hi, everyone. so good to be with you. i'm zinhle essamuah. and "nbc news daily" starts right now. ♪ today, friday, november 3rd, 2023, pushing for a pause. the humanitarian crisis in gaza escalates as the u.s. calls for a temporary halt in the fighting. why israel is refusing to back down and the new threat facing the northern border.

back on track, the u.s. labor market appears to be finally cooling down. why that could be good news. contagion nation, between the flu, covid, rsv, even the common cold, it seems everyone knows someone who has recently been sick. what you need to know to keep your family healthy this holiday season. and safe and sound. an american mother of five trapped in gaza is finally heading home. we'll hear from her directly just days after she and her family crossed into egypt. it is so good to be back with you all, thank you for ending your week with me, we're going to start with a new diplomatic effort to end the israel-hamas war. here's where things stand right now. secretary of state anthony blink en is in jordan after visiting israel today. it is his seconds trip to the region since the war started almost a month ago. the secretary is pledging support for israel, while also stressing the need to protect innocent civilians. the rafah border crossing meanwhile between gaza and egypt is open for a third straight day. the white house says a large group of americans are expected to leave gaza today. and that at least 100 americans

left yesterday. israel's military says it has surrounded gaza city. the military saying at least 23 soldiers have been killed in the ground operation that started one week ago. israel's prime minister benjamin netanyahu again ruled out a cease-fire until all hostages are released. the pentagon confirming today, the u.s. is flying unarmed drones over gaerz, to help find these hostages and provide support for israel. the hamas-run health ministry says more than 9,200 people in gaza have died. let's bring in nbc news foreign correspondent josh lederman and tel aviv and raf sanchez, in israel. raf, i'll start with you. the israel military says it hit an ambulance with an air strike today. what do you know about this? research yes, so this is a fast-moving situation. here is what we know. this israeli was hit by the israeli military by the alshifa highway in the northern half of the city near the gaza strip, where the fighting is concentrated. the health ministry in gaza controlled by hamas says 13

people were killed in that strike and our unbelievably gracious colleagues from nbc news within gaza were able to get to that scene, they saw the damaged ambulance, they saw blood smear smeared all over the side of it. we have not been able to verify if 13 people were killed or not, but when we asked the israeli military why they hit an ambulance, they say the ambulance was used by a hamas terrorist cell in close proximity to the battle zone and they say they intend to release additional information which they say will prove this claim, that the palestinian red crescent ambulance was in fact being used by hamas. the israeli military has said in the past said that the al shifa hospital has underneath it a vast complex of tunnels and command centers and that is a claim that nbc news has not been able to independently clarify. >> i know antony blinken spoke

with reporters in tel aviv after meeting with israeli leaders. what exactly did he say about those conversations? >> what we saw today from secretary blinken is the evolving dynamic between the u.s. and israel, sinls the war started. it began with the u.s. voicing unquestioning support for israel in the wake of the terror attack and then starting to very delicately remind israel of its need to follow international law and protect civilians and what we now have basically is open disagreement between israel and the u.s. whether there should be humanitarian pauses that president biden has been calling for to try to get more civilians and hostages out, and more humanitarian aid into the gaza strip. with netanyahu, emerging from the from blinken today, saying it is not going to happen. we did hear from secretary blinken though, what we did hear is not very big open critique of israel. but he did say this. watch. >> hamas doesn't care one second or one iota for the welfare, for

the well-being of the palestinian people. we provided israel advice that only the best of friends can offer, on how to minimize civilian deaths, while still achieving its objectives of finding and finishing hamas terrorists, and their infrastructure of violence. >> reporter: and the jordanian foreign ministry has just announced that tomorrow, it will host a meeting with secretary blinken while he is in amman, and they will also involve many of the gulf arab nations like the uae and saudis and qatar, as well as palestinian representatives. that is significant, because you will remember, it was just a couple of weeks ago that there was that summit president biden was supposed to attend in amman, with the egyptians and the jordanians that was canceled at the last minute, after that explosion at the hospital in the gaza strip. >> a big development there, especially as concerns about this escalate throughout the region increase, raf sanchez, and josh lederman, thank you both so much. let's turn now to breaking news here at home on the economy. the october jobs report is in, and it is not what experts were looking to see. the labor department says the

