it's all bullshit. here hmm, publish her drawings, make a photo book book, it costs a penny. present this photo book to her , bring it and show it that you see her , respect her, understand that while this is the feeling, you invited a 15-year-old teenager. you have internet at home. no. no, in order to get a little better at studying, therefore, i somehow limited it to a box. yes , come in, dear in the cell. i'm more reliable than you for corpses. and you sit, please, and rejoice, say, how are you and daddy doing well? cool. that's another time you don't see her. i against these informational dependencies , there are things that work with them, but uh, see the child the way he is, the way they are more or less now. that's depending on the internet with some subcultures. well, this is not god, but all sorts of punks in our time. they were generally some kind of game. yes, but somehow ours survived. parents until

the moment when you divorced, when she loved you, she called herself daddy's girl and so on, what did you have in common? here you had, for sure, some kind of uh, there traditions kit rituals some kind of joint pastime. in principle, i also drove to dances, but i was engaged in dancing for some time. no, she had already stopped before we moved here. we somehow stopped because she performed in concerts, and that's it. it was something interesting. yes, but then something is completely complete and i don’t think anything. something that took her to the dance. it was the only thing for which she said that i had something else for my daughter. can talk hiking. i don’t know what kind, well, hiking. there just some arrived there be like. you were happy. what was happiness? tell me, please, when you come home, in principle, they run to meet you. you are there, for example, from kindergarten, and you pick her up from school, hug her,

we studied there, and we studied something together. i love to cook. she took on a lot. these, uh, some of my author's dishes, so to speak, that i really liked to cook, but now he continues. we something you thought together here in this in this respect. yes, just like that, what does it mean in the heart it still aches it was already time to put her to bed. z. well, she doesn't go to bed. that's it, i 'm angry, i take the handle anew, and so in bed once and in the morning she already lies, she must be taken out. i say get up and sleep. she tells me, as you put it, and take it away, so this is the most such this favorite moment, of course in this life, and the happiest moment is when, in principle, i worked like this for days. well, he came to medicine, already tired from work. uh, it's she who will lie next to her head on her shoulder. and that's just silence.

it's just silence, i feel the breath, and next to me, warm, so soft. i would like to repeat, of course, now hugging is impossible. only yes, sergey, i think that everything is possible, but no. she grew up a girl , you know, and you still expect from her that she will be a five-year-old child who will come to you under your wing. and breathe under your arm. no, she was small. and now she's a 15-year-old teenager impossible. get the same level of warmth of confidence. it's just not bad. well, maybe different. yes but the other grope it needs to be leveled. to understand what can connect with you, in order to speak, natalya asked what connected you, right? and you said so, as if you still think that this is exactly what can connect you. it doesn't seem to be, it's just that it's not a problem.

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his teenage daughter. how is your life now. now. mostly. only work work work work. why are you working? get distracted, because when you are, somewhere not in work, somewhere you are even at home. just like that, all these thoughts are pumped up. well, everything from the head and everything. the rest is running away. it is not a tool to achieve some goals, it is a way to escape some pain. and you didn’t think about calling your daughter just to drink tea, she doesn’t come, where to go home, and i even offered her. she was infatuated for a while. so i also watched korean culture then, there was something a and b in moscow literally taking place there like this kind of

event, right? yes, most likely, i suggested it, because i had the opportunity to bring my acquaintances there. this is all i suggested. she says i don't need it. i don't want it. i do not want it. i am telling you it was interesting. i don't want it now. you asked what she wants. she says i don't want anything, i don't want to go at all. i want to sleep. here is a standard, by the way, expression. i argue. well, she might be in pain. now you may be. somehow to talk about mutual pain, maybe you should write a letter to her and tell her how to write a letter, if sergey lives a kilometer away from us, yes, from his daughter, but he communicates only remotely, not always, because physical kilometers are measured as i understand that physically kilometer. yes go why don't you go to her alive, because they enter that apartment where your daughter lives. well, there you are still looking for, and the mother-in-law lives nothing. perhaps this is already 100% of this, see an

