business strategies are creative. well, that is, you provide yourself with income depends, roughly speaking, on how much you work. today your family looks like. how do you all five of us live together with children, he has some kind of relationship with the children, they have developed a relationship with him. and then you got pregnant 4 months ago. yes? three three uh-huh good. now tell me, then how does this pregnancy differ from all previous ones to absolutely everything in this pregnancy. you have fears, so those were not good, what else the difference, except for the fear of pregnancy all previous pregnancies were easy for you. well, first pregnancy. yes, it was quite easy and also comfortable. everything is fine. in general, there were no problems. the next two pregnancies i had were

very difficult. what does it mean? well, the physical condition, i had bad sores and back. i have a lot of. and heart and pressure, that is, he was constantly not stressed a lot and morally it was very difficult for me, because my husband and i had a big knockout. we were constantly quarreling moved out moved in moved out moved in here on a scale of 1 to 10, how uh how difficult the last pregnancies were. uh, psychologically how much did you rate? you know, i would probably turn back time. yes, everything would be done differently. in my life, besides my

relationship, i would probably highlight the time of pregnancy more for their personal relationships. that's right, that is, then your husband, about whom we are now talking about the past, and he, accordingly, took away a lot of attention from you scandals on conflicts some, but problems, and you directed a lot of attention there, all this for almost nine months. i don't really remember any good moments. that's how motherhood is now, well that's exactly pregnancy. yes, your belly is growing. here are all the moments. i basically have in my memory, basically, thresh some situations. yes, and naturally. i guess i don't feel any guilt here, because, well, at that moment i could only behave the way i could in a different way. i could have led differently, but nevertheless all the same, that is i smoked in

one pregnancy all pregnancy. that's right all 9 months. and packs of cigarettes a day, that means 34. look. after all, there is a dream about five children of three. you have already given birth enough. successfully, then what it seems to me, here we were talking. yes, i think it's the fear of being again. uh, in a situation where everything is on me. although i have now. well, he is a totally different person. he is very responsible himself. he is only by nature such in life in generally everywhere. i think i'm afraid of a recurrence in any case of a plus situation. and i have those two pregnancies, they are the same as pregnancies and after giving birth i had to. a lot of things to do alone, that is, everything was on me a lot of responsibility, and it's difficult. i really don't know this,

because i'm a person since childhood yes, i'm used to not telling anyone about what my mother drinks . nothing at all. no. well, after all, everyone knew how such questions were for this, of course. you didn't talk about it. but you are unlikely came to school and complained that you had nothing to eat. well, no, of course it wasn't. i mean, this factor is not here. you know which one i played. and me, of course, people who are not very close. yes , some neighbors there said in general, firstly, i studied very poorly. and not because i did not understand something. i had a principle. i don't want i won't i won't you don't like to have the story of me on it interesting. i will not read it, they got up. i just didn't want to i want to go to school i want not to go and in general, i want to eat. it was impossible to force something from me and they always prophesied, of course, it was hard on fate. well, to raise such a child, and i was very principled. that is such that well.

let's see if i have this principle, it has always played in me. he helped everyone to prove this in life. it was always important to me that it’s higher then you will come to me, come to work. that is, i came from childhood. it’s like my mother there, she says, at the age of three. i ’m already quite sure that i will be the whole director , took your first three, and pregnancy and three grandchildren. well, the grandchildren themselves, normally pregnancy, marriages, could not be very weak nearby. i'm with dad no with dad you see, i had a very important thing for me. it's me. i realized this after death. it was very important for me to deserve it. i thought that i should earn his love through success. i realized this after my death that my success most of my success was due to the fact that i wanted him to be proud, my father just

such a successful career, of course, the main one, that is, today i have schools in the eleventh class, and i do not have a certificate and, accordingly, they do not take them to the institute without certificates. and it wasn't a problem for me. uh-huh, it’s better, well, to be a professional and an expert, and i was very motivated to tell dad, well, you see, we didn’t communicate closely with dad then and it seemed to me that, well, roughly speaking, my success, because we would like dad to be proud, but i never realized it. i realized this after my death, that my race was gone, when my dad died, why did i cease to be a race, i then i realized about i still have a fantasy inside me that this is a race not only with the world, not only there, i don’t know in business, but this race is exactly the same with my brother. and i didn’t just ask this, that’s why i want to show you one simple and such it would seem the idea that it’s possible, just the death

