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were you surprised like this story with condensed milk? here's what surprised you. so you will remember until the last uh second of your life. our life sasha is here, maybe 36 years old and every day communication with him or life with him. it has always been a surprise. it was every day, this is the case when i can’t isolate something like that. he so wanted me at the first among. our company were zhiguli that is, i had a zhiguli of the seventy- sixth year. i just graduated and was considered the richest. well we knew it smart no, it is the richest. you had television, then in the nineties . you hosted such shows on television , and the most trump ones understood. we what it was when i saw you in the best hotels in the best i was driven from a man. and you yourself walked, you understand? so yes, so what? sorry, i had a zhiguli and sasha also dreamed of a zhiguli and
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finally. we, uh, at the same time, all this was on cards , for some reason i had a zhiguli because the war veteran gave me the card, the accompanist. on death, very private, who accompanied us in shchukin. uh, i loved the school very much and we went together to varshavka, and then we drove only on my zhiguli, uh, for a long time, a year and a half, and sasha a years. it was such a time when you could stop right at the wto restaurant and you didn’t have to take off the wipers. do you remember how the wipers didn’t film , it didn’t seem to be and nothing later, when the car would have become bigger, they began to steal it all. and finally, sasha bought a car. he drove badly. well, rather, how to say? that's how he often hit the car, well and uh, braked wrong and will be caught up. that 's when all our bachs are already driving. he's still on summer tires and so on. and so on and so
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on. it was generally that in your life. but such love friendship happened. i, for one, envy you. i think that everyone who watches the podcast now, the letters envy you. i think it's natural and i want to wish everyone a rarity. yes, to watch sashkin's films. he is absolutely a man provocateur of life , he provokes joy for happiness and, of course, uh, we must remember our third an incredible friend - you see ivanov viktor petrovich, our most important and stuntman. here we are such a trinity was still vitya, you see , you can’t see and not remember, or rather, remember nothing. he is alive and well. he is ours too. we are all the same year, i congratulate you on the royal anniversary. thank you. yes, thanks to channel one for remembering this today and those who love sasha, and they certainly do. are we grateful that we talk about him? father?
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yes, and for those who did not know sasha, maybe this will provoke them to get to know him, i mean, well done thank you big letter. my guest is a wonderful leonid yermolnik and we talked about alexander abdulov, who would have turned 70 on may 29 . hello, this is under kostrigera and with you its leading psychologist, psychotherapist tatyana krasnovskaya and a psychologist. psychotherapy for yourself and visiting us today alena hello. hello arina, what did you come to us with? tell me, my child has a restrictive selective eating disorder , he is 4 years old. and i think this is directly
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related to me with my overprotectiveness and with my anxiety, because i'm a very anxious mom, can i even ask what is a selective eating disorder? i ’m sitting here now and i understand that i don’t understand a damn thing, the child eats a limited number of foods up to twenty and does not try. nothing new, in general you are trying to offer him to eat something else there. he doesn’t even take it in his hand, very rarely he can take it, sniff it, but he categorically does not try it. how to do it, there are other children. and how did this idea come about, so the name of such a diagnosis, yes, restrictive selective device. the fact is that the last person to whom we turned was hmm was a child psychologist, and who dealt with precisely these issues, and who so far
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has not helped us either. that is, she said that this is what is called like this, she suggested that i read a book that was called like this when i started reading it. well, that is, it was not in vain that a person suggested it to me, probably. yes, i just came across the term. got it. so, when you got acquainted with this term, it became easier for you inside. i'm just curious identified this problem. ah. these are the 20 foods that your child eats, as if a child, it seems, lives like a normal one. yes, what's the problem? well, no, he is the twenty-first product, or what do you understand? uh, there are some difficulties because i work and i have to pick up the child from the kindergarten not at 6 o'clock. like everyone else somewhere, yes, and at three, that is , i'm because of this, because he eats, because he does not eat, he has classes. that is, i will take him to football, because if he has not eaten, because i understand that he will be there waste energy and god forbid he becomes. bad and why should he cost badly, but he didn’t eat, it can be bad for him to communicate once when we turned to one of the now
