at the mariinsky institute, as in other closed institutions, the daily routine was very strict; they got up at six, prayed and went to breakfast, then 2 hours of lessons and needlework. at 12 lunch and 2 hours to rest, then classes resumed and continued until 5:00 dinner at eight, and exactly at 10 the institute went to bed. well, my mother, my brilliant one spoke french. this is what they taught here. she said that here, after dinner, they put them for 2 hours on the floor of all the pupils, so that they had a female in women, apparently they were not taught, neither potatoes, waffles, nor cutlets to make chili then there was specially taught them. i will tell you now not potatoes. it was them who were taught slaughterhouse sauce and buldensh. yes, please forgive me, it is she who says all the time, buy me this, i will do it,

but cutlets. no, she didn’t understand how to make cutlets? i never found out what sauce was and these were. zabayun is a french sauce made from egg yolks , sugar, white wine or roma. this sauce is usually served with desserts or sweet dishes. and bulldash is a plant of the genus. kalina dish with this name does not exist, maybe bolognese sauce was meant. actress olga arosyeva almost finished researching her family tree, she visited kazan and st. petersburg, found out the secret of her mother's birth and the name of her real grandmother, saw the case of her executed father. the history of her family turned out to be as dramatic as the whole history of the country, but this is not the end yet.

olga alexandrovna again invites her smallest relatives for tea. granny. olya has finished her journey. everything it turned out that it was possible to find out that the genius made up a logical tree, which i will give you for memory so you know what kind of tribe. i think that our family will pass on from generation to generation and thus preserve their lives on this earth. we are all used to the fact that our parents are our strong rear wall protection from troubles and hardships, no matter what happens. they will definitely understand, console and help correct mistakes and give good advice , and as a rule. we are completely unprepared for

the fact that someday we will have to change roles with dad and mom, learn to protect them, understand and console them, reaching a certain age. parents start depend on us, but out of habit continues to teach life. how to respond to their moralizing and not get annoyed. how to maintain normal relationships and not blame yourself for breakdowns. his relationship with his parents was so difficult that he was forced to give up everything and leave his homeland forever. and only the departure of his parents made him think about what he was doing wrong because of the answer, he went to the old people. today, his entourage is people over 80 and he has about a hundred of them shortly before his 50th birthday. he radically changed his life, left a high-paying position art director and went to lead a

woodcarving class at a local nursing home on how to build relationships with elderly parents and live in peace and harmony with them, how to communicate with the elderly to understand them and remain calm. even when it seems that there is no more strength for it. alone with everyone alexander galitsky sasha hello i am glad to welcome you to our studio. i understand that this is the number of observations of the elderly. it led you to the desire to somehow accumulate, or something, this experience and write even a book about communicating with them. well, in general, this story, as if my relationship with my parents were complicated. uh, i even left the country changed. yes, in israel, but in israel, you changed the country because of difficult relations, it’s very difficult, how would it be, how would it all tune in. eh, i just didn't understand a lot of other days. there

in mom in dad. at least there was a lot of love, but it would be very difficult for these people to understand each other, and then, when they left for some reason, i went to work with the old people. i think that here, and your yet unpublished book, in the end, maybe, uh, extremely in demand, because you and it seems to me that you are making some such revolutionary discoveries. seriously, now they are absolutely not joking, because astaros usually speak in aspect. what medical? yes , no one understands this topic, like psychology, and no one takes the liberty, although we all may be to each other

he needs to go down the corridor to go down and come in, that is, as if time flows differently, for example, it’s harder to get up than sit down. it's necessary realize. i need to understand this for us in order to communicate with them, each of us is afraid of old age. and so i think, and who are the

rest? so i wanted to ask, yes less. i'm already in the first place, i know that i will definitely have a walker. i already feel, well, i understand that when you look at these people, there. well, it will probably be so, that is, we also have our own illusion of old age, that is, of course, this is how people grow old. and i'll be hoo. i have a way to look at myself, there in 20-30 years. so and here. in general, this is an interesting way, because, of course, yes. well, you think, well, okay, nothing there, okay, well, yeah, on wood in general, it's like this old carving. on the tree, because in fact it was me who worked there was a redirector. in general, so to speak, computer graphics for a very long time. and when i was offered this, he said that it was impossible at all, because there were sharp

tools, hammers, boards, and a crash there, so to speak, all the work. so he gives, of course, here, so to speak, a very big incentive to these people. feel yourself. that's it , you understand everything, everything is theater, in fact comes to me, because it’s good for them that they need to understand relatively speaking, having elderly people in their house, in order not to run into them there, well, there’s only one thing for scandals for quarrels. you have to see yourself in it. if they hiss at you there, if they say some kind of hissing at you there, this one, so to speak, it’s not because you are to blame, and you are not to blame for anything. just to put it this way, it so happened that you fell under a hot hand under a hot crutch. i say, here, yes, and that means as soon as you, you know, that's it, uh, the reason he 's starting to feel sorry for this character. you

kind of, you know, you're not mad at him. you can't get angry. you must be absolutely calm, as if no emotions and real ones are possible. that is, you can manifest. like love, yes, well, respect love, uh, warmth, but in no case should negative emotions be experienced. you can play them there you can play anger , but in no case be angry. that is, as soon as you understand what to say, everything becomes very simple, and old age is when, from your point of view or old woman, this since when is there a 96-year-old woman swimming there five styles in the pool. well, she’s definitely not an old man, but she, in my opinion, is not an old woman, yeah, here or there, i don’t know that 101 years old with one of my characters, 100 years old, they changed the crystal in his eye. that is, it means that he could come to me and continue to cut wood. i do not know

that a person can live to 130, well, it gives forever. than interaction, albeit with a huge number of ours, but difficult parents and grandparents, is that we don't want to. humble we want them to be strong it's like that. i don't know, well, how to say, it's just like that. such a natural phenomenon. yes, you are not you, you can want, you can not want, you can say so to him, but you can’t fight with him, because you don’t have it. you cannot win. so you, as

it were, just need to realize and understand and how to give a person, uh, how to be yourself, that is, to understand that these children's games that they play are important. no matter how strange they seem to us, uh, see here these are in this oldest man of your father, whom you idolized there, and your mother, who raised you there. yes, but say nothing to do with it. that is, it just needs to be accepted somehow, and we, uh, in general, we are engaged in this book, and i kind of explain about it. so, like these, uh, these paths, why is this all happening? and yes, it does answer specific questions. why do people, for example, sit on a bench and look into the distance? why why are they looking for the experiences they need? that is, just like us it’s just a way for them to find, in general, to

