[000:00:00;00] i have already said this several times on different broadcasts, but i have not said it on any broadcast, and it will be exclusive that he wrote a poem just yesterday, which begins with these lines and continues really to great-grandmother and mayakovskaya. that is, you can even do what was already impossible to do. do you understand? uh, this is, uh, beautiful, uh, service story about hmm, the sincerity of a feeling that cannot be imitated by any means. we uh, serve a person who loves. yes, we serve our family. we serve our children. even if not very much already want. yes, they have grown, we continue our lives with them. by the way, they didn’t really listen to me to healthy parents, whom we love, the more you also have a little book that has already died, but nonetheless. we serve nothing useful. this is a dog. it doesn't bring us dreams. from what they say, well , through their ill health,

of course, but to serve is one of the ontological ones, yes, it is logical, it is, naturally, oncological uh qualities of a person, signs of a person. here listen. you know that in fact, my most. i i really love all sorts of not only scientific, but scientifically popular is that science did not pull, the mind is not enough. and this is a well-known story, when primitive people, and by and large, being in a fairly wild state, when they became people, they became people when a was confirmed by excavations when it was found. by and large an elderly man, he was already 40 skeleton. e from a forty-year-old man. this is basically an old man who had a broken leg, who had missing teeth, who had an overgrown wound from a spear or from something, but he was always external. he lived means him he was a useless member of the team, but to feed him. yes, then a person becomes

a person when he does something that should not be done. it is not useful in this ministry among other things dostoevsky chernyshevsky chernyshevsky how we remember the novel, what to do? there? eh, pragmatics reigns, yes, that is, you need to do what is useful to you. heroes of dostoevsky in the same year above, a story of a note came out from under the field a year later chernyshevsky was already arrested at that time. he says that man is only begins when he does something inexpedient, inexplicable. this is reasonable selfishness. yes, just reasonable selfishness, maybe it's good that a person is waiting for his own benefit. he understands that if he takes care of this forty-year old man, useless by their standards, then someday he will not leave him to die. yes, and they will give him some kind of bone that he can possess. so maybe chernyshevsky is also right, any dedication pays off. yes, any dedication becomes. uh, the main thing it seems to me is not very wrong

you know, as soon as you say any dedication pays off. that means movement. so you started to count, you started to bargain, no, the donation itself. it's the fact she's disinterestedly another thing that she can pay off. or maybe i should buy, you know, the sailors rushed to the amza. why , he didn't really know if it brought anything. uh, when the distant sun, uh, presenting his novel or above, said that he was dedicated to those who never knew how the war ended in this. it's all about when he speaks to you, high absolute. you don't know should know or everyone when everything works out, only then everything works out. black square. malevich has arrived. well, yes, but he did it. it seems to me that we are in our conversation today. uh, they wrote another one, ss which , by the way, could be, and we were not comically with you, we had such a rather

dramatic one. yes, but listen. we are the truth. we actually wrote several such moments with you, which can become key to the new essays by dmitry vodynikov. huge to you. thank you for coming, uh, our transmission and as always. i say the same thing and most importantly for yourself, read with pleasure. thank you. psychic podcast, my name is natalia loseva i am a journalist and my co-host clinical psychologist ph.d.

in psychology mikhail khors and our guest maria filat maria 27-25 23 20 15 and 8. and now we live in a big good apartment, and my problem is that my adult children ride on me, that is, they they don't want me at all, let alone help in some way. yes, although we have a normal relationship, if i am one on one with someone, yes, that is , for example, but with my eldest daughter, yes, that is, now we have married her, i have a great attitude towards october. yes, she got out. and how many children live in the apartment now there are five and you have a problem with whom with adult children? boys, two daughters and a son, that is the problem , what is the problem is that everyone wants me to be like before, i brought them up practically alone, yes, that is, i always worked, drove to school in a kindergarten in a nursery far away. i wanted to give them the best. what is the problem? the problem is that they are not

something that they can't do to me, well, they don't do anything around the house. yes, even now, when they have already studied and received a good education, and they are all going through now, well, practically, yes, that is, they would have finished everything by picking a laurel or not working. and i'm not talking about the material. what are you asking? yes , i don’t know how to pay for the joint there, financially, financially, i don’t participate in any way, because it starts. a why me? yes, that is, why should i give, yes, and for example, a son who has just got a job, yes, he graduated from his educational institution, he does not help you either. well , maybe they somehow compensate for this by participating there with the younger ones, worries, and so on. that's just the problem, that nothing is cleaning, no help with the younger ones, right? that is, i again drive to school myself and there are still problems that i suddenly began to work little, yes, when i was eight six, four two. i also went