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fashionable names of a neuropsychologist, and she offered us not to feed him. well, that is to offer something else. here, add something else. and if he refuses, let him go to bed as a hungry sponsor, we will try that , and on the same night the child became very ill. he began to vomit at night, and i was so scared with my husband. we wrote the next day to a neuropsychologist, and she said, we leave everything as it is, do not touch it, that is, after that i realized that i definitely would not do such experiments. and tell me, it was always like this when he was born. hmm, firstly, that we immediately noticed what we immediately noticed, and so that i don’t eat. even then i was breastfeeding, and he was all strewn, that is, he had dermatitis. i even just sat on one buckwheat. and still had dermatitis. and then he became older for about a year, we decided to take all the tests and we were told that he had intolerance. and cow protein
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is still there, in general, we had to limit his nutrition for six months, that is, complementary foods were introduced, but in limited quantities. yeah, but he also ate soups. that is, he ate, borisov wanted to try everything. he tried it right. well, that is what we are let's what we have allowed. he tried it all. he ate. yes, he didn’t really eat fruit, he didn’t eat a banana there, but at the same time he ate apples and a pear. now he doesn't eat it. at what point everything changed everything changed about a year and a half ago. this it was autumn hmm my mom she lived with us at that time she left with my nephew to take him to another country, and we were left alone and it turned out that i got very sick and i remember that we had already asked to go to the store to buy greens, because that i cooked soup for a child. and threw the greens at the last moment. e into the broth, that is, it was not boiled and i had the feeling that he seemed to be choking, because literally within a few weeks after this event, his diet was sharply narrowed down
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to doctor's pasta cereals, yogurt sausages uh-huh well, that is, everything that is very soft is easily swallowed, that is, it seems that when he choked, he was frightened. you were scared, no one was scared. i don't remember us being really scared. that is, i didn’t have any memory left, there wasn’t any emotional experience. nobody held bill on the back. not shaking with my head yet, that i remember that at that moment. but it was more my fear was not a child. and since i all feel bad. i asked myself for blood to cut food prepare for the soup, and before that i washed the tiles. and when i got up to go cook the soup, i saw on the board some kind of it seemed to me that this was a tool. i was afraid that i would now cook ugu soup with this remedy for the child. although later i understand with my brain that it’s just potato starch, but at that moment i was very scared
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well, your pregnancy, when did it pass, how did you eat? i ate everything you have one child one. and how old are you 35 35. plan a second one, to be honest, we really wanted a second child right away, but after as i gave birth, i had a feeling that you were changing all your strength, all your health, and i just, and of you there is a whole person. so i just understand that my body is not yet ready for this, as it is today, when you give your child some new product, how does he react. so why is he screaming? no, i don't want to. leave me alone . leave me alone. the child should not eat vitamins. you can't eat vitamins. so what is his favorite food
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? what is the culture like food for your family? how do you eat in the morning woke up or have breakfast all together or everyone ate when they had time in the evening, it turns out only a weekend, so as a spouse, it is very early to leave for work. and then we wake up. that is, i feed him, because he needs to eat before the kindergarten. he won't eat there. well, tomorrow yourself. well, how did you spread a sandwich for him, and you yourself ate porridge or there was porridge with bread and butter. at the same time , it is worth mentioning that at the age of four and a half he does not want to hold a spoon, that is, he asks me to feed him. in the morning and evening, he only eats at lunch by himself. in the last three months he began to eat a little broth. even the teacher began to send me a video and , accordingly, you took him to the garden for caramel breakfast. sadovo took him away and fed him.
