followed. you kind of contradict yourself. yes, i ask you provocatively. eh, on the one hand. you say that the problem is, most importantly, not in faces. yes, as petrovich told raskolnikov in a portfolio. yes, the main thing is the compatibility of good and evil, and this new time is the hero of nikolai karamzin's story poor liza does not just leave the rich poor, and then the pond rushes. this is also not very good, but still they don’t have such a shade of horror and violence, after all, what was the main thing that the investigators tried to penetrate the personality alexander vasilyevich after all, it was also. yes, yes, you can understand that you can consider yourself innocent, he justifies himself. all his work is an apology now, unfortunately, yes or fortunately, maybe yes , because this is a mystery to us don was to understand history itself, it is possible only through his personality whether he killed or not killed, because the materials of the case, they turned out to be mutually sharp. sorry closed. by his decree, in fact, this is

the case. he understood what was going on. there were bribes there, that is, there, when they realized that yes, yes, there was a snowball lower when they realized one thing the crime, whether it was or not was the second question, but it gave rise to others, of course, when such a fat piece fell into the hands of these investigators, and they began to drag him to a famous person. he is like that and he gave bribes, and he gave that he gave a bribe of 30,000 rubles. silver. and among the investigations , this over-prosecutor was given a gigantic sum to prosecutor lebedev . he gave 50,000 rubles. and the guardian's bribe will close the case. yes, only yes, this is a criminal who cowardly hid, or it was a dumb person. that would be right now, and the gods of man should fight for the truth like that too. here is to understand what, what, what actually happened that night at 807.07 on november 8, 850 . and you can, of course, through his personality. now his personality is now becoming the most

important thing for understanding, because here is to understand what kind of person he was, and whether he could kill or not. uh, now you can only penetrate into his soul and fate, but he has such a family. i worked out a lot. e his sister, but unknown. uh, hmm eugene tour yes, yes, yes, yes, countess salias this world, which i painted under my sky. e evgenia artur and his sister, who was another who, hmm , loved nikolai ivanovich, the hopeful russian critic of the excellent priestly son, who became a university professor, did not get out of the spiritual class. naturally, in some privileged circles, this marriage could not be, that is, this is such a very snobbish environment, and why did he need to kill? strictly speaking, the fact is that alexander vasilyevich of the dry mare was an unusually quick-tempered man, so he beat

the serfs from his own hands. and just like that that sister you mentioned, who wanted to marry nikolai ivanovich's feet for e , so he said that i would let the seminarians shoot him in the forehead. popovich is hopeful. uh, not a couple, young noble rich officers of the imperial university, by the way. yes, he studied with him, by the way, and alexander vasilyevich passed his exams. and what a rootless professor this is, some kind of professor will mean that he will lay claim to my hand, which means that it could just be fury a second. yes, there could be fury later, of course, pregnancy on the market, which eventually she fled the investigation. this, too, seems to be confirmed by the yes version. yes, yes, here, firstly, naryshkina is her pregnancy. secondly, the temper of alexander sergeevich; thirdly, of course, the fact that the child was legitimate. this is also very strict legislation. yes, those who are shy also

happened to be in the law of children. that's why after many, many years, when adults? this is a whole story, let's remember feta, who was conceived in another marriage, of course, yes, therefore, therefore, here, of course, from the point of view. well , that's it, if we talk about, were there reasons alexander vasilievich had to kill, and yes, they were fury, they would have had them, plus an incredible mixture, which he then, of course, towards the end of his life, and he softened. he himself is a provocative question from dramaturgy. it would be, if it were not for everything, a philosophical system, i would be sure, but the dramaturgy as we know this trilogy was not dramatic. i didn’t either, because he actually. speaking, then, when he was already an old man, he spoke as a journalist, for very long eyelids, yes, yes, he i told him, i - he says, i don’t know how i could write this comedy of a wedding, stop krichinsky,

under the threat of 25 years of hard labor, and demanding a bribe of 50,000. so how could i write, but i know that i wrote in prison. yes , you knew from what quarrel poems grow? well, we know exactly what happened from november 7 to 8, according to the new style of another year. but what happened, uh, in 1850, we will never know. well, uh, this is another side of the temperaments of vladislav otroshenko southern fiery furious very kind, which we met. well, i think that we are of course with we will talk with you again, because i am sure that there will be such wonderful small in volume and very diverse filled ones. thank you very much for the various meanings of the book. vladislav for today's conversation, see you on the air. goodbye. and thanks. as always, i say, e our viewers read my magic phrase with

