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friends, hello this is a sex in the light podcast. i am anna banshchikova, i will talk today with a sexologist, a beautiful beautiful woman, my friend, and dear nazar aliyeva, we will talk about such an important topic about the sexual education of children. i had a situation where i have three children, my eldest 15 13 has two boys 13-15. you know my daughter is also five years old and somehow i was there, i don’t know there, let’s say my daughter saw mine there, and the eldest son washes in the shower and ran in horror this team is running. mom, did you see that he was in pain, you know, there are some simple ones and you , as it were, she was very small, she was 3 years old. and you, and in such confusion you know what

in general, how and what to say there, you begin to somehow say there. here he is a boy. there you are a girl, she in the sense, and what does he have there at all? mom, what is it like, that is, all these questions or there? yes, some even here are small children, but you understand there mom, and here you have sisi and when i have sisi, you start, like a fool, that you are still small. here you will grow up there, and you will also have boobs near. in short, and every time this is a stopper, in fact, absolutely this is for all parents. and what can we say about children who are adults? well, yes, and actually i was going to say about this that it is very important that the information that we give the child corresponds to his age and the situation that happened to your daughter. yes, when she saw her brother's penis and was afraid of this word. here i specifically emphasize that this must be said directly, daughter, do not cockerel. there's a penis. well, somehow it sounds so strange when you started to explain to the child where his eyes are. i swear like a girl. yes , somehow she somehow themselves they all understood where

the ears are, mom, look, this is it. show your eyes. here are the eyes. but this is the spout, and here are the handles and suddenly some kind of zone. yes, alva. don't study. it's weird, yes. and if a child doesn’t know from childhood, he doesn’t call the vulva and is called a cookie, because he can go to tell, yes, that i’m sad today, because dad ate it again. we cookie it real story. it's so in the garden not recognized, incest is sexual abuse that could have been stopped earlier. if a child called a spade a spade, and that is, a girl simply called things like that and therefore said so, that is, so that they could name hmm what they have there with their organs, where they hurt, where they tried to touch, then, if the child is taught he will really come and tell. you know, i remember too, i guess everyone at school started telling you, and i actually kind of, well, never told this story to anyone. i have in school, too, probably everyone at school had. i don’t remember any more there was a teacher, there was physics or mathematics. and how do i remember that somehow he somehow touched me, and what is it? like a child, i don't understand what it is? i don't even have

to tell anyone. i don't understand at all, okay. it's not normal at all, what it is it's awful more out there. yes, i often hear this argument that earlier in the soviet union everything was not like that, everyone lived there, they respected each other. everything was clean, i didn’t see, of course, then there is nothing about it even about this about it even think this, that is, we were so ignorant. in fact, we didn’t even understand what it meant, as if in general, in principle, i didn’t understand, i can tell you that i went to an ordinary soviet moscow kindergarten, and i saved my sisters twice. once, apparently, she finished it, who tried to lead him, already my whole island behind the house somewhere in the yards, beckoning her with a candy, she is the second time in broad daylight on the tram there are other people of the inhibitionist. well actually took out his penis and tried to rub and everything sister. i was seven years old. i somehow settled down in my head that with other people's uncles. yes, what is it that it is something dangerous, i felt that it was something dangerous. yes, mom herself never spoke to us. just need to understand the parents. for example, i never. honestly,

i have three children and i have never talked. that's how you say, you need to sit down with the child and somehow start talking about it, that is, it was not like this in your thoughts, and somehow all this. i never know. mm, that is, you need to need to put the child on and somehow tell everything about it, which is very convenient to take a book, for example, for children, there are now many excellent books translated into russian. and there i have, probably, about everything. uh-huh my daughter chooses which one she wants to read, and of course, when she was younger, we skipped some topics for which she had not yet reached. and what directly to read the book or how? yes , and there are drawings in these books. it's not just about sex there. yes, there is a big delusion that it's all about sex , i show porn to children no there about intimate places. there is direct hygiene there about what, and no one needs with everyone in a row. spend kiss hug and touch. yes, and you are exactly the same, if you want to hug someone, ask permission, that is, such very banal things about e-socialization about the fact that the internet, yes, and as if i never

