[000:00:00;00] to communicate, to laugh, that is, in this regard, i am so light and alive, and sasha well, here is another and it turns out that i could not pull him into life, and he could not close me into this material minimum from our conversation so far at the moment endured. yes, i endured that when it begins. this comparison needs to be grounded and returned. that's just to the goal we plans to move away from this children's magical thinking. ugh, here it is. what the young man with whom you stayed is doing now, i don’t know, i don’t want to, as it were completed and completed, but you

are always talking about your goals. and what are the goals? the fact is that as soon as i try to set them for myself somehow. and the same situation begins for me, like this, when i compare myself with , uh, a girlfriend, and this usually happens when the goals are too ambitious, you know, the psyche works this way, i set myself such a goal. yes, i understand that i achieve it. in the short term, i can’t, and because of this i get upset and leave. down again. it's like i'm not even trying to put it on not even a small one, because immediately my energy merges such an assumption, when do you get into this state? yes, that's what throws you home motivates this apathetic one. yes, you blame yourself for it. do you have something like this. why am i such a fool here? why am i a specialist here, and, but i myself feel like this. do you have this self-criticism? well,

to be honest, i didn’t notice it right in this format. i rather go to bed and get very upset, and at some point i just fall asleep, because the energy drops right here to zero and such dialogues. uh-huh no in my head. watch yourself because there is uh. this is the so-called two-story structure of negative emotions. yes, emotions itself and then discontent are emotions. here's to working with the emotion itself. it is necessary to remove dissatisfaction with her, that is, yes, i envy. okay, i'm a living person, i have the right to envy, because if it works for you, i envy and scold myself for being envious. this really overloads the psyche and the feeling is so bessist. a very interesting story. we will now discuss in more detail. and this is a podcast of the psyche, where i am journalist natalya loseva and clinical

psychologist mikhail khors we analyze various complex configurations of our psychological problems. so what do you just need to allow yourself to envy praise yourself for it or how to allow yourself to accept? uh, even those u know, mental and personality traits that are considered to be negative and unpleasant, for example, but accept them as the norm, actually? yes , because after all, our psyche is the world as a whole, it is generally multi-colored. and here is an attempt to collect, as it were puzzle only from beautiful bright and interesting pieces, yes, and throw it away. there, everything black and gray colorless leads to the fact that the puzzle becomes full of holes. and now, as if through these holes, all the power leaves us, on the contrary, when we begin to rely on all facets of our personality. here i am jealous. and here i am , on the contrary, i am happy for my friend. here. i probably scold myself for not being happy

for my girlfriend. here, then, then, let 's stop scolding ourselves for the beginning that you are such a person right now , tell me aloud, please, i'm a person. i have a right don't be happy for your friend. i am a person, i have the right, and i have the right not to be happy for my girlfriend, right? you feel something now, but you even want to cry a little. and well, how is it? yes? she is my friend. that is, it 's like a betrayal on my part , you know, i have the right to betray other people too. yes, i am human, and i have the right to betray other people. doesn't mean i will. well, you have. i have the right. i just yes, of course, i would say that you have such an opportunity. you know, sometimes it happens. this is

how it turned out, if we will be ourselves all our lives gnaw, for this we will not do better to anyone. therefore, what is happening now is what i will ask you. now this is called what to pronounce. what word is affirmation forgiveness forgiveness of oneself, yes, you know, in any book it says that you need to forgive yourself? yes, it is written in any. it's just not written how to do it. so i ’m telling you now how to forgive yourself, take a sheet of paper, write the word forgiveness on it and add in front of this word. the letter of simplification forgiveness - this is a simplification of the attitude towards oneself is an attitude. that's not some complicated such far-fetched not some requirements that we can not translate into reality. yes and it's simpler i'm a man i have no no they get some kind of jambs in life. i