to two more jobs. well, but to me it wasn't that many years old then. how much they have now grown up and want me to again do only household chores. that is, i still cooked pickles for everyone, because someone doesn’t eat, onions, someone doesn’t eat carrots, this fried this steamed one, and even with all this, i should not have any personal life at all maria , i understand correctly that everyone eats at home and cooks, basically i will bring it out. yes, everything is not. of course they can eat lunch. i don’t understand at all now who returns when and who goes where, wait for the food in the refrigerator, who puts the products i buy. i, because no one goes to my store on their own, they should go to the store with their own money to drink in the refrigerator, whoever uses the refrigerator is everything, but of course, they can and can not eat and can not dine. for example, if i cook something a lot. for example borscht. yes, they ate it, only on

the first day on the second on the third. i flush it down the toilet. sorry further. why are you cooking borscht? i kiss the pans, which means that i am now and in complete confusion this is my problem. i do not understand, yes, how do i feel to lead in this situation, what do i sign the products or how? yes? or, for example, what's the problem? well, that is, touching the refrigerator, someone brought it. i don't know who brought, for example, cottage cheese. yes, i got up in the morning and another daughter ate this cottage cheese. the one who bought it, she gets up a little later and says. and where is my cottage cheese, then i ate it, it turns out that i am in general in communal apartments. i would have rules. i would call it a hostel. yes, that is , it turns out that no one is doing anything there. can you just evict someone who breaks the dorm rules, you know? well probably, yes, they also wanted a cleaning lady.

well, no, well, to state the question is not an ethereal toilet, i am no, well, i still can, of course, sometimes, because the apartment is so big and yet i work and take care of a small child. well, not little schoolgirls. yes, i drive her in the morning at six in the morning. i get up by 8:00 to school for small children. yeah, well, i mean, i'm doing it, no one helps me. exactly this. well, if you only ask someone, here is a fifteen-year-old, and now he also went, but he says. why are you asking me? i'm busy too. i have volleyball. i have a section. well, that is, that is, cleaning is also a living thing. well, i might know to hire a cleaning lady once a month, because there are things that are in the team, of course, you don’t have any cash desk at all. we put an envelope like this here for a month, because everyone has different salaries for everyone, someone is still studying there . yes, there are those who work part-time and , as it were, the salary everyone is different and it turns out that they say you work a little implementation.

he says you please, how simple. well, like when he was little, yes, that is, i i repeat, probably, that i wanted to go to one clinic and worked in two in another. yes, that is, a speech therapist, yes it is a polyclinic, where is the man in this e in this whole story you have a man you don’t have a man, you don’t have these children, we divorced my father, just in the thirteenth year you e without a man. yes, you have children from one five times from one further. so i got married a second time and just the sixth child i have from and what happened to that? and, because he tried, he came into the family, the second husband, but lasted a year. well, because other people's children, yes, that is , somehow i already understood that he had his own somehow, we quickly met. somehow fast. that's what i have, maybe this is my problem now, that there are problems with children yes, with older ones. well, i thought that

everything was according to the classics of the genre, but they didn’t do it much. they perceived, but he did not really want to lead, that here, that is, he had some kind of conflicts, well, there are no conflicts, somehow there were no conflicts. it's just that he had a slightly different second husband's perception. he thought that everything would be like festively beautiful that all princesses and everyone should. to make some such older children are many beautiful adult children, and he had nothing interesting he had such an opinion. that's who he thought the money would look like. but i can’t answer this question for you, because how can i say, i am a woman and male psychology, because that’s how you are probably, and you are like that, it seems to me very accommodating. yes, very much so. yes, very much like that, aspiring cares with high value , namely, trying from all sides. there here all to do the very best put to sleep. what happened to the children? why do they as you

