which are from the same yard and we are together conditionally. for me, a friend, you know this, this is how i had an example , again from school there was a girl with whom i went to school and back with her, and there was an older sister and the second girl from our house had two sisters , and i saw their relationship with each other, how they yes, yes, how they communicate with each other and no, i also wanted sisters. yes, it's understandable. so maybe you are then like that mammoth who is looking for a sister or brother for his mother, and they are friends and comrades. now i don't i'm looking for, and in the room you are a friend, i just limit these, it seems to me that you merge these two concepts, because you are looking. i'm telling you, you, that is, you had friends. you talk to me friend and

began to describe the sisterly relationship. that is, for me, a friend. this is a sister. by some kind of my behavior, i show the second person that how this can manifest itself in my behavior, for now. i just want to see you. look, when i ask you, you tell, you say, and i was with other guys. i say, that is, friends, nevertheless they were. you say, no, this is not exactly what i would like, of course, it would be great to run away from home with my sister. well, there was no sister. okay let's get back the relationship should be such a gap. there must be a lot of intimacy, but you ran away from home, what happened? well, i either left, yes, or i locked myself in my room and it happened. so it didn't work out.

for days at all from the room. bye. start will continue will end, because everything will start right away and i did not want to see all this. then it happened. so apparently, mom is very fell deeply in love. uh-huh, and went on a leash, which offered to sell our three-room apartment and move in with him, but she sold it to a one-room apartment. yes, we moved . the only thing we managed to do correctly was to register in this apartment. and so, when they ran out, well, they also continued to drink. naturally, and when the money ran out, and at

night i said directly to my face that i conditionally do not want to see you here in my apartment. and i will get you out of here, only physically. i will not touch you, but morally i will destroy you, and he will not he didn’t touch it, because he knew that we could report it to the police there, that is, again everything is in order about the border. if your person can physically touch, but at the same time you say, because he knew, you didn’t say, he didn’t touch us physically, because he was a noble, blue-blooded man , educated, educated, you said differently. it's just that he said it himself. it doesn't matter. what he said is important, how you describe it. that is, he did not touch you, you are just another remark about what really is with the borders everything is fine. in the end, he kicked you out. well, how

did you get out? he has already begun to drink on his own without his mother, he has severely insulted you and your mother or mother with all sorts of words. yes , he directly insulted me, so i tried to protect myself and my mother. mom always pulled me away , burned, keep quiet, there will be even more scandal. be quiet . and this is visible. when i was already, when i was able to leave on my own, i left, well, to moscow from him. mom stayed here with him, how did your life develop in moscow well, the first year and it didn’t really get to the point that i had to spend the night on the street. and even this, well, as if it did not

push me to the idea of ​​​​returning. here's an hour you remembered how you spent the night on the street there was something happening. we just spent the night on the street in the summer, in the winter, somewhere in the entrance of the rooming house or right on the street, how long did it last. i was not alone. came with me, the same girl with the same problem. she also had a lot. due to the fact that we are at home, that she had that i had such a situation, no matter how we never had the thought of returning or what? so you decided that you will survive at any cost?

it just seemed to me at that moment that it was even better here than there, even at the entrance it was better here than there, sochi mom with mom. and it looks like you did it. do you even understand vova that almost all success stories sound like this? read memoirs of successful people. i came to america with one dollar in my pocket. i came to moscow with a knapsack with things. i arrived there and spent the night on the street, and i arrived and worked, and i took out the garbage from the restaurant, that is, almost any success story is a person who does not take a prince. harry is there someone who was just waiting of his hour or inheritance, but such a person who rose on his own. each of them will have such a story. but for some reason you put this story in a box with a tragedy. but there is no tragedy. well, i mean,

you can look at it however you like. i myself began to periodically think that my brain is conditionally used to the fact that i have to constantly suffer, my husband says why are you so negative. well, a negative person always sees the bad. it will not be very interesting to be friends with you if you are dramatic all the time this is how he describes his life. podcast triggers with you sergey is a psychologist, psychotherapist and tatyana krasnovskaya, a family psychologist, and today we are talking about what triggers prevent her from being happy. let's see what you did. if we look from this perspective on your life. you arrived in moscow and spent 2 weeks at the entrance. what is your overall result now? now, of course, it’s a sin to complain, everything is fine. does the husband

