who knows how fresh it all is for the memory of his departure, and joe dassin, but, it seems to me, he is still known more in russia than in france. i have such a feeling. highway sofia do you remember, it was some kind of event for you that joe dassin yes, of course, and care. uh, vysotsky and the departure of joe dassin just happened. oh yes, what will it give, like many then from moscow by the way, why wait a, because their athletes also need to be painted. leader in a sports camp , so here it is with us. just was. uh, one of the

boys, who a whose parents were very friendly with vladimir semyonovich. so he simply and, as it were , reached us all very quickly, but his death. he just sobbed like that and we all calmed him down. i remember it very well, and literally after some time comes the news that joe dassin has died, or maybe because their work somehow echoed. from the same age, by the way, yes, but they said that 40 years is some kind of such a milestone that people leave, talented and so on. that is, i remember that we were very worried about all the sports camps, as if the girls cried and all this happened. that is it. well, somehow it was very convenient, of course, but uh, it was a lot and wonderful in this

year of the eighties, including, uh, there was the release of the picture pirates of the xx century, which simply blew up the viewer and the eighties, can you imagine, which means the picture has not yet been looked at very much, and in the month of april, and dushanbe was the all-union film festival and eremenko and i went to the gorky film studio group, as if to present this picture, she hasn't been seen much yet. and we just imagined her, and of course, this is a wonderful reception, what an amazing one, and then here we are talking about clothes, you can and i mean, of course, i didn’t have any of these foreign things with a young actress. and then there is the international festival. well, you have to somehow sit here. uh, zhora martirosyan, we remembered him today. i reminded him that and

how we were all friends on the pirates and we did not lose these ties. and now, but there is a trip to the festival and zhorom does not say, let's go to my familiar. he had such a wonderful and no longer. e was. uh, tatyana, from whom, in short, zhora brought me. she opened the closet and said, choose and in general, in short, she opened her something. she said yes, take it. uh, to be, uh, representatives. yes, yes, yes, and even now you also spoke, but about spirits. well, of course, where do i get french perfume from, but yo-my tunnel number five. if we are talking about the eighties, yes, either kleiman, or fiji from belorus or red moscow machine or opium on ranovsky, returning to what is being transported. and so she gave me a few things and here are the perfumes and i went as

different. yes, an international artist, somewhere there is a woman somewhere. this is the specified picture at the festival. my mother also went to the film festival. i remember how her friends all over the world took away to her that it was between them for temporary use in order not to fall dirt on her face, but to represent soviet cinema, there people were handed out clothes in closets. so that's what life was like. yes, well, and the eightieth year, in which today we remembered it was very different and sad and, uh, a sad event. we just remembered, but it was also incredibly joyful, eventful in fact, the olympics that took place and also opened for us, in a sense, new doors where are you from? pirates of the 20th century, which rallied the audience this picture had a spectator success almost in the entire history of cinema, because the children ran away from classes in classes. uh, students.

well, yes, because of this, we just used to imagine could not imagine. thank you very much to all those who worked on it, but we want to end today's program with a hit in 1980. song not a moment of peace performed by ilya yudichev i am trouble. now don't think seriously. i did not consider it lucky that you were next to me. and suddenly a fast train took you away not a minute of peace. i can’t have a second of peace without you . without you, what is it not a moment of peace.

not a second of peace is in our love, not otherwise . love is what it is. they don’t see beauty on yours, i thought i live love three, and now it turned out that she is you, not a moment of peace. i can’t have a second of peace without you. without you, what is it not a moment of peace. not a second of peace in the days of our love is our love

