she looks great, feels great, but it’s noticeable that the slight self-doubt she’s experiencing is this state, perhaps this, you know, anticipation of what new will happen today, and i’d like to say that you know, olga, you look great, and indeed, this is what your insecurity is your subjective perception, well, you and i are not doing miracles here, we cannot rewind 20 years. so we can try to make you feel like you are your age, in the atmosphere of your experience in that accumulated knowledge , you feel more confident and effective, are you ready? well, let's try, why are you afraid of the young? well, how can i explain it to you? but as it is, are you telling the truth? i am a manager, i have several companies, we occupy leading positions in the market, i am... a public figure, but

accordingly, in my financial circle, i have banking experience, i have financial experience, and i have experience in managing companies and leading teams now , that is, in terms of submitting my companies, i don’t have any questions, but for some time time, the presentation of the company as an individual came to the fore, here - you mean, when the leading person, when the leading person. with your face in the literal sense, yes, with your eyes, your cheeks, wrinkles, posture, you represent the entire company, olga, tell me, why do you think that you , as a manager, should be the face of your company, you should be the one to go out somewhere on social networks , this has something to do with it, we compare, we monitor competitors, and accordingly all individuals who are not shy about creating a name block. myself,

a public page named after yourself, show there how they literally fry pancakes, that is, they have, and what is stopping you, what does age have to do with it, listen, there is, i look, you know, on all sorts of video hosting sites, there are grannies who talk about cucumbers in the greenhouse , she has a robe with cucumbers in her hands, and a huge number of subscribers without any discount on age, on shape, on some kind of... you know this tuning of these external data, what does the young people have to do with it? well , accordingly, it seems to me that they were already born this way, they literally work miracles, i can’t take myself there, that is, i have a fear of being a public figure, that i’m some famous person, a financier, and i’ll suddenly start doing, well, relatively speaking, explaining on the monitor, the second thing is that i can’t communicate with a video camera. that is, i have a feeling

that, well, this is somehow not real, everything is, well, ostentatious, but to the point that literally 2 years ago they were able to take me into the audience, i couldn’t just go out, i put on wig, i hid then i was able to congratulate on a video camera, that is i don't have a name page.

you can say that you there, for example, felt the love of your parents, that is, or they simply took care of you, as if yes, there was care, but there was no attention, i am a father's daughter, if you understand what i mean, i i felt like a very beloved child, a daughter, i was the only one, yeah, but how did they put it, well, what did they do, they just were, there’s no need for some kind of super gift, beyond some, i don’t know, shows and other things, just that i had a strong influence. father, he came with his presence, they say, a man with charisma, he came with his presence, and the world changed around him, uh-huh, there are such people, there may not be so many of them, so to be among this person, for a woman, i think that this is so normal, now i’m not a leader all the time, i come home and calmly go into the shadows, olga, but tell me, what about... if you

received, let’s say, a lower grade, how did your parents react? or not at all? also in no way, that is, no matter how they scolded you, no, that is, they never scolded or praised you. but they believed that their best child, and if he suddenly brought a c, well, the child is not measured by grades, look, tell me, any girl always wants to be a good girl, yes, well, so ideal, that is, for you , being an ideal girl is which? well , i would probably change my appearance, i would probably change exactly my appearance, because everything is fine inside me, that is, i could maybe lose 5 kg there. something else, but really, that's why i ask about parents, yes, they are parents they confirm when we are little, who we are, that is, they give us feedback, they give us, strengthen our self-confidence, because it is parents who should say, such phrases, i don’t know, you heard me,