of your father, as if devalued the birth of the next child, because he won’t see it, because he won't support. if, as you said, everything falls on you again and a lot in general, in principle, is imposed on him with point of view of expectations and this very emotional help as though. he was not an emotional man and material possible some kind of physical support after all. i am asking you about this. you yourself have said this word race several times, and one of the elements that distinguishes today's pregnancy from previous ones is just the absence of your father in your life. i honestly don't know, i know you don't know no doubt about it. i say it's my fantasy. i offer it to you with me now. well, to share, or to reject, too, perhaps the fear of giving birth is pain. i'm so afraid of pain insanely wildly, and i can't even imagine how i'm going to explain this to me that give me back. i'm afraid, i was terribly sick. here, i mean, there was pain, but

you can use it. you said that you have a very strong character, but you said that you have a difficult character, but what is the severity of your character in your relationships with men and people around you? how do you show this heaviness? it seems to me very selfish person selfishly. uh-huh, and this is selfishness, it is expressed in what? i only do what i want. i don't want to, it's just impossible to force and that's it. i only do what i want a man. well, he is also an adult boy, he also understood. well, that is, we got to know each other, i initially, uh, led myself. naturally, that is, for me, just marriage showed that you need to initially be honest and open to each other so that later there will be no

surprises. actually, to be honest, this person. i am a tough person. well, direct i am a very direct person a tough straight person and accordingly, in this way you build a relationship not in a relationship. i am not a tough person. you just said something else, pauline, you said, i honestly speak openly, it somehow fits in you. see how the relationship. i think that when people need to get acquainted, and well, in general, that is, it's not like we sat down, i say this, so listen , my friend. i'm not going to do this. this also happens agree. it's possible that happens. and i 'm not. i mean in general. we did communicate. i talked about myself. that is, we they said, i said that i love housekeeping very much. i'd rather work for three, but i'll never wash, i don't like to clean. i this work or lazy such all and that is. well, this is all i kind of told not with a purpose, there. well, we didn't plan at the time. i say relationship. well, we just told each other about ourselves, and i, probably, how i wish

that hmm would not change me, and they don’t change me as a person. well, it really seems to you that you are your own with such directness and rigidity, do not make a person signals that he should change and must be adjusted by 20. no need to adapt to me, then he goes. why live with you if you don't get along in this sense, i don't really have plans. i'm interested in your behavior from the point of view. that's what, as soon as we touch on some part where you need to be weak, yes, where you need to say something that can destroy the image that you have created , you dodge it right away like ears in a frying pan. response. and you say that you are an honest person. no i know how i am used to being strong. why do you need this image now, when you communicate with two specialists. do you need him? i understand that

you are used to, you came from barnaul pulled us out conditionally speaking, now i am sitting talking to you, and you are trying to impress me. i am very interested in the impression. i say how i feel, no, you 're lying. you say what you think, i do not covertly caught this now look. i say, as soon as i try to show you some element where your image is destroyed and an emotion of feeling may appear. it's not a matter of agreeing with me. i’m asking you a simple question, what did the girl feel when she looked at the fact that dad chose a brother, and not pick her up, not a little three-year-old girl, but he said hello in a nine-year-old buddy, because it was so convenient for him. or maybe because he loved him more. i don't know what the three-year-old girl was thinking at that moment. i ask how she felt and you tell me, no, i had a great relationship with my brother and with that i knew how she felt as a girl. i don't i remember, i even suggest that you transfer your consciousness there to any other girl. here is a three-year-old child, and she wants to be with her father, and they leave her with her mother, and her mother, who

does not love her, and her mother, who does not love her. what could be? it is important for me to see, because you came here in order to deal with fear, fear is a feeling. and you give such know written all the texts. and when we talk about the fact that the brother, my point is that in general, there have never been any questions about this. you say i don't even say. doesn't respond. you understand it in pain, polina does not respond, because you are very used to living in this image. and this is the working mechanism. he really helps you a lot. this is an effective model, but now sergey suggests that you try to remove this image and go. right there in the very depths of self-vulnerability, because a small child at 3 years old cannot feel anything for a woman, three children. you see, there is someone else out there who is afraid, and we need to find someone else who is afraid, otherwise you can't deal with it. just your psyche. it's clear i'm used to defending myself. and, of course, it displaces some moments