mean, i scold someone, sometimes i envy someone , i don’t love or betray someone. well, it happens, i'm a man and i simplify my attitude towards myself in a simpler way. that's when we do it and life gets easier. and we have more strength, because we stop them in hatred of ourselves, yes, to spend, but the word hate from which word comes to see, yes, not to see, then there is hatred - is that, i do not see myself or another person. here it is. and i say, you shouldn't have something like that. you have to be different, this is hatred, you see, and how else can envy be fought, because it’s the most filthy feeling, because it’s the most, maybe, white motivating , and now, in order for it to motivate, it’s very important to answer the question. and why do you need

money? not money. and what is the glory of the impact of security way to adjust this flow of finances? why to security? we are now you feel in danger. no, i don't feel in danger right now. i understand that security is an internal financial cushion - it is always in fact part of our feeling of security in complete security. it is also an infantile world, generally dangerous. yes, and you will not get rid of it. will there be more money? will there be more fear that this money will be taken from you? honestly. believe me, as a wealthy person. and i can ask a question with such utmost honesty the answer to it. come on, would you like this friend to envy you

now. it seems to me that then the relationship will collapse, because i compare myself with her and, accordingly, and i don’t want her, well , bad things and when she envy me. it will look exactly the same in my head, she will lie down and she will run out of energy and she will feel bad. i don’t want her to feel bad, because you tell her about her, she will, otherwise she will still emphasize yes, healthy anger. yes well, therefore once again directly find the answer to a question. why do you need this then that while you do not have an answer to the question. you don't have formalized. this is the target motivation, you understand, you are now trying to run away, as if from some kind of pain, yes, i feel bad, and i 'm trying to escape from this pain somewhere, but it's better to run towards the goal. this is the same friend i saw a post. and yes, she took a picture with her phone, and wrote. here's my new office for cash. i

think it's good that i don't need it, that is, these direct finances. you here is the amount of money financial pieces. this is not quite what i need, so you don't need money. i need a way to get this money. a if it will be, and if it will be a wealthy man who will say, tribute, stay at home, please. here's your money, here's your resources, here's your resources, here's your opportunity, stay at home to give birth to children. i love you. herself. you don’t understand, i’m wondering what but it’s as if i didn’t become an adult then, that is, here, probably, i’m just looking for this. well, what about adults, there, you are a grown woman's wife, for example, a wealthy man is well-to -do housekeeping to a great achievement. this man also needs to be found and kept with a lot of serious work.

attachments. i can't stand on my own feet. so it turns out we broke up as a young man, and he paid the rent. i basically spent my money on training and invested in development. well, that's how it was. and now it turns out that the money that went to me for my development i, uh, i can’t have an apartment. welcome to adulthood, this is development. by the way, yes, yes. yes , the refrigerator will not fill itself, but i understand, i want while i need money. even honest i need money, what to whom why why do i need money, this some kind of shame with my mother so they taught, probably, yes, that money wants money, it's something like

that. well, it's not more interesting, yes, money is evil , even money, this evil can be said to kill a person with an electric one. can you warm up breakfast? yes, electricity is a tool, the same with money, gasoline for a car. you do not pray for gasoline. well, why don't i pray for money, that is, i say, as if they would give me money, so cool, it will make my life easier in some sense, well, in a certain way. eh, for a while. uh, no one will give money. wait to pick up, you understand? but from this position, well, my money is not important. well, i so it doesn't matter, not money interest five times already changed shoes in the air. let's be honest, the money is needed as a flow. this is the main goal, then money is not important money. this is success in general, well, money, but success is always money, not always. well, it seems to me that somewhere here is what is needed. yes, and envy, it seems to me in general, it’s possible, but i

