i can punish. i say, listen without parents, don't come, just read something like that, for the next lesson. eh, i don’t have such a breath, that is, no, so to speak. here is grandpa yes, such a grandfather. well, this is such a person. we work together with him. we are with him, i look at eye level, as if we have such an expression, yes, so to speak. well, uh, i don't look up and down and up, we look the same, but to our parents' child. uh, it is possible to overcome this priority, and the authority of an adult who aged, to which i was yes, i introduced myself like that with my grandfather with my i remember what, so to speak, e beloved grandfather. i had this food. uh, what are you, how would you put yourself on, you kind of, you understand, these are all the problems. yes, you try to understand, you cannot understand them, but you try to understand, all the problems, health, all these problems, probably, accumulating hmm psychological severity and that's it. you raise yourself up

to this age. he lowers himself a little at this moment, you become his friend and you cannot be persuaded. you can’t be on you, as soon as it starts to say this, uh, it’s so polite when breathing, yes, it ’s bad to be capricious. they they they don't want friends they i need to say so, respect and need less than just love and some kind of, so to speak, mm human relationship. you understand friends, friends leave, and they have a friend. yeah, and in principle, any of the children and grandchildren can become even more friends with the elderly. no need to argue. it's just useless. but what about? if there parents want something, i don’t know, there is either mom or dad something that is not needed. i don’t know

that my mother has diabetes there. she can’t have sweets, because it’s dangerous to slip them. something i don’t know how to do, but i have to tell e to argue, because she will grab it anyway, she will take it anyway. uh, well, you need to look for some more creative approaches. i once my mother-in-law, for example, steamed in the microwave to drink. so we just bought new things, smeared them and passed them off as support. yes, because if it was new she was very dear, and so smeared. she said, we have the same what dirty around all the people are not like that, right? that is, creative approach solves problems by inventing more cunningly. yes they join. here in this butting foreheads is huge in that we don’t

really want to agree, well, in the depths of ourselves in order to admit that, well, yes, the moment has come that i have become older than my parents. well, here we are. well, i don't know when it happens, but it definitely happens when your parents start to perceive you as his father and mother. when they tell me, it was calm, quiet there yesterday, there was almost no one there, because our parents took us home. who took. well, children, well, they already call children parents. yes, yes, yes, he says, well, yesterday it was quiet our parents took us away uh-huh well, parents, they decide you can't poke him. here i come to you. blimey. you're just it's all here somehow the same decision making. in general, they should feel you understand and think that they have accepted it

struck in yours. ah, your blog, what do we have different logic, perhaps, with very elderly people, that you can say that i don’t know how to give some kind of argument, but at that time they read completely different information, somehow dressed or the one you speak or there something else to think of your own and in general, the most important thing is that a hundred. he feels this warmth, but words are not needed at all, in general there is a touch, there is some kind of thing to say. that's where you hold the man. i'm just passing. that's what it's all about, as you would understand. hey, when do you start talking? yes, like this to tell. you just walk into the warm-up, take it and pass by. and you were already with him. like here a second. how are you, old people? here the teacher continues. this is already one of the so to speak. well, instruct, but leave. yes ok. okay, here's how to deal with it and because of what, let's say, so they are afraid that something will happen to you, they

are trying, how to take care of you as a child. yes, so that you do not slip into the hands of the steering wheel. well, yes, well, then he also tries to take away from you, too, of course they say, yes, i'm on the steering wheel there a little no, well, just so to speak, it is natural for a person to help, as if to warn. yes, how to try to warn and all the more so because they are, as it were, the older a person is, the e the circle of his possibilities narrows and remains only words remain. he can’t really help you, so i’m saying that there are two truths, one so to speak, it’s bitter, the other is sweet, and it’s sweet to use the truth, but don’t tell the bitter, in general, but a wonderful development, that as in childhood there were such verses regarding the same sea, blue skies, blue papa strongly mama beautiful. and so, that this formula should also work for the elderly. well, of course, yes. no. well, you can't. well? well? well, swallow your

snot. well, why do you need to dedicate anything to help your parents with this, they need to broadcast it more. you're all right. everything is fine. it's strong. they must understand that they did not go through theirs in vain. calmness and patience are his main rule in dealing with people of age. they tell me the us chisel is not sharp. but you specifically gave me such a solid tree, that is, and so you think, well, what do you well, do you understand that yes? ok then. you just take the situation somewhere and try not to ignore it. we are mistaken, thinking that the elderly are afraid of death, death is perceived as such a psychological physiological act, which, in general, is here tomorrow, here he is in the corridor and it ceases to be some kind of dramatic, very difficult act, in general, the station is so everyday for the