daughter, i love you , daughter, i ’m proud of you, daughter, you’re a beauty, it’s especially valuable when dad speaks, it’s valuable in words, but dad was a man of few words. yes, look what’s happening, you say, i’m not confident in myself, why? yes, because you did not receive confirmation as a child of who you are, and you don’t know who you really are, right now there’s a beautiful woman sitting in front of us who says, but i’m not confident in myself, yes, that is , a person who is a winner, the head of several companies, a successful financier, and says, i’m not confident in yourself, can you imagine how other women must feel that you have not achieved? your success, but nevertheless you are not confident in yourself, but where does this come from, this is from childhood, oddly enough, this is the childhood feeling that we experienced when our parents did not give us something, our parents did not they are to blame, it’s just their life, because their parents didn’t teach them, it’s a tragedy, i

just can’t imagine, you know, when it’s our parents, it’s hard for us to imagine something that didn’t happen, that’s the hardest thing when we have something... they had it, they lost it, we...

read it, and this is read in full confidence that everything is really in order, that is, so that dad would ever scold me for something if i think that i’m like this did better, and i will never receive condemnation. pavel, what is the connection between

parents, the experience when your parents they don’t say in words, some things that help you feel confident, well, when you’re a child, you’re somehow beautiful. such, you know, such dissonance, that is, i want to receive love, attention, recognition, but i am afraid to receive it in the form that i did not receive, it turns out that our environment, it, we begin to change reality for ourselves, that is, in fact, we it’s as if we are forcing her

to change, as we are used to, yes, that is, i ’m afraid to speak in front of people, why am i afraid to be in public, because suddenly they will appreciate me, but i don’t know what i am, why, because dad, mom don’t... the second is the time we give to a person, the third is gifts, the fourth is care, the fifth is touch, that is , this is all that parents should give to the child, absolutely everything, but the main thing is that, let’s say, you feel unsure of yourself, why, you compare yourself with others, you understand, the question is what, you don’t look at yourself, don’t look at your success, you don’t accept yourself as successful, subconsciously, subconsciously, and you... despite all your colossal the success that you have achieved in life, your appearance, nevertheless, inside you

there is still a little knotted child who doubts himself, so the fear of going on air arises somewhere in one small, small place, you know, and this is really this is the well-known theory of eric bjorn, who says that in every person there are parents, an adult and a child, we switch to different situations, and even you understand, the grandmother is a pensioner, at some point she behaves like a child, and many of this... they know that we, it would seem, are successful personality, in some situation we can feel like a small child, because we again find ourselves, you know, for you to go on air is like answering lessons when you haven’t learned, this is a podcast of the psyche and today with a psychologist, associate professor pavel rashtov, we communicate with olga, who is thinking about how to properly compete with young people. let’s start with the fact that olga, please praise yourself, what kind of person are you? i am a businesswoman, i am successful, i am interesting, beautiful, i am kind, i am

sensitive, i have many epithets for myself, and which of these could you tell in vlog format? i just feel sorry for wasting time on this, i think that this is nonsense, that it’s unpleasant for me to watch these little stories from others, so i understand that a person... is engaged in nonsense, but common sense tells me , that they have more sales, they have three times more and they are more popular and more successful, they are coming, it just feels like this is the next generation, for them this is a natural environment, but they have grown up right away , they carry themselves, but, that is, look what i do now, look what i do later, look at what i’m doing then, but it seems to me that it’s so personal that if you offer me now...

whoever speaks in these blogs, they speak like who, like children, like children, they address who, who children, look, it turns out that the problem that you are experiencing now is that you, as adults, want to communicate like adults, you want to be respectable, serious, yes, but they communicate like children, they behave like children, they tell all sorts of bullshit, like the grandmother they talked about, who is there he tells, you know, here they are, you know, this is the state of a happy child, but it... works, why? because our most effective state is the state of a child, a happy child,

to whom you can give, you know, and you want to approach it fundamentally, seriously, put this child who is sitting so dumbfounded, put him in a corner, and so that he listens to what i i’m talking seriously, you know, he doesn’t want to listen, you know, but the problem is precisely that when our child is small, that’s what i told you about in at the beginning, he is so scared and green, they are happy, he really doesn’t understand, how can you spread such crap into the whole, as they say, universe, you know, and you feel, if you behave like this , you will be a child, but you don’t want to be a child, you don’t want to be a child, you want to be a serious lady, but why are you afraid to be a child, allow yourself to be just as relaxed, just say what you want to say, but in a free mode, not in a serious way , you see, people, the question is what, we communicate with you, we can communicate as serious... people will be fine, you and i are two leaders who will find a common language, but if we want to

