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skier and a happy person, but everything could have turned out quite differently 8 years ago, life subjected him to a difficult test, while climbing elbrus, he stumbled and fell down. 2 km. rolled down a rocky slope and survived. for more than a day he fought for life, suffered from thirst, lost 10 kg weight stopped feeling his legs, the rescue operation lasted more than 10 hours, and that's it. this time did not leave him. hope legs could not be saved. and it radically changed his life, and for the better. now he continues to go to the mountains, he is

professionally engaged in skiing and lives on prostheses. taught him the basics. never give up and always go to the intended goal, not paying attention to the obstacle alone with everyone , mountaineer and photographer sergei alexander hello. glad. welcome to our studio you know, i'm always very interested in people who, uh, some kind of communicating points of view, but interpret misfortunes as a new impetus to life. but in general, almost a gift. i would even say fate. and why i do not know how to answer this question. this is by far the most difficult question. although he probably expect the thing is that when it happened, yes, uh, well, it was a state of shock. here i am, there without legs with a temperature. i feel very bad. it's physically a complete nightmare. yes, that is, you do not know how to live and you are physically ill, well, in general, everything should

collapse and the inside must have been bad. well, that 's normal, yes, but that didn't happen to me. i don't know how to explain it. hey, that's a big present for me. this uh, uh, i was already happy, then in a completely terrible state with the simplest things a window opened. i heard the birds there. and i felt good. from this. i was happy. eh, the simplest things. this i regard as a gift, because i do not know the answer. yes, where did it come from and and for what and why? and because well, i'm not something that i did n't deserve. i didn't do anything for it because sometimes you find the strength in yourself to pull yourself out of the swamp. there, well, somehow you do something, and it was. well, for free you got the feeling of a gift, but you know what i might suspect, maybe because the chance that you could lose this life is completely and it was also

quite large. maybe this is not a chance. this is a rough statistic - more than 90% in such a situation dies within an hour and a half, respectively, live 32 hours. it's a problem, and during all those hours of knowing that it's, well, rather, you would rather send there than stay here, and therefore there is that, well, as if the news that there will be an amputation, it did not cause any big problems. i'm alive, well, in general, what you went into it, well, i don't know, call it a tragedy. for me. this is indeed a very big adventure. it sounds completely crazy and well speaking of tragedy, most recently before this injury. i didn't have a mother. that was a real tragedy for me. it's something i can't explain to go through and it's become so serious for me. why did she die so hard. it's cancer and it's

scary when your loved one dies. so hard for me for several years was a key issue in understanding the world in an attempt to understand it. yes, in general, in every minute, i felt that it was important for me to understand what death is. why is this at all? eh, it was so important. i counted in general everything that is possible on this topic to understand what death is, what is beyond these limits of the concept, or everything in general, that is, i tried to approach this issue from all sides. well, the most productive way. well, this is the key to essential psychotherapy, the idea is that in general, death does, the very concept of presence in our life makes our life valuable. ah, when an aunt with a scythe is standing nearby, you begin to understand what is really valuable to you, what is important? and what? well what's the point if she's around as well and for me it wasn't a word

for a few years it was straight. well, that's the question that was pounding every minute, perhaps that's why i'm there in the woods in the mountains. yes high and scary and in no case was i looking for death, in general i don’t like risk, i can’t stand it. yes, i always buckle up, but beyond the limits. i'm interested in extremely simple and and it's just interesting that literally that's before the ascent. yes , the next morning we were going to elbrus, it was generally a training ascent, we had very serious plans. in the evening, the thought suddenly comes to me that death is insanely interesting. this is the most interesting event that can happen to you in your life, it, well, sounds crazy, but the meaning is that, as it were, and at this moment all questions open up. that is, as if everything falls into place, everything is for real. here uh. you are talking about this e fall that happened, that it was, so to speak, needed

elementary attention for that, that is, it was not some kind of direct extreme extreme question. it's just that they caught a leg in a leg and, as i understand it, for their own and further, but these seconds fell down. do you remember them? yes, very good, and again it's hmm well, i fell for a long time seconds. yes, it's about 2 km. that is, i flew without a single, not like nadezhda without any, as it were, some kind of ability to cling to this world. that is, it’s just sausage and twists you, and such a thought came and not thoughts. eh, it's very straight forward that i'm not trying. it's like reflecting. it was really there, uh, long-term. i this feeling, realized that e. well, nothing depends on me anymore. it's a feeling of trust. well, that's how it will stop me, well, thank god it won't stop. well

, it's not mine either. this is me flying in absolutely trusting, because around was not strange. i absolutely trust that it was not scary around, very scary. this is a paramount feeling, this is a terrible fear. ah, there is fear. uh, when you leave your comfort zone, relatively speaking, that is, eh, and there you are completely lost to this world. it's very scary. in any case, this does not go away and the question. can you in this fear? well, live, yes, continue to continue. uh, well, sometimes fear completely fetters. uh knocks you into a brick. and you turn into nothing exactly. yes, but sometimes you can work in this state. and this is my crazy sport. it helps me. and i am i am very uh, i'm afraid of this yes k- to go to the start. dive into a state of absolute e, not like discomfort, well, fear,

but when you manage to work there in this zone. this is very cool. it's really, really great. this is a huge energy. there is no limit. let's listen now to your friend dima, who was just with you at that time in the mountains, who actually made a lot of efforts to save you, as he remembers this moment. that is just for now. we were still on the slope, and well, i found it. well, when there was a panic, uh, respectively, the panic passes both for me and for him, and then we begin to act, more comrades came up. we brought things. and when it's more or less everything. well , it was ready for the night, then the mood was better. it remains unknown, only when the rescuers will come, but we were in touch with them, and therefore, uh, well, too. it was obvious what they came up with in the morning or

a little later. well, after coming to my senses, again, uh, everything was, well, it wasn’t drawn in black colors, but from above we were already thinking, how to return to the city. how to arrange life there? well, from such things, e would be there. well, yes, we have been friends with this for more than 20 years, probably, and have not changed at all. no, he will say. so he became more serious and only in this respect, but his own. feelings of life and here is this endless optimism. he remained the same as at 12 years old. and, of course, i don’t perceive seryoga as a disabled person with a limited ability. really it is impossible to apply the word disabled person

to you, your possibilities are not limited. it’s just that god knows what you are doing, which people don’t do with their legs, so to speak. but you even somehow insist on it. here are your quotes. you say don't expect me. there are people who are unfortunately disabled for the four years that i live without legs. i visited the mountains of norway on volcanoes, kamchatka, i can walk 10 hours in a row on a slope with a thirty-kilogram backpack. i have space prostheses, german. in short, iron legs are cool. you might think that this is such a self-incantation. here i am disabled. and that's even better. yes, i don’t know, somehow i live with what i have, yes, using the opportunities that there are, it’s all technical difficulties. there are a lot of things in the life of every person . er, well, any technical problems. yeah, i don't know, the sink broke, uh. the disorder is something i

have a broken leg disorder, well, the first year and a half. it really hurts, that is, like walking on prostheses. this is tryndets excuse me, especially there for the first time i reached the kitchen. uh, i drenched, then literally oh, well, from pain, and on crutches, but at the same time this disgrace of the last happy, because i can walk. that's all. it's in this nonsense. i can do that, well, it's a matter of training. this is a question. e my efforts. the chances of his salvation were negligible, rough statistics are small, more than 90% in such a situation dies within an hour and a half, respectively, live 32 hours. it's a problem. and during all those hours of knowing that it's, well, it's like, you'd rather go there than stay. here real tragedies. he considers the death of his mother, she

was dying very hard. it's cancer and it's scary when your loved one dies. so hard, he is calm about life on prostheses, because the quotes you say, do not expect from me. there are people of an unfortunate disabled person, iron legs - that's cool. i live with the fact that there are a lot of technical problems in the life of every person. yes, i don't know, the sink broke. uh, disorder there, my leg broke disorder. life without borders sergey alexandrov has an amazing photo yours right after you were rescued. uh, so the rescuers lowered after 32 hours from the mountain 32 hours of waiting. uh, the doctors stated in the hospital. all have lost 10 kg. just for these 20. yes, for these 32 hours of waiting, when the legs are broken for a long time, irreparable blood bleeds and so on. here you lie

smiling, and i saw my friends, that in general it was also an absolutely amazing feeling. i am insanely losing you see, and it was not something that i had to cry out all over there, but somehow. so i was just very glad to see my friends. e people who communicated with me there, and i managed to immediately start a conversation with a living person to me, then, crowds of friends climbed into this same hospital until night, then over the fence. it was cool overall. for some reason, you remember, after all, a special impression, when a butterfly flew into your intensive care unit. well, this is just an example, it’s just, probably, it’s just very beautiful, and i remember that there’s not even a butterfly like that. a dead moth. and just, well, yes, a butterfly appeared. well, yes. well, it's just, uh, this is it, when you're in intensive care, but you don't i think pumpkins, it seems, like this, but i was really pleased that this world exists in general, and it is so

big and beautiful there, that there is something else there, because in intensive care there is an eerie place there, in general, there are people next to you constantly dying, or something else. well, there, a nightmare in general, here is and here is something living wonderful. and these are the little things that made me very happy, and again, you understand , everyone asks me. uh, motivational secret. here, come on, tell me how it is, too. yes, in the same case. well, not exactly the same. let's hard, but this is a gift is a freebie. i don’t know where it came from, and what it is, well, in my life there was such a very simple plot, but at the same time, for me it is subjectively very valuable almost mystical experience. i was once still a student, but in practice i was in a terrible, creepy , so nasty mood. here you were, there was a well, i wanted to spit such a nasty one all right and it was cold, it was so chilly. and here i am walking and

suddenly, uh, suddenly, from behind, as if something is hugging me, it’s warm, warm, and i turn around, and there sun. it's like it's a gift, when you don't deserve it for free. do you want like yes? well, a well? yes, and you are hugged by something like that. i must say you have an amazing story. e of your marriage, but because a year before something happened, well, let's call it a misfortune. and so, although, this is the case when there was no participation before the misfortune helped, and you broke up with yours. eh, wife. that is, she was your girl, as i understand it, or she was not even a girl anymore, or you were an unsuccessful attempt to court her. well in short, she was not near you just