elderly people need love much more than they want the respect of friends. they need to tell me so respect and need less than just the love of friends. you see, friends leave, and their friend alexander galetsky. another issue that you write about, er, and that i think a lot of people here is that you found out in the process of working with old people, that it turns out to be fatigue. eh, communication with them does not depend on the time spent, that it instantly piles up? yes it is. and why is that energy vampirism like that? it's just very explainable. you get into a situation that is difficult for you. yes, you get tired instantly, because that the situation that arises. it's like she's not controlled by you. it's just kind of like that. as soon as you become the leader in this flock and

there is less fatigue, and they are waiting, you understand, they are looking for , uh, and our elderly grandfathers, they are looking for. uh shoulder. actually. they want already they are already tired of leading life. they want to lean on and be strong, as it were, that is, here is the strength, it gives. everything, in principle, but this force and the heat of force is heat. it's such a laugh internally it's such a, uh, way not to be offended. ways, as if understanding, again, coming back understanding, uh, as if the reasons for what is happening, uh, which allow you. here, how not to pay attention to these facts here, which i really want to get angry and answer, that's all. that is, you seem to be looking at the essence and stop seeing this husk and events that are real. it's a shame, really. how hard it is, then, to put up with them somehow e

to put up with, but you understand the reasons for this, you forgive , i must say that in russia, too, there are now absolutely, as it were, a new trend. i would have said there was such an institution called grandfather garden. ah, in which the elderly can come, who can come by themselves, whom your relatives bring, uh, in order to, as for the organization of a real kindergarten, that some part of the day, and the elderly spent together in some games, then in the evening their parents come and take them home. yes, and now i want you and i to look at a story about one of these kindergartens. hello start the new season here some families. yes, when there are elderly parents in the family, either a relative, yes, who cannot be left at home for a day, when the children go to work, go on a

business trip, they don’t want to give a person away. yes, in the uh in- patient nursing home facility. uh, therefore, this kindergarten for the elderly will be a way out. napkin and glued they come, they understand that they can do something. this is, firstly, secondly, when they can make a souvenir with their own hands and give as a gift, they are given, and they feel that they need something that they can do it. and in general, everything is simple here happy and satisfied. it's all so interesting. there are youth clubs, where young people meet dancing on the beach, and there is a club. that's how our day club is, but for older people, and we

spend our time. and here i am, you distracted me a little. i'm here now, here we have a great master in checkers, i'll try. i'll play with him and maybe even manage to beat him. yes? well, everything, in short, yes, let's go. do we have a pool? you know i get great pleasure from this water. i get up, i have joints before standing stop hurting. is there a need for a family? yes, in which nu does not live with his parents, yes, but takes care of his elderly parents. so they really bring these people to the center to us. they are sure that here their parents are under supervision and with them. everything will be fine. during the day. in fact, a chair. the lights are extinguished, the music is playing, pleasant, the atmosphere is all this breath is very

fresh and we observe a romantic picture of a star in the sky, the moon has the impression that you are in some kind of a thunderstorm, where they descend from just such salty ones. pillars with pleasure go here. it's the norm, but in

our country it's the norm that there is an institution for children, because the parents work. and as for the old men, we are, in general, coping, who, how can everyone has their own script, is courting. well , maybe, if so to speak, to bring this logic to the very end. if the old one is not enough, then maybe such a garden in your case in israel, this is such a kind, so to speak, a nursing home, which, well, is not very similar to a russian house elderly. the principle is almost such that i see this, that is, to say this, these are our people there. they are there, which means they somehow still spend the night. they live in their apartments there. yes, but it is, in principle, the same it is the same story. that is, how would people come to you, all people come, because to do something to do something is the problem of old age, what makes people a little aesthetic. here you need to

find aesthetics. you all understand the aesthetics of old age, because it is correct to say that you are a child there. yes, he is, as it were, such, as he says her feet are unkempt. but this, when the legs of the hozhka are already there for 80 years, yes, it’s all so kind of, and it’s to find this beauty and aesthetics and understand, behind this, because people inside they are such children, they are all of them to everything do all children understand? i say there are three kinds of children. uh, little middle-aged and old places, you know, that is, there are no others. and so i had cases when people there discussed the ninety years of a new woman, who was some kind of old woman. oh well, just like that, some old woman came, ugly. yes, i must tell you that i have already noticed symptoms in myself. even once asked this question on social uh social networks and found that cleverly we do

n't give such an account at all. how much. well, here, well, subjectively on myself, because it happens to me that i look at a person. i think some, when an elderly, uncle, who do you understand, he is younger than me in general. this elderly, uncle, you understand? and in my mind, i’m just talking about this, that we don’t see ourselves, you see, we don’t see ourselves. we we think that we are such kids there, but some know the aesthetics of beauty in this. eh, you need to be able to do this. in fact, such a compaction, or something, of activity and information. this is some kind of avalanche with us and they do a career in a completely different way. now they demand everything from you without a trace. who then? well , well, how to solve the problem of an elderly person, and this grandfather garden or what are you doing? you are absolutely. well, the way out, or something, in a sense, i also have a feeling of being in demand and older generations of people need to be that's it. they are. well