share something interesting with you, then it’s easier to do it in this free mode, such communication, not like two business people who came to negotiate, but like two people who are simply sharing something interesting, positive, you know, it should sound interesting, because the child has an interest in something , he’s a rational adult, that’s it how are you so calm, self-possessed...

i’m charming, you know, now your eyes have gone down, you doubt yourself about this, you know, again, why is this, this is paradoxical, from inner adulthood, she herself thinks too old, you know, the most, the most monstrous phrase that an adult can wake up with, you know what, adults are us, that’s when you wake up with the thought that an adult is already you, mom is me, yes, mom, this is me, this is how it was for me,

working for the public, well, accordingly, working for the public in this way is, well , theater, it works for the public, moreover, it generally depicts what is written according to the script, as they say, plays, you know, then it turns out that the theater is closed, that is, we refuse theaters, performances, concerts , that is, you just need to feel brighter, yes, that is, you just, if you want to express yourself, then we allow ourselves this, so you forbid yourself to be a child, here is your... fear is that you are afraid to show up frivolous, uh-huh, funny, that is, you, you are a successful woman, you have achieved a lot, and you have put yourself at a certain peak, when you imagine that you will lead the block, you will behave like a child, you do not agree with this, but there are two questions here: or do you allow yourself to be a child, then you can

behave like us, that is, completely calmly, relaxed and despite the fact that where we are and how we behave, or... you say that social networks are not my thing, it’s just not mine, but i don’t go there, it’s for those , for the young, for the young, well then the young are with you, yes, that is but here you are, an adult, serious person, you are somewhere out there, there, this is your right, and accordingly, i had such thoughts, i hired, so to speak, a young employee to act as the face of the company, but what happened, well, it wasn’t all for real, so, that is, he just...

do it this way, but so that it’s serious, you know, but this is impossible, because either we are playing by the rules of social networks and we do something that is beautiful, attractive, interesting, simple, charming, or we do something serious, yes, they look at us, we sell we offer our products, but still there remains such an effect of such solidity, but the majority of people, the majority of people, that is, they prefer... children, and even despite the age there, maybe, that is, no matter how many years there are , and for 80 years they behave like children, completely calmly, like a grandmother going out into the yard, approaching her girlfriends, saying: girls, you understand? she doesn’t say, it’s great there are old women, yes, she says, girls, there is a woman, she says, girls, yes, she behaves like a girl, you understand why we still remain children at heart, here is your child, he

is so intimidated, you squeeze him so tight, your poor happy child who is afraid to show up because you must be serious, i always remember the work of astrit lingorn , when it wasn’t a cartoon and a small book, such a big phallus she had there, here was carlson, he was already mocking not only frekken bock, but... her own sister, and he once wrote her such a phrase on the wall when he stole the next ones from there i think it’s pancakes or what, i don’t remember, donuts wrote: “life is short, and you’re not serious enough,” this is your slogan, you know, that is, you try to be serious, and you allow yourself to be yourself, once you’re at work, you’re serious, yes, that is you are there with the ladies, and somewhere you can be a child, you understand, you play a lot with your children, yes, well , you allow it, if you play, of course, of course, when the audience is small, nothing bothers me at all, then we exist and

dance at discos, and accordingly, splash into the sea, everything else, you can ask question, what if one of your potential clients or partners, well, it happened, and saw, saw you dancing, standing on your ears with your children, this is normal, format time, and that is, this is the permitted time, but he would have seen you jumping upside down there, your skirt up, laughing, sticking out your tongue, well , accordingly, this is not format time, but how he would react to this, what do you think he would think, this is a person, a relationship, well they then think, because we often book our parties with early clients, here you go for me, i for you, it’s convenient, that’s why it’s quite. what, it turns out, she is also such, well, what an interesting woman, you know, but this is not a format, not a format for what, wait,

