i communicate with my husband. then i'm offended that he is silent. strange truth. how was your relationship with your mother? you and your mother were together with samarkand, you lived together correctly, there was no one else. no, it appeared at first we lived together, there was a cheerful laugh now. until the age of 14, we lived, but together, i tried to help my mother in every possible way in terms of the fact that she always worked, and i was responsible for the house for the household there. well, how is the economy there? well, we were in an ordinary apartment, but we lived there early, we started cutting salads there, then before cooking came. and then he appeared, and the man in her life , he began to visit us. and i immediately did not like this man, but no one

asked me, as it were, especially. about my feelings there well, at least there i don’t mind. i was a stranger. in our apartment, he somehow interfered in your life. and how can it be, for example, you slept in your bed , ate from your plate, as masha and the bears sat on your chair, it can obviously be assumed that he somehow visited, uh, on your mother’s half. that's why i'm asking, that is, he doesn't intervened in your life did not educate you did not try to teach life. no, there was no such thing. that is, you had a fairly distant relationship. he had a relationship with his mother. you were there because you initially showed this distance and still know how.

and to be able to set the boundaries of an adult man of a 14-year-old girl is quite a serious step and an inner skill. which, in general, was forgotten. lol because now , it seems to me, i don’t have this skill. can say i'm confused with other people then is there some reason you don't use it? it's the same as riding a bike. if you have learned once, then we can come to this now. so the psychologist sergey on himself, the psychologist tatyana

krasnovskaya, and our guests and lola as you said, we have a man. come on, my mother began to drink heavily with him. and at that time i either ran out into the street. the other guys were friends, not to say that friends were guys who were from the same yard and we were together. but for me, a friend - you know it's like that, i had an example again there was a girl from school with whom i went to school and back with her, and there was an older sister and the second girl from our

house had two sisters. i saw their relationship with each other, how they yes, yes, how they communicate with each other and no, i also wanted everything, well, i wanted a sister. yes, it's understandable. so maybe you are then like that mammoth who is looking for a sister or brother for his mother, and they are friends and comrades. now i’m not looking, but i’m looking for my sister in the room, well, my friend, i’m just limiting these incomprehensibly, it seems that you this concept, because you are looking. i tell you at your place, that is, you had friends. you talk to me friend and began to describe the sisterly relationship. that is, for me, a friend . this is a sister. that is, i mean, i show the second person with some of my behavior that how this can manifest itself in my behavior, for now. i just want to

see you. look, when i ask you, you tell, you say, and i was with other guys. i say, that is, friends, after all, they were. you say no, this is not exactly what i would like, of course, it would be great to run away from home with my sister. well, there was no sister. okay let's get back the relationship should be such a gap. there must be a lot of intimacy, but you ran away from home, what happened? well, i either left, yes, or i locked myself in my room and it happened. so it didn't work out. for days at all from the room. bye. start continue end, because they will learn right away and i didn’t want to see all this. and

then it happened, so apparently, my mother fell in love very much. uh huh and went on a leash plague, who offered to sell our three-room apartment and move in with him, but she sold it to a one-room apartment. the only thing we managed to do competently was to register in this apartment. and so, when they ran out, well, they also continued to drink. naturally, and when the money ran out, and let's get wet in the face and said directly that i conditionally do not want to see you here in my apartment. i will get you out of here, only physically. i will not touch you, but morally i will destroy you, and he did not touch, because he knew that we could report to the police there. that is, again about the border everything is in order. if you have

a person, you can physically touch, but at the same time you speak because he knew. you didn't say he didn't touch us physically, because he was a noble man of blue blood, well-bred, educated, you said differently. it's just that he said it himself. it doesn't matter. what he said is important, how you describe it. that is, he did not touch you, you are just another remark that everything is in order with the borders. in the end, he kicked you out. well, how did you get out? he started on his own drinking without a mother was very harshly insulted with all sorts of words, and my mother or mother directly insulted me, so i tried to protect myself and my mother, and my mother always pulled me away, burned,

