it was just such a serious age. so, well, in general, he still played and scored. in general, here, uh, it’s definitely impossible to compare these stradulov at that moment it was very hot. and zaripov was hot at that age when , let's say, i worked at cska ah, let's say, zaripov was either in kazan or in magnitka, after all, at that time hmm yes, not very like that, well, very cool hockey player for the most titled, in my opinion in russia, here he is such a guy in this regard, and he is the legend of kazan, you know, very well. i have with him there were no problems. here you have it, you should probably ask him, you should ask him, but i had no problems with him.

there were none. here in general here. he is a coach, he must be a coach. once again i say, a hockey player. he must be a hockey player, he must practice. he must play, how interesting it must be to coach it turns out that look zaripov and radulov in the same team from norok oleg valerievich does not stay there for a long time. i don’t know, i don’t understand how, what and how. so, in general, oleg, uh, a chic coach i proved to many people that i won three cups and the olympics, the world championship, no matter how there are no questions here, what happened next, i don’t know, for now it’s just an observation. let's talk about our style of play. there is such a thing as russian hockey, now the russian style. hockey, it is clear that yes, now the situation is difficult, but it seems to me that in my opinion. it's been a long enough loss. this year, he is generally a little unusual year, yes, he remembers. uh, let's watch like this after all 60-8 games,

we play yes, this year there are no those breaks. no, this is such a first sign for us. yes, it went without interruption. still, only for the first channel cup. yes, we did , and in general, we see such such failures. in general, many teams. yes plays boom fell down plays, plays boom fell down. yes, it is necessary to carry out a little analysis of this kind of this game, this is this, i think that this is correct, that we still have a smaller league, if we have it commercial, well, we have to play a lot of games. e. without breaks yes but in the same time is, the national team, if everything returns to normal again, we will change the calendar correctly again and you had a phrase. ah, they receive a salary from us, and not the hockey federation. when you worked at ak bars and it was clear that in our country both

the eurotour and the world championship are a feature of history, but i said this a little in another case, there you see, there we had a game of traces and with a good opponent with a yokel. there she was beaten, but three of our guys are taken away for the preparation of the national team is not a question. but then everyone should get ready they play commercial games. there's some commercial game guys out there that got me a little bit. well, it's like this is just such a thing. because of this, i would say the team is 100%, first of all, we give, please, no matter how you had control levers. in hockey, how would you really line up? hmm well, the model, probably, the development of the league and the national team will explain the question. in again, we know the attitude of canada and the united states to the world cup, yes, the teams that are relegated do not get into the playoffs. they form a team plus guys from europe they come to play hockey. in our country, the league is just trying

to hold competitions before the world cup, so that there is another pause in order to make a team that sings for the world cup. here is for you which model is not right no look, but the finns are swedes. same guys, right? uh-huh well, they just like us play until the end the swiss say usa canada they spend their whole lives going to the sheet and start playing. they even start the world cup. sometimes it's not bright, and then it plays out comes, but they have such, well, less under them. they take the players that they have . for the time being, in principle, they take the guys right off the wheel. they finish swimming and almost immediately they go there to play. well , the situation is slightly different, but still it is better not to get there, because they go further in the cup. yes, it is clear to you which model is closer? well, i don’t know, here we can

say whatever we want, but can you imagine, we have such a grueling playoff going on, yes, and they play the first two teams that finish the playoff and after 10 days there. they start playing the cup. well, the world cup, yes, the world cup. excuse me, well, after all, there is such a moment, but we can’t finish. uh, the gagarin cup for a month, right? no, we can’t, especially now look at which one. well, this is understandable 68 matches, this is a consequence of what is happening and there are some national team players that someone does not get to pop up. well, there are only a few of them, lada, and someone in the first round for another one and a half to two months. it is possible to enter and exit the form. yes, and here's the cup itself. he is very, come on, let's just imagine such a thing, look. let's have a cup. ellie ugh. these are the two teams that will play hard and then go back to yesterday. and there the situation is the same here, so we are, we