, some protective mechanisms work, but now you need to get there in order to find this kid there, find a point of a quivering woman inside such people, you know, i don’t have some inside. if somewhere you say, i feel a response and i understand that yes , somewhere there the experience hurts me, then here i have it. well, here. i’m saying, i only had other experiences at that time, which i wish i was ill with. i wanted, first of all, initially, i always had the idea of ​​figs that mom and dad should get together. this is a thought. you really wanted to reconcile them somehow to fasten. and, perhaps, you even took on this role and now dad left, that is, you didn’t succeed once again, yeah. it was at this moment that little polina felt no, but of course, you know no to me. i probably still suppressed in myself, rather, because emotions, because i don’t tell me anything, what i feel, yes, i don’t feel a word. i would like to go on playing into my toys and wait for oksana, i seemed to be

jamming, i will ask a simple question, as if i was jamming that pain, naturally. great already good. you know, i didn’t like it since i was three years old. mm, the role of a girl who, in general , does not have a father and there are such people. not all people are tactful without talking to adults with children, and i remember we had a neighbor who said oh, oh, dad doesn’t need it there either. here dad is there with another family. here. well, do you love your dad? well, that is, such tactless people go. yes, they learned to defend themselves from them in that moment. i probably didn’t realize my pain , i just said that well, no. i love him. he's my mom says at that moment you have already learned how to jam. you have already learned. it is your mechanism that you have learned to handle. it's just that it's affecting your life right now. yes, i didn't like it either. this is the role of the whole child without a father. and in general, you know , not a role, not a child without a father, probably the role of an unfortunate girl who tried

to make everything out of me simply, who didn’t fall, without a father, a foal is poor, that the unfortunate is not you grow. this is an image that is insomnia strong. there, i don't know it doesn't depend on which everything is fine. yes? so what if there is no dad, dad can’t, i always don’t pay the truth in sailing in space or the cops. well, i begged my mom not to file for child support as a little kid on her lap. i didn't want dad. well, that is, in some way to scold them among themselves, so that god forbid these conflicts between them were. i was afraid that suddenly he wouldn’t come at all, damn it, the scariest picture draw that scares you in this birth and birth of a child. that's when you have scary thoughts. uh, negative thoughts, when the most terrible thoughts appear here are 7-8-9 months. that's heavy when the stomach that's

all you can't do it. do not lie down do not get up these hard. and now it's still hot and physically hard. plus, i also had health problems, and these hurt me. and i had to carry a child with a belly of another child, and i have it right here, it seems to me on popcorn. yes. this is where fear is captured. even when i speak, i even shrink physically i have a shoulder. what can you do to avoid those uh, health situations with your body. earlier i would have asked to go in for the pool. that is, now i can’t until the first screening. well, that is, they said it needs to be done, and after that , i would have a gym membership to go. i was preparing that even before me i was generally involved in sports. you are still prepared, psychologically psychologically, of course , look, but in this sense, it is important that you begin to set yourself up for the fact that pregnancy will come easily. you are now in i have the idea in my head that pregnancy

is hard. and in general, there is proof of this, but you know how in this experience we will call it negative. yes, he actually shows you that you then made a huge mass of mistakes that you are now able not to repeat. and in this sense , it is very important that you take your experience directly, and i won’t talk about my previous two pregnancies with the third one about the first one. i have yes, they took it and took it apart, as if in parts , in order to see what you were doing for for it to be bad. did you make it bad there? that's what they did. you are what is possible, and you were not sure about this man? i'm talking about a bad husband. and maybe you lived in stress and you let that stress be you smoked there, yes, in one of these pregnancies. so i just want to recommend to you, and dissect your experience and understand one simple thing, which is how bad. you know for sure, which

