so to speak, up the iceberg, this is what you described, and there are 80, or maybe 90% of that part of the iceberg that are not visible, and then i will tell you about these 90%, quickly, if you allow, well the first, of course, a powerful move by president putin, is the transmission of an informal message through viktor orban to all members of the nto, that is, orban, who... after beijing the summit arrived, will certainly tell what putin was talking about, and people will think about it and think twice, whether to play escalation or not, more and more is coming various kinds of confirmation, informal for now, that the united states is largely backing down, their argument is naturally harsh, their rhetoric is harsh, but in behind-the-scenes conversations, in particular to everyone... these possessed

baltic countries, poland, in part the same czech republic, it is said that we do not want to start a new nuclear war, and we will not contribute to escalation, indirect confirmation of this is today’s information that the ukrainians tried both formally and informally to contact the american active remaining pilots... but that the americans understand that an american pilot is in the cockpit of an f-16, especially if he is shot down , the americans strictly forbade them to do this, so he was taken prisoner, but this was already an incident, so the common sense of the biden administration did not refuse, quite perhaps not thanks to biden’s condition, but somewhere even in spite of it, and one more thing that has been hidden is that this is the bravado that... europeans

over the past few months have splashed out on all media channels that they are able supply weapons to significant quantities to ukraine, it turned out that all this was at a minimum an exaggeration, at a maximum just a cheap vomit, it turned out that they were not able to make a million shells, the last aid package that germany provided was simply ridiculous.

stated that there are 10 brigades, full-fledged and four terrestrial defense brigades, there is simply nothing to arm them with, that is, there are no weapons for them, that is, they were able, with the power of their tricks, where with the help of ambulances they grab people, to recruit people, but these people cannot be brought into battle , i'm not even talking about the moral state of these troops, so i think that this situation, coupled with our successes in a number of...

in the next program, but what ruslan nikolaevich said is very important, this, this supports you, i must admit that i’m not completely convinced, but let’s just say i’m impressed by your expertise and your general understanding of the situation, now, of course, it’s clear from what everyone has said, no, this is not some kind of easy walk that lies ahead of the russian army. no, the situation is very serious, no,

it will not be easy with the organization of the world most, but if i understand you all correctly, it’s not so scary. damn, how they paint him, and the more difficult, the more interesting, your last word, i ’m listening to ruslan with pleasure, of course, at that time i was also watching you have footage of how - biden receives, uh, receives - delegates to this meeting nato, he stands alone next to him, the devil is hidden, god forgive me, in the details, next to him is stoltenberg, like a lackey. and he stands like something like kublai khan, like the emperor of the roman empire, so they run up to him, which means that macron is there, this is the king of galia, there is kalos, there, i don’t know, the queen of dacia, everyone comes up from, so to speak, happily

hugs them, he blesses them, sends them off, listen, they, mr. bayne, are really, i think, really crazy, excuse the expression, moved out. this makes him really feel like the greatest of the greatest emperors on earth, so i understand his word very psychologically, but when a razmatik feels like an emperor on earth, not already in space, apparently, since ukraine is karim georgievich, this is the perception, i hope you will agree, this is it’s not harmless, it’s not absolutely harmless, because he still has enormous power in his hands, nuclear weapons, look at this picture, it’s in itself...

well, maybe it’s not after all, maybe it ’s necessary to stop the war, but maybe we need to stop this murder, look, no, absolutely not, we need to bring everything to the end, let 100 thousand, millions of them die , listen, what to call it, what is it called, it’s terrible, pay attention to the expression on erdogan’s face, here he can read clearly, but what am i doing here, i need in brix, well, erdogan. by the way, the only, most vivid expression, on this happy note we really should end the program, i don’t want to say that our time is up, it will resume tomorrow, but for now, in the meantime, thank you very much, we’ll see you tomorrow

on the air. hello, this is a psychic podcast and we continue to open the windows of your lives into a world that is bright, joyful and practically problem-free, or at least we are trying to do so. today working with me is a psychologist, doctor of cultural studies, professor. andrey sberovsky is our heroine veronica. veronica came to us with such an amazing and maybe even a little flirtatious request, which, however, had depth behind it. if i understand correctly, veronica, are you tired of being a strong, strong-willed, strict woman, are you