when you were in the hospital here, so she reappeared on the horizon. eh, tell me what it was like, it's impossible at all. yes, that is, it does not fit into any social norms. well, it's just, well, before that we had met for a very short time, we had only just met and somehow it didn't work out there. she was there, she had her own problems, she wasn’t up to me at all, and in general, we broke up. and then she found out about me. here is something on the internet somewhere. and just came to the hospital of her words. how exactly did she say, because otherwise, well, she didn’t know how to, that is. she just came to regret came. here is the key word. this is the worst. what can be done? e with a man in such a situation to feel sorry for him, i learned how to become disabled in the head. here, uh, and it's parts. well, probably not in part, maybe in general, well, as it were, to a greater extent. she

saved me from that, you know. and you're lying, you're so helpless. well, really objectively helpless, really objectively hard and you ask, well, someone, but not a glass of water. i'm just this image. it seems to me very accurate, and naturally, they immediately serve you. well, i'm helping you. here you are lying like this, can i have an egg there, something else there pizza there, here, and here with olives, here and there, here you are, here it is and this one and chocolate and candy. ai let's go, and then, and then you know what happens at some point, and people are watching, yes, you yourself can reach for a glass and such. well, it’s easier for you to give me and such an insult arises, right away instantly. here, but this one, well, how am i so unhappy. and you, and you can't give me a glass. here and this a-a man turns into a

completely monster moment. it happens hmm right away and eventually. it turns into a human. he himself is no longer capable of anything, but a terrible resentment for the whole world for his loved ones, constant snot and a complete lack of personal strength. this is it's scary. it happens very quickly uh-huh that's unfortunately, and polina in plain text. you don't interest me at all. just in rigid and without wheel form not only that, she continues to do so. it can be very difficult for me to be so uninteresting. in the literal sense, well, they milk it, well, if not how to say it, maybe yes, it’s wrong to formulate this here. she feels very subtly when you yourself can, but when you pull someone's strings, you start to pull. she immediately feels it and this thread at once and that's it. that's when you are well, when i was sick, especially after and when i'm tired after training, well, i really want to be

looked after there, well, all that. here. unfortunately, this is not about her. no, you understand, she is very affectionate and gentle with me, but this is when you yourself have the necessary energy to, well, not be at all. exactly this. get up and then we ’ll talk hard, but in my case it’s exceptionally effective, that is, so you got on your feet and the elections started, it didn’t seem like it was, right? a year later you made her a very beautiful proposal in a balloon at that moment you already had dentures, right? yeah. although we went for a ride in a wheelchair for half a year, it was terrible. yes, she had to carry it there. and this is very hard. i was

in a wheelchair for six months. i even managed to, uh, i went to the city center and went alone and even found a job for myself. although i didn’t have problems with finances at that moment, my friends were incredibly able, including money, for the first couple of years. i didn't think it was such a problem at all. that's why they are needed for some reason, but i really loved that i didn’t want to and i love photographs. here, too, then i found there on on the first floor in the studio, all this was possible, but nevertheless, to do photography even in a wheelchair, but it is very difficult with a wheelchair user. that is the first time. you thought that i want to understand development, as it were, when the pros appeared then from the very beginning you thought that there would be prostheses, or did you initially think not well , okay, then you need to get used to life in a wheelchair. i don’t know at what point something happened there, this is from the category of technical solutions. and this is a big adventure dentures is here i have

very favorite joke. it's true, my wife joked again, but she keeps complaining that she has one closet with these very things, and i have two with legs. that's it. it's really like that, it's just a blockage, it's for every function for every movement you need new legs. and thanks to my prosthetists. my god, what would he do without them. they just don’t come up with anything , and not for what purposes each leg, but first of all, it’s for each function, that is, unfortunately, in general, our legs are a unique creation in general and any prostheses. it's just, as if trying to get closer. accordingly, to walk you need one, to walk over rough terrain another, to walk with a load of the third, to run the fourth and for my beloved to ski. this is fundamentally different. and whose idea was to get married anywhere, but in the forest on rough terrain. i

don’t remember whose. but of course, polina was worried that i screwed up there. it's just that i'm a very uncomfortable person. i can e live in the forest on a tree without everything. well, i'm generally fine, a. well, a wedding is such an event, when do you need everything to be right? yes, so that people can wear beautiful dresses and shoes, and here is some kind of forest. yes, it, of course, scared her, but i'm a wedding in a restaurant. well i have a lot of videos of weddings in the restaurant. i'm already yes, i'm working. and now i'm tired of seeing. well, as it were, i'm not what to see, i'm starting to work. i come to the restaurant and start working. it was somewhere to escape. from this one, probably, yes, and in general, it was absolutely perfect, because we managed it was everything done, yes, that is, we secured ourselves from the rain and from everything it was your wedding photos

on the internet. they are truly extraordinary beauties. i'm insanely sorry that we can't show them in our program, because you forbade us to show your wife, there is such a thing. and what is it is difficult to say, well, firstly, she does not want to. how about convincing her? this is a completely pointless exercise. yes, you understood that. here, yes, that you will not wait for a glass of water from me. you can do it all there. why doesn't she want to? and this a big load, in fact, when well, not that you get recognized. i can probably handle it, but it's not just that. hmm, it's like a different world and different energy. things are changing so much and i'm not sure if i can handle it? yes there is yes he is sure that you ask for disabilities in your head, well, give me a glass of water for someone, and of

course, they immediately serve you. well, they help you. here you are lying like that, can i have an egg there, something else there, pizza there, and this one, this one . and this one, and chocolate and candy, and people are watching. yes, you can reach the glass yourself. how am i so unhappy. and you, and you can't give me a glass. here and this a-a man turns into a completely monster moment. sergey has more prostheses than outfits. at his wife. i have a very favorite. joke. it's true, the wife joked again, and she keeps complaining that she has one closet with this very thing with things. i have two with legs for every activity. he has a separate pair of legs, to walk you need one to walk on rough terrain the other to go out with a load the third to run the fourth and to let my we ski. it's fundamentally different life without borders sergei alexandrov have you had a

daughter? uh-huh and this uh set some new goals for you. yes, it generally changes everything. the most remarkable thing is that, you know, in childhood, you really love the new year, your birthday. yes, and then you become old and rotten. and it's like the holidays at some point stand. it's just like you're losing a holiday, you're losing it. well, he, well, he gave a cool birthday there, he called back to everyone there. and when a child appears, everything returns, the magic returns and the new year returns and now i have the opportunity to make a holiday for her, yes, to make joy. it's just incredible i know that you travel a lot, and you travel with your family, including, well , for example, you drive a car. yes, of course, you drove her to no, i didn’t just drive her. uh, actually, i rode a bike. and i went, seriously, it was a long time

well, six. traveled 8,000 kilometers a year . well, yes, it's 50 kilometers a day there. it it's about average. well, you got into the car and began to drive it, realizing that you have a responsibility to the family, because, well, the husband needs to be the father somehow, because it looks convenient somehow to say that at any moment you can say, change uh, i need to go to the mountains hmm and what is this place of solitude for you, which you, but still it is, well, at any moment i can’t anymore, because i have a wife and a daughter. and this is hmm the basic part of my life is inexchangeable. yeah, i mean, if they're doing well, then i can have fun. here are the sets for entertainment or solitude after all. well, look at the mountains in the figures that walked before the injuries. i don't walk anymore, but it's a very important part for me to find the state when it's so difficult. yes, i have to find it. and well

, some incredible resources are important to me. i want to search through it, which is probably why i do this completely insane sport. yes, and we started training when the injury had already occurred. yes , you didn't get very close to them. i didn't know what it was. that is, i, uh, we were engaged in kitur, that is, with a heavy backpack descended from high mountains. but this is a completely different technique. here, uh, skiing technique is classic. this is completely different. that is, just when you have already stood up on prostheses, go skiing. it has become a kind of test for you too, will i find more resources in myself? well, in this case, well, this one and this too, but in this case it's also a thrill. so i wanted to return to the topic of the prosthesis, because in fact, now about the fact that they have a full wardrobe of these prostheses, well, prostheses, this is it's not cheap, that's what and how. i know at

first the prostheses helped you raise money. the fact is that it is not so bad in our kingdom state. so, in fact, everyone makes normal prostheses. well, you don’t need to think that a person there must definitely run with an outstretched hand, and so on. all problems that are solvable are sometimes difficult to solve, but they are solvable, but uh, well, uh, a man helped me. it’s just half a million for me in the river yes, here it is, as if on prostheses, on which you can immediately walk quickly, well and beautifully and over rough terrain. and this briquette gave money. i don’t know, i’m extremely grateful to him, because then i learned this very much. oh, this was through friends of my acquaintances. uh, that's just what a person who knew what such a problem is and will say how can i help. we need good dentures. i went to the prosthodontist. here's what you can do here super-duper good. really. on what you can walk at all and not think about anything, uh, he

drew the numbers. and this man took and gave me this money in your life was the first, but that's to that's how you know, this is how the universe opened up for a meeting. e, in the literal sense of the word, when a lot of money is needed and a person appears who speaks in and don’t think about anything. it's hard for me to say the first one, so i'm afraid, we're just approaching such a question. in fact, that's all for me now. this time helps. just an incredible amount of people and not just money and, well, purely organizational and, well, just support, because , uh, i don't even know. start thanking because it's, well, really fantastic. did you know that the world is arranged like this or would you be more ready to

say so, well, i mean, you know, like when a person relies on himself on himself and only on himself or suddenly discovers for himself that, in fact, there is help everywhere and always such a key, which is extremely important for me, he appeared precisely after the injury, because until the morning he, as i said, was such a direct key to the world for me. it was the concept that what is death is it is extremely important and now and i feel and know that it is somewhere here and it seems to me that this is very important. right to know about it. but it appeared. well , in short, i'll try to eat such a philosopher, vladimir solovyov, he wrote such an article. about the meaning of love, a very small article, and he speaks. what is love? this is very. well, this is when you

idealize the object of love, well, it seems to you that he is better, that he is like that in general, so you decided in an unnatural light. this is a fact, and then solovyov makes an assumption. hmm, this is a huge hope for me. and he says, what if there is an unnatural light, maybe, uh, we can see the world at this moment? eh yes, well, the way it is, in fact , the way it is conceived for me is the key that everywhere her people try through it. uh, it's not that the key. it's hope, it's the hope that the world is such that it can be understood in this way, so this side turns to you, god forbid , i'm afraid. eh, it’s directly categorical to talk about this when you know that you expect something from the human world, and then you hammer this true one. this is true. the truth is generally, once i start the truth. here immediately tomatoes in me, please wake me up. let's, you know,

now let's listen to, uh, the person that you met on your way. this is your prosthetist, just mikhail moskovtsev. let's hear him come. he brought it. so let's say, they brought it, it is clear that the person was tired for a long time hanging out at the clinics , but still there was no hopelessness in his eyes. that is, he did not smell of hopelessness, when a person is interested, he wants something, he wants something, that is, he wants to get up. he wants to get back into the ranks, to take care of his deed. he goes through all the stages of rehabilitation faster. that's just sergei, probably, he said such a thing, go a step. he walked 10 and was told to walk two kilometers. that is, he gave all his best, everything he could from himself, he did what he can practically, i’m more sure that

most of the same age, with the same problems, can do the same, but his relationship, rather, such people lead to yourself. here he is. one of those. he said that i worked all day with two cameras around my neck, like a correspondent photojournalist. i know that to carry two heavy cameras on you and be on your feet all day. i had no doubt that he might throw something else, but i did not know that it would again be mountain horror. we rush, but you also learned to dance. oh, listen i'm generally lucky, uh amazing story, uh participate. i was invited as an understudy in a feature film to shoot this film about a man. just like me, this is almost an autobiography