think, they now, in any case, did not go to you. it started a long time ago, such a consumer attitude, no matter how i can say that it is even consumer. yes, that is, they love me, right, but what does it mean? well, they say, mary love is the case. well, i think that the problem is that together, yes, that is, when i am one on one with a child, if only with someone, yes, that is, it turns out fine when they are all together, it turns out to me some kind of what you get one on one with the child understanding everything, that is, and not. so you say, listen, i'm very tired. i drag you through life. this is what they don't want to hear. they cannot understand, it seems to them, life is one on one. yes , because in principle, i am quickly going to quickly orient myself, but let's go. yes, let's go. here we are now with my daughter we went to rest. yes, everyone bought tickets to st. petersburg. no, not

a toddler. here. from the second yes you bought a ticket. no? that's right here she is. yes, when one on one, she says, mom let's go let's go or there, we went to the water park. well , here it is, one on one. she has concern for me. and when she says in the family, why should i, i work the same way for me five working days and two days off. i'm getting tired. and this, for example, vika da sits at home and does nothing. vika says, i also work. i just finished working remotely. there she is preparing some kind of olympics there, that is, and in general others. there they begin to compare themselves with their girlfriends. yes, who have one child and who have a mother dad gives everything ever told them. how hard it was for you when you got divorced, when you bought an apartment, you bought it yourself, of course, it's not, that's the point. we have a mortgage. well, yes, i still paid the loan. well , just here. yes, you once shared some episodes with them, when it

was very very much for you. it’s hard when you were just exhausted, exhausted, why didn’t you see and don’t feel it seems to me that everything was cool with them talking about it. how many times have you told me? well, here it is now i try to say, they say, come on, it's okay. tell us some episode that you tried to convey to them. here, when it was absolutely difficult, and you would really like your children to know and understand this episode. and so that they sit down with you, your girls, and cry. because the heart is impossible to break from that. to have them submit to you at some point. i had to worry. with their illnesses , failures at school with your husband, whom i understand, you could not tear yourself away from the sofa

unthinkable responsibility, which is actually women's fragile shoulders, well, must bear. you told them something like that. well, i told them. well, somehow tell us no, well, here, i remember when the sixth is the sixth of april, yes, 2007, when i gave birth to my fifth child. i got up in the morning, took the high school to sokol, then returned home to the kindergarten for two. well, i'm sorry, but the man who was sitting on the couch at that time was sleeping with his mother. he just woke up. well, that's about all there is to it. he says, well, you yourself want, why do you need a school with a spanish bias no in this moment that he makes it was not at home. he woke up and left and left. yes, he woke up and left. he even went to work there. he went from his mother, that is, his mother lived in a neighboring house. well, that is, he woke up at one, well, according to a certain regimen

, and clearly went to his home there to his mother. and from there. he was already returning. and you yourself into this , in this whole story, what you felt. well, this was so hard for me, that is, further. i went to kindergarten alone. yes, one, that is , this. well, then i went to give birth. no more. not yet, then came back and took it. yes, and brought the garden. she's a preparatory course. they told me that they urgently need a card. so i went to this one with a fight. yes, it didn’t pull, but i already what is it like in a tuberculosis dispensary? there, some kind of certificate had to be taken and brought this certificate. just met with a friend. i say, i 'll probably take the subway, because i had to go. well, in a certain uh, the center is family planning. so it's a completely different county. yes she says you're crazy whether? i say, well, how are the traffic jams? i won't come. well, on the subway. i'm fine, but i had to be taken home. well, i took it home. understood? what all? well, and here i

say, then good. i called him, he came, how would we get there and it turned out that i just gave birth and in 10 minutes you told this story in your childhood. well, the eldest she knows this, because she was the eleventh, they told her or not, the lions told. this is how you tell us. well, specifically no why? well, because we didn't have the time when we are at home, we only talk about everyday topics , who went where and who does what mom robot mom terminator the most offensive, yes, that is, they don’t understand what i really like, that i generally, well, want to sleep even yes, that is, i come home. what did you do at home today? but after all , you can have some kind of personal life, right? well, i'm not allowed to do this. i 'm not talking anymore, because you have - says a small child. who are you talking to older kids? who will you leave him with? well, as a matter of fact in fact, i can date my girlfriend. yes , only during the day, because i took her to school

