they’ve already taken everything away from him that’s possible, we seem to think. then

this should probably terrify the plant guy, but the ending is such that the plant guy looks at this paris, having buried this father goriot instead of his daughters at his own expense, pawning the watch, he says: there is paris, i’m going to conquer you, that is, he eventually still chooses this evil disgusting light, he chooses fight, because out of three options, humility as a quiet family life in one’s status and neither to the right nor to the left, struggle, respectively, as a struggle to increase one’s status, rebellion as a struggle to increase one’s status by illegitimate means, he chooses the middle, this podcast is a must -read, today we are discussing the balm... and its work with malka lawrence, writer, blogger. the story of father goriot does not begin in this boarding house, where he watches his beloved daughters through binoculars, sitting in the attic. no, his story is set out there in quite some detail. remember

how did he get rich? on vermicelli, he was rich, on vermicelli, when why? he is a grain speculator, hungry year. yes. so he did. that is, everything is the same as what happened in russia in petrograd in 1919, yeah, that is, if you managed to make friends with some commissar in the right commissariat, yeah, everything is fine, yeah, he made a fortune at that time, further,

when restoration had already taken place, everyone more or less returned to their places, there were no longer such requests for origin, because what kind of origin is there? who remained alive there, he was in a strong position, he was a businessman with capital with a name, but no, he even says that my daughters at the age of 15 had their own trip, that is, each of them had a carriage, a coachman, yes , someone cleaned these horses, there were some lackeys, he was rich at some point, rich, that is, like a modern successful manufacturer who buys a car for each daughter, what’s the problem? yeah, it’s just a standard of living, there’s no, no hysterical love for daughters behind this worth it, he could afford this standard of living, moreover, he was obliged to afford it, because it corresponded to his status, and his daughters naturally took advantage of this, because it was again

part of his duties, if he wanted it’s normal to give them away, he could raise them in the village, please, but then he would raise them until they are old, but still, there is something unhealthy in his attitude towards his daughters? of course, of course, throughout the entire story his innocence is very emphasized, which is presented on the one hand as a virtue, that is, that he is so pure with a heart, but in the background, and in general it is verbalized quite clearly, that he is an illiterate person, he has no imagination, uh-huh, generally speaking, he ’s kind of stupid between us, uh-huh. and the fact that, let’s say, from the values ​​in his system of priorities, but from the values ​​that remain, there remains the love for his daughters, well, every person has some kind of super, some kind of super value, he has this one, for everything

else, he simply lacks imagination, that is, this happens not because he is so devoted to it, but because he simply can’t come up with anything else, well, this is interesting, by the way, but it’s also interesting the twist when he’s before... death, we look at him and he seems so naive to us, he loves his daughters so much, and how can we not notice that this his daughters put him in this position, he blames their husbands for everything, but when he begins to die already in ogoni, he shouts to the plant, he curses them, he says, no, this is not true, this is not true, this is his dying delirium , this is not, this is not an epiphany, no, no, that is, no such that he still understands the relationship. very interesting, also from balzac, that i yeah, that one thing, that another, well, by the way, i’m reading this, it’s different from our time, there’s

a lot there, they talk about women’s money, that is, a woman’s money, and the plant wants through a woman to penetrate high society and... no count, as you correctly noted, will marry any beauty without a huge dowry, a count will marry a beauty without a dowry, if this beauty is a princess, he will not marry the daughter of a craftsman.

in general, it’s there solely as this clickbait, well, yes, it’s a vignette, and the story itself is about the quotations, and about what the law on division says, and some kind of complicated transactions, with some kind of return receipts, it’s all quite interesting, commerce , banking, it’s all there, it’s all there, just like we already read emily zalyat not not for the sake of who is who’s lover, yes, but for the sake of the one who is on...

a question about this book, and i myself am with it i enjoyed reading it, it is in my library, and i recommend it to all young girls, even teenagers, firstly, because this is a wonderful seisticism, i think the prose is of a very high standard, but there is also some diagnostic wisdom there in terms of the material side of life, in terms of relationships with men, and here i am in some confusion.

a certain characteristic of the people who act in your prose, it is quite accurate, just like in balzag, that is, balzac’s types, when i read, i recognize them, i know them, that is, i know them in life, in your book i i know too this is a rare thing, well, that is, this is not a fictional world, but this is the view of a very observant and very smart person, so the question is, is it possible to adopt some of your experience by reading your book, do you think it makes sense... i think that after reading, i think that after reading any book, you can learn some experience, this is why we read, if

we talk about books on hypnosis and anesthesia, it was not written to teach someone something . , it is, like any book, what makes it not a psychological manual or a collection of advice, it was not written for to teach, i don’t sell knowledge, i don’t sell technology, it was written... for the same reason that fiction is written in general, in order to show something, and what to do with this knowledge is already yourself, well, the topic of money in the book hypnosis and narcotics, it is important, the topic of money in the book hypnosis and anesthesia occupies a very small place, because the book hypnosis and anesthesia is the only one of the books that i have published, i have eight of them in total, it’s scary to say , the only one that does not contain friday answers, yes, you are famous.