had it. i believe, i believe, i bring up my children with such freedom and no limits. that is, they watch whatever they want. and generally speaking, frankly speaking, i’m scared that now we’ll talk about the older guys with this. uh, that they can climb on any site, yes, and see something that is for the child's psyche, in general, uh, well, it's scary. i can’t imagine seeing myself like that, i don’t know there, uh, at such an unmature age. i can't imagine what it would be like with me. how much it is necessary to limit chinese bans, or then it’s all the same, all these bans always, then they will see somewhere, because we live in the same modern world , you can’t get away from this. and how about this to be at all. when i think about it, i feel really scared. i know that they, of course, climb there. and how they cope, it is not clear. look, i agree with you. we live in a digital world. yes, and our children at one, two or three can already eliminate these blockages and we need to put a ban on the child, or is it, of course, where you can, you need to protect the child. yes, especially repulsive material. well, you know the citizens, i also had an example. here in my youth there i was friends with

such a girlfriend, and she lived there with me neighborhood. she studied music all day long, and everything was forbidden to her. her parents did not go anywhere so strictly and raised her, then she grew up and turned 16 years old there. she went down in general in all serious, that is, it is not necessary to protect until 16 16 is too late, somewhere too late. i mean, i know the five-year plan there, for example, they didn’t forbid me anything there. yes, my dad, i don’t know, he asked me there, at the age of 12, we’ll go there for a smoke, there, more precisely, he says, dad, i didn’t smoke, he says. come on, let's stop, let's go smoke, dad, i don't i smoke, they don't. it’s like, really, i was never forbidden anything of the kind and they didn’t talk to me about it, but i didn’t do some things, i just didn’t do it, and everything, as it were, maybe because i had such freedom, that is, these are it is also not clear how to deal with this. how much better anyway. well, look, firstly, what are the principles? yes, keywords. i agree with you that raising children is in the spirit. freedom is good. well, they need to be brought up in such a way that it is freedom, well, it is limited, where there is a danger to children and educate them so that the danger. you don't

know what he's watching. yes, maybe he climbed up there on some site, i don’t know what died there, for sure, he will see it. yes, violent porn is simple, because ever since internet porn content has also grown, it’s just exponentially roses, and now my friends, whose sons accidentally stumbled upon a time, are contacting me. not because dad left something there or there , i myself came across the earliest at the age of four or six, and the boys accidentally stumbled upon when they saw sexual intercourse. uh, in some kind of porno material, and this, well, firstly, i want to reassure my parents, someone would not have happened alone. secondly, they did not clearly see that they were watching all this, and seeing all this , and of course, they stumbled upon it. here found so difficult. the thing to stumble upon here is that apparently, probably, as i think, as a mother, too , as if my intuitive is, as i think, that here i am. the main task of parents is to teach how to separate, like grains from pley. yes, to teach the child to see, to hear, probably, yes,

that is, it is probably brought up somehow, probably, it is necessary to start with this. well, before that's right. yes , the child's idea of ​​what is healthy sexuality, what is not, that is, it is clear that if you lay some foundations. probably at first yes, before we talk, and then maybe, that's how i think, then, maybe, we won't have to talk. that's the question, you know? no, if you somehow pawned, he himself understands that he doesn’t need this, that it’s not his there, yes, because you won’t be there with a five-year plan talk about contraception. yes, you have an older son who is 15. and you should have talked to him about contraception for a long time. yes, they are not us, but they are all really funny, as i will talk to him. i still told them at the beginning you, well, tell me, there, you still fell in love, that he is looking at me mom. mom, like, hello, garage, i know you, exactly like mom's face, that mom, i understand about it more than you understand what you called sex. so it was, a runny nose. i saw my son somehow there on the phone. i saw that he was subscribed to some telegram channel.