pleasure. thank you this podcast is psychic. my name is natalya loseva i am a journalist, and my co-host clinical psychologist, candidate of psychological sciences mikhail khors is our heroine today came to us with a problem that i think is typical for so many of her peers. well, in any case, i came across quite a lot of such stories, and this does not beg this story in any way, on the contrary , it increases its importance. hello tatyana . with what you came to tell us, i compare myself with other guys with more successful guys with those with whom we started, in principle,

compare together not in your favor, but objectively not in your favor. there are simply objective indicators, for example, the number of sales professions, the number of subscribers, that is , some such resources are measurable, as they say, yes, and the whole problem lies in the fact that when i compare, i don’t have a desire to do more, and i’m the opposite. i lie down in some kind of apathy. and why then start, why then start and somehow a dialogue in my head? you still won't succeed. do you think? i probably don’t even think about whether it will work or not. i just have all my energy that could be used, it just drops, and then i don’t do anything at all. can do. how old are you now 27 , 27. and when this discomfort began. this is the reaction to

someone else's success. uh, self-comparison, apathy. follow-up. uh, probably with the advent of social networks, where i began to notice how others develop. and i'm developing, as they show? how do they talk? in fact, how do they develop, right? have you ever heard of michael, or have you heard of it, or when they are friends about this, there is such a thomas syndrome , this is the english abbreviation owl of, that is the feeling that i seem to fall out of this syndrome, it says that on the one hand, that we are watching all the time. what is happening there, it worries us very much, but on the other hand, it is being formed against the background of other people's demonstrated successes. i specifically emphasize this word, we get the feeling that i somehow missed this opportunity, some chances. i'm not like everyone in the worst sense. so that you simply understand that what you are describing today,

and it seems to me, michael this is very, very important. it's just this generation's sickness and sickness. it's in time. great. why did you start talking about it? and tell me about such a bright case, which wounded you right here and knocked you off your feet, but not that he directly knocked me off my feet. i adjusted and i stopped coming in and looking. and this is my friend. veronica and i. hmm, we basically started together with the hostel. in what sense, well, to develop professionally, that is, we had equal conditions. yes, we lived in a hostel, she, of course, is a little older. with what are you doing? i, uh, correct kids. defectologist. yes? uh-huh she e has now started selling her services through social media as private educators. yes, she started

as a private and i started as a private too. i continue. basically, as private, she began to gather groups, then gather groups of parents, then a to collect mentorship for a group of parents. and now, and sell it all through social networks and has grown very much in income. very much argue, it's a shame. here you can argue, firstly, because remember the word objective characteristics sounded. yes, but didn’t they look at the current account or focus on what she told you or what she shows on her social networks? well, what tells and what shows and did not look at some of her spending. in general, somewhere to travel, distant lands, where an expensive apartment for an apartment again, we do not

beg. yes, veronica’s merits are quite possible, she may have earned it herself and it’s just that when we accurately believe that what people tell us and show us is really, if we can’t check it in any way, then a small question mark under this statement should be put or is it people’s minds. yut impress especially here is an example i have one friend he goes to the gym once every 2 weeks. but his videos are recorded for the whole period. yes, for 14 days. uh-huh . and every day he uploads something from the gym, but it happens there every 2 weeks . we don't know exactly how your girlfriend is. maybe she really did better than you. here you go here tatiana is very important to remember. what if you have less money than someone else doesn't mean you don't have enough money? this is exactly yes,

less and less are different things, so we e, when we evaluate something ourselves, for example, yes, but in absolute characteristics a little bad, a little hard. we actually, uh, as if for our psyche for our unconscious could cover everything badly with a lid in a coffin. but when we start comparing, we say, yes, i have less than veronica but more than petr ivanovich let's let's talk about roots. why do we start comparing? why does a person begin to compare, because it is natural and normal? you just need to compare the two sides , you know, if we compare only there. we, that is, create worse pain for ourselves, right? someone is worse, someone is poorer, someone is less successful that way. well, from your group. eh, everyone has achieved what you have achieved far from all far from all not even the point in

this, because you forget, uh, well, how to determine your exact place. you know when you compare only with her. you experience pain and compare it with what you need to look at a positive period. we look in order to take an example from someone, but we also look back in order to understand how it happens. please tell us a little about what happened before you said you started. i heard that in the hostel, that is, you are not a muscovite, no. where are you from? am i from the kaluga region of the village? yes. and can i immediately put a tick in your head here? you are a girl and a rescued woman in the kaluga region, which today works in moscow, yes, but in fact i have achieved, but a lot. well, that is, i am now inviting me to teach at a university because, in general, i am a class specialist - this is something that i have no doubt about. and there were