hypnosis and anesthesia are not friday answers, this is what i wrote of my own free will, and there is very little about money, well, it is there, naturally, because there are all sorts of moments there.

balzac, he turns 225 years old, or rather it would be, and today we are discussing his work father grio and gapsek with malka lorrens, a writer and blogger. let's return to the question of how to make a man out of a man. if hypnosis and anesthesia are about love, then where to find this object of love and how to build some kind of worthy object out of it, because the feeling after hypnosis and anesthesia is that there is no worthy men, there are no opportunities. sculpted by some kind of female hands and female suffering, victims, let's go back to balzac, female victims and suffering, what does the victim look like, the lover is walking around sad, and what's wrong with you, dear? i’ll go, mila replies, i’ll go out the window now, i owe a lot, i lost, i lost

and i owe, and if i don’t do it today, then it’s all over for me, oh, leave me alone, “let’s go to the prison guard to see chuck, let’s go, yeah, well , why were you silent, dear, let's go to the police station, that is, a female victim, just in the form of a template, yes, she has this configuration, and this is generally true, when i read these situations in balzac, i don’t understand, here is anastasia, yes, she’s a beauty, everyone goes crazy about her, she’s rich, she has a wonderful husband, she has children , everything is fine.”

the fact that marriages are arranged is understandable, everyone has their own life, their own bedroom and so on, their own life, their own, their own bedroom, while in fact children are born because the title is inherited, that is, this does not mean that these are fictitious marriages, they are arranged according to the principle that for us now, well, it’s difficult for us to perceive, well, yes, there lovers come to the house, yes, that is, lovers on the one hand, they come to dinner in the halls of the house. they know about this connection to absolutely everyone, and it is known to all of paris, naturally the husband is not blind either, but at some point the husband begins to have a suspicion that he is being ruined, that his money is going into his pocket , this suspicion begins to stir that his wife is not faithful to him , this is where, this is where it begins, well, this is how fidelity turns out, it also comes in money, because this is a violation of fidelity, it

is expressed in the fact that a woman begins to squander her husband's fortune, she begins to squander what motivates women? who, in order to pay off his debts, which means this guy, is mortgaging not his own tsatsk, but his family’s, not her family’s, the craftsman has no family jewelry, these were resto diamonds, actually, this is a very serious matter, well, that’s it the case is described, that is, there is a lawyer, there is a very difficult situation. here the husband says his decisive no, the same delphine, here she is the second married, and married to a banker, he bought himself borotstvo, that is, he is also rootless, like goriot, but he is a rich guy, and they have a lot of money, but she feels a little defective, because her sister is behind the count, and she means this and this dolphin is trying

to break into the rich, but not respectable enough, that is, she needs some. support, support, this is exactly the same thing, we see in our modern life, yes, when a girl comes from lipetsk and wants, i don’t know, to be a star, to be a star, yes, what does she need, she needs to go to some party where will it be, where will it be someone who makes a star, well, she will do everything to get there, this is her chance, well, here’s a dolphin, though.

this is an excess, this is to give up everything and sit in the after, how long can i sit, are you stunned, i have things to do, that’s when yes, when necessary, she says so, that when it’s like this in the end you think a little that this gorio paid for the fact that he sold bread to the poor in a hungry city at a high price, which is no, well , it’s impossible, no, well, it’s impossible, right here, after all, it’s not these fairy tales, these leo tolstoy children’s fairy tales, such is fate, but gapsec, this translated as zhivaglot?

this is an old man's incense breathing, this is a mature man, full of plans, actually, incredibly smart, with enormous experience, his experience,

by the way, is also not, atypical, uh-huh, uh-huh, but he is presented as one of several people who, from the inside, are like if they ruled this parisian world, that is, these moneylenders ruled the parisian world, they are listed there, one of them is engaged. does he understand, pirate, what a pirate is? this is not a profession, he was in the colonies, he visited everywhere, he fought, generally speaking, yeah,

he fought, he says, i own a sword, not just a sword, he survived on some of these endless islands, this is the history of colonization, this is the beginning of the 19th century, terrible things happened there, and fortunes were made there too. who came to paris already with such a versatile baggage with such a degree of adaptability, that’s what we all need to take from

him, he’s about to fill up, well, okay, but he ’s filling up his rooms, he eventually bought out the entire pension, there are empty rooms there, but he didn’t buy it out , but i already rented the entire building, and there he fills the rooms with some kind of food that is rotting with some unnecessary things, in the books there are bank notes, that is, this.

