in addition to all the others, such doubts in the relations of women's ukraine, the most important thing for them is that to insure and save the hypothetically nightingale face in case the operation really goes further and fails and ends with the defeat of the current one. e mode. so these are the israeli models, of course. e. e, you know, such a tortured variant begins to look for something like that. uh, something like step forward or one and a half steps, forward. well it's it's not a membership, except moreover, still israeli. here, when just simply as a specialist in the near one can say so much that the israeli american cooperation, including the military sphere. this is a completely unique item. this is worked out from the scheme. these are certain permissions. these are certain options. you can go as far as you can, but it's not all the same not an alliance, but, uh, with a group of countries. this is a very tight organ. as a soldier once called

the cooperation between israel as a state and the united states as a state is this different? i think these options. they certainly look absolutely artificial for this situation. well, for russia, in any case, this option is also unacceptable, because for us the israeli model is the transformation of ukraine into a militarized anti-russia on steroids, and from a military point of view, the israeli model is superiority over regional countries and over the neighbors that israel has. it is a developed military -industrial complex. what ukraine is not now. this is the tacit possession of nuclear weapons for a minute. this is also an israeli model. at the same time, the united the states turn a blind eye to the fact that israel has nuclear weapons ivan pavlovich, from a military point of view, firstly, we will implement it or this , and secondly, don’t you think that they are talking about the israeli model, well, westerners are doing everything not only for this and not so much for russia to accept this model, but for russia to simply not have it. there is no other

choice but to go to the complete elimination of ukrainian statehood, well, in fact, here we were talking about germany, uh, you know, this is somewhat akin to that israeli model for ukraine this is a few. akin to what the germans and the european union mean, uh, they propose to make this one on the territory of ukraine, like the opening of this large gas hub, it means a storage facility, and at another moment it is the construction of a panther a tank plant on the territory of ukraine, which is doubly funnier, it’s like this also a military notion that no one will implement. and obviously the germans are still up to the end of the amount. they got off. although, in fact, there are many signs of this. ah, as regards israeli model. well, firstly, it’s still here, considering all of the above, one must also take into account the powerful israeli jewish diaspora in washington, dc, which solve many political issues, and in favor , uh, of israel.

maybe she doesn’t have political tools overseas, and , especially in europe, where they pissed everyone off for a long time, so she’s based, just on this, on mutual understanding from if there is no mutual understanding here. uh, if they want to implement it, it means there should be a training ground where all people are soldiers and are aimed exclusively against russia, but so, if, based on such a model, the country is nourished. ah, finally, crazy about nationalism. this will spill over into all neighboring countries, not only russia. they tackle all their political issues here, relying on washington in history, by the way, nato members often fought on their own. well , the united states fought in vietnam, although they pulled the australians there, well, not members against the british members, but portugal fought in the colonies, and introduced a long and very intense war with weapons and money, and for all the persuasion of nato to stop doing this, turn to european security, soaked. there were gradients, if they want

to create the same situation, supposedly, all of a sudden, by accepting ukraine and creating this. she seems to be nato well , listen, she's so separate. let him do what he wants. and we will give them everything, well, they will not let mine into nato. we are her toys. just let's go to the sandbox. no , let everyone eat next to play. now, if they want such an option, crank it out, then, most likely, uh, we'll be back talking about it. they just can't find the format. the only possible format. in this, it's a bilateral treaty, direct by the united states. through which the united states will put pressure on other countries so that they participate, so to speak, in uh, fueling the very same, but the nazi state on the same nazi state onsteroids. well, for us, this is in any case an unacceptable option, what is one , what is the second? oh well, but you need to understand that a hybrid war. west against russia is the epicenter of the wider more global struggle from the exodus which will depend on the world order.

