everything is fine, that is, in general, it seems to me that such children are not abandoned. and, probably, she would also simply say that we have one big misunderstanding, that we are simply standing on different edges of this abyss. it seems so to me, but the only thing is when i talk to my dad and tell him some stories that my mom and i have some situations. he tells me that they did the same. and there is this moment that anger, she compares me with him, of course, that is, she says, how did you sleep, of course, that's all he has, yes, yes, you look like him this breed. i'm really a copy of dad , just outwardly, of course, and this gives her great discomfort. well, there's no going back . mom unfortunately not, i believe me, fortunately you know, and your story with your mother reminded me of one very interesting

love story, which is described in the kama sutra. weddings are not unnatural. and so they got married and when they got married, according to the tradition of this place in india there is such a tradition that the wedding night, and the young spend in their parents' houses when it is already possible, but they still have to endure. well , after that they parted in the lady of their parents. and, of course, having waited for the sunrise, they ran towards each other, but when they came running, it turned out that between their villages, the ganges flowed a great great river without beginning and end, which could not be overcome. i haven't lived my whole life just looking at each other from different shores. yes, there is a similarity in this and there is a way out in this, because you and your mother are like two very prickly,

hedgehogs, which, if put in one box, they will definitely stab each other, you need a distance, you need a distance. and, of course , the moment you went to school, apart from what happened. ah. well, i'll call it tertiary separation. yours from mom. yes, you reacted differently, ah, but you reacted the same way, firstly, you ended up, and in a society that now evaluates you, and seems to objectively evaluate and all evaluations are important for your mother, including, but you don’t match the topics estimates that are there. well, in the sense there are not only fives. and of course, your mother begins to somehow educate you in this sense, and the educational process has nothing to do with love. education is training. and, of course, when i asked you a question, when did you first feel that your mother did not love you it was then when your mother began to evaluate you through the grades that you bring from school, suppose and there, when she fell silent, you, of course,

became uncomfortable. the fact is that that little nastya is really not able to was to cope with this already an adult woman. and this is also true, it’s just time to grow up, apparently, to give your mother the right not to explain to you. why do not like your young man. well, yes, you understand a lot of other things to give your mother, because this is the only way you will show understanding of her position. well, i agree, just then, besides the fact that my young man simply doesn’t like it, she told me about it and hmm, as it were, there was a question. why uh was another hmm, it seems to me, an important moment, i uh said, i say, well, i'm happy with this person and my mother is this she said, but i don’t see that you are now, i’m not alone mom. your boyfriend will never be good enough. well, as if, when i was there in the eleventh grade and met

with a boy from my school, who she liked, he just walked by the handles there. here she liked him, you walked by the handles in this matter. yes, probably, as if there was a problem in this , she staked on you, so no one who will be next to you will cause wild delight in your mother. but it seems to me that this is a question, but in the manifestation you are offended by your mother's manifestation, when she thus showed you that it is not very beautiful. me understands, yes showed you that your young man you do not like. she does not like. it was just very annoying. and uh, i just kind of, i didn't even have questions then. e. what, well, how can he, well, maybe you don’t like it? and i had more of a question, like ok, i don't like it. well, why is that? why show it like that? well, i'm not on purpose, i'm not

going to destroy yours on purpose. she just does it in a certain way. she does it completely unconscious. well, how to live? is this easy to accept? like a fact? well, well, here you live, for example, a neighbor and a neighbor are not at all interested in your personal happiness. well, you somehow cope, it does not mean at all that she does not love you. i really hope so, you remember how, in your childhood, for the first time, for example, maybe for the first time, you experienced fear that your mother would not . i started experiencing it. uh, when i got older and started to catch myself on this , when we had already parted, i became this is very bad, but mom will not become sooner or later. yes, i kind of understand that, but it doesn't make it any easier. it subconsciously wakes up somewhere and drives me into

some kind of funnel to drive thoughts. i think what will happen then further so that further. i don't know, no one has ever stumbled on anything. but still, people die, they just continue to live , it's true. well, as if i understand that, probably, i can continue to live with this, of course, you can’t with one. you can't with the fact that you didn't have time to tell mom, how you love her. about it. by the way, i also thought, well, then maybe you should learn to talk to your mother until the moment when you admit your love to yourself, without expecting that she will tell you this. i do this periodically and we recently had a conversation at christmas she herself took the initiative. she