i want to talk about the format, okay, a new client comes, this is the director of a company, say, a concrete plant, and we we have to do his work, but will he communicate with me if i run up to him there in some kind of wrong form, but this is natural, you know, let’s say there is an audience in which i give lectures as a lecturer, yes , i act a certain way thus, although i can joke, i really love the approach of positive psychotherapy, there are parables, stories, anecdotes, this is kind of the norm, but in order to make it more clear, that is, and - i use this quite calmly, but if i i’m going to a meeting, naturally i behaved appropriately there, this is a psychic podcast, that’s it? watch the episode of our podcast on the website of the first channel 1tv.ru, you say it well, that is, your speech is delivered too, everything is fine, that is , when you come to social networks, that’s what we’re talking about

today they said, but the main thing is that it is interesting to talk, you speak as if you live it, because you share everything that is interesting, what is exciting, what inspires, and then you tell what you have, what an interesting product, how cool it is to use and apply.

love for the product, it seems to me that when we talk about these young successful social networks, then maybe we don’t recognize not only that they are somehow beautiful, that they are coolly dressed, that they have some kind of skillfully staged there plasticity or speech, no, in fact , what comes out of them is this life, interest in what they are talking about, you are for sure, i am simply convinced of this, seeing your such systematicity and... thoughtfulness, you can talk about that , whatever you do, conveying this attitude of yours, this experience of yours about this product, but you can tell

how... a beautiful woman of mature years, yes, because what is in your luggage, why will i believe you , you have experience, i see that you are an insightful woman, you have maturity, then yes, you inspire confidence in me, but when you talk about the reports, i will say, you know what, woman, i respect you, but the reports are not in my area of ​​interest, i can’t use them in any way, yes, i can’t buy your reports , i can’t... get joy or pleasure or benefit from your reports, tell me about the product, as if i were telling you, okay, but pavel just now told me that he is inappropriately presenting himself in this way on his social networks, accordingly, to be interesting for a certain circle of audience, that is let's say with a status above average, and

accordingly like this... perhaps these are these, that is, he is pretending, you think, these are yes, fun things, they may be inappropriate, but that is, you need to look at evaluate and accordingly understand whether it is possible here the question is, who are your clients, yes, you see, that is, the question is, your clients are on social networks, if your clients are not on social networks, you don’t have products that are widely used, then there is no point in wasting your time on social networks . you see, if your clients are just ordinary people, this is one conversation, if your clients are company executives, this is a different conversation, why? because the heads of the company, when they go to the internet, they go on like children, to look through something, to look, everything is interesting, you know, that is, you must clearly understand, it’s like you have this bifurcation again, yes, that is, on the one hand you are a parent, on the other hand you understand, you want to be a child, and you yourself noted that you are great at being a child, you can, but only you...

because by analyzing competitors i i see what they are doing, someone is jumping with a parachute, someone is going up the mountain, probably, well , someone needs to either with a parachute, or up the mountain, or with the same pancakes, you need to do something, where well, yes, this is a disco - this is not the same level, this is splashing with children, this is also not the same level, look again, you are already clearly saying that you have criteria for how to

communicate. with managers, that managers are interested, that is, and here you are talking about the fact that you want to look like an interesting person, that is, in fact, this difference between what i sell and i am an interesting person, it is different, that is, i, for example, also clearly understand that i am a weak salesman, it seems to me, you know, that’s what i’ll try to translate from russian into russian, what i tried pavel will tell you persistently, probably, that you have charisma, but you have strength. i have experience, it’s true, yes, there are external data, but there is uncertainty about what is it in my big life, which is much more than reports and your boss’s door from the reception area, what is it that it will be interesting, interesting for those people who are important to you personally, and to your company, i