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yes, there is more than pasta, doctor's, sausage, pasta. excellent. does anyone in your family have or had , maybe someone had some kind of nutritional health problems in childhood, i ate poorly. well, in the sense that i ate little, not limited, that is, an unlimited diet. a little in principle, here and at the age i started having problems with the stomach and to a greater extent. this is most likely due to stress. and your child can eat boiled broccoli, for example, will become. he is no, he won't. well, you didn't feed him. as i understand it, well, only when complementary foods were introduced, he still ate it, like in a jar. yes, i continued, i want to continue, respectively, when you have dinner like these squandered we sit down at the table, there is a spouse. i am a child first i feed him accordingly. ugh later. my husband and i are eating. and you eat what are you and your husband eating? i don’t know borsch, but he eats pasta like this, well, it turns out,
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or are you also going pasta at this moment, what, maybe we have pasta? it may coincide, maybe it's normal, but it's good, he asks you to buy some food for the street, there are chewing gums, sweets, all sorts of sucking lollipops, and rarely very much. well, that is, we even go to the store. that is, he will come in there . he will say don’t forget to buy me a sausage, there is a fruit nanny and a lollipop. do not forget, but here, let's say, as some children come up there, he has some. and in this the sense of desire when he enters some supermar is not even that desire. he just knows that we go grocery shopping for the weekend, and there i always write with my spouse, and he controls that they don’t forget about him. yes, yes, that is what it looks like. more than that, don't forget my sausage, my butter . well, your child someday eats something, but in nature, such as strawberries from the garden and tomatoes from the garden, apricots from the tree. no,
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no, because it does not appear in such circumstances or not. the spouse's parents have a dacha, that is, everything is a tomato, but we can try and collect with him together in any way. uh-huh you have pets. no, he sees some domestic animals on the street , some there in the zoo he fed someone, somehow they saw him there. yeah, he likes to feed other animals. well, yes, but there are some traditional meetings in your family for 100 years, you go to your mother there, i don’t know where else you go to visit. here he knows that everyone sits down. that's all gathered. there sits with you at the table. cover separately. no, it’s like we always try to put a plate for him at the table, just in case. happening. well, he's leaving to play, or we 'll try to sit there and eat with us. no, he's leaving to play. here comes your big extended family. there are others. euro children, messengers. or
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something older is not, but we somehow came. here to visit where the children were. well, there he ate pancakes among everyone there. ate cheesecakes. basically a child. actually eats food. quite a good thing, but you are embarrassed that he does not want to. there are no others to try anything else, because, well, that is, vitamins, as such, he essentially does not receive. not really, it turns out, maybe it would be possible to expand the diet, but i don’t know, i remember myself as a child. i think i grew up on bread and butter with sugar. and accordingly, this is what i ate during the day in the evening, but i don't know how i ate any fly let's suppose. yes, i don’t know about potatoes, but we just ate a lot of things on the street that grew. so somehow we got some vitamins well? and he, accordingly, does not try, does not eat. and that is, it somehow feeds on how easily you try something new. i generally
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easy, that is for you. i do not know there to introduce not from food, but new activities some new ways of spending time new relationships. how easy is it for you, in general , to introduce something new into your life. well, in principle, not difficult, but maybe just with the birth of a child. it somehow became less. i don't change jobs often, no, that's not the case. uh. well, like trying something new. in principle, i can, but i say, it was somehow more in my youth. well, that is, it’s easier, probably, like this , they became, suddenly a mother, yes, and it began to go away to no and be limited somehow. yes, your child sees you in some activities, where do you try yourself in a new way? i don’t know, the child sees you, that you went there and suddenly started singing recently. he saw that i went to the pool, because initially he went there and the other day he saw me swimming there,
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but just in a big pool. this was a new yes, in our studio, we meet with the students of the great master pyotr novomyvych fomenko of the theater he created, therefore this year it is being celebrated. he hypnotized me, stunned me and the man sat and thought, luda but you're a fool. don't go. it was impossible for her. when i looked at him, i lost consciousness. i just looked at him and that's it. after the show, i just went to the cooler for some water, petromochka sneaks in the empty corridor at night. and he said dirosai theater is a temple and is dedicated to acting or getting out. look, i didn’t even approach them, and then i said, you will come here to the theater and heal all this early on the table. that's how he