tired of yourself, or are those around you tired of your strength and will? well, it happens that some people suffer from this. let's tell us in more detail, what? brought you to us, recently, since i’m building a business, it happened because i had to end the relationship with your spouse, and so, wait, you ended the relationship with your spouse and you had to build a business, yes, exactly like that, well, in order to survive or because you finally got the freedom to do it, precisely in order to survive, so to pay off my debts, in order to feed my children, and accordingly, so that we could live somewhere, i had to have more than one child, two children, 8 years old, beautiful girls, yeah, what happened to your husband, where did they come from? debts? unfortunately, the majority of the russian population has a large debt, including my husband, so he did not have a credit history, or rather it was very bad, i had to take on a lot of debts, i left you with a rich

inheritance in the form of debts, i left, and you left, i left, yes, yes, yes, what was wrong with him , what was wrong with your husband, why did it happen , everything was fine with him, he is a wonderful expert in his field. specialist, but unfortunately, we could not find common ground, or rather, we diverged on a common vision, i probably went into business, to implement it for me i wanted some other life. the circle decided to stay in the same positions where it has, although it has enormous potential, but unfortunately, it did not want to realize it. you know, andrey, i now have the feeling that i am sitting at a meeting with some major director of a large plant, who is giving a countdown of the past period, problems and prospects, well, while there is a feeling that the director likes to be a director, in fact, i i don’t see a contradiction yet, because i see a girl who has gone into self-realization, who has gone consciously.

this comes with a huge burden directly from the point of view of the children, from the point of view of work, from the point of view of obligations, that is, i really had to take on a lot of obligations, not because i want it, but i really don’t want it, i want everything to be easy, i want to relax, i want to get high, and... not work to satisfy needs, and who determined these needs for you, that you need exactly this level of needs, you need now i have my own picture of the world, it contains exactly there is a level of my life as i want it implementation, this is constant travel, these are new opportunities, but so what? and i feel comfort in this, we say, you feel comfort in what, at that moment you will feel comfort, heaviness appears,

i don’t like it anymore, it’s heavy for me, what is the level of comfort through the process that makes you nervous, you don’t get emotional, you break down, you have insomnia, so what then, what is the severity of the stress, that somewhere it may not work out, that i, for example, somewhere i may not be able to keep up with the children, to heels there are electrodes attached through which the current flows, yes, you run faster, that where there is fear, you need to grow, but what is the problematic story itself, because a person who goes into business, in principle, is especially such a serious adult a person, as if yes, voluntarily, he usually understands that life is also a business, it is a struggle, it is such a constant story, where there is no rest or sleep, in principle, people actually. enjoys the fact that everyone needs them, no one can do anything without them, because in fact this is one of

there are options for human self-realization, so what is the problematic story here? the problematic story is that you didn't know it would be so hard, it turned out to be too hard than you expected, what is the most problematic area? well, just as, probably, even modern society dictates, women want to easily achieve some heights, peaks. when, probably, there is a partner who accompanies you constantly and supports you, this is much easier to do. at the moment there is no exactly that support with point of view, where, probably, i would have started much easier, faster and understanding that from the point of view of relationships, as probably with most women, we are still inexperienced, at the age of 23 we get married, then we have different views, completely, someone... then it grows in relationships, someone remains at this level, in principle i always had a gradation that...