, almost such a person is. this is a terrible beast in terms of sports, in general, i just don’t know, here it is it took a month after the amputation to get up, alpine skiing, sometimes it’s such a fantasy. yes, uh, and uh, i was doing an understudy and it was an interesting situation, what to dance? i didn’t know how, especially in prostheses, but according to the plot, it was necessary to remove it in one day. first we dance like i don't know how the first time, and then a few years have passed. and i'm already simply gorgeous, just a master yes, yes, yes, that was wonderful. it was very pleasant to dance. e with a beautiful girl who knows how to help and guide you. it was wonderful, came home. of course, we are with polina. she dances very well with me in general. eh, well, something didn't go any further. i don't know, maybe skiing takes a lot of time. in short, it seems like it's generally

the thought that came to your mind to go skiing. first time this. well, i tried skiing. i don't remember how long? well, i just tried it there friends went. me too well, try that too. if friends went, you immediately went to some serious results. you already had 2 years of skating, there were awards, including including, and bronze medals there at some competitions and as i know that now you have a task in front of you to participate in the 2018 paralympics there. well, that is, you are somehow further more why i don’t even know, that’s the question. how would, how otherwise in general, that is. well, in general, i just didn’t expect that big sport is such an energy that attracts me very much. it came as a surprise to me that this is the one for the energetik which is very hard to find anywhere else and when it does it's unbelievable. this is a huge power. i want

invite us to stop now and listen to the skier maya simanov, and this is a skiing process with a visual impairment, but let's listen, how did she take your arrival, so to speak, how she watched you, that the boy is completely incomprehensible with legs without legs. that is, i knew that well, absolutely nothing is visible, even to me a professional. here, and i say, i choose. what are you, he needs to know here, i don’t know, so he chose the same, said, thanks and left. let's all earrings, it's hidden. absolutely. he is so gentle the air is so rude, speaking sound-voices completely. this is real brutality. she is completely invisible. but hmm, so we have it even among ourselves. uh, they called the tourists. it would seem that everything, well, well, well, he has no middle ground for everything. he, in my opinion, does not feel tired until he falls without strength, then he becomes quiet for a while. he is so hooked, and on the mountain ly. that it already

breaks without them. he cannot live without it. eh, then he, in my opinion, is the kind of person who should take take a certain peak. he is generally like that. the money for the first prostheses was given to sergei by a stranger . he just gave me a briquette of half a million. yes, here on and, as it were, on prostheses, on which you can immediately walk quickly, well and beautifully and along a crossed month. and this briquette gave money. i don't know he learned to dance on prosthetic legs to dance. i did not know how, especially in prostheses. and it was necessary to film the plot in one day. first we dance like i don't know how the first time, and then a few years have passed. and i'm already generally gorgeous just a master yes, yes, yes, it was wonderful. very nice to dance. e with a beautiful girl who knows how to help

and guide you. it was wonderful. eh, i came home. of course we danced. she dances really well for me. well, something didn't go any further. now his main thing. hello alpine skiing. i went to my current coach and he said yes, skiing, try mountain skiing. well, he is also crazy with us, so he is an absolutely wonderful person. so, well, uh, and we tried it and it was again very painful. but it's almost immediately to feel anticipation is this, that state of falling in love, yes, when you start to feel the image, how should it be? i didn't expect big sport to be like that. and this is such an energy life without borders sergey alexandrov seryozha, but for me your conclusion is still curious. you said that now you take

responsibility for everything that happens. if i would, probably, be enlightened, if well, right, this is, well, responsibility. this is one of the key e concepts. if you think about it like that, it immediately comes to the fact that we are mortal - this is very deep, but it starts simple. well, i'm very mom. yes, it did help. she trusted me and let me really decide. e of the smallest childhood. uh, really responsible for what i do. eh, there was such a case very revealing for me, i remember, and it was when i was less than 5 years old. i really wanted to go alone with mushrooms. well, at the age of 5 , a child wants to go looking for mushrooms alone. well, this is crazy. yes, but, uh, i told my mother that i’ll get to the prosika there 300 m, so i myself and well, i’ll be back. i, uh, it's myself i really want to, and she got me steve a the fact is that later, as i later found out, all the returns are there for my mother, almost this one, t- you mean,

a fool let go of a small child, the weight of one is generally, go there, here. uh, i end up hearing this story that my mom we god dandelion took the villas literally and said if anyone at all, if he finds out that here was sarah yes he should come himself i trust him. and i came happy, i remember these two mushrooms all my life. here, yes, it is, uh, i did what i promised. i reached the clearing, and returned. i knew that my mother would worry, but here hmm and this is a question, yes, responsibility at that moment. yes, i was responsible for myself at the age of 5. now i have a little daughter, and i realized that this is the most difficult thing in fact and the most difficult thing for her that i can offer her. now, uh, it's really, really hard. to make a choice, uh, to take responsibility for this, is it necessary, how to dose or something? yes, that is a lot. well

, you can't very little, too, you can't, because it won't. well, whatever it is, it's important, it's very important to convey to her that this is real. here, as if it's you. only you can decide. well, i don't know how difficult it is to decide. actually, when the baby comes, well, before the baby comes. you know how everything is, how everyone works, how to educate him, as soon as he appears, all this he immediately knows nothing, nothing at all. she came into this world all that i can do is to be present, as it were. that is, i have the feeling that it has already taken place here and my task. well that is, well, well, what can i, well love some tools to offer? yes, including there accept, but she is already here, she has already taken place. i look, here she is. i just can't believe it with such eyes. she's already here, it's fantastic. i just didn't know that and the children they already are.

is work a place where you sell your life for money? 9 out of 10 people with whom you have to deal are impenetrable cretins everyone always does everything through one place and the sooner you understand this, the easier it will be for you to live like this , the popular blogger, the author of the book, extravagant and biting in her statements, says, an ordinary resident of st. petersburg, a teacher of german, having started a page on the internet. she very soon became an authority for tens of thousands of her readers, without being a professional psychologist. every week, strictly on fridays , she answers questions from people who can only trust her with their most burning problems. how to choose the right husband? is it worth it to get divorced?

how to find mutual understanding with your own children on any issue? she has an original and unexpected answer. but she herself is not at all a model of a successful woman in her past is long-term alcoholism, which she speaks openly about during unsuccessful marriages, the last of which broke up six months ago, and her teenage daughter suffered from severe anorexia nervosa and almost died both healthy and sick, and mother and someone else's uncle cannot be robbed, and you can deceive sharp statements paradoxical views on life and relationships between people, annoying many, self-confident tone, some readers idolize her, others accuse her of cynicism, but no one who met this woman does not remain indifferent to her alone with everyone

, sofya pochetova, known on the internet as malka lorenz . hello glad to welcome you, we wanted to inquire first. and how many years ago, this block actually appeared in 2005. uh, i got my first block. uh, hmm. it wasn't even lj . it wasn't even any. er, it wasn't some popular platform. was it a rushechka, if anyone knows what it is? uh, and it was considered very unprestigious back then, but i didn't know about it, so i went there, and for you it's important that prestigious, which is not prestigious, when i realized that such a concept exists. yes, of course, my first post - it was some kind of poem that i managed to remember, naturally not my own, in my opinion. it was tennis. e is a poem that begins with the words there, the highest meaning of interweaving, troubles. hmm such think the first post. here, well, in general since then, my position has not wavered at all, but anyway, here are your, uh, so to

speak, the location of your texts on various platforms is no longer important. how important are they caught in a second. a large audience that began to ask you questions and demand some advice from you. and here is this twist. uh, how funny he was to you there or expected, but buddy and why did you hmm agree so to speak that yes, i probably will. come on, it was completely unexpected, firstly, secondly, it happened not like that. it's been my friend for a long time. e, st. petersburg writer lara galya is the author of three excellent novels. and in general, also a very readable author, ma. she performs in a slightly different genre. that is they consider me to get angry and indignant, hmm, and in general, to shake things up somehow, but they consider her, rather, on the contrary, in order to, uh, get a portion of some such, uh, more humble and philosophical look, but since the writer. she is good and considers her very willingly. this idea. the first one came to her mind. that is, i actually

stuck on, this is not my project. uh-huh, i said, come on, we'll do it together good investigators got queues. and you immediately defined this role for yourself, because it has no effect. she understood herself. this is not a you couldn’t live differently, that is, you say they read you in order to get angry, to get annoyed, i already had such an image, and it was too late to change it, but it developed because you are who you are. yes, you do you like to piss off? no, i'm just saying what i think, but what you think is so paradoxically so biting that it's annoying, it's annoying, firstly in form, because not everyone is used to harsh language. all the same. it could be said. yes, in a completely different way. and this it would be great to go and even hmm, on the contrary, they would say that thanks for comforting me. but when i say, it's not your mission to console, yes, keep the attention, the mission. how would you phrase open sores and hmm uh, split spots to find? yes, you know, it seems to me that