and now, as johns ho hawkins university professor writes, this is one of the leading american hellbrands universities, and there is a new edition of the battle for eurasia, in fact , several times in history there was a classic geopolitical struggle of the world island, which was either great britain or the united states and the eurasian massif , the total resources of which are many times greater than the resources of this world island, so the island was interested in keeping eurasia split. here now, according to hell brenz, there is a new edition of this battle. listen as russian president vladimir putin's recklessness rally advanced democracies, it is accelerating the construction of a bastion of eurasia manned by the enemies of the free world , china's middle-zionist autocracies russia iran and to a lesser extent north korea are not just seeking power in their regions. they form strategic alliances on the world's largest continent and develop commercial transport networks beyond the reach of donskoy dollar, and for the

us navy - this is not yet a full-fledged alliance of autocracy. however, this is a block of opponents and more cohesive and dangerous than anything. what the united states has faced in recent decades, all the great conflicts of modern times have been the struggle for eurasia, where opposing coalitions have fought for dominance of this supercontinent and its surrounding oceans for the us as a superpower. it is imperative to maintain the global balance of power by keeping eurasia divided washington again leads a coalition of democratic states on the outskirts of eurasia opposing countries located in the center of the continent at this time , undecided players are maneuvering to obtain the greatest advantages. the current moment is so daunting because of the opportunist swing states. they will also influence the course of the struggle between the bastion of eurasia and the free world oleg viktorovich well, as the return of classical geopolitics. yes, and i, then back to what i started otherwise this is a political zakariya. which is characteristic of the collective

the west, especially for washington, is working today in a big perspective against them, because they are doing everything to ensure that before eurasia is split for various reasons because there have always been big conflicts china india china russia uh iran, that is, this whole huge continent surpasses this island, it certainly, never could be until today such a real strong military, economic and political competitor, the collective west is doing everything, it would absolutely become such a competitor, because its interests today they are precisely such in order to consolidate, find a common language, find common ground on a variety of issues in order to resist this island pressure, the world is building in such a way that history will put everything in its place. there is certainly an economic base under this fortress of eurasia. of course

there is more to this statement. listen, well, to some sense, right here is the power of light. here is the power of darkness, which means kindergarten. here's to me. excuse me. well, some here, but such a childish perception of the world. this is good. this is not bad in life, of course, it doesn’t happen more than that, the foundation is the most powerful. and as we remember, the basis is always the economy. here, and therefore the victory will be. in general, you know, a strange world majority due to eurasia is inevitable, because it is also a matter of the physical availability of resources. all the entire mendele table all the world's resources in the right amount. they are all there , yes, the human three factors of production. yes, everything is earth. there are people, there is capital , there are resources, everything is there for development. that's what i talked about a little earlier, the only question is take advantage of this situation and we have a chance to rebuild the world in a profitable and convenient way for all of us. well, according to professor brenz, the decisive factor in the battle for eurasia, which, in his opinion, will determine the outcome of this battle for eurasia, are those countries that are called hesitant. and here are saudi

arabia and egypt and turkey, that is, strangely the middle east and here. listen to what he recommends to the united states in order to win this new battle for eurasia. states and come to a compromise on the most pressing issues. these countries have good reasons for being ambivalent, so the task will be very difficult and tedious in the united states. you will have to pay for cooperation with saudi arabia, india and other players, offering them real benefits. and at the same time , withholding these benefits when swing state policies run counter to important u.s. interests if america regularly punish swing states for their diplomatic choices, there is a risk turning ambivalent politics into hostility. if washington doesn't do it. he runs the risk of losing all leverage. the struggle for a vacillating state is not just a global race for popularity. it will show the forgiven line

of defense that the us must build around the bastions of eurasia or it will be full of holes. and one of the best experts in russia on these very states, which professor brans calls hesitant, how will they behave? here, look, we are talking about eurasia to find out, monday and tuesday were meeting with middle eastern states. here, just on the problems of the middle east of the persian gulf. well, of course, such global issues were also touched upon. accordingly, what is interesting, interesting, in a completely new way , these countries began to behave in a much more liberated way, the saudi representative. he spoke very fluently. he communicated very easily with the iranian. they used to sit at these meetings in different places each. and well, they said hello there, now they were leading. eh, in general, such a productive dialogue on the general question of the situation is emerging a new one now. look at their position. now, while the gap is reading, they do not want