means that you can make it good. if you know that there is a hole in the street, yes, not necessarily in it every time fall, however, you can bypass it at some point, not everyone bypasses it the first time, but it’s also not the first time in this sense, ah. it seems to me that the most important now is that you are probably already doing this. yes, to emotionally experience your fears with your spouse as closely and deeply as possible, but at the same time, it is very important that you keep the focus not on why it is important for him to give birth, but that you just talk with him about why it is important for you to know this child's parents the thought came, while you were talking, after all, i have you know, if you watch him this fear, yes, uh, you get it. i generally agree with this, which is an image for me. uh, the weakness of a woman

in general. yes, and some problems. hmm. i never in my life had any of my relatives. to make me cry, except for the death of my dad there at other times. i'm always fine. great even. if it's difficult, i say, well, i'm sorry. everything is solved. e, here the point is that now i have a man, he is strong, he is caring. he takes all of my problems. he helps me with the children and takes me everywhere. and this is not my time to become weak damn, yes, this is not exactly my picture of life, where exactly about this about myself, drag. and here i do not need to wear said. uh, when asked what you could do and refer to the experience of your release pregnancies. you said i would do things differently. here, it's just different. i would be very attentive to myself, my attention, my angle of attention would be turned to me. apparently, i'm afraid to relax and trust, go with the flow not in the plan in that i will trust him, but here you can still see, i myself got so used to this image of a strong,

not suffering, not crying. this is from early childhood. something understood, even getting a belt. i said, well, let's hear even better. how else do you like yourself? well, and that's why i 'm saying, the most important thing, right now, i think the idea that we came up with is that you just need to trust your husband and allow yourself to be weak around him. i know it's hard, because in your head there is an idea that weak people are not loved. and this is not true escape close. you know how, you can always return to this, but now you can try and try in a different way. where it's scary try where the proximity is vulnerable to you. i see this is the best. the main thing is that this is actually a challenge worse than being the way you are used to. i hope we somehow showed you some other angles, where to look, but in general, and in general, of course, i bow to

your courage, because what you are doing, the fourth child is cool. thank you for your story. thanks a lot. thanks for the help fairy tale means. good night friends. this is a podcast of jokes for everyone who does not sleep. again. good night, yes, well, those who are wait and i'm right the camera is mine , that's all. i just need these this color. i seem to know that a plane is landing on me, as if you know kamaz is definitely coming. that is, you are not my question, you work for someone. i'm such a highlight on the rink when you ride. yes, yes

, look, okay, let's do it again. let's get started with this podcast of jokes. i'm glad that some people suffer from insomnia in a good way. and this time will be spent with us. i have wonderful guests in my studio, connoisseurs of fans of the keepers of jokes, people who know how to tell them, and i will be happy to introduce them to you, this is mikhail the policeman. and valeria syutkin, that is, an actor, singer, composer, not a singer. you just know, now lately there are a lot of different hypostases in different people. that is, as if you forget to name there some very important definition that he is still a blogger at that moment, for example, and that’s all. people then get offended. well i hope you did not see. and i also like it when they say, there, uh, an actor. e, tv presenter winner

of the crystal drop award. well, you see, now we will begin to list galaxy with us and so on langepass, talk, i want to start a conversation. you know what, uh, in the current realities they still talk about, yes, well, a joke, what is it? yes. this is somehow not fashionable. moreover, it is old-fashioned. that is. well, some people say it’s not just that young people and girls are some kind of direct skeptics today. here the youth says, do you want a joke? i i'll tell you a joke. they want a joke. i mean, it just became a joke. just a joke. yes , you know such a short, uh, joke like a meme, and even yesterday there or or do you want a joke that opens and protects and you with the help of a gadget in our childhood. do you remember gadgets? it was an appeal, uh, to a person who carries you yourself such a completely different meaning, and my daughter goes differently. they don't tell jokes, they talk. dad, look, cool, yes, well, yes