have a job? eat? uh-huh we have an apartment, we have an apartment, right? well, non-removable and work at i am still such that i do not work for hire. a specialist who himself works through me mam died, but she died long ago in the eleventh year. it’s good that they said, we died, but no, well, well, because your dad left with your mom, a man came to you and your mom, if you also told me that you and your mom died that day, i would be too surprised . i think so too. i even believe that through the previous two cases. after all, how

your mother died separately from you. but your daughter is dead. you are no longer daughter. probably, well, since there is no mother, it means that there is no daughter of the role of a role model daughter no, well, yes, with the death of every person in our life. well, a part of us is dying. yes, i did not think about it, but as you say, right? so i say so in the affirmative, you agree, if you have a simple question, and i don’t know if your father is alive. why i would say we found your father. and now he's coming, what then? time has passed, perhaps, for what time has passed for being a daughter in order to need, probably need. i think,

yes, maybe that's the problem, that when you build relationships with people. you are talking to them unconsciously non-verbally declaring that you will be my friend. i will need you. does need breed friendship? it always seemed to me that i was not trying to impose myself, as it were. it’s just the opposite for me and there is a process of being unobtrusive and after a while i’m just there i stop communicating with a person. that is, even curiosity would not give you the opportunity to talk to your father now. well i don't know what it's supposed to be situation. i tell you that your father is here and he will come to you now, that with you it will be a man, but half of your blood is his blood. or suddenly make him close.

it's your choice, yes, i understand, but just, if i'm presenting now. what, here he stands , for example, but he is a stranger to me, you understand, the fact is that you deny not only his paternity. you deny exactly half of yourself. maybe that's why you're called by the wrong name. what they called you is not something that is not that, it’s just that it’s shortened you just cut off half of the name. yes, i understand this as a full name. it is hard to say. it's hard to say, it cuts a lot. rumor constantly to someone. well, no one but you can pronounce it. nobody knows him.

what will happen? but at the same time, when you described friends to me in childhood, describing through the sisterly relationship of your girlfriends, you gave me reason to believe that you are looking for blood ties. and your loneliness lies precisely in the fact that you seem to be alone by blood. like this hypothetical sister. this is the same half, this one is the one the very half of the name is the same half of you, which, by the way it is a blood relative, will be next to you. you are like a crescent in samarkand. you understand that one part of you is manifested, and the second is in the shadow. the question

is what overshadows the second part? overshadows your grievances and your pain, which is not yours , you do not know the story. why did your father leave you? we don't know what kind of wife your mother was, we don't know what kind of relationship they had. we don't know how you were born. well, i mean guess physiological as a result of what? you do not know this whole story, but you take this whole story, and as if shift it to the dark side. that is, should i stop suffering to begin to pronounce the name, patronymic? after all, i only recently thought that i accepted reconciled. but right now i can't. try to do this without resigning yourself, without accepting through this block that is inside.

so what's your name? it is unlikely that you will have the same hysteria in the mfc because honestly. let's what's your name? horror what happens if you do this? i don't even have a tongue turns. i do not know why. imagine that you now see yourself at age 4 to your right. look and imagine that there is a little girl of 4 years standing there.

i'll ask you a simple question. but you will answer as soon as you hear the question. look at this girl, damn it. imagine remember with pigtails with bows or combed ones who have just woken up or maybe on the street. what is her name? what does the name of some kind of night lotus mean , i understand, it's beautiful. my name zilola

ridiculous comes straight, but this is laughter through tears. can't speak. i think i can. say what you feel now ashamed of what? for the patronymic, and what does it make you? what makes me, but if shame, then it means that you feel that something is wrong with you, having this patronymic. it's not that there's something wrong with me, that it's not sonorous. such as

others. no one here can speak the first time, right? and i don’t know how it would sound in uzbek, i just don’t know the uzbek language, well , wasn’t your father’s full name written in the documents, like well it turns out high relo, when do you get high relo? no, a little later they began to use these. these are angles, but still, inside the everyday language, it sounded exactly like that. well