yes, in which it does not rely on any relationships there with men and even with friends,

even with children, the request is like this : i want to live at the same pace, i want to live at the same pace with these achievements, i want to live in the same tension in a pleasant way, yes, but so that it would be easy and joyful for me, so that there would not be a concrete slab of obligations hanging over me, so that a concrete slab of obligations would not lie on my shoulders, and so that the hammer would not ... bale over me from above that a contract may be broken, a loan may not be paid, obligations to some partners or employees may not be fulfilled, we see. who we see in front of us now, yes, we see an excellent student, yes, here she is an excellent student, just from her toenails to the top of her head, yes, she is saturated with this, in a largely invented world, ambitions, excellent grades and obligations, it seems to me that this is the problem, you are certainly right to the point,

and if we are probably thinking about how it all started, always all the problems from childhood, i want here. .. to note that now everyone is telling me, you’re like a soldier in a skirt, this is what you need, you do it, you make everyone around you, you delegate there, yes, you supervise, but i want to come like this, guys, let’s go, do this, this, this, but you have to live in a slightly different rhythm, so that you can be heard, but i know that there are excellent examples where a woman comes, a leader, she easily distributed tasks to everyone, everything worked out for her, and i believe that this is at the level of thinking and some attitudes, because that in childhood. my dad gave me such a serious attitude, incorrect, there is no word “i want”, there is the word “need”, probably this is someone who was not given such an attitude, you know, yes, if we take it simply, if we really evaluate life, then 99% grow up in this attitude, some live easily, some don’t, therefore, in fact, these are the

parental attitudes, we often overestimate their importance, because everyone is told good attitudes, but people live differently. so here let’s not make them responsible for accepting your models, you still need to understand that you get pleasure from yourself as a businesswoman, yes, then you need to understand that these are the ones you perhaps imagine as such easy girl managers , in fact, half of them may cry in the evening, as a matter of fact they drink bitters there, yes, because in fact they do everything in every possible way when we remember the classics of soviet cinema, but moscow does not believe in tears. because now there are simply social networks, there are those that create images that do not correspond to reality, so believe me, as a psychologist, with work experience, all these light strong women are not really that, this is a well -developed mask with which half of them each have their own psychologist, some still have a husband or a sponsor who is simply it is not visible, in fact, therefore, but in fact

the idea itself, your desire itself, is somehow easier to live, of course, it has the right to exist. children, i say, it doesn’t matter, children need to be shown, we don’t teach them, we don’t raise them, we just show some kind of example, and even now i notice with my eldest child that she’s like this, maybe somewhere there to pre-shout at the younger one, that is , this is how you have to do it, that is , you set boundaries yourself, and i myself set boundaries for children, that is, i influence them,

it turns out the same thing in a team, okay, in a team okay, i can set some boundaries, my own rules, because this is my business, my rules, probably from the point of view of the children and people around me, well, sort of like those around lana, no, i’m probably more for children, yes, i dictate my rules, what i explain like this is correct, but the key thing is i don’t just forbid something, i always explain why it’s needed, why it’s this way, and what you don’t like, let’s give a probably banal example, as all parents know, but i clearly follow a schedule with... that is, i see parents who calmly let their children sleep there, oh, they walk, they walk, they don’t have any routine, but i have everything according to discipline, this is how much we have to eat, to do these procedures, to sleep at the age of 9, that is, i have this clearly, it’s probably not very good for children, but from the point of view of the fact that i dictate such rules to them, there are advantages, there are disadvantages, advantages - this is that we introduce discipline to the child, yes,

but the downside is that i squeeze the girls a little, and tell me what the problem is, it’s not... and it’s completely accidental and my poor dear, what happened there that caused the fire to start, let’s take it. two shores, the premiere of a multi-part film, tomorrow after the program time, this is a city whose coat of arms depicts the most powerful beast. we are in the glorious

city of yaroslavl, and fonya was filmed here, everyone’s beloved ivan vasilyevich was also filmed in the yaroslavl region. so, boyars, i have prepared steril for you in yaroslavl style. you need a thin, thin straw. we are trying. but if you were 10 years old, you could join the corps of young cosmonauts, a child’s dream has come true, technology is something that girls and women are quite capable of, quite capable of, come on , come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, you touched me, let's go, the premiere is on saturday on the first, this is a psychic podcast, where i, journalist natalya loseva and psychologist andrey. we analyze the situation of our heroine veronica, who has taken on too much of herself and is already tired of it. well , look, we see a whole series of very contradictory positions. here is

a girl on the one hand saying that she is a leader, a successful leader, on the other hand, she has a feeling of guilt in front of her children, about what does not give them a happy childhood, as if we have multidirectional trends, as if we would say vectors, as if in this case it is still necessary try to prioritize.

