right away, yes, and it’s not even a fact that i want to live the same way as she does me, in general, some of my goals, my tasks, my ideas in general about what i want to become. i, even at the moments of viewing, i forget about these goals of mine, and well, how would you envy, or what? ah honestly, that this envy jealousy. it's definitely not jealousy. what is envy? yes, and in some disorder. well, upset about me, that is, i don’t want her to be somehow different or that she didn’t have this. well, yes, i can i want to have it like this or there or even cooler. well, now we will talk about the signs. psychic podcast i am a journalist natalia loseva and my co-host clinical psychologist , ph.d.

so what do you really want when you look at how successful your girlfriend is. what do you think? no? i want to find some kind of this fishing rod of mine, not just money, if they give me 100.200.000 million there. don't fix the situation. i just want to find a way how to set up this flow? yes, how to get it? how to sell your services? how can you search, and what is needed to look for strength , and you spend your strength on what you are experiencing, that you cannot find it right now, that it is simply not there right now, yes, and why are you worried? because you think it should be right now? yes, this is some kind of child you have there, i just agree,

in all spheres of life it is the same in personal life. how are you? a. no, it’s not so far in all areas, but, i just started to work it out, probably, for the last two or three years, for example, in sports it’s not like that, that is, everything can’t be everything at once. yes, gradually, each training session with men is also not everything and not everything at once , either, that is, there you are, but the fact that the buzzword is tolerant, yes, accept this world and that’s how it is, gradual, yes, but to yourself in this regard in your personal life, you have everything here. also compare your young people with your girlfriends, and in some situation no no, because i mean, not with each other your young people about your young man with your young man. i compare more. relations at some points yes, here the man took care and filed

in a fur coat. yes, he didn’t give me a jacket, that is , this hurts you, it hurts you , you leave such a note for yourself. yes, i am frustrated somewhere. i get upset. and what are you doing? say it trying to talk to a young man to change him, i'm not trying to change him. and now i don't have a boyfriend. no. we recently broke up with my former young man. we were together for 11 years and 11 years. yes , we just grew up. well, yes, they grew up and just went in different directions, that is, they went in different directions, but i began to delve into feeling in contact. when i began to deal with children, it turned out that when i accept them, when i voice them, but i voice the feeling, but everything goes on. well, the correction is going much

faster. so i, accordingly, began to develop it in myself. and my boyfriend is from the same system. in general, what, well, what, what are the feelings in the villages? well, no, the place of life. there is no place to just always work work work and work. well, here, here, so at some point you began to be ashamed of him, probably, yes, but we were together and never went to friends. that is, why i didn’t go, because he always had to work. i celebrated all my birthdays when i was alone with my friends, that is, he did not go, because he did not have time for tatyana and her friends to do this. i don't know. once there was a case when i gathered the guys in order to introduce them. in general, we were going to go together with him, and he said, now

go out. i'm already getting dressed. he says i won't go. yeah, i won't go and that's it, but you can't make a person go. i went alone, of course i was upset. that is, it is some kind of betrayal in some sense. yes , because i gathered that's why i'm so why do you think i didn't go, but he said that it was a total waste of time. and these were also guys who achieved success in business in various areas. but these were from a certain company and he said, what , well, what will i show them? well, that is, i went communicate, and he was shy, i myself have such a feeling, myself. he was embarrassed now , perhaps because tatyana also broadcast in some way consciously subconsciously verbally non-verbally. that's success, yes. maybe by successful i mean when they got together they were just like

them they were just hanging out, i don't know, there were table games and computer games or they had a lot of talk about who achieved what, who went where such grant received no, there were no such talks. these were the guys and these were already adults, the guys. and we are with them we met at a masterclass. in general, they liked that i was just alive. we've been meeting for a while. sasha was in the army at that moment, and at some point we were going to play board games. i smoothed them over, and they are there, the director of the bread factory, the head is enu, that is, they have already taken place and they are not about showing any achievements. they are about life and them. that is, the fact that i was about life, about playing, about somehow chatting, laughing, that