think envy is, you know, what kind of motivator that turns on when all the rest burned out. she calls. i just have apathy, that's the whole problem. well, let's give you your opinion that if you envy someone, then you are bad use envy as a tool, go ahead. in general, envy in moderation, think about yourself and let all your motivations be positive secrets we hope that you will find this energy, but do our homework , yes and it’s easier, of course, to yourself and easier to yourself. it was a psychic podcast, where i am a journalist, natalya loseva and my co-host clinical psychologist candidate of psychological sciences. mikhail khors sort out quite complex tasks here, but the problem is precisely this, here is a specific local, that is, i can’t say that i’m not successful, actually

a little. who will win the car. well, they didn't say exactly. you have won a car. but it's the same. what, what is this? well, there was some, well, michael, when the last time i won a car last week, last year i devalue myself with my achievements, now you are in some kind of reality, this called a crisis. don't try to jump out of it. allow yourself to get out of it gradually. uh-huh yes, this is such a professional personal now crisis. by the way, he is quite common among young people. just now closer to 30 and 27-28-27 starts, well, 4 months have just passed. i still say i live, so he will figure out that the girl is young, pretty. everything will be fine with personal relationships, it is important that you get out and allow you to go out of the crisis, because

it seems to me that you broke up. this is also here, added to you the crisis, so the way out. well it seems to me that someone is a dead end, which hmm crushed, well, yes, probably both families were waiting. waiting to get married. yes, everything is already , it seems to me that they do not expect anything in 11 years. it is possible already several times ahead of schedule, it turns out. you had one single man in your entire life, yes, yes. this, of course , find yourself an older man, something there 35 40 is well interesting, do not listen, please, and you know that i don’t need to sell myself, please, such a social one. why does he need a man under 40? why did she say 35-40 that's what it will be. to me it seems like you're just talking. i communicate a lot. i'm just very happy to flirt with

them. no, flirt flirt. yes, 73 was interesting. that's what was on the face now , that's it, it's so personal. yes, it's the same flirt me young unmarried girls flirt. oh god, don't say no. i'll explain to you, just a flirt is let's say for sex. yes, firstly, why not hint? but don't let's go, what, and why deceive then, and everything should be honest in your life. listen , there is nothing more interesting than this subtle game of smart people do not even understand to know. that's

why father. here again the skies darken you. light the windows at dusk. this is where my friends and breath live. but i'm peering into the night windows. i live here, my friends and breath hold in the night windows peering. yes, i love a dream under the windows. i can like and the cherished light and exciting you are mine, and not how people look at me. they

look at me like people. i am ready to stand under your window and receive in the world. i'm always in a hurry, as if on a date with my youth and into the light of its rays. i always hurry faster a date from my youth that i admire you at night. i wish you a window of happiness, cockroach for you, there is no bread and my thoughts. the moscow cat is an unquenchable light and truly no, moscow's course is an unquenchable

light.

hello dear friends with you, a podcast of melodies of my life and valery syutkin and this is the light jazz team. a little applause by a musician of such qualifications does not hurt. thanks guys. well, as a matter of fact, we opened. uh, our today's meeting song about moscow was written by tikhon khrennikov to the words of mikhail mutusovsky. mm. i think that this is a vivid example, what melodies did you compose? what kind of verses were written not because this age-related grumbling was objectively sung by the whole country and such a form, because he drank it in a line , even if you are the first time a song, hear you they give you the opportunity to catch on, and then repeat, i will never forget how mikhailovich told me . eh, the history of the creation of the song has converged on you like a wedge of white light, for example, it's just that i'm throwing a bridge over the history of the creation of moscow windows. i just don't know,

but here i asked mikhail savich what it was authors uh hmm oscar velm. e, igor shafiri mikhail tanich and you and the chauffeur wrote some part, and some igor no valera answers mikhozdanchik. i came to visit the feldsman at a dacha outside the city of moscow region and he says hello misha. look at what little notes igor and i wrote here, and he performs directly. i'm not a radio operator just to make it clear, intonation uh, oscarfelson. look, misha. here is such a white light descended on you. what does tanya say to you? it's just brilliant repeat it again what to repeat and the same text. repeat, he fell for you. wedge white light. great. tell me again that you're kidding me. no, well, repeat on you all the white light came down on you. he says, now

