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. still wearing masks. however, this clearly does not prevent you from enjoying the enchanting aromas and beauty of millions of white and pink flowers. such news to this minute. see you soon. our we understand with you, mikhail, that konstantin does not finish speaking, he is now trying in general terms to give such a right dad with average statistical right problems. although in reality his problem is much more acute, it is specific. yes, and it seems to me that this problem is connected precisely with these two boys, and the fact that i caught the son of the biological father so, well, yes, including now this property is now clean.

tell us what's going on with you so it happened that at the beginning of our relationship. yes , when my wife and i got married, and i it took a long time to decide, but at some point i decided to call their biological father to talk to him and set up contact. yes, that is me. it is always the unknown. i mean, i don't know who it is. i don't understand. what kind of things are there, for example, what kind of views does she have on children, how does he want to raise them, that is. well, i had some kind of request, how would i understand? but what kind of person and how to communicate with him? yes, i called and in general did not find. well, to put it mildly, i did not find a response. yes , no nick. you understand the action itself. it doesn't error wrong. yes, it's just an action question. with what motivation? yes, if i ask you now, why did you call? can you answer this question? well, i guess i'm just going to give an example with my husband. my first wife, we have a great relationship. we correspond with him there, we have some business. you, that is, we are discussing how we do everything with the child. he writes to me, that is, in my

opinion, this is a good partnership relationship. that is, when you started, you called and said okay somehow. well, somehow here, or something, we there the child was somehow met and passed on. well , we kind of laughed. you know, when on both sides. uh, friendly, i mean, hi there, how are you? in any case, why? well, it was important for me to make some kind of comfortable one too. i don’t know, maybe this is the atmosphere that is comfortable for me so that i understand what is happening , for example, yes, well, maybe not to be friends, but you understand that it’s like it’s around, that there’s conditionally not some kind of risk there, it’s not dangerous. what 's not lurking there, some kind of malice? i don't know, well you know how, but would like to get some kind of ideal picture. yes, how did you fantasize these relationships for yourself and for some reason you deny the right of people, uh, to have this very anger, conflicts among themselves. well, this is so bad, and then look. they have completely turned out to be different configurations in that case, and konstantin is calling, and the new spouse of his ex, yes, and now they have switched roles.

yes, and perhaps that man is the biological father of his sons. they still called him yes, he is still psychologically traumatized. here's a divorce and here you are such a winner. uh-huh i call and start to dominate like that. let's be friends. well, maybe, i think that i was quite correct, but now you have said how this situation might look. i didn't think about it. in general, our conversation was ugly and from the position of this man, and indeed. well , to be honest, i didn’t try other attempts, they are beautiful, well, how would they tell me that don’t mind your own business, that you can only conditionally give birth to a girl. yes, they told me, well, of course, it was like that, i don’t know, but for some reason it hurt me. after that, i even began to say it, because when i have i think, the second child thought that i would have a boy for some reason, but i had a girl. i remember that i had this effect, i even sat and cried in the car for 10 minutes. for some reason, when i found out, now i'm

laughing. well, apparently you know this, as if some kind of psychological maturation there. and here it seems like ready-made boys. yes, and you are ready to become their real dad, well, something is stopping you. well yes events, i will say that hinders. this is the most interesting thing is trying to become a real dad. well, you won’t become their real dad, why did you suddenly decide that you are also their dad, are you a stepfather? take this position, it's not bad not good. she is the real your attempts to be a father here is real. as a result, everything and destabilizes this situation. they are coming. they seem to have a real father there, and here is another real father, who was not from them either, yes, it turns out that why are you forcing two men to consider children as fathers? well, yes, that's why there was actually a request. e, konstantin all. here he is dad, and here kostya or konstantin thanks. that's the fact that we are

here and there communication has become better. that is, he sees that here are the children, as if it also began to conditionally catch up. yes, more brothers. well, here they are, sort of, yes, but i don't know. i use to discuss, but you see that everything seems to be fine here, but there, too, activity, as it were, is increasing, that is, we see some kind of help there, that children are taken. there on holidays already wins. there is more to it, my friends. well, you know, folk wisdom, we hint at a proven one. yes, uh, dad is not the same who gave birth and mother? yes, the one who brought up, you see, there is competing again. but who washes their buttocks for these children? well, conditionally, we are also partly there, when they get sick at eight you sit, of course, do your homework. yes, well, i drive to school, yes, they walk, of course, with them 10 times more, of course, why is he investing so much of himself and emotional and from the point of view