is, in this regard, i am so light and alive, and sasha well, here's something else, and it turns out that i couldn't pull him into life, and he couldn't close our conversation into this material world, until now they've taken it out. yes, i endured that when it begins. this comparison needs to be grounded and returned. that's just to the goal we plans to move away from this children's magical thinking. ugh, here it is. what is removed now that young man with whom you broke up. i don't know, i don't want how it ends and ends. the fact is that as soon as i

try to put them on myself somehow. and i have the same situation begins, like this, when i compare myself with uh girlfriend and this usually happens when the goals are too ambitious. you see, the psyche works this way, i set myself such a goal. yes, i understand that i achieve it. in the short term , i can’t, and because of this i get upset and leave. down again, i don’t try to put it down , not even a small one, because immediately my energy merges. such an assumption, when do you get into this state? yes, that's what throws you home motivates this apathetic one. yes you yourself scold him for it. do you have something like this. why am i such a fool here? why am i here an expert, and, but i myself feel like this, you have this self-criticism. well, to be honest,

i didn’t notice it right here in this format. i rather go to bed and get very upset, and at some point i just fall asleep, because the energy drops right to zero and there are no such dialogues in my head. look after yourself, because there is. uh, here is the so -called two-story structure of negative emotions. yes, the very emotion and then discontent is emotion. here to work with the most emotion. it is necessary to remove dissatisfaction with her, that is, yes, i envy. okay, i'm a living person, i have the right to envy, because if it works for you, i envy and scold myself for being envious. this really overloads the psyche and the feeling is so bessist. a very interesting story. we will then discuss in more detail, as the head coach of the russian national figure skating team, you are satisfied with the state of affairs. i have now accepted a very strong team. in general, i am looking for athletes whose eyes are said to burn, and what is the strength

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yes, because after all, our psyche is the world as a whole, it is generally multi-colored. and here is an attempt to assemble, as it were, a puzzle only from beautiful bright and interesting pieces, yes, and throw it away. there , everything black and gray colorless leads to the fact that the puzzle becomes full of holes. and now, as if through these holes, all the power leaves us, on the contrary, when we begin to rely on everything facets of his personality. here i am jealous. and here i am, on the contrary, i am happy for my friend. here. i probably scold myself for not being happy for my girlfriend. wow, that means, let's stop scolding ourselves for the start that you are such a person right now , tell me aloud, please, i'm a person. i have the right not to be happy for my friend. i am a person, i have the right, and i have the right not to be happy for my girlfriend, right? you feel something now, but

you even want to cry a little. and well, how is it? yes? she is my friend. that is, this like a betrayal on my part. i have the right to betray other people. i am human, and i have the right to betray other people. doesn't mean i will. naturally, i just said that you have such an opportunity. you know, sometimes it happens. it turned out like this, if we gnaw at ourselves all our lives, we will not do better to anyone for this. so here's what's happening now that i'll ask. now this is called what to say with this word affirmation forgiveness forgiveness of oneself. yes, you know, in any the book says that you need to forgive yourself? yes,

it is written in any. it's just not written how to do it. so i’m telling you now how to forgive yourself, take a sheet of paper, write the word forgiveness on it and add in front of this word. the letter of simplification forgiveness - this is a simplification of the attitude towards oneself is an attitude. here is not some complicated, far-fetched, not some requirements that we cannot translate into reality. yes and it 's simpler i'm a man i have no no they get some kind of jambs in life. i, therefore, scold someone, sometimes i envy someone, i don’t love or betray. well, it happens, i'm a man and i simplify my attitude towards myself in a simpler way. that's when we do it and life gets easier.