u.s. added 150,000 jobs over the last month, that is 20,000 less than what exists predicted. it was also a big drop from september where even after being revised down, the u.s. economy added a whopping 297,000 jobs, quick math there, that is 147,000 job difference. nbc news business and data reporter brian cheung is here to do a little more math for us. what are the big take-aways from the report. >> to add more context, 150,000, that is indeed lower than what economists had expected to have been added in the month of october, and it is lower than the case in september but it still positive. so we're still adding jobs in this commitment and even though the unemployment rate did tick up to 3.9%, that is only a bit above the 3.8% that we saw in the month of september. so certainly worth watch can but not yet recessionary. let's look at the job gains, leisure and hospitality, bars and restaurants and health care, 58,000 jobs in the month. and we saw a contraction in

motor vehicle and parts manufacturing, down 33,000, because, understandably, of the uaw strike, and the automakers being reflected in that month, which we know was a result of that and that maybe reverses it several in the next report. one last thing to point out, people are having jobs but how are they getting paid in those jobs? average hourly earnings, yearly rating we're seeing september to september last year 4,.2%, october to october, 4.1%. so wage growth is flowing a little bit, although still above the 3.7% pace of in place. so hopefully in most cases wallets grow faster than the price tags at the store. >> and brian, we've seen a lot of economic news this week, right? the federal reserve decided not to raise interest rates. the national retail federation releasing the outlook for the holiday season. and of course, today's jobs numbers. so as we head into the holidays, what does this all mean for consumers? >> it felt like a million years ago that the federal reserve aflound that it hadn't raised interest rates on wednesday, and

they haven't raised interest rates but they're still high and not cutting interest rates and borrowing costs are still high, the mortgages, the credit cards, your auto loan rates are going to remain elevated until the federal reserve says otherwise, and again, they're going to keep interest rates higher for longer, the terminology they have been using, borrowing costs are higher and encouraging, as the unemployment rate is still relatively low despite the fed's efforts to deliberately slow the economy and hopefully that means a good holiday shopping season as well and we'll see in the next few months. >> brian, thank you. president biden and first lady jill biten are in lewiston, maine, today in the wake of last week's plas shooting, the deadly effort in the state's history, they're pleating with first responders, nurses annual grieving families. lewiston's mayor has declared today love lewiston day, to remember the 18 lives lost. and george solis is in maine covering the fallout from the tragedy for us. and somehow it has only been nine days since these mass

shootings. how are the people in the community processing what has happened and how life has changed for them there? >> yes, a lot of plourning still taking place in this commune, president and first lady expected to visit this afternoon, the president reprising his role as consoler in chief, as he meets with the first responders, nurses, everyone who had a hand in helping this community heal so far. people here obviously shaken up. earlier, i spoke with a teenager who was here at this memorial outside of the bowling alley, where others have lost their lives and in the school, she said they are practicing active shooter drills and never had they put in in practice before and any source of normalcy is out the window, with social workers at the school to help these students heal and it speaks to the shear magnitude of the impact this violence had in this community. take a little bit of a listen to our conversation earlier this afternoon. >> we've kind of gotten used to that, and i think one thing that