absorb impressions, because without impressions, reading is generally much more important than some kind of physical gifts or something like that you, uh, write, and old people are people who easily get you eat only yes, and that means it's fired opportunities. and why i don’t know the fact, it’s just absolutely a fact, behind which weakness is such a law was pure as soon as it means anger begins, you start this very thing here in this place. it starts you this thing, then yes, in no case should you show that something like that stuck into you, some kind of hooked it somehow like, well, people, i know for sure that they love me very much. i know for sure that they come, because they feel good and still they tell me, the us chisel is not sharp. here's a pig you didn't drag mine. but

you specifically gave me a tree so hard that i couldn’t do it. that is, you think, well, what do you want well, well, well, how are you? well, you understand that, yes? ok then. you're just taking the situation somewhere there you try not to pay attention to me, not to think about her, and you take it and take it away. where, well, something like that. it's such a kind of hmm the theater is like, and why do the old people do it? what do you think, well, for example, i had such a story when an elderly woman, uh, and just the doctor advised you that the pressure stabilized, that is, the story of how her grandmother was on her, here it was not removed, it was not removed there. so, why are evil spirits here, well, more than 7 months. and there, like a fish, yes, he does not know what it is. damn, well, grandma takes this apparatus. the doctor was right. everything is fine. personal

experience made him change his attitude towards older people, in general this story, as if my relationship with my parents were complicated. i just didn't understand a lot. here in my mother in my father, and then when they left at all, i went to work with the old people. what kind of world is it through the eyes of an elderly person, when you begin to realize that time moves differently for an elderly person, let him get up, get up from his chair and walk it for him. this is work. this must be realized. it's necessary to understand me to us in order to communicate with them, he gave up everything to lead creative circles in a nursing home a sharp instrument. hammers there are boards, yes there is a rumble, so to speak, it gives all the work, of course, here, so to speak, very large. the incentive for these people comes to me, because they feel good. you write quite a lot about the

need to move the conversation to other safe topics. eh, and what do you need to study for this? this needs to be trained , relatively speaking, before your parents, uh, in this one, let them age so much that you, therefore, will have to apply. and how is this what it means to translate a conversational safe topic? how to train it? as what kind of manipulation, so such communication was the first to come up with. here are all the psychological analyzes of the situation up to there, i know, there, so to speak, there are fights on the street there, but because of smoking there is not. you don’t have everything there, that is, there is some sort of, so to speak , psychological uh, such a prelude to something yes, and and as soon as a person enters this one, so to speak, understanding the answers perfectly, that a lantern was waiting for him there, after all. you need it, as if it's the same with me. yes , as soon as you begin to understand that this

question through three questions you will become a dead end, before you have to physically change this story somehow yes, that is, come up with it. some kind of move that abruptly changes the subject, which i don’t know there, so to speak, and leave this dangerous place, because, for example, i really love it when they start talking to each other. it's like at this time at this moment you can relax. to me it seems that a lot of older people tend to throw in such rather provocative topics, in particular the conversation about death. this is what confuses, but usually children and grandchildren. like when i'm about to die, i'll die. what to say at this point is it a dangerous topic talking about death or pretty safe it is safe. that is, firstly, they are very fond of saying they love rivers. this is what we are afraid of. but for them it is not. eh, scary. if the people who tell me i'm not afraid at all, so to speak, the elderly live

death is perceived as such a psychological act, which, in general, he is here tomorrow, here he is in the corridor, and he began , he ceases to be. uh, hmm, some dramatic, very difficult act in the general everyday sun like that. and how do you talk to your students about death, if they themselves are talking yesterday, he was still working there at home, right? and so they say, here we are now, now we are with you, then we are going to the cemetery, which means that two people died today. that is, it is absolutely everyday some. here's how yes, that's to say. well, now we let's do it, then let's go. yes, i say, you know how mine meet there, i come. it 's good looking. so lit up. he says, well, every day i go to the cemetery in the fresh air. maybe these are extremely friends, and israel and

your very specific humor. i would say undefeated absolutely grandiose. and you can afford to joke about this topic? yes? well, of course, i generally understand my position. i'm their teacher. yes? i can do them, well, i can't put them in a corner, because it's hard for them to get up. but, in principle, how i could punish. i say, listen without parents, don't come, just read something like that, for the next lesson. uh, i don't have that kind of aspiration, that is, no, like that . here is grandpa yes, such a grandfather. well, this is such a person. we work together with him. we are with him, i look at eye level, as if we have such an expression, yes, so to speak. well, uh, i look not from top to bottom, not from bottom to top, and we look the same, but to the child of our parents, and it is possible to overcome this parity, but the authorities of an adult who has grown old, to whom well yes, if it were so with my grandfather with his i

remember it already like this. uh, my grandfather's favorite was such a food, than you, how would you put it. you have it, you kind of understand, these are all the problems. yes, you try to understand, you can’t understand them, well, you try to understand, all the problems, health, all these problems that are accumulating psychological severity and everything, everything, everything you raise yourself to this age, and he lowers himself a little at this moment . you become his friend. and you can't be you can't speak to you it is forbidden. eh, as soon as it starts to say this. e such a polite breath. yes, that's to say, it's bad to be naughty to be naughty. they don't want friends, they want me to say so, respect, and i need less than just love and some kind of, so to speak, m-th human relationship.

here friends friends leave, and they have a friend. and in principle, any of the children of grandchildren can become a friend, no need to argue. so what to do? but what about? if there parents want something, i don’t know, there is either mom or dad something that is not necessary. i don’t know that my mother has diabetes there. she can't have sweets, because it's dangerous. something. i don't know how to do it, but i have to tell e to argue, because she will grab it anyway, she will take it anyway. uh, well, you need to look for some more creative approaches. i once my mother-in-law, for example, steamed in the microwave to drink. so, we just bought a new thing , smeared it and passed it off as support. yes, because if it were new, yes, very dear. and

so smear. or did she say we have the same dirty around all the people are not like that, right? that is, creative approach solves problems by inventing more cunningly. yes they join. here in this butting of the forehead is huge in the fact that we don’t really want to agree, well, in the depths of ourselves in order to admit that, well, yes, the moment has come that i have become older than my parents. well, that is, here we are. well, i don't know when it happens, but it definitely happens when your parents begin to perceive you as their father and mother. when they tell me there yesterday we had calmly, quietly, there was almost no one, because our parents took us home. who took. well, children, well, they already call children parents. yes, yes, yes, he says, well, yesterday

it was quiet we have parents parents to pick up. well , parents, they decide you can't poke him. here i come to you. here it is . you're just it's all here somehow the same decision making. in general, they should feel you understand and think that they have accepted it struck in yours. and what about your blog, that we have different logic, or something, with very elderly people, that you can say that there is no i know to give some kind of argumentation, but for a while they read completely different information, only somehow dressed or the one to whom you are talking or there is something else to think of your own and in general, the most important thing is that you are old. he feels this warmth, but words are not needed at all, in general there is a touch, there is some kind of thing to say. that's where you hold the man. i'm just passing. that's what it's all about, as you would understand. eh, when you