congratulated me. honestly. now i don't remember what she wrote to me. she, in general, i sort of answered that i propose to simply love each other and accept each other, and answered. well live with it hug and i'm like hmm but if mom you want to get love and acceptance. here, let's try to use such a tool. how to give what you want to receive stories. how could you give her love and acceptance? what steps can you take? well, it’s probably simple, in principle, to show this initiative to her, which i want her to show there, call write to be interested if something is needed somehow. hmm

to participate in her life but you understand, as if when everything was fine, and we kind of went up on our rollercoaster. i'm with participated in her life with the same success. i asked how she was doing. health is there somewhere, if it needed to help, where it was, it was possible and i tried, how to use the resources, uh, and then, as it were, untwisted, then everything is always from some little thing. that is, i'm there, she wants me to go with her there for a birthday party to her friend, whom i don't know, and i had a very difficult working period. i say me. well, i probably won't go, because i really want to rest. and i kind of, well, uh, just , well, i don’t want to, even that is, you can. me there may be no reason to do so. i just don't want my mom clinging to it. what, yeah. don't you

want to? in the sense that you don’t want it, and, as it were, that is, how can i go somewhere with me to some establishments. so it's just somehow there to receive gifts. so this is the first. and how to understand with me on my girlfriend's birthday? so you don’t want to and, as it were , unwind from this, and again we stopped communicating, that is, we swore. i just faced a wave of some kind of misunderstanding here . what the fuck, why can't i not want to, uh, go somewhere, like, and there's a friend in here. see when we talk about acceptance. we are talking about accepting a mother like that, no matter how trite it is. yes, this phrase sounded like accepting mom for who she is. you want that same acceptance, and you said i was a good kid. you are indeed a good child, but not perfect. how do we know most likely, she says, you know, that she is a good child, because if i were talking to her mother now, my mother

would tell, i raised an ungrateful daughter, and an inattentive daughter is a daughter who is not able to respect her mother. eh, be a good kid. at least i don’t convince nastya of this , a good child, but not perfect, but mom’s mom is good, but not perfect. i mean, this very acceptance is born where we recognize what is ideal. no there is. each has its own manifestations, the question of the boundaries of these manifestations. well, in principle, there are no happy parents of grateful children. here, in principle, there are no such, each child is still a little bit, but did not reach the point that from him expected parents, and each child thinks that he doesn’t care a little, but they didn’t add it, or they gave it, but not that, or they gave it, but not like that. hmm , that means you have a problem, darling. most likely, mom is needed in order to create these problems through overcoming which we

grow up. triggers with you psychologist sergey on himself, psychologist tatyana krasnovskaya, and our guests nastasya do you remember the moment when you had 14 years old from a children's clinic transferred to an adult, yes, that is, in fact, from the age of 14 and already at the age of 15 . and to the clinic the child walks by himself. well, yes, well, okay. the guys are healthy adults, so to speak, and the child, who turns out to be in a dependent relationship, really continues to walk with his mother 18 or 19 and believe me. i know history at 30-35. uh-huh. these are the ones mom takes doctors to psychologists. i met this or my mother comes and says, you know, i have a problem, what kind of son is sick there. and how old is the son of 308 there, you understand, yes, it happens that we cannot, we have not learned. we were not lucky and the connection is very strong, of course, but only keeps the connection for a long time. in general business.

because your mother, of course, considered it her duty to give you as much as she could be more. yes , as soon as she considered it her duty, it means that she transferred this debt to you and you are now, and in this debt vein, right? that is, you must give now. yes? this is such a leitmotif, of course, the same most interesting thing as the conclusions. yes, but it's also about the expectation about your expectations from your mother mom's expectation from you. that's for sure. it also works in your relationship with your boyfriend about the same acceptance, right? i just understand that i, too, uh, cling to some little thing and spin it out of the blue. although it doesn't matter at all. great what do you notice? uh yeah, well it took me quite a while to figure out how to deal with it. i'll tell you a very simple thing, when you are at the moment

when you recognize your mother in your behavior, it's just that inside i want to hear it out loud, true , some will think that you are crazy. just say hello mama, yes, that is welcome this part of your character. uh-huh it's not innate, but it's acquired if it's acquired. that means hmm you seem to, yeah, well, conventionally it seems to be uh the right tool for smoothing the right tool for survival the right tool for hmm to rule with some- any of this situation. yes, because mom coped like that, you remember, too. now you do, but it's only a question of risk, that is, at some point, when you start to say, hello mom, you will get a pause, in where you can take the risk of doing nothing with what you have seen. yes, and then you understand, oh wow, but he, it turns out, did not wash the dishes. it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me at all. it's just not washed dishes. yes, but