we've done, we've got to do, we have all been there for each other, we ask how each other is doing, and i have friends who live right in the middle of lewiston who are right in the center of all of there, and checking up on them, and i have lots of friends check up on me and ask how i was doing, because they knew i lived close. >> reporter: that is so pivotal in this community, people leaning on one another, as they try to heal. >> yes, and of course, george, people are leaning on each other, grieving together, over the 18 lives lost, and the deaf community was hit hard, the main educational center for the deaf, with four members of the hem on the screen, actually died in the shooting. tell us what you're learning about the impact on that community. how are they working through this tragedy? >> reporter: yes, the association of the deaf hear in the state saying this loss was huge for them. joshua, one of the victims, well known here in the state, someone who was active on tv, translating during the covid-19 pandemic, the organization, the

association as a whole, fundraising right now, putting up sweatshirts, t-shirts, a number of meal beela to raise money for the community and that's what they're doing internally, and you can imagine from the outreach from this community and nationwide, they have been receiving so much love, so much support, and you know, again, this tragedy, touching not just here in lewiston, maine, but so many communities across the country, some who have unfortunately dealt this w-this type of tragedy as well. >> so many communities have. george soli system, thank you so much. let's turn today to today's cnbc money minute. walgreens is slashing corporate businesses and for $25 you can get an entire thanksgiving meal at target. cnbc co-anchor tyler mathisen joins us now. >> thank you very much. walgreen's is cutting bonuses this year as it faces financial pressures after a disappointing earnings after labor issues. and the corporate staff will not receive bonuses at all. and store and pharmacy managers will have theirs reduced sharply.

meantime, tens of thousands of las vegas hospitality workers are now threatening to walk off the job. they just announced they will go on strike at 18 casinos, including mgm resorts and caesar's if they can't reach a deal for the 35,000 culinary union employees whose contracts expired earlier this year. the strike is set to begin november 10th, just days before the las vegas strip's highly-anticipated inaugural formula one race, it is expected to bring thousands of people to the strip. and target, to offer a full thanksgiving meal that won't break the bank. $25. buyers can get fan favorites including a 10 pound frozen turkey, russ sets potatoes, stove top stuffing, the meal serving four, and it is available in stores. and online. back to you. >> i'll take it. sounds good. and affordable. tyler, thank you so much. well, coming up, we'll turn gears, and talk about self-proclaimed crypto king sam bankman-fried, officially facing

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including wire fraud and conspiracy to commit wire fraud and prosecutors looked at how sbf siphoned money from customers in propping up the multihedge fund and buying multimillion dollar real estate deals. joining us is stephanie rule and jake ward. stephanie, i will start with you on set. the u.s. attorney overseeing this case actually spoke after the verdict was reached. first, let's take a listen. >> the cryptocurrency industry might be new, the players like sam bankman-fried might be new, but this kind of fraud, this kind of corruption is as olds as time. and we have no patience for it. >> so steph, strong words there. recap for us what sbf did to seal his fate here. >> it starts with what was said here, this is old school fraud, right? this is a guy who loved the fact that he lived outside the system, he mocked corporate america, he thought rules for

fools, he said anyone over the age of 40 was a waste of time. well he is going to be wasting away in prison and what happened in the end is the government went old school and took the four top lieutenants, one, two, three, four, and got them to cooperate with the government, and sam bankman-fried made the crazy decision to testify, which was really shocking, because he is not someone who, by his own words, connects well with others is, able to show emotion, is not a sympathetic character, he took the stand and the prosecution showed up with receipt after receipt after receipt and you saw the jury only took four hours, and people out there, crypto is hard to understand, it wasn't about crypto, this is about taking your customer's money and using it in ways you shouldn't have. and he is going to jail for a long time for it. >> jake, what impact do you think this verdict is going to have on the financial and crypto industries at large here. >> the crypto industry is very haphazardly regulated. almost not at all. and so it will undoubtedly be