adult girl in age. well, 15 years. this is already very mature, when you can already understand. well, try talking to her. that's right for an adult, his name is victoria well, it turned out to be tin. yes, my mom and i got divorced. i 'm probably to blame for something, but you can't divorce your child and you can't divorce your parents. and you and i know that girls dad is even more important. just talk to him. i want to be your dad anyway. i 'm not afraid to admit to you that it hurts me a lot or you try to be such an eastern dad and you said that you were told that your heart broke. and that she could buy glue? well, well, buy it, daughter, buy me

glue. well, honestly, right now, i can turn it off as a psychologist. here's what i would do, like a dad, and quite emotional. i would come to the door. i would sit on the floor and say. daughter, until you go to a cafe with me, i won’t be here at night sit, you do not work will not go i will score on myself. here i will sit. i want to talk to you. not with a mother at home there in an apartment without the internet. i want to invite you to beautiful cafes, and i want to go there with you. and until you agree, i won't do something, because firstly, i'm a man, i'm your father. i so want. i love you very much. daughter, very not very. if i have personally offended you, so i forgive me, i will ask for forgiveness as many times as necessary for you to forgive me, you thought about it no such thing. not even about this

i thought that it would prevent you from doing it now, as mikhail of the soviets. i think i will, well don't spit anything. wow. thank you. thank you for this. wait, you are afraid of what your mother-in-law will not say in her main action. what will she do? well, i won’t raise my hand, wait. what does she do? will she be you? yes, of course, it's easy. that is, your mother-in-law does not beat you. i mean it's possible that it will be, right? yes, it was at that time just talking about a divorce, sergey, if it wasn’t like that before the fact that it will be today tomorrow yes, but in the end it's nothing wolves are afraid to go into the forest. well, well, ok, the yenian lives this situation. it seems to me that look, there is some kind of not fully spoken divorce story,

which, perhaps, is being speculated at home, and lies at the heart of what the girl feels. let's see, there's probably something that happened. here. let's what is the official version. well, let's just say from your mother-in-law in the eyes of your mother-in-law. why did you divorce? well , because there is no attention at all i pay, no wife, it's true, and it's honest, right? what was it like recently, right? for two years, i won’t say so, you don’t know each other, i loved and in general right here i always doted on everyone , i was just happiness, for me it, maybe some, until recently, it was like that you are now . gentlemen why less attention? no, when they moved to moscow was it already in moscow? yes, they have already moved, they have already lived, but there, as it is with us, you begin to pay little attention to life from this i come, as you i want to and as if there is not enough time. no, no, no, i did it. such a problem with

this, yes, but in the trading system i worked , i came late from work, while you were lying on the tv, as always, i ate, and i'll go to bed. i'll hang around a little more. it seems to me that there is very little time. i wish there was more of this somehow. i don't know what it's called. maybe this is, of course, how it would have been before, as you would understand, we had something at all when there was attention. yes, we understand, she also so i say, we arranged concerts there for dancing there this one in our country. yes, i was the host there, i wrote the script there, and she was arranged for her to dance, so that she would study there in education. i brought her . here it was something. and not only a daughter, a wife, a daughter, uncle is generally children for me. for me, it was an eastern husband who organized everything for the family. i knew that i had brought them, i was sitting and waiting, they would dance there and practice. that's it, they're getting ready for the concert. yes, i prepare scripts, what is that? why did it end went to a foreign country. well, yes, it didn’t work out that it would become me -

medicine, again it’s my own to enter, because i don’t know with some kind of bureaucracy i came across. something else could be confirmed. no, i confirmed my diploma to pass these uhs for certification there. well, let's say that. so. yes, there such and such they are on the wall. it was god , probably, who injured, yes, because you came with such pride that now it 's all for you. that's all it turned out. in the end, yes. as a result, where he wants me this worked on the topic. at the very least, everyone wants something to understand that you are in a situation of such a midlife crisis. you have changed country. you basically lost your job because you came. moscow could not confirm their medical diploma such a self. yes , after all, i still understood that in what situation you would be, what kind of fat you are - even her brother somehow, because all the relatives are all . she has it here. well, she used to, she was spoiled used to, that you took her to the dance. you took her back and forth and suddenly he saved her. i can't