today's, and the world is with the advent. this is with the emergence of the sphere blog actually, uh in a sense, responding to a quote that uh, endiorhole has, who said that every person has the right to 15 minutes of fame, so, in fact , u now it touched her pistol genre, including so to speak, and there and any social networks. we have opened this one, but the opportunity for you. this is a joyful opportunity to have these 15 minutes of glory e. well, it is clear that they do not last 15 minutes. well, this is 15 minutes of fame that appeared in your life. you needed them. i think yes, it's great. that is, it is so seasoning that your life lacked all the seasoning. what is not seasoning? well, how are there some things that everything, everything is completely everything, well, in general, yes, and motherhood and parenthood, and i don’t know, there and matrimony. these are all things that you can

do without, but which gives life a sense of taste. here is your statement, that, uh, when you asked if your attitude towards people has changed during this time, that you, so to speak, give advice and generally be present. well, on these platforms you wrote that yes. and that it has changed rather for the better, that is, this is the abyss of grief that is around us, which no one notices, because everyone runs in their own way, how could i imagine myself abstractly for this spotlight something abstract. and now i saw the faces of these living people who live with me in the world at the same time and life was like this, and therefore, but some kind of qualitative shift has occurred in your understanding of the outside world, it has come very close to reality, let's say, that is before somehow they still had illusions, of course, of course. eh, every person still lives in one way or another by his shell, but someone has a larger shell, someone has a smaller one, but still his idea of ​​​​the world around him. they don't care are defined in the environment, that is, the niche in

which it uh exists somehow functions um . if i say in my entire life i have not had a single acquaintance who beats her husband. i just thought that they just uh make tv programs about it just because it's like that. well, this movie is a fairy tale. well, that doesn't happen either. yes. here hmm well that's just that's just the simplest example. i mean, i uh, there's a huge number of things that i considered in this and even in the case of such a revelation as well, so to speak. areas lives that previously seemed illusory to you, do you risk giving any advice in these cases or not? or is it just that i'd like to do a little errand here to amend the citizen judge. eh, these aren't tips, they're answers. uh, the broadcast is called friday questions, and, uh, the postings that are made after

questions are asked are called friday question answers. they are by no means advice. yeah , no one writes to me. hey, tell me step by step. what to do? uh-huh if they wrote, i wouldn't do it either i could do it, because firstly, who am i , secondly, uh, it's just in general. it's not possible at all. this can be done only by the person himself, what is expected of me, what is expected of me, as i see it. uh, i'm expected. uh, and that's usually how they phrase it, uh, little. write how do you see it? write down how you feel about this situation. if anyone has read, uh, hmm, these are the answers. there are also questions there. eh, everyone is surprised. why are these questions so long they write to me? my god, not enough. why are you posting this? same it is impossible to read these simply no, let's you publish. only the answers are impossible, because uh, until the girl writes this sheet. this whole screen here describes her situation. hmm because

she describes it, what words she uses, it is already clear that she has an answer or is about to have it. she just needs to feel that she is not alone, that she has the right to see this situation the way she sees it, that she will not be beaten or offended because she sees this situation like that. uh, and that there are other views, that is, uh, in general, the very fact that on the same situation, different views are possible. here's a confirmation. that's what a person is waiting for. that's what's curious, you can not live a successful life yourself, but in one way or another, and at the same time be a specialist. uh, i also saw such bloggers. hmm, for example, i am you. yes, of course, that is, in your life, the question of terminology is successful. okay, so how do you define it? well, in the sphere of everyday life, i’m such an everyday person, i’m completely delighted about my life. yes, i

really like it. so uh, if you take an opinion audience, then yes, i have nothing to present at all. uh, i had an unhappy marriage. my child is not perfect. eh, in the profession i eh, have achieved. in general not much e what else uh, and i'm 50 years old. my man has cellulite. what success? what are you speaking about? let's listen now, and one of your virtual friends, who later met you later. this is nikolai tikhonsky, then on the product. seem stupid, it seems to me and people are users on the network, well, men are more often, probably, after all, and malka writes more often for women with female position, a and answers questions predominantly by women, because they ask a and answering their own questions. she always takes the a-a side

of the questioner. a and. uh, when a man goes into comments, and they are probably afraid to get hit, but afraid to seem not smart, a and that's why they don't often enter into discussions, but they read i know many in real life. she of the throne is exactly the same as in virtual life. that is, e expectation completely coincided with reality. she is truly an amazing woman. beautiful, but very self-confident, but directly for someone else. uh, it's impossible to clean up or maybe , but some rudeness in the answers. uh, or the provocativeness of the posts, ahh, in her blog may seem like a disadvantage, but someone will be her dignity in this. that is why we read it. as for

your pseudonym malkalorents, and you said that it actually doesn’t mean anything, it’s just a first and last name, however, if you try to find it, it turns out that translated from hebrew is malka. this queen is more to me, not less, but lorenz is the surname of a famous specialist in animal behavior. yes, it is already laid there. this is a provocation, that is, the queen of animals is such a leader. no, it's not laid down, of course, that is, uh, with a first name, maybe in part, yes, a surname? i just picked up a surname for me that would sound with this name, uh, profitable. in recent years, for many people, the internet has become a source of worldly wisdom about popular bloggers being the best advisers in various areas of life. today, with the help of make-up bloggers, you can do it without leaving inveterate

tourists will tell you how to seriously save on travel, and advanced chefs will teach you how to bake a cake and cook maltese octopus from home to do professional makeup. but most of the questions that gurus turn to the internet relate to personal life on the network. where no one knows you, you can ask for advice in a situation that you can’t tell your relatives to strangers, because not every, even the most faithful friend, will be able to understand and support, finding out that you are in a relationship with a married person or having an office romance by posting your questions in the public domain. internet users should be prepared for the fact that hundreds of strangers will take part in the discussion. often , real battles unfold in the comments. everyone defends their view of the problem and offers their own solution. and you are frank in your e stories about

yourself, let's say how much you reflect reality, because if you go back again, here is the ending from which i started with this quote about 15 minutes of fame, he is generally like that. i would say i foresaw a lot of things, as if by my own creativity. and in particular. he said when i draw a self-portrait, i don't draw pimples. first, this is a temporary phenomenon. secondly, i draw portraits. always avoid flaws. as far as this can be attributed, so to speak, for today's many spheres, in particular for the blogosphere, it is completely so unambiguous. uh huh, because when we go out to people, we have a reflex. you don’t go out to people without clothes in your nose, yes, first dig deeper, and then yes, most people. this principle is adhered to even involuntarily. that is, even those who set themselves the task. and there are such people and they do it right, by the way, they have the task of shocking, because if there is a task to attract attention. this is being done. e. so

, even they, uh, painfully overcome this , this, this desire, they still like it. yes, whatever. present in some better light in some more advantageous. even though the goal is the opposite. what are personally and i personally e no i do so you see, i like everything so much, what is happening to me. i see no reason, it's somehow embellished. i mean, i really love my problems. but i like my tragic experience. he is beautiful. he is handsome. i do not see anything. what uh what would let's say would cast a shadow on me uh huh so you don't do it, i beautify myself. no, you draw pictures with acne, mine is better . well, let's see. now, in those, as a matter of fact, the realities of your life and those tips. well answers, i'll stick to your wording. it is true that periodically

sound on your pages. you have had more than one marriage you had three marriages and all fell apart, glory. god yes, which means that the last one lasted 20 years, but thank god, too, i understood that everything was not going smoothly with your teenage daughter, how she would have passed, and there were difficult periods in sex, a rather unpleasant disease. yes, with alcohol you also had problems with alcohol. i didn't have problems, they weren't. uh, it wasn't a problem in the, uh, wording it's commonly understood to be. eh, i really liked to drink. i really liked champagne. by the way, i'm actually nothing i didn’t drink besides him, but it consoled me and anesthetized my this distance of the so-called e. i didn’t see anything in this, because it didn’t interfere at all, not to live, not to work. i gave up alcohol. a one-time volitional decision, when it seemed to me that

there was no threat, when it seemed to me that some kind of sacrifice was required of me. hmm that i need to give up something that makes me happy and decorates my life, what is dear to me eh? well, in the name of something, let's say something more important. and what exactly is important to him are silent? eh yes uh-huh, well, but those are just about alcohol. you argue, including about alcohol. i'm reasoning because i know that uh hmm what is the life of a person who uh regularly drinks uh-huh and this is not uh, so it's not about the alcoholism that is used to the disintegration of social life. this is exactly the function of alcohol, which is very common, let's say in creative or intellectual circles. that is, when when , let's say, a kind of cherry on the cake, which makes life more bearable. uh-huh well, because it happened over many years. i

imagine, uh hmm, how it happens with other people, so i can already experience it on myself and give some i can at least evaluate, but what tells me on this topic. let's take a look at the quotes that were said. even in our story, uh, so, one reader who complained to you about what is not working out in her personal life, you answer with your personal life all the seams in 16-19 and in 30-45 days there should be seams. it's just ok reality. this is my deep conviction. the fact is that in the word of the seam in this case, what is encoded in it is encoded in it. they are contentment, that is, a person. if i remember correctly, this letter, it was the same content as most songs of this kind. hey, i'm young and beautiful. i'm fine. profession

success. uh, career uh, ambition. eh, and only that's just some kind of nonsense with personal life. uh, with a personal life is nonsense by definition, because it is personal, because when a personal life is not nonsense, this is called love in a person love not may be permanent. love is a miracle, it happens occasionally, not with everyone, and in general, uh hmm who's lucky, first, who's lucky it's still unknown how it ends. that's what it is anyway . uh, this is not something to be expected, as to be expected from life, like as norms, as norms, as , uh, some element of the program that was promised and you can complain, why didn’t they give it? yeah, no one promised this, but it 's still a consolation, it turns out that consolation, because when a person screams, where is my love

know already. uh, immediately i ended up paying for the ticket. yes, where already well, if a person realizes that he did not pay for this ticket. maybe he will somehow suffer less from this. you came to the conclusion that love was not promised because there was no love in your life and, uh, the love of my life. there was love and even more than once it was not promised. they are just lucky, that is, you have met both women and men who are in love. that's how i have never met in my whole life. i think that there are more such people than we think, because most of them hmm, of all the stories we take for love, they are not. uh-huh why does a girl go to this novel, about which she then writes to me. eh, my god. he does not feed me, humiliates and offends me. and anyway, how could i um, how could i. why. because when she took this dude away, she didn't want