start to communicate, yes, to say, you just go to the warm-up, take it and pass by. and you were already with him. that's how it is give me a sec. how are you old people? so the teacher continues. this is already one of the so to speak, well, to instruct huh? okay, okay, here's how to deal with it and because of what, let's say, so they are afraid that something will happen to you, they are trying, how to take care of you as a child. yes, so that you can not, of course, in your hands. well , yes, but then he also tries to take away from you , too, of course they say, yes, i'm on the helm there a little no, well, it's just human to say so . uh, help, as if to warn. yes, how to try to warn moreover, they are, as it were, the older the person, the e. the circle of his possibilities narrows and remains. only words remain. he can’t

really help you, so i’m saying that there are two truths, one so to speak, it’s bitter, the other is sweet and it’s necessary to be sweet, really use it, but don’t tell bitter, in general, yes, it was wonderfully expressed how such poems were in childhood concerning the same, the sea is blue, the sky is blue, dad is strong, mom is beautiful. and so, that this formula should also work for the elderly. well, of course, yes. no. well, you can't. well? well? well, snot again? well, why should you dedicate anything to help in everything, you need to broadcast it to them. you 're all right. everything is fine. they should be understanding that they are not in vain. calmness and patience are his main rule in dealing with people of age. they tell me the us chisel is not sharp. but you specifically gave me such a solid tree, that is, and so you think, well, what do you need, do you understand that yes? ok then. you just take the situation somewhere there, try not to

to pay attention. we are mistaken in thinking that old people are afraid of death, death is perceived as such a psychological physiological act, which in general, he is here tomorrow here he is in the corridor and he becomes he ceases to be. uh, hmm, some dramatic very hard act, in general, the sun will be so old people need love much more than respect. yes, they want friends. they need to tell me respect and need less than just the love of friends. you see, friends leave, and they have a friend. another problem you write and which i think is known to many is what you found out in the process of working with the elderly, that it turns out to be fatigue. eh, communication with them does not depend on the time spent, that it instantly piles up? yes it is. and

why is that energy vampirism like that? it's easy to explain very well, you find yourself in a situation that is difficult for you. yes, you get tired instantly, because the situation that arises. it is as if it is not controlled by you, that is, it is important to intercept it. it's just kind of like that. once you become the leader in this flock and there is less fatigue, and they are waiting, you understand, they are looking for, uh, and our elderly grandfathers, they are looking for us. uh shoulder. actually. they want already they are already tired of leading life. they want to lean on and be strong, as it were, that is, here is strength, it gives everything, in principle, and this strength and the warmth of strength is warmth. it's such a laugh inside it's such an uh, way to not be offended way. e, as if understanding, again,

returning understanding, uh, as if the reasons for what is happening, uh, which allows you to, how not to pay attention to these here force facts that you really want to answer and that's it. that is, you seem to be looking at the essence and stop seeing this husk and events that are real. it's a shame, really. on somehow it means it ’s hard to somehow say e to put up with them, but you understand the reasons for this, you forgive, i must say that in russia there are now such absolutely, as if a new trend, i would say there was such an institution called grandfather garden, and -a, in which, m-m, elderly people can come, who can come by themselves, whom you relatives bring e for in order to, as for the arrangement of a real kindergarten, that you spend some part of the day, and the elderly spent some games together, and then in the evening their parents come in and take them home. yes, i now want

you and i to look at a story about one of these kindergartens. hello start the new season here some families. yes, when there are elderly parents in the family, or a relative, yes, for whom it is impossible to leave e-e for the day at home, when the children go to work, go on a business trip and the person does not want to give away. yes, in the stationary institutions of the nursing home. uh, therefore, this kindergarten will probably be a way out of the situation. they come to napkin and paste, they understand that they can do something. this is, firstly, secondly, when they can make a souvenir with their own hands and give them a gift, but they do not feel that they need something that they

can do it. and in general, everyone is just happy and satisfied. it's all so interesting. there are youth clubs, where young people meet dancing on the beach there is a club. that's how our day club is, but for older people. and we spend our time. and here i am, you did not distract a little. i'm here now, here we have a great master in checkers, i'll try. i'll play with him and maybe even manage to beat him, yes, let's go. there is a demand there is a need for a family,

yes, in which well, they do not live with their parents, yes, but they take care of their elderly parents. and now they really bring these people to the center to us. they are sure that here their parent is under supervision and with them. uh, everything will be fine, during the day. as a matter of fact, we sit down in a chair. the lights go out, the music plays, it’s pleasant, the atmosphere is all this breath is very fresh and we see a romantic picture of the sky, the moon, the impression is that you are in some kind of thunderstorm, where just such virgin pillars descend with pleasure.

i've been thinking, if you've become like this at all , maybe it's the norm. yes, in our country it is the norm that there is an institution for children, because parents work. as for the old men, it's us, in general, who how can he say? everyone has their own script, yes, you care, yes, maybe, if you say so, bring this logic to the very end. if old is not enough, then maybe such a grandfather garden in your case in israel is this kind, so to speak, a nursing home, which well, not very similar to a russian

nursing home, yes. the principle is almost the same that i see this, that is, this is what to say this is our people there. they are there, which means that somehow they also spend the night there and live in their apartments there. yes, but it is, in principle, the same. same history. that is, as if people come to you, all people come that something to do something to do is a problem in old age, that people become a little aesthetic. this is where aesthetics come into play. that's all you understand the aesthetics of old age, because it is correct to say that there is a child. yes, he is, as it were , like this, as he says, the legs are untrodden. yes , it’s so straight, but this, when it’s already 80 years old in the legs of a walker, yes, it’s all so kind of and it’s to find this beauty and aesthetics and understand behind this, because people are inside they are such children, they are all they are all children understand? i say that the children will be from three species. uh, little middle-aged and old you know, that is, in others there is none. and here i

had cases when there are several. ten-year-old people were discussing some new woman there, who was some kind of old woman. okay , here's the bottle. yes, she is an ugly old woman. yes, i must tell you that i have already noticed symptoms in myself. even once i asked this question to social uh social networks and found that cleverly we don’t give such an account at all. how, well, subjective to myself, because it happens to me that i look at a person. i think some, when an elderly uncle, who do you understand, he is younger than me in general. this elderly, uncle, you understand? and in my mind, i’m just talking about this, that we don’t see ourselves, you see, we don’t see ourselves. we think that we are such kids there, but some of you know the aesthetics of beauty in this. eh, you need to be able to do this. in fact, such a compaction, or something,