be silent, there will be even more scandal. be quiet. and this is visible. when i was already, when i was able to leave on my own, i left, well, to moscow from him. my mother stayed here with him, as was your life in moscow. well, the first year, and it didn’t really get to the point that i had to spend the night on the street. and even this, well, as if it did not push me to the idea of ​​​​returning. here is the hour you remembered how you spent the night on the street there was something happening. just spent the night on the street

in the summer in the winter somewhere in the entrance to the bunkhouse or right on the street, how long did this last? came with me, the same girl with the same problem. she also had a lot. because we are at home. that i had such a situation, as if we never had the idea to return or what? so you decided that you will survive at any cost? it just seemed to me at that moment that it was even better here than there, even at the entrance it was better here than there, sochi mom with mom. and it looks like you did it. and you generally understand that almost all success stories sound like this. read memoirs of successful

people. i came to america with one dollar in my pocket. i came to moscow with a knapsack with things. i arrived there and spent the night on the street, and i arrived and worked. ah, on instagram, he took out the garbage from the restaurant, that is, almost any success story is a person who takes not a prince. harry is there some one who was just waiting for his hour or inheritance, but such a person who rose by himself with his forces. each of them will have such a story. but for some reason you put this story in a box with a tragedy. but there is no tragedy. well, i mean, you can look at it however you like. i myself began to periodically think that conditionally my brain got used to the fact that you have to constantly suffer. even sometimes it can tell me why you are so negative, well, a negative person constantly sees

the bad. it will not be very interesting to be friends with you if you describe your life in such a dramatic way all the time. podcast triggers with you sergey is a psychologist, a psychotherapist and tatyana krasnovskaya, a family psychologist, and today we are talking about what triggers prevent her from being happy. let's see what you managed if we look. for your life, you came to moscow and spent the night for 2 weeks at the entrance. what is your overall result now? now, of course, it’s a sin to complain, everything is fine. do you have a job, do you have an apartment, do you have an apartment? well, it’s not removable, and my job is still such that i don’t work hiring a specialist who works himself. yes i

i build my own financial schedule through me. mom, she died a long time ago already died in the eleventh year. good thing they said, we are dead. but no, well, well, because your dad left with your mom, a man came to you with your mom, if you told me nothing that you and your mom died that day, i would be too surprised . i think so too. i even think that the previous two cases are too much. after all , how your mother died separately from you. but your daughter is dead. you are no longer a daughter. probably, well, since there is no mother, then no daughter role model role daughter no well, yes with the death of every person in our lives.

well, a part of us is dying. yes, i did not think about it, but as you say, right? so i say so in the affirmative, you agree, but if you have a simple question, and your father is alive, i don’t know. why would i say we found your father? and now he's coming, what then? time has passed, perhaps, for what time has passed in order to be a daughter in order to need, probably need him. i think yes, that might be the problem. that when you build relationships with people. you say to them unconsciously non-verbally declare that be my friend. i will need you. does need breed friendship? it always seemed to me that i was not trying to impose myself, as it were. it’s just the opposite for me

and there is a process of being unobtrusive and after a while i’m just there i stop communicating with a person. that is, even curiosity would not give you the opportunity to talk to your father curiosity now. well i don't know what this should be the situation. i speak you that your father is here and he will come to you now, that with you it will be a stranger, but half of your blood is his blood. and what is your decision to perceive him as a stranger or to suddenly make him close? it 's your choice, yes, i understand, but just, if i'm presenting now. what, here he stands , for example, but he is a stranger to me, you understand, the fact is that you deny not only his paternity. you deny exactly half of yourself.