even cases when a girl who earns more turned to me with questions about clients and consulted for free. well, yes, well, we'll think, yes, yes, that is, we just discussed issues, and dad and mom are proud of you now. yes , probably yes, you probably don’t know for sure, but as they say that they are proud, but this is very correct phrase. yes, they tell me that i don’t know what’s inside them, in general, the phrase is daughter. i'm proud of you, your childhood sounded quite often, rather not. it is so accepted in our family, that it is better not to overpraise, and, of course, this, well, was not enough. that is, parents, of course, teach us. yes, during their upbringing, they teach us. uh, including noticing your own achievements. that's when

we can't. and it’s like we open our eyes every day and we have to start a little from scratch. yes because we deny your achievements. we say it's little it 's not at all. and this start from scratch, of course, motivates. now what's important, you're already a girl, 207 years old, right? yes, maybe you miss this from your parents. yes, but now who is it to you, maybe? well, i myself, of course, here is the training to train yourself to notice your achievements. look at what we are seeing now, we are skins with you. two adults with some baggage of knowledge are trying to solve tatyana's problem somehow, you need to come to you with a problem. and in response we get such a very sluggish monosyllabic such. there's something there that's barely spoken and i can't understand, no,

the motivation. there is no energy to solve the problem, maybe you need to rummage here. ah, it's great for natalya to share these two concepts of energy motivation, because there is motivation. here is the motivation - this is the answer to the question. why and the second question? why? i want something in this life to do both of these matters. if you ask, you are on them for sure. answer, yes , and why and why? but the energy is some of our its resource may not be enough, where does the energy go. the energy of your personality is not your body, but the forces of your personality it is very good to think, they leave these forces go into negative emotions. negative experiences fear anxiety dissatisfaction with oneself irritation feeling, resentment guilt, that's the whole spectrum of negative

emotions overloads our nervous system and biochemical we feel the same tiredness, as if we had been plowing for 3 days and didn’t eat or sleep there. well, yes, and that's why i, in general, after watching these stories, i lie down right in apathy for a while. what about you excites? well, somehow tell the story directly when you are direct and so that we can see it, which gives you a completely different context. yes, really, what situation can give you strength so that you don’t open your own courses. yes, but it appeared there, i don’t know, some kind of healthy anger, in general, the approach is wrong, that’s it. let's, if we have a person without energy, let's fill him up, actually ask what situations there were, what, uh, they gave her energy, that is, they are resourceful for her. as yours say colleagues, and i'll tell you what tatyana will feel now, she will think. well, i had such situations, which means i have to

generate them again, but i can’t, which means i’m bad and again the god of energy. let's subtract, she will be kicked out of the studio and we will parry her with you. here, you see, without her, here we’ll personally decompose tatyana into into there and so , somehow there, according to compose no, right? yes , let's come, your chance is sitting, by the way, a cool psychologist is sitting, let's pull it out. maximum competence from horros colleague, let's get the answer to the question from our wonderful tatyana why do people experience negative emotions? or you tell me why people experience negative emotions that take away their strength. well, there may be a lot of reasons, so help, let's no, because the hypothalamus , so to speak, is the usual answer - this is because, uh, i feel such a negative emotion, because there is a certain life situation. and now she creates pain for me in which i do not agree, for example, consent and protest. it's

already on our side. yes, you understand your negative emotions tatyana is not a consequence the situation you are in is a consequence of the opinion that this situation is wrong. once the opinion and the second, what are we what, this situation should be different right away. yes? and it’s not even a fact that i want to live the same way as she does me, in general, some of my goals, my tasks, my ideas in general about who i want to become, and while watching, i forget about these goals of mine and well so jealous, right? ah honestly, that this envy jealousy. it's definitely not jealousy. what is envy? yes, and in some disorder. well upset about me, that is, i don’t want her to be somehow different or that she didn’t have this. well, yes, it turns out i want me to have this and that or there or even

cooler. well, now we will talk about the signs. psychic podcast i am a journalist natalia loseva and my co-host clinical psychologist , ph.d. so what do you really want when you look at how successful your girlfriend is. how about you seems? no? i want to find some kind of this money bait of mine, but not just money, if they give me 100.200.000 million there. this will not improve the situation in any way. i want to find a way how to fix this flow? yes, how to get it? how to sell your services? how can you search, and what is needed to look for strength , and you spend your strength on