uh, about sex or some bunch of these channels, and he subscribed to the very thing that he reads and studies there, and it’s clear from the reaction that it’s already, as it were, at what age in general do children begin this, when they generally, in fact, they do it. tell me, please, i'm about to fall, so i don't need to. i don't want this. i don't want to know, because, well, somehow in our times. at what age do children e happen. eh, what is your word called? depends on the kids. yes , what do we know, we know that, uh, where it is program, yes comprehensive sex education children start having sex later. one of the common fears of conservative parents that we will now begin to lead sex education and all our children will blossom will begin in this. i do not

know sadoma gomorrah wedding sin. and all these horrors of pregnancy, infection, and so on, in fact, exactly the opposite. and what do they say there? it is interesting in such lessons just like this one, well, they tell the appropriate age, what knowledge they give them should not be missed, bye, it seems that the child is small, it seems, as if still unhappy, and then once and already a big one already says, mom, that is, it is necessary somehow, in general, in time to find a balance, because sex. same. well, not only pleasure, it is also a responsibility. and it's all about talking to kids. in fact, it is not only with children and adults that we need to learn how to talk more, to discuss some things in general, in principle, it seems to me that we all have such a big problem that we can be offended. we can shut up. we can somehow hide something, but this is to sit down and to talk, in general, this is the most important thing that can be between people, in general, people should talk to each other and say some things. yes, i absolutely agree with you. i as a sexologist, as a psychotherapist often. i see couples where, well, just the whole idea. yes, they are best friends. they can talk about absolutely everything, but sex is such a sphere of access, and for them it is sensitive , quivering and has never discussed the most basic issues. sex is bad sex is terrible it

can lead to well it was discussed of course it's basically it can be in 90. i it is very sad to go percent, in general , family is generally, in principle, not discussed in any way, but by and large. it's an important part of life. yes, this is, well, one of the most key parts, so the couple break up because they don’t discuss. it's all some kind of forbidden topic no one. as a result, having lived there, i don’t know with my wife of 25 years and doesn’t know what i really like, and how she is uh, and it’s, of course, scary and because of this because of this and the children. well, that is, we kind of just all grew up in all this, and we somehow became after all, people, that is, also in some incomprehensible way. then you know what happens very often people are embarrassed to talk about sex. for example , men come to me, and he is convinced that his wife, she doesn’t want sex, doesn’t like sex. and in general, it would even offend her to raise, so to speak. the question he decides for himself. well , different people decide differently for themselves , let's say, the way they cope with the fact that they are not satisfied sexually, someone masturbates, someone goes. so to say, someone turns our country on, someone goes to lovers

prostitutes and believes that it is, well, safer for the family, because there is no emotional connection. yes, there are no children on the side. and this is also part of the problem. yes, because even now things are spreading in heterosexual couples. that's about among ours with you , and very often the story is more balanced, when the wife knows for the first time. and that he has hiv when she is already pregnant, her husband infected her, who like that went cruel money for using, not using a condom, looked at her skin, good clean or is it some kind of i don't know colleague from a neighboring business, and he does not admit that she can be unwell. and this too, yes, if he had a sex project at school, he would have known there for 10 years 12 years. what, well, sex only with a condom. well, well, firstly, he said what abstinence is, maybe absolutely guarantee not to allow anything. again, there is an opinion that i will tell you about sex enlightenment, that here is our generation of our parents, who

have lived there all their lives, and in fact, it may be there, there are even more such strong marriages , some long ones, and it seems to us that they had such love there and people lived there together for 50 years. now this does not exist at all and they did not have any sex clearance. that is, this is such a question, which, as i understand it, is very acute. uh, you need to enter. e to school. is this lesson this gap or not? or somehow they managed without it before and somehow everything was better, but now we are doing it. now, when in general everything became so accessible now in general now no one needs to take a girl to a restaurant to talk to her there. something is now all so easy to turn on the internet. i ’m all these are somehow called, when the relationship is on video , this is all sex on video, she does everything you say, and you don’t have to have dinner anywhere. no need for conversation. it's nothing at all so easily available now our kids are having less sex. what is our generation with you. so this is terrible, this is terrible. i'm on actually, too, i think, yes, later they start later all sorts of later start. even we will now return to this issue, when this happens, that very intercourse in