this dude, she was in such a desperate deficit. it was so bad for her that she just needed some dude, uh, who was so not disgusting that she could explain it to herself as love, that is. eh, this one here, uh hellishly scarce, uh warmth, uh, and some maybe some security. i'm not even afraid of the word of affection, i'm not talking about sex now. yes, i'm talking about acceptance about some kind of stroking about praising about uh wrapping up in a blanket the deficit is so hellish. it is so painful that a person, uh, simply loses his bearings, and he makes up for it in any possible way, because a person will simply die , it turns out that you were married three times not for love, of course, this is it, of course, it is. this is also a way of protection or a conscious choice. not

it's just the way it is. well, how to say, we are married three times, we are not for love, this is a conscious choice, because love did not meet or love was once and therefore, and you need to marry for a lack of affection you need for a shortage of eyes. so, the first time i got married, because they did not let me go. uh parents live independently without uh, getting married without getting married. eh, that is, i will not say that i have a very conservative family, but in general, traditional. uh, and then there were such concepts. yes it means to be free only through the stamp in passport dance work through the registry office, uh, second marriage, i don’t remember at all what it was about. uh, here, uh, no, you're laughing in vain, because it all refers to some kind of student years, there are 18-19 years old. all this didn’t matter at all, when people didn’t have any entertainment, in fact, that’s why every novel was registered in the registry office because

it was some kind of movement. it was some kind of business. it was an event in a lifetime, other events in a lifetime were simply not soaked. that's why everyone got married, as undermined, just to have fun. that is, those relationships that were formalized in those days, as it would not have occurred to anyone now, to formalize their marriage in this way. he wants young people. now they come to live and everyone is happy. your third marriage lasted 20 years, my third marriage lasted 20 years. it was that scarcity story because, uh, i mean, uh, it illustrates the best. here it is. uh, hmm, my reasoning about hmm is about the fact that a person really, uh, stops choosing. e, when e deficit becomes unbeatable. that's the meaning in the fact that once you find yourself in conditions when, uh, you are on an ice floe and any person, uh, who is on this line at the same time as you. he is his own salvation. yes, this is for this person, you really

have feelings, this is normal. and here is love? the most popular bloggers have millions of subscribers. large companies perceive social networks as a resource for promoting their goods and services on the market, and for successful bloggers this is a chance to earn money on advertising. for many of them, maintaining a page in on the internet, a real job that pays well enough to become an authority on everyday issues so that they begin to listen to you in other areas, talentedly, by describing the dignity of a vacuum cleaner of a particular brand or a new face cream, you can convince your readers to buy these products, earning, thereby even more the trust of readers, the respect of advertisers and seriously replenishing the personal or family budget. another one of your quotes , i didn’t put my men, i cheated on them right

and left, when they started in a rude way, they demand borscht immediately, such a one was bred. i can imagine that such a phrase can collect a very large number of likes. and she is so beautiful, she is so biting, incredibly offensive to the men who have lived with you. how much time is nearby, but i can still seem like an excellent life position, what exactly which of the points? this real life position did not cost a penny. yes, they did. uh-huh cheated yes, she did, as far as borscht is concerned. yes, of course, it was impossible to demand from you, he called to demand borscht it is forbidden. this is to be popular with your readers. this is the position of a woman. you can’t demand the divine, you can’t demand borscht, but a woman wants to. she will cook, she won’t want to, she won’t cook, the man wants to bring money, he will bring it, he won’t want to, he wo n’t bring it. as you want. well, yes, it's fine. well

, yes, another quote unambiguously throw everyone answer. you are the question. so what to do? whom to choose from two men, then you have nothing to think. if there is an opportunity to leave everyone, you need to leave everyone; those people who do not leave everyone do not do it just because they don’t maybe the strength in that female turns out to be independent of everyone to abandon everyone. this is not female power. this is human happiness , human happiness in freedom. ah, liberation is the strongest emotion. there are two strong emotions - this is victory and liberation, when something ended from somewhere they let you go. yes, i sat the term you went out the gate. prison ended school. you passed the exam. uh, the child, grew up, left to act. this is all a phenomenon of one order, liberation. something's over and you're free from

this. this is the best thing that can happen is now we'll stop and listen to your friend. yes, you will continue elena fedorova into it. now you can imagine more more. touching a more fragile more vulnerable more sensitive person, so everything that outwardly uh tough biting some kind of sharp is what protects. this is, uh, the vulnerable and very tender, tender essence of a person. i think that there are a lot of internal difficulties, at least, judging by the texts that she writes. i think she's completely clueless. inside. i think she's become more of a bully. now, when the child is already quite an adult, there is no such thing. uh, aspiration to matters of personal

life is a husband is not needed, it does not matter whether there is or not, there are men or not? it doesn't really matter anymore, either. her life is relevant insofar as. well here there are good today? nope is also good, so in this situation you can play tricks in this situation, a person becomes freer with age. here you defend yourself when you say that no one is needed in life at all, anyway, loneliness is beautiful. in general, in short, you thus protect being. may be its vulnerable content, but you give exactly this formula to the outside world and someone might think it's true. hmm well, you know for me. it's already true. actually, lena said something else about this , that it was not always so, because i , too, i was also young. and for me, too, all this

was very important. for me, this is, of course, and now it is important, uh, another thing, that it is very difficult to offend me now. she means literally before you were easily offended. uh, it used to be easier to offend me, of course, because uh. i needed so much more from others. uh, now it's already difficult to do about motherhood. you also speak quite harshly and so on the question of a woman to give birth. i am unloved or not to give birth. you answer me never had a child from a loved one and even hope for it. i don't know what to feel about it. that is, there are questions to which you do not know the answer at all. i don't know what this feeling really is, because i don't experienced. i can i think i can imagine it . i think it's probably very cool to give birth to a child from a loved one. here, but these are

just my guesses, well then, another quote from you. see about motherhood, which you preempt. in fact, only disappointments lie ahead. the palette of your emotions will range from impotent rage to mortal horror. and it will begin on the second day after birth. they will run out. you will never be ridiculed in the concept of everyone without exception, starting with patronage sisters, ending with idiots from the smap forum, no one will ever praise you. you will always be guilty. if you give birth to a child in the hope that he will love you, you will have to break off. well , again, so to speak, it causes delight, so to speak, the total breaking of all possible illusions, or only or still, there is some truth in the fact that parents love children, it’s true that it’s not necessary that the patronage nurse will rage, there are haru, i had a lovely patronage sister. ah, not necessarily, uh, all the neighbors. e

will mothers from the forums or neighbors in the yard tell you that you are doing everything wrong? well, that is, how would you draw just such a point of view from the contrary. i'm drawing a point of view. that's absolutely true. eh, the defenseless mother is the most defenseless creature on earth. a child is such a thing. hmm look, it's a different person. one side. it's not part of you. it's all bullshit in this. this is another person who, for reasons beyond your control, which you cannot influence in any way, who for you are so important. e that it is in his power to make himself absolutely happy in his power of himself. well, in general, this creature has such power over you to bury your life, uh, against which you cannot do anything, and now you have to live in this mode.

basically, for the rest of your life. if a child would treat itself well, but you survive, it will be treated badly. you are not leaving. we were all uh born because our parents thought uh it was time. oh, otherwise it would be too late. uh, it’s supposed to be, because such a family is all children and hmm because let someone finally love me, otherwise this scoundrel will love me. i fell in love with it, at least a baby will be a consolation; there is also a category e. we will not exclude it. yes, children who were born because both mom and dad wanted it. that's because they so wanted him to be born into the world, because they loved him and received love in the opposite direction, also this category d, relatively speaking, in all your recommendations. she reads there. yes, it does not count for the category that sometimes occurs, happy love category d as well. sometimes found that a woman gives birth from her beloved

men. well, against and so on, but those who give birth to a child, because they want to develop a child. hmm, they don't need my teachings. uh-huh my receipts and needs to call it that, yes, it's a nasty, tedious teaching. uh, those who, uh, themselves, have promised something, what will not happen at all, need? in fact, no one promised to write. it 's the same story as with love. this was not in the conspiracy contract, this was not in the contract, there were completely different things regarding the reverse sides. that is, it was a discussion about a child. well, about the mother herself in relation to the child. you so briefly and succinctly formulate that for a child the mother of a curse for a child is the mother of a curse in that respect. e, i understand that not everyone likes this word, because it is kind of scary. e, not everyone.

uh, any psychotherapist will confirm that every patient who comes to him eventually. uh, what are they talking about, they're talking about mom. uh, hmm damn is that, is that once the dafiq of work what once happened, it's irreversible. it left an imprint on the rest of my life in that sense curse no well, a good mother is the same curse why because she is also irrevocable. it is that this is what has already happened, and then you will be like this, you are the son of this. e mother, who was so good-natured, just like in your neighbor's mother. which was his day off and e mercilessly. this is what we carry throughout our lives. and basically, of course, it's hmm, not just i haven't seen a single child who would be pleased with his mother, the maximum that uh in the very in the most successful case, a person can say to e, well, yes, my parents, in general, were nothing, so

listen to you. you actually have some freaks. and i have nothing. uh-huh that's probably the best thing that you can hear another quote, if you express a child to love him yourself, then i will disappoint you here. at first, you will never love him, and then there’s no reason for your daughter to be 16-16 years old now. so she probably also could come and read yours. uh, articles. that's what we call your posts and stuff. here i suppose that a teenager there can hardly perceive this metaphor as metal, right? here he can read this and think them wow, mom. that is, at first there is no time, but now there is nothing, you ever write when you think about what is. well, otherwise, in your life, share the husbands with whom you are at least in trouble, well, they sailed on the same ice floe, while you needed it, a lack

of affection, at the very least, some kind of affection, they gave you your daughter, whom can so strict these words that someone can interpret how. i am i probably wouldn't open it at all. and my daughter, uh, she's certainly not a perfect child. she is, in general, a rather difficult child. well, baby, she 's actually a bride in real life, uh, but uh, she has flaws, but she is very smart with her, you don't have to squat, she will understand everything correctly and dot all the right things. there are dozens of bloggers on the internet of varying degrees of popularity who can be contacted with pressing questions. how to build a relationship with a boss who is unfair to you is it possible to find a common language with a child who fought off a corpse what to do if the mother-in-law climbs with unsolicited advice, is it worth it to file for divorce if the husband is cheating and even if