what you are experiencing, that you cannot find it right now, that it is simply not there right now, yes, and why are you worried? because you think it should be right now. yes it some child just agree, in all areas of life so in personal life. how are you? a. no, it’s not so far in all areas, but, but i just started working on it, probably for the last two or three years, for example, in sports it’s not like that, that is, everything can’t be all at once. yes, gradually, each workout with men is also not everything and not everything at once, either, that is, there you are, and the fact that the buzzword is tolerant, yes , accept this world and that's the way it is, such a gradual world. yes, but to yourself in this in terms of your personal life, you have everything here. just without comparing your young people with your girlfriends yourself, and in some situation

no no, because i mean, not with each other of your young people about your young man's young man. i compare more. relations at some points yes , here, uh, the man took care and filed in a fur coat. yes, you didn’t give me a jacket, that is, if it hurts you, it hurts, you leave such a note for yourself. yes, i am frustrated somewhere. i get upset. what are you saying? trying to talk to a young man i'm not trying to change it. and now i don't have a boyfriend. no. we recently broke up with my former boyfriend. we were together for 11 years 11 years. yes, we just grew up. well, yes, they grew up and just went in different directions, that is, they went in different

directions, but i began to go deeper into feeling when i began to work with children. it turned out that when i take them, when i give them voice, but i voice the feeling, and everything goes. well, the correction is going much faster. so i, accordingly, began to develop it myself. and my boyfriend is from the same system. in in general, that, well, that, that in the villages that feeling, well, no, places of life. there is no place to just always work work work work and work. well, here, here, and at some point you also began to be ashamed of him, probably, yes, but we were together and never went to friends, that is, why am i. and he just didn’t go, because you always have to work. i celebrated all my birthdays when i was alone with my friends, that is, he did not go, because he did not have time to star in tatiana and her friends. i

don't know, once there was a time when i collected guys and in order to introduce. in general, we were going to go together with him, and he said, now to go out. i'm already getting dressed. he says i won't go. uh-huh, i won’t go and that’s it, but it’s impossible to force a person. these i went alone, of course i was upset. that is, it is some kind of betrayal in some sense. yes , because i collected it is for this that i think, why? i did not go? well, he talked about the fact that it's a total waste of time. and these were the guys who achieved, uh, success in business in various areas. but this is from they were from a certain company and he said, what well, what am i going to show them? well, that is, i went to communicate, but i was shy. i feel like myself, myself. he

was embarrassed now, perhaps because tatyana was also broadcasting in some way consciously subconsciously verbally non-verbally. that's the request for success success, right? maybe what kind of guys were they? here are the successful ones. i mean, when they got together, they were just like them, they were just hanging out, i don't know, they were playing tabletop and computer games or they had a lot of talk about who achieved what, who went where such a grant got no, there was no such talk. these were the guys and these were already adults, the guys. and we met them at the same master class. in general, they liked that i was just alive. we've been meeting for a while. sasha is in the army at this moment. and at some point we were going to play board games. i invited them, and they are there, the director of the bread factory, the leader is enu, that is, they

have already taken place. yes, and they are not about what show some progress. they are about life and them. that is, that i was talking about life, about playing, about somehow talking, laughing, that is, in this regard, i am so light and lively, and sasha well, here’s another one and it turns out that i couldn’t pull him into life, but he i was able to close our conversations into this material world, until now they have taken it out. yes, i endured that when it begins. this comparison needs to be grounded and returned. that's just to the goals of the plans to move away from this childish magical thinking. uh huh, here it is after all, what the young man with whom you broke up is filming now, i don’t

know, but rather. yes, i don’t want it to end and end, but you are always talking about your goals. and what are the goals? the fact is that as soon as i try to set them for myself somehow. and i have the same situation, like this, when i compare myself with uh girlfriend and this usually happens when the goals are too ambitious. you see, the psyche works this way, i set myself such a goal. yes, i understand that i achieve it. here in i can’t in the near future and because of this i get upset and leave. down again, i don’t try to put it down, not even a small one, because right away my energy drains such an assumption, when do you get into this state? yes, that's what throws you home motivates you, this apathetic one. yes, you

blame yourself for it. do you have something like this. why am i such a fool here? why am i here an expert, and, but i myself feel like this, you have this self-criticism. well, to be honest, i’m not right in this format noticed. i rather go to bed and get very upset, and at some point i just fall asleep, because the energy drops right to zero and there are no such dialogues in my head. look after yourself, because there is. uh, here is the so -called two-story structure of negative emotions. yes, the very emotion and then discontent is emotion. here's to working with the emotion itself. it is necessary to remove dissatisfaction with her, that is, yes, i envy. okay, i'm a living person, i have the right to envy, because if it works for you, i envy and scold myself for being envious. that's right strongly psyche overloads and the feeling is such a rage, a very