at 6:00. i need to pick her up, how small again you guys are eight years old. well, well, that is, to our school, well, the second grade, yes, that is, not near the house. and here is the child, who is second from the end. and how old is he 15 15 years old, i can agree with him , i can specifically agree with him, but you can still have training with him, well, he’s watching, he’s also enough. why am i here and why am i and the problem now is that how with these two. they will also grow up like that, or what should i do, most likely, like that. if you do not change, then i have stopped working a lot now. yes? well, anyway , oh-oh-oh, this is not that change in the refusal of the psyche. my name is natalya losva. i am a journalist. and my co-leading clinical psychologist, ph.d. in psychology, mikhail horst, and our heroine maria, are in a very difficult situation with people. i would even say a wonderful heroine, and

we admire you. but now, answer me, please, maria to the question. how do you think, who shows our children? an example of how they treat us, how can they know that mom needs to be protected, that mom needs help, what, when you eat in this house? this food must be paid for. well, the answer is society as a whole is correct, but more specifically, who exactly is in this society? well, i think i'm kind of supposed to lead by example, yeah, i mean, if you're supposed to lead by example of what? well, i don’t care about my mother or how. there is no way to teach, you see, you are not here at all. you once gave them the opportunity. they said maybe they were small, but to themselves take care. well, for example, you said to your older children there when they were five or six years old. listen, i married my eldest

daughter. where is the independence of the eldest daughter, even if she is even married at the age of 27? well, so many parents say okay michael uh-huh well, maybe i'm wrong, because well, they are quite independent. they even now say to me, they say, here you are, raw together, and with your little daughter. you would have left somewhere yourself, and we are independent here without you, yes, that is, if i let's get back to the question. who can show them an example that your parents can take care of you, for example, hmm, somehow i don’t have it. well, we live separately. mom, he does not live separately, in my opinion, with mom yes, dad died. wait you take care of your mom. well, only she has two brothers. well, it means that she lives with her brother. i'll only help with dolls for mail, dear. maria, you take care of yourself. about yourself. yes i want to. well, only i don’t want or care. well, just

now, probably, i realized that i also need to forget about myself. and what, it seems to me, is wild, excuse me, right? but what you described to us. it is the sacrifice of sacrificing yourself to these children. and they can’t take an example from anywhere, you understand , children treat us the way we treat ourselves, to whom you don’t treat children to yourself. well, you know what kind of problem i had, that is, when. well, i myself grew up, that is , with me, and my mother never worked. and that is , there were three of us, you were considered she did a feat and, accordingly, we were there for an extension. oh, on it was on a five-day week in the camp for three shifts. i mean, i took care of myself. here, yes, wait, girl, this is when you think you spent the night, and yes, well, to kindergarten, when my mother took me to kindergarten on monday or forgot, yes, that is, i also have this protest, you understand? that is, i felt so

bad myself. i remember my childhood and , accordingly, when i gave birth to my children, yes, that is, there were also not three of them, more. i'm different and gone extreme, you know, so what do i do to start by example. but what about now, should i or leave? no, you put your life on this apartment, and you see now, yes, and i also assume that the children, probably you are already hinted at. yes, they are exchanged. yes, it's hinting. yes, yes, class, you will change very well. no, i believe i said that this is our father's house. that is, you see the truth here, please, well, it means that since we are all together, that is, a family nest, as it were, yes. well, that is a duo of apartments. we will not change, but legal ones are an apartment, in general, just your legal apartments. this is yours, right? and you there is a bedroom, is there a bedroom? do we have our own?

well, we have four rooms. right now, e. well, i and my daughter with a little one again don’t have your own space, that is, you don’t have your own corner, the kitchen for this i understand your kitchen. well, it's also a public place. well, i don’t know, but once again, you asked a question several times. what to do? are you still not sure what to do? i don't know how to implement it. yes? that is, as soon as i start caring. how do you talk about yourself. yes , for example, i say, i will go to the theater today with natalya and her friend tell me, calamus, but she has no one to leave. firstly, ira has ira in the world for 8 years. that is, and the world, could, yes listen, do not repeat, the mistake you made with the older. uh-huh ira is eight years old, in principle, the evening can stay, especially since this is not one. there in the apartment. there are other people. yes, i don't now. now i 'm trying this, when, well, literally