children. at what age now is this the average age, i have two boys 13-15 years old. i don't know, to be honest with you. now i repeat to you that i don’t know, did they have that, how do you think about this question? yes, they will answer me, but we know the statistics that the earlier the children start, the better the chance that it was a story they asked for, it was not about consent, therefore, and in many respects stop, please wait. no, wait, wait. well, i mean, like, well, they can't fall in love at 15, and like 15 from 15 , let's say everything below 14 is already very very this serious red flag 15, a child can fall in love. well, this teenager is already 15 years old. yes, if they have a difference there for a couple of years, it's ok if she is 15, he is 25, and he is there i don't know to teach a huge red flag, they don't say that this is history well, illegal, and if there are 16, we agree 16 years old , yes, in general, to allow here, as it were, if let's say my son tells me. here my girlfriend. this is mine he is 13 years old. for example

, i know that my thirteen-year-old son is from me now. here he is with a girl. and i girls. how much is right? yes well look, when children are the same age there is a higher chance that there is no abuse. i don’t understand this from any of the parties, just in general, here, in principle, if they meet here, how should i behave , just how should i do something, as it were oh, friend. that's how good you bought ice cream there or somehow they ask for such an idiotic paint for you, yes, from paint i don't know or what it’s just normal, as it should, somehow he brought the girl home, let’s say. i need to behave, what they are like, well, for sure they have something, the child will not tell. yes i am, so i did it along with every seed decides for itself. yes, i would meet the parents of this girl and find out whether or not this relationship is in the know. yes, if by this age, i'm most likely already a. i would discuss hmm contraception, this is the same age when children have what problems they have, their bodies change, they start together. wait arises if they meet, how are

they such adults this girl. no, he sent me a photo, and there is such a girl already , you just understand, she’s just like that in general , we were like that, another 13 years. actually 13 years old. they are just girls in high heels already all with boobs so the whole girl is already serious, you know? i really hope not. i really hope that they only have a romantic relationship, but to be sure. yes, yes, i must understand myself about the age of consent, yes, and about contraception and about consent, because what is consent yes, this is when such a wonderful son, who is very very i don’t know , understands, that is, i’m wondering, they already have how i should relate to this, you understand? how already how. uh, actually, just an older one. in general, i, who is bored older there, is already an adult man, you know, yes, another important point is that he may not be ready either. that is, it's okay, but he himself must understand himself. i know that sex is a responsibility. yes, and that there are some, well , somehow learn a child so that he understands that this. well, how cool it is, how would he be prepared, as soon as you

talk about it, for this he should get a positive experience. yes, he should at least see these models. yes, if you can’t talk about it there, someone must be in his life who can talk about it with him. maybe it could be some kind of podcast. i do not know the blogger on this may be friends. yes, it is best if it is a specialist. yes, what kind of someone from the outside yes, not a teacher, well, not a teacher at school, because that it will be difficult for children. and someone i'm sorry, somehow often happens. yes, specifically some sexater who comes in so they can ask a question, yes, about everything that worries them and talk to the changing network about how this first time happens. what to do? where to stay? how to understand yes dick pants or not? how to understand ready or not? how to put on a condom correctly? the first time is a very important problem there, you know, i can't , i'll be honest. here i am, i can explain my child, like somewhere a condom for sure, that's why we need sex enlightenment. yes, if it will be someone, yes, some neutral person, neutral, who will come. yes. and plus, the kids will have access to

condom condoms. now a pack costs more than it is. let's still say that we are that we are with you, here you and i are two women who have children, as it were, but we believe that after all, sex enlightenment, because it was discussed, yes, it was discussed by mothers, it was discussed by some in i know some chats and it was said a lot about it that we still for having sex, of course, and not only as a mother. i'm also a doctor, right? i'm reminded of this sex by the light podcast. i'm at the banshchikov, we are talking in the studio with amina's sexologist. nazar aliyeva, we are discussing the sexual education of children. how to prepare can be here is a child, if he meets girls, so that he somehow doesn’t screw up, so that he somehow, well, so that he doesn’t feel uncomfortable after the first sexual experience and then he doesn’t get scared and doesn’t look for some kind of maybe to be a more experienced woman there, an adult who would teach him how he screwed up. is that what you are you investing in it? i mean that somehow they have something going on there and somehow he doesn’t know, just like he somehow doesn’t know. well, i