and we have more strength, because we stop them in hatred of ourselves, yes, to spend , but the word to hate from which word comes to see, yes, not to see, that is , hatred - this is what i do not see myself or another person. here it is. and i say, you shouldn't have something like that. you have to be different this is hatred , you know what it can be, white motivating and so that it motivates it is very important to answer the question. and why do you need money? and what is the glory of the impact of security way to adjust this flow of finances? why to security? we now feel in danger. no, i don't feel in danger right now. i understand that security is

an internal financial cushion - it is always actually part of our sense of security. you can't just be completely safe. it is also an infantile world, generally a dangerous and dangerous place. yes and you from you will not get rid of it there will be more money will you be more afraid that this money will be taken from you? honestly. believe me, as a wealthy person. and i can ask a question with such utmost honesty the answer to it. come on, you would like this friend to envy you now. it seems to me that then the relationship will collapse, because i compare myself with her and, accordingly, and i don’t want her, well , bad things and when she envy me. it will look exactly the same in my head, she will lie down and she will run out of energy and she will feel bad. i don’t want her to feel bad, because you

tell her about her, she will, otherwise she will still emphasize yes, healthy anger. yes well, therefore once again directly find the answer to a question. why do you need this then that while you do not have an answer to the question. you are not formalized. this is the target motivation, you understand, you are now trying to run away, as if from some kind of pain, yes, i feel bad, and i 'm trying to escape from this pain somewhere, but it's better to run towards the goal. i saw a post from this same friend, and she took a picture with her phone, and wrote. here's my new office for cash. i think it's good that i don't need it, that is, these are directly financial. here is the amount of money financial things. it's not exactly what i need here, yes, you don't need money. uh, i need a way to get this money. and if it is, and if it is

a wealthy man who says, tribute , stay at home, please. here's your money , here's your resources, here's your resources, here's your opportunity, stay at home to give birth to children. i love you. herself. you don't understand, i'm wondering what but i'm like as if then she didn’t become an adult, that is, probably, i’m just looking for this. well, how are adults with you, an adult woman 's wife, for example, a wealthy wealthy man , run the household to a great achievement. it also needs this man, which means finding and keeping it all with a lot of work is a serious investment. no, i understand, i seem to be unable to stand on my own feet. so we broke up as a young man, and he paid for the apartment, and he also paid for food. so i basically spent my money on education and invested in development. here you go

somehow it was. and now it turns out that the money that went to me for my development , i, uh, i don’t rent an apartment. well, perhaps you have an adult life. this is development. by the way, yes, yes. yes, the refrigerator will not fill itself, but i understand. well, i want while i need money. even honest i need money, what to whom why why do i need money, it's some kind of shame with my mother so they taught, probably, yes, that money wanting money is something like that. here. well, not interesting time. yes, money is evil, even money knows that it is evil. you can say you can kill a person with electricity. and you can warm up your breakfast. yes, electricity is a tool, the same with money, but for a machine. you do not pray for gasoline. well, why don't i pray for money, that is, i

say, as if they give me money, so cool, it will simplify in a sense. you are not life, well, it is determined for a certain period. uh, no one will give money. wait to pick up, you understand? but from this position, well, my money is not important. well, i’m like this, it’s important not to take money again, once i’ve already changed my shoes into air. let's be honest, the money is needed as a flow. this is the main goal, then money is not important money. this is a general success. well, success is always money not always. well, it seems to me that somewhere here is what is needed. yes , that's envy, it seems to me in general, it is possible, but i think envy is, you know, how it is in that motivator that turns on when all the others have burned out. she calls. i just have apathy, that's the whole problem. well, let's give you your opinion that

if you envy someone, then you are bad use envy as a tool, go ahead. in general, envy in moderation, think about yourself and let all your motivations be positive secrets we hope that you will find this energy, but do our homework , yes and it’s easier, of course, to yourself and easier to yourself. it was a podcast of the psyche, where i am a journalist, natalya loseva and my co-host clinical psychologist phd in psychology . mikhail kors sort out quite complex tasks here, but the problem is precisely this, here is a specific local one, that is, i don’t i can say that i am not successful, actually a little. who will win the car. well, you didn't even say so. you won a car, but it's the same. what, what is this? well , there was some, well, so, when the last time the car was won last week, i