they unanimously said that i’m just some kind of soldier in a skirt, i’m pushing myself into a framework in terms of discipline and life, i’m directly transferring this onto others, that i also need to live, as you correctly noted, i have my own picture of the world, and i i bring people there, well, how much do you need to be a hostage to the opinions of these five people with whom you can’t row children with them, you don’t do business with them, why would you ? in vain, firstly, there are also psychologists, yes, who openly say, this is slowing you down, you set some boundaries for yourself, and this

is slowing you down, let’s imagine from you, i don’t like it as a psychologist , that in this case, five people here told me something, again, maybe these five people, just a second, a second, but let’s do this let's fight, maybe in a year or two these people who are talking about lightness and your excessive heaviness there, they will all be ruined, and you...

you need to be good for someone, yes, but for myself i'm pinching myself, well, wait a second, i heard pride when you said that in a few years of your marriage you had caught up and surpassed your man, who was 20 years older, you are the pride of these, and again , you are an excellent student, and if you were this lightest girl there in a skirt, were you like that, would you be successful, because in fact , it’s easy to complain about the excellent student syndrome when you are already standing on the pedestal of success, but i’m there. i have an excellent student syndrome, but you are a successful person, wait, but if an excellent student eats herself, she may not get to it, this is eating herself, but we must stop eating ourselves not because some other people are talking about it , maybe i focus a lot on myself, on self-education, but of course, i need to look for more disadvantages, i need to be too

critical of myself.

request, he says, listen, guys, well, i there’s enough to improve in my family, then i have two children who don’t play there with their mother very often, so please improve it yourself, or turn to other improvement specialists, that is, in this case, there’s no need to be the point of such quintessence , the point of crystallization of all the problems of the galaxy, it’s not necessary, because from my work experience i understand and constantly see girls of your type who - all the time raise, raise their bar and these people reach depression and burnout and there are so many... already different physiological health problems, being at the same time completely prosperous people, being the envy of others, and they feel unhappy, burned out and so on, so i see your tendency, the trajectory there, i see you now as a completely successful, prosperous girl who, having come out in this case, from a divorce, yes, that is , having gone through this story, set new tasks for yourself there in business, there in everything else, you are absolutely correct...

for many years you have already accepted the model that i should lay straw everywhere, everywhere all take into account, read 10 steps ahead, and you ran, as if ahead of a locomotive, ran, as they say, with acceleration when possible, you don’t need to run so fast, you lived successfully there for 32 of your years before, achieved great success in that model, well , actually, which you lived, you don’t need to speed yourself up now, you don’t need to argue with yourself according to some patterns of other people, in this case. if it’s a point of business, if everything is clear to you, if you understand the mechanism itself, if you understand the growth points, do it, and ease can only come when, firstly, you find smart deputies for yourself, who you can be excellent students or excellent students like you, and push them off, in fact, this mission there for improvement by and large, then yours will come lightness, because if you try to control, this is the same paradox, i’m trying to control the increase

in my lightness. this is a psychic podcast, where i, journalist natalya loseva and psychologist andrei sberovsky analyze the situation of our heroine veronica, who has taken too much of herself and already.

somewhere she somehow gets tired, wants to be easy, but she finds time for her sessions there with the other five businessmen there, finds time as a rural psychologist, and i understand that by devoting time to this, you may not be devoting time to just yourself as individuals, don’t take a bath like a girl, don’t go shopping, don’t go for ice cream in the end, just don’t take a leisurely walk with your children, so i see that you’re overloading yourself andrey, let’s ask veronica what for you, just specifically, without general words, but specifically... examples of what for you could be such, well, signs or details of this girl’s lightness, joy of life, lying in the bathroom and so on, tell me, reading a book, definitely, how would you like to read a book, i want to go to homak, or to