don't know, this is it. i don't know if it can get in. she goes missing very often. yes, yes, and from what is called. well, i really like english. i have now forgiven the performance in the original, the translation into russian was not quite correct, but there the meaning is in this performance. yes, it's like a mission. yes , this should be close and understandable, yes, how i will speak, yes, as it were, i think that for a boy. it's very very exciting and somehow scary. happens. for example, i remember my childhood there, i remember that i kissed in the entrance there with the boys, and then he kissed there, something with us and then all of a sudden they ran away, for example, yes, i keep thinking, why don’t i run away something strange, where are they running? what's happened? you learned to kiss on tomatoes or on oranges, on what you know the words you didn’t learn, as you know, she knows either yes, but it’s like an actress. i think like that's how to become an actress. i believe that it is impossible to teach this, or you feel this one or not. that's all. you are my opinion, so uh, that's why i'm so ironic about how it can be taught. well, probably

a young man is a boy. it’s just that i , as it were, recently started thinking , like, so that my son somehow feels like a man, so that he doesn’t have such fears, therefore, about. yes , look here, too, and sex from the light - this also addresses, because they teach like this, yes, closer to this age and begins to discuss relationships. what are good relationship healthy? what is healthy relationships, including discussing these gender stereotypes, for example, very often men learn that i should always be on horseback, yes, and rex. i have to be steel in any situation. it doesn't matter, i want to. i don't want this woman, but i slept. i've been there satisfactorily for the past few days or not, whether i'm healthy or not. and very often men's self-esteem is tied. yes on this sexy performance. so let's call it, well , ulcerative, of course, everything, generally losing stereotypes, as they imposed on the girls that she should be there so and so modernly innocent, yes, and socially attractive, that everyone wants, but at the same time, she only wants

her husband after the wedding, and, in general, they study sexuality so that the husband goes away from him mind and everyone around her wanted, that is , a bunch of contradictory these attitudes, although both male and female sexuality. it is very similar arranged in general sexuality. it's something in general. hey, it's the brain. how the human brain works. yes? that is, these are young girls, i think, yes, there, i know there. a lot of girls go there to redo everything, or i don’t know these ones there, some crazy eyelashes, boobs are inserted there. uh, these lips are not all about sexuality, in general , sexuality is already some kind of other thing, and a man in general, in fact. so i can just say for sure that they don’t notice all these things, i generally notice. only your energy and in general for sex it is through the brain. it's not even not through. that's the perception. that's how uh let's tell the girls it's true. this is exactly what i want. i'm taking advantage of this because we are talking to you, which is true. this is generally about something else love - it's not connected, but the size of your breast eyelashes. there are stupid. it's about something completely different.

it supports individuality for a while, because color - this should also address, you know what's important, i think it's very important for which , by the way, sex is very important, so that girls it seems to me, just girls. here is the body absolutely for themselves they accepted their individuality, the more you answer, on the contrary, you are different from the other girl, which may be, do you think there is a better you to some parameters. it has nothing to do with what you love. and they will want you and you will have love. this is very important to convey. that's it for little girls, of course even. here is my petty looks some imposed. you know, there is youtube that turns on, and any second you turn on a soviet cartoon there, you just go somewhere, it ended crocodile gena and there are already some. so the girls are telling my little kid there about some wait, even in soviet cartoons i remember what kind of princesses there are. here with such waists. yes, almost all blondes are definitely very. and this is not only about sexual self-confidence, but women in general have a worse sexual experience than men, largely because of this anxiety that i am somehow