feel our depreciates ourselves with our achievements there. now you're in some kind of reality, it's called a crisis. don't try to jump out of it. allow yourself to get out of it gradually. uh-huh yes, this is such a professional personal crisis now. by the way, it is quite common. youth. just now, closer to thirty and 27-28-27 begins, what is still needed and not needed early, than, well, 4 months have just passed. i still say i live, so it will figure it out. he is a young, pretty girl. everything will be fine with personal relationships, it's important to get out and let me go out of the crisis, because it seems to me that you broke up. this also added a crisis to you here, so the opposite is the way out. well , it seems to me that someone is a dead end, which hmm crushed, well , yes, probably, both families were waiting. waiting to get married. yes, everything is already, i think they are already

didn't expect anything. well, in 11 years, you can already save several times, it turns out. you had one single man in your entire life , yes, yes. this, of course, find something older for yourself, there 35-40 is well interesting, do not listen, please, and you know that i don’t need to sell them out of myself, please, you understand such a social thing. why does he need a man for 40 years? why did she say? 35 40 that's the most it will be. i think you're just talking. i communicate a lot. i'm just very happy to flirt with them. no, flirt flirt. next, 73 it was interesting. that's what was on the face now, that's it, it's so personal. yes, it's the same flirt me young unmarried girl flirting. oh god, don't say no. i

'll explain to you, just a flirt is let's say for sex. yes, at first they said no, why not? but don't give that, and why deceive then, and everything should be honest in your life. listen, there is nothing more interesting than this subtle game of smart people who do not even understand to learn. that's why father. good night, dear viewers of channel one , today we have a literary podcast. let not say, let them read. i dmitry bakov

invite you to speculate about literature and try to understand how to read with pleasure and understand how fashionably cool it is beautiful, usually ordinary. and in a word, without reading, we are nowhere and i am sure that my today's interlocutor also thinks. this is my wonderful friend, and the prose writer and screenwriter vladislav otroshenko. we'll talk about your book, of course, er, but er, before we get to the book. as a matter of fact, i will immediately demonstrate it so that there is some intrigue. book called the outskirts of babylon and babylon you are the whole earth. yes, all together, where languages ​​were mixed after unsuccessful attempts to build a tower and many, many more, but what i wanted to ask, and maybe a little provocative. so i heard that you are called new. sasha sokolov yes, more than once, i

've heard this, i'm not sure, i don't know how you would relate to this yourself, but it's absolutely certain that you, unlike the lion's share of modern writers. uh, write, small things, but rather stories, essays, story cycles, whether it's true or not. here. e, dmitry, you are exactly one word just flashed uh, this cycles for me. uh, in general, everything that i write, by itself , lines up in cycles, and even, uh, the cycle itself, which gave its name to this general outskirts of babylon about languages ​​that arose after the destruction of the tower of babel. it occurs randomly. eh, i have one such fashionable glossy magazine. eh, unknown. why did he ask you to write a 72-word story? i asked why one came in. well, i say, what is this format? well, yes, so he just says from the bulldozer, this bulldozer has 72 words. i at first i wanted to get rid of it, but

then i thought, you are such a chess, but take this to write. i wrote this story , and then, uh, i felt sorry for giving away the magazine, because i began to invent the next next one . uh, admiring tricks and tricks has passed, and now we need big stories. this is usually 700 pages, but you are not in such stories. and probably won't. it's probably not organic. still. yes, probably, yes, it is every writer has like, well, that is, any size. yes, there is a nature of its e temperatures of nature. that's where the talent is. i like to write things. uh, these are completed ones that can be completed quickly, that is, here is a short story from the side, uh, here bunin wrote, super. short stories, he has only one romance last

stories of his last years of life. it's generally a few lines to tell the puppy. he also has great things, but still the main thing is the story of verchenko, there were tefi. you know what's happening? here you are when you write small things. even those stories that are included here there are five stories, and uh, when they were published in italy, they perceived these five cycle stories, like roman a am i right at home, that here, uh, some, certain side of the writer's nature realized yourself, because hmm, there is no complete alienation of the novel at close distance. here is a writer that a novel can be written for 10 years, yes , or two years or five years, and uh, he , as a matter of fact, both in temperament and in others, uh, the criteria of the author, as if it does not belong at all. here you are in every line in every. letter yes despite the fact that this is prose, but here it's just otroshenko, just from every paragraph i see your beautiful portrait.