, that's what it is. messed up everything in my destiny. i ask you to think of me, at least sometimes, and soon come back soon, not a moment of peace not a second. i can’t rest without you i can’t without you, what is it not a moment of peace. not a second of peace in the days of our love is not otherwise love, that's what it is not a moment of peace. i can't rest for a second without you

i can without you, what is it not a moment of peace not a second of peace of days, otherwise love is not otherwise love is what it is. we are all used to the fact that our parents are our strong rear wall protection from troubles and hardships, no matter what happens. they will definitely understand, console and help correct mistakes and give good advice, and as a

rule. we are completely unprepared for the fact that someday we will have to change roles with dad and mom, learn to protect them, understand and console them, reaching a certain age. parents begin to depend on us, but out of habit continues to teach life. how to respond to their moralizing and not get annoyed. how to maintain normal relationships and not blame yourself for breakdowns. his relationship with his parents was so difficult that he was forced to give up everything and leave his homeland forever. and only the departure of his parents made him think about what he was doing wrong because of the answer, he went to the old people. today, his entourage is people over 80 and he has about a hundred of them shortly before his fiftieth birthday. he radically changed his life, left a highly paid position as an art director and went to

lead a wood carving circle at a local nursing home on how to build relationships with elderly parents and live in peace and harmony with them, how to communicate with the elderly, understand them and remain calm. even when it seems that there is no more strength for it. alone with everyone alexander galitsky is glad to welcome you to our studio. i understand that this is the number of observations of the elderly. it led you to the desire to somehow accumulate, or something, this experience and even write a book about communicating with them. yah, in general, this story, as if my relationship with my parents were complicated. i even left the country and changed, yes, how would it be, how would it all tune in all sorts of days to others, i just

didn’t understand a lot. there in mom in dad. at least there was great love, but it would be very difficult for these people to understand each other and then when they left for some reason. i went to work with the elderly. it seems to me that your as yet unpublished book may ultimately be extremely in demand, because it seems to me that you are making some such revolutionary discoveries. seriously, i say, now they are absolutely not joking, because from old age they usually speak in an aspect. what medical? yes, and no one understands this topic, like with psychology, and no one takes the liberty of it. and we all tell each other to you, maybe in a cafe we ​​tell that i don’t know there, mom behaves like that, dad, he made christmas trees-sticks, when they are there, i don’t know, they annoy me or how they brought me climbed into the blog began to look. here is what you are saying, just a huge number, as

it were, of people who are worried about this topic are huge number of suffering suffering there is no way out. that is, there people share some of their misfortunes and do not understand how to deal with it. yeah, in the same place, in general, when you begin to realize that time is moving along another elderly person, let's let him get up, get up from his chair and reach him, this work is for him, this time is for me and for me this, when it began to reach me, then there is, let's say i'm calling someone's apartment there. yes, i say, where is vasya, where is he, why hasn't he come yet. he says he's out. i am i say, well, he will come now. no, well, in 15, if you don't come in 15 minutes, call me. he needs to walk along the corridor, go down and go in, that is, as if time flows differently, for example, it is harder to stand up than to sit down. this must be realized. i need to understand this for us in order to communicate with them, each of us is afraid of old age.

and so i think, but someone less, so i wanted to ask, yes less. i'm already in the first place, i know that i will definitely have a walker. i already feel, well, you see. when you look at these people must. well, it will probably be so, that is, we also have our own illusion of old age, so they grow old. and i'll be hoo. i have a way to look at myself. there in 20-30 years. so, in general, this is an interesting way, because, of course, you try it on, yes, well, you think, well, it's okay, okay, well, yeah, we'll manage. history is wood carving. in general, it's like this is the old carving. what is it like? i don't know, because i actually did it there. i was the redirector. in general, i did it, so to speak. as say so there? uh, computer graphics for a very long time. and when they offered me i also said that this is impossible at all, because there are sharp

tools, hammers, boards, and a roar there, so to speak, all the work. so he gives, of course, like this, a very big incentive to these people. feel yourself. this is exactly what you understand, all the theater, in fact, comes to me, because it’s good for them that they need to understand relatively speaking, having elderly people in their house, in order not to run into them there, well, scandals for quarrels of everything one thing. you have to see yourself in it. if they hiss at you there, if they say some kind of hissing at you, like this one, uh, it’s not because you’re not to blame. and you're not to blame for anything. just so to speak, it so happened that you fell under a hot hand under a hot crutch. i say, well, yes, and that means, as soon as you, you understand, this is it, the reason you start