to spoil relations with the united states of america. well, they do not see a special future in them, because if the ussr fulfilled the usa, it will fulfill all these wishes to be acceptable and so on. it won't be the united states of america like it is now, that's for sure. and it will be another country. well, there, if there is another country, another conversation, moreover, it is interesting that geopolitical models are being born here now they are with us prof. jared is one of pakistan's largest political scientists uh political public figures, director general of pakistan uh foundation. we are working on the concept with him, and there are already a number of scientists, uh, from different countries participating in this, uh , the geopolitical new space of asia and the middle east, we are talking about eurasia. well, in europe there, there are different countries, the situation is different. here is this eurasia and there is uh, here, uh, part of this majority of the earth's population that merge into political interests in terms of energy and other things

a new such geopolitical entity is formed, this is a very promising process by reflecting this and, as a result of their connection, what and so on, that is , there are a lot of components that indicate that everything is going on. all development is not according to patterns that are beneficial to the west and the west will either have to adapt . well, either means it is necessary to collapse, because well, this is how history works, but here is a wavering country , about which you ask, they hesitate less and more and more determined and not because they are more than someone there or love less, based on their own interests. our position is strong in that our interests largely coincide with those of these states. the most obvious example, of course, is the activity of guardianship plus, where everyone cares about their own interests and it turns out. therefore, in the direction of barricades against western countries that are exclusively selfish in this direction , we see a constant increase in military

military-technical cooperation between russia and these countries of the world majority, including those. we are called brence wavering. well actually most countries. ah. these are those who, in general, but were included in the circle, let's say, of our buyers of our weapons. and i would note. just here is the continuation of the conversation that the west is just trying to adjust. see how the americans are behaving now in the indian arms market. they are trying with all their might to change something there to move us. we have 25% there. we hold approximately. right now they are offering a new contract for drones. and moreover, under the strategic e, there for 2 billion. this is a very large contract. they are now trying to use such methods to draw them in to solve their financial problems. at the same time and immediately draw them into a circle. let's say our clientele. that's rightly suggested, everyone now proceeds from their own interests, because now the real flight plays a huge role, including in anti-christian cooperation. this is precisely the fundamental mistake of the united states and

professor brenz in particular. they consider these countries. hesitant, but it seems to me that they are no longer hesitant states, the united states slept through the fact that the world has changed, these countries are full-fledged subjects of international relations. they don't hesitate. do you know who today with russia tomorrow with the united states, after tomorrow with china, then with the european court? no, they will already become full-fledged subjects of the world economic world political system and claim to increase their independence, their sovereignty and their influence. that is why the process of forming a multipolar world is irreversible. that is why the united states lose in their new battle for eurasia and lose in attempts to restore their hegemony at a cost, and losing russia was a big game. goodbye.

hello this is a podcast of the psyche and we continue to sort through the bones , molecules, atoms, human destinies to look for the right development strategy. well, or just trying to understand how to live, happily my co-host clinical psychologist, candidate of psychological sciences mikhail horst is a true master of this art, but our today's heroine came to us with a problem that how. it seems to me that it will resonate in the hearts of many girls and men too. alena does not know how to part with her beloved alena does not know how to throw out of her heart, a traumatic painful attitude with this she came to us. hello alyona, hello, well

, tell your story. you just don’t know how to part with any lovers at all, or some one of you is so hurt that it hurts so much that you couldn’t get this one out first, it was your spouse, with whom we broke up 7 years ago. i had very difficult breakups, and i could not forget him over the course of three years. hmm, i still have three children from him. hmm, and literally a little more than seven months ago. we also remained a young man, but just having met for more than a year, i still can’t forget, although they say time heals in general, to be honest, i can hardly imagine how you can forget. e is the person from whom you have three children. well, it's just, well, impossible. if you're raising these three kids, you're raising these boys. e girls you boys boys, and three boys you. you can probably see them views of the movement of plasticity, facial expressions. you see the father. well, usually, by the word forget , they mean not to suffer, not to think constantly. that's what you have pay attention to what you