well, it really is. hey, that 's a very good comparison. i liked exactly uh, long distance running. yes , there is a sprint distance from the printer's distance. eh, it requires such a direct return. here's to the last. yes, it will lay out straight, and then fall. here, it's clear. and actually, i love writing so much. here is every thing some grain of truth. yes it is indeed. eh, i think that this may be the southern russian temperament , let's talk about this, too, about southern russia, for me, for me, this is, uh, this is such a property. i want to see, uh, completed things and uh, everything was just right to the end in every line, i think of myself as a writer's work, yes, as changed. not consciousness, yes, how wonderful, but it is dangerous to be in an altered state for a long time. yes, therefore, therefore, i understand, so

when i enter there i will write, these are, uh, short things. and if i we did not often say so, here is my uh, hmm dead friend, well, oleg pavlov was close to me. uh, wonderful my daughter groups, of course, he told me the case says. here you unroll. this one is in roman, this is this, this is in some kind of roman. that is, each one of this each of this little thing we unfold roman uh, i told him, take it easy. yes, i'm going crazy. if i do it, because well, that's my attitude nature talent. i remember that one of the poems of the whites is ahatnaya akhmadulina pretty big ends. so , i have a poem written, just get everything, yes, that is, it is not something that draws strength, makes you alienate yourself from yourself and in general somehow. too fixes the altered consciousness. yes, yes, because , in general, i think that, in general, a writer's work. it's such a controlled madness

controlled because yes, because you have to get through. here, between this force and the charybdis, yes, that is, to return, that is, there is no plump there, yes, but still, well, someone someone has the ability to control this craziness, for example, over the course of a long romance. i'm afraid to give myself a lesson. yes and so, as it were, every day for three pages, of course. yes, i'm just afraid to fall into these states, because they really are. well, they are painful and you fall out at all when you write, you would be away from family life, and i used to have such a case when i had my dog, my favorite is such a wild doberman. i went shopping with her. uh, tied her up, they wouldn't let her into the store. and at this moment. here i am i understood how i need to build a story there, i ran. and i repent of this one here, yes, i just left my animal friend tied, that uh, then it means that i sat down

to describe the work and suddenly at some point she tumbles through the door. okay, dirty. she pulled out. she somehow wriggled out of her collar and ran, and then i repented there, wept and asked for his forgiveness. yes, that's because, uh, because you, when you're in this altered state of consciousness while you're working, yes , the writer's metaphor with dogs just makes me shocked, really. eh, really. it really is, well, wonderful. now. please tell us how it happened that the books that came out. uh, since the beginning of other countries comes out in russian. usually this doesn't happen. yes, since the time of ivan sergeevich turgenev, we know that first books are published in the homeland of writers, as they say? then someone foreign or ivan sergeevich turgenev says that this should be translated. here it is necessary to translate me or dostoevsky or goncharov and how did it happen so what is it? for the first time they are published in russian in such a line-up. yes , and which readers already know. tell me yourself. well, uh, yes, that's what is in this book

now. it is known to italian and french readers and i must say. e it really is. here, er, as a writer has e nu, as it were, the nature of his writing. yes, here, which we are talking about, yes, organics and there are some more. uh, repetitive notes in fate, which are invariably repeated, because when the first time it happened. i thought it was a miracle, and it was like suddenly a bell rings. here in the middle. well, it's very well described here. yes , readers understand that this is it. well, he is from the book yes, and such and such some. uh, a completely otherworldly voice with such an accent. he says, you can say that he is such a meowing accent a little bit. i say, yes, it's me , uh, uh, here. you probably thought, what are the accounts on the card now reset no, what am i? i had, honestly, so the first thought was that i was one of my friends. here i say, that's because such cases.