say from the balloon, because yes i worked. they have two jobs and earn quite well, and from the beginning no, but i did not let them work. i think, for what, in principle, because the children are small. and then, after all, in principle, it was necessary, but then i say, i saw an ad somewhere. yes, i want to be different. yes hmm i can't say no he's good to me what well can't be a bad woman. no. no, i'm just saying what it is. maybe, maybe that this husband broke his wife in fact? shows you that any deviation from her usual comfortable lifestyle will be associated with her here all the level of failed negativity. do you think that she e cannot be like that, she is already like that, well, as she said, that from her words, that i have changed, like interests or something. in general, i say it has changed. i'm saying this, i'm saying, i'm not a romantic there.

you liked it when you arranged those evenings. yes, it used to be cool, but now it makes no sense i need to have comfort i need to have everything and immediately. and now she's like on what she lives, she works, because here i say too, when she wanted a family. yes, no family, as such, they are not filming now. it wasn't impossible. now already thank god yes they were not. this is exactly the period. yes, this is what with the work with all the cases. i can't help but keep it, but as credit you realize that while you lived there you were the main feed, when you came here. well, what got into, but in this mess with a diploma and so on. she made money, but you didn't. well, there recently began to earn, yes, and when your family began to earn, most likely at the time when you fell out of your usual role as the main support for the family. yes, everything sounds exactly the question is only who

allowed it. i, well, it’s okay in general, micah, that is, wait, but he didn’t have , or something, the right to this weakness, he didn’t have the right to have a difficult period of life, the right to a difficult period. there is simply a need to teach everyone close to the fact that dad is super strong, everything is always for everyone. he will always decide everything will work and he will never have problems, that is, the previous story taught your loved ones to the fact that you are like this. well, that's the way we're supposed to have been so weird, maybe then excuse me please and points now dad isn't so cool. i’m the same, of course, now you are from a strong dad of a handsome almighty a-a mining, who can so easily by the hand by the leg into bed back and forth yes, throw your daughter, who will break into a cake and do the whole event. all questions are decided by you miserable. you have become a person who was kicked out

by your mother and grandmother, who is a loser without a job, who does not have internet in his apartment. yes, and so on. yes, once the end of all this is now not criticized or belittled, on the contrary. we say this, maybe this is a normal everyday situation. it happens. so everything is developing with me now with such maximalism , you know, that is, once she, of course, will understand everything. the question is such mikhail now sergey has a chance to reach out, we dug up the situation with you. we realized that it is more difficult than looks chic. yes, now it is important, if sergey wants to reach out, then, most likely, hmm will not work. but if sergei wants to knock, as a process, you know , knocking on this door, they may open it for you

, or not. but if you want some advice, like what should i do to open it right away, there will be no such advice. check now your, uh, daughter, how well, the door is closed. yes, ah, and you have a bunch of keys. well, pick or knock, there are different things to be the key, continuing your metaphor son sergey is older with whom he has a relationship. maybe, but again, yes, don't count on the fact that you can somehow turn around and fix everything right away. everything, you already have a crisis in the family, a crisis in relations with your daughter. thank god that the son does not have such a crisis of some kind. surely there is. just not as strong. thank god, but in this crisis. live now say, strive out of it. so here's a click of a finger to take and exit. go and that, as i fear it most of all is gone. you are not afraid of this. you are afraid

of your illusions that this is not possible and you lose. you are afraid that when you, as you say, assess them in your feelings, this connection will be destroyed, because now it is destroyed by these kilometers between you and your mother-in-law, which means she throws herself at you with her fists. yes, crazy, lord, but nonetheless. yes, you are afraid that as soon as your emotions change, and you will lose your children. well, you can't lose them, first of all, because the bond is between parents and children. she is inexhaustible. yes, she can get thinner, but she quickly grows meat, and you don't want it. i'm in the order that i say feelings will start to cool. naturally. thank you young, handsome, there is some other. with what kind of child and suddenly i’m more. that’s what i’ll give to this child in love, and there the feelings will completely cool down. and this is what i'm afraid of. why dont know?