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which my daughter fell ill at the age of 12. you call yourself an absolutely crazy mother and said that, nevertheless, you did not see, so to speak, behind this situation in in the sense that a came to the hospital with a weight of 34 kg. this is hmm the problematic of the fact that it is precisely the peculiarity of this disease that it is impossible, but to figure out when she began to lose weight, er, and it became noticeable to me. that is, when it became noticeable simply to the naked eye. i the first thing i do is i went to our local therapist. let's do some analysis. there what do i like oncology or uh-huh that's it . uh, some of these nervous breakdowns. it was the last thing on my mind, that is, i was sure that the child got sick, and we lose her, and so, yes. well, i only later after the examination, when it became, when they just poked me in the nose, uh, only then some kind of struggle began in this diagnosis. eh, and in general, i still do. uh, i don’t know, at what

angle to be baptized what, well, it’s just take it piled up, yes, what are we in general, carefully i’ll say we won. now they say the following she doesn't do a damn thing. she does not study, what to do she does not know and does and you are unexpected, so she is beautiful in every way. yes, she is beautiful absolutely you accept in any capacity. i think i think i just have a slightly different set of priorities. uh, is this directly related to the fact that i really almost lost her then? uh, kind of. i think yes, that is, this experience gave me. eh, hmm, understanding of one simple thing, to which, in general, for some reason, no one. basically, the child does not think of three things. he must be alive. he must be healthy. and he should be happy. that is, at least in a good mood, at least not e very sad. nothing more is required of the child. if at the same time he still does not hang cats and

is generally a good person. i don't really know what to want then. let's hear your perfection to the chingu. one or two, probably, the lack of her, as it were, is a good high self-esteem, but in some situations she outgrows a terrible pride , which i just hate when this happens standing in front of a mirror. and then, i'm so beautiful, everything is not freezing there. and my mother loves everyone very much, verbally offending. she he just tells me that's how he is there everything, he understood. so i think, because, well, every person has a period. when you don't like yourself . and somehow, i think that mom is trying so hard to compensate for it in herself. mom, and we are very tired. she probably even cries, therefore, about it, because there is a lot of work and

a lot of stress. and because of this, she breaks down . okay, once she told me what. better to be alone than with bad people. this was very good advice, which is well applied in life so far, that in fact, i'm very proud of her, but i pretend as if it doesn't matter to me. listen, this is what it seems to me, this is what, in what she is her mother's daughter. so it's that i pretend that it doesn't matter to me. that's right, she's a proud cat. yes, i will return to conder again, he has such a wonderful one more quote. he said i am exactly what the collection of newspaper clippings says about me. ah. can i say that you are exactly what your texts say about you. partially yes but no, no,

i'm much more of a global phenomenon. self esteem everything is fine. thank you very much. she is called the queen of motivation and the iron lady of transformation - two businesses, four children, and that's it. it's about one woman from early childhood. she experimented on herself, starved, worked to the limit, tested what her body was capable of. but life prepared her strength tests for her, having lost her husband, she left four children in her arms to feed and provide for her family , she worked for wear and tear and slept 4 hours a day, and

painted her every day in seconds and now perfectly knows the price of each of them, if we have any goals, we must proportional. to build children, she alone raised all the children to their feet and admits that she was a good mother, but a bad dad, and the children, achieving more and more victories. tell her we've figured out the formula for our success. this is our ability multiplied by your love. the children have grown up, the business is flourishing, there is time for a measured life. but this story is not about her 45 years. she took up triathlon from scratch, not knowing how to swim and not very good at imagining. from what sides approach the bike racing for 14 hours of insane distances under difficult conditions. she overcomes the hardest sport on a par with professional athletes symbolically became a reflection of her whole life and there is no doubt that

it is here. she will be the first to be alone with all the businesswomen, a mother of many children and three years old. maria kolosova hello maria hello, we are infinitely happy to meet you. just because i wanted to know that with your own eyes to look at a person, that he exists, that this really, what happens? you are not just involved in these races, like a triathlon, you are also ahead of professional athletes. well, yes, when i first started at the age of 45. uh, i read the book, and it was such a discovery for me, because all my life i have been asking myself questions about the abilities of people. for as long as i can remember i have been asking these questions about myself. why do some people achieve a lot and others still do n't? i constantly ask myself a question. i even wake up. what for? and what percentage are you

implemented now and the answer 80 suits me very badly, so when i took up triathlon first. uh, i can't swim, i can't ride a bike. i had such a goal in a year to swim 4 km, ride 180 km on a bicycle in open water and run a marathon 42 in a row. to do this and to keep within some time to put yourself such a bold exclamation mark in your biography to look for well done could. yes, but when i did it, and i did it there in 14+ hours. it was a very big time. i hit the limit nevertheless. i understood very clearly that now i want 110 of my first age group and anyway , i'm already very close to this. but here it is interesting not even this, but the fact that there is another life with a junk. it is no less than a triathlon, absolutely, and in it, up to 45 and after, approximately the same events took place. and these events all served, so to

speak, one motto. i would say that this is all, maybe always all i want. yes, so it is possible, and i, for example, always thought that i have such a point. abilities of my antipodes. i always thought that such a point - these are foreign languages. well, somehow mathematics gave me. and i have physics there with honors from school. here's something else . here languages ​​are not given to me. uh-huh and i lived with it, and you know, here, i once again went to a briefing. it was in phuket there was a race, and there it is very important to understand what you are told at the briefing, starting with the fact that you start in some kind of wave and what time it is ending with some rules on the race, uh, where does the risk arise for your life? you don't know the rules? you're just taking very little risk, and there were three briefings in english, chinese and thai. i realized that i still have no way to go, because i well , yes, i have german, i studied in germany. yes , he german is not bad for me. well, somehow it was

always hard for me and i said to myself, i have no abilities, and in general there will be electronic translators. and i don't need it. i am so good at many other things and then i realized why? well, how is it? well, you can parrot. well i can't learn languages. i said it shouldn't be like this and i learned english. now i want more french into english. let's then began to test even in childhood in general on the subject. what can i do. well, you know, i'm quite sure that, yes, there really were some tasks like that in childhood. sometimes they came from outside, maybe it was even the expectations of the parents there for the father in particular. yes, she must be an excellent student. or, for example, he could turn on the radio to hear how well they sing and speak. here try now way right now sing the same way and somehow, yes, i studied at a music school and at a regular school, and it really was very interesting to me. that is, it did not cause despair, because sometimes it happens that parents demand

from the child what he wants to say, but there are no such abilities or no strength, but in order to please parents, they try on this path from the moment when you are nothing you can’t, but you have to be there somewhere you have never been before. there is a moment of desperation there. this is not the question. and you know, i think it's very interesting, because that when i raised my children, by that time i already understood absolutely clearly that a talented person differs from a person who, perhaps, has not realized his abilities precisely because he knows how to pass through this point of despair. he knows what to do with him, because that's if we do n't know how to do something. and we have to start doing what we have never done and learn how to do it. we will certainly get into a situation where we are not successful, and it happened to me, it happens to me. look , this happened to my kids all the time. what do, so how to dispose from this point do. you know, i understood this very clearly, that this is

just the difference between a person who achieves something, who does not achieve something, and the one who does not achieve, he says at this point, this is not mine. that's not mine. i am not capable. uh, i'm generally fine, and i won't go there, and i don't need to, but a person who achieves something. he just moves on. for some reason, being a young man, you went to work at an aircraft factory, an unexpected choice as a turner. especially looking at you so fragile feminine and charming why, in fact, at the age of 17 after graduating from school. you needed. here is such a test. not only did you work as a turner at an aircraft factory, but you also worked more than 6 hours 12:00 in two shifts. what's this? yes? well, it's not really. i came after school - this is just after the senior class, which was already pretending to finish school. we had such a practice. yeah well, you know, it was such a challenge too. i looked. there were three specialties. turner

, milling machine operator. i realized that of all the most complex turner, i went to turners, but it is clear that it is difficult, because it is more difficult than the other two. this is the formula for achieving, success and achieving a new goal to set yourself just impossible tasks and all the time and almost daily to introduce yourself just the most uncomfortable circumstances, i know very well. this is not just a form of success, it is also a formula of motivation, because, well , let's say, we are good at pickling cucumbers, and we pickled a lot of jars of cucumbers, where is the joy, but if i can't stand the cold, i can't stand cold water at all. i'm afraid of mountains and i'm registering and qualifying for the most difficult swissman start where you have to swim in icy water ride very cold conditions on very high mountains very long very difficult i understand it will be very difficult for me but i know that i will feel on that mountain on a snowy peak, on which niches russ it will be an unreal happiness. and

i think someone might be looking at you. you know, in your external image, everything looks very much like this. hmm, an accomplished and wealthy person, which is very far from the truth. it's very far. yes, you actually raise four children there throughout your life. one job. and you are like an ox, yes, and in fact . they counted only on themselves, they came from the outback. and now your appearance is deceptive, but you know, it seems to me that this deception has its own secret. you have this desire to impress people that you're okay, that's quite the desire to impress someone, probably not, and probably always in me there are these two people. in fact, there are much more than one of them, of which he always says, well done. you are great, you are cool, and the second one who speaks. oh, well, what is it, and you know, when i go out, for example, to a race, i always

have 2 voices, one says to me, well, what have you forgotten here, but you have so many nasty things, but normal aunts are already with their grandchildren in the country. they grow growth there, and the second one says, listen, these are young guys who are riding up the mountain, and you are riding a bike next to them. and you will overtake them. good job. you have everything in okay. and here, maybe, here is this dialogue. and there is such a perpetual motion machine, which yes, which leads me somewhere, but for no one to seem, no matter who you are, you will never challenge yourself, because if i declared to myself that i am cool. well, come on, accordingly, somehow fate was distributed in such a way that you were left alone ah, your husband died, and you had two marriages, and, as i understand it, yes, one ended in divorce, and the second ended tragic circumstances, and how old were the children when are you left alone? well, the youngest child was not 3 years old. the children were small, you could generally count on anyone's help, but such hmm,

at least everyday technical, that is. of course, i have parents. thank god they are still alive and you know it was like that too, and such a moment parents didn’t take everything away, but sometimes for the summer for some period of the summer, and the children and you know, i envied them unrealistically they could. with my children, go to the dacha to eat raspberries, then move to the island there to swim. but when i'm with children collecting a portfolio means feeding it is such a grim, after which it hurries and shouts, shouts and hurries, and all the time checks some lessons, and at some point i realized that i did n’t want to. i want to be like parents, and at my house the atmosphere was formed very quickly. here is a very friendly, maybe party place, where it became very important for me. here i brought no grades to the child, because i understand, i can’t check the lessons of four, but i can’t. not because i don’t want to