to feel sorry for this character, as if, you understand, it’s not angry with him. you can't get angry. you must be absolutely calm, no matter how emotions and the present. that is, you can manifest. like love, yes, well, respect love, uh, warmth, but in no case should negative emotions be experienced. you can play them there you can play anger , but in no case be angry. that is , as soon as you understand what to say, it becomes easy, and old age is when, from your point of view, that's just an old or an old woman. it 's since when is a six year old woman swimming there five styles in the pool? well, she's definitely not an old man, but she, in my opinion, is not an old woman, uh-huh, that's or there, i don’t know that i have 101 years. one character, his eye was changed for 100 years, that is, it means that he could come to me to continue carving wood. i don't know, he says that a

person can live to 130. well, yes. i generally say that the one who carves supports. i think that it may be a little easier for you than interaction, albeit with a huge number of, so to speak, elderly people, but you are still not a relative. yes, this is such a distance at which you can look and come to terms with this decline. after all, probably one of the reasons for our e difficult showdown with our elderly parents and grandparents is that we don’t want to. humble we want them to be strong it's like that. i don't know, well, how to say, it's just like that. mm, such a natural phenomenon. yes, you are not you, you may want, you may not want, you can say so with him, well, you can’t fight with him, because you don’t have. you cannot win. so you, as

it were, just need to realize and understand and how to give a person, uh, how to be himself, that is, to understand that these children's games that they play are important. no matter how strange they seem to me to see. here's how to say it. here in this oldest person is your father, whom you idolized there, and your mother, who raised you there. yes, but say nothing to do with it. that is, it just needs to be accepted somehow, and we, uh, in general, we are engaged in this book , and i kind of explain about it. here, as it were, these here, uh, these ways, why is it all happening? yes uh-huh and answering just specific questions. why do people, for example, sit on a bench and watch? away, why is it important to them, they are looking for impressions that are necessary, that is , just like us, it’s also just in general for them to find ways to say absorb impressions,

because without an impression, they are all much more important than physical ones. -so to speak, gifts or something like that, you, uh, write, and old people are people who can easily eat you up and just start opportunities. why don't i know? fact just behind which weakness is like such a law of the wolf. as soon as the anger starts, you start. this is the very thing. this very thing begins in this place, that is, in no case should you show that something like that stuck into you, some kind of hooked there, somehow you can’t be shown. well, i have people. i know exactly what they love. i know for sure that they come, because they feel good and still they tell me the usa is a chisel, not sharp. today you didn't sharpen mine. uh-huh but the tree gave me specially

so hard that i didn't succeed, that is and so you think, well, what do you want well, well, well, how are you? well, you understand, right? ok then. you just take the situation somewhere, try not to pay attention to me, not think about it, and take it and take it away. where is this? well, how is it such a kind, m-th theater is like that, and why do the old people do it? how do you think? well, for example, i had such a plot when an elderly woman. uh, the doctor just advised her to stabilize the pressure to get nervous. she was nervous cleaning lady told me this story comes cleaning lady. yes, her grandmother is not removed here. it hasn't been removed. so why is there evil spirits here, but for more than 7 months. i'm like a fish there, yes, i don't know what grandma then takes. there is a lot of parade there, but the doctor was right. everything is fine, everything else. personal experience made him change his

attitude towards older people, in general this story, as if my relationship with my parents were complicated. i just didn't understand a lot. here in mom in dad and then when when they left at all, i went work with the elderly, what kind of world is it through the eyes of an elderly person, when you begin to realize that time moves differently for an elderly person, let him get up, get up from his chair and walk it for him. this is work. this must be realized. i need to understand this for us in order to communicate with them, he gave up everything to lead creative circles in a nursing home a sharp instrument. hammers there are boards, yes there is a rumble, so to speak, it gives all the work, of course, to say that these people come to me very big, because they well alexander galitsky you

write quite a lot about the need to transfer the conversation to other safe topics. eh, and what do you need to study for this? this should be trained relatively speaking, before your parents. uh, in this one, let them get old so that you, then, will have to apply. and how is this what it means to translate conversational security on the topic of how to train it? as what kind of manipulation, so such communication was the first to come up with. that's all the psychological analyzes of the situation right up to there. i am know, there, so to speak e showdown on the street. there is no smoking allowed there. you don’t, everything is there, that is, there is some sort of, so to speak , psychological uh, such a prelude to something yes, and as soon as a person enters this one, so to speak, the question answers, understanding perfectly that a lantern is waiting for you under in the end. you need this, as if with this one, the same thing with me. yes, as soon as you