i'm tired of it. come on, what have you got there next and disappeared by turning. i could run for this replay. that's three times it came up with. i said tanech- imagine more. the rest is just an example. well, uh, and since hmm i was born in moscow, then, of course, the moscow beat and vasya from moscow also participated. if i were a siberian and was born. uh, let's say in krasnoyarsk, i assure you, that is, with a dude and pizhon , it was normal for siberian to love the place where you were born, and therefore i am with you, uh, our dear viewers and those who hear us in the radiogram. i am extremely sincere with you in the timbre of my voice, as i already said, in my opinion, i call confidential sip nothing to do with local beauties. my vote does not. but he accurately conveys the content

of the story i do. this is, once again , absolutely sincere. so i brought you to the origin of this word. to me it is very i like it right away. well, you'll remember it for the rest of your life. we say this very often. yes, sincerely, when renaissance masters worked with marble, marble, as a fragile material, sometimes cracked, and in order to save many days of work, wax was poured into the crack , then polished, then here's a masterpiece. previously, it was something that was made without wax. here it is translated from latin. yes, and italian also have the same roots. here sincere means no wax. yes, that is, without embellishments absolutely in the first edition. and i really remember the stories that, let's say, you come on an excursion at three, it is clear that there is something to see and especially what to listen to, but when

the guide masters this art of correct storytelling, you immediately remember everything. well, for example. and panton there is a dome with a hole at the top and asked, why is there a hole for ventilation or what , they say, they just didn’t own it yet . pours concrete makes a hole at the top leaves further. hey rep. authorities, said we left there 20 coins thrown down. it is necessary to dig everything, this is when the hill was poured and the one who finds the coins. they will be, of course, you can imagine how many desires they dug everything through this hole, and i stayed like this. uh, the concreted dome is such a beautiful story. it was an e umberta man who is buried right in the pantheon, and he did for development. uh,

there's a lot of the roman empire. e. well, that's how it works, the story that no one remembers him so well, they don't really remember him, but hmm, you knew that there is such an mri. for example, before visiting the pantheon, i didn’t know, but the legend goes on, or rather, the story goes. so he and his wife began to expand the roman possessions and arrived in neopolis and they rolled out pizza on the square. prior to this, pizza, this is a purely neapolitan product from naples, that is, they did not do it in the rest of italy. this is even at that moment and the wife. he bertha said it was his wife who had died. i told the chef. write down the recipe we will do everywhere, and they made a big one in the square. you know, garnished with arugula mozzarella tomatoes. that there is like an italian flag green white red and the cook wrote down the recipe and began to cook this pizza at the beginning throughout italy and

then all over the world. what was the name of umbert's wife, correctly margherita and pizza margherita now remembers all the children, and he takes it at the same time like this, it seems to me that we are for the melody at the beginning , then from the melody go memories this is how we cling to hmm that which e forever remains with us. this is the best melodies memory keeper. that is why our prompt is called the melodies of my life, please a similar case, when during the olympics we were in london on an excursion, two things were remembered there. uh, there's a benjonson buried in besmeister abbey. it was batchonson. eh, hmm the same age. e, he lived at the same time as shakespeare, but unfortunately he did not reach the level of talent and influence. at least a well-known author, who was compiled , gave us not entirely tactful examples, but he helped me understand, let's say there is pushkin