but you are a rational person. you , too, probably want something right? of course, if you don't want to leave your children, but don't, it's good if let's imagine the situation. your relationship with a man will simply disappear. not because

that you wanted it, but because the daughter herself , her mother, her grandmother did everything to destroy your relationship. this has already happened. and what? scary to imagine. i'm probably still lying about it. no. it certainly won't die. and who will die? maybe i'm something there inside some of my spiritual. maybe something will break for you, i will be cruel cold and everything else. i don't know, just what 's going to happen, you know? well, first of all, you can see what happens. secondly, i once again insist on my phrase. what can you manage that you don’t know that, their tail is from a fox or runs, their tail dangles there, yes, that’s emotions. here i am not. you can control your emotions, if you don't want to leave your daughter, don't, but it's just not up to you. and your connections can be cancelled. it's ok. life is so

undulating more less brighter dimmer warmer, colder. so what? let's imagine. what else could be some happy moment, only not in the past, but in your very near future with your daughter and something was the best. with regards to traveling constantly somewhere in such cities, which, i say, would take for example, on a business trip with me quite right. yes, on a business trip. where is veliky novgorod in general in those cities that are very, very such, they are colorful , all the beautiful old cities there. how much do you give this money to your daughter, when it is different, like i have some amount. can i send it? well, how much does it cost, well, 700 rubles. 1.000 rub. this is a month exactly this it was very rare. yes, i immediately i will say before that, because as much as i asked no. and so, well, here is the son of 200 rubles. i just send her 10, for example, i asked for 500 sent there, damn it, absolutely asks. yes,

it just writes unexpectedly. writes every time. this is unexpected. i advise you to stop. wait for alimony, so the relationship we agreed that yes, she sends me well, from the apartment from all over. and i, this you left the apartment, that is , you left everything, and you said to your wife that you would not claim anything acquired jointly and this, as it were, extinguishes the element. well me seems to be quite fair. well, this is not fair, because as a result of cases, at least in my practice , when several years pass there, but, and the husband is presented as a result, the gift of documents, unfortunately, agreed to do it now, most likely, i think so that advisers who are already opposed. she says no documents. we do not sign anything will. you are living in peace now. live this situation pours water on the mill of your mother-in-law,

that here he is spineless in words, from which you can’t take anything. and that's it. well, if you have white salary from you, they will take more, i assure you, and you are the first about it. tell me my advice to you. remember yourself. what were you like 10 years ago? here is strong. such an energetic man who earns money, who probably enjoyed great respect in his environment. yes, you knew you were so authoritative with you greeted on the street. yes, it was a pleasure to be your wife. your mother-in-law, for sure, has repeatedly emphasized who her son-in-law is, you miss that state very much, so i’m trying to achieve the same. that might be good now mikhail that he is so focused on work, maybe he needs to build his life, achieve, where there is an opportunity,

achieve, where you are not interfered with. yes, daughter yes teenager yes dangerous. yes, i'm sorry, i'm the father of two teenage daughters. well, not everything is in our power. not everything is in our power. you see where you can break through, that is, the wall. become stronger and more successful, think about your future. think about your relationship. think about your health, but if they don’t ask you, well, why are you running after her daughter? do you know more sometimes it's useful not to think about tactics, not to think about these steps that you will take tonight tomorrow morning, but think about the result. here i give you this homework . think of a picture of the future. well, for example. sunday morning, this is your daughter's wedding. and you are already such an adult man with a gray hair and you are leading her. to

the crown and she is very strong. i'm worried, he squeezes your hand with his fingers. and leans on it. and in that moment, do you understand? that there are no forces in this world that will destroy your relationship? you are a good father. you beautiful daughter. you deserve this happiness. you fell and got up. from the fact that you fell, and then got up, you only became stronger and cooler. wake up every morning. with this thought, and lie down, everything will be with you. here is what natalia does. this is called stroking. i'm generally against these stories. say your homework. i think that the more realistic our outlook on life is, the less these

