and to bring up a person whom, well, i would be proud and could say, i did everything to ensure that this person was not ashamed of me for him, that he was educated, and an intellectual had much more opportunities compared to you. well, i think that yes, she was, because she was married, firstly for a minute. that is, you deny yourself not only the birth of a child, but also in the future to get married. no, why don't i just set it as my goal. do you warn young people when you start dating them, if you meet that you categorically do not want children? yes, when it comes to this, that is , of course, this does not happen. so hello. i’m michael, i don’t want to have children, definitely not, but when we start a serious relationship, yes, and anyway, sooner or later, somehow, this topic definitely pops up. i think it's stupid. well , it's just not paradontically not excusable not to tell a person about such a serious decision in his life. and that you have never encountered the fact that a man is repulsive. no, this is always there were those men that the universe sent me exactly those

men who just either accepted this position, but either agreed with it, or were also generally convinced of the sword lottery. how do you calculate them? i don't know much about men who do this. uh, maybe you don't say your position so harshly. maybe you say you don't know it now. now. i want to pursue a career, then maybe, as you know, yul, i am very straightforward in expressing my thoughts and it is very difficult to understand me in two ways. i say i don't want to have i will most likely never have children, dear. if you want to have children, please, with another woman. you're all so sure, why not? i don't have any prerequisites for me to be insecure. yes, i'm confident. that is, if not with this, who will say oh, yes, i, perhaps, with another woman, it will be different. yes, this means that this is not my person, because i think that, uh, you understand, this is a very strange position. i love you, but i don’t accept, and you change for me, and i don’t understand such love, love, it is all-consuming in terms of

the fact that i accept you with all your minuses, pluses, shortcomings. like not like. i don't like not covering you with crazy pasta. i don't like that you leave the dishes overnight, but i love you. i'm with you. so it doesn't matter. i accept you. i agree with you very much. let's suppose. and ethically, you fall in love completely to death and accept the person completely. together with his desire to have children, but you understand, it’s not quite here, an equal position is to give birth to a woman, so you can’t bet here. that's right equal sign. there is another stereotype about this phenomenon of childfree, what in fact it says about the extreme egoism into which humanity falls. i would say that people are free from children. e, they are afraid of responsibility for someone, because they themselves, despite their age , remain children. they are infantile, they want them to remain the center, they do not want to

give anything to anyone, they only want to take. since childhood, i have been an extremely independent person, i have been working since the age of thirteen and even in some periods i supported my family completely in my life. moreover, i love animals very much, and i am always actively involved in them, whenever i can, with pleasure, sacrifice and money, you know, i'd rather donate money to the animal help fund than the fund. there e fighting aids of young children, seriously, i say why? well , because they are more sorry for animals. why people? and i am for sparta. so i think that they did the right thing in sports, the weak, the weak was born, khilenkin. you provoke me a little, as your friends. these are your favorite topics. speak, you do you want, uh, now i jumped up, or do you really sincerely think so? no, why would i provoke you enough smart woman. i really think so. well, i don't get it. seriously. i'm going to get 20 sentences right now, but the bottom line is, a baby is born. forgive the lord with the syndrome. down, he will live and suffer all his life , and people around him will live and suffer all his life. why leave

life in such a child? well, are they better to grow? healthy generation, because still a child. well, it's a little fetus in your tummy moms, but get your abortion. lord, guys, everything will be fine, and if you didn’t see it. then suffer. and if something happens to you, if society becomes the same as in sparta there, after all, they did not only do this with children, yes, of course, well, with old people who were not needed by society, everyone has their own destiny and karmas, and no one with disabilities not insured you are hit by a car you become disabled. yes, and you know, if i can't run, jump , dance, have sex in all the positions that i love, no matter how uninteresting your mom knows about your position that you do not want children. and you are her only child, that is, there is hope from someone. no, you know, we both don't want to have children, and she treats this with dignity, she thinks that the guys. this is your position. this is your life, of course, i