gomoke moldives, a great plan, so, or it’s just a walk through a coniferous forest, because it energizes you after the rain, it’s an incredible feeling, crazy speed, about speed, i really like it you, i... some kind of high-speed car, where you can break the speed, drive, well, go somewhere to a race track, and directly, traveling by car, it’s very difficult, in fact, to pull it out, because it’s like i don’t allow myself this, this is how we see it, we asked this , we grabbed onto this, because we see that you are trying to live by the rules, by the armored rules that everyone has, in fact, too, again , i say, i am incredibly grateful to fate and even to my husband, despite everything that happened to us, and for the fact that i began to undergo a strong transformation, a direct transformation of me, a psychological person, and where again do i get up every morning from 7 am, from 7 to 0:7 on the alarm clock, i have

time for gratitude, but the key point is, i thank everything for what i have, but not myself, i want to more clearly emphasize this idea, in order to be easy, for this we need you... what time reserves do we have, do you of course, there is no time left for yourself, so answering your request on how to become light, first, we set aside special time for this, if we take a little aside from psychologists, coaches, business trainers, and your colleagues there.

things, this formula of not doing anything, you know, at some point i forbade myself, in the morning, i live outside the city, i drink tea in the morning, coffee on the terrace, i forbade myself from taking my phone with me to the terrace when i drink coffee in the morning , you see, this is a wonderful lightness, it was unbearably difficult, because my mail was not sorted, and text messages were not answered, the news was unviewed, the schedule for the day was so to say unrefreshed, you know, i i just. i understand you very well, well, i feel it, but i suddenly realized that this is the time when i, this is 10 minutes, i sit and excuse me, please, i’m stupid, looking there at the forest, at the grass, starlings, at a drop of rain, which , yes, i’m just being stupid,

i suddenly understand that this is the time in which i’m incredibly developing, returning to how to technically ensure this, so that you can sit quietly with a mug for an hour , look out the window, enjoy the forest. need you, that is, you need to give your responsibility, i advise you in this it is necessary for someone to work at this time for the opportunity to say words that are very difficult for such excellent students, when you... one day say to someone at work, that is, you may not trust the person, you will not trust, maybe , you will doubt there, but you must say with your voice: listen, semyonich is there or masha, natasha, it doesn’t matter who, i trust you, yeah, i trust you, these words, i trust you, they will put the same on another person responsibility, this will be the elevation of a person to the rank of knighthood, his promotion status, and at the same time you will teach yourself to let go, and what kind of motivation will people have, right? because people of your type, once again , on your people of your type

, the world, of course, rests on the one hand, but on the other hand , such people die standing there and, unfortunately, they are exchanged for other people of the same kind, so let us learn to speak in words : i trust you, shake your hand, hug, give away this hypercontrol , ours can also be said at your discretion, and you can also say how you decide, and you can also say, listen, do what you think is easier for me, i can do that, but i... myself, i may even repeat, you can actually say: i trust you, when you yourself hear and don’t trust, but when you say it out loud, when your own ears hear your own words, it lets you go a little, lets you go psychologically, physiologically, emotionally, learn to say these words, i trust you, a person can lie. trust, we’ll change it, strictly speaking, but he can justify it,

then veronica has a successful girl, smart, hardworking, wonderful mother, all other words are in the superlative mood, there will be time to be light, but i would like to have time to talk about something else, look, i’m hooked on this tension that arises in veronica when you invite her to say the phrase, i trust you, yes, that is, apparently she does. it’s not even a fact that she now trusts us, she thinks, maybe i came, i came to the wrong place, they ’ll tell me this now, but it seems to me that this is the key, you’re probably really experiencing a problem with trust in the world, and in people and in circumstances, when there is no trust in the world, no trust in life, in circumstances, what a person has is control, and why, why control, why fears, right?

i pulled it out now from your inability, the inability to trust, this trust, this lightness, you need to study very carefully, and just for her this is what you need, yes i need to say, veronica, you must learn to be easy, you i have to learn to be irresponsible somewhere, i know that's when irresponsible, my eye is twitching again, say, veronica, we believe in you, we know that you are really easy, you really are easy.