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and this is a podcast of the psyche, where i am journalist natalya loseva and clinical psychologist mikhail khors we analyze various complex configurations of our psychological problems. so what do you just need to allow yourself to envy praise yourself for it or how to allow yourself to accept? uh, even those u know, mental and personality traits that u are considered negative and unpleasant, for example, you accept them. how is the norm, in general? yes , because after all, er, our psyche is the world as a whole, it is generally multi-colored. and here is an attempt to assemble, as it were, a puzzle only from beautiful bright and interesting pieces, yes, and throw it away. there, all black gray colorless leads to the fact that the puzzle becomes full of holes. and now, as if through these holes, all our strength is leaving, on the contrary,

when we begin an operation on all facets of our personality. here i am jealous. and here i am , on the contrary, i am happy for my friend. here. i'm probably scolding myself for not being happy for my friend. wow, that means, let's stop scolding ourselves for the start that you are such a person right now, tell me aloud, please, i'm a person. i have the right not to be happy for girlfriend. i am a man, i have the right not to be happy for my girlfriend. you feel something now, but you even want to cry a little. and well, how is it? yes? she is my friend. i mean, it's like a betrayal on my part. just a person. i have the right to betray other people too. yes, i'm human, and i have the right to betray other people's question. it doesn't mean that i will do it. well, you have. i have the right.

i just yes, of course, i would say that you have such an opportunity. you know, sometimes it happens. that's got there if we're all our lives we will gnaw ourselves, for this we will not do better to anyone. so here's what's happening now that i'll ask. now this is called what to pronounce. what word is affirmation forgiveness forgiveness of oneself, yes, you know, in any book it says that you need to forgive yourself? yes, it is written in any. it's just not written how to do it. so i ’m telling you now how to forgive yourself , take a sheet of paper, write the word forgiveness on it and add in front of this word. the letter of simplification forgiveness - this is a simplification of the attitude towards oneself is an attitude. that's not some complex, far-fetched, not some

requirements that we cannot translate into reality. yes and it's simpler i'm a man i have no no they get some kind of jambs in life. i mean, i scold someone, sometimes i envy someone, i don’t love or betray someone. well, it happens, i'm a man and i simplify my attitude towards myself simpler. that's when we do this, and life becomes easier and we have more strength, because we stop spending them in self-hatred. but the word hate from which word comes to see, yes, not to see, that is, hatred. is it that i can't see myself or the other person? here it is. and i say, you shouldn't have something like that. you have to be different , that's what the walls are. you see, how else can you fight envy, because after all, the most

filthy feeling, because it can be white motivating, and now, in order for it to motivate, it is very important to answer the question. and why? here, why do you need money? and what glory impact security is the way to set up this flow finance why security? we 're feeling in danger now, no i don't now i feel in danger. i understand that security is an internal financial cushion - it's always actually part of our sense of security, but not everything is just completely secure. it is also an infantile world, generally dangerous on the spot. yes , and you will not get rid of this. will there be more money? will you be more afraid that this money will be taken from you? honestly. believe me, as a wealthy person. and i can ask a question with

such utmost honesty the answer to it. come on, you would like this friend to envy you now. it seems to me then relationships will be destroyed, because i compare myself with her and, accordingly, and i don’t want her, well, bad things and when she envy me. it will look exactly the same in my head, she will lie down and she will run out of energy and she will feel bad. i don't want her to feel bad, because you don't tell her, she will stress otherwise. yes, healthy anger. yes well, therefore once again directly find the answer to a question. why do you need this then that while you do not have an answer to the question. you are not formalized. this is the motivation you understand, you are trying to run now, as if from some kind of pain, yes, i feel bad, and i 'm trying to escape from this pain somewhere, but

it's better to run towards the goal. i saw a post from this same friend, and she took a picture with her phone, and wrote. here's my new office for cash. i think it’s good that i don’t need this, that is, these direct finances and this amount of money are financial things. it's not exactly what i need here, yes, you don't need money. i need some way to get this money. and if it is, and if it is there will be a wealthy man who will say, tribute, stay at home, please. here's your money , here's your resources, here's your opportunity, stay at home to give birth to children. i love you. herself. you don’t understand, i’m wondering what but it’s as if i didn’t become an adult then, that is , here, probably, i’m just looking for this.