, when they are inside this society, they, firstly, they are also divided into beautiful, ugly and less beautiful, that is, they are like them. uh, it's easier to socialize in this. in what sense is it competitive among? yes, i have a 97-year-old woman there who can say that there is that one at the age of twelve and knows how to make a career. i can't. yes, yes, she did a personal exhibition there or something they hung on the wall. yes, yes, here it is able to make a career, and i doga has not learned yet ahead. you sometimes joke with your wards that you are them well, either constantly, but joke specifically. you're totally down for a bad job in their recycle yes, yes, yes, yes it is. well, again, it's just a game of time. yes, i am absolutely, of course,

happy with this game, so to speak. and you can call a talented boy a girl called thank you, thank you. i said, somehow, to a person who survived the catastrophe there, it means that this is the most aushevite in the camps, all a talented boy. thanks boy. how do you deal with the fact that they are leaving? well, in general, how to say? but i'm doing such a project, generally artistic, and i take these works. but i finish them in my own way, that is, here i am, you understand, he, in short, does this work. he that's all the nose turned out there at the eagle. yes

, so that the eye is there, so that there are paws of everything he has and somehow they treat him very carefully. and if suddenly here it is interrupted. here is my project. it's called underachieving. i say that every school has underachieving students. in my they just don't finish school. yes , this project is not successful. i just , so to speak, take this board, turn it over and treat it like a white sheet. you just draw on it , something else helps me to put a point somewhere inside to say in my soul with this character. the time comes, and we change roles with parents, the older the person, the more his circle of possibilities narrows. only words remain. he can't help you, really at any age. has its own beauty. the main thing is to be able to see it. here you have to find aesthetics. that's all, you understand the

aesthetics of old age, because i had cases when there were several twelve-year-old people discussing a new woman in some place, who was some kind of old woman. yes, well, that's it, she's some kind of old ugly woman. yes, he is still going through a hard time when his students pass away, you look, everything is done here. he was sitting, then he was sitting here. there, this one can make such a good school even more than i now have people who have left. how quickly did you get used to this pain. well, i'm not used to it yet. alexander galitsky, why else is such a metaphor, that is, compared with a flight attendant? why a flight attendant? because he cannot take a person to open a window for him and throw him out the window. from an airplane. the truth can't just the same i can't. i can’t kick him out of the room, you know, i literally flew off

today and watched a scene that i understand very well. uh, some very old woman. uh, tried cleaning by the conductor. uh, find out some information that might fall through. just no had they carried within them the answers to that question. and i looked with what that's right, it just lay down cleanly, i looked at this theory of mine, with what patience, as it were, this girl explained. she told her i'm doing my job this information. i don't know, i'm sure you can do it. so i say, no no no no girl returns. and he said the same thing, but i would, of course, somehow not say the same thing in my situation. i would somehow try to switch there or somehow differently. well, that's what it means to say. i understand this girl is fine, because i myself am so. as you said, that's what is very optimistic

story. that's what you do because you see people live to be almost 100 years old and able to enjoy life as much as possible and what did they teach you? that's how some fortitude yes, even. well, you see. for example, when i was i don't remember how old i was before 18. probably, i could still imagine the year 2000 somehow with difficulty. i thought that in 2000 i would be 42 years old, so that they would not imagine further generally. and when you see this one, these people who are over 80. yes, and you understand that they are generally happy, maybe not all day, because in some part of the day they suffer from their diseases are being tested. but now, when you see that they are laughing at the top of their voices, then this, in general, is worth living for, because people are frightened, you understand, even this is impossible. we all want to live long, but we don't want

to grow old, but guys. well, something is not quite right . nobody wants to die young or please, yes, if you don't like the alternative , come on, now yes, you don't want to. and how old are you now sasha, how old are you 58 58 do you feel signs in yourself? here then and so now we argue with you ladies. here are the old people. this here means individual people, and you are getting old. yes, when it comes with you, it came. relatively speaking, in your children it’s already hard with you in some ways. of course, i think it's hard. why do you want? i don’t know at all when, when a person turns from an ordinary fool into an old fool, i don’t i know, well, everything is relative, again. i think you understand. when i worked as an arter and i was surrounded by young young wonderful people, and at some point there were 48-49 years old. i felt myself. this is in itself already killed by such a person,

yes, and a bald head. i went to the old people and became young again. hmm, everyone tells me here in general, my guys say how old your environment begins, for example, in your children, and something like that. have time to throw some thoughts before you begin to plunge into infancy, so that you tell them in to your own children, guys, put me, yes, leave me alone. let me live 20 years. she , i feel her responsibility to me. could formulate some main ones, they say, dear, what's your point name, neo means when i become an old fool, i don't know when it will happen, but it happened sooner or later. remember, here are some i don't know. there are three main rules, yes, how to treat you, so that you can survive happily with