want to forget and just now cross out this part of our life appears. i'm starting to think about this man. what do you start to think about this person? i just want before michael about you, so to speak, to heal or show you the strategy for your way out of the situation. i just want to understand at this worldly level what is happening to you. well then you cry cry. i think what's wrong with me is starting to dig into myself. yeah. now. why is something wrong with you? i don't know, it was always good for everyone. hmm. i tried to be good for them, but i made many concessions. and you can give an example, what does it mean that i tried to be good, i made concessions so typical when i lived as a spouse. i know that he comes late at night. uh, all household chores. i took over. but you, respectively, i was then on maternity leave, no matter how tired i was with three children. i cooked for him hot dinner. he ate and went to bed. thank you and tell him at least said, sometimes said, sometimes not. there, too, he

sometimes didn’t even eat his own, because he says, i don’t want to, i think, well, here, i stood at the watered ones for half an evening, i wanted to please you. and then, when nu went to bed, he didn’t ask how it all happened, how i bathed the children, put them to bed and then cleaned the dishes at the table, collected toys. everything came home to spend the night purely to spend the night. yes, he left you, right? why didn't he leave you? how? well, he had some version met, smart young beautiful everything, and he is a different woman and how he told you about it, not how he did not say. i saw just a correspondence, and when already so ​​a. well, seeing his correspondence. i showed him what he says, well, yes there is. and what am i saying, like something we have a family, we have children together with you. he says, well, it's okay and let's say, we'll probably part with you and that's it. so everything happened in general, that is, until i found out, it packed things away. no, he didn't pack. he asked me to leave him with the children, because we lived in his apartment like this, and

he said. well, at that moment. i was also pregnant with my third child at the seventh month. he says, come on with your container from my hut with your container. yes, yes, your common children about our children. yes, then we discussed it for a very long time, because the girl with whom she began to live. she couldn't have children and she proposed to him. let them take the class with you. that's because a little a little less. i have three of them. the weather. hmm, it's fine . and that's it. for five years we sued there, well, everything, it was difficult too. well, uh, since i already went to work. all is well. the miracle didn't happen. he did not repent, did not apologize, because he was wrong. here you are now , when you began to talk about your first husband and father to go, you cried bitterly for you. i see that it hurts you. it hurts what exactly? what hurts where? it hurts that i could not save my family. it turns out to be full-fledged that i have children without a father, i agree. it hurts. it owes now after a while. they tell me, mom, we don't want to see dad. i also say

went to dad's for the weekend. he invites you. no, we say we don’t want to, and it turns out that i also have a counterweight. he says that i'm setting them against it. i say, well, you can talk to him on the phone yourself. he says, no, it's all your diction. i do not mind, on the contrary, that children boys communicate with dad. they don't want to see it all. it was all with them, despite the fact that they were small, and that is, you mourn your unfulfilled female dreams, and you bring up a strong family in which there are three children, father and mother. how many years have passed since you, uh, broke up 7 years. and now the second story here was a little bit different. well , something even similar, i met a young man. and i thought everything was great. i'm probably just used to being the man of my life. i turn them, probably, into children, i begin to patronize, take care of, apply some kind of entertainment options. and here there was a similar situation. the rest was at my expense. uh,

groceries, i also bought in the store. well, it immediately became so that you became such a mother, moreover, as a sponsor mom or all the same right away, that is, that's the opposite of what we have, no, i tell him, listen, why do i always pay for groceries at the checkout. he is such a. well, it's your own fault. you quickly take out the card. class here. how do you choose them? tell me what are the criteria? well, that is, what you liked about them both, that you decided to enter into a relationship with them. i like, probably, external data. i love tall big men, how did that relationship end. he was very jealous and even waking up at night. he is everything while looking at my phone. i look so man and no. where did he go? i go out into the kitchen, and i have a phone charger, and he is trying to find something there. i say that it was his initiative on his initiative, yes , as it was, there was also a terrible jealousy of our common friend with our company, when we already began, well, he was jealous of him to communicate. although that friend was dating my girlfriend. how

did he tell you that you were breaking up? he said so, he says, i'm all, i can't stand you anymore. i'm already tired of everything. well, there were some. well, they'll say you can't stand it. he morally, yes, and you say, then tried to return. i tried to come back tried to communicate. with psychologists, she tried something for sex. here i had two psychologists. yeah, and it was very amazing when one girl told me, she says, you need to try to save the family, do it in every possible way so we will stop. yes, if a psychologist commands his clients glue to patients, it is a psychologist-toxic from such a psychologist, dear viewers must flee. well, the only thing you need, by the way, psychologist is not about what to do, right? and about what can be done and then there are several options, because often clients don’t see any options, they can offer them to see from the outside, or about what to understand, and what prevents a person from doing something? yes, even if he sees some options for him, there may be some internal barriers to fear, there are irrational

