yes, i'm sorry, but you need to help, what will she do. based on her nature, she won't do it. yes, because she, as it were, this is what makes such a protest. not that yes, the imposition of the hunt and i say, and even now you understand, and i surprise them. what what. they want to be there, i foresee them there. well, the next step is that they will wish there on new year's eve on december 31 and unleashed a scandal. and that she urgently needed skates, there my grandmother grabbed her head, but i foresaw this step. i already bought their skates. new year - this difference is called the child dreamed of skating. why was it just december 31st, and i bought it a month ago. well, i prepared for this holiday because i know that she will want to skate on the ice. i didn’t ask why you bought her skates, the answer is why i know, because i’m a mother, because she gives gifts on new year’s, because the child

wants skates. why don't you do that? how is the father? no? wait. why then so that the children have a holiday, that, they understood the essence of the holiday. they grow alive, you know, and they will have their own children, they will have their own family. ira asked me uh one time ago. mom , what a tradition we have, and in the family, that is, some kind of family should be united, and the events are some common interests, i absolutely, let's say. here we are in the mornings often, when we sit at the table there we have breakfast together, when we manage to get together. we begin to discuss something, and information is taken out from completely different places. eh, let's say. ah, whale life. you understand, and who is the river dolphin and here sonya again forgot where she died napoleon a. that is, calamus generally said that it was a cake. she had to sit down and study the biography of napoleon. an involved mother

, do you think that we have a sad family, you understand there? or in some way everyone has the right to say something, why did you write in your life like slavery? yes, because they are in the house where they live, they don’t want to, but to create, and for me a holiday, probably, i ’ll do all this comfort. i'm wondering, you say, i create a holiday for them so that they learn this. they don't learn anything. they no, everything is fine in the teachings. yeah, sonya doma is doing well. no, you just said that they don't create separately. that is, she brought out of the house that she had to clean up, she had to cook very tasty food, because she also likes to eat delicious food. and she endured our own tastes. she took everything out of the house. that's it, you have to go to bed early in order to get up early, so that there, well, everything, you will have time for another conclusion. it's not that they don't learn, they learn more slowly

than you'd like. no, they won't do it at home. they will if do anywhere but at home. well, that's how she learned, you, who does it anyway. they slept with me for six months. on a bed without e bed linen, because i was so tired of changing bed linen, on which i subsequently collected candy wrapper bits and so on and so forth. but i'm telling you, you want to sleep in the trash. sleep interesting experiment. and you don’t have anything there, that is, they sleep for six months, and don’t even speak. mom, where are the bedding, after all. yes, yes, the experiment was not completed. they were just sleeping when they were of age. no i so i can not, by the way, that is, i am such a mother that i should not allow this. as a result, e did not complete the experiment. well, it's gone. so what? that's a lot, surely an allergy? and what

about bringing them to me throughout the apartment? see you again. eh, let's say you take all the responsibility. you would look at how you would not take responsibility in relation to your children. well, let's not go to extremes too. this is a podcast of the psyche, in which i am a journalist natalya loseva and a clinical psychologist ph.d. sciences michael khors are trying to find a way out of the most difficult situations of our heroes ver- have you ever had such situations, and then i ask michael works or does not work? what are you saying? well, relatively speaking, that's not just the bed, yeah, so what are they afraid to lose from you? nothing, they are not at war, they are not afraid to lose their phone on new year's eve and not let go. hmm, always some kind of currency. eh, this is such a conditional relationship when you

say, listen, well, if we have not agreed here. yes, i won't be here either agree. michael, this situation generally works with children. well, it doesn’t work for us, what did they tell me then, can i not pick berries? i don't want ice cream and said, okay, i'm like with an old briefcase. uh, when her well, for them, it's just not a value, uh-huh, but something else. it is important for them to look for these values. i have them, most likely, can i guess? excuse me, what happens when you try to take something away from them, something else is really important for them, they start crying there, take offense, which means they stop talking to you from this it hurts, and in this pain they are not ready to endure and speak. okay, i'll do it for you, it wasn't like that. ugh, they don't cry. well, for them. and if i said, then, so it should be, say, the eldest daughter. she yes, she was like an ordinary child, there were levers of pressure on her due to the fact that i would not let you go for a walk. if