of activity and information half is somehow nasa and careers do things completely differently. now they demand everything from you non-stop. who then? well, well, how to solve the problems of an elderly person, this kindergarten or what you are doing, you absolutely do it. well, the way out, or something, in a sense, i also feel in demand. and as for the older generation, people need to be that's it. they are. well, when they are inside this society, they, firstly, they are also divided into beautiful, ugly and less beautiful, that is, they are, as it were, they are easier for him socializes about it. in what sense is competition among? i have a 97-year-old woman there who can say, over there, over there, over there, a 90-year-old and making a career knows how to make a career. i can't. yes, yes, she did a personal exhibition there or something they hung on the wall. yes, yes, she knows how to make a career, and i learned to catch up ahead. you

sometimes joke with your wards that you like them all the time, but you joke specifically. you say that sometimes for some unsuccessful work you leave them for the second year. well, again, it's just a game of time. yes i so to speak in this game is absolutely, of course, happy just. call a girl a boy. yes, she says, thank you. thank you. i once said to say to a survivor of the disaster there, so this is the most in the camps. eh, to be a talented boy. thanks boy. deal with the fact that they're leaving. generally artistic, i

take these works. not finished but i finish them in my own way, that is, here i have it, you understand, it is when a person does this work. the nose turned out there at the eagle. yes , so that the eye is there, so that there are paws, everything is with him was and somehow very carefully treated. and if suddenly it is interrupted, here is my project. it's called underachieving. i say that in every school there are students who do not have time to finish in my school, too. yes, and this track is not doing well. i just, so to speak, take this board, turn it over and treat it like a white sheet. it’s just that you draw something different on it, it helps me to put a point somewhere inside to say

in my soul with this character. the time comes, and we change roles with parents than a person is older, the circle of his possibilities narrows. only words remain. he ca n't help you, really at any age. has its own beauty. the main thing is to be able to see it. here you need to find aesthetics. that's all, you understand the aesthetics of old age, because i had cases where for several years people were discussing some kind of new woman, who was some kind of old woman. yes, well, that's it, she 's some kind of old ugly woman. yes, he is still going through a hard time when his students pass away, you look, everything is done here. he was sitting here. there, this one can make such a good school even more than i now have people who have gone to this pain. well, i'm not used to it yet alexander

why is there such a metaphor? so i'm compared to a flight attendant? why a flight attendant? because the flight attendant can not take a person to open a window for him and throw him out the window. from the plane. true well can't just, well the same, i can't. i can’t kick him out of the room , you know, he, i literally flew off today and watched a scene that i really like, understandably. uh, some very old woman. uh, tried with the flight attendant. uh, find out some information that's being flown. they just didn't carry the answers to that question. and i looked with what that's right, it just lay down cleanly, i looked at this theory of mine, with what kind of patience, this girl explained. she told her, i'm doing my job is information. i don't know, i'm sure you can do it. so no no no girl

returns. las and said the same thing, but i would , of course, somehow not say the same thing most in your situation. i would somehow try to switch there or somehow differently. well , that's what it means to say. i understand perfectly well this is a girl, because i myself am so. as you said, that's what it's very optimistic about not a story. that's what you do because you see people live to be almost 100 years old and able to enjoy life as much as possible and what did they teach you? here's some fortitude even. well, you see. for example, when i was i do not remember. how old is 18, i guess i could still imagine somehow with labor year two thousand. i thought that in 2000 i would be 42 years old, so that they would not be presented at all further. and when you see this, uh, these people who are well

over 80. yes, and you understand that they are generally happy, maybe money is not everywhere, because in some part day they suffer from their illnesses go on check. but now, when you see that they are laughing at the top of their voices, then this, in general, is worth living for, because people are frightened, you know, it ’s impossible. we all want to live long, but do not want to grow old, but guys. well, something is not quite right. nobody wants to die young, or please, yes, if you don't like the alternative, come on, now yes, you don't want to. and how old are you now sasha, how old is 58, do you feel signs in yourself? here then and so now we argue with you ladies. here are the old people. these are separate people, which means, and you are their old age, when it comes with you, it has come. relatively speaking, in your children it’s already hard with you in some ways. when that's when a man out of the ordinary

fool turns into an old fool, i don't know. well, everything is relative, again. i think you understand. when i worked as an art director, and i was surrounded by young young beautiful people, and at some point there were 48-49 years old. i felt myself. it is in the most such a person already whitewashed. yes, bald heads, i went to the old people and became young again. hmm , everyone tells me, and then in general my guys say how old your environment begins, for example, your children, and something like that. have time, and throw some thoughts before as you begin to sink into infancy, so that you tell them, leave me. leave me alone. let me live 20 years. she, i

feel her responsibility to me. could formulate some main ones, they say, dear, what is his name of your little thing. i don't know when it will happen, but it happened sooner or later. remember that i don’t know some, there are three main rules. no, well, in general, to say, you understand how impossible it is to convey your experience. but it's impossible. i don’t know how it is now, there is a 58-year-old father. i am i understand that there, no matter how you can re-transform what was with you and put it like such a disk, but into the heads of children so that they do not make mistakes, where you made mistakes, you can’t, and the same thing, how to say

she will find herself. i think how to somehow calm me down with me, than because everyone lives this here in general, probably the beauty of this nature and life, that everyone lives their own life, and you can’t. uh, nothing. i remember my grandfather now. i think, god, he was right. he is right there say, that's where he started to groan, looking at me and at my mistakes here. yes hmm i don't want to say youth, but mistakes yes and so, well, he was right then, but he couldn't explain to me, it's because we were on different planets. that's why i say that we are. we are completely different galaxies . that is, you have it there, so to speak, at 40 or at 30 it doesn’t matter. at what age do you have your own world, you have your own worries, and you, as it were, they seem to be the main ones in the universe in general, these worries need to be resolved. and at he needs completely different ones in general, in order to

find checks that will not be the day after tomorrow, he downloaded home and somehow came to his senses. my legs hurt. by the way, yes starikov yes , there are some walkers to cook there, because but the main thing is that you prepare for this fearlessly. i would say so. well, why be afraid of what? well, we know how it will end? it's all bad. thank you very much for our conversation. we wish success to your book, which i think will be very, well, readable and, like you, i am waiting for the gifted

the child is the dream of many parents a child prodigy. a miracle child differs from ordinary children in that from childhood he gets used to working with his head, and his mental abilities develop much faster than others. she always loved to study at the age of 5 she read all 26 volumes, collected works while her peers ran around the yard. she solved problems in order to quickly move to the next class, and at 13 she entered moscow state university. like her, only 10% of the world's population, these percentages include simply capable and talented and genius, and only 10% of young talents develop their so much talent that in adulthood they become outstanding professionals, and out of 90% of geeks. in the end, ordinary average citizens grow up about how easy it is to be a gifted child today