uh-huh, this is what a person experiences in chess, and not in roulette, by the way, yes, an intellectual game, well, of course, in general, i understand, but if we combine, let’s say , balzac’s work, try to find a common thread, is there you have a suspicion that people in balzac’s works are very often

ruled. fear of poverty, that is, this hoped-for poverty, it is like this for everyone, a kind of terrible natural disaster, which threatens everyone, and under the influence of this fear, these people do such interesting things that can then be described in a novel, they do things of varying degrees of absurdity, generally speaking, which bring them straight into this very poverty that they are so afraid of, but you doesn't it seem like this fear?

we didn’t have time, we didn’t have time to do anything, we didn’t have time to discuss everything we wanted, because we wanted to talk about money and psychology, but i just wanted to thank you for coming and talking to me about balzac, i’ll emphasize again , what it seems to me that your book, hypnosis and anesthesia , is written completely in the balzac style, although it is a collection of essays, and very short ones, more easy to read. i advise everyone to read your book, or at least. your blog and

answer to friday questions, thank you very much, it was very interesting, thank you, this was a must-read podcast, yaglan batnikova, my guest was the great beautiful malka lorrens, and we discussed balzac, father goriot and gabsek. hello, this is a psychic podcast and we continue to subjugate the flaws of our souls to look for balance, peace, or some correct strategies. our today's heroine, olga, began to worry about the fact that her years may not be very few anymore, and whether she is losing to the young, how to compete with the young, when you are in the deep end, when you

are already mature, but no longer young, hello !

knowledge did you feel more confident and effective? ready? well, we'll try. why are you afraid of young people? well, how can i explain it to you? but as it stands, are you telling the truth? am i a leader? i have several companies, we occupy leading positions in the market, i am public personality, but accordingly in my financial circle, i have banking experience, i have financial experience, i have experience in managing companies and leading a team now, that is, in terms of presenting my companies, i don’t have any questions, but from some time to the first plan...

and, accordingly, all the individuals who are not shy about creating a blog named after themselves, a public page named after themselves, showing there how they literally fry pancakes, that is, they have, and what is stopping you, what does age have to do with it, listen, there is, i i look, you know, at all sorts of things on video hosting sites, there are grannies who talk about cucumbers in the greenhouse, they have cucumbers on their robe and cucumbers in their hands. and a huge number of subscribers without any discount on age, on shape, on some kind of, you know, this is the fine-tuning of these external data, and what does it have to do with young people, well , accordingly, it seems to me that they were already

born this way, they literally work wonders, themselves i can’t bear to go there, that is, i have a fear of a public figure, that i’m some famous person, a financier, who will suddenly... well , do, well, relatively speaking, explain on monitor, the second thing is that i can’t communicate with the video camera, that is, i get the feeling that this is somehow not real, everything is just for show, well, to the point that literally 2 years ago they were able to take me to audience, i couldn’t just go out, i put on a wig, i hid and... then i was able to congratulate on a video camera, that is, i don’t have a page for my name, i still have a page for the company’s name, we promote the company’s services, but this not in demand now. pavel, what's the problem? olga,

tell me, how did you study at school? a diploma with honors, that is, an excellent student, yes, tell me, your parents praised you, supported you, when you brought them home, you said all five for a quarter, what? they didn’t talk, it didn’t matter, i set the task for myself, and olga, tell me, when you were growing up as a child, you can say that you, for example, felt the love of your parents, that is, or they just took care of you , as if yes, there was care, but there was no attention, i’m daddy’s daughter, if you understand, oh than me, i felt like a very loved child, i was the only daughter, yeah, but how it was expressed, well, what did they do, they just were, there’s no need for some... super gift, beyond some, i don’t know, shows and other things, it’s just that i had a strong , influential father, so he came with his presence, they say, a man with charisma, he came with his presence and the world changed

around him, yeah, there are such people, there may not be so many of them, to be in the shadow of this man, for a woman, i think that this is so normal, now... i’m not all time, leader, i come home and calmly go into the shadows. olga, tell me, did you receive, say, a lower grade, how did your parents react, or not at all? also no way, that is, as if they didn’t scold you, no, that is, they never scolded or praised you, well, they believed that they had the best child, and if he suddenly brought a c, well, the child is not measured by grades, look , and... tell me, any girl always wants to be a good girl, yes, well, so ideal, that is, for you, being an ideal girl is which? well, i would probably change my appearance, i would probably change just my appearance,

because everything is fine inside me, that is , i could maybe lose 5 kg or something like that, but in fact, that’s why i ’m asking this way about parents, yes, parents confirm when we are little, what we are, that is, they are... a successful leader, financier, and says,

i’m not confident in myself, can you imagine how other women must feel if you haven’t achieved your success? , but nevertheless you are not confident in yourself, but where does this come from, this is from childhood, oddly enough, this is the childhood feeling that we experienced when our parents didn’t give us something, our parents are not to blame, it’s just their life, because their parents didn’t teach them, it’s a tragedy, i just can’t imagine , you see, i just can’t imagine. when parents, yes, it’s hard for us to imagine what didn’t exist, that’s the hardest thing, when we had something, lost it, we understand what we lost, that’s when they didn’t give us something and we don’t know, what it is, that is, and we really don’t understand, and what is missing, and it seems to me that this is some kind of overlay for, as it were, a breakthrough forward, for example, if the king had children, it’s very difficult for me to imagine how the king would say, i love you, you are the best there their daughter, they brought it to him.