begin to understand that this question through questions you will become a dead end, before you have to physically change this story somehow yes, that is, come up with some move that abruptly changes the subject, which i know there, there, so to speak, and leave this dangerous place, because, for example, i really love it when they start talking to each other. it's like at this time at this moment you can relax. it seems to me that very many elderly people tend to throw in such quite provocative topics, in particular, talk about death. this is what confuses, but usually children and grandchildren. like when i'm about to die, i'll die. what to say at this moment a dangerous topic of conversation about death or a fairly safe one? she is very safe, that is, firstly, it is not very fond of talking to ricky very much. this is what we are afraid of. but for them it is not . uh scary. there are people who tell me, i’m not afraid, in general, so to speak, the elderly

get tired of living, death is perceived as such a psychological physiological act, which, in general, is here tomorrow, here he is in the corridor, and he has become, he ceases to be some- then a dramatic very difficult act, in general, the station is everyday like this. and how do you talk to your a-a students about death, if they talk to you, well, i literally have to go far. i was still working there yesterday, right? and so they say, here we are now, now we are with you, then we are going to the cemetery, which means that two people died today. that is, it is absolutely everyday, like this, but to say, well, now we are doing it, then we 'll go. yes, i say, you know how in my meets there i come. it's good looking. so lit up. he says to me every day in the cemetery on a fresh air, and israel and such a very specific

humor of yours. i would say unbeatable absolutely grandiose. what should i do? and you can afford to joke about this topic? well, of course not. well, i do understand my position. i'm their teacher. yes, i can corner them. i can't put them on because it's hard to get up. and, in principle, how could i punish there. i say, listen without parents, don't come, just something like a miracle for the next lesson. uh, i don’t have that kind of breath, that is, no, so to speak, grandfather yes, such a grandfather. well, this is such a person. we work together with him. we are with him, i look at eye level, as if we have such an expression, yes, so to speak. well, uh, i'm not looking down, not down, we're looking the same. what do you think, and the child of your parents? eh, it’s possible to overcome this one, but the authority of an adult who has grown old, to which yes, i behaved like this with my grandfather with my own. i remember what

to say like this. uh, darling, my grandfather was like that, that's the food. uh, what are you, how would you bet? at yourself, here you are, you understand, these are all problems. yes, you try to understand, you can’t understand them, well, you try to understand all the problems, health, all the problems that are accumulating psychological severity and that’s it. all you raise yourself up to this age, and he lowers himself a little at this moment. you become his friend. and you can't be you can't speak you can't. eh, as soon as it starts, this is how to say it. e such a polite breath. let me tell you, it's bad. why because they are capricious. they don't want friends

. you understand friends, friends leave, and they have a friend. yeah, and in principle, any of the children and grandchildren can become a friend, you still want to be with the elderly. no need to argue. it's useless. what is there to do? but what about? if there parents want something, i don’t know whether mom or dad wants something that is not needed. i don’t know that my mother has diabetes there. she can't have sweets because it's dangerous. something. i don't know how to do it, but i have to tell e to argue, because she will grab it anyway, she will take it anyway. uh, well, you need to look for some more more creative approaches. i once my mother-in-law, for example, steamed in the microwave to drink. so we just bought a new thing, smeared it and passed it off as support. yes, because if it were new, yes, very dear, and so smeared. she said, we

have the same what dirty around all the people. no yes. that is, creativity solves problems. yes they to enter into this butting in memory is huge in that we don’t really want to agree, well, in the depths of ourselves in order to admit that, well, yes, the moment has come that i have become older than my parents. well, that is, here we are. well, i don't know when this happens, but it definitely happens when parents begin to perceive you as their father and mother. when they tell me, it was calm, quiet there yesterday, there was almost no one there, because our parents took us home. who took. well, children, well, they are already children. are called parents. yes, yes, he says, well, yesterday