, read something to tell to play. maybe it reflects how reality in the sense that, in particular, young people. yes, she stops communicating with each other earlier. to be honest, let's say, well, my childhood is there. youth is there further e in the yard. yes, when everyone was gathering , it was, as it were, not that cool, as young people say now, it was generally, well, it’s cool to tell a joke vying. yes, i'm not. listen, i'm tired. yes, i knew everyone there, everyone knew how to tell, and this was a means of understanding memory, you know, how they loved for free and counted in their minds. here is a generation, that is, a girl should have been make an impression. you were not supposed to read from the phone, but to tell about memory from the heart, that is, to show yourself, and now, just about the girl, to make an impression. two options,

as i remember, are when you know how to play at least a few songs on the guitar, that is, there in the company. yes bravo band i played the guitar in the yard. i told you about this from the beatles, and our polish heroes then were also like that, that is, well, the guitar, that is, you don’t know how to play. goodbye but i i know jokes, and then there was such an option, in sports there were guys who, uh, stretched or something from brusalim, could portray. this is later my yes, but basically at all times this one will say more all the best. if you fall asleep they will answer all the best performers, whether it be classical music or frank the sinator, for example, or carusa. it's not exactly the greatest vocalist. this is the greatest storyteller, because the song it's like you, what you wanted to tell, here you know how to tell. all

listen, you don’t know how to tell the perfect solfeggio, high, low notes don’t take everything, so it seems to me that the anecdote is still such a safety of communication precisely from eye to eye from the mouth. mouth and what do you want to convey, of course, and show how you can tell your degrees and your own erudition of emancipation, by the way, about this , and now you will understand. why as they say, dear, the spoon remembered a joke for dinner, and the joke that is there, there are two of them out of this joke, this is the great yuri nikulin yes, who was also a keeper jokes. e, and. uh, his club makes a parrot there, so the story is next uh, there is such an anecdote. i'll tell it to you now, so the company is sitting. well, that is, in some kind of vector there, for example, there in the nineteenth, which means, yes, we are cavaliers there.

well, that means, uh, they’re sitting and the new person in this company is just some kind of hussar , he was introduced there, please, there’s passion and everything there, yes, which means he got into the company in this, they sit in a circle and just 244 and all ha-ha-ha there 78, and like everyone else they laugh, and it means that he asks his friend , too, there is some young officer there, he says, tell me please, what’s going on, damn it, you know, all these people are all, this is society. we love jokes. we we love so much love and so often we get together to tell each other. if the jokes are already, well, how would everyone know them by heart and that they will not be repeated for a long time. we just remember imitating them. here, let's say. right now, look, here is 302 there ha-ha-ha. he says it's a very funny anecdote. i'm like, i'll tell you later. he says, you are there, well, you sat down here. such a person got used to it, and at some point there was such a deathly silence and the lady next to him stood up, the one who was sitting slapping him once stood up and

left. he sits simply and says what happened to a friend says. listen well, bro, we didn’t tell vulgar jokes in betrayal. well, here's a rather old anecdote, you, i'm sure you know what he came up with. eh, nikulin, he came up with two sequels. that is, this anecdote, which means, and everything is the same beginning. uh, this one is, well, new this man says, there, 147. in complete silence, it's just dead, and he just looks at everyone and suddenly bends down and says, listen, well, don't be upset. there are just people who know how to talk. and this and well , another third option. this is already a joke, when you die, there are 210, yes, and again the silence sometimes

speaks rudely, well, listen, well, they don’t tell funny ones. yes, we touched on something very important. uh, all the jokes in the company are what i told. here comes the association. you told, so a short on this topic is at the door. you know, let's give such a jewish correct and color anecdote, because this is how odessa is told, his homeland, lawyers of a man's funeral. he says i don't believe you left us. i refuse to believe it behind comrade, let me through. please, but, by the way, about the national flavor. yes, in jokes it is very important. yes, uh, to itself here is this short story. yes, e did not affect some really quite like that. uh, well, let's say some ethnic issues. that is, from an offensive point of view. i mean, that is, jokes. you have to know how to tell, but also to listen to them, because there were a lot in soviet times. remember the jokes were about the chukchi. yes, that is