alone with everyone recognition of the child prodigy irina polyakova i am glad to welcome you. with us, you know, i must say that the modern desire for the comprehensive development of children. sometimes it seems there is a selfish desire to assert themselves parents. and sometimes, maybe you can look at it differently. here what is your expert opinion. i would say, because you are a child prodigy, but is it good to be a child prodigy? well, i can say, so for your child. i would not want such a story. why inflated expectations and the habit of achieving has come to the point that everyone expects something from you, it sometimes unfolds very difficult already in adulthood. and how early did you even realize to yourself that you have some kind of, uh, amazing abilities. i would not say that i had some outstanding, but talents for something specific. yes, i'm just

loved to study. it was interesting to me hmm i have. i'm good at math. i am very glad that i learned to read, but the conclusion, for example, at the age of 5, in my opinion, was read. yes , you know, there is such a logic about a child prodigy. so it was a child born with talent, god gave him or uh. here, it must be unfortunate. this is his parents, maybe troit, as if, if his parents had not invested in him so much, then he would have been a normal child. here, what version of you did your parents pull you up like that, or, well, what to do, they were born like this about me. one can say it is absolutely certain that there was a lot of effort. yes, there was a lot of work and habit to work, your mother is a teacher, or as i understand it, actually thanks to her and her, but perseverance and just her work. oh, and you began to appear. these are some extraordinary learning abilities. she

even came up with some kind of her own methodology, in my opinion, yes, in order for you to develop it, a specialist in early development was given. yes , she works with children of preschool primary school age. here, well , perhaps, his own technique. it's strong it is said, that is, it has not been patented anywhere and has not written books on this topic. well, yes, she has a certain approach. and you weren’t interested in what it was connected with, then you didn’t ask. mom why did you decide to say so, sitting with me at home, to begin me to develop a complex issue so intensively. no, i wasn't interested in her. i know that uh, as she told me. it was her decision from the very beginning, but it's hard to say what it was connected with, maybe she'd better tell about it. let's hear what you told your maman the point is that when she was born, and my husband immediately decided that there were no kindergartens, that i would not work, i would leave my job and raise the child, because i was tired of watching crying children who

were dragged early by the kindergarten and well, si just like that at home i am a teacher, i can’t , therefore, from the first days i talked to her, but at the age of 4 we did not have circles, they were accepted for 7 years. we had it in the morning, as if as a game, but as if we were composing mathematics lessons of acquaintance with the surrounding russian. i agreed with the teacher in zero and her. well, at least little by little. well, they said, only if they write to her 6 years old, she can’t write 5 six years old, the teacher took her to the second grade in another teacher. everything was fine there, but she left, er, for india, and i had to take her with me. this is where the problems started when she was taken in. my class is difficult. i needed to pull it. there are many games, too, everything is in the game. i say irty know it all. well, decide, well, she did raise her hand. i already

did, there's no there. well, yes and further and in general, and she speaks to me in december. mom, i all russian finished all mathematics. children world around reading. well, what to do? she says i want to be in fifth grade. and so she went to the fifth grade, and there it turned out that they had already been learning english for six months, and then the teacher told her. you see, irina polyakova learned more english in 2 weeks than you did in six months. why am i sitting with you? and that's all and here they go to her out to their teacher, then they did not become friends with her, when they tell us, but we never considered her a child prodigy, because she is just an extraordinary person. and these abilities we tried to break the extraordinary in it, so we developed it, and then the potential itself is completely. she didn't reveal. well, uh, judging by the fact that as she went to study, again she still wants to. she wants to improve. in the yard is a

complicated story. uh, i'm a late kid. ah, they have very, but cautious parents, so let's be honest. well, you never know, i went out for a walk . dad, i rode a bike back and forth in front of my eyes, for example, in front of my eyes. yes well that is, we can say that the training was. in fact, the only alternative somehow spend time, yes, but toys. they are toys - they were more like games. i learned to play chess early with my dad and so on, toys are at the level of dolls with dolls. somehow it was interesting. there were some plot plays of a doctor. here it is to do injections there, cook food, m-m feed with food, somehow it didn’t work out. i don't really like to cook right now. what age were you when you

graduated from this school at 13:00. that is, ah, firstly, it is necessary. before, i went, respectively, at the age of 6 to the first to 5 zero. then for six months the third six months, the fourth for the fifth summer and then into the sixth, which at that moment switched to 11 years. tired seventh. that is, it turned out that last year i started in the third year next year somehow. so in the seventh i was then nine years old. after that, i didn't jump anywhere. uh, calmly , they finished their studies until the age of 13. e at school. what is summer? have you completed the program? the fifth grade somehow accelerated and could not stop. here, even on vacation, i didn’t feel like it a little. well, somehow i don’t know, it’s conditional to swim and sunbathe there, i don’t know how to argue there. we didn't go for sports. i don't particularly was engaged. i read books. and i really really liked mathematics and i was always praised for something. yes. uh, it’s not just because they loved it for what it is,

yes, i remember, but mostly some positive emotions, but from the fact that i achieved something. uh-huh yes, well done, what did you do, well done, and you get used to it and somehow you want to live praises move mountains further nicely it turns into the very motivation then well done well done and you remember that your parents were quite strict with you and say that my parents never asked for my forgiveness. and i am learning this with my son. you wrote this on your page on the social network. and why do you think it happened? it's kind of like that. well, here is the peculiarity of parents such an attitude that it is impossible to understand authority? yes, yes, i remember that very well. uh. in general, since childhood i have been such a fighter for justice. i felt something very strongly. ah, that's really unfair. yes, uh in any situation. and

uh, it offended me that the parents in at some point i understood that they might be wrong in some situation, but they never admitted it, then my mother told me when i was older. i asked her. why actually? well, how is this to drop authority? how to admit that you are wrong in front of a child? damn, well, i really clearly felt it, and it seems to me that the relationship would be better if they didn’t try to be so right too, but we don’t attract and somewhere admitted that yes, here we screwed up. forgive me yet you say about yourself that your father's daughter. and why is it that some kind of denser emotional connection has developed with dad, it’s hard to say why it’s like this , but in childhood yes, in childhood, as it seems to me, it was, but it didn’t turn out. i don't look like him anymore. mom, really. she also often said this, but in some inside the family. not even conflicts, well,

some small disputes, a-a questions, i don’t know what program to watch on tv there. i somehow always give more support to dad, maybe dad accepted you more not only for your achievements just because, well, daughter maybe. she always learned a lot faster than her peers . before, i went, respectively, at the age of 6, the first 5 zero, then in six months the third six months, the fourth in five years irina was a very purposeful child. i remember a mostly some positive emotions from the fact that i achieved something, that my parents never asked her forgiveness at some point. i understood that they might be wrong in some situation, but they never admitted it, then my mother told me when i got older, i asked her. why exactly? well, how is this to drop authority?

