and part of her unhappiness is that she engages in this relationship with a young irish country boy, felime feels humiliated, and yet she comes back for more. and i just wonder how some young women might interpret what you're saying about her and her choices she makes. yeah. so a character isn't everyone. you know, one character isn't a whole age group. i think people, there are differences in manners as people change and grow older. the question, i guess, is... am i being mean? am i being mean... how carefully...? ..to young women? no. yeah. well, how carefully you have to write... yes, you have to be very careful. ..these scenes, basically. yeah. you know, we live in a world where... ..we've had the metoo movement, we've lots of discussion about male abuse of women and about female agency. and you're kind of suggesting it's actually all really complicated and sometimes it isn't quite what it seems in terms of who has the power and who wants what. so. . . nell�*s situation is not permanent either. so it's something that she moves through and learns about and from. so, um...it�*s like i'm