, alexander sergeevich borodynsky, also wonderful. e, poet, well, after all, a contribution. e, pushkin and bogatynsky. he's on the scales looks a little different. this is how johnson lost. uh, by talent, let's say shakespeare, but that's not the point, he was a whiner all the time. that he will never be, buried and master's abbey. i needed a special order, but he was always objected that there is another way , you need to pay 400 coins. here he also continued to whine and said, you humiliate me, i am a poor poet. i only have 200 with the hope of a miracle, and he said that's all. time kept repeating 200 coins, but it would have been 400 and i would have been uh, buried for the whole month, but what did they do to him with an offer inherent in english black humor and he accepted, and the offer is this, because the earth is very expensive and for 200 coins he was buried, but vertically, that is,

the group was placed vertically and indeed this is a reliable story benzhousom is buried vertically for the whole month stands, but the second uh, a huge street, this street that leads from behind the old city to the city is a long street there is one, so as not to pronounce. rank one, american chain hotel, so here's the owner hotel, he is 200 m on the road to the hotel, since this is his land, his hotel. he didn't make it a left-hand drive like all over london in england a right-hand drive like we have in moscow in the united states well, in short, this is the most hmm most dangerous place, because people are confused to get in, you have to leave that way. so there are a lot of accidents on the road, but the very fact that, uh, when driving on the left, there is a small area where it is completely different, it says that

there are a lot of miracles in this world, so to knowledge. i'm always open because lev consists of well-digested lamb, so read more and be interested, otherwise you will live in a draft. and we need, uh, wind, good deeds and wind. a change for the better, by the way, with the hope for the best, we will continue to communicate with you. i approached the topic . there is a wonderful story about our new year's meeting with mine. uh, co-author. romario wrote a winter song for me without mittens, and we played it in one of the new year's new year's programs. and he thanks me valery valery melatovich. more precisely, he says son. thank you very much for bringing my song to the new year's broadcast and mom and dad. look, yekaterinburg is a freak with the urals and i wrote

a poem, so about it, it excited me that my parents would see, but, unfortunately, my grandmothers, who are in another dimension, would not see. i wrote a poem, and he read a poem that absolutely catapulted me here listen maybe in my grandmother's sky blue lights are looking at they are baking from a cloud, and heavenly tea patties from airy dough will brew tea for everyone an apostle you are the heavenly kitchen of me, and then his hand will hit the table to see the tv. until the morning they will discuss everything on the iris. music hairstyle shoes, maybe our grandmothers are watching blue lights in the sky. yes lovely poem rum i'm straight, thank you

i remembered my grandmother now im. we will perform a song here for our parents for the older generation. i do not get tired of repeating that good taste is a reflection of the traditions of culture, such a bright sadness to the verses innysh. ko and i know. what do you like me? as i once

did you like it? what to carry? with

me it is not in vain to drag you deeper. it’s not in vain that i’m sad, you’re visible with me in august, it can’t come true, what comes true in early spring, what

happens in advance and sleep. the windows darkened the bushes from the rain. i know that you like me, and once i liked you, and when i liked you melodies of my life, this is our podcast valery syutkin and light jazz to find out that i thought

to perform this song now. we will leave nothing behind. i mean, the handwriting of the diary notes before it was all some lamp. there are no revolutions that we will leave photos on flash drives, flash drives become obsolete and that's it. it's like millions of photographs are flying into a black hole, which we do not review, and there used to be 10-15 of them. but all in life such a volume was to me, so, of course, that's it. it's sad, this sad song reminded us that we will leave nothing, but on the other hand , the philosophical must be treated. uh, our wonderful jazz guitarist aleksey alekseevich kuznetsov is here. as a matter of fact, i

played this song like alexey alekseevich. invented arranged. as a student, i just took it all off and copied it, and so alexey alekseevich kuznetsov has a motto, magnificent, that simply stunned me. well, uncle lyosha plays jam with the youth. so how do young people play? in the second minute, all the young people are already playing an endless solo. they are young precisely from themselves to show. this alexei alekseevich tells the game and talks to them, and one of them has already taken pity on his pride. let me make the guitar louder for you, otherwise you can’t hear it. and i told him my disk and continued to play, as you think necessary, and such a pause. i asked alexei alekseevich the devist. what does he say to you? yes, so far so i did not understand how i even asked again, i say. here you