how to admit that you are wrong child? irina polyakova here is another moment of communication at school, about which you say that you, so to speak, your feeling of loneliness. it just stuck there. and what is why? that is, when the child is not the same as all this is unconditional. children, they are on their own. uh, especially not so mature ones. yes , they are not cruel enough and, uh, so uncompromising, let's say so, therefore they certainly are. i like sometime from them is different. yes, that is, it is some such here. and the yes community, in which if you are not like something, then you need to put a lot of effort in order to be accepted there, you applied these forces. i apply by all means to me. i'm a very uh such a social person. it is very important for me to be on vkontakte with others. yes, i really wanted to communicate, especially since this was not enough before

school, and i was very interested. i wanted friends, i wanted to communicate. but, on the one hand, there was envy, of course, and yes, and moreover, the more achievements, the more this envy was included on the part of some, but there were moments that were stimulated even by teachers, that is, it was manifested by teachers. no, not envy. eh, more like something. well, such, uh, strengthening the demonstration of this my personality. yes, that is, uh, i still remember how in the seventh grade i was called to the board to teach. he says, look, this girl is 9 years old, she wrote a test for five, and you are all on the track. you are just chocks with eyes, and now, well, of course, this does not cause love. yes it was guaranteed nationwide after such words. basically, it seemed to me that any person. if he wants and tries, he will also be an excellent medalist there, he will also study well. yes, in general, i have not won

any international competitions. yes, not there pilaria, that is, i did, in principle, everything the same as my peers. it just might be more efficient. yes, faster sometimes it's better and i didn't understand. why, actually, what doesn’t love me so much, so i tried very hard. eh, somehow deserve it. yeah it's love than well don't know checkin yeah took the bike out here. well, what not to take and how did you manage to earn love after that? well one of the reasons why? i would not want my child, for example, to be a child prodigy, that's just it. the danger of bias yes, that a person is very successful in any one area , usually in the area of ​​\u200b\u200bachievement. that's where he gets talent, but in terms of socialization. he suffers from broken contacts with friends of the opposite sex

often. yes, the same thing that happened to me, because ah. i've always been great to learn, and to make friends uh go somewhere meet. i was small in terms of my parents, of course. or maybe there was still a problem in the fact that such a serious age difference, that is, you were nine, and your classmates of 12-3 years old are very many at this age, exactly 13 are already people who are just teenagers girl girls. and it's not so much a study in the head. how much , in fact, just the question of relationships comes to the fore, and you are here with your belly, as if in the fact that and since i really am very early, but almost from the moment i went to school. i was already, when here i am from a purely family cell. yes, let's say, she went into society. i was on par with them. who was older than me. i'm used to seeing myself the same way. that is, to me, uh, there intellectually morally.

i was conditionally 12 there. yes, yes, there are 13. and here, but outwardly, of course, here. uh, it was just such a baby, but with pigtails, i don’t know, they didn’t allow makeup when i went to high school, because, well, where do you go? this is the feeling, the inconsistency. something, as if in some strange body, yes, that is, you seem to feel differently, but you look well done, and at the same time a total loser. yes, let's now listen to your classmate for now, what she remembers about the time i plan, how with sad eyes, she is always always focused. busy with some sad thoughts. uh, you could see her cheerful only in physical education classes, that is, some kind of mobility appeared in her and, uh , objectively, she was much smaller than us in terms of height in physique. still 3 years the differences were very felt and the blue uniform, which we all then wore objectively,

was great for her. well, it’s just that she ’s not designed for such an age, and it seems to me that every step of irina’s life gave her discomfort, the teachers really treated her, and we ourselves get off with a certain one, or what? yes, with this, and hmm, an additional score in her favor due to the fact that she is, as it were, naturally younger than us. i remember that moment when at the first meeting. after there 10-12 years after school we saw, she gathered a man, probably 13 of the class and no one ever knows who will get a little surprise. here, ira suddenly appeared it was perfect. here is a gorgeous woman. with such a head of hair, of course, no one recognized her, everyone asks. this is polyakova. it's definitely far away. but then they hugged there, and it was so cool. really nice for her. you see, this one is already more of the corresponding one. and

here is such a situation, it should give rise to internal protest. well, uh, at some point you didn't feel like, relatively speaking, slow down to say, but i won’t study, but i don’t know there, well, so as not to stay for the second year, but now i ’m talking some kind of crazy. well, there, here, enter into some kind of age correspondence, stop trying so hard, stop learning so much and get ahead. and the fact is that well, how to slow down? well, really, enough for the second year, or what? no , perfectionism did not allow, but hmm , there were no questions about the study itself. i was interested and easy i was really interested and in general yes, easy. now, if you look back, what from childhood, you can directly fix it and say that normal communication with peers was missed. and as in childhood itself, so what is probably even more important and even more difficult to catch up later

. this is the teenage period. teenage early such early adolescence. yes, when you just learn to be friends normally, you learn to meet with the opposite sex. yes, you are stuffing your bumps. yes, i didn't have any of that. i, this piece , i had it completely turned off, and then it suddenly turned out that everything, as if i had already grown up. i am no longer a prodigy. well, all my life i just studied and studied. and now it seems like everything is possible, but i can’t do anything at the age of 13. you graduated from high school and immediately entered the university. yes, but here i did not want to somehow slow down too. listen, you graduated from high school with so much stress. in the end. you could say so, well, i mean, i ’ll lie on my side in a year, and then next year i’ll go to act no, at home with my parents with a closed lock. and that is, you still had to learn to learn to go to college. if only there were some people people and opportunities establish new relationships in a new team. well, i was a little smarter now. i said based on my bitter

experience. who doesn't know how old i am? and it could be hidden, and at 14 it was easier, you looked like makeup, high heels, here i already won the right to, uh, some kind of certain appearance. i deliberately hid how old i am? and in my opinion, in the middle of the second year. it was revealed by accident, well, it was too late. in general, i was already accepted, that is, relations had already somehow developed, and therefore it was not important. very accidentally hid it. ah, at the institute. you have slowed down from the pace of learning and decided to be within the framework, so to speak. no, well, where was it next, i slowed down at school. actually. here after that jump. well, first of all already, and when the range of items becomes much wider than at the beginning, it's already so easy over the summer. there are three textbooks not about to decide. yes? uh-huh and here is the meaning, that is, it was not an end in itself. yes, i really did it in my childhood because it worked well, there were no alternatives, as for

students, that's understandable. that study is study, but the students are all remembered as a period of some wonderful parties of the romanovs, first of all, where marriages are tied up, well, student time. er, in most cases, what concerns you? how do i do things with age. it's like you hid. this is not my story, but i hid my age, but my parents accompanied me to the doors of the university until the end of the second year, and in the third and fourth. i beat off by meters, first to the doors of the institute, then to the university metro station, then to the transfer station, then there will be more, yes, that is, i imagine from yours it was a period of very tough struggle. uh, like the freedom of a parrot. uh-huh that's what i mean, uh, if at school i fought for some kind of love, friendship, the attention of classmates, then the institute period for