looking over its shoulder. you know, the defense essentially amounted to, you know, a big shrug. especially the sbf lawyers saying this was an accounting mistake, as stef pointed out there was a lot of talk t-is complicated but the general gist of it, it got out of control and a lod of good faith errors is what contributed to the downfall. and that's not what the evidence showed. and digital bread crumbs are something that what investigators is are very good at picking apart and over and over again it showed not a lot of lack of attention but a lot of intentionality going on here. and while sbf's attorney saying they women appeal, the prosecution outside the courthouse saying if anybody else wants to attempt this, we have plenty of hands cuffs. >> and that is an important thing and that's why merrick garland made a statement, the government knows it is haphazardly regulated, this new

way, but the government made it clear, we're coming for you, so if there is anybody out there getting cute and thinking about pulling one over on them, they said you're not, we will get the receipts. >> and what about the customers who were wiped out by ftx. what happened there? >> a lot of money has been recovered. 8 billion went poof in the sky and i think a little over 7 billion has been recovered. however they're in bruns. so it is a long complicated process. you basically get in line with who get their money when. and the government hasn't seen their money returned but it is good news that a big chunk will be distributed at some point in the future. >> i imagine money impacts sentencing. and jake, sbf facing over 100 years in prison, and 31 years old. what is the determining factor for the judge to consider here? >> this is america, and money makes the world go around and money grinds things to a halt when you get convicted of a felony or seven of them in this

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welcome to "the fast forward." tensions in the middle east spilled over into oakland today, amend more demonstrations continue in san francisco. ginger conejero saab has the details. >> reporter: protesters have been here for hours at berth 20 at the port of oakland in protest of this ship leaving the port of oakland. i've been told the reason is because they believe this ship is leaving for tacoma, washington, where it will be loaded with military aid and sent to israel. however, we have not depthly confirmed that claim yet. now, there are some 150 people or so protesting here. just before 10:00 this morning, one protester breached the fence and tied himself to the boat. the police were then called, and so far, it is unclear if any

arrests have been made. we have reached out to oakland police for comment. another rally and vigil happened in san francisco outside the office of senator alex padilla. a couple dozen gathered to demand he introduce a resolution calling for an immediate seels fire and an end to u.s. military aid for israel. they tried to enter the building and deliver a letter to the senator but were not given access to do so. the rally then continued outside with names of those who have died from the war read and memorialized. >> unfortunately, a lot of the conflict has created a lot of anger, and i think it's rally important when we're seeing violence and we're seeing conflict to try to come together in peaceful ways. >> reporter: that protester is joined by other protesters who have created somewhat of a human chain from the boat to the dock. we're also told that protests will continue as long as those

people are attached to the boat. the port of oakland has also told us this protest has not affected operations at the port. in oakland, ginger conejero saab, nbc bay area news. here are other stories you need to know about. teachers in san francisco are set to begin voting today on a contract agreement. oakland is remaining a street after icon and the world of hip-hop. but drivers in the east bay, a heads-up, another closure from caltrans is kicking in today. part of southbound 680 will be shut down completely in the pleasanton area to repave the highway. at 9:00 p.m., all southbound lanes of 680 will be closed to the 580 interchange in dublin down to highway 84 in sunol. they're expected to reopen by 4:00 mony oakland is honoring tupac shakur by renaming a prominent street after the artist. the blld between van buren and grand will be known as tupac shakur way.

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bottom of the hour now. here are some of the stories making headlines on "nbc news daily." hunter biden has asked the top federal prosecutor in washington, d.c. to investigate one of his former business associates. hunter biden's lawyer alleges tony topzinski made false statements to the fbi during the investigation in 2020. nbc news reached tout representatives for that business associate, but they did not respond to our request for comment. high schoolers are vaping less according to a new data out from the cdc.