sometimes at some point you can choose to react to your mother, sometimes this is a working and effective model. yes, just this pause will give you the opportunity to make a decision for yourself, as appropriate. now i will lead. it’s my mother who is now directing me inside me, or is it all the same. this is my decision. uh-huh if you plan to build your own life, then you have to prioritize. e, where your attention will be directed from this does not work, and the husband cannot always be a priority. he is not the children's priority. children are not a priority for mothers and as you form new participants in your life. your mom will take a backseat. and it's very difficult. it's hard for you, it's hard for her. it is clear why, because she was betting on you, as tatyana correctly said? yes, it seems to her that she is losing, because she understands exactly that you should have been at least president, and then you leave. you

slip away from her and this one hurts. but it hurts you and why you are so afraid of the thought of your mother’s death, although, well, as if none of us , thank god, is eternal uh-huh, but because a very large number are not a board of sayings, because your understatement lies in the fact that i’m so mom and did not convey to you what i meant or what? i wanted to say. this is something you don't need to do either of you. we'll have to get used to living with innuendo, as on different banks of the river. there was another very important for a moment the river was so turbulent that they could not hear each other. well, apparently, as if that kind of our communication, congratulations to each other on holidays and rarely. well, as it were, well, not rarely, well, just recognition, how is he doing? it's probably still a workflow. and also try every time you finish a conversation with mom , no matter what note, he always came out to finish the phrase and mom, i love you.

and look, when i gave you this example for the first time. you told me yes, no, i do. i even wrote to her at christmas that let's love each other and accept each other. i didn't say a word to each other. yes, it is exclusively one-way. yes, it is different and it does not work absolutely the only way, and this does not mean that you need to distance yourself as much as possible or stop communicating. it means that you have to do what you feel, if you feel that you want a little closer to your mother , it will come out a little closer to your mother, just letting this air between you is necessary. as if falling into place. it needs to be something simple. probably, finally, the truth to stop being a six-year-old. and learning to live in the process

of growing up is such a thing as inversion to dominate insofar as parents dominate children. well, as if it's normal. parents are a child there. i'm the eldest, then in the process of growing up, parents grow old and this is the version that happens. and this is a normal process. but in order for that to happen , you're right about one very important thing that you said, you have to go. just take responsibility for your part of life. and once you learn to take responsibility for your part of life, as soon as this one, respectively, becomes complete, you will have the strength to take responsibility for some part of your mother, well, take care of your mother there, when you need it, if necessary, help is provided to support her and accept her and love and really came that you heard something important for yourself, what will you be in what

will you be? uh, well, of course, with the fact that it’s just time for me to grow up and start taking responsibility for my life, given that i’m already building my own family anyway, and i’m responsibly at work. and that's it. and it’s time for yourself, as it were, to bear this responsibility. well, for me it was very important that they said that what i win back. uh, this scenario in my family is exclusively my character. i mean, this is something that i can get rid of and only through awareness, yes, yes, and hmm, i am very grateful that you suggested a way for me to do this, because it really tormented me a lot. well, we are happy to help you. thank you very much. thank you thank you. it's under we were kostrigers with you sergey for ourselves

tatyana krasnovskaya and anastasia hello this is an anthropology podcast hosted by dmitry drov. and our guest is the art project of a villa at the head of another coveted one. i ask you and you to tell us firsthand what kind of project it is. this is an art project of the villa. well, these are slavic mythological characters, they have hair to the ground, white wings and goat hooves, and that's how it turned out. they are from young brides who died before the wedding about this, and the first song is not about it, about love. she just went to the wedding. yeah, that means

still, there was love let's go. the wind did not sway

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i will gladly not forget the letter of the empty god to you, marishka, to thank god hallelujah. bravo dear friends, but not only the art project of the pitchfork is strong with drowned people, but you will still have what kind of health you have? here is the groom anywhere. who is this man? this is sergei kalachev, with whom we have been working for almost 34