, yes, that i am his daughter means daughter? and if it seems to you that it is somehow unsound. yes , indeed, it is not sonorous here. in this region in france, no one will ask you for your middle name at all. what matters is what happens inside of you. it just needs to stop cutting off that part of your personal history. it turns out well, as it were, but not the one that suddenly enters your life from the fact which is already in your blood your history. and most importantly, it will allow you to change that very drama and separate your mother's drama from yours. because only when you become exactly manifested by individuality without stories. you will be able to build relationships openly; you will not need to hide anything from people. but first you need to allow

yourself your patronymic. this is belonging to your family to your father. i will try this is part of your identity and only through identity is born individuality. and the next step is to stop suffering. well, i i think that this will be a consequence. well, thank you very much, thank you. hello, i am a cosmonaut pilot

, and today we will talk about how the selection of materials takes place. astronauts who are taken, who are not taken in the future, how is the preparation for a space flight going? how they fly from the point of view of medicine, how it goes on, of course, rehabilitation after returning to earth. look, we know each other. well , it is necessary, of course, to introduce you to the general practitioner, deputy head of the clinical department of the medical department cosmonaut training center named after yuri alekseevich gagarin maria pushkar vasilevsky what are your functional duties anton i, as a representative of, uh, our entire large medical department of the department, i want to briefly talk about what medicine is in general at the cosmonaut training center. and in our medical department, as you know, there are five engineering departments that provide work medical departments, the clinical department where i work, and two other cases that

are engaged in purely space hmm medical affairs. these are the department of preparation for space flight factors and the department of medical-pediological and psychological training. and we also have, as it were, our own pharmacy division, which also provides us with medicines and medical products for astronauts. but the clinical department, where i work. this , most of all, probably looks like what an ordinary person considers a polyclinic, that is, this is the unit that controls the health of the cosmonauts precisely by checking them. health, then we have regular doctors general practitioner. i am a surgeon, otolaryngologist, ophthalmologist, dentist, neuropathologist. we have a pediatrician. and so we monitor the state of health of all these doctors, the cosmonaut , and plus we check them as experts, because the astronaut is not just a person, but

he is a person performing a very important state mission. and these professions, associated with a high risk to life, they are regulated. and therefore , the state of health should, uh, fit into the framework of the order. as you know we have special order, special order for astronauts, special space order, which he still takes his story with gagarina no order, 2001. but soon they issued a new order, which will be reworked for 20 years. yes, and everything is spelled out there, what can hurt, what can not hurt? what can hurt? they are people. what are the stages of verification. you are now rediscovering the secrets that an astronaut is not super. healthy people, that they, like ordinary people, have some of their own disease features. yes, this is our argon. yes, the astronaut is still super healthy people, but who, like all people

, can get sick with age and as a result of their professional activities. sometimes occasionally. and we need to notice it in time to prevent it. if you need to cure, therefore, you know our orders are prescribed. how often are medical certificates passed yes control and became health 3 months. here anton knows every 3 months ago to take tests to pass through all the ecg specialists many times a year bullying for two weeks, at least doctors begin to mock to the fullest program. well, in connection with that. here we are such experts we check. we are also selecting cosmonauts. yes, this is for us in general, how does this happen? yes? this is a very special function of ours, which, uh, is associated with a lot of responsibility, because sometimes people get very excited. yes, for your part , you can imagine, it comes to worry. you must have been worried too. this is a dream is

a dream of a therapist in a person's dream. he wants to come, and the closer he seems to strive for his dream, the more he tunes into my memory. here were the selections in 2010 obtained in the eighteenth and twentieth year. and it is always a very exciting responsibility of all these selections. uh, at first, somehow, you know, ads are made on the site , laid out into space from the center, such the simplest requirements of thunderbometry, that is , certain height, certain weight, there must be parameters in order for a person to fit. well , in fact, in space , a suit climbs into a spaceship. yes, then we have some, by the way, i'm just not plump and short from 150 to 190 and weight from 50 to 95 - this is according to a spacesuit. well, there's more