you have to find someone who you will trust, this is a game, this is a game of adults, and we must allocate a little time, b, we transfer trust, transfer responsibility to someone, yes, in fact, this is the correct distribution, as it were, frees it up ease for time, ask this about such a life, you know how to swim, of course, and you... swim on your back, of course, and you’re lying on the water, yes i love you, but she doesn’t trust it in the water, wait, that’s right, when you lie on the water, you know, it’s this same thrill, yes, i swim too, but a little stressed, a little bit, in stress, that is , when i’m not stressed, but it’s hard to break this, i probably have this thought somewhere that there is a feeling of total justice inside me, when , well, what is justice, fairness? last story, if you want in stories, i paid for moscow

parking, app or their system is not it works, i don’t know what the problem was, but the money was debited from the bank, yeah, then after a while i get a fine of 500, it’s a shame, it’s a shame, it’s a shame we work with grievances, that’s 5. and then you realize that the bank deleted the transaction, then returned it back, but i paid for parking in the center of moscow for 5 hours, for my part i did everything right, like... you, in a sense of injustice, begin to drown something , do something unfairly, and i note this injustice everywhere and i probably want to fight for justice this is also due to the fact that i don’t trust the world, in this case, again, to fight for justice in one, it’s to be a quixote who is a fighter, you

need to have allies even in the fight for justice, and these allies need to be trusted and delegated, yes, then there is a need to have people who, just like you, will have the same picture of the world in this case, that’s why... you’re such a fighter, that’s great, that’s yours, well, actually, that’s yours, your image, your way of life in the end after all, again, if you see injustice, react to it, yes knock on all doors, that is, we will fully support you, but i emphasize that the most important thing is what i hear and what i see, we need to take veronica out of the image of a loner, the image of a lone knight, because i see a lone knight, but you certainly have friends, yes there are girlfriends, a person who has a business has money, always has friends and girlfriends, as it were. say: so, there’s actually something you’re not telling me, here everything is not as good as you tell me, or maybe you didn’t achieve it yourself, i sort of achieved it myself those close to you, perhaps you look at people and this, this is the feeling, because in

fact the sense of justice is heightened, it is characteristic of those who have achieved everything in life on their own, i wanted two nuances for you, but can you first say the nuance, tell me please? i trust my employees, i verbalize, at least partly, let’s simplify the task, let’s just say that i trust many of my employees, i trust my top officials, so let’s somehow say a little sincerely, we are straight straight pulled out, let's look at you, the employees will actually look at you, and we can use this as a resource for you, you guys are right, i trust you, i trust you. to my employees, it turned out that it was as if we had already taken the first step, in fact, i wanted to point out one point, back at school, back at school they wrote wishes in a diary when we were leaving school, one in the field is not a warrior , this is who we ’re telling you about, because you know, i want to hug the hedgehog and the porcupine, but

impossible, yeah, you see, so in order to become easy, you need to show your weakness somewhere, don’t be ashamed of it, find... for this, find the time to believe in people who can support you, and you will actually achieve that the goal you want because you are great. well, friends, our heroine veronica came with a request on how to stop carrying everything on yourself, how to stop being this small, iron, tireless tank. it seems to me that we have found the right path for this tank into the sunny pine forest, about which veronica in general, she dreams, but hasn’t been for a long time. i am incredibly grateful to you. you really helped me, you found the right path for me, and i promise myself, first of all , i keep my promise to you, and that now i will work on myself, take time for myself, not forget myself, my beloved, pay more attention to myself, indeed, trust the world, trust

your employees, i would emphasize, you don’t need to work on yourself, you are already perfect, just take a little break from yourself and this will be your... the path to ease, this is to leave yourself alone, they say, absolutely right, if you want to participate in our psyche podcast, leave applications on the website of the first channel 1tv.ru. hello, this is the popular science podcast cat. i’m its presenter, grigory tarasevich, editor-in-chief of the magazine, which is also called schrödenger’s cat, and we talk about the most important, most significant things for us from the point of view of science, and today’s topic is the role of the father. in order to talk about this role, we invited a sociologist, professor

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