years, but he did not always have drums. for starters, he plays the bass guitar. this is a brilliant bass player, generally fantastic the best musician in the country, i'm not afraid of this word. tell me, please, innochka before you showed aerobatics. i mean , the writing is infuriating. listen to everyone in the world sing. even those who can't sing in the shower. after all , they sing, although in the mornings or in the evenings. and it’s not for everyone to write this, given, the monk wrote, yes, so sometimes the listener did not even understand where the trip to the village with folk songs ends. and where does the personal zelenogradsky begin, you understand the repertoire. it was a fantasy, you probably write to this day day, probably not. but now you hid behind a folk song. yes, why well, somehow it happened like this from 1.900 e, 90. yes, when

i met sergei starostin. greek or preservatives, well there then let's talk to them. where are you friend from? well, alice and i can hear the gnesinsky fairy. yeah, ippolitova, ivanovo, but only we are academics, yes, comrades of the academician, we are not populists. tell us, please, teapot, and what is the difference between an academician and a populist, or sings with an academic voice? well you're written how's it, well, it's basically classical music. these are certain manners

of performance. this is a bore and a populist right? yes, and here is another, for example, another moment. autism academicism necessarily implies anti-eroticism on the don, for example, god forbid some cossack ensemble will come and start ours with materkom, otherwise god will fall, as if there were no songs, no cossacks in the world, but only one professor. i don't hate you. and look how you are in a folk song. see for example. here you worked an interesting number with pelagia. eh, that's who we are? speaks will be, while i don’t remember exactly, covering us says, who will be, well, who else thought? maybe cover is not what to cover. and in the sense it can be something to cover, but when you already kiss, who will not be appeased by the heroine. and as someone answers, and andryusha will be, well, that's all. this is eroticism. no. how

not, this is a wedding song when a means he. well, was it generally the sea to get married? yes, that's why they are all, of course, that's why they're in this way? yes, well, it means you covered your head well. and kissing is something to kiss us. a here is andrey, there are some such farewell kiss from the mother, in general eroticism folk song eroticism - at least this is exactly how our leader of the choir always had in mind. god bless him. that's what he always said sing about it girls and leave about it professor. it's better than a professor. such did not bother to break through the scientific part. yes , it's better than the professor. it is he who has such students to dig something for us, but about the erotic, as it were, lessons of professoratism is the most erotic song. it seems to me about a beetle, which the girls went to the forest, goulash black beetle,

and look for lyuba lyuba lyuba black beetle look for lyuba lyuba lyuba black beetle troops, then yes and eroticism another 10 verses. yes, come on, the ninth, well, in general, they brought it home, found it, brought it and, uh, put it to sleep with them. and he found a hole. he went to quarrel and the girls say science to you, if you meet a black beetle, do not take it with you. do not put him to sleep with you. well, why did you choose someone else as your comrade-in-arms? why did you form this project? tell me how did you form? i dreamed yurievna, of course, no, of course, i didn’t form it. i dreamed of my son yurievna to work. uh, since m-m since we met, and we met. she was with us as a hmm producer for another project. and i thought.

that would be, probably, the best, in general, that cases with this son of yuryevna happened to me because, well, because folklore is cooler than her, no matter how i heard, then an album was still released. from the gates of the fourteenth year, i listened and thought god, i so want to be a part of this even a little bit, just a little bit. that's when she she wrote to me, and she wrote first, whether you would participate in the project. she wrote. do you have people who want to participate in such a project? i say i 'm fucking, because you saw alena why did you write that our voices don't mix well, sometimes they are high. i'm low, so it turned out we even complemented each other a little. wow, we even talk where you saw them rita had a group, and in the same cell there she is already and that's it. so,

part of this er history, you are the wreckage of this groups. by the way, sometimes such a fragment and the whole is worth everything, of course, such fragments are not found, so it’s gone, and the folk source gives you eternal offspring. i have there the eternal arrival of material. yes, only rakes exhausted. well, what are you shoveling? what are you leaving, by the way? what is culture asks another and abramova is the founder of culture, this is a choice, roughly speaking, this is a choice. so what do you choose for your repertoire, what do we like, but some interesting sound of the song, or some unusual lyrics, the plot of the song some interesting meter in the song, or that there should be a beetle should grab

some non-simple frets. completely, but confirms these thoughts. yes, there will be uneasy frets, it will be interesting there, yes, the next song. well, of course not. the next song will be a lullaby, it is very beautiful. who are the mothers here? well, you're mommy. in short, i 'm a mother. lena has three children. you and i can park for free in public baths. how does he remember the name of dizzy to improve cerebral circulation work brain memory recovery and

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