and i have emdr, which is a form of therapy for ptsd.t spoken out before come to you since then? and if anyone is suffering from abuse and they don't yet have the courage to speak out, what would you say to them? they must speak out. i think so many of these people, when i approach them, i said, what's your memory of this place? and they went, oh, no, no, no, i've put that away in a box for 50 years. and then when they open it, i could see them come alive and be happier. and obviously i'm not a therapist, i'm not qualified, but i hope i was a trusted ear. i do think telling people close to you... i had an e—mail from someone three years older than me at maidwell, and he wrote to me and said, "i just want you to know that you writing this book, i've been with my wife for a0 years, i've just told her what i went through at maidwell and we spent the last hour crying together." you know, i went to a restaurant last night and i was early, and the maitre d' came up and hejust whispered to me, "i just want to thank you. i went to a school like