visualization fantasies are in it, we have, damn it, half the country sits and visualizes how they will have everything in the future fine. instead of working, you understand, i am in favor of working to achieve success. now do something. well them. well, uh, it's better to tune yourself to what is in reality, and not to what we do. i would very much like it to be, well, it will be fine. no okay sergey follow michael's advice but in the morning and in the evening. okay, remember my words, too, it is quite difficult to live. i think you will find. i think you will find a balance. believe fantasies for women for men purpose. well friends? what a wonderful story there was in this episode, a podcast of the psyche, where we are a journalist, la loseva and a candidate of psychological sciences , clinical psychologist mikhail khors, just by the strings we analyze human destinies.

re-assembling the path to happiness, which, of course, deserves each of us take care of the psyche. podcast of the creative industry in the studio elena hyper and roman pockets producer and media manager and ceo of the presidential fund for cultural initiatives podcast just to say compliments, because today we have a little folk artist visiting us. hello here we are in the creative industry podcast for you.

it is not surprising that operas have turned out to be inside the creative industry at all. yes , it's not surprising to me at all, because, uh, it seems to me, or rather, i'm even sure that opera is very fashionable and opera is such a genre now. where does the uh different contingent of people come who know what they want to listen to and believe that the art of opera is our theater and they are not empty, but when you are in the hall you see, here are the people in the hall directly, here are the eyes, what kind of people are filling up now for care and, uh, some part of the hall, of course i see, but i know that there is a full hall, and mainly it is energy, of course. and if this is a concert, then if we are closer to the audience, then, of course, yes. i really love people who have a contingent, people who want to sit very close to the stage.

that's sometimes difficult. of course, uh, if this is a sarkestrom and and if this is such a volume, then, of course, you want to be a little further away for for the scope of work to be different. we also work on sound and work with our voice in a different way, and when there are chamber stories and chamber life on stage, it’s ah, it’s very comfortable when there is a piano accompanist, uh, and a singer, and here are closer people who they sit in the hall, yes, at the opera, when for example, i go there, i go there, but for me it’s quite difficult and a difficult genre to complain, because everything is very sad and dramatic every time there are operas that end well? there are certainly ends. well, they are few, but they are, sure, but mostly uh heroes die, uh,

that's all. it is very sad. but this is amazing music, this is where you need to go. and where you can uhm look. uh, this is the real thing that only music can give, that's why we serve. let's talk about the young. uh, quite people, we still have this podcast. podcasts are young, janus to themselves. well, in general, relatively it was not there at all a few years ago. and, of course, they listen to it a lot, young people in this genre. we also have releases on all platforms. i'm sure in the young so to speak ears will also fall. now, if a person has never been, never have an opera, uh, where should he start and in general can anyone? well, excuse me to stop by the opera. ah, it seems to me that it depends on the family, where they listen to a little or listened

to classical music or listened to other music at all, but the fact that today anyone can come and see, and opera performances or ballet performances and generally come and in a to the opera house. and it seems to me that this is precisely the situation that already exists here, because our youth has come to opera theatres. we have a very young a contingent of listeners who come and want to understand what it is, probably, it is difficult to come to wagner and sit for 6 hours, it really is. well, it is very difficult to be both physically and mentally morally. maybe because you need to be a little prepared for this complex music like this 6 hours wagner, for example, but when there is beautiful, but russian. classics, uh , which, in principle, takes place at the school of eugene onegin, please, you can definitely come see tchaikovsky, you can definitely watch the training, you can hear those opera