you see, i’m the father of two daughters, i have a son and two daughters, so i always tell my daughters: daughter, you’re smart, you ’re beautiful, i admire him, they see it, you know, they treat themselves differently relate, that is, this is very important, i’m not saying this publicly or anything, it’s me i say when i see my daughter eye to eye, you know, i can hug her, stroke her, you know, give her warmth, she sees this love, then he has confidence in himself, as a girl, as a person, you are you talking about verbal?

how does it manifest itself, how did you read it? and this is read with complete confidence that everything is really in order, that is, that dad will scold me for something one day if i think that i did better like this, and i will never receive condemnation. pavel, what the connection between parents, the experience when your parents... don’t say in words some things that help you feel confident, well, when you’re a child, you’re beautiful, you’re smart, you’re the best, you’re my princess, and when an adult, very experienced woman, who has all the objective evidence of her success, feels unsure of something, but the fact is that in childhood we learn to react in a certain way, yes, that is ... love is that what

our parents did to us, and sometimes lack of attention love creates such, you know, such a dissonance, that is, i want to receive love, attention, recognition, but i am afraid to receive it in the form that i did not receive, it turns out that our environment, it, we begin to change reality for ourselves, that is, in fact we kind of force her to change, as we are used to, yes, that is, i’m afraid to speak in front of people, why? i'm scared to be in public, because suddenly they will appreciate me, but i don't know what i am, why? because dad and mom didn’t tell me which one, they didn’t tell me, i emphasize, that is, if we talk about love, there is a wonderful work , the five languages ​​of love, that is, which says that the language of love, in short, yes, what is it, that is, the first is words, the second is the time we give to a person, the third is gifts, the fourth is care, the fifth is... touch, that is, this is all that parents should give to the child,

absolutely everything, but the main thing is that, let’s say, you feel unsure of yourself, why, you compare yourself with others, you see, the question is what, you don’t look at yourself, don’t look at your success, you you don’t accept yourself as successful, subconsciously, subconsciously, and you, despite all this colossal success that you have achieved in life, your appearance, nevertheless inside you there still remains a small knotted child who...

who thinks , how to properly compete with young people, let's start with the fact that olga, please praise yourself, how businesslike you are, i am successful, i am interesting, beautiful, i am kind, i am sensitive, i have many epithets for myself, but what of this you could tell in video blog format, i just feel sorry for wasting time on this, i think that this is nonsense, which is unpleasant for me. look at these little stories from others, so i understand that the person is doing nonsense, but common sense tells me that they have more sales, they have three times more and they are more popular and successful and they keep going , it’s just a feeling that this is the next generation, they’ve grown up

right away, they carry themselves, but, that is, look what i’m doing now... they say, like who? like children, like children, they those who speak in these blogs, who are they addressing? also to children, look, it turns out that the problem that you are experiencing now is that you

, as adults, want to communicate like adults, you want to be respectable, serious, yes, but they communicate like children, they behave like children, they tell all sorts of bullshit, like that grandmother who... a happy child, but our effective state is this state that works, why? because the very child, the happiest child, to whom you can give, you know, and you want to come fundamentally, seriously, put this child who is sitting so dumbfounded, put him in a corner, and so that he listens to what i say seriously, you know, he doesn’t want to listen, you know, but the problem is precisely that - when our child, small, that’s what i told you about at the beginning, he’s so scared and green, and not happy, he really doesn’t understand, but how can you carry such crap into the whole, as they say, universe, you understand, and you feel that if you behave like this, you will be a child, but you don't want to be a child, you see, you don’t want to be

a child, you want to be a serious lady, but why are you afraid to be a child, allow yourself to be just as relaxed, just say what you... want to say, but in a free mode, not in serious, you know, people, the question is what, we communicate, we can communicate as serious people, and everything will be fine, you and i are two leaders who will find a common language, but what if you and i want something to share something interesting, it’s easier to do it like this free mode, such communication, not like two business people who came to negotiate, but like two people who are simply sharing something interesting, positive, you know, it should sound interesting, because the child has an interest in something , he’s a rational adult, that’s how you are so calm, self-possessed, rational, you put everything into categories, but you understand, well, it’s boring, we want something interesting, so it’s grandma who understands everything with her head, you know.