worries and you, as it were, they seem to be the main ones in general in the universe, these worries need to be solved for him completely different, but it is necessary in general that at this test, which will not be the day after tomorrow, he will return home and somehow come to his senses without being sick. by the way, here is your left one. yes, yours, just again, a bird, they asked when the old man. yes, here are some walkers for us, but the main thing is that you are preparing for this fearless. i would say so. well, what are they afraid of? well, we know what kind of horse this is all bad. thank you very much sasha our conversation, we wish success to your book, which, it seems to me, will be very readable just like yours was

. we want to give you such a pilot's cap and it says normal flight. a gifted child is the dream of many parents, a child prodigy, a miracle child , what distinguishes him from ordinary children is that from childhood he gets used to working with his head, and his mental abilities develop much faster than others. she always loved to study at the age of 5 she read all 26 volumes collected works of jules is true, while peers ran around the yard. she solved problems in order to quickly move to the next class, and at 13 she entered moscow state university. like her, only 10% of the world's population, these percentages include both simply

capable and talented and a genius, and only 10% of young talents develop their talent so much that in adulthood becomes outstanding professionals, and out of 90% of geeks. in the end , ordinary average citizens grow up about is it easy to be a gifted child today alone with all the recognition of the child prodigy irina polyakova hello, i am glad to welcome you here, you know, i must say the modern desire for the comprehensive development of children. sometimes it seems there is a selfish desire to assert themselves parents. and sometimes, maybe you can look at it differently. here's your expert opinion. i would say, because you are a child prodigy, but is it good to be a child prodigy? well, i can say, so for your child. i would not

want such a story, why are the expectations too high and achievement habit? that is, to the fact that everyone expects something from you? it is sometimes very difficult to unfold in adulthood. and how early did you even realize to yourself that you have some kind of, uh, amazing abilities. i would not say that i had any outstanding, but talents for something specific. yes, i just love learning. it was interesting for me. i'm fine, yes, do you do math? i am very glad that i learned to read, but the conclusion, for example, at the age of 5, in my opinion, was read yes, a collection of essays. yes, you know, there is logic such a thing about geeks that it was a child born with talent, god gave him or e. here, you must be unhappy. this is his parents. so. maybe three, if not for the parents so invested in him, then there would be a normal child. here, what version of you did your parents pull you up

like that, or, well, what to do, they were born like this about me. it can be said for sure that there was a lot of effort. yes, there was a lot of work and habit to work, your mother is a teacher, and as i understand it, uh, actually thanks to her and her, but perseverance and just her work. oh, and you began to appear. these are some extraordinary learning abilities . she even came up with some kind of her own methodology, in my opinion, yes, in order to develop you, she is an early development specialist. yes, she works with children of preschool primary school age. here, well, perhaps, his own technique. this is a strong word, that is, it has not been patented anywhere and has not written books on this topic. well, yes, she has a certain approach. and what was it connected with, you were not interested, then you mom asked why did you decide to say so, sitting with me at home to start me so hard to develop a complex issue. no, i wasn't interested in her. i know that uh, as she told me. it was her decision from the very beginning,

but what it was connected with is difficult to say, maybe she likes to tell better. let's hear what you have to say. mom, mom the fact is that when she was born, and my husband immediately decided that there were no kindergartens, that i would not work, i would leave work and raise a child, because that i’m tired of watching crying children who are dragged early by kindergarten and well, si just like that , i can’t be a teacher at home, therefore, from the first days i talked to her, but at 4 years old we didn’t have circles were accepted for 7 years. we had it in the morning, as if as a game, but as if the lessons of mathematics were getting acquainted with the surrounding russian and composed. i agreed with the teacher in zero and her. well , at least a little. well, they said, only if they write to her 6 years old, she can’t be five, they wrote six, she