, in general, how did it happen? what, apparently, the development of these lands and so on, meteorologists went, there are some, uh, drillers and so on, they were laying bam there and so on and so on. that is, some of these cold ones. uh, well, some kind of siberian ones, that is, these here appeared, uh, jokes about chuk, what is there? well, who lived there to the south and so on. everything in our time is now jokes felt at all not to meet. yes, i can’t even remember a single doctor. and i why why now, in the winter , i always remember this anecdote. this means that e is coming, that means a large settlement is coming, that means chubchik to his shaman. he is there with this, so a tambourine. there, it means that something is conjuring with a deer paw beats this tambourine, they don’t come , they say shaman, please tell me, winter is coming, cold is coming, it will store a lot of brushwood or all the same. we 'll get by there somehow, but it's not so cold, and like, everything will be fine that the winter will be warm. she

will be cold. no, they will freeze, in general , there will be more claims against me. and there i will say that they will be cold, well, they will collect a lot of tail. well, warm, but less will remain. maybe later, as if in the spring, and such ah-ah-ah-ah-ah, i’ll say that the cold will be very ah-ah-ah-ah-ah such, in general, the spirits say that the winter will be fierce, in general, it’s a nightmare. a lot of brushwood, they rushed about everything. they ran there. there, then, a tambourine was deposited by a deer paw and i really think, what kind of winter will it be, i’ll go meteorologists, i'll ask once about the skis. everything went. so he comes there, so this yurt is standing. there is a yaranga. this is how he comes. this is a fellow meteorologist, so oh great. shaman yes hello tea will be like that, but there you took tea, why did you come? he says fellow meteorologist. and tell me this year, what kind of winter

will be cold there, like or there, or what kind or a monster like that, i don’t know for a long time , this year there will be a very cold winter. he says very much, well, thank you, there is everything that the comrades said. and how do you know, this is me, well, how would i have spirits there, everything is there, such a tambourine. he says, yes, very simply, come here through the window. as long as you see chuhchi. they collect a lot of brushwood, which means it is very cold. yes, we are not the only ones. a very northern nationality, do you remember the era of total shortages, when, uh, any items, uh, consumer goods from czechoslovakia from the german democratic republic were especially valued, by that time kochlov boots come to the store, there is nothing, they say i need a toilet, they say, they speak german , german. no, not german month. well, let's give him two sticks,

just two sticks and an instruction, he considers the instructions. and what does that say? read on one rely on that the wind did not blow away so much, and the second volkov was always a huge number of anecdotes, that is, the jewish theme, there and so on and so on, because there are many and good storytellers. yes, and very much as if people perceive it all, well, as it were. yes, and, accordingly, there were colorful jokes, there were also about breasts. tyumen radio, which has become a separate story there. yes, there are armenian jokes stirlitz chapaev and petka i don't mean. now. i'm talking now, just about all sorts of national things. but partly anecdotes, of course, but it was special when it was in soviet times. remember there, when they were joking, what kind of anecdote can be given there for some years. yes, like this. yes, it's funny, like a joke. well, somewhere in the seven there they began to talk there for 12 years, yes, which went there, then there in the kitchen.

that's all they said, but it's still here. uh, how would people continue to do this. yes, this is how things have changed. how do you think, now, uh, it has become openly changed, that is, when in the soviet times there, uh, these times were told here, anyway , this is always preserved. in principle, this is like an example of jewish and all short some kind of guru, i consider him my gurus. i don't call me always say i'm talking to me. anyway, it's always like that. lera loves everything short concert performance book anecdote course of treatment hmm everything is short so that's it, it characterizes such an example, how you met your wife here i don't blame anyone for anything. here is such an intonation of a joke and right away you understand, these are short, i really like medical jokes, when the doctor makes my head spin, and i see i see,

yes, or how they ignore me and don’t notice so the next one or when the doctor is there. it hurts me a woman came to the doctor and were here. you're here, he says, let's take your clothes off and see. where do i put my clothes? yes, put it on my bag, and when i have a doctor, i have pain, oh, it hurts here. oh, my hand hurts here. let them break your finger. well, look, let's say medical yes, these are all jokes. well, why because, well, let's say all people. yes, there is somehow more or less degree, everyone gets sick. yes, that is, well, a perfectly healthy person probably does not exist. yes and so, it seems to me that, probably, this somehow allows all the same, but in a joke, yes, and in any humorous story, as a rule, a person. laughs when they don't associate themselves with it. that is, for him, this is a story about someone he has such a familiar friend there. and so, as it is with doctors. yes, they intersect there since childhood, yes they go there get vaccinated and so on. it seems to me that such