also give ourselves up, there are also games. we are there imagine playing seven games with a magnet. yes , here we are playing seven games finishing. it's there on the 20th there on the twenty-fifth of april, yes, 3 days the speed of the hour of the world, well, emotions. you just went out for all this. what will you do? at the forefront in russia is the national team right, if it is worth the strongest to go, what do you think what the league has introduced limit? this will help the national team. this will help the young players to progress. well, i think that already helps. well, the first one is probably the call of the times. this is our present situation of our life. and look at some commands at once. let's go even further. plays without foreigners before the limit reduction starts, right? here, in general, we see how much the league has rejuvenated. ugh real. well done. here, the only such question

turned out to be, if we become much younger, maybe remove these two. two places boys, well , as we say dummies, because they are already there are a lot of young guys now. i think that the soviet union is such a little while the soviet union is going like this, explain it to me, it’s very clear to me, but before there were no limits , people left and moreover, a large number of games, and people came in and played. i'll tell you before. eh, the championship of the ussr was a good level, not bad, but there was, but if we take there, how many of us one of the team was here, a maximum of 12 and the stars grew up and such was, of course, the selection. and in general, many coaches for their students, too hold on now a little bit the situation a little bit, it is changing, as it were. so it turns out, so yes , there was no limit, the players were stronger the championship was more interesting and it is predictable now to have

there and the team was very small the country was more of a team. that is, you understand the limit is necessary for the league now. for leni time, probably in the summer. yes? well, once again i say, and look, well, now there was no limit. how many about 50, probably, yes, there are no good players in the league yes, there are, in general , very high-level guys, as it were left, will still pick up. will pick up guys. why then train, if you improve, they will take away? well , what about the poop, that, well, she won’t take everyone. i would just advise the guys to go already. well , just in place. here you are going to the place. you and you are already playing there. and you play there. well, when did you go? you did not immediately end up in boston, well, then there were a little bit different rules. i went. i was not a member of the traft anywhere, and i would have been taken to an independent

team. well it was a very good season for me and then boston uh-huh i mean went to the wrong place to break through. yes, yes, i had, uh, the first one, and i'll tell you more, i had one. although i went. you know, after a year where i became the top scorer in riga, how would the league's top scorer go. and the farm club yes, then i went, and the people in san diego had a team. ah, and they gave me a contract all for 25 games. and if in 25 games, i wouldn't have done anything, i would have left. yeah, after 25 games. i rewrote the contract, so, well, very , well, not bad, i played there, and this is for me, probably, it was even better hmm but what gave a contract such as what was given? it's there like this everything is there everything through such thorns, but curiously, at the same time you say that it is better to leave for a place than to break through as you do, because we have a level he is

stronger than e fanto level. or maybe now it’s really for the young that such a contract has made its way to the 25th. play didn't make it to play with him. this, by the way, is an interesting thing, i agree with you, it can be motivated like this, uh. i agree, i agree, is it going on or are you texting? you played good a little more money. do you receive or do you leave, does quality come to your place? you were recently in sochi in sirius and worked with children. how objective can a father be to his child when he is being coached? that's why i'm asking you, right? let's see what kind of father. see what kind of father. i am in general. i was so strict in terms of hockey, maybe it wasn’t necessary to do it, so they didn’t achieve it a little bit. there needed to be more. maybe it's their praise, somewhere and more something well, come on, well, when the job was, constantly

a coach, very little time was devoted to this. well, it’s curious, because in well, look how our fans are very skeptical about this, when a coach’s son appears in the team, you had them, we have such a situation now at the buzzer and now there is such a situation, well, there are quite a lot of big enough big players who bring their teams of their children. what is this? again, it is perceived, it is quite unambiguous. well, it was clear, 100% 100%, but i say it again, well, there was a situation with nikita. she is completely different, i asked the leaders of cska igor ivanovich nikita was very there. well, ill was wanting to get back into hockey. it was purely such a decision, you know, and i was allowed to do it. so, in general, it