support you. i am your mother, how do you feel about men, prime ministers and families with many children, perhaps such families. yes, i'm happy for them. i have many colleagues, about families, but they have many children, they are happy. i am for them a joy for this more calmly endure conversations to dress. them someone got sick. someone something. and here we had a case when katya was there in general seryozha of a certain moment. yes, then i just either leave the room where this is being discussed. yes, uh under a plausible pretext. well, i'm just saying straight up. maybe sex is better. do these conversations annoy you? no, they are for me. it's just, well, boring and uninteresting. here is the secret cuneiform, for example, it does not captivate, because it is 100% in your life, and someone lives by it. you are the meaning of life for him, he collects every little piece, calendars, postcards any source of information wedge. that's all for him. well, i just have other interests, but this does not mean that a person in comparison with me is worse or better in no way. he's just different , he has other sized other hobbies. well, it's his

choice, you're right. where are you telling me, here they see the messer column on the tail. in this life of the son there is a second chance, a second life. my goal was to live to fight.

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is, you and the chicken are also the same, but we are all alive, like everyone who lives, every leaf on a tree. we are all alive, we all feel, we have a feeling, and when someone takes on this. the role of deciding the life there is a plant or an animal, well i try to minimize it in my life. and you have some idols among famous people who, so to speak, are also free. she is the most she has no rich, black woman in the world, she has children there, in my opinion, 60 or 62 already and she speaks quite clearly about this many times, she said that i live perfectly, without children. you know, there was, uh, a rather tragic reason for such a choice, perhaps, well, it’s just that i’ll even tell you. she was raped and she gave birth to a child as a result of this rape and this child died after what? she said, i never

want to have children again. but this is just a special case, you asked me. the first thing i remembered, yes, this is recovered, but in fact, do you think that this is some kind of direct relationship, that she is the richest, that she is the most successful, because in no case. no, it's just that you asked if there are people i respect, uh, who don't have kids. yes, they have their mass of cameron diaz for example, there, for example, uh, kingall, these are people whom i admire, they are well done, they are not smart, they don’t have children, and they didn’t get any worse from this, they didn’t become talented . you see, me unsuccessful, again, if you like, the main objection is that if you do not want to have children in society, we put pressure on you, and how you tell you that your life will be inferior if you do not give birth to children, it makes you tired, but let's just say, it's unpleasant for me, because they impose a point of view on me because the norms of behavior in this society are imposed on me and the rules of the game are imposed. uh-huh, you know , you should and nobody should even understand anything. uh huh what is the meaning of your life to have

fun doing what you love to travel oh god so a year to travel, two i haven’t been traveling all my life yet, apparently, i don’t know, maybe in 2 years i’ll come to you and tell you know now, and the meaning of my life is yoga, for example, perhaps, in three more years i’ll come and tell you. hmm , i decided that i want to forget about the dolphins. i don't know, well, for now. here i am still in this state. various bodily ones, including, but in general, loneliness, i’m not talking about old age now, in principle, are you afraid of loneliness or not? no, i get high when i'm alone then by the nature of my work. i talk to people so much that when i come home and no one is there. i'm catching such a little little high. and so i imagined for a second, i come, this is my mother. i got an a at school today. your mom ran out of milk mom, god forbid well, look, i'll read you a

few more hmm quotes from a discussion in a group on the internet in social networks. what different motivations my child will never die, never get sick, never go to jail, never disgrace me, because i will never give birth to him, he will never be. i will not give life to anyone, but not i will give death. i will be 38, i consciously do not want children somewhere from the age of 11. and by the way, how old are you, well, from about 12, that is, when do these thoughts arise? yes, the first ones, i don’t even want to fall in love, write another respondent. not to mention children, because in 90% of cases this leads to the collapse of relationships and depression. why is it beautiful about another person or not? or in your love relationships, you are also building up certain systems to take care of another person. i don't want to go not because i don't want to care. i just really like to take care of. i am beloved person, and pets and about other