am sure that this is on... what seems to me is that olga is looking for a lot with her mind, this is also what pavel tried to tell you today, you have a lot comes from here , and it comes from the head, and the child lives here, the child lives a fantasizing life, that ’s where the heart is from somewhere, when first he jumps, gallops, speaks, invents, imagines, and then the critic turns on, most often in the child in the voices... of his parents, who, therefore, besiege him, warn him, it seems to me that your path and your new success, which, of course, is not hampered by age, your new competitiveness, which is also not about age, is to learn

to rebalance yourself a little in favor of your heart in favor of your heart. that unconscious , uncontrollable fountain and slightly reduce this controlling one. smart, adult person, try it, this kind of capital has already been acquired, yes, when really age is expensive, it’s expensive, if we speak in images pavla, i am now on the verge of opening my own institute, if according to your criteria, that is, i think that everything is ahead of you too, by the way, mind you, we talked today, but now i will teach you here, you know, this is a position demanding child. a classic game in psychology , a game, by the way, between a client and a psychologist, when the psychologist says: here, here, like this, the client says: yes, but, you see, yes, but, that is, this resistance, resistance is normally turned on when we cannot accept something, we cannot accept it into force

our own internal beliefs , limitations that we set, but the most interesting thing is that if we delve into our past, we will find these limitations in our childhood, why is it that working with childhood... gives the highest effect and effectiveness, here is my practice, in 90% of cases all clients’ problems are in adulthood, they lie in childhood, and there is always some moment that triggers this self-doubt, the doubt that i should be like this , serious, yes, then there are all these from there, when we work, we work with a person for some time, more than one or two sessions, more, then the person begins to relate to himself differently, that’s the task of psychologists ... if we go into long-term consultations, work for a long time, then help the person to be a child, an adult, and much less often to be a parent, because our parent sits automatically, we clearly control, that is, you should be like this, you should, should, that is, our

little child runs around, performs, and he does not remain happy, he does not enjoy life, here is the rationalizing adult who turns on, who says: no, wait, that is, they are doing great, let’s try, then a demanding parent says: no, what, you can’t behave like them, that is, he says: yes, wait, let’s try, he says, yes, no, you can’t behave like that, well then we won’t succeed, says the adults, you say, no, well, anyway, let’s come up with something so that i remain serious, but also at the same time it was the same as with these girls, who behave this way, i think that our heroine, who came to talk about how to compete with young people, in fact, she is competing with herself, will find the right path and the right strategy in order to... really use age as wealth , and let her child go free, then everything will work out for her. psychic prompt:

hello everyone, this is a free program podcast, i’m maxim tronkov, our guest is a man who, with his career-ending skate... raised the anniversary in st. petersburg alexander samarin. sash, hello. hi, max.

well, tell me, it took 20 years or more of a career to experience those emotions that you experienced during the anniversary, it was all worth it, the whole journey was interesting, here’s the rental in the anniversary, it was like... the cherry on the cake, and i’m glad that

what was done beautifully and that i was given the opportunity to skate there, get emotions, memory, remember this moment, with which i will probably wake up sometimes, remembering goosebumps and everything, everything, the most beautiful thing, it’s all summed up with the channel one cup . so i i’m happy that i had this path, but in fact, it seems to me that it was also a kind of gratitude from the audience not only for your long career, but also for the honesty with which you announced your retirement, that you did not suspend , like other athletes, or didn’t take a break, but you came and literally after the competition in the mix zone announced that this was my last start and i was going to finish. career, well, somehow i always said it, plus or minus, as it is, i didn’t

play around, the time has come, now i’m sitting here in front of you, was your team ready for you to speak out so categorically? but i can honestly say that svetlana vladimirovna still experiences, uh, continues to experience such mixed emotions, we periodically talk about this topic, and we understand perfectly well that we did this... everything is as it should have been, everything is on time, everything is fine , but when i go out on the ice, to prepare for a show or something else, you can see in her eyes sadness, such melancholy, where they are very worried, sasha, this question begs itself, what’s next, now is such a period, roughly speaking, a small restoration of perestroika, you need to rebuild your head a little, because periodically before... sports you wake up in the morning, so you go to training, well