e-cigarette use among teens fell to 10% this year, that's down from 14% in 2022. that being said, there was a slight uptick in current overall tobacco use among middle schoolers. e-cigarettes have been the most commonly used tobacco products among high school and middle school students for the past decade. thousands of texas rangers fans celebrated the team's first-ever world series victory with a special parade celebration today. the team defeated the arizona diamondbacks on wednesday night, winning the series in five games, and fans have been waiting a long time to experience a celebration like this, going 50 years without a championship win since the team first moved to arlington in 1972. turning now to the israel hamas war. the leader of the militant group hezbollah is threatening to escalate fighting in northern israel. the group's leader saying, quote, all options are on the table, during this first speech since the war began. nearly a month ago. hezbollah is based in lebanon on israel's northern border and israel's military and hezbollah

fighters have been firing at each other for weeks but unlike hamas neither side has officially declared war against the other. nbc news foreign correspondent matt bradley is in beirut, lebanon for us. there are ongoing concerns of this war escalating into a wider regional conflict. what else did hezbollah's leaders say about the fight with israel and the u.s.'s role here? >> reporter: well, it is good that you mentioned that issue about a wider regional conflict, because we actually made a lot of references to that during the speech. he said there were other leaders throughout the arab world who were stressing to him, do not expand this conflict, and by expand, he means specifically his own militia group, joining the fight. now, another thing he mentioned was that his group has already joined the fight. repeatedly said this over and over again, there was on day two, on october 8th, the day after the october 7th attack by hamas, that hezbollah first started firing rockets and directed missiles across the board near lebanon, and you know, that to him was proof

enough, and he was offering there to his follow lowers, proof enough that they have been in the fight this entire time, that they have been losing men, and again, ostensibly this speech was about valorrizing and graduating the so-called martyrs of hezbollah, there have been more than 50 so far in weeks of fighting and he said they are already losing them and already a war and as you mentioned, he said that all options are on the table, that he could expand this fight. now that would happen, he said, for two reasons. if lebanon was attacked by other groups. and he means specifically this is sort of the cloak language, the united states. and if there is some sort of attack by the u.s. and he is referring to probably those aircraft carriers who are off the coast, then he would be expanding his fight. or if the israelis expanded their attacks into the gaza strip. that is when he said hezbollah might be weighing in. but again, he left this all wide open. >> yes, so much is still hanging in the balance. matt bradley, thank you so much. and here in the u.s., for

many lbgtq + couples looking to start a family, it may not turn to gofundme campaigns to cover the cost, one reason the fertility treems are often not covered by insurance the way they are for straight couples. nbc news correspondent steven ro history o has more. >> reporter: while many soon to be parents are setting up baby registries. >> we set our goal at 50,000 dollars for the gofundme, but ultimately, that is an average give or take of what insurance companies would be covering for that ivf treatment. >> reporter: kyle and jack are joining many other gay couples setting up crowd funding sites, looking for help with the estimated 150 to 200,000 dollars cost of having a baby through surrogacy. >> he was very surprised. he did not know it was coming. >> that's news to me. >> reporter: the long island new york couple, together for ten years got married and bought a home and having a biological child is the next step in their

plan. >> we wanted kids. we wanted that type of life. >> reporter: they expected insurance to cover the creation of their embryos. included in most fertility coverage. and their insurance company told them they didn't qualify. >> what went through your mind? >> we felt this was again, we kind of felt alienated in a weird way, in a way that i feel like it has been a very long time that we did as a gay man. >> reporter: a spokesperson for their insurer, empire blue cross blue shield, telling nbc news, in a statement, it, quote, covers fertility services as mandated by new york state law. many insurance companies rely on definitions of infertility, similar to the cdc, to determine coverage. it classified infertility as the inability to get pregnant after a year of unprotected sex. a diagnosis the morellis would never qualify for. it leaves out not just many same-sex couples but trans gender and single individuals as well. >> do you think it is discriminatory? >> it is hugely discriminatory.