, it’s physically impossible. and i still have a lot of work to do not at any job. and uh, thanks to this , the atmosphere really became like this when it became very important to me what my children do not read about. uh, what don't i want? what passions do they have? you know, i am very attentive to the wishes of my children. i am very attentive to ensuring that each of them wakes up in the morning, and he knows how the elephants are filled on this day, i then, thanks to the help of my parents and my notes on what they can do with their children, well, fool around in the summer, ah system and it seemed incredible with a plus sign on each child in the end. men pass next to me, i despise them. a woman, can be weak can you afford it? every time you make a mistake you say class. you have

a new opportunity iron will of a fragile woman maria kolosova correctly, i understand that this atmosphere that you say is built on some kind of endless trust. yes, this trust has never been literally undermined in some such manifestations of everyday life, but i don’t know if there is a school didn’t tell you, they say, parent, look at your child’s deuce. well, here you are, maybe you don't care, we care, how to say, you know , there was a beautiful story here. i will allow myself to tell it, because this story. i understand that she, uh, motivates a lot of people. she really is absolutely amazing. she 's more amazing than mine at forty-five. there, probably, the row was completely busy, so the director called me and says your son. it was the youngest son on deduction. take the documents. at my son at that time was in the eighth grade, and he was a specific child, because it so

happened that, well, at one time. there he was pushed , he fell, broke his spine, and he did not walk for a year. and he skipped school, and then you could walk 10 minutes a day and basically. this child is not healthy. in addition, when he was lying down, he became very fat, at the age of 13 he was cheerfully about 90 kg. i came to school. i spoke to the director. i went through face control. well, this one over there has three higher educations there in the area without berlin at all red diploma. give us one last chance. it is very difficult for me to deal with them. i was given one last chance. and i'm going home. i'm a psychologist. i go and i understand that the boy’s problem is not that he was not controlled enough and not that i will now start checking the lessons, folding a briefcase, tucking in a shirt, putting it on the scarf itself. and we'll be fine. this is not true. this is the way to nowhere, and it’s just that the child has forgotten how, he hasn’t learned how to organize himself around some goals, he taught himself to even set them, he’s used to, what does he need to survive?

that's just to survive and not to be very bad. and while i was walking home, with these thoughts. i formulated them, and when i got home, i said, zhenya, we need to prepare and swim across the bosphorus, he said, mom, you were going to everest that year and now you are doing some kind of triathlon. go away, i said, zhenechka, you are 8 years old. the bosphorus swam very well - it's cool. this is the strait between europe and asia, we can swim across it with you . i'll learn. let's get ready. he began to walk in this pool. and in five you're done any at all. well, what is called a parallel course, in general there were problems in learning, they were going to be thrown out of school. you came and say let 's swim across the bazaar. that is, we fly to the moon. yes, this is very paradoxical. i would have said. well, i wo n't speak. well, it really turned out that he turned out to be buoyant and the big weight began to go off a little after 5 months. he swam across the basphorus, and he

sailed among, well, there are 4,000 athletes thirty -sixth, and you know, when he returned from the bosphorus, he opens the door, enters and says. mom i'm in next year i will be the first on the bosphorus. clearly i say earned earned. you want to hysteria. you want to swim in open water it. yes , i say, records are becoming some. yes, i'm telling you i'll arrange it. you will have the dream life of a 14 year old boy. you will participate in all swims, the dubai mile costa took everything in spain. it's when the kids are studying, they go to school, and you go to warm countries and swim for a while, but i shouldn't hear that you have problems. he really went to eight different starts. that is, he shared almost every month at school. but when that year ended, he got all fives in the ninth grade for exams, and he was not the last from the end in the ranking, but the second from the beginning. it was a completely different

child. he became slim. he began to understand what he wanted and he became the first on the bosphorus. and two years later it was a slender young man weighing 66 kg. with such shoulders, who set a bunch of records, and who told me in the eleventh grade, both he and the director should leave the school. i say why that's it, she's all right, finally, but the child already has nothing to do at school, and he said, mom, i beg you very much, the school interferes with me. i want it for mehmat. i know exactly what i want. i want to go to the mechanics and mathematics department of moscow state university let me prepare myself somehow, then i will participate in the olympics myself take me out of school, please, and you can imagine, i came in the eleventh grade and wrote to the director of the application. i ask that my child be expelled from one of the best physicists in the country's mathematical island , yes. let's listen to your son evgenia now really owes

you a road bike uniform for my fifteenth birthday and sent me to cyprus for the new year holidays for sports camps a year before that, my mother herself went through all this and there she began to get acquainted with triathlon. and there i was completely alone. uh, well, no family in terms of you in the new wednesday. for me, this is already with a coach with professional athletes. and it was hard for me. at first, i remembered all my injuries at once. there, especially the back. i took home. and he said what i have it’s hard for me, but my mother told me that this is the beginning of everyone and that you need to endure it, then it’s unrealistic to get this pleasure, of course, it’s more to believe. i since i came there, in my opinion kilometers. i went to high mountains. although before that i didn't, i didn't believe that i couldn't do it, and i started from scratch. i realized that in general everything is possible, whatever i want, because i don’t need to

limit myself in any way. i didn’t understand that everything is possible, the main thing is to somehow gradually move towards my goal and 13 i can become better. and by the way, you speaking, you read sports, in general, a very important component of education. yes, you know, it's also about the family, it comes from the father. and although my father is a very talented aircraft designer there, and he perfectly plays several musical instruments and writes poetry, he has been involved in sports all his life, and he told me this phrase. i remember from childhood that mashenka well, here is a cultured person, he cannot but be cultured and physically. this is physical culture. this is part of our culture. and if you're physically uncultured, you can't be considered a cultured person, even if you play a bunch of instruments and write poetry there, as i understand it, another motivation is about sports. well, that's it, this is the simplest scheme, so to speak, these are the laws that

if you want something, then you can achieve it, just stubbornly does what you do and so on. and this is about life, this is life, and you know, here, too, this is because sport is a simple model, because you do something with your body. and your body is changing, it's changing fast. it's not like raising a good kid. it's not about building relationships. sport is simple, and therefore your children all went in for sports in one way or another, children go in for sports precisely in order to learn this formula for success in a big way, and in order to set a goal , it’s zhenya who belongs to. yes, this phrase is about the fact that mom, i calculated the formula for my success, you need my abilities for your love. but your love was so specific. i would say, well, again this question is about stereotypes, because, despite the fact that uh say that you were good moms on bad dads. it seems to me that it was a little, on the contrary, one could formulate it more than an excellent dad, who i tried to make money in the family. yes, they worked at four jobs, provided for the desire of their

children. if they wanted something, then they removed the loan, even in banks, i understand, yes, there are pools or something else, these are all loans, this is a loan. it's not like a person learns. she dreamed about it a lot. this is clear. but here's how i understand it. with maternal love, which we do not know there yet from uh such fabulous images, arising from our childhood, when this is a mother who can cry with a jelly, this is a mother who will pat on the head in case of your failure. this is the mother who will tell you. well, don’t be upset, this is mom, who will still do this nasty task with you there or something else, it all happened, but it’s not quite like that until now. you know, there is such a happy moment, it is not every saturday. well, almost every saturday, often on saturday morning no one needs to go anywhere, and i can imagine. well, i always stand, it's a pity i often do already some of my first training, and then i go out

and see that there is such a pattern there or unfinished kefir. i start pancakes and kids in pajamas start crawling out of their rooms and at first these pancakes disappear there very quickly, and they start about something bolt we have oriental cuisine and often the sun shines there. and these are unrealistically happy moments. here is this phrase and the day lasts longer than a century, i understand, here on this here on this saturday morning, and in this i am very much a mother and you know, in what else am i mom, i don’t think that education is here, right? i'm zhenya she said to be patient. take your hands, and i told him this very often, but on the other hand. for example, i always said that it's better you lose than you act like a bad person or there were moments. you know, these are their desires, and for me the law. but this is the educational law. if my daughter says, i really want to go to america. i want to go to hollywood. you will go to america to study. and you'll be alone there and it's a difficult life in a foreign

country with a foreign language. i understand perfectly well that there is an element of dreams. yes, she lives there in los angeles, studies and so on for a while. but there is an element of colossal responsibility for your dream, or the youngest daughter says, i want hunting dogs more than anything in the world, and on my twenties i want a gun as a gift. okay, here's one dog for you. here you want the second, the third. i'll buy a third, but you have to deal with them, you need to walk. they need to be fed, they need to go to a task, they need to make from dogs those for whom they are here, if they are hunting, they hunt, yes, they must not be a poodle, and my daughter understands very well, you will only get dogs, how many want? well, you will get them along with the responsibility for this dog, so here i am, you know, mother, i pamper them. well, every whim of theirs is responsible for it. a whim if a child has difficulties is important. to show him how

strong he can become thanks to them, which i can never master. i can never be an artist. the main advantage of women over men, and this is the right to be yourself iron will of a russian woman maria kolosova even the situation that you sold? almost even an apartment of something invested in business. yes, in the hope, probably, that they will earn. naturally, we all do not think about how to lose the road, so to speak. well , it's all on fire. but this is not a crazy act, if you mean that you have four children. it was a very big risk. really. i now have an apartment there in a mortgage before the currencies in the mortgage. it's hard. we then moved with the children. and somewhere we could perfectly live an ordinary apartment and pay no payer. i sold and sold the car and

give and all. i invested in the business. really. uh, those cafes that opened with this money, they went bankrupt, and it was very scary, because i woke up at night and would have slept for 4 hours and would wake up and talk at night without shifts. well, somehow he himself again you have four. well, something must be done. come on, and it generated a lot of creative ideas. how to get out of this situation . as you can see, how i found opportunities, including due to the fact that i was very, very worried when you cry. yes it happens. what circumstances might compel you? that's when you cried then not. if i then fell apart, nothing would have happened. you know, when i, for example, cried, i had two terrible situations. my coach kicked out training. here i sobbed, it's unrealistic , you know what my situation was. i couldn't

calm down, i think i was crying too. eh, a year ago. i participated in a very difficult race. i could n't even enter these cities. there were two categories of people. the first one went through the mountains with a bicycle and didn't cry because they were walking, they can't go to these mountains, and they came here and will go through the mountains with a bicycle. they will sob, and the second one went to these mountains, because you are physically developed and people did not understand, they will go to these mountains was the third category in my face, the only one who wanted to enter, like those, but could not, so she left with a bicycle . how these well sobbed. you couldn't move in, that was it. yes, it was the coach's sob to stop, because i'm done, that i need to go forward. and it is necessary here in this not cook. i went ahead. and two times i was kicked out of training. i sobbed very hard. why did you get kicked out of training? first time. you know, i didn’t set these workouts then. priority. i remember that i came to practice. uh, i was hungry, very sleepy. the coach said to