people about their friends. i'm ready to take off my last shirt. if i know it will help them. for that it's cool. it's great. this is when you give a person energy, love positive is wonderful. well, i don't want kids. and yet, i want to clarify with you about your relationship with young people, they are already with children. if, uh, there are some restrictions for you too. in the sense that this is how i already understood that if this person wants a child, then this is also you in a different phone in what cases you have a different phone for me relationship with a man hmm we are not two halves and we are not a single whole. how can i explain to you, we are comfortable with each other, we are good, we do not make claims to each other, we do not ask for anything, we do not wait in return. eh, how do you say that? this is exactly where i'm going. and for me, love is when you give without expecting anything in return. and you are ready

to give it endlessly. you just want to make the other person happy. you know, like in a song. let it not be so with me with another, when an end in itself, to make a loved one happy, but for me this is impartial love is real. and when you seem to love, but at the same time, m-m, a cripple from the reception is in no hurry to give. these are already market relations. that they have nothing to do with love. why do you think there are more and more people who want to be free from children every year? i don’t know. everyone has their own motivation. yes, someone is afraid of their mother. afraid of childbirth , afraid that the money is not enough. well, there she is afraid to become not beautiful - i read about this women are afraid. here i am face plump, he goes another mistress will lead there, and so on. i just have other reasons. i don't know why other people choose this position. i've never talked to them about this , maybe it's worth asking. thank you michael our next heroine has stuck to

her whole life. the same views as mikaela, but life decided a few, otherwise we took all the cases away, finally natalya is 35 years old. and it's hard to believe that in the past she was a convinced chao-3, personal comforts, harmony with herself were always in the first place for her . place, but fate made its own adjustments, six months ago, she had a dream. now natalya is happy in her new role as a mother, but despite this child, she no longer wants to. hello here. why did you not change your views, despite the fact that the child was born, because i lived. it was i who understood what it was like, and if a used to be a convinced childfree, i have been there since i was 14 years old. i selfishly didn't want children, because really i would like to be free from

problems from everything. well, that is, the child is a problem. yes, by the age of 35, it happened like this. uh, clear principled position. i don't want to take responsibility. i'm a fairly responsible person, uh, and to some extent i'm an a student in life, i'm a perfectionist. yes, i'm a perfectionist. i need everything to be good, wonderful. i was responsible for everything. i myself am not a grandmother, grandfather, but not a nanny, namely, i am not responsible for raising a child, and i did not want to take it. i do not hide this responsibility for myself, but i am responsible for the performance of my work duties, for example, hmm, and i was enough to take on more responsibility for the child. but now there is a child . he was already born, but you still say that i have him, and now he is the only one and will never be again. no, because it was

very difficult, because the birth was difficult. they may have been mild in terms of medicine. they were folded for me psychologically and physiologically. i was very worried about them, how could this happen at all, so that the convinced tea kriv actually became pregnant. it's probably something special controlled this moment. here is such a one, let 's say this one, the way i am talking about it now, an absurd accident that turned into a happy occasion for me. so why did you decide to keep the baby? here mikhaila quite definitely says what she will do if she becomes pregnant? uh, i'm 35, i thought that a blow to the body, that hormonal blow that will happen when you have an abortion, this failure. i was afraid of the consequences. eh uh, usually afraid of the consequences. what that there will be no more children? no. i was afraid it might lead to oncology in this case, well, hormonal failure. you never know, how will it affect uh-huh , because the body begins to rebuild itself.

i thought about myself, but did not finish. this is the thought of the ideological end of the child's parents to give away his orphanage. no why, because it's my baby. this is my particle, why should i give it to someone? did the father of the child somehow influence the adoption of such a decision or not? yes, i thought that the set of genes that we reward this child with. it's just a sin to waste it immodest education. well, or together, no uh-huh and who do you work for, natasha, before i went on maternity leave, i was an assistant. well, that is, it’s not that you have some kind of crazy career absolutely. i am his business. i do not have. this is your million earnings. and then in the name of what work work work work work for yourself. i was just curious. you are now working again. no, i don’t work yet, but i’m thinking about what i can do, for example, writing texts, copywriting it’s easy to sit at home