was like that, but it worked. he honestly worked , there were no thieves playing there when he could and did not often go here, he worked. i suppose but i agree. i accept it, that i helped him do it and asked permission to lead. it's just that there will be pressure, if it is like, let's say, i had a lot on me, maybe it was because of that. that there children did not give out what i would like to see, but i was in such big teams when they were and probably. some result was needed very strong, and in those teams where now, let's say this larionova is there and the same bats, they occasionally play scores and brings some kind of result. why not? why not? you have already said about nikita and his illness - this is the most difficult period in our lives. yes , of course, it has changed. well, it has changed a lot. know it. well, it's probably not

there is no way to convey when you feel it, when you come, that you have said many times, here in this hospital. you see these children's diagnosis. yes, children's, uh, they have children's oncology up to 21 years old, in my opinion, yes there, and already further these well people. they are just well done you see a man who, you know, the story, probably such a tell was. i arrived, i worked in siberia, and here i come. when i arrive, it means that the hospital is not undergoing chemotherapy. two beds and on the second bed, in my opinion, a twenty-year-old boy was brought from, in my opinion, from croatia, he soccer player hmm he's a soccer player. when we arrived, literally 5 months later. nikit has already

finished five or six months, and he comes back. something obviously happened to him, something had to be taken additionally. and you know, we somehow sit in bed. this boy. uh, such a cool phone, then you know, they gave phantom such a big one. wow what a beautiful phone. and my wife is sitting. i 'm sitting like this, yes, nikita and we are sitting and comes in, the father of this son. uh-huh and well, and he tells him to bury himself. well, a little we understand the meaning such a son, he says, he still needs to go through chemistry. this is what the boy said to him. he just screamed, said no, and took it. here is the phone and into the wall. here he just breaks it into the wall and you know, and he just

falls on him. father starts crying, pinching him there, but we immediately went out. this is an emotional situation - it was very, very difficult. it's very heavy. this man. uh, he moved there, well, apparently there was some kind of operation and a relapse occurred and he understands that he will have to do something else to start again. here he is again emotionally. this is what he is saying. he smashed the phone. and father. here he, with tears in his eyes , falls on him and, as it were, pinches him. this is very, very hard to see. it's you, you see, it's you you see, this whole year. i'm hard. i saw this one. well, i understood what some were after chemo. bald all over how hard it all went. well, in general , it’s hard here, in general, it doesn’t want anyone to wish this, and whoever didn’t pass it, he

won’t understand it. well, you can say whatever feel free to regret. but when you didn’t go through here, when your hand rises after the operation, as you know, it’s like a stump , you know, and then he was still a fan of hockey and says, how will i play hockey and in such a situation, work, it distracts and or it is impossible from this, of course, it would be a little easier. they lived there very well. well, it would be easier for me, because the work somewhere took up a lot of space. well, you were constantly distracted at work. well, at least on the phone all the time. well, it is, but you see, everything ended. god forbid yes, everything, everything, everything is fine. everything is alive and well. well done lately. well, okay. i think that you are unlikely to name the teams with which you contacted, but there were proposals. here are the khl clubs we have. yes , nothing, until there was nothing at all, almost a year has passed. well, that means you are one of the most

respected coaches in our country and it turns out that there is no demand. how do you answer yourself? to a question? why? yes, well, once again, well, first of all, you need to well, to be like, well, a self-confident person, as it were. well you do you know that here you know how to do a profession and work well? uh-huh. here is such a thing. well, that means the time has come. relax, and analyze something, so i’m completely calm about this, but for you, the switch, well , it’s clear, when you leave severstal siberia for another level cska ak bars lokomotiv now, if it happens back, if the team is average you will be offered a contract for you, this is interesting, if you are waiting, but now it is generally interesting, now , as they say, we have, uh, what it happens, in which a lot of young guys need to be developed this is, as i said a little. this type of soviet union begins.