took it very long, and another in the second grade teacher. everything was fine there, but she left, er, for india, and i had to take her with me. this is where the problems started when she was taken in. my class is difficult. i needed to pull it. there are many games, everything is also in the game. i say irty know it all. well, decide, well, she did raise her hand. i have already done assignments there, how it does further, and in general, and she speaks to me in december. mom, i finished all russian mathematics. here world around reading. well, what to do? she says i want to be in fifth grade. and so she went to the fifth grade, and there it turned out. so english, and not for half a year, had already been taught, and here the teacher told her. you see, irina polyakova learned more english in 2 weeks than you did in the six months that i was sitting with you and that's it. and here they go to her teacher, then they didn’t live with her when they tell us, but we never

considered her a child prodigy, because she’s just an extraordinary person. and we tried to break these extraordinary abilities in her, so we developed them, and then the potential itself is completely. she doesn't revealed. well, uh, judging by the fact that as she went to study, again she still wants to. she wants to improve. and just went out for a walk in the yard. this is a complex story. i am a late child of such very cautious parents, so let's be honest, well, i didn't go out for a walk much. dad, i rode a bike back and forth in front of my eyes, for example, in front of my eyes. yes well that is, we can say that the training was. actually, the only alternative to somehow spend time, yes, but toys in terms of toys. they were more like games. i'm in i learned to play chess early with my dad or and so

on toys at the level, there are puppets with puppets. somehow it was interesting. there were some plots to play as a doctor, to do injections there, to cook food, to feed with food, somehow it didn’t work out. i don't really like to cook right now . what age were you when you graduated from this school at 13:00. that is, ah, firstly, it is necessary. previously, i went with the test for 6 years to the first to 5 zero. then in six months the third six months, the fourth in the summer, the fifth and then in the sixth, which at that moment switched to 11 years. tired seventh. that is, it turned out that last year i started in the third year next year somehow. so in the seventh i was then nine years old. after that, i didn't jump anywhere. uh, calmly, they finished their studies until the age of 13. e at school. what is summer? have you completed the program? the fifth grade somehow accelerated and could not

stop. that is, even on vacation, i didn’t feel like it a little. well, somehow i don’t know, it’s conditional to swim and sunbathe there, i don’t know how to argue there at sea. we didn't go for sports. i didn't do much. i read books. and i really liked math. and i was always praised for something. yes. uh, it’s not just because they loved it for what it is, yes, i remember, but mostly some positive emotions, but from the fact that i achieved something. uh-huh yes, well done, what did you do, well done, and you get used to it and somehow you want to live praises are ready to move mountains further nicely this turns into the very motivation then well done well done and you remember that your parents were quite strict with you and say my parents never asked forgive me. and i am learning this with my son. you wrote this on your page on the social

network. and why do you think it happened? it 's kind of like that. well, here is the peculiarity of parents such an attitude that it is impossible to understand authority? yes , yes, i remember that very well. uh. in general, from childhood i was such a fighter for justice and very clearly felt some kind of. ah, that's really unfair. yes, uh in any situation. and uh, it offended me that the parents hmm at some point. i understood that they could be wrong in some situation, but they never admitted it, and then my mother told me, when i got older, i asked her. why actually? well, how is this to drop authority? how to admit that you are wrong child? well, and but i really felt it clearly, and it seems to me that the relationship would be better if they didn’t also try to be so right , distant, indisputable and somewhere they recognized that yes , here, here we messed up. forgive me yet you

say about yourself that you are daddy's daughter. and why did you develop a closer emotional connection with your dad? it's hard to say why it's like this , well, in childhood yes, in childhood it seems so to me, and it didn't turn out to be e, i don't look like me anymore. mom, really. she also often said this, but hmm in some kind of intra-family. not even conflicts, but some kind of disputes over petty uh issues. uh, i don't know what program to watch on tv there. i somehow always give more support to dad, maybe dad accepted you more not only for your achievements just because, well, daughter maybe. she always learned a lot faster than her peers . before, i went, respectively, at the age of 6 in the first 5 zero, then in six months the third six months, the fourth in the summer. fifth irina was a very purposeful child. i remember, and mostly