you don’t do it there, she really needs oxygen there, the window came off, and so on. yes, this is an ordinary child, but irochka is there, well, everything and the company was guilty there, and because of this i won’t buy you new schoolbags. well, okay, mommy again briefcase, so not worth it. and what? so damn it, i don’t know, you know she has a phone. yes? i took away, but she calmly. well, alya, too, because as far as she took from ali, ali lost ira’s phone for a year and a half, well, at the most, well , in the amount of a year she didn’t have phones. this is essential, but i can, well, don’t let them watch tv, that is, well, they don’t do anything, when they don’t watch nikifora’s tv, she can occupy herself and play with dolls, they go for a walk, by the way, for modern children modern children. less

and less often they can occupy themselves with something. by the way, i noticed when i was all kira , they start playing together for 13 years and there is this. maybe later, well, as if relaxing, she began to sit down to draw beautifully on her own. well, that is, they can occupy themselves with something valuable and important in them, quite a lot, where there is slavery, i can’t understand. well, why should i do something, while they will consume it and no return, they have obligations. i tell them i have you have obligations to feed, drink, dress, and put on shoes according to your age. and you have obligations to unlearn and get an education. uh, well, as best i can, but according to my abilities, i don't demand good there. how do you define abilities? well, here you have a 4-year-old son, he

washes the floor in the kitchen. yes, well, super so, but in fact, yes, we look, what he does well comes out. he pays for electricity. no , let him make this a duty. let him pay for electricity. he can do it no, you know how we determine what people can do. and what they can't one way is to entrust them with something and see. can he do it or can't he? not well, the results of studies. i saw when they want to study, you saw, but you didn’t see the result of cleaning. here's the conclusion to learn. they can, but they can't clean up? for whatever reason, they don’t leave, so they can’t study now. in those conditions in which they live,

there are some external internal restrictions, for example, lack of motivation. good, then. for what reason does the mother-in-law does homework, but they don't do it at home. now that's a really cool question, if you're worried. instead of learning how to build relationships with your children. you will have the opportunity to build this interaction better than now. but in principle, if you have two assistants, and they already have it , they can spit already and stop demanding from themselves that you be like that, which means an ideal mother who succeeds in everything, including building relationships 100% with everyone children and maybe, well take something what do you have. but we have a good relationship with children. they love me and i love them very much. well, how would you feel? wait let me tell you, i gave birth to you. i have to get you into slavery. wait, let's go for

now. we have the opportunity to receive michael. tips recipes. let's try all the same, but subject the situation. uh, label them when you feel like you're in bondage. yes, i heard that they do not wash the floor. yes, they do nothing wrong. well, it can't be cleaned. well, yes, thank god they wash they go to the toilet and flush after themselves. periods, judging by the way vera thought again, they are doing something every time you say they are not doing anything, you are deceiving yourself again. and this makes you bitterly uncomfortable. well, i'm uncomfortable. yes, but not because they don't do anything, it 's a lie, because you decided that they don't do anything, but they also make a jar of yogurt. she will pull out after ten reminders and the little son will wash after the cat. that is what your children do. they just don't do as much as you want? let's

let's directly try to think about some intermediate result. yes, what you want your children to do, so that you have a little trouble. this is the idea, i really want it. here's an arab idea for them to marry their studies, so cleaning doesn't worry you so much as slavery. here i see, if only with cleaning. and here with the study of slavery then what are you? are you studying? yes, as we all should learn, some projects are being done for them. no, i'm hiring. i look here. i have a tutor with them four times a week. here, a things are still there, because even the tutor has already begun to do homework for them, respectively, listen to the shitty rehearsals. tell you understand from us here is victoria vladimirovna a very good tutor. she even refused, therefore, an occasion from us, because she realized that at the expense of her ira does her homework, and

a blank sheet comes in and gets deuces. because of this, she said. i won't then need to invest in finding a tutor who is professional and educators. what we need with you is not a trainer who did it every two years i will make you. yes, grandmothers just cope with this. parents who write in despair. i need them. you need a tutor who would motivate them, you know? which would create in them the intention of desire, the drive, the anticipation of pleasure, you see, you and i, as simple. so to speak, people engaged in a different profession. we may not be able to do this. but a teacher needs to be found like that. it seems to me that either a psychologist or a psychologist and a teacher will now say to mikhail, that is, he will help. yes, which would motivate to study, because this is almost impossible. look here after all, mother and grandmother and school teachers and so on fight with them. what you say to alla turns on a speech therapist. and now i

