just read jane austen novels. considered to pose that question to viewers. >> i mean, should we have sort of performance related affairs, maybe don't respond to that, or we could get all sorts of things. >> would be unrwa something wrong? no. it's fine , as i was wrong? no. it's fine, as i was saying, overt displays of emotion . but if the lady were emotion. but if the lady were confronted with vulgarity, right? or some weird situation , right? or some weird situation, she was allowed to either faint, take the vapours , or actually take the vapours, or actually suffer from hysteria. so that's the only time when we were, doing the right sort of non stiff upper lip thing, okay. >> to show some emotion of things. that's right, of course. but lots of that has, has sort of changed. and where we are. yes. >> thank goodness for women. >> thank goodness for women. >> thank goodness for women. yes, yes, but sort of just before we conclude , i mean before we conclude, i mean overall, would you say that actually standards of