maybe that's why you're called by the wrong name. what's your name, it's abbreviated. you cut off exactly half of me. yes , i understand this as a full name. it's hard to say. it's hard to say, it cuts a lot. rumor constantly to someone. well, no one but you can pronounce it. nobody knows him. what will happen? but at the same time, when you described friends to me in

childhood, describing through the sisterly relationship of your girlfriends, you gave me reason to believe that you are looking for blood ties. and your loneliness lies precisely in the fact that you seem to be alone by blood. like this hypothetical sister. this is the one half. this is the same half of the name , the same half of you, which, by the way it is a blood relative, will be next to you. you are like a crescent in samarkand . you understand that one part of you is manifested, and the second is in the shadow. the question is what overshadows the second part? overshadows your grievances and your pain, which is not yours, you do not know the story. why did your father leave you? we don't know what kind of wife your mother was , we don't know what kind of relationship they had. we don't know what caused you to appear on light. well, in the sense of guessing physiological as a result of what? you do not

know this whole story, but you take this whole story, and as if shift it to the dark side. that is, should i stop suffering to begin to pronounce the name, patronymic? after all, i only recently thought that i accepted reconciled. but right now i can't. try to do this without resigning yourself, without accepting through this block that is inside. it is unlikely that you will have the same hysteria in the mfc . let's be honest. let's what's your

name? horror what happens if you do? i can't even turn my tongue. i do not know why. imagine that you now see yourself at age 4 to your right. here, look and imagine that there is a little girl of 4 years old standing there, and i will ask you a simple question. but you will answer as soon as you hear the question. look at this girl. directly. imagine remember with pigtails with bows or combed ones who have just woken up or maybe on the street. what is her name?

what does the name nocturnal some lotus mean like me. i understand it's beautiful. my name is zilola ridiculous comes, straight, but it's laughter through tears. i think i can.

say what you feel now ashamed of what? for the patronymic, and what does it make you? what makes me, but if shame, then it means that you feel that something is wrong with you, having this patronymic. it's not that there's something wrong with me, that it's not sonorous. such as others like, for example, i don’t know there. no one here

can speak the first time, right? and i don’t know how it would sound in uzbek, i just don’t know the uzbek language, well, wasn’t it in the documents your father's full name is written, like well , it turns out khairilo, when do you turn out, hari lo gazy? no, a little later they began to use these. these are angles, but still, inside the everyday language, it sounded exactly like that. well , yes, that i am his daughter means daughter? and if it seems to you that it is somehow unsound. yes , indeed, it is not sonorous here. in this region in france, no one will ask you for your middle name at all. what matters is what happens inside of you. it just needs

to stop cutting off that part of your personal history. it turns out well, as it were, but not that, who will suddenly come into your life from the one that is already in your blood in your history. and most importantly, it will allow you to change that very drama and separate your mother from your drama. because only when you become exactly the manifested individuality without stories. you will be able to build relationships openly; you will not need to hide anything from people. but first you need to allow yourself your patronymic. this is belonging to your family to your father. i'll try it's part of your identity and only through identity is born individuality. and

the next step is to stop suffering. uh-huh , i think that this will be a consequence. what, thank you very much. hello dear viewers, we are with you at night on channel one. i am mikhailkhanov, the host of the easy money podcast. i am very glad to be my guest today. legend of the national financial economic journalism, permanent editor-in-chief and founder of the finversia project. jan art jan i 'm very glad to see you, thank you. and you know, here we have such chairs. i have it's all reminiscent of, uh, and given the theme

of the pyramid scheme, fraud. this is exactly what we will talk about today about how to avoid such tricks from bad people. uh, it reminds me of a scene from uh, a permanent film, only holmes of the domestic passed. yes, only you, you know, it feels like we don’t have dr. watson holmes, we will be with you today, like your holsa and try to teach viewers. what to do how to avoid such things uh hmm what are called tricks let's start? let's, please what's here every day, well i at least. starts the day with the morning news. uh, i read that they fall for the tricks of fraudsters. not just grandparents pensioners. it would seem that people are far from financial literacy in general, but also quite professional people. well, it's even scary to say the bankers. there uh, sometimes even this financial officials, how does this happen? why, how, and let's say

this to an ordinary person, but to understand that he is a scammer. i mean, these are some words. these are some phrases, stamps, these are some signs. yes, let's try to talk about this topic. here you know, judging by the reports. we don't have numbers like that. what is called on the one hand the latest research on the finns national financial crime agency, 72% of russians? that is, to the number of financial ones, it would seem that the talk about scammers and pyramids has actually stuffed the staples. yes, that is, everyone has already heard this. this is the second and third. this has been a trend for about two years now. that the central bank, at least with its services, says that the emphasis is again shifting to less technical tricks for example, phishing yes, but a fake site, but how much on the methods of social engineering are the engineer themselves. yes, at the same time, if each of us is told about this, then we, frankly speaking , will not laugh at her. what is social?