not like that. yes, they can't relax in bed, yes, plus these here, yes, these are stereotypes of a stop. it's very scary, because these girls. i think in bed. they look like they look like this and take selfies in parallel in general nothing. well, it seems to me that this is today's one, imposed in today's by these masteriotypes. it's creepy. generally scary. but tell me, if right now women have looked at us or there are parents hmm and decided, yes, we will have our own child. how to educate, so we want sex enlightenment where to lead, if this subject is not available at school, who can i turn to at all, how is it to look for a sexologist? here is someone like you or how in general, who will do it? well, look, i think that yes, we need to look for some specialists yes, teachers. i would recommend looking books, yes, from childhood to accustom yourself. yes , this is to start reading and talking about it. that is. this first time is terribly embarrassing and difficult. here is the second time a little less embarrassing difficult, but the thirty-third time. you will speak calmly and with ease, there i do not know the penis of the vulva, as i say this. well, penises, fired, after all, somehow you know very well so

literary. it sounds, of course, i can’t imagine myself as my child , masha began to say there, this is the vulva. well somehow i generally i can't have me. well, we need some word. yes, and at the same time, so that it it was very sexy charge, but it 's very somehow very you know, like like your actor, they say it's very kind of literary. it's very hard to apply to life, you know? how is it all. i think. in what sense, it’s even good, because this is the distance that allows it. save it so it's not completely, i promise you, but i don't know how it is. here. i just want to try it myself after our conversation, because i have never done it again now. they will tell them when they are, you have no friends. there they will have their love relationships. it is clear that they will use something else because i have a vulva. what is it to say? well, my mother mom told me normally, and then my mother will come to the kindergarten for a children's party some other mother who will know that she will look at me, as if confident that your child has at

home a few, right? it's more of a question to educate, because the children play the doctor in the kindergarten. they see it all. i now remembered the story. we recently filmed as a short film, and such a small short meter is a small short movie like that. i played there hmm a woman who came to the sex shop for the first time, which is generally the first time she's there, she's lonely, she came. i buy m-m something in a sex shop and filmed. in short, we spent the whole day just in a huge sex shop. it's just that we were filming and the whole film crew was in this huge sex shop. and it's clear that i'm an actress, i can't go to a sex shop. well , as it were, i'll find out everything there, you will be wildly awkward for me. i have never been there in my life. almost once, when there was still quite her voluminous age, and here we were all day. i mean, we filmed there all day, and that's it. could be considered. in general, we laughed so much there that for some reason not me. understood? i realized that life. just in vain , just honestly, i went, because do you know what it is? it's just that i had the right to ask what i was like there just like,

by chance i'm shooting a movie. i just found myself, so it seems, interested. i know what it's like not to say things. i realized that my god, lord, and we there they laughed with mine, well, also with my collections with girls, that we just realized that life was lived in vain. why am i naturally like? well, because, well, as soon as i arrive, so then you say there that that 's what she is, well, and there we look at her, and she turns out, all she came wants to say something there. ugh take care. this, too, this is also such from childhood that i can’t imagine when you don’t talk about anything. yes, we did not talk about sex in general. we seem to have learned that sex is a shame, although sex is one of the best things that nature has come up with thanks to sex does exist. naturally, pairs and pairs are formed. thanks to sex, children were able to keep up with sex. simply put, sex shops are best friends, and women are not men's competitors. these are the companions, because sometimes people managed without it all their lives, without it, really. we

are so clear. you have to start over all over again. well, look, i'm a taxologist, very often i see couples who love each other, yes , who have lived a lot together with their children in general. they are best friends. they want to keep family. well, everything in sex has died a long time ago. and they are still living people 40 45 50, 35. here, too , a sex shop very often has some kind of toys , some kind of variety. this is what helps these families to keep going on, sometimes most women do not experience orgasm. only well, without clitoral stimulation, for example, and the sex shop sells things that help, which are very convenient to hold in your hands and stimulate the clitoris during intercourse. now. in short, i just want to say, because here, that is, you should not be ashamed of this. and that's it. just me i'm telling you specifically in pride in the pride of the head and how how to pava there? a? tell me what it is, we'll just go back to the children. hmm the question is, if you watch, too , i very often with the children some kind of film. yes