beliefs, and so on is good. what about you? and the second one told me, on the contrary, leave your spouse to gnaw the earth and try not to get along with him, so that it doesn’t happen. here i am then remained as self-defense pulled herself by the hair. and he that, but i attempted to return. we tried twice when he broke up with his previous girlfriend. well, they got it every time. uh, my children and i went to him. uh, we literally had enough for a week continued. again , some of his correspondence, messages, calls to me , nothing at home, then your sons can be understood, since they were thrown like that, back and forth. yes, well, well, we already understood that the question here is not to forget and not to throw it out of your heart, yes, but in order to stop it worry, the second thing we have already understood. it is that the experience here is not for men. and you yourself, that is, this is a manifestation of such selfishness, but in fact, in no case

should you be ashamed of this. i immersed myself in my hobby, painting a picture and making jewelry, of course i know that you have made great strides. yes i have after you have prestigious awards of this. here's what it gives you. yes, but here it is important to consider. and yourself as a metaphor, or what? yes, as a certain vessel with energy with a resource, and in this vessel you can pouring a resource is what you do, creativity, some achievements there, yes, such behavioral changes. and you can close the holes in the day in this vessel, that is, stop losing your personality resource. yes , but these holes are our negative emotions. and uh, most people don't know there are reasons for their negative emotions because you ask the person. why are you worried? and the person will answer. i worry. i mourn because i couldn't save my family, right? yes, that is, here, here, what

we hear the answer the reason for my experiences in those circumstances that i can no longer change. here they already are external circumstances. in fact. this is not the reason for experiencing negative ones. well, in 95% of cases, if we choose 5% biochemistry, this is an assessment of the circumstances that we find or were once and here, accordingly , our work with you is to see what kind of assessments that they hurt you. you see, estimates change. this is a podcast of the psyche, and today we are discussing the story of alena who are not knows how to part with his beloved michael chorus with a clinical psychologist. me da psychological science is looking for the right way out. please tell me the name of the person. which, well, will use. a glass to him becomes good calmly. and when he has nothing to use, he starts

thinking about it all the time somehow. yes, if he takes himself up with something, he seems to let him go, but suddenly he has a free minute, and he somehow begins to suffer without such a thing, as a person is called alcohol addiction, he has alcohol addiction. so, if a person is dependent on something or someone, he experiences suffering without this object, that is, the pleasure of interacting with a person. this is not a sign of dependency. but suffering without any object. this is just a sign of dependence, it happens not only from chemicals, but also from other people, too, so here is your suffering from a classic case, the so-called emotional dependence on other people. because of what we experience suffering here, and because we attach to any object, some kind of redundant status, which enough lock i set myself up. yes and so, the more we have this idealistic status. the

more we believe in it, as in what it really is. the more painful we are without this object, but we feel ourselves, well, for example, imagine that a person has a handkerchief . he once put it past his pocket and lost his handkerchief. in what case will he suffer without this handkerchief? no, he will replace it with a paper napkin or something else. that's it. oh, i lost, the tray what is not if this scarf, well, for example, was presented to him in childhood, he turned out to be a grandmother, and his grandmother was only this one who gave his grandfather, and grandfather when, like on a war horse, blood there is a hanger, where is my child, look, if it is on the rink itself, a certain status is given, then we are without it and without we suffer from this rag. so sometimes this status really corresponds to

reality. but imagine really lost such a handkerchief. well, what kind of person comes to his mother and says, mother, i have lost this scarf, can you imagine what a bastard i have not preserved the family religion. and to him they say, well, you don’t think that we gave it to you to wipe your nose. here she is, under glass in a safe. and we gave you a fake fake handkerchief similar, but he will not suffer like that. of course not, there are no metaphors of mikhail khurs right now. now it's important for you to understand what your uh beliefs are associated with these people. this is actually a fake, that is, a mistake. lies, you have deceived yourself. yes, usually people who agree to a relationship only with ideal people, how do they treat themselves too, how do you understand the ideal person? i'm so perfect and close not perfect with me. it just can't be. he they go she what is it? i need