well, well, seriously, i'm saying this. this is very interesting. here, there are a lot of good young people. there are very, very many here. let's see how what proposals will be open and what kind of guys will be. and there are clubs. where it will definitely not go. well, it’s hard for me, how to say where the square didn’t go. well , not yet thinking about the far east , that's all, as it were. well, you're clean for it. well, probably, yes, after all, there is a little bit different, but in general. not just for these guys, not just not easy, but on the other hand, there is no pressure. yes, yes, but as it were, why the pressure no well, why the pressure from the admiral you everywhere need a result? let's. well, although the same swum all to get. yes, everyone wants to get into the playoffs, they need to hit, they need to hit. why hockey football? well, i don't

really like football. that's why i'm asking why there is no hockey. well, more honestly, not more honestly, well, i don’t want no pain there, but we see how much is there there? well, again, like hockey players answers it. yes, when the puck arrives at the coach, he removes it and pulls it out and continues to play they have it, they need this foul. uh, how to make this foul. they are not nothing , they do not roam about doing this. well, believe us. we have some too. guys. uh, in hockey they also give out, you know , you look, uh, lying around, you know, here's a man. here lies here and lies. well, he's lying. i have a feeling that i need to take him to the intensive care unit now, but you can’t lie around and go out to play after a shift. well, it's well, or you're a fucking fool. or are you going? uh, well, we need to do something about it too, sometimes. usually

, these things happen. they just kill me. yes, the player is lying around, then he goes to the locker room, and then it comes out to him what he is doing there, when he is simply taken away there, what is happening. please tell me, i don’t know no, but i don’t know this for me i don’t even tell me about it in football, this moment, and when a player leaves through a shift, but explain where it all comes from, because andrey nikolishin also won spoke about what if a doctor jumped out there in the nhl yeah well, something incredible must happen, that is. well, it's really right away in the hospital. in our country, in every pause, the medics appear on the ice and drag the player away. then you say he comes through death. why is it where did it come from? well, i can only guess. it means, probably, the coach encourages these things. hmm, but how? and how about what to encourage? that is, i hit you with a wallow. well, i say again that, well, i didn’t forbid what i say. i say we are here this show, well, to the team i say that we do not do this. wrong. it is not right. well

, you beg for this removal , you know, we have professional judges who can do this. see everything, you understand, well, there, well, wallow. this is purely wrong. and what are you talking about, you're talking about the coach, which means, he says, so, uh, you can lie down. so, well, it seems to me, probably so. but what about as a player? why would he do it? i don’t know, well, i see, it means there is some kind of encouragement, and it means he wants get 2 minutes on yourself. it's only just so see, and you see it progress now in the river. well, i don't know, it 's hard for me to judge now, as if here, but in general , a year ago. it was a special place. that's how you think it is to survive from the game? firstly, here the rule should be changed here, then if the judge runs out, it immediately uh, oh, the judge, if the house doctor runs out, this

is what andrey nikolishin says, it immediately changes the status. so you leave and play more for him. maybe you can not play hurt began to go to endure, got up went to endure well , some of us lie lie lie lie. why lie the doctor came up and got up and went. no, well, here's some logic running. well, not to me, it always pissed me off, but it's it's wrong. well, it's really wrong that you lack modern hockey. me well , somewhere a little bit of emotion, sometimes it overflows, but still, now it's closer so i began to control myself better, in general. i sometimes say emotions myself, the guys there, if you are a dead bench, i will turn you on, so i will be that motor emotional, which i will give you is you import to hand over. but this is a game. this is a live game. look, let's do it. well, people

come to the game. it shouldn't be boring. a game. you can lose, but you have to give everything. this is right. yes, look, too, andrey talalaev, trainer torpedo, he, uh, told me that he attended anger management courses, because it also somehow interfered with him, damn it, i didn’t hear, you never have to go to some here. yes, there is such a great thing. fine. thank you very much, you see you so there is something interesting on the program, we really hope you are not on the courses, you will see you at the training. thank you very much for your time. thanks a lot. this is a podcast triggers, and i'm sergey with you, he is a practicing psychologist and psychotherapist tatyana krasnovskaya, a family psychologist, and