to deal with the child while he is sleeping, for example, to write, now your priorities have shifted. now you understand that the main responsibility is here. well, he's 4 months old. yes , i should be with him. at least, it will be possible to leave it in three years. i think so, it's quite possible to send it to kindergarten, for example, but you probably have like-minded friends hmm about here tea when you were say so hmm not i myself not my friends, never called themselves childf. i know many. you know, but this is how it happened around me there friends without children. i have more than friends with children, and i won't say that most of them will never have children. and they are just most likely at the age when now we have moved the time frame for the birth of children. yes, if earlier the first children already appeared there on 20-21, now it’s somewhere, most often by thirty and sometimes even over 30,

your childless friends reacted to the news that you were pregnant, that the happiness that my friends, probably, i didn’t experience so much happiness at first, they congratulated me. we were all surprised. yes , i was surprised. what did you expect? i was not expecting. i did not expect, just such a stormy row. i always feel like this is fake. there is some kind of invented theory that life will be easier and more beautiful without children, and then when it turns out that a child will appear. these childless friends say, god, what happiness, i congratulate you. i'm telling you again, these friends never said that we don't want children at all. categorically never so and you i look even now. and i should be that i should beat my head against the wall in hysterics, lie in a layer and cry. i changed my attitude towards the situation. yes , i don't want children. yes, i always said that i would be a part. yes, that's what happened, that's what

happened. he turned out to be my child, why ca n't i change my attitude to the situation and say, well, since i have him, but i love him. this is my child. they didn't just slip someone in there. this is my child. you can now imagine your life without this child was born i don't like the conditional mood. and if asked there 2-3 years ago. yes, i would say that money is salt in my life for a child with a child, now i can say when i see his eyes, his smile, when he hugs me, and he does this already at 4 months. it 's so funny touching. it is clear that i will never say that i would prefer to live without him. well, because that would be unfair to him. he already has, and the gender of the child had for you, so i wanted a boy. why mm, i have no idea. i’ll be honest, i always wanted may, if there is a child, if hypothetically there will be a child, and i, in principle, argue, really, as woland said, but he said about

mortality, that a person is the worst thing that he can be suddenly mortal. yes, the same thing, there i perfectly understood that i can assume a lot , a person assumes. god disposes. now, if a child appears, then only a boy i wanted boys, maybe on a subconscious level, a support, yeah. here, yes, here there will be a man. well, perhaps, because in our family there are two girls with my father, i wanted to dilute such a female collective. that means about your blog that you really keep a small diary, which is called fairy inspired. you call your son fairies fairies. why is that, because matvey matvey is short for fairies? uh-huh that's what you write, now i have almost learned to understand what he wants to tell me because the crying message that needs to be deciphered and executed at first was exhausting and yes, from impotence turned into a capricious little girl who forgot that in front of her was not a doll, but a living child, and often such impotence rolled over you. it is not often necessary to say

that i generally got a very seasoned child hmm that is, he knew what kind of mother he was born, he absolutely he perfectly understood who he had appeared, how it was worth leading here, how that’s why, well, just like that, he rarely cried at all and he sleeps very peacefully. he is good, that is, i bought an apartment. so, in ufa i rented a separate room and after i was discharged i realized that the discipline good on healthy sleep is even better. yes, my child sleeps in his own bed. i can take mine early in the morning to prolong my stay in the arms of morpheus and do it. so, back in the maternity hospital, i got the impression that there is also some sort of built up some hypotheses about how it should be as perfect. yes, and so on and so on and just day after day you are destroyed. these fences absolutely absolutely agree with you. right here to the point. i’m talking about this. actually, it’s just in this chapter that i write about the fact that you don’t have to think that you uh no. if, as i say all this, if you can

be an ideal picture of the world, embody it. listen i'll applaud worth it. i also broadcast on the right and left, being pregnant. he will live in my room and sleep only in his bed. there i do not know if there is a clock there or there, when he will ask, my god. now i understand that well, in his room, of course, he can sleep for god's sake. just you will jump up and run to him. this is too much time to rock him later. this is he extra time will cry. yes, he he will experience neurosis. and then you will, in fact, stay up half the night, rocking him, bringing him into a state. why a calm child a calm mother is exactly the same as i can come to my son, not immediately love about love for my son. i am still learning what comes immediately. it's an endorphin blast. it