, now all the children are watching, in principle, adult films and all together, and some kind of scene begins there. hmm they kiss there, or even something else yes, and you, as if i always sit like this and every time i look like that, i understand, i squeeze the sofa. i'm sitting like that, sitting like this, nothing happens. i don't know how to feel lead. well, ideally, of course, take care. yes, there is something to understand. this film, so that it does not turn out that you are watching a film together, well , which is still too early for a child to show, but very often in fact now very often they tell me, all parents watch with their children. e films that are watching this together, but the good news is that this one, let's say , is traumatized, but from some kind of porn with or there erotic scenes that the child accidentally saw. and this is a relatively rare story. yes , and more often it concerns girls, that is, boys. very often, even with enthusiasm, this is perceived here is your reaction to ignore. this is one of the options. well, that's a good response. let's just say it's a good response. yes, if you do not need to emphasize, yes, if the child is very small, he faced this and he did not understand, he asks a question. well, you should always answer the child's question for within the framework of the garden. well, if he knows more questions, i understand

the question. and if you just look along with the child, there is constant violence, violence must be addressed, what should i say? hear it there what you now saw that you feel good to talk about. thanks yes , that's something an adult will say, you feel mom is listening. well, they are. well, how is it all some kind of literature too, exactly what you feel, he will say mom well, or not so small or you don’t understand that when they grow up after 10 years, it won’t be like that with him, what do you feel. they are already so grown up, they immediately, well, sort of shut you down, you know? they didn't think about it, what you just noticed. how are you, i don't want to talk about it. ok ok, another very important question. by the way, about the fact that they should know, they say that it is very important for children's upbringing that dad and mom close in the room and have sex, the child should know this if the child understands that parents also have sex. they have a sex life. it's okay more. if he has any questions. likely to ask questions. yes? is it okay to say? look, it's intimate, we don't discuss it with you. this is our life for sure, of course i mean that

the child should not even hear how the parents have sex. yes, this is a violation of the border. moreover, they should see it. no, hear to see more clearly. i have you should know that mum and dad are closed. and there they can understand it. yes, they do not need to hide it, what to expect there? while all the children fell asleep there, you know there on the sly. there, or some kind of access of the child to the bedroom is endless, when it happens that the child is sleeping, by the way, this is also an important issue for sexual education. the child sleeps with the parents. yes, it's very common. mm. like yes, yes, like this, like with this like like this, i actually also this is a question and i am my children there until a certain age slept with me, and we kind of work all the time and they uh-huh very we were bored, and i didn’t seem to be embarrassed that there was a child sleeping with me, for example, and we were sleeping there, hugging. there, up to what there is up to 7 years, even up to some it is possible or not, in general. here, in general, it is better to move the children to their room as early as possible, and the mother and the girl can sleep. that's how at five years six, if here is a child misses and comes to you wants to sleep with you

in an embrace. and if the boy is like this, but i think they are faced with children, then you have to understand that in boys it is already necessary to begin early enough. well, and children have erogenous zones and such. and they start early enough. we turbocharge. that is here to save. so to speak, eh well healthy borders. yes, so that, well, it doesn’t happen that by chance the children, well, the parents will contact the genitals, yes, to hmm ensure, and reliable borders are better to move children, so to speak, to another room, as early as possible, while there are a lot of cultures where co-sleeping is practiced, there are a lot of families where, well, housing conditions simply do not allow it. and here we need to think about how to reduce this kind of risks, that is, well, there, so that everyone is in pajamas , for example, if, uh, well, after all , parents parents, of course, there are a lot of questions, for example, also there, for example, when the boys were already big enough. i breastfed masha. yes, they saw it, as it were, that is, it is difficult to hide, as if this is also the same, as if, when they see a mother, as