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shouted, kirill do not value. t fucking, and do not dare to get involved. i went up to him and said pyotr i love you immediately fluffed up. well, natasha, don't hold back tomorrow after the time that program, i went to the points alone. this is a podcast triggers, and with you we are its leading psychologist, psychotherapist tatyana krasnovskaya, psychologist, psychotherapist sergey for herself, and our guest, alena, tells a story about the behavior of food selectivity of her own son. what does it mean to you to be a mother? what is this? this is to be an example. it
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's a big responsibility in that you're not only responsible for your own life another person it's hard. ah, to be honest, then in my opinion. and now, after the birth of a child, i tell many friends there i know that for me it is to be a mother. this is the hardest job in the world. that is, only with the birth of a child. i realized that no other job would be like this. this is ugh good. have you ever been to some exotic countries, such as thailand india no, you haven't been. well, only egypt and turkey are all so-so exotic but, for example, how do you imagine yourself? how will you react when you are offered to eat some fried zhukov worms, i think i'll try. try yes, that is, you are not afraid to eat on the street, even in the same turkey, in the same egypt. well, that is, inside, it seems to me
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that i will not only reproach myself, well, that is, i think to myself, probably, then you will feel bad uh-huh well, i'll try. uh-huh and if the son was next to you and when they offered fried bugs and he would generally not mind, they gave him a try. i don't think so, why? well, because for some reason my first thought is that in the first place. eh, my husband would be against it. well, i probably do too. because i still don’t know myself, that is , i probably tried it first, i would have waited a day, and then, well, that is, well, no, what is it? it is unlikely that what kind of responsibility would be to blame? uh, the role, yes, to be a mother, and you easily accepted it, immediately accepted it. or did you think that it would be somehow different, it would be much easier, and it seems to me, it turned out that in fact, this is a huge responsibility, not practically strong, it seems to me, yes, well, that is, firstly, i am
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such a person enough, but i was alive and active here again. uh-huh and you, as if abruptly plant houses you don't really belong to yourself. uh huh and. well, it's a big responsibility to cope with it. ah, it was hard, and after about a year hmm, a little more i even had depression. postpartum postpartum, well, that is , it was such a delay, how serious it was. it was very serious, because i even had to turn, and first to a psychologist. i was looking for a psychologist, then ah. we didn't get along with him. that is, after two or three months, i realized that it was hard for me to work with this person, and i turned to psychotherapist. uh, we tried to resolve the issue. that is, no pills were prescribed. wow, about
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a month. i took them, but i realized that this is not mine. i felt very bad for them and physically mentally. and i left them after a while. i found another psychologist. we worked with him for some time. i realized that again this was not mine, and then women advised me, and we worked with her for about six months. and this, it seems to me , saved me, that is, in terms of time, how long it lasted, all this was about a year, like your depression is gone. as it manifested itself , i will say right away it is terrible. and it always seems like before it happened to me. i thought, god, what is depression? yes, how is it possible and only when you yourself are in this state, only then do you understand from the outside to people. probably this. well, it's somehow inexplicable, or something, i was lying in bed. i
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didn't even want to get up and didn't want to wake up. i just couldn't do anything. i took my holiday account from work. i didn't work, not even for a while, because i i couldn't find the strength to do anything at all. that is, it’s even hard to stand up as a dude, in fact. yes? ugu and the son was nearby, and practically. well, yes, that is, she lived with us, my mother at that time, my mine ah, that is, in the same apartment. yes, he saw it. in the suburbs well, you and your husband spend time together trying. well, like once a week once every 2 weeks somehow. here you go somewhere, we try to go to a cafe or go to a cafe there. how do you choose what you will eat for dinner with your spouse. well, to be honest, in the last time, we practically choose the same thing. i thought so too. and what is the probability that you get tired like this today, he says,