of time michael why he can call himself dad to these children just because the wrong sperm. excuse me, well , for example, so it's big enough. cause you understand what's the difference? what is it called let them not call you dad. why do you need this why the position of the stepfather is bad? well, i’ll just explain, we just have two more our children and we wanted our family to be conditionally closed, so that there would be no one calling kostya and someone daddy, so that other children would not have questions. why is that? what is there to say? is there dad here? kostya well, we intuitively acted in this situation, as if, maybe, i’m more like a wife to say such a woman’s position yes, i think well, i wish i didn't have kids. this, so that they feel that these are children, such as real loved ones, and they, as it were, are not real conditionally for their children in real life. well, you try them, she is somewhere on the clouds with unicorns, it means to grow. yes, real life is different. here, let's

talk about it. and this is a podcast of the psyche and we ourselves are the leading clinical psychologist mikhail khors, we analyze the situation of the father of many children, konstantin, quite difficult. what is wrong with real life in real life? it's just like that. yes, there is, stepfather. there is a father children from different marriages. they will somehow interact, and an attempt, that means, uh, to call a stepfather a father is an attempt, and to tell one child that you are all here means the same. this is what leads to the fact that children live, well, fantasy, he does not say that you do not have a biological dad. denis daddy we have bones there, as it were, right? well, here we are. well, well, just don't try to be a real father to them. i'm sure you'll get it in time. and you demand it right now here at once, so that everything changes. mikhail was one more caveat. i would like you to

be able to deal with her guests. you said it neuroticizes your spouse. i would have heard about these breakdowns all the breakdowns. well, you just try, for example, you do a lot there and then conditionally, where as it is now, damn it. you want some sort of reward for this. yes? from whom? i don't know, well, to be praised there or something. or later, or vice versa, you understand? what do you need? well, that is, you're just through the heaviness of you yes. you 're like, like you're trying on your own, yeah to prove that you're doing so much, there 's so much, i don't know how to explain it. well , i don’t know about praise from and from my wife, you know, who has a request for this outward respect. what kind of people do i want? if a person does not have his own respect for himself, he constantly expects this respect from the outside, both , and vice versa, if a person is full of this self-sufficiency with such a self, especially male, in principle, it doesn’t matter what they call him, how he is respected, how the right is treated know i can say i can say

what i am illustrating. even from what he managed to tell, what this one illustrates. well , you can say the diagnosis, yes. or the one that mikhail says. when you gave us such a twistedness of yours, this is actually stupidity. yes, when he says some kind of man, it doesn’t matter who he is, he says, you give birth only to girls and only girls are born to you. so you are not up to a man. you are not up to the male. yes, and you must think so about it that you cried? when did you have a daughter? well, yes, what is it, that is, it was not connected. this is what you are so-so not not sure? why don’t you praise yourself, we sob, and the main question is not that konstantin e does not have this high level of selfhood, yes, which in this situation would help you a lot. yes, because i really am. excuse me, i do not believe that with a man who is raising your first own daughter. you, everything there is just beautiful and wonderful, the gardens of eden are blooming. well, i just don't believe it. that's all. there are probably some of your

inner stories too. here, but because, well, excuse me, he is your daughter every day educates. i think i'm just calm here. i think so the question is not what it is, but the second question is what to do, i agree, and you imagined some kind of picture, well , the ideal one that you would like to achieve in relation to, sochi to you your first daughter and with the biological father of your adopted children, although i think you understand biologically, i therefore try to always agree with some. well, i don’t know, so i think that here we are there , my husband is excellent. here's a good improvement for me. well, what can i, for example, something write to ask, he can also ask something, we can share something there. they live abroad right? it's kind of independent of this, that it's very dependent. they live far away from you, no one

takes away this daughter many times. she already lives there, yes, you do not share a daughter, because now you are separated by circumstances. they live abroad. you still understand that for many reasons, you cannot compete with him for who the girl will be with at that moment, and here you, as males, measure your rights and your time and your influence on these two unfortunate boys. your daughter calls her stepfather. no dad, and if it was called honestly, well, probably, i wouldn't like it. are you waiting for another man? yes? understanding, although, well, somehow, but he , too, probably thinks, so he manipulates my children, makes them call themselves dad and so easily. maybe, well, i agree for this and it is necessary to maintain some kind of conditionally minimal connection there, or what, to maintain? no, it does not support you want to be supported with it? well we fear it will affect the fact that there will be some kind of,

well, how would it affect the figures. well, it's good that it will affect the children , when, for example, when he said that uh, how, if one more time, like you call her dad there, i won't take you. yes, that is, they knew it well from the children, their mother shared it, well, you understand the model of behavior, that is , it has 17, so to speak, but he says a child, i won’t take you if a man of children jumps and tries, something like that. troit their lives so that they do not have an injury agreed. this is real life in children will be traumatized. i don't don't i urge you to apply them specifically. but if you don’t open this moment now , just at what age they don’t understand the traumatized years, there may be a rethink, but when they are 10 years old they can’t be given, as it were, the whole amount of information about life there, in addition,