if feeding, for example, that is, as much as it affects the video of the child. it is also so very so many of these subtle things that we do not know. i personally find it easier to sexualize breasts. yes, the fact that the chest is such a refrigerator for a child, that is, a source of nutrition for a normal and a woman. well , it is clear that the interest. with a baby baby, and here in priority. yes, a woman should be able to feed her child. e in any the moment when the child is needed, is it necessary to hide from older children, who are still very small, it is better to hide. yes? if not, but there are some special ones there, well, in paid lubricants, maybe if you have two boys in these already, right? as if, well, a teenager, it’s better in general all the time so that they don’t keep these boundaries, but there are families. there are cultures where i have problems. how does this affect the future? it’s just not clear to the child, and here i am not, but there are no unambiguous studies that if a child sees a naked parent , i’ll decompose everything that he doesn’t have. there are a lot of much

more terrible things that children can see and experience and this does not destroy their psyche. come on at the end of our conversation. we will summarize so briefly. at what age? what are some important things to say to a child, so that at least in a nutshell we outline some points, and to make it easier to start somewhere. they are very small, yes, anatomy is hygiene. yes, there, how, how, how , how to wash these things, and so on, who can touch you panty rules in two actually, say, start earlier. and then, and any situation that arises from the outside well , for example, i don’t know, a neighbor is pregnant, questions about the tummy begin. what is there, where? children are taken? yes, that’s all, they are children who start early enough, they ask them for five years we are allowed to run. the main thing in the apartment. and if everyone is same-sex there, well, if it 's some kind of, well, it's normal for you, as a given culture, if everyone else is, and so to speak, issues related to sexuality are clearly defined. yes, the little one is also the older ones children. she changes clothes with them. it's possible.

well, it is better to wean on the sly further. until what age will you have time, so that later you will not be told, mom, everything is fine. until what age do you have time to tell the boys there like this before ten, so that good people need to start already from two to three, well, from two he will not understand yet, he has never fallen in love, when to be in time, here again somehow he is already well, he such such an almost youthful, uh, should start about 3-5 years before we expect any events. yes, at 10 years old. maybe for sure we can talk proportions. yes, what is coming for boys at this age already means that she wanted to prepare for change. who is the whole hairy becomes, hairy uncle of his child think about this is my little boy, weight, hairy mood changes do not fall in love. that is, this is all they need to prepare for this. yes, everything that happens there begins. yes, to admire, they should know about it for them to masturbate, the interests are already in love. in short, you need to have time

to discuss this later. well, little by little , little by little, well, look at that comfortable discussing what is not. what the child is talking about. yes, it is better, of course, to put it up for auction. yes, and the child will be easier for you or not easier. yes? for this we need again. we need the whole system we need the system. actually, i want to recap. the conversation is to say that in general we need to start talking to each other more, to talk more with children in general, about everything, but about everything, not only about sex and about sex, too , and then somehow we will slowly approach the fact that there is sex, but there should be and in that that he is beautiful, and in general, so that our children are ready for this. it was a sex in the light podcast. i am anna banshchikova and my friend is a sexologist. amina nazaralieva. we talked about the sex education of children.

this podcast is witty and with you. i am svetlana dragan. today we will talk about the phenomena of march about astrological phenomena, let's talk a little about essential oils. and, of course, let's not forget about chirognomy, the science of hands. i would like to tell you about what will happen in march. it doesn't often happen that the planets change their positions, which very seriously affects all events, both purely human and natural, and so on, so we will talk about the most basic three important events that will be accompanied by global changes in everything. and the first thing i would like to say is about the planet saturn. this planet is very difficult. she has been in the zone of the sign of aquarius for a long time and is now in the region of march 7th. she turns into a fish. and what does

this mean, in general, we can observe very interesting phenomena in the world. how, for example, where there was dry land, can appear water, and where there was water , land can appear, that is, these geological changes. we will be watching. this does not mean that it will all happen at one moment, on march 7th. of course not, but we will see in 2.5 years. how our earth is changing how our mood is changing. how our understanding and worldview changes. and of course. uh, this will greatly change our relationship to the inner state of the psychological state. focusing on what we understand about ourselves, but before all this happens, of course, this will first of all affect people who were born. well, somewhere around the twentieth of february and beyond.