some positive emotions, but from the fact that i achieved something, that parents never asked her forgiveness at some point. i understood that they might be wrong in some situation, but they never admitted it, then mom she told me when i got older, i asked why, actually, well, how does she decide? how to admit that you are wrong child irina polyakova here is another moment of communication at school, about which you say that you, so to speak, your feeling of loneliness. it just stuck there. and what is why? that is, when a child is not like all this of course, children, they themselves are especially not not very mature. yes, they are quite violent. and uh, such uncompromising people, let's put it this way, so they certainly do. i like it when someone different from them. yes, that is, it is some such

here. and the yes community, in which if you are something different, then you need to put a lot of effort in order to be accepted there, you put in effort. i'm definitely applying to me i'm a very uh such a uh social person. it is very important for me to be on vkontakte with others. yes, i really wanted to communicate, especially since this was not enough before school, and i was very interested. i wanted friends, i wanted to communicate. and here, but uh, on the one hand there was envy, of course. ah, yes, and moreover, the more achievements there were, the more some of this envy was included, but there were moments that were stimulated even by teachers. that is, it depends on the teachers. no, not envy. eh, more like something. well, such, uh, strengthening the demonstration of this my personality. yeah, i mean, uh, i still remember being in seventh grade. i was called to the blackboard.

he says, look, this girl is 9 years old, she wrote a test for five, and you are all on the track. you are just chocks with eyes, and well, of course, this does not cause love. yes there was guaranteed nationwide after such words. basically, it seemed to me that any person. if he wants and tries, he will also be an excellent medalist there, he will also study well. yes, in general, i have not won any international competitions. yes, no, uh, there are pilaria, that is, i did, in principle, everything the same as my peers. it just might be more efficient. yes, faster. sometimes i didn't understand better. why, actually, what doesn’t love me so much, so i tried very hard. eh, somehow deserve. yes, this is love, i don’t know what the control is. yes, they took a bicycle, they got out here. well, what not to take and how did you manage to earn love after that? one reason why? i would not want

my child, for example, to be a child prodigy, that's right, that's the danger of distortion. yes, a person is very successful in one area, usually in the area of ​​\u200b\u200bachievement. that's where he gets talent, but in terms of socialization. he suffers from his broken contacts with friends with uh of the opposite sex often. yes same as was with me because ah. i've always been great at learning, and to make friends, uh, go somewhere to meet. i was small in terms of my parents, of course. or maybe there was still a problem in the fact that such a serious age difference, that is, you were nine, and your classmates are 12 3 years old, there are a lot at this age. this is 13. these are already people who are just teenagers girls girls. and it's not so much learning in the head. how much actually, just a matter of relationships.

the first plan comes out, and you are here with yours. teeth, as if in the fact that a because i'm really very wounded, but practically from the moment i went to school. i was already, when here i am from a purely family cell. yes, let's say, she went into society. i was on par with them. who was older than me. i'm used to seeing myself the same way . that is, to me, uh, intellectually morally. i was conditionally 12 there. and here, but outwardly, of course, here. uh, it was such a baby, but with pigtails, i don’t know, and they weren’t allowed to put on makeup when i went to high school, because well, where are you going, right? this is the feeling of inconsistency. something, as if in some strange body, yes, that is, you seem to feel differently, but you look well done, and at the same time a total loser. yes, now while you listen to your classmates, what she recalls about the fact that i plan with sad eyes. she is always

focused, always busy with some sad thoughts. uh, you could see her funny only in physical education classes, that is, some kind of mobility did not appear and, uh, objectively, she was much smaller than us in height in physique. still, 3 years of difference was very felt and the blue uniform that we all wore then was objectively great for her. well, it’s just that she’s not designed for such an age, and it seems to me that every step of irina’s life brought her discomfort, the teachers really treated her and we ourselves with a certain relationship with our parents, or what? yes, so, but hmm, an additional ball in her favor due to the fact that she is, as it were, naturally younger than us. i remember that moment when at the first meeting. later there, 10-12 years after school, we saw ira, we gathered a person, probably 13 from the class, and no one