performances that, in principle, will be easy for a person who came for the first time. and there are, uh, very easy names love potion. yes , not this, for example, when everything is like splashes of champagne. uh, and uh, which is very important. it seems to me that some arias are some duets from operas. it's already being heard though. still. the youth hears this and the people who come to these performances. that's what i heard. i know this aria for example, and there are a lot of beautiful, amazing recordings. and where we are already familiar with this music, therefore. by the way, i was surprised, uh, a huge amount e on video platforms on podcast platforms. e issues are called conditionally, how to start listening to the opera or how to learn to listen and they have a huge number of downloads. it seems to me that this is in nature, in general, every

person. it's opera, it's so unattainable somewhere. let's have a man want to prove himself. i can there yes and here on. well, at least for the sake of this once go and wagner as psychologists and physicists. er, explain this touching of the very high vibrations of a and the inner alignment. in fact. this is on e, without a conscious level is read, as a kind of uplifting of oneself as a person. a touch of a better self. well, i'm serious. that's why it goes there. maybe, but a person is coming when there is already internal preparation for this, that is, a conscious no, a conscious public. this is the requests inside, because endlessly exist on a few frequency, but simply popular simply popular low-frequency music bits are very difficult to want something. well, to learn something new , moreover, uh, i even know that u people

specially come to classical concerts and that's in order for someone to have spiritual wounds some are bad for some, some want to change the picture in life, some have some kind of psychological trauma and people go so that hmm they have something new in life i had one story . and uh, we have uh a wonderful performance, if you take into account or the world of the murd, the initiations of adolf fury shapiro staged it beautifully when the drama director comes to the opera house, and this is a slightly different kind of picture, and the young man proposed to his girlfriends at the opera house. they asked me to come out so that i could take a picture with them. i ... them congratulated. it was very touching. i'm telling now. it gives me goosebumps. they were young. they are. it's really very touching. and this

is now and uh, people today young people come to the opera and to classical concerts in order to ah, to have some kind of energy recharge, you know. uh, there are people who can come with a headache to a concert and leave completely happy. this is our practice. we we know about it. it is very important. for us for those who serve classical music, but you don't just listen to classical music. you're m-th man number one at the opera, i'm there in general. well, let's say so. yes, but uh, this uh position is already fraught with even greater responsibility, yes, that is, you feel responsible for the promotion of opera music for the future of opera music, in general, the start depends on a huge block of art, whether it lies on your shoulders and how do you deal with it? the main thing i want

to tell you is that i serve music, if this service will do for our country and for the history of classical music, and hmm something very important. i will be happy. i m-m. i have been moving towards this since childhood. i am absolutely happy that i am in classical music. i am absolutely happy that i am in this profession. and i have something to say, of course, in this profession. i hope that but those periods of life, the stages in my life are wrong, and now, we are somehow moving very well. i think thank god for everything. and what would you like? eh, what else have you not tried or not done from what can be said? well, uh no, secrets. no, absolutely. it's just that every singer has a certain stage in life and voice, but age, therefore, of course not, performances. i want to work with others. and most importantly health and sound. the sound of purity and

ambition is like this, but a person’s time resource is limited and the most valuable thing we have. uh, after all, you can only be engaged in a profession, and now in moscow, not so long ago , an international uh, uh opera competition ended. eh, and i saw that scene. did i see you leave? how did they get out. uh, your pupils can already be said, and it still takes a huge amount of time from you why are you doing this? this is a certain stage in my life, and i am absolutely sure that our competition should be. eh, at least. we tried very hard to make this competition one of the most interesting and important cultural events in our country, and it was very important that it was. the main thing is on the stage of the stanislavsky nerovich theater, daichenko, because, uh, i grew up there, as a singer, and me. it seemed that it was very

natural to do something new on the stage of the stanislavsky nemirovich-danchenko theater. what are those guys the young people we made this competition for are the young guys, the guys are young singers who have already sung a little, who need help in order to be listened to, who need help to go further, but hmm who could continue after this competition to continue your career and career development in a slightly different direction, it is important to have a path, uh, it is important to have a path that has people who can help you. and then, when you stand on the stage, when you serve the music. and when you can say something to the audience, uh, and to force this viewer to come to you, but because they know what they want and why did they come? this is exactly what education is. about who.