it was quiet our parents took us away uh-huh well , parents, they decide you can't poke him. here i come to you. blimey. you just have to make a decision somehow. in general, they should feel you understand and think that they have accepted it. they are one thing that struck me in yours. ah, on your blog, that we have different logic, perhaps, with very elderly people, that you can say that i don’t know how to give some kind of argument, but at that time they read completely different information, then somehow dressed or the one you speak or there is some other thing to think of your own and in general, the most important thing is that a hundred. he feels this warmth, but words are not needed at all, in general there is a touch, there is some kind of so to speak. that's where you hold the man. i'm just passing. that's what it's all about, as you would understand.

eh, when you start to communicate, yes, to say, you just go to the warm-up, take it and pass by. and you were already with him. here's a second. how are you, old people? here the teacher continues. this is already one of the so to speak, well, to instruct huh? okay, okay, here's how uh to deal with it and because of what uh let's say, they are afraid they are afraid that something will happen to you, they are trying, how, how, to take care of you as a child. yes, so that you do not slip into the hands of the steering wheel. well, yes, well, then , too, he tries to take away from you, too, of course they say, yes, i'm on the steering wheel there a little bit no, well, just to say so, it is natural for a person to help, as if to warn. yes, how to try to warn and all the more so because they seem to be the older the person, so, uh, the circle of his possibilities shrinks and remains

only words. remains only words. he cannot really help you, so i say that there are two truths, one so to speak, it is bitter, the other is sweet, and it is to use the sweet truth, but don’t tell the bitter. in general, yes, a wonderful solution, as in childhood there were such poems about the same sea, blue, blue sky, dad is strong, mom is beautiful. and so, that this formula should also work for the elderly. well, of course, yes. no. well, you can't. well? well, what? well, snot again? well, why do you need to dedicate anything in everything, they cannot help your parents with this, they need to broadcast it more. you're all right. it's all good that it's strong, they should understand that they didn't go through theirs in vain. calmness and patience are his main rule in dealing with people of age. they tell me the us chisel is not sharp. but you specifically gave me such a solid tree, that is, and so you think, well, well, do you understand that yes? well , okay. you're just taking the situation

somewhere there you try not to pay attention to it. we are mistaken in thinking that old people are afraid of death, death is perceived as soon as a psychological physiological act, which, in general, is here tomorrow, here he is in the corridor, and he has ceased to be some kind of dramatic , very difficult act, in general, a station so everyday old people need love much more than the respect of friends they want me to say respect and need less than just the love of friends. you see, friends leave, and they have a friend alexander galetsky. another problem that you write, er, and which i think is known to many, is what they found out in the process of working with the elderly, that it turns out to be fatigue. eh, communication with them does not depend on the time spent, that it instantly

piles up? yes it is. and why is that energy vampirism like that? it's easy to explain, you get into situations that are difficult for you. yes, you get tired instantly, because the situation that arises. it’s like it’s not you, controlled, somehow everything is like that. as soon as you you become the leader in this flock and there is less fatigue, and they are waiting, you understand, they are looking for our elderly grandfathers, they are looking for us. uh shoulder. actually. they want already they are already tired of leading life. they want to lean there and be strong, as it were, that is, here is the strength, it gives. everything, in principle, but this force and the heat of force is heat. this is such a laugh inside. it's such. eh, the way not to be offended way. e, as if understanding, again, returning

understanding, uh, as if the reasons for what is happening, uh, which allows you to, how not to turn attention to these here are the forces of the facts, which i really want to hmm get angry and answer and that's it. that is, you seem to be looking at the essence and stop seeing this husk and events that are real. it's a shame, really. how hard it is, then, to put up with them somehow e to put up with, but you understand the reasons for this, you forgive , i must say that in russia, too, there are now absolutely, as it were, a new trend. i would say there was such an institution called grandfather garden, in which, hmm, older people can come, who can come himself, whom your relatives bring, e , so that, as for the organization of a real kindergarten, that some part of the day, and the elderly spent some games together, then in the evening their parents come in and take them home. yes, and