your daughter in this sense, so that no one causes problems for each other, so that you tell her the most important. no, well, in general, to say, you understand how impossible it is to convey your experience. but it's impossible. i don’t know how it is now, there is a 58-year-old father. i understand that there, no matter how you can re-transform what was with you and put it like such a disk, but into the heads of children so that they do not make mistakes, where you made mistakes, you are impossible and the same thing, as if say she will find it. i think how to somehow calm me down with me, than because everyone lives this way, in general, probably, beauty this nature and life, that everyone lives their own life, and you cannot. uh, nothing. i remember my grandfather now. i think, god, he was right. it's there, so to speak, that's where he began to grunt, looking at me and at my mistakes here. yes

hmm i don't want to say youth, but mistakes yes and so, well, he was right then, but he couldn't explain to me, it's because we were on different planets. that's why i say that we are. we are completely different galaxies. that is, you have it there, so to speak, at 40 or 30 years old never mind. at what age do you have your own world, you have your own worries, and you, as it were, they seem to be the main ones in the universe in general, these worries need to be solved; he has completely different ones. well, in general, it is necessary that he say something the day after tomorrow at this test, return home and somehow come to his senses. he writes that his leg did not hurt, by the way, the left one. yes, yours, just again, the first-aid kit was already sick, they asked when the old man yes, here are our walkers, because the leg was hit, but the main thing is that you are preparing for this fearless. i would said. well, why be afraid of what? well, we know that

how it will end? it's all bad. thank you very much for our conversation. we wish success to your book, which i think will be very readable and just like yours. ah, on your plane, in which you fly daily, uh, everything was still in order. we want to give you such a pilot's cap at the ready it says normal flight. a gifted child is the dream of many parents, a child prodigy, a miracle child , what distinguishes him from ordinary children is that from childhood he gets used to working with his head, and

his mental faculties develop much faster than the others. she always loved to study at the age of 5 she read all 26 volumes of the collected works of jules correctly, while her peers ran around the yard. she solved problems in order to quickly move to the next class, and at 13 she entered moscow state university. like her, only 10% of the world's population, these percentages include both simply capable and talented and a genius, and only 10% of young talents develop their talent so much that in become outstanding professionals in adulthood, and out of 90% geeks. in the end, ordinary average citizens grow up. about how easy it is to be a gifted child today alone with everyone confession of a child prodigy irina polyakova i am glad to greet you. with us, you know, i must

say that the modern desire for the comprehensive development of children. sometimes it seems there is a selfish desire to assert themselves parents. and sometimes, maybe you can look at it differently. here's your expert opinion. i would say, because you are a child prodigy, but is it good to be a child prodigy? well i can say, so for your child. i would not want such a story. why inflated expectations and the habit of achieving has come to the point that everyone expects something from you, it sometimes unfolds very difficult already in adulthood. and how early did you even realize to yourself that you have some kind of, uh, amazing abilities. i would not say that i had any outstanding, but talents for something specific. yes, i just love learning. it was interesting to me hmm i have. i was good at math. ah. i'm glad i learned to read, but

the conclusion, for example, in 5 years, in my opinion, was read. yes , you know, there is such a logic about geeks that it was a child born with talent, god gave him or uh. here, it must be unfortunate. this is his parents, maybe troit, as if, if his parents had not invested in him so much, then he would have been a normal child. here, what version of you did your parents pull you up like that, or, well, what to do, they were born like this about me. it can be said for sure that there was a lot of effort. yes, it was a lot of work and habit to your mother's work is a teacher, and as i understand it, uh, actually thanks to her and her, but perseverance and how russia is to her work. and you began to show these extraordinary learning abilities . she even came up with some kind of her own methodology, in my opinion, yes, in order for you to develop her, she is a specialist in early development. yes, she works with children of preschool primary

school age. here, well, perhaps, his own technique. this is strongly said. that is, it has not been patented anywhere and has not written books on this topic. well, yes, at it has a certain approach. and you weren’t interested in what it was connected with, then you didn’t ask . mom why did you decide to say so, sitting with me at home, to begin me to develop a complex issue so intensively. no, i wasn't interested in her. i know that uh, as she told me. it was her decision from the very beginning, but it's hard to say what it was connected with, maybe she'd better tell about it. well, let's hear what you told your maman. the fact is that when she was born, and her husband immediately decided that there were no kindergartens, that i i won’t work, i’ll leave my job, i’ll raise a child, because i’m tired of watching crying children who are dragged early by a kindergarten and well , i can’t just have a child at home, i can’t be a teacher, therefore, from the first days.