yes, what is it? each of us knows for sure about ourselves, well, we will not give in to everything, but this is not real, but this is for a fool. yes, but this is for a naive person, but at the same time this thing works somehow correctly noted with bankers officials, even you know, i remember one movie here. uh, when uh group is very cool hackers international they tried for a long time to break into the bank and in the end they broke down as follows. they went to the trash, looked at the letters that were thrown out of the wastebaskets of this office, and on some envelope some woman wrote down, either the password or something, they climbed through this hole, that is, but you can talk as much as you like. for a long time about cybersecurity, and the protection of bones, but it turns out that the weakest link is a person and actually puts pressure on it. uh, those who are trying to take the money. well let's start here, uh, i uh have one habit. i tell viewers all the time. let's pick up our pens and try to write. yes, to benefit from the program. here is what i imagine, how i would characterize the financial pyramid. well,

first of all, yes, this is a high percentage. what does high mean is a percentage that exceeds the deposit rate, that is, there is a top deposit rate, there are three banks. well, in our case, we won’t say there, they are white. uh, green blue. yes, and red cans. here is the first one. if the rate is higher per annum. yes, it’s there now, how much is 7-8%, well, i don't agree here. excuse me right now, why? that is, if you are promised a higher guarantee, uh, there was such a general moment on the brain that people are talking about talking about there. high yield means pyramids. no , that doesn't mean we both know. well, if i tell my returns about 19 returns, ian is guaranteed in such and such a risk-free and guaranteed high return itself, if your company says, uh, you know, we achieved in such and such a year profitability, there 40% recorded recorded, a

the first sign when you are guaranteed high returns do not show there is such a buzzword track tracker. a record is an a record of actually previous periods. that is , they show you what was there two or three years ago. if you show it, you don't need to show it. yes, so the first sign is a guaranteed high accent on the word guaranteed. they wrote down the guaranteed high profitability on the word high, the second. here, what would you call the second sign. so the lack of a license is spinning in my head, and here, too, is twofold, as with the first paragraph. on the one hand, i would advise, of course, that if you apply to a financial institution , look at it. well, look at what kind of organization, in fact, either have a license from the central bank well, for example, banks or brokerage companies, or are in the register of the central bank. for example, if this is the question. well, for example, i say, against what do you agree? with what do you want to argue with one thing is also an insufficient sign? yes, of course it's better. see

if the e-cb license is included in the license. register, but if it is a foreign company , and it does not have it, it does not mean that it is a pyramid scheme, but it needs to be checked three times, since now we all know the concept of such a friendly unfriendly and here you can delve endlessly. i know why, relatively speaking, here, uh, being a company offshore does not mean automatic machines, what is it in a car? yes, there is a normal company offshore for the sake of tax optimization. but this is often a close sign in the car, if for example, a certain company with which you decide to work is not in the register of the bank of russia, but you understand that this is a foreign company, but still you accept work for the sialist ones, but look at it in the same registers with other central banks , for example, well, for example, a typical commission on the stock market. yes, her site is even russified, because, well, cyprus is well recorded, and the third sign, er, which i have. and let's just say it is quite closely associated with

the pyramids. this is when e people a offer a guaranteed high, profitability b. e, in every possible way they are silent about their affiliation. who else? e. well, let's put it this way, damn it, yes, yes, yes, yes, the regulator yes of business, and the third sign is when you are actively encouraged to bring friends of your acquaintances, and you are promised certain bonuses for this. moreover, the bonus system also existed for brokerage companies and forex companies legally, but for about seven years now, regulators around the world have been fighting all sorts of things. referral bonus programs - this is when let's explain this, when you bring your friend and a bonus from the organizer is credited to your account i believe that this causes additional appetites, additional pressure, and therefore, in principle, today is decent. what is called jurisdiction, including russian bonuses and referral programs are prohibited, so today they themselves are technically not