our guest today is lola tell us about yourself in a nutshell and what is your request? i am 35 years old. i myself work as a fitness trainer. and my request is like, how i work with people, but i succeed. hmm, or rather, it doesn’t work , in general, communication with people to build friendly relationship or any relationship in the long term. that is, i noticed such moments that, and i communicate with a person. we seem to be fine. and after a while, it all ends, either with some kind of quarrels, or communication comes to naught. and now i just, if i analyze like this, and in general there are no girlfriends. that is, i always hear that someone, well, as it seems to me, there are normal people. uh, there's a best friend. ah, i don't have that. i don't even know the best, but such neighbors, uh,

to whom i could turn with some kind of problem, there are none at 1:00 am at two, that is, i cannot rely on anyone. i think it's a little bit . it shouldn't be. and how are you? see what's the reason? oh well, of course, i do not exclude, what did you do in me? but i can not understand, and this is the problem. if you say so, i do not exclude that the matter is in me, that is, in your opinion, the matter is also in the universe in which there are seven already eight billion people who do not want to have a close relationship with you. so what? yes, the universe somehow. no, i also think that out of eight billion, you should, in theory, find a couple of people who would be able to withstand your character, your temperament, uh mood and that's it. rest. so let's agree. yes, otherwise we'll

just have to talk about the universe. it works for me. so i don't want to impose. that is, something is not right with me, something is wrong with me somewhere. yes, i understand this, but what works for me more is that i do not want to be imposed. i'll want to show this question myself. well, no one wants fate, at least with somebody. you have close relationships. i have if you take one friend, she is a friend, then at first we succeeded. so we were united by one common problem. so from now on, we began to communicate with her , correspond a couple of times, even met there , went to a restaurant, and then, again, i began to observe and this, well, constantly. that is

, i began to observe that it is repeated from time to time, that i begin to write to a person, after a while a person. oh, i have things to do with me, then i write to her, i write the second, the third time, and then i understand this, but why is it being imposed, as if, well, if a person , if you want, writes himself, and as if everything ends here, as far as i know, you are married, yes, you mentioned your husband. with my husband, well , the only close relationship is the only one i can say that next to me is always my husband. that is, i can tell him secretly there is something that worries me. only i can tell him how to open up. here is your request that you would like this circle to be wider, so that you have other relationships, that is, friends, as people think that still not everything. you can tell your husband there. and it's kind of weird, and

that's why i've always been like that. if you take college, if you take school, then at school i, for example, had one girlfriend, and then we were paid by the fact that we lived in the same house. we sort of met together, came to school together, came back together, and sort of college. there were also some problems, but in terms of communication with other fellow students. yes, they were somehow aggressive. it was some kind of harmless mockery. well how can they be harmless? now i analyze that they are still harmless, and so 34. it was 15 and at 15 for you. it was insulting, of course, it was from many people or one person showed up in relation

to you. here, if you take i myself visitors. well, as if where i'm from, they often took cotton picking from uzbekistan for 2 months for cotton . yes, i myself. yes, samarkand, that's how it turns out. so, when i arrive, well, he arrives there, everything is there, as it were. not some kind of collective, and i have always been like one, it has always been like that and two there were girls who were such laughter, and in principle, i liked them so, well, because they were so light, well, it would have been fun with them all the time. well, even among themselves they were, but it was fun to see. and so they teased me a little. i was angry, of course i didn't talk to them. i walked alone. yes, by the way, i like to be offended,

it is noticeable. tell us a little about your story, about your childhood, about your family of origin. i was raised by my mother alone. so, who was not there? well, that is, i do not i remember and i used to think that you now feel it is important, so do not calm down, but on the contrary, try to speak from this feeling. there will be just

nothing to worry about, what will you cry about? it’s about childhood, it’s right away, because i didn’t have it very joyful. if i take my father, i don’t remember him, as my mother told me that he just left. well, as if he left us and that's it. and me always. when i