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today we will eat, for example, there is thai food tomorrow vietnamese. well, or there is vietnamese food. well, in general, as there is such a possibility. or if you offer your husband to eat some aztec cuisine, then he says some sex cuisine has gone crazy, send our favorite teahouse. well, that is, we had attempts a couple of times simpler something new and we came across the fact that, well, it’s not tasty for us and we realized that this is our favorite our favorite place doesn't taste good to him either. he doesn't like it either. it's just very concentrated inside him in general, in principle, you know, i watch my son. i have both kids, but i'm the same myself. until, uh, 15, i didn't eat anything that wasn't cooked by my mom. i didn’t go to camps, because of this i didn’t go to any, but practically didn’t go anywhere. and if i went somewhere, they gave me a bunch of products with me, such as sausages, that’s all there, so that i could somehow live. i have exactly the same children and watching my son grow up, just in this
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age i discovered a very interesting and defensive reaction that actually exists in all children, but i dedicated it to him, and in this sense it is called noah like that, that is, when something new is not only food, but in food including offered to my little son. he first said no, and then looked, what offers. this is not. and i realized that this is the protective function of the child from everything new. and this is a very important function, because a child of a certain age explores this world. ah, well, the taste to the touch, yes, and so on, but in a certain moment the child begins to defend himself against everything new, then with age. this is protection, uh , developed in an adult and an adult generally tries to live the most stable comfortable life so that nothing new breaks in. and if it breaks in, then under control, yes, it somehow breaks in, and therefore this is the age when such protection begins to form in children. and look, you say, we tried tasteless ones, we go to the same cafe, this is
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strange. i understand you, but this is strange. if you asked me, for example, 15 years ago, i would not just understand you, i would say the right thing and you are doing it, but suddenly you will be poisoned in another place. because i haven't eaten anywhere. if i came somewhere abroad, and i came there almost with my food , relatively speaking, yes, there, i always ate only what i know how it looks alive or there in the garden and this is how it looks here, but 15 years, maybe a little more ago. i set myself such a task that now i will be everything in general, that's all that they give. i will eat everything. the only thing i have failed in my life. and this is where it gets hard. this is tibetan both of you and your husband have tea. in fact , food selectivity is present and why i asked how you eat? as you can see. what is the culture of your dinners at, and so on, and of course the child sees this and he cannot but learn this, because you are raising your so-called child. that is, he impresses your behavior inside himself. in the end, this is his behavior. well, and, accordingly, further
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it seems to him that this is his personality. right now. his personality, as if it had just begun to take shape. not even formed yet. she begins to take shape, including this one. uh, protection from your suggestions. this is the formation of his personality, while he is just an individual, but there is another very important point. ah. i'm going to make the assumption that when you were coming out of that depression, one of the pillars that you got out of was your child. and it was your identification, mother, of course, that i should go beyond depression, because i am a mother, because if something happens, not what happens, i will tell you a secret. nothing happened at all. would cry and find i would have a new mother, i don’t know my stepmother there, it would be like in a good fairy tale, bad, it doesn’t matter. yes, but it was the identity that got you out of there. and as soon as she pulled you out. she hooked you up with your son again. she's just hooked on you. and that's why he plays with you . mom, my leg hurts. feed me. yes, mom, i can’t hold a fork with my hand, feed
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me, because this is your game with him and you play in this sad one. he loves it and you love it. this is obviously all absolutely right in that it is anxiety. this is yours and the game is yours and he plays along with you. this is its symptom. it's not his problem. he's just playing along. let's try to figure it out. why do you already have such anxiety ? please tell me about your childhood, about your family. i have a mom. the brother was the father. well, that means it was when i was seven years old, my parents divorced, and my mother and i left with my brother for four years. i didn’t have parents who lived together, like what a family was like, while they were together, it’s not like that. you know, it comes to mind that this is my childhood. this is a disturbing childhood. something is happening to you right now