me is a period of struggle with my parents, because. with classmates, everything was just fine, but then the resistance from the parents turned on very hard. just that you are still just learning something further, and everything else is small. now, if everything else at school is somehow, well, it was really less, because, well, it is clear that the children are schoolchildren. that is, there were just all these parties here, there were some kind of trips there, trips, as if they didn’t get anywhere. no. oh god, i'm nowhere. all that she knew how to do well was to study for the study itself, there were no questions. it was interesting and easy for me. i was really interested, not in general. yes , she easily felt older than her years. i was on par with them. who was older than me. i used to perceive myself in the same way, she desperately fought for the freedom to do so, as she sees fit, my parents accompanied me to the door of the university until the end of the second year, and in the third and fourth. i beat off

the confession of the child prodigy irina polyakova. do you know what i suddenly thought? ira and maybe, you know, this is such a great trick with the strangeness of your parents there are different ways to attach a child to yourself. here is how you can attach it. here, uh, encourage him in his ability to learn. but here is the age difference. it's the same, well, like such a collar, on which a short a leash on which you can hold your child and be guaranteed that everything will be fine with him, because he is under our control. i don't think they had such a conscious goal. yes, unconsciously. who knows. well, let's listen to your girlfriend already now on the universities of catherine is right. how i met cheese. it's uh, it was at the university. i do not remember exactly. on what course, but it seems to me that, probably, on the first, but some general companies and in fact , at first, of course, i did not know that she

heaps. but the fact that she was younger than all of us. i saw this, of course, at some point i asked a question. and how of course, i was very surprised and even a little envious, because this is in general, well, in my opinion. uh, not everyone can, yes, that is, at least at the institute. i don't know about school. well , at the institute there was no feeling that ira was some kind of a monster. yes, as sometimes the perception of people who are not alike happens, no, she was absolutely equal to equal members of the team team. uh, somewhere maybe maybe even some concessions did exactly because she is younger she is actually very fast. e, she achieved success in those areas that she, for whom i got, that is, her. uh, pretty much everything she started doing. she was very interested in everything, and she dug like a real soldier and achieved

very high results in the case of raw. i would probably say that this is her status of a child prodigy or that she met some things earlier in her life in her life , but in my opinion she revealed to me impossibility. uh, somewhere it can be more risky in your personal life. in the sense that this is health, probably, and briefly. ira is just a wonderful person, and a person with whom i would probably want to communicate for the rest of my life. whether it seemed to ekaterina that the person is more risky, i don’t know if it can be called riskiness rather, but i’m used to the fact that nothing was given to me for nothing, therefore, in situations where many who are not used to, probably, they simply add up such difficulties to difficulties they say it's not for me at all.

i understand that not a little more and that's it. it can be said, well, to call such a plus this acquisition, let's say this situation of early development. i believe that yes, it certainly helps, but it helps, and in work it helps in studies in some achievements. yes in a career, well, there is a situation where it interferes? in what, and in relationships in general, yes, when, as i say, completely different factors are turned on, where it is not necessary to suffer for a long time in order for something to work out, yes, and you still try to deserve habits you dig into what moment? do you think, uh, your childhood is over, it's such a difficult question . did it begin? yes, rather, yes, huh? well, perhaps when i entered the institute, because there it really began to be

another story for me. yes, there was more communication. there was much more positive than in school there was this opportunity to enjoy some moments of things, and not all. what i would like, yes, because well, at first it was quite difficult to have a fake channel, it really is. well, i had to work hard. yeah plus uh work certainly some conflicts, as i said. fight for freedom with parents. that's but in general it's much more positive already time for me here's a quote. your you constantly lives from some achievement to achievement from success to success. if something goes wrong, then a very big breakdown happens. and when you began to collide, for the first time here is such a word, or what? yes, it turns out, well, not only can be in a relationship. in general, something may not work out with this, in principle, i sometimes encountered in school and at the institute and it was not fatal for me. that is, uh, i just got used

to achieving, yes, that is, it didn’t work there from the first, i’ll try again. i really was very pushy in this sense. in general , some may be beyond expectation. yes, the fact that there was some kind of fleur a child prodigy, from whom at first i tried very hard to get rid of, yes, and hide it, and then, when the institute began to develop in a career. yes, at the beginning i really was the youngest employee there, i became the youngest member board of directors in a large company of americans, which i have been working for 27 years, but at some point this realization really comes that there was some kind of rocket launch. yes, and, probably, something like that was expected from me. here is an ingenious, but impossible they award to receive the nobel prize for some kind of discovery. and i, well, not only did i choose a field in which, in principle, well, such a very practical one. yes, but they have already begun to catch up with you somewhere to catch up with others, and

i remember it was such a shock for me when i realized that and i’m already taking the leader, and to to work for a person who was born when i graduated from school, what a nightmare why exactly their youth shocked you so much? well, because uh, i'm used to living ahead of the curve. yes, i got used to the fact that i am the smallest, then the youngest, the most advanced here, but here the op is no longer there. well, this fact is that, in fact, you have caught up, maybe in terms of results. yes , you didn’t make any discovery into space. you didn't fly the nobel prize, you didn't get it. what is this disappointment then? why me? lord so. tried it a lot spent on why was this lead? well, what was the lead in fact? i don't really like, and hmm guess, what would happen if yes, because it seems to me that this is a very thankless task. but, of course, it

hits self-esteem so much, yes, when you are always the first the first time and then the second, that is, or maybe you’re just tired of these constant achievements, or maybe you already realized that enough is enough for the diploma, the whole wall the wall is finished. you can look for yourself in something else, and what else is a family? for it has always been very important to me. i wanted a relationship, especially since, uh, just , uh, yes, as we discussed while everyone was turning them on. uh, i was little and i couldn't. uh-huh and when it became possible, when he fought off this chance for himself, well, when she ran away from her parents for 18 years, and you ran away from them, she ran away. and what did you do? well, as packed things fled, and there they shouted, that's just over my corpse. you will not cross this threshold. no no, you can't. well