ever knows who will come. this is a small surprise. here uh. ira suddenly appeared it was perfect. here is a gorgeous woman. with such hair, of course, no one recognized her. everyone asked if this is polyakova. this is definitely polyakova. but then they hugged there. eh, it was so great. well, actually, it's nice for her. you see, this one is already more corresponding to itself. ir but such a situation, it should give rise to internal protest. well, uh, in a minute you didn’t want to, relatively speaking, slow down to say, but i won’t study, but i don’t know there, well, to stay for the second year, but now i ’m talking some kind of madness. well, there, here, enter into some kind of age correspondence, stop trying so hard, stop learning like that and get ahead. and the fact is that well, how to slow down? well, really, enough for the second year, or what? no , perfectionism did not allow, but hmm,

there were no questions about the study itself. it was interesting and easy for me. it was really interesting to me and in general yes it is easy. here if you look back, you can fix it right from childhood and say normal communication with peers was missed. and as in childhood itself, so what is probably even more important and even more difficult to catch up later. this is the teenage period. teenage early such early adolescence. yes, when you just learn to be friends normally, you learn to meet with the opposite sex. yes, you are stuffing your bumps. yes, i didn't have any of that. i have this piece, i had it completely turned off and then suddenly it turned out that everything, as if i had already grown. i'm no longer a prodigy. well, all my life i just studied and studied. and now it seems like everything is possible, but i ca n’t do anything at the age of 13. you graduated from high school and immediately entered the university. yes, but here i did not want to somehow slow down too. listen, you graduated from high school with so much stress. in the end. you

could say so, well, i mean, i’ll lie down on my side for a year, and then next year i’ll go to act no, they don’t have a closed lock at home with their parents. that is, it was still necessary to learn to learn to go in the institute. if only there were some people there and the opportunity to establish new relationships in a new team, but here i was already a little smarter. i said based on my bitter experience. who doesn't know how old i am? and it could be hidden, and at 14 it was easier, you were like makeup high heels, here i have already achieved the right to, uh, some certain appearance. i deliberately hid how old i am? and in my opinion, in the middle of the second year. it was revealed by accident, well, it was too late. in general, they already accepted me, then there is already somehow a relationship developed, and therefore it was not important to hide it very much. and uh, at the institute you slowed down the pace of training and decided to stay within the limits, so to speak. no, well, where was it

next? i slowed down at school. actually. here after that jump. well, first of all already, and when the range of items becomes much wider than at the beginning, it's already so easy over the summer. there are three textbooks not about to decide. yes? uh-huh and here is the meaning, that is, it was not an end in itself. yes, i really did it as a child because it's good it turned out, there were no alternatives, as for the students, this is understandable. that study is study, but the students are all remembered as a period of some wonderful parties of the romanovs, first of all, where marriages are tied up, well, student time. er, in most cases, what concerns you? how did i do it ? i beat off by meters first to the doors of the institute,

then to the universitet metro station, then to a transfer to the metro station, then another one, yes, that is, i fought for myself. it was a period of very tough struggle. uh, like the freedom of a parrot. uh-huh that's what i mean, uh, if at school i fought for some kind of love, friendship, the attention of classmates, then the institute period for me is a period of struggle with my parents, because. eh, classmates, everything was just fine, but then very tough resistance from the parents turned on. just what are you still uh, just learn something big, eh everything else is small. now, if everything else at school is somehow, well, there really was less of it, because, well, it’s clear that the children are schoolchildren, then here, just there were all these parties , there were some kind of trips, some kind of hikes there didn't hit. no. oh my god, i didn’t get anywhere, everything that she knew how to do well, it was to study for the study itself, there were no questions. i found it interesting and easy interesting and in general yes

easy. she felt older than her age. i was on par with them. who was older than me. i got used to myself perceive also, she fought desperately for the freedom to do as she saw fit parents accompanied me to the door of the university until the end of the second year, and in the third and fourth. i beat off the confession of the child prodigy irina polyakova by meters. or maybe it’s generally such a great trick with the strangeness of your parents, there are different ways to tie a child to yourself. here is how you can attach it. here, uh, encourage in him his ability to radiate. but here is the age difference. it's like, well, like a collar with a short leash on which you can hold your child and be guaranteed that everything will be fine with him, because he is under our control. i don't think they had such a goal