train i can eat sleep for you i can’t. went out and eat there. the second time i was kicked out of training. uh. it was very difficult for me. and i could n’t go uphill there for a while, she says, you can, i entered the second time, you must come faster. i drove in more slowly. you can. i said i can't do anything, and he kicked me out of training. i went to another mountain and started to drive into it, still trying to fulfill what the coach said that i was kicked out. i was terribly offended, in general, i must tell your coach. we must pay tribute to take, in general for you, in general in age. this is also such a despair of a person, how did you convince him that you should be dealt with? it was a wonderful story, wonderful, so i decided that i would be a triathlete. i came to my sports club and said, i want to become armen well, the first coach that came across. and the coach was very reverent and said, i don’t know such a word, but i’ll ask my senior

comrades, and suddenly the club manager calls me and says, i know the word exchange. i say it's great. he says, i still know a person who might train you. if you want, i say it's fine. he will call you , my coach is calling. and we met with him, and he starts asking me questions. i was very thin, thinner than now, and so very frail. well says you know how to swim, i say no. here he is on a bicycle, i say no to run. i say, everyone knows how to run, this is a delusion. he says that he is losing weight. i say, i am a vegetarian in general a raw foodist. he says, yeah, some kind of sport. go in for sports, i say, never in my life there is no exercise. he says iron in a year. i say yes it feels wrong. i say wait a minute. and he is so with a very beautiful figure, so inflated. i say honey. i also have a question. i say, and you are three athletes. he says, no, i'm a philologist, but in general i am engaged in level. i say tell me, you are a woman coached. he says never. i say my age. who are you training? here, god forbid, we are very suitable for each other. let's.

now let's look at this crazy person on your coach. let's listen to him. i'll be honest, maybe it's wrong, but in sports we don't divide much into men and women. this is a sport and an athlete. who are you, there is a boy girl go run faster than anyone , including among boys. masha is much stronger than most boys, yes, and i i respect not masha as a girl of a strong athlete, but simply as a person who started with e things that are not new and came to a very good level in a difficult sport. suppose we are driving on a narrow mountain road, where it is difficult on one side. the wall on the other side is a cliff, and i am in these difficult conditions. i want masha to turn around, because ah, of course, she stops and cries, because there is a serious risk of falling, it is difficult to get ready. yes, and i sat down and went goal, this is not a conflict, but this is

such a difficult working situation when i need convince the person to act. the strength of the spirit acts ahead of me, my excessive function slows down all the time, i persuade me to rest, if i write a light recovery week, then this is a conflict. am i punished if you rest, i persuade insist it's okay. it translates to iron man, yes, and in general, to win this competition, in a sense, to look for iron man. i even pass this race already. when you finish, then there is a person who calls the name of all the finishers and says, you and iron yes, i it seems that you are not very casual. and it's uh race you. yes, your personality so cheered up and

interested and became your goal, and in a sense, you are iron man. you know, yes, i am iron man once, and the second time you correctly said that triathlon is a race. this is a metaphor of my life to me at the training. there was a case quite recently, a man also once went in for triathlon, and then he got married and the children somehow belong to the wife's family, she says, i stopped going to training. i do every morning too. need a job then baby temperature, then you just need to take it to the kindergarten, and every time i turn out that instead of training, i ’m doing this. like this. what are you doing? you say, he told me, when you woke up in the morning, you need training, and the child has a temperature of 40. and i go to training. he says, well, you are attentively sarcastically and i say. yeah, i feel really bad because i want to stay with the baby, but i choose to work out. why do i want to

qualify for the world cup and my children know that. you really, leave the child with a temperature of 40 for the sake of training. i will not just leave a child with a temperature of 40. today i will increase the plane to another country. oh-oh-oh, now you understand that this release is temporary. i'm not popular right now. i'm filming, well, yes, i understand, but i know one thing for sure. no one remembers what the elementary school teacher told him, but what is good, what is bad, but everyone remembers the fairy tales that we read and remembers what choices they made parents, and i know that my child may not fully accept my choice, but he will understand it and own choice. perhaps it will do by looking at how i make my choices. you know, there is a wonderful fairy tale parable, i probably love her very much. a bird built a nest on a high rock and a very strong hurricane began, and it became clear that, well, this

nest would die, and there were three chicks in it. yeah, and she took the first chick and decided to move it to a safe place. uh, through the gorge and she carries it, and the wind blows very hard for her, and she understands that she will not carry the chick. and she tells him i'll have to leave you. i have no more strength says mom, don't leave me. i will later, if you bear me , when you can no longer see it like that. i'll feed you all my life and the bird threw the patent crashed. she gained strength and returned , she thinks i still have two chicks. i will now try to transfer the second one and she does not bear it and understands that her strength is also leaving her. she says, well, i'll have to leave you. here. well, please don't leave me when i grow up just such a nest for you. you will live all your life, you will be fine in it. she dumped him too he returned his strength, carries for the third chick and also understands that he has no strength. he says i'll have to throw you. he says don't leave me. when i grow up from my chicks across the abyss i will transfer let's listen to your chicks of your daughters. as

a child, i was very offended because my mother calls all my classmates 150 times a day, but my mother did not call me. i resented her for it. but by the way, here i am, for example, i told my mother about it, and my mother began to call me there, for example, once a day it was not pleasant, that is, but she i tried and, uh, well, to remain a mother for us all the same. didn't cook dinner. yes, i didn’t take you to school by the hand, but somehow, well, i got used to it . no, it didn’t bother me. no, on the contrary, it was even interesting that, well, for independence and this trust, it was very pleasant for me when i ran, there was the first 5 km race. i was so proud of myself, and then i thought, and then my mother, then runs, uh, at 42 together it was much easier, and my mother performed the function of my mother. uh, well,

then we lived with us, dads and moms in the family were and how would. my dad and i went somewhere, some kind of movement, some kind of football, i drove something else there to go somewhere, and my mother came home, and my mother was waiting for us. she cooked something there in the evening and read books. uh, she sang even yesterday, but so that we fall asleep, i think that's all what she's doing now. she does this for us, for the sake of the children. no , of course, she's self-fulfilling about it. also, of course, first of all, we are a mother, well, a person close to me. and if it were not for this, i read that this is a stranger so is engaged. i opened my eyes and wondered how it was possible. she may have more than 48 hours of the day. it seems to me that your youngest daughter

regrets a little about the time when you were just a mother, but i think that both my daughters definitely regret it, and they probably , is very lacking. and i feel from each of them. well, maybe from some kind of elder, well, some kind of resentment that somewhere there was not enough attention from the younger one, even some kind of provocation. that's the attention i feel, because there was a little different age. yes, after all, of course, we didn’t have enough for him, but rather, uh, it gives them some kind of freedom as an example. and it's still important, that is, it's for them for them not for you, you know, when i'm running a race. i often have moments when i think i 'll get off, i can't take it anymore. and i think the coach will understand. he knows what conditions i'm in and friends and people who don't know me will be fine. and what will i tell the children, i got off. this is a very strong

thought. this is a very strong thought. and i understand that how will i explain to the children that i got off? age gives me the advantage of being wise is there is no person who could tell me i don't believe you. happiness comes when you set unrealistic goals for yourself iron will of a fragile woman maria kolosova or rather, that you have a certain program consisting of 24 pounds, according to which you also analyze this item on a ten-point system. oh god, these 24 points we i think we will not voice everything, but at least something can be found out what kind of program it is. well , there are some very simple things. so i have goals, and i think about them all the time, right. today i ate, well, a normal item. i have

a rule. how to eat, right there, if you follow them or, let's say i have a plan for every day. i have a very busy day, and i have this thing. you complied. today you fulfilled your plan. and if you didn’t comply with what, well, it’s rarely zero, so the point is simply not a dozen, in addition to the fact that 24 points have 9 goals, there are in the second half of life. the goal and everything is on the schedule, i want to ask you masha, but in these nine goals for the second half of life, and is included in item called get married. but from a position today, as i see my life today, the answer is no. why do you know? i have a very full life. if i tell myself, i want to get married to build a relationship. i need one time. i need time. you can't build relationships with people who don't invest time there. i need a lot of strength, including emotionally. yes, i am a very emotional person. and i have a lot of internal drive. well, then i need what i need to take my life, which makes me very

suits, and it is very complicated there are a bunch of unresolved issues and say, i have to give up something. and direct this time of strength and energy to building relationships with someone. i'm not ready now because it says such a principle will come, and it's 10 minutes a month. i really want someone to come and help me solve some of my problems. he will come with his own problems, he will not come to solve my problems. he, too, you are a man, he has his own goals, his own problems. he also wants someone to pat him on the head, take pity on him, and help him solve his problems. and i don't have time for that right now . you are an attractive woman. very good with me very say so, i think, well, that's at first glance. about how do you think that a man reacts to you, maybe then many of them are iron in character and crawl away quietly, but to your youngest son. i was three years old. somehow you have remained one of those very since. in general, they did not try to get me married, which it would seem, well, also one of the most, well, the

first ways that you can try to do. this is a woman with four children. well, it's urgent to find, as it were, some kind of man in the house, so that the boys would be supported, as it were. educate b, so that i can’t rely on someone, but i can’t cope. you successfully passed this path or burned yourself. you know, not that, not that, there was a situation when yes, i wanted to get married, and i probably took responsibility for this decision. i looked at the situation and thought. what is the probability that i will be able to harmoniously integrate a man with a family of four children? what is the probability i understood? she is very tall, the man will be happy not a fact, the children will be happy not fact, i will be happy as a result of these two misfortunes not a fact, and i did not make this decision. so i made a different decision to be alone. yes, we started with you with the fact that a can be everything what you want at any moment. if there is another

rule of life that you could formulate two, maybe the first one is like this. if you're scared, that's very cool. so, i can congratulate you on doing what you have not done before, and soon you will find yourself. where you've never been and for sure, it's very cool there, so here's the second rule. don't listen to what others say it's not necessarily a matter of some rules or rational things or even one must never betray oneself never need to hear the inner voice and not betray oneself and it is very correct. thank you very much masha