, it looked like there was a story to give an apartment or something, right? i rented an apartment hard 180° with the boy. yes, i waited for 18 years, and all the time i very clearly set this border that we are responsible for you. while you are still small , you will be 18 years old when you realized that 18 will soon stop talking. no, when we marry you, yes, then they said, no. the first word is more valuable than the second. i was for justice. but ir, go on the idea, well, well, 18 years old turned out great, but ah, it seems to me, you had to get into trouble more than once , what is called in a relationship was such that you are now married for the second time. yes you have there is a son of the first marriage, as i understand it, yes, but now there is. let's go to the current spouse. and how long have you been together 2 years 2 years. let's now listen to your spouse dmitry and continue some kind of story, how everything developed, then we thought for a long time and left. it

all happened very quickly for us. so i liked it. yes, we must live together. well, yes, that's all, and in fact, how we became with her, how i arrived once. here's home. so i'm from there. as a matter of fact, they don’t leave this house anymore for 2 years. i'm on my own imagine just a ram yes, i have a zodiac sign, therefore, argue me. what are you doing is very difficult, and rin has a point of view and her yes because, well, it also lived a very interesting life and lives a very interesting life. yes, but not always in the family these points come down. and of course, when we start arguing about something, then, of course, this. this is straight italian passion. yes, he will never back down. nothing, that is, i don’t know how much she would want. yes, let's say she does it anyway. and from this, of course, sometimes there are some conflicts, because maybe there, as a man or as something else, i will look for some kind of not that compromise. i always come first. i was thinking about some sort of security of something. yes, then irina she just doesn’t see what

is called barriers, yes, that is, she’s here, i don’t know there. here, if she wants to. it seems to me that here it is necessary to set a goal to fly into space. well, listen, indeed, there is experience and intelligence. what is called intellect, yes, and there is a female mind wisdom. it's generally different, as they say, the planes are different. yes, and how could you navigate this, and did you have any excessive requirements, for example, they should not know about men there, i don’t know anything better, they don’t know yours, there were definitely no excessive requirements. rather, it was this fear of loneliness that was underestimated, and the fear of feeling yourself again rolled back. yes, in the feeling that here is one against all, yes and the complete absence of any experience. uh-huh relationships and either experience some there

don't know unrequited love, yes, when you you show some feelings, but they don't perceive you. and here is and very-very wanted to love. i wanted to be loved and definitely on a rake. i advanced. but because something could not be skillfully recognized, and plus, in combination with perseverance, which dima also said in situations in which more than a, well, a girl with some experience in relationships. i would just take a step back and say. oh no, it's not mine at all. no, i believed in success to the last. by the way, this is the question of your coming to psychology, which now, as i understand it, you are engaged seriously . and you even decided to get some kind of second education, but to receive it with this psychological bias. i understand that you once needed the help of psychologists. that is, what happened, at what second? eh, such a crisis happened that you needed it? it was a crisis, uh, in my personal life, and, of

course, uh, probably, such a kind of overhaul that would take a long time. yes, there are two things here. that is, i really worked very hard, but i tried to build relationships. they turned out very badly. i realized that in some running in circles, from this. i tried to go to work to work even more even longer there, in this case, and so on and at some point, i just finished. so , accordingly, i turned to psychotherapists for help for a short time, then i left it. i thought it was somehow? well, unworthy, or something, well, i myself. i always do everything myself, but even when you realize it with your head from e, it is very difficult to get out of the same patterned behavior. especially without outside help. that is the head here certainly some realized. this is already there 30-40% success. yes, but in order to change the way you somehow solve your problem , you often really need help, everything is strange,

she never gives up. i'm used to the fact that nothing was given to me just like that, therefore, ah, in those situations where many are not accustomed, probably to difficulties. they just say no at all, not for me. i understand that not a little more and that's it. only now irina realized that she had ceased to be the youngest. i'm already a leader. i take to work a person who was born when i graduated from school, what a nightmare, unlike studies, personal relationships were not easy for her to wake up, in which, already, a girl with some experience in relationships. i would just take a step back and say. oh no, it's not mine at all. i believed in success until the last confession of a child prodigy. irina polyakova now how old is eight five? not? come on,

so something with the genes is passed on. it happens so well that it hurts your heart, right? well, i'm struggling with it, yes, well, stop the boy's triples normally. here if you also said so, negotiate at night, when you practically play the pillow, and your child goes to a regular school. he goes to school near the house - it's a gymnasium, but first of all. i chose it not because it is a gymnasium, because it is a convenient school close to home. i had enough of my trips to school. an hour and a half one way. and i decided that my child, at least in childhood , will go to school, to which he will go again, your son's name is artyom. like. he comes up with some right from childhood. as soon as he began to speak, he began to speak, by the way, not quickly, not in

a child prodigy, so in two from the tail. mom was very worried and said that now i will take it. let me do it. and what did you do, baby, don't come. mom doesn't need to. yes, he very early began to come up with some absolutely fantastic. you go in for sports, he goes to karate, goes in for swimming. ah, i can’t say that he wildly loves to study. how am i as a child, right? well, i give him much more opportunities for other things that you can love, except for studying. here and here. that doesn't bother me anymore. well, of course, as you pointed out. yes, when he gets triples, i have to persuade myself that this is normal, because the habit of being an excellent student driven into my head is, but i don’t understand it, and you help him do his homework. i help, but i set a goal for myself, uh, by the end of the

third grade, stop doing it. just say that it's dangerous, because you think everything is so perfect that it can suppress, as it were, when it's on us so fast wonderful. i notice myself he is different in character. i've always been really fast. whack like that. yes, he likes to think, he will start writing something, he wanted to drink, pee and, along the way, also a tv. i was torn apart in this one, how you can do one example for 15 minutes or god forbid there is homework in spanish for 2 hours, but i work, that is, not for my son, but work on yourself so as not to demand more. yes, but what do you think, now he has this experience that you have behind you a and having the son in front of him that’s all equals. well, what makes a person successful? in my opinion, probably two things. this is certainly important, intelligence, yes, that is,

i do not want to go to extremes and say that there is no need to study. and in general, uh, it’s worth developing your own smarter. yes, let's go to vocational school , the main thing is that we will all be cheerful people, but, well, it's important to connect iq and q yes, emotional intelligence. now, if one stretches out the second knits, then this is the source of very big problems inside them, which go into the external. well, can we say that the result of some such m-m. parental pride is cool when you have a child chic, not like everyone else, there is even such a term yes child, as a narcissistic continuation of parents. i think that if the ability is manifested here it is very important to be a clear child, yes, and see what he is interested in what he does not from the series. there, every boy should, i don't know, go to the

martial arts section. yes, maybe it 's important for you to creak. here he seems to me, the best , what can parents do? it's uh, hmm pay close attention to what u the child turns out that he is interested and help this development. you know what else i think. and what about happiness, after all, it is always very simple things, well, happiness lies in the very, very banalities that you can imagine. hmm, you can't even notice it. if you strive somewhere all the time with some kind of high result, yes, absolutely, what are you truly proud of today . you may not believe me, but i don’t think in such terms. i’ll try to answer now, but i don’t have such that i woke up in the morning and i think i’m proud, of course they don't ask about it. it's just that you're on a transmission here today, so maybe you could sum it up a bit, look, here's to today, really straight.