deliberately. here, yes, without consciously, someone knows something about him. well, let's listen to your friend now at the university and ekaterina met. that uh, that was the university. i don't remember exactly. on what course, but it seems to me that, probably, on the first, but some general companies and in fact, at first, of course, i did not know that she is a prodigy. but the fact that she was younger than all of us. this i saw. naturally. i asked a question at some point. and how of course, i was very surprised and even a little envious, because this is in general, well, in my opinion. uh, not everyone can, yes, that is, at least at the institute, i don’t know how it was at school, but there was no feeling at the institute. that ira is some kind of a monster yes, as is sometimes the perception of people who are not alike, no, she was absolutely equal to equal members of the team team. uh, somewhere maybe

even some concessions were made precisely because she is younger, she is actually very fast. uh, she was successful in the areas that she had picked up, that is, she, uh, almost everything that she started to do. she was very interested in everything, and she dug like a real soldier and achieved very good results in the case of cheese. and i would probably say that this is her status of a child prodigy or that she met some things earlier in her life on her way to life. ah, in my opinion opened up an opportunity for her. uh, somewhere it can be more risky in personal life. in terms of their health somewhere, probably, and briefly. ira is just a wonderful person. e is a person with whom i would probably want to communicate for the rest of my life. whether it seemed to catherine that the person

is more risky, i don’t know if it can be called riskiness rather, but i’m used to the fact that nothing was given to me for nothing, therefore, and in those situations where many who are probably not used to difficulties, they just say so which is not at all not for me. i understand that not a little more and that's it. it can be said, well, to call such a plus this acquisition, let's say this situation of early development. i believe that yes, it certainly helps, but it helps, and in work it helps in studies in some achievements. yes in a career, well, there is a situation where it interferes? in what, and in relationships in general, yes, when, as i say, completely different factors are turned on, where it is not necessary to suffer for a long time in order for something to work out, yes, and you would still try to deserve habits you dig at what moment how do you do you think your

childhood is over? o what a difficult question? did it start sooner, yes? well, perhaps when i entered the institute, because there it really began to be another story for me. yes, there was more communication. there was much more positive than in school there was this opportunity to enjoy some moments of things, and not all. than i would like, yes, because ah, at first it was quite difficult. mslu screens. it really took a lot of work. yes, plus the work is definitely some kind of conflict, as i said. fight for freedom with parents. that's but in general it's much more positive already time for me here's a quote. your you constantly lives from some achievement to

achievement from success to success. and if something goes wrong, then a very big breakdown happens. and when you began to collide, for the first time here. with such a break, or what? yes, it turns out, but not only can be in a relationship. in general, that something may not work out with this, in principle, i sometimes encountered at school and at the institute, and it was not fatal for me. that is, i just i got used to achieving, yes, that is, it did n’t work there from the first, i’ll try again. i really was very pushy in this sense. in general , some may be beyond expectation. yes, the fact that there was some kind of fleur and a child prodigy, from whom at first i tried very hard to get rid of, yes, and hide it, and then, when the institute began to develop in a career. yes, at the beginning i really was the youngest employee there, i became the youngest member of the board of directors in a large company of americans that i work for 27

years, but at some point, this realization really comes that there was some kind of rocket launch. yes, and, probably, something like that was expected from me. that's brilliant, but impossible. they were getting a nobel prize for some kind of discovery. and i, well, not only did i choose a field in which, in principle, well, this is very practical. yes, but they have already begun to catch up with you somewhere, to catch up with others, and i remember it was such a shock for me when i realized that i’m already a leader, i take a person who was born when i graduated from high school what a nightmare why exactly their youth shocked you so much? well, because, uh, i'm used to living with empathy. yes, i'm used to being the smallest, then the youngest, the most advanced here, but here the op is no longer there, but this fact that, as a matter of fact, you have caught up, maybe in terms of results. why, you didn’t make any discovery into space, you didn’t fly the nobel