's really built in by nature. after a woman gives birth, so that she does not experience some kind of pain there is something else, so that she feels something there for her child explosion these are the ones i experienced, it’s really easier to live with something here in the coordinate system, which are all logically justified, first the explosion of endorphin, then here i will study. that is, you do not believe that there are feelings that break everything in general. well, i'm talking about myself, yul, i'm talking exclusively about myself, so i ask you, do you believe in it or not? you, i say again, i believe in myself. uh-huh, because i see it. and there as it may be. i can't answer for my neighbor here. he may have, here there are women who are immediately ispy. will be like them they say that they put a heel in my hand there, then i realized that it was mine and i was ready to give everything for it, there are all the treasures of the world, and he was born to me. the only thing i understand is this.

three red letters are all and for the first time in my life i experienced the sensation of an empty head. that is, it was so exhausted looking at me. eh, obstetricians, they say, mother. well, at least you smile, you child, and i forgot how to smile, and then yes, then they brought it to me. i suddenly realized, here is my opinion victory on the first today an order came from moscow for two weeks. we must prepare to carry out the koenigsberg storm. get acquainted. this is march lange along with march. go to an expert. there, enter vkontakte with our group, you are worried that you have never worked with women. we brought medicine. they contacted the general. the other day an officer arrived and brought a new scheme for encrypting our conversations , garbage information on each frequency, mutually exclusive, we believe that all this confusion

was created by the guest of art. they are very afraid of sabotage work, you need to know where is a radius, but the most important thing is the flask briefcase , for the sake of one person. we can't jeopardize the entire mission. let's go let 's go. saboteur big premiere on may 9 at the first about the fact that tea is getting bigger and bigger, i will say that it seems to me that what i see people do not want to

take responsibility. yes, to some extent it is selfishness, to some extent it is fear. fear of taking responsibility our society is becoming our society infantile to some extent. yes, but sick with naftilism. we like what we can have fun. we have the freedom to travel, something else, in principle, infantilism, because building relationships and having children is a responsibility. and this is work, but we don’t want to , we want everything, like in the game i have such a question for you. i know that you came here for this program because we invited you. yes, but you had a choice, you could agree. and could not agree, what is your motive? why did you agree and why do you lead the block you know the blocks began to lead, and firstly, so as not to lose

your memories of your impressions of all this it was the first, as it were, the first pativa, and the second motive. eh, if i can someone. to help with something, if a person gets some information from my blog, it will be good. i am always happy to bring such information to anyone. you never know who , maybe there is a person. i don't know, was a childjay, suddenly got pregnant, and he has the same panic as he once experienced. i read it and thought that maybe you shouldn't panic, but you should. listen to yourself and start assessing the situation a little differently side or there to change their attitude to the situation. yes, or maybe some information about how to treat a child in general. that is, information can be different from emotional support, mm to some useful things about at least what diapers to buy. i write about it too. that's

about why i came to this show hmm to some extent also because of this to some extent. it was e, it was a desire to simply tell, but about the fact that we are, in principle, people who think differently. i say again, i i never called myself a chelfrit, right there, i redid it so categorically there, because i never subscribed to any community, but just to say that people who hold this point of view. in fact , they are not so terrible, they are not already so terrible, we do not propagandize or impose. simply and we ask you to respect our position and not to say that because of this we are flawed or think wrongly or i don’t know there. you understand, for some reason, people who think differently. they are all here in ways trying to make it clear that i don't know the undergrowths there, you don't understand, right? you are simply flawed, or

as i was told, some comrades. you're just probably barren, that's why you say that. i mean, why try to insult? i do not insult a person who has a different point of view. no need to offend or not, the very last question for you. natasha is banal. mikhail mentioned that, uh, sometimes her grandfather's friends, whom she asks, what changed in their child's life. they say, well, i have become happier or something else can never be explained. it's to the end. it's probably hard to put it into words, but did your life become fuller and happier after the birth of your son or not? she just got into another she became another. and i can’t say that you know, just now a child came and made me happy before that. i was unhappy, you can't be happier because a man is a man. uh, artificially, if a person was unhappy before birth. a child, most likely.