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because your father raised his hand against your mother. the father understood the hand on his brother. and there were moments when i was scared for the life of my brother and my father did not raise his hand to me, but it was all before my eyes. this happened repeatedly. yes, brother, even a 40-degree frost ran away from home barefoot in particular, yes. and so, at some point, my mother realized that, well, just when the hammer had already flown to me. that he just one day, well, it can happen scary? she brought us together. we first moved into an apartment to her friend, after some time, the father returned us. found returned knelt asking my mother to return. then all the same everything returned
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to normal and my mother packed things for him and went to my grandmother to her mother and so on together. and then everything was relatively calm, but only i remember that i was like a child, as if there was something wrong with me. well, that is, i had some fears, as if i was always inside, and then, when i started to grow up, it so happened that my mother was, brother, he at that time drove met with the fourth wife and also moved in with his grandmother. he also drank heavily. danger i remember very well that i had a fear of coming home from school. i didn't want to go home . i always had some kind of fear at school, and i can't stand drunk people. do you communicate with your father now? at the moment, no, and
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recently, on the advice of just the same psychologist. she told me that in a good way it would be either how to write a letter, as if to a father , or in a good way, to find in general where he , if possible, to call him there talk, i tried to find him, but i had the only one. the connection is through my cousin . i write to her, she does not answer. uh-huh , i don't know how to find my father anymore. i don’t even know if he is alive, and how they coped with this fear, well, as if he hid it in his life with your mother or your brother with words. i mean threatened. words do not remember what is yours. well, their lives are in danger. the pope represents this threat. ah, that is, you understand, he can
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stab to kill for souls, yes, that is, such pictures were somehow imagined some day. how can you protect them. perhaps you fell asleep there and thought how strong you were, for example, you would beat him. that is, that's what i can do there, no. and i curled up and closed my eyes. i will ask you to think again in this sense, remember , maybe, yes, some fantasies that gave birth to everything, these are girls, how she can save these people close to her to leave. well take them away. how are you? maybe this little girl, how is she? can still cope with this monster to forgive this. well, i i think that at that moment she did not perceive in any other way. i remember what my mother told me. alyona, go calm your dad down. and so i
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went there. talked to him. somehow she stroked him to calm him down. mom gave him some pills to make him fall asleep, but there was no threat to you. why did mom send you if dad in such a state of very angry never raised his hand to me, mom said that he loved me very much, that is, she says that she always has such a picture before her eyes, she will iron her shirt there , there me dressed, and we went for a walk. and the pope was so proud. here i go for a walk with my daughter. i have this fantasy of fear of poisoning. either you were afraid of being poisoned, or somewhere this could somehow sound. hmm it seemed to me at that moment, just when you were afraid that you could poison the child with detergent, right? uh-huh now, if
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you imagine that it is like a spasm , this fear arose. well, here you are. yes, and so you said, i suddenly had the thought that if somewhere in the body it definitely should have been spasm. that's where it could spasm in your body, it's good in practice now, direct your attention there and try it right here, as if, well, the strength to spasm this part. just notice this spasm and try to tell me that you feel good there. i want to rip out. it's the body's defense mechanism. one of the five survival instincts. it's called spitting it will protect. when i am very nervous, worried, i feel sick, and this reflex begins in me and when the child
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mine, but does not want to eat something, or he says, i'm full. yes, you don't want to. he starts doing this. here i have why i say that my fantasy gives me reason to believe that this is directly related to danger. so, in general, you are, as it were , used to just this danger. well, how to pull out of yourself, yes, and that means to defend yourself , you imprinted this protection into this child. that is, here you give him a cucumber, yes , suppose that he does not eat with you, you know, but he is squeamish, he says, he has disgust. she expresses herself in this way. and this is the absolute protection of the survival instinct, because now it is important for him to survive. and when you're angry, and i think you're like me when the child refuses to eat an apple or a strawberry or something to try. yes, at that moment you actually have it with him. here is the same desire, it binds you very much, and