, okay, you can calm down, so i would like to share my knowledge and experience with the younger generation, because they are really rich is full of various events, ups, some downs, and so on, and you can give a lot to young guys who have a long way to go, plus, uh, i haven’t completely left the ice, i would like to be on the show and more make contact with the audience, but in a more such a relaxed, calm atmosphere, in dim light with a gun, it would be very cool, that is, now the plans are, well, probably still to ride in the show, and then maybe join, maybe to a team, and which one. of course, i never

left the team, they are part of my family, that is, when you talk about helping young athletes, you talk about mark kondratyuk, and i think mark kondratyuk already knows how to do everything, he has experience, even in some places, he bought it more than me, but in our group there are a lot young guys, take the same grisha fedorova. who is progressing very much, he is only at the very beginning of this path, we all hope that everything will turn out very well. when you talked about the experience gained over many years of training and performing, you mentioned the ups and downs, tell us a little about what you had? what do you consider to be the high point in your career, maybe the peak, the peak point

and then, probably, the very niche? well , about the ups, you can probably highlight the fact that i won medals at the national championship five times, which overall, it’s pretty good, and if you figure out that, roughly speaking, since i was 14 years old i’ve been part of the russian national team, first junior, then adult, during this time... i ’ve never been kicked out of it, how much does it cost , roughly speaking, for 11 seasons, of which five seasons with national medals. the championship of the largest tournament in our country, this is quite good, it can be attributed to the ups, and also the european championship, which in my opinion is also quite a significant result, especially considering the moments that as recently it has been generally accepted that men's singles are a

little lower than the level of pairs, women's, dancing, but still this is a good result, the world junior championships, then dima aliyev and i feirilya, that's why overall there was quite a lot of take-off, but in some places it was not possible to take off directly and fly for a very long time, why is it in lutz in the most cramped quadruple. there were moments like this, i’m very glad that in general in lutz’s career i succeeded more times than i didn’t, i can also attribute the take-off to the fact that i found myself in team svetlana vladimirovna sokolovskaya,

who actually sent me up there along with all the takeoffs. it hits hard on this internal state, on motivation and mood, it’s very difficult to get out of this state and get back into the groove, that is, you were not motivated to work even more, even further is this failure, that is, on the contrary, it depressed you, is that what you

mean , it just happened at moments when you were already in, roughly speaking , peak form, working and already working as hard as possible. everything was going progressively upward, here roughly speaking, you already enter the olympic palace with one foot, at the last moment everything breaks down, there is a certain breakdown inside, which is very difficult to overcome, both for me and, of course, for the coach too, when a lot of effort has been invested in this path. to this goal, to the dream, well, it’s probably also difficult, it seems to me, because there is about your friendship with your rivals, with the guys, the singles skaters, with the group of evgeniy vladimirovich rukavitsin and with the guys training with you, ruslanna vladimirovna, then

you are all friends, you all always support each other, empathize with failures, and rejoice in victories, it turns out that dmitry aliyev. mark kondratyuk, i also added a bit of pressure to the olympic games, and this also probably puts a little pressure, yes, guys, and how to be happy for your friends if you yourself didn’t succeed, calmly, you can be happy if everything is fine for a person with his head, if he perfectly understands where sports is, where life is, where friendship is, where wrestling is, and so on, and knows how to differentiate between these, then in general... there is also a place for joy, because that i never had a moment of envy, that dimka qualified there or mark got to the olympic games and had a great time at them. you were annoyed with yourself because you couldn’t do what you needed to do on the ice when you needed to, but

at the same time you were happy for them that they were able to do themselves somewhere.