it absolutely needs to change. this is a national issue. >> reporter: right now 21 states have laws recovering coverage for couples diagnosed as in fertile. 16 of those states also plan date ivf coverage and many of those states, including new york city, rely on infertility definitions that exclude many lbgtq+ people. >> they're not going to change. unless the employers who are purchasing the insurance policy make them change. >> jack and kyle already invested $55,000, and expect surrogacy to cost another $180,000. they're not giving up though. taking a loan against their home, and second jobs to fund their journey. and it is motivated them to advocate for others. >> there's a line, where two men can't raise a child together, or men aren't capable of raising children on their own and that's something we want to stop. >> steven romo, nbc news. as we head into the holidays, doctors are warning of

a potential triple-demic outbreak in the u.s. and this fall they're urging people to get vaccinated for covid, rsv and flu following a surge of individuals that overwhelmed the hospitals across the country last year. dr. patel, good to see you. how is this season shaping up? >> there is good news and bad news. we are somewhere between like the worst during the pandemic, with the triple-demic about a year ago, and coming in between, a little less than pre-pandemic years, so we have some cases that are growing, and probably we'll see those numbers increasing, but we're also not seeing the worst as we had in the last three years. >> and dr. patel, i think a big question for a lot of people at home, how do i spot the difference between covid and flu and rsv? what should we be looking out for? >> so a lot of these illnesses, they're kind of caused by viruses that tend to be very similar in symptoms. so it could be very normal across all of these viruses that have, you know, a sore throat or

a cough or a cold, but in general, what we look for in things like the flu are things that cause kind of your entire body to feel like it is shaking, there's something that affects the entire body, and with other illnesses, like rsv, or even the common cold, it will be more like a runny nose, and if it is a younger child, it can start out that way, like rsv, but then it can get really deep into the lungs causing a deep type of cough. just to be aware that anything can look like one of these viruses, and that's why it is important to get tested. >> it is an important point. i think a lot of people get confused. so what is the first thing individuals should do if they think you have one of these respiratory infections. should they go to the hospital? what do you recommend? >> a couple of things, one, that mask helps you, even if you don't have covid, we sometimes forget, that because we don't want to infect anyone else, especially in our immediate household, and if you're able to, getting one of those home-based tests to at least check for covid can be really

helpful so you can know what next to do or make that phone call to look at the treatment, but in general, yes, we do recommend, we have in many doctor's offices but also in many pharmacists or clinics that are based in pharmacies, you can get kind of an easy package, a respiratory panel, so it can determine do you have the flu, do you have rsv, do you have covid, do you have something else and i encourage people to do that, because there can be treatments, especially if we catch it early, not just for covid, but for different things like the flu as well. >> in addition to those preventative measures, there are also vaccines and shots that you know for covid and the flu and rsv, can you break down who is eligible for each and when is the best time to get those? >> all right, let's talk about flu and covid because those have pretty consistent age groups. you can give it to anyone over the age of six months and depending how young you are, if you're six months to eight years, you might need two shots, but six months and above, generally speaking, flu and covid, now is the time to get

those shot. . and i've had patients, including myself, i got both of them at the same time. you can space them apart. but really, getting the shots are the most important. and then let's talk about rsv, this is the first time to talk about vaccines and immunizations for rsv. 60 and above, that vaccine is available right now. and if you're a child under the age of 2, there is an immunization, it is a monoclonal antibody and it might be appropriate for you. i don't want to leave out pregnant women. pregnant women should inquire into immunizations across the board for rsv, flu and covid and now is the time if you're a pregnant woman as well. so we are in that season for the winter viruses, and get those shots now. for sure. >> we have just moments here, but any tips for other common illnesses like the cold? >> common cold, caused by other coronaviruses that are not covid, washing your hands and making sure that you don't touch your face, it actually does matter, it will help you stay well. >> stay well, stay safe. we love to see. that dr. patel, thank you so

much. >> thank you. up next, an american family's escape from gaza. a woman who just crossed the board near egypt joins us with her emotional journey. you're watching "nbc news daily."