, i had a situation recently. yes, i went and immediately turn off the phone for me the theater, i'm returning there. well, okay. yes, that's all ends at 10:00. and there are a lot of calls. where are you? well then, where do i say. why did you leave her? why are you even answering these questions? well, you read heart of a dog heart of a dog looked, maybe, but there is, well , remember, i read it, i don’t want to buy magazines for the benefit of the children of germany. 50 kop. it's a pity, no children, do not sympathize sympathize? why do not buy do not want. and you have to see all of it and make excuses, somehow. well, how is this our family nest, so we will not sell it, but i need to learn i don't want to speak. are you entitled to this? i went to the cinema and left ira at home because i want to. why are you afraid to do? so? you are for sure, this is an obvious thing in

fact. yes, why do you excuse michael because children are sacred, they are angels an angel. is it possible to refuse? what were you afraid of, what would they tell you? what a disgusting mother is that? that's what these people say, whom you brought up, fed, gave them an education, and ensured a normal life in a four-room apartment, working two or three jobs. about him they say you are a disgusting mother. well, not disgusting, why are we and you didn’t like them from adult children on the way out. there i would now argue. i don’t argue with mikhail i don’t like the door, that’s right there, and if you like living here, then there are certain orders once a week you sit once a week you once a week you clean everything together in turn, we throw off 25% of the salary for a communal apartment in okay. you know what

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you took it, but you didn’t take it completely, it means, i’m a horse and i will pull you as a man and as a woman together on myself to pull the male. yes , but you did not bring strictness to your family. i don't like conflict at all. do not love. you them you are afraid as i am afraid in the summer. yes, i do not like conflicts and i'm afraid, these are different things. how is that? i would say that i am afraid of tangerines. yes, i don't like them, but i'm afraid. but somehow. yes, it sounds strange. in fact, once again you are afraid of conflicts, because you think that there should be no conflicts, because you think that conflicts are bad. and the conflict - this is not bad and not good conflict - this is a normal part of life, including family and it’s impossible to live life without conflicts, and for some reason mikhail thought that maybe it had something to do with maria’s childhood, that’s when she was a child, and when she probably waited for these five days of meeting with her parents. you had such a cold mother and you wanted

to be a good girl, so that she would be more with her mother, perhaps she was affectionate, but she just sent me somewhere all the time. well, here it is not a verb. no , she, well, she called me, marisha. yes, it's not there. and here. well, yes, but she is all the time, that is, as if in different rooms, that is, there was no kind of heat. not that is, to my grandmother or well, that's either for a five-day week or for three shifts. this is what i remember with horror. yes this is the camp. yes, when even well, this is a shift change. we didn't go home. that is, we went there, i don’t know to my girlfriends, that is , somehow so damn it, i wanted my children to be exactly the opposite. and now, in fact, when i have so much already, well, a worthy worthy age, and now i can understand my mother. yes that she just does not help us extreme. mom didn’t sell out to you, and mikhail she gave birth to those

people who, in her dislike in this little girl, are sitting in her, they compensate for what she didn’t receive, so that compensate, but they do not compensate, because they have not accustomed. and how could she teach if she did not receive it? no, on the one hand, she saw her mother went to extremes. maria just went to the other extreme. you see, from one extreme, they threw you into the other, they tried to drown their children in this giving, understanding, caring love. well, i really love them. yes, but she sees love, uh, no, well, i gave everything that i wanted to have and really. it worked out well. that is, i gave. i have an excellent education for children there. yes, that is, and that's all, that's because there are a lot of them. yes, i have one diplomat there, the other is an ecologist, yes, that is, everything that i wanted myself and it didn’t work out for me, of course, two, like,

you see, what you gave children is love, giving, tender and caring but there is another kind of love. it's called strict love. now, if strict love does not compensate for unbalanced, caring giver, then the construction of relationships is curved just like the other way around, if only strict, like mom. yes, there she called paris, and everything else yes, each other is another crooked design. but a harmonious design is a relationship where strict love is balanced by surrender. well, let there be a giver a little more a few. yes, but when this alone leads to what you have now received. and this thing is fixed and pretty quickly. if you learn to give to your children, not only giving love to show, but also

strict, limiting out of love for them. and for this you need to understand that the conflict that will definitely begin to arise when you strict love for them to show that the conflict - this is not bad. it's just a normal part of life. she is a possible part of life. yes, it would be better if there were no conflicts, but they exist, if you are afraid of them in a panic and do everything that if only there were no such conflicts, then this is again an extreme michael and relations with men can change with mary if she turns the tide and relations here the scheme , the model that she has developed in her relationship with children. well, as a man there, too , you should make more demands , you know, because you need to kick men, well, i don’t so, of course, but there is less of this acceptance that a man's husband is a smaller saint. oh, kids, w-dad went to bed, what