saw my other friends who called their dad there to their dad. i could never say this word to anyone, today they said papa. try talking now. this is just tell me that dad didn’t leave you, but with mom, and you specifically me. dad left me. what do you feel when you say it? well, by the way , it doesn't bother me that much. why do you think? i don't know, because half of your bitter dramatic memories are related to

what your mother told you. maybe you took on just as much of her pain that her father left her because it was humiliating. it was her loss women and not having coped with these feelings. she passed on some of those emotions to you. and when you say dad left us, i was surprised a little. i would understand if they told me, my father left me, when i was two or my father left me, when i was 15 years old, my father left me when i was a year old, but when an adult woman says, dad left us. but after all, you didn’t even see him, that is , it turns out that you took part of your mother’s experiences onto yourself, not your own. well, yes, mom said that she told a lot, there and cried. it was such conversations. not

really, yes, and she had a serious problem. she lived in samarkand a abandoned woman with a child. this culture is logically a big problem. it's an emotional big problem, but it's not your problem. it turns out that then parts of this dramatic and painful story are leaving your life. yes , you need to digest a little more, of course. but i already know. where is it? which way to think and about what? never need to have a happy childhood. it just needs to go back there and understand that your childhood was conditionally normal, it was what it was, it

gave you the opportunity to grow up above the daring opportunity to be a healthy interesting woman, but for some reason you chose the role of the daughter of an abandoned wife for yourself. dad left you your dad was not your dad for your mother. he was her husband and of course, the tragedy of an abandoned woman in samarkand is much higher. than the tragedy of a child whose father left. children grow up without fathers. and this is generally, in principle, i will reveal to you a secret in nature is normal. because men don't instincts like those of women. well, at some point in my life it was so that i was offended.

hard to ignore together, huh? and this, by the way, was transferred to my personal life, where i also take offense. i am also silent, i do not communicate with my husband. then i'm offended that he is silent. it's strange, really, how the relationship with my mother developed. you and your mother were together with samarkand, you lived together correctly, there was no one else. no, it appeared at first we lived together. i had a cheerful laugh now. until the age of 14, we lived, but together, i do everything for my mother i tried to help in terms of the fact that she always worked, but i was responsible for the house for

the household there, well, we usually lived in an apartment, but we lived. there, i started cutting salads early, there, then it came to cooking. and then he appeared, and the man in her life, he began to visit us. and i immediately did not like this man, but no one asked me, as it were, especially. about my feelings there, yes. well, at least there is no objection. i was a stranger. in our apartment, he somehow interfered in your life. and how can you for example, sleeping in your bed, eating from your plate, how masha and medvedeva sat on your chair, you can assume that he somehow

visited uh on your mother's half. well , that's why i'm asking, that is, he did not interfere in your life, did not educate you, did not try to teach life. no, there was no such thing. that is , you had a fairly distant relationship with your mother. you were there because you initially showed this distance, and that is. 14 you have already marked your boundaries. i just understand that this is the border, right? and be able to show the boundaries of an adult man of a 14-year-old girl is quite a serious step and an inner skill. which, in general, was forgotten. lol because now, it seems to me

, i don’t have this skill, i can say, i was confused with other people. so for some reason you don't use it. it's the same as riding a bike. if you have learned once, then we can come to this now. so the psychologist sergey at himself, the psychologist tatyana krasnovskaya, and our guests lola continue and so appeared. like you said, we got a man. well me mama started drinking with him strongly. and at that time i either ran out into the street. there were with other guys, that is , there were friends, that friends, these were guys who were from the same yard and we

were friends together. well, for me, a friend - you know, this is how i had an example , again from school there was a girl with whom i went to school and back with her, and there was an older sister and the second girl from our house had two sisters, and i saw their relationship with each other, how they are yes, yes, how they communicate with each other and no, i wanted to also no take sisters. yes, it's understandable. so maybe you, then, like that mammoth who is looking for a mother, are looking for a sister or brother, and they are friends and comrades. now i'm not looking, but in the room for a sister. well, girlfriend, i'm just limiting these incomprehensibly, what you merge with this concept, because you are watching. i tell you, you have, that is, you had friends, you say.