the perfect one to be around. yes, that is, it is actually overpriced, and your attitude towards yourself. yes, i always raise the bar myself, i reach it, then it would be even higher, yes, yes, wait, but i didn’t hear anything at all, so that she was looking for some kind of ideal. here is besides the external data. i didn’t hear anything else, no, but you have some kind of ideal in your head. here is your ideal man. here, somehow, you can imagine everything, here it is. tell me please, as a person who comes to moscow and who has everything at the moment. i want if the person is also a visitor. i was on the same financial level with him to come, he must come to moscow well , either so that he achieves something, yes, that is, well, he did not receive real estate, he achieved well himself this education has some kind of job. yes, why? i believe that a person should break through himself. why bring it yourself? this is what he must do. why

can't it be otherwise? why can't you just be a good guy who got his grandmother for an apartment. no, simply because for alena , it seems to me that if he achieved everything himself , this is confirmation that a may not have to pay for the product next time. no, no, no, well, okay. why can't it be done in a different way, simply because you don't want it so much that someone once drove it into your head or you yourself? why not otherwise? why can't you win, here in the lottery, well, this money is the second time men. yes, everything was inherited from my mother, grandparents, so everything is there. but he lazy no, just wait, you mean some image in your head, but you choose others and suffer at the same time. why because you think it 's wrong. so it’s also possible, and in fact, what you told us about the fact that he is lazy there and then, i don’t know what he is, but he can be the way you describe him? no, it is already normal for people to enter into

relationships too. the main thing is to enter into a relationship with them, and not with your fantasies. let's talk. this is about you and about your life. what is your life now, except raising three boys. you have there do not know some favorite time of the day to watch or watch. well, this is also normal, yes, to clear the kids as well , to be honest, i don’t see here some kind of dislike for myself. you are quite, it seems to me here. there is a reassessment of myself, probably, all this happened recently, because when we began to meet with the second young man, we met. with him, on the same project, somewhere you submit some projects of your own, m-m useful for the city, and i submitted with your project. uh. oh me, when we met he says who needs your beads and somehow all the time it’s like this for me and when i won, he says, i wouldn’t even think that anyone was interested.

i say, well, you see, and after it i already had, probably, a rethinking is interesting, yes, you are seven years without a husband, and with this only 7 months, which was in the middle , there were no men at all, yes, but i had them i forgot everyone, somehow no one hooked me, but no one , uh, did not inflict painful injuries on you, yes, before still be friends with me. yeah, these help lead. come on, you are so uninteresting you need to hurt you, yes, then you will feel it. oh what a good person hurt. yes, it needs to be no. here, look again. yes, a little gone, we're off to the side. but let's go back. yes, remember that addiction is very important to understand that if you suffer without these people, then this is not a sign of love for them, on the contrary, that i love a person, so this is a big mistake. you romanticize your suffering. and uh, that's why it's harder for you to deal with. here is pain

just. well, you know the sign of addiction is a symptom important. it is such an assessment in myself that i am healthy, and there is here is my pain. why? well, because that's how i ended up. i became addicted to these people. yes, they are, as it were, here is a certain psychotype. these people. yes, you chose them precisely here on emotionality. looks like everyone told me. why yes why not. and by the way, dad, what do you have there? tell me a good good high. uh no, a little taller than me is absolutely not the same type as my dad. and like dad, he is so kind, calm, helping good people. calm, helpful. he is a very smart engineer. therefore, somehow they went from the opposite, that is, completely different. yes, not so history, what did you choose according to the principle? but who knows you like this, but what about strapol in life? what, but you need to be dissatisfied

with what you have all the time, that everyone needs something to strive for the ideal, who is this? mom grandfather is not, inclusive, which is also normal at school. it’s not necessary there, of course, this figure is some kind of parental figure, but most often it happens, which once in childhood was not allowed. eh, as if be content, grandmother said alena, you 're a girl, you can't do this. there's something else possible, well, you can't be content with achieving good studies. here we constantly found this parent figure. yes, it means it is important to say in my head, i can. to be satisfied with what is in general you know the word happiness very consonant with the words now are. that happiness , in fact, is satisfaction with what we have now, sit down, write it down, because when we use fine motor skills, this works very well to change our attitudes. yes, bluntly, write down, i can not strive, that