is it? in general, this is already in the past for me, but you don’t close it to the future for yourself, a spectacular beautiful woman. you are also told to meet and meet. maybe you can find something else for yourself, of course, let's give some specific ones, maybe give advice or homework for maria so that she understands that we are now with you all your life ahead of you for several years, not idle, because relationship with your children most likely to fix more than one year yet, of course, this is not well, not one. yes, some three or four homework assignments that maria will take are simply worked out. well, the first task, and you stop supplying this family with food. nothing let there be an empty refrigerator. you see, here i am, this is not small myself, but that is, and i shouldn’t eat at home or i shouldn’t

cook food for myself for a girl, change to e, which means, well, okay, for a 15-year-old teenager, if he helps you, uh-huh fed three. the refrigerator is empty, but these conflicts are you ate my taro curd. you are not your story at all. let them decide. they are adults. let them yell at each other. sorry like monkeys with something. yes, that's all there, let them solve their own problems. and that's when you stop feeding them. that's when the value of what you are doing may be . they will increase, and they may begin not to demand from you, but to politely and kindly ask. and here, your second task in relation to your wonderful children is wonderful. i'm sure just a little spoiled, maybe a lot spoiled. yes, and it’s clear who so, the second is to stop them in russia. about what , for example. oh, please.

please sit down with my demand. change now they require you. and you ask them. well , they will say, it seems to me, no, they said, they learned from their mother to say no, and then psychological punishment. you can punish sexually mature earners, you are discharged to an apartment, you don’t write all the dishes yourself. leave them. if you don't follow my rules, i'll release you. by the way, this is what i represent, that this is us enormity now it sounds to you and most likely it contradicts. well, somehow i even know how, until i can. he can't even contain himself. everything, even this is new. and you try to live with this thought, you understand, you have handed over to them all the bait of a locomotive. i don't know all the resources, you understand, you gave children an education. they work. they can rent an apartment for two, and there share their

curds of the room to get married, as they please. you have given them just beyond measure. and your relationship, well, just believe it will be only get better. if you are separating now, and you have every right, moreover, you are obliged to do this, you know why you have at least two more children who are watching, who are looking at this and who can become your support your loving friends michael, i say, now worldly, but you understand that this is not a contradiction with our psychologically. no, it doesn't contradict. let's, ah. the only question here will be for children. yes, they will say that we will not go. we are registered here again, but in fact yes, there are problems no. and now they do it pretty quickly, but for mary michael, the very thought sits down with her children. this is simply unacceptable. and admit once again it is a concern for them. this is love for them, because you brought them up in

some kind of greenhouse greenhouse condition, where mom, in any snap of their finger, runs and does everything, but reality is arranged differently. can i offer a softer option, maybe maria somehow expand her physical space in the apartment. to which he has every right, because i understand that you are a responsible apartment tenant, you separate your daughter from the room. settle other children in rooms for a teenager boy, for example, and for your daughter. i do not know together e girl and girl do not like. now he's better there. you don't think that if you say that directly to the children, uh, you will be offended for life, and when they will not talk to you for a while. for them it will be a shock. well, maybe they just need to reason about how to tell the rooms periodically over 10 years of residence. they just moved, yes, since they already took over the role of a peasant, then in this, too, take the role of a peasant, but in the one where you have not demolished it all your life. already start to become with women, you have only one bath room. when you

occupy it, are you sure you do it with caution? no, here we have everything somehow. well , everything that concerns, well, in principle, upset. i don't bother anyone. that is, there are such everyday conflicts there, who washes there for a long time or someone is the most absent. that is, no one interferes here. someone left in the morning. this is just what happened when the pandemic and you present to everyone sat down in a common space, and everyone else has distance learning. and i just managed to fix it all. imagine would like to. sorry for the kids. maybe they will look about a man, then let’s go to the kids maria, here’s what you need to do in your apartment now, if you imagine that in a week you will meet a new wonderful interesting man and your relationship will develop rapidly harmoniously, and so to speak mutually and you will be ready to invite this man to your big apartment. well, in our time it's perfect.