prize, you didn’t receive it. and what is it? yes? this is a disappointment. why me? lord so. tried so hard spent on what was it advance? well, what was the lead in fact ? i don't really like uh, hmm wonder what would happen if yes, because it seems to me that this is a very thankless task. but, of course, it hurts self-esteem so much, yes, when you are always the first, the first time, then the second time, that is. maybe she’s just tired of these constant achievements , or maybe she already realized that enough is enough for her graduation thesis , the whole wall has already ended. you can look for yourself in something else, and what else is a family? for me it has always been very important. i wanted relations. especially since it's just, uh, yes, as we discussed while everyone turned them on. uh, i

was little and i couldn't. uh -huh and when it became possible, when he fought off this chance for himself, well, when she ran away from her parents for 18 years, and you ran away from them, she ran away. and what did you do? well, as packed things escaped, and there they shouted, that's just over my corpse. you will not cross this threshold. no no. no, you can't. well, there was a similar story, yes, an apartment or what, right? i rented an apartment to start with a finger. yes, i waited 18 years, and all the time i was very clearly set this boundary that we are responsible for you. you are still small, so you will be 18 years old when they realized that 18 soon they began to talk. no , when we marry you, yes, then they said, no. the first word is more valuable than the second. i was for justice. but go on the idea, well, well, 18 years turned out great. but it seems to me that you

had to repeatedly get into trouble, what is called in a relationship was like this, but now she is married for the second time. yes, you have a son from your first marriage, like me i understand, yes, and now there is. here come the current spouse. and how long have you been together for 2 years. let's now listen to your spouse dmitry to continue some such story, how everything developed, then we went to this. everything happened very quickly for us, we liked it so much. yes, we must live together. well, yes, that's all, and in fact, how we became with her, how i arrived once. here's home. so i'm from there. as a matter of fact, he doesn’t leave this house anymore for 2 years. i'm on my own just a bar. yes, i have a zodiac sign and so outdo me. what are you doing is very difficult. and rina i still have her point of view yes, because, well, she also lived, she lives very interesting. a very interesting life. yes, but these points do not always converge in the family. and of course, when we start arguing about something, then, of course, this. it's straight italian passion

is normal. he will never back down in his life. nothing, that is, i don’t know what she would want. let 's just say she does it anyway. and from this, of course, sometimes there are some conflicts, 'cause i might be there as a man or whatever i'm uh looking for some kind of not that compromise. i always well first of all, thought of some kind of security of something. yes, then irina she just doesn’t see what is called a barrier, yes, that is, she, i don’t know there. here, if she wants to. i don’t know, there, it seems to me, if you set yourself the goal of flying into space. indeed, er, there is experience and intelligence. what is called intellect? yes, but there is a female mind, wisdom about this is generally different. as they say, the planes are different. and how did you this is something to navigate, and did you have any excessive requirements, for example, for

men, ears, they should not know something better there, they don’t know yours, there were definitely no excessive requirements. rather, it was this fear of loneliness that was underestimated, and the fear of feeling yourself again rolled back. yes, in that feeling that you are alone against everyone, yes and the complete absence of any experience. yeah, i don’t know relationships and either the experience of some kind of unhappy love, yes, when you show some feelings, they don’t perceive you. but and i really, really wanted to love. i wanted to be loved and definitely on a rake. i advanced. but because, uh, i couldn’t recognize something clumsily, and plus, in combination with perseverance, oh, which i also said to dima a in situations in which a more a is already, well, a girl with some experience in relationships. i would just take a step back and say. oh no, it's not mine at all. no, i believed

in success to the last. by the way, here is the question of your coming to psychology, which now, as i understand it, you are engaged in serious even some the second education was decided, yes, to receive it with this psychological bias. i understand that you when it is required with the help of psychologists. that is, what happened, at what second? eh, such a crisis happened that you needed it? it was a crisis, but in my personal life, and certainly, uh, probably, such a kind of overhaul, which is long. yes , there are two things. that is, i really worked very hard, but i tried to build relationships. they turned out very badly. i realized that in some way it does not run in circles, from this. i am i tried to go to work to work even more even longer there, in this case, and so on and in some way. i just had to finish. so , yes, i turned to psychotherapists for help for a short time, then i left it. i thought it was somehow? well, it's

unworthy, isn't it? well, i'm on my own, i'm here all on my own, but even once you realize it with your head from e, the same pattern of behavior.