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gaza. but the white house says hundreds more are still trapped, as the israel-hamas war rages on. among those trapped, emily rasrenberger and her five children, visiting family in gaza when the war broke out and since then he had had to take shelter in a small apartment with more than 30 others barely getting by with enough food and water. emily and ler father finally escaped last month crossing the rafah border in egypt. emily joins us now with her father john, who we have been in contact with throughout this process. it is so good to see you, emily. i know the connection is a bit rough but i just want to start with you. how are you doing? >> it is surreal to finally be out. we're very relieved and to have the modern comforts of food and water, and it is a really difficult emotional time that we leave behind all of my husband's inlaws that helped us survive these last four weeks. >> talk to me about what it was

like at the border, what was it like crossing and what conditions did your family experience? >> the border was quite chaotic. because people were just, lots of families were split up because they weren't all on the list to leave together. the officials were, you know, trying to operate in a very stressful time, so it took from 9:30 in the morning to 7:00, 8:00 at night to cross this border. and so it was a very grueling time, and we really didn't have any, much food, except for some chips and water, but ultimately it was, you know, it was such a relief to have both me and my kids cross, along with my husband. so we were very grateful. because many families were not able to go together or go at all. >> and don, i want to acknowledge you here, we have spoken several times since the war broke out, for almost a month now, and you have been waiting for this to happen, and you did express to me your frustration about not hearing

from the state department for days after the war broke out. has that changed now? it seems like yes, but talk to me about what those communications have been like. >> well, the minute this situation occurred, it happened, we registered emily and the family with the state department online, with the evacuation request, and we heard a couple of times and then kind of went radio silent, and they were supposed to contact emily there in palestine, gaza, and also me as a sponsor, who listed them, and it got very chaotic communications from them, unfortunately. emily also registered the family with the british home office because her husband is a brit, and she can speak to this, and they heard more from her. the only thing i can tell, emily shared with me, because she is the story not me, once they had gotten through the borders, the state department had stepped up to the plate and helping them, as they transition out of gaza,

into cairo, and soon heading home. but really, it was a challenge communicating but we never left, and we had the family motto, we're all in it until they're all out. >> emily, i understand you've been in touch with the u.s. embassy in cairo. do you feel the government has been communicative to you in this process? >> it has. as my dad said, it was a bit sporadic, because you never had reliable communications. most of the time, you couldn't get emails. and so, or many text messages, so it was, it would have been more helpful to have more direct phone calls, but again, it is just overall, it is a tough situation. >> for sure. and we know the humanitarian crisis is worsening in gaza, and emily, your father told us that you were staying with around 30

people or families, talk to me about the conditions, and what's your overall message regarding the many who are still in gaza? >> oh, it's a humanitarian disaster of epic proportions. you have 2.2 million people in the gaza strip. and over half are young people. 20 and under. >> so, you know, we were staying with three of my inlaw families, so there's about 28 people total within the apartment, three bedroom apartment, so we had eight people in a room, at least, and others in the front, you know, the sitting room, just trying to, again in the morning, go out and find bread for the day. try to go out and find water for the day. and try to go find a place to charge the devices and batteries to keep the devices going to try to keep up what is happening and where the evacuations were, you know, where there were places that were going to be bombed, if

at all you had any warning. so it was just a day-to-day, trying to get your essentials, and a lot of people don't have those. the water situation particularly was so stressful. and cooking gas, it ran out. many times. for many people that we knew around us. and you try to help each other out but people don't have any resources. >> emily, it strikes me that you're talking about this very matter of fact, you are a mom of five, you have been supporting your family through this, talk to me about moments of fear, talk to me about how this has felt for you, what are you feeling right now? >> oh, it's quite a mix, you know, when you're in a mom mode, you need to keep moving, and you know, keep your kids calm, you know, it doesn't help to have a breakdown in front of them, so i would say like, i'm normally a positive person, but also, you know, out of necessity and practicality, you push forward, and i mean i will say that, you know, as people, my husband being from gaza, and we've been to gaza several times over the

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