a sign of a scam, but today we can say that they have remained in the financial world. only e in the assortment of the company, which at least raises big doubts. well, let's do it then. in general, as the great of the great russian people, it is all there is a saying. that is, if it looks like cat meows like a cat walks like a cat, it is most likely a pyramid cat is a phenomenon. right now, this is a phenomenon of the beginning of the nineties century, or is it something that has come to us quite a long time ago, of course, with mikhail, i would add a fourth sign, and not the intelligibility of activity. and here is the same. activities - this is when you do not understand, so you understand that our audience accepts. what does gazprom do what does sberbank do at worst? what does channel one do? yes here and here is the activity, how money is formed, for example, channel one entertains people has an audience, it turns out advertising gazprom pumps gas sells gas and, uh, the indistinct activity of today's modern pyramids, by the way, the old ones didn’t have it. this is

a private sign. but a person, when he hears some beautiful words, he begins to think. no, they probably understand everything. but i don’t understand relatively speaking, they say, you know, we have crypto trading here with some personal belongings and something else, and a person is ashamed of his ignorance of the method luminescent photo or photograph. we seek dispersion, that is, money. well, you know, that's what you said, this is literally the explanation, the vast majority of these projects today and a person should not be shy. he must not think that he is coming. he may not be an expert on the gas industry on television, as we give examples there, and so on, but he must still understand how this works. if he does not understand, this is the fourth sign that, most likely, this is a pyramid. i here you know which application is an example. uh, great uh, russian soviet physicist, vandau said, so if a theoretical physicist can't explain to a ten-year-old boy on

his fingers, what is he doing? so, he is doing nonsense on the one hand, of course, this is some kind of cunning, but on the other hand , here. here you are right. it’s also in this that you should roughly understand how , and you will receive money, that is, what exactly this company earns on and why everyone around them earns money, you understand here i always know how this arises desire that guys, why are you telling everyone about this? well, you can earn money. yes, there is power. take the money, there is a loan . there is something else there. history of a bunch of pyramids. you and i saw one loud. the history of this date is more recent when people. they talked about such a profitability and such brilliant traders that it is impossible to substantiate. why you raise money is usually justified by a financial company. how we need a lot of capital for greater efficiency, this is logical, indeed true, but you do not need suitability nothing is simple, probably, and if it is profitability, that's also uh tv viewers, what is called the hostess on a note. if it

's profitability, if the company consistently earns that much, then it must already have a lot of money, because profitability, as a rule. here there is almost 10% of the interest complexity, even if we take direct interest, it is 120. yes, they say it has already passed, respectively, people double their capital annually even on simple interest. and if they exist, just a year, yes, here think about what, uh, maybe it is just an accident maybe it's just a random win, even if it's not a scammer, yes, even if there is success, here, returning to the very same understand this here, and my advice to you is a tracker, that is, the company's story of financial success. it should be at least 5 years, i can say, so when there are some specific strategies, i don’t know, or crypto strategy is algorithmic , there are still some magical ways of making money in the markets, when western investment funds look at such geniuses. it's less than 3 years old they don't even talk. and five is better. that's better than 5 years. yes, that's why you always look.

what is the story in this company , when she has been earning such a lot of money for a long time, mikhail added one more thing listed by us signs 100% sign, perhaps the first and third, that is, a guarantee of high profitability and a bonus referral program, the second sign is the absence of a license, there is signs of slurring. it's not 100% yet, that it's a pyramid. i mean, maybe people are clueless. well, i think they're good at making money. they can tell after all, yes, this also happens and it is necessary to give backlash here after all. let's talk a little about history , how long ago people learned how to deceive other people in this way, yes, because the first thing that comes to my mind is this japanese scheme, in my opinion, this is the middle even the beginning of the last century. uh, when people actually built, because the sign of the main pyramid is as follows, when the income of the participants is determined from the money that the new part brings, that is, actually. what is a pyramid? yes we are