once you found out that here dad said this, well, not a very smart smart thing. what else was what else was something with him. and we went there there, he says, i’m not interested, like, and they say, there daddy doesn’t love you that word, but they tell me, that is, as if the child initially forms negative ones. yes and well, maybe, yes , probably the pope has the right. he is most likely going through a divorce and separation from children. mikhail , please tell me, that's all. i don't think you're being completely sincere when you say that. personally, what, stop hanging around the kids. i am sure that you are actually the person who thinks about how to protect children from unnecessary herbs. here is how, in the interests of the world of goodness and these children, konstantin behaves correctly when children come and say, here is papa kostya again, my dad is there about you, he said, the one and the one who say, you know, mom will find out, then, as it were, ok has the right. i will not offend him for this, but i think we are trying.

why are we saying that this is not, well, as if everyone has the right. of course, i'm not offended. it's okay. now i see what konstantin is thinking. how can i be even better. how can i be even more correct for these children to finally make a choice. yes, i think, what did i do wrong? yes, i’m still like, and so and so bad, for example, i shouted there. well, conditionally there he cursed, there he gave a slap on the back of the head. yes, as it were, even then they came up with it there, and so here it is. well, how would you blame yourself for reading, when, as it were, there are no conditionally some third parties in this story. it's solid, but your child is there, yes? peregestite, yes, scold, yes, these children are not yours, and they will tell you this, you are not our real dad. that is, how i treat the top. he will tell the truth. you have no right to educate me. so you need something to fend off, right, if you and i are counting. yes for example, so here is the event. why might it be? i don't like them there. and if i love them,

for example, you understand yourself now, that is, you didn’t convince yourself. i myself, as it were, what is it? well, you know, it's over-reflection. you honestly have an excessive reflection beyond the requirements for myself, i must love them like relatives. well, i'll say, so i had a divorce in my parents' family, after which i can still say that, well, not everything has recovered. yes, moreover, i was an adult was 20 years old, but i think that's how. for me it was. you know how the whole glass ball collapsed. yes, i have an injury. well, this is what i mean, it can be that you understand idealizing the eyes in the heads of children, the illness for them is contact with reality, you understand, i’m in front of these little boys and say, so boys. so i'm your vice-dad here, or i'm your most important, dad. yes, if you behave badly, then you threaten him

with something, that i won’t take them, that i will oppose you, uh, be only about motivation with pain about punishment. after all, there is still motivation there for something positive. no again, and then say yes, guys? yes, i understand, i'm not your own father. i try very hard. i want to replace it for you, but i understand that i will never do this, because my dear. that is, you need to make this word right here at some point. well, it can be done, let dad, look, that dad is offended, that dad is always in a claim. let this dad be dad encourage grandma trying to create the perfect person. thanks savior well why would a normal living person scold somewhere, they don’t start deceiving there. i say you took it, not you. and this is where it starts me. like this, or maybe this, because it's not mine. well, here you start to think, how can it be, because it's not my blood. you know, you start right away, because

you become like your father, it seems that you see some understand this, is it bad that it starts? i don't know, well, it's you on the emotional level, sometimes it happens that you react to it all the same. yes rational in that number of creatures and try without emotions, we will not live, but try somehow to yourself and rationally shift. let's question here the key question is a very high-quality question in this sense. why? well, that's why i 'm telling you that he arises like this, i catch myself thinking about it. catch ask yourself a question. why uh, so a son can't be like his father? why shouldn't he lie to me? can you name at least one reason now? why shouldn't your foster kids guys lie to you? no, probably, must well, you have other extreme. they can lie. it ’s true, for example, yes, like everyone else , i haven’t had any other examples yet. this is the very first is conditionally the first venice.

that is, you, as it were, and you are faced with this and , as it were, there is this part of it. the algorithm is running. where is what going? and what if, because of this, they will be unhappy there, or i will be unhappy, for example, then all the forces of differential there are no questions. it's funny, of course, well, you know, but unfortunate konstantin when you are, to some extent, an absolutely happy person. mentally unhealthy, your attempt to be absolutely and always happy yourself and to raise children is absolutely always happy. this is an attempt to raise mentally ill people friends. please write down everyone who is watching and listening to us now. this is for yourself, please, in the diaries and in the notes of the formula that and we are today's co-host of clinical psychologist and candidate of psychological sciences mikhail khors said form.