is, i can strive, but i can someday get up and stand to live. just high quality and calm with what i have, i don’t have to achieve something all the time, on the contrary, i took this type to show other women in mind, here is the block that you can achieve something, despite the fact that you are alone stayed there with the kids. boast about this extreme. you see, the second extreme. i'm not getting anything. first quarantine. i'm just trying. i achieve, yes, healthy mental health in the middle. and here it is also very important. yes, and your partner doesn't have to be perfect. well, it's not perfect for everyone for me. only it does not have to be perfect ; moreover, imperfection just makes people healthy. and people who like it when they see the ideal in them, that is, god. yes, the ideal is god, so here are the people who like it when

they conventionally kneel before them. they say you are my ideal. this is who narcissists, psychopaths, in principle, not very healthy addictions of your here are men. your man was addicted the second man was addicted. he drank. his parents were taken to rehabilitation in another city. everything was very difficult there for 3 years. he was in another region and then came to moscow, as he says, you know, life from scratch , once again these people are not bad, it is important just to understand that building relationships with them. it's about building relationships with people with disabilities. it's just that they have a part of their personality damaged and you shouldn't expect any sharp, quick movements from them. well, no to. but that's another question. you have a boy. yes me too now i thought about what is possible, this model of your relationship with men can

be transmitted and somehow distort your relationship with your sons. you can lock yourself in your bedroom and tell me not to touch. yes , i think i spend the boys. mom, i see that everything is so whole here. the only thing that can affect your children in this sense is your feelings of guilt, which you experience is not the model itself. i think they just see very clearly that this model is painful for you. i think your boys are right well done in this sense, directly thank you, but you should not feel guilty in front of them. why because when we are in front of children, even the best ones feel guilty. whether we like it or not. they start us for this guilt. yes, and children something instantly. you know, as i go into the bath, i roared and left.

i can’t stand them, i don’t show them that i’m yes, anyway, it’s probably yes, or maybe some recommendations are wrong, it means that something is wrong with you , something is wrong with natalia, and something is wrong and there's something wrong with me out of every man on this earth. something is wrong in you, the thought that something is wrong with you just because you decided that everything should be like this with you, the only person on earth, yes, that's all wrong. there is something wrong with everyone. are you a living smart girl? yes, pay, wait, what's wrong with you? well, well, man, you have a question that something is wrong with me, but something is wrong, but if you continue the phrase, what is wrong with me as i want. how i want alena dear. that's when you say that everyone has something like this you see, again, some kind of cover. here you see

some woman walking with a stroller and with a child by the hand, well dressed, well-rested, i don’t know, and you begin to imagine. here she is waiting at home, loving caring husband. he really appreciates what she does for him. and you look and you yourself came up with. why not? do you know what's behind the doors? with this woman, you understand, you yourself came up with this story. i can, for example, their parents grandparents. well, everything was fine. you see, no, you saw exactly what your parents wanted to show you. and there is another moment. they could be happy. they could forgive, she could ignore. they could move the focus to something else. understood, understand important understanding. yes, for happiness it is the acceptance that life does not have to be perfect, because of the weather, it does not make you nervous. also nervous no, why is the weather not ideal. i got used already. there are so many years of real life and relationships, and even

fantasy. this is a podcast of the psyche, we are discussing how to live when you cannot forget your beloved mikhail khors tells our heroine alena how to act correctly and how to think correctly? you sometimes go to the art museum, where there are paintings, yes landscapes, this and so on. have you ever seen an outstanding landscape or portrait or some everyday scene, and recognized as a masterpiece , in which there would be ideally beautiful people, ideal new houses, they are ideal sky, think about it the next time you go to a museum. pay attention to this. and you will see that we are attracted to ordinary viewers. eh, those plots in which there is some kind of imperfection, some kind of break, asymmetrical faces, not very beautiful faded ones, yes.