there must still be a certain false man, the length of the torso is sometimes a person’s height is suitable, and that is, uh, height, sitting, yes , the rosset sits and in this way the tape is measured, because you have a person who is in a certain poseon. and if his torso is too long, then he just, maybe together, yes, then we flew. yes, everything ended well, it happens that a person does not meet these parameters, well, it happens miracles , people grow up. you know they even grow up and people file medical papers preliminary are the most common. there are usually analyzes and a chest x-ray, an x-ray of the paranasal sinuses and an ultrasound ecg, and we first look at them at the preliminary stage , these analyzes are documents, documents, when the documents are selected for medicine and a person, for example, is suitable, well, according to some other

age criteria, for example, yes 35 years of education. now we also have you, yes, like, uh, we usually have selections of such departmental people, they still choose from such industries that, well, are related to astronautics, 35, maximum 25 and minimum and minimum must be 3 years work experience when we had an open recruitment. do you remember this, it was our twelfth year. this is the first opening of the thirteenth year. it wasn't just open. he was taking everyone. we had so much fun. we read the documents, there was a folk singer who played spoons, there were completely unexpected people there. that is, people are completely professions far from outer space, there was an actor who for some reason decided. that what is this some kind of show he said, i have it here, only here here i have a window. this is where i fly into space. and then in short, i have all the shooting. well, tell me, well, shoot. keep filming the actor who didn't pass, and then he said, i 'll learn physics. i will yes and so, when a person

has passed these parameters in absentia, he comes to the internal selection. and there, you know, we have four more commissions, that is, medicine is the last before that we have a professional selection, which is also. well, it just looks, yes, they check they check. eh, did you buy or did you get a diploma? well, there are usually questions in physics in mathematics, they give something in english , they ask, they let me learn some kind of technical document and you have to, well, explain it, that is, with let's go, can you figure out the scheme there? that is, they check how strong you are in engineering. that's what i would say. well, in general, such a selection of professional people is weeded out, do you remember it was, then psychological selection. you know that he is very much afraid of this psychological selection. this is for us, in my opinion, most of all recently a psychologist. in general, sometimes it is difficult. of course, i went through it being astronaut. here is the current set.

that is, when we were just selected there, it seemed easier to me, there were some tests, like ordinary pilots, so there was nothing new for me, and now some tests are based on some russian soviet foreign superpsychologists. naturally, there they can already shock a little and see your reaction. they have negotiations there. yes, you are doing some kind of test , they say you will have a neat cue ball, but you must pretend to be some kind of yes and uh based on the conclusions of these tests. they further they say godin yes, that is, they say. that this is not our choice? that is, we do not invent anything. we have tests here, they give us documents, that is, we do not dispute, and even pilots. i know military pilots. they trust nuclear weapons, which are there, well, which is only yes, everything and there are shadows that do not pass. we also know those, yes, then we have physical education and physical education can also be difficult, because when i looked at the requirements, physical education will fall, how is the water flat? well, what is it? well

that you don’t enter such a plan, to the plashmin - this is wrong. it means it fell. you just have to steal three meters to enter the water, but do not cry, some are struggling. there , somehow, it is necessary to fall flat into the side. no, from the side, but only the leakage of three-liter ones is not necessary. here you will be frightened, at some point you will be delayed. then you don’t enter like this like a pendulum with its head, but you linger a little, then it doesn’t hurt very much, i guess. i looked at these physical ones per kilometer per 100 m. yes, we have normal ordinary ones among us. you you know, astronauts don't have olympic champions. we don't have any nobel laureates. well, there are excellent students, but let's say it's super, physical education. do you remember the cosmonaut did not pass alone in the tenth year, he trained , he came after 2 years and passed, so everything is difficult. and you only after that when already , so we have here was, let's say, 400 left,

for example, there, well, 150 there 200 comes through all these stages to medicine, as a rule, it comes. well, no more than 40 people, and then actually. we're getting into it. we them carefully, look. we look at the analyzes for the game, the very first audiograms, we check the hearing. do you know, yes, how complex the equipment is? uh, what we don't have in star city , they gather people and take them to moscow but then it's real. we even at this stage echo monitor happens. we, too, weed out by vision , by teeth, by audio. well, anything can happen, then we let them in for an in-depth examination in moscow, where they have powdered. mri also reveal surprises people believe that they are completely healthy. they don't know anything in the head, that is, some of the most-most go to the tests associated with physical activity. that is, this is a velometer, thanks for this natural test, and no one