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at this moment, of course, you cannot do anything, because you are spasmodic , the child is spasmodic. if you don't relax, he won't relax. so far you are connected so strong for another year and a half. yes i this fear of life , which actually led you into depression, because the advent of a child into your life tore it apart, all all the patterns are only possible so yes, alena, a free woman, disappeared. yes, this alena mother appeared with all these problems and so on. yes, and at this moment, as if even depression itself, in general. it is very similar to what you have, as if you feel sick and sick all the time, your head is spinning and you are trying. and this is the connection you have with the child, but here it would be worth noting a very simple thing. try it with your spouse diversify your diet. that's just what you want other cafes know tatyana when we travel, she sometimes eats in places
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that i don’t have, i wouldn’t go there, i’m afraid, despite the fact that she has food selectivity. but when tanya is hungry, she will eat live cockroaches. if need be, that is, she is not, well, and this is actually a very, well, so to speak, not just a bold position. and this is how my instinct works, you know, and it’s the other way around for me, as i told you. yes? that is, at me first denial comes, then i force myself. no, i'll try everything once and it's there. and what to try, in the end. why did i assume that the fear of poisoning? and also the fear of poisoning the child, the fear of being poisoned, the fear of being poisoned , the fear of poisoning in general, yes, why? i assumed you didn't agree with that fantasy, but the kid might have a fantasy that the only way i can deal with a strong man is if i poison him. i don’t insist, i just propose to think about this topic, because children fantasizing children survive their own
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fantasies. when did he offend you? someone, for example, an older fantasize that you will have a superpower there, i don't know. you can fly fly away to get there sword treasurer, whatever? yes, that's why try to diversify yourself. and what about the child? alain here in general, relax. just relax and unconditionally. ah. let your child get hungry if you try to give him this one until he says. i want to eat and you offer him, for example, do not mock him, like, here until you eat broccoli, like, you won’t eat no, quietly, quietly, so that he himself understands what he needs to eat, that is, in fact. don't take food away from him. and you will notice that he is eating, watch him. watch how he will act. but at this point you will be very scared. i assure you. and here i am telling you about it. it’s just with this fear that you just need to work; he also suggested that if you go back a little, that the state that
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you described, when you were afraid for your brother and for mom. and when you were just a baby and went to bed. so, curled up, you understand that there is some kind of selectivity in relation to you. and it’s as if this, and this is not quite omnipotence, gives the fantasy what sergei is talking about. but this e still gives some other position. and you can save. yes, they are very scary. and this remaining fear and the remaining ideas about what you can save, she found a way out now in your relationship with the child in this way. and this very often becomes such a psycho-emotional basis in a child. allergies, because allergies that occur in children are often associated with a danger to parents when parents are afraid for the child. and accordingly, they try to secure it, so to speak, because it is not
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an allergy and selectivity. it's just protection. that's when you start to live it calmly with this fear. yes, nausea. here i told you directly. try to catch with a groove. it has a lot of healing energy for both you and the child. that is, the problem is not with the child at all. well, it's just playing along. yes he just playing along with you. you seem to have transferred this part of the symptom to him, and it is external, that's all to get rid of. learn to live it, learn to do very simple things, for example, as now the conscious has suggested that you hide. yes, it's relaxing. you can't and when the next time it comes up. you strain even more right now, you hypertrophy, and then let go, it will still remain tense, but slowly strain part of it. you will learn how to relax this part and it will pass. well, it's not right away, of course, leave, right? still you need to focus on yourself, not on the child. how correctly did sergey say
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to stop feeding him? in principle, my husband would somehow throw such an idea to me a couple of times, but then, apparently, he succumbed to my anxiety; it was completely new for me. you've just dug into my feelings. now i will practice it super. and you know, try your husband, probably now will be when to watch this program. he will hate me, but you can try to leave them alone for a couple of days. we had such an idea. you will see, that men eat differently. it was a podcast triggers, and with you were his leading psychologist, psychotherapist. tatyana krasnovskaya, psychologist, psychotherapist sergey on herself and alena with a story about the child's behavior of food selectivity.
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