now i want you and i to look at a story about one of these kindergartens. hello , we are starting a new season. there are some families here. yes, when there is an elderly parent in the family, or a relative, yes, who cannot be left behind. for a day at home, when the children go to work, go to they do not want to give a business trip to a person. yes, in the stationary institutions of the nursing home. uh, therefore, this kindergarten for the elderly will be a way out. is not coming. they understand that they can do something of this, firstly, secondly, and when they can make a souvenir with their own hands and give, and not give, and they feel that they need something that they can

do it. and in general, everyone is just happy and satisfied. it's all so interesting. there are youth clubs where young people meet and dance beach. yes, there is a club. this is how our senior day club is how we spend our time. and here i am, you did not distract a little. i'm here now, here we have a great master in checkers, i'll try. i'll play with him and maybe even beat him myself. yes? all right, yeah, let's go. we have a pool, you know, i get great pleasure from this water. i get up, my joints in front of me stop hurting. there is

a demand there is a need for a family, yes, in which well, they do not live with their parents, yes, but caring for elderly parents. so they really bring these people to the center to us. they are sure that here their parents are under supervision and with them. everything will be fine during the day. as a matter of fact, we sit down in a chair. the lights go out, the music plays, it’s pleasant, the atmosphere is all this breath is very fresh and we observe a romantic picture of the stars in the sky, the moon has the impression that you are in some kind of thunderstorm, where it descends from just such virgin ones. pillars with pleasure go here.

i've been thinking, if you're like this at all, may be the norm. and yes, in our country it is the norm that there is an institution for children, because parents work. as for the old men, we are, in general, coping, who can call it what. everyone has their own script, you take care of it, right? the word is, but maybe, if we say so, to bring this logic to the very end. if old is not enough, then maybe such a grandfather garden in your case in israel is this kind, so to speak , a nursing home, which, well, is not very similar to a

russian nursing home. yes, the principle is almost the same same what i see is, that is it like this to say. this, that is, our people there. they are there, which means that somehow they also spend the night there and live in their apartments there. yes, and this is, in principle, the same stories. that is, as it were, where people come, all people come in order to do something, to do something. the problem is in old age, what makes people a little aesthetic? here you need to find aesthetics, you understand the whole aesthetics of old age, because you correctly said that there is a child. yes, he is, as it were, such, as he says legs are untrodden, she’s not like that, damn it, but this, when the legs of a walker are already there for 80 years, yes, then it’s all so kind of, and now it’s to find this beauty and aesthetics and understand, behind this, because people inside they are such children, they are all they are all children understand? i say there are three kinds of children. uh, little middle-aged and old places , you know, that is, there are no others. and so i

had cases when for several years there were not people discussing in some kind of a new woman, who was some kind of old woman. yes, well, yes, yes. she's kind of the old woman is ugly, isn't she? i must tell you that i have already noticed these symptoms in myself. even once asked this question on social uh social networks and found that we are generally not so accountable. how much. well, here, we subjectively look at ourselves, because it happens to me that i look at a person. i think some who is elderly, uncle. only you understand, he is younger than me, in fact, this elderly man, do you understand? that 's what i'm talking about, that we don't see ourselves, you see, we don't see ourselves. we think that we are kids there, but some know the aesthetics of beauty in this. uh, hmm, you need to be able to do this. in fact, this is dictated by such a

pressing, or something, activity and information is an avalanche of some kind of career for us, they do it in a completely different way. now they demand everything from you without a trace. who then? well, well, how to solve the problems of an elderly person, and this kindergarten or what you are doing, you absolutely do it. well, the way out, or something, in a sense , i also feel in demand. and a senior generations of people need to be that's it. they. well , when they are inside this society, they, firstly, they are also divided into beautiful, ugly and less beautiful, that is, they are like them, uh, it’s easier in this society. in what sense is it competitive among? yes, i have a 97-year-old woman there who can say that there is a twelve-year-old woman who knows how to make a career. i can not. yes, yes, she did a personal exhibition there or something they hung on the wall. yes, yes, here it knows how to make a career, and i catch up learned more.