really knows anything about this, right? it's like that. in general, an invention was invented in our honey board. we had such outstanding people. it would seem that a person lies on the opposite side of the table and is tilted at different angles. well, that is, it becomes, or it costs. yes, and this shooting of blood, it allows you to evaluate, how is his body. maybe then react to weightlessness. no there the first moment of getting into the forest the blood is collected at the top and also. what's going on in your head with an increase in blood pressure? yes , of course, this is good, but we still have a pressure chamber. yes, three serious tests. this is a pressure chamber. and we also have a vestibular chair. about the vestibular chair. yes? that's all, it's possible, in principle, for example, the vestibular apparatus can be trained. just like physical education. maybe then we have a barracks, where we have, of course, these here are the pressure drops. it is an altitude of 5.000 m at the take-off, a dive is checked, when the descent is the fastest possible. and

then, of course, the centrifuge. this is the quintessence. it can be said well top. i like it, of course i like it. yes , overloads, you immediately feel that you are a pilot, that you are sitting at the helm. here comes the overload. i have been flying since the age of 15, but the plane. for me, it is very simple and the overload on the old real one is much larger up to 9 units. and we only have five. it's not about anything at all. and also we have it happens that people do not pass these tests. and we also had such an example that a person trained. well, of course, he did not train the centrifuge. he just became, well, he grew older, became more mature and passed the selection, too, we know and such an overload, there is plus three plus five or there is plus four plus eight, but some by nature, some, like my profession, and some can train , so it's not . that's when we already took away and it passed and these people passed. well, this turns out to be

the quintessence, sometimes we select it. how many there 8 or 10 people and all these people are ready, and then the commission decides their fate. yes, when it is not selected, as a result, four or five, and it is a shame that all these others are equal, but this is no longer medical medicine. we had some cases when, well, something like that during the selection there is something that cannot be entered into the normal one. the rhythm of ordinary life, yes, we had a lot of unusual ones, for example, now, when they began to do it, a kind of pantomogram is such , you know, panoramic pictures of teeth. well, everyone has teeth, like teeth, and suddenly we see him, and u of a man here, like a saber-toothed tiger , here are the teeth, so in the picture they lie like this. well where is this extreme wisdom. this jaw is missing, and they lie above the upper teeth with fangs, but, that is, a person

’s teeth did not erupt; the dentition formed and in general it did not bother him in any way, but this cannot be allowed in the cosmonaut. why? well, because teeth that have not erupted can begin to cut at any moment in space, including in space in preparation. here, imagine your daughter is ready. delete and delete this hard operation. well, well, he was offered. he simply did not have time, that is, you need to remove it before you come. and again, one has to think. here he needs such a complex heavy operation to remove these two, for example, these teeth into space. maybe he has a different fate. well, sometimes you think, what happens is very unusual, it happens somehow that a person has come. he has one leg, in short, a friend, well, everything seems to be nothing with a stick, there is no taste in space, you, well, it's imperceptible. they generally do not need legs in space, but on earth a person must train. yes, there run jump, there are all our tests.

our doctors velagometry, he says, just don’t send it to us. the led bike will not pass. what else is so unusual? well , you won't reveal all the secrets. well, the most common thing for us, of course, was because of the sight of experienced people, they didn’t know that their eyesight was not passable and people were in their sinuses. here they had a runny nose , got complications in the sinuses and did not notice a cyst could form. the cyst does not allow. okay, go through. here are the pressure chambers , these tests on pressure drops parametric impassable vision is necessarily 100%, well, for example, uh, according to vision there is uh, not 100% permissible in front of children. well, at school and someone is wearing glasses, for some reason you don’t think if he has glasses, he’s not an astronaut, no, i’ll take him in a pilot, they might not take him, that i had such an incident, when i was in our seventh clinical hospital for pilots here in moscow