'm visiting a speech therapist again. she did it. but we studied, and four times a week all summer before the second, this is true, but she didn’t see very well until she was 5 years old. we did the operation, respectively, against the background of this. well, there were some violation delays. here is the first class. she didn't know anything at all. don't read, don't write. we passed by. don't count, she didn't understand it. here, i found it. here is a speech therapist neuropsychologist. she worked with her. and i didn't waste my money. because the second eye was a five of one five in january of this year. this is the third grade. she just freaked out and left. on no, i just sat and prayed. i wish this year would end soon, so that we would just not be like that, maybe we need some kind of correction once again in what we are doing again. well, now the whole summer has come the result. well, for now, this is not an occupation. why do you think you are in bondage? i see the way you tell? i

see that you are not a slave of this lamp, yes, from your children. what are you a manager? you know what to find a tutor to organize classes ask for help from your grandmother ask and is this slavery? here it is, here it is, here it is. yes, so. now you are not talking about their behavior, but about your feelings. yes, the return for you is what will you feel? when will you receive your return? i will relax everything, so, so you are in tension and you call this tension slavery. here is the key story. now the important question is most people feel they are experiencing tension due to the environment in which they live, that is, most people take on the position of emotional victim of circumstances. well, they say these are the circumstances, which means that i am forced to experience

stress because of these circumstances. i was born in such a family, this is all, but it is important to understand that a lot of scientific experiments have been carried out, a huge number that prove that in the same circumstances people with different perceptions of these circumstances experience different emotional states. someone tension. it's pretty calm here. feels, and someone even pleases. uh-huh so these experiments show that our emotional stress is not a consequence of circumstances. we are not victims of the situation, our emotional tension is a consequence of how we relate to these circumstances, if we, for example, believe that such relationships are bad and that this is not possible, that it must be different. and how and how i fantasized myself once or i still fantasize, then this is

a critical view of reality, which reality itself does not correspond, because in reality it is possible and what you have is not bad. it may not be wonderful, but it certainly doesn't matter. and a can be different. now, if you begin to look more realistically at this situation of your relationship with your children. yes, such children can be, and i can be such a mother, whose children respect her less than their grandmother. why talk into it? and, because in fact they made a conclusion. and i made this conclusion in fact. i face reality no, my kids don't like strangers in the apartment include already and a little higher. i want to offend you. once again, i look at the word it is final, when i say and uh, the final one and they all understand that if i already say i won’t get angry if i

put an end to me for the second time, you can’t come up to me for this, they do, when you put this point or the body of the year sleeps without bedding until you have bedded it. somehow you contradict. you say, in general. that's how it is. no, really. like this no, we are now looking, just look. we are now really trying to figure out the situation. i want to convey to you, but i’m not saying that i’ve lost my authority somewhere ; i don’t want children anymore, but i don’t want to take care of their life, but they see it themselves, momo, they are still small. the thing is, you understand, and when, let's say, i was little, i knew that mom and dad were working. they will come at 5:00 for the month of the day, dads once, and they have a mother who has done everything for them all her life, and you immediately demand from them that they rebuild just like that. and that's a requirement you have every the day was not the requirements always when it was.

well, and study, they must know for themselves that they need to come from school. what do they need to do at home? they know it, that e on the street, and him, well, they throw a piece of paper, and at home near the tv. do you understand? well, it's elementary me. i don’t clean up the papers, but after them they collect them themselves as a result. well, what confuses you, if they collect them from me, it confuses that they cannot do it right away. well, it means that they can’t yet, what’s wrong with that say, well, you understand, a person should live clean on painted something as it should be, let's leave them in the mud. well , let him not study, how can you say yes? they teach, they they er, something, well, don't die. no , look. you are throwing from one extreme to another, or everything, that's just the way i want, or we generally leave it alone. no, middle. take let's start over, when i was

a child, my lessons were not checked. yes, but you just went to the circle, of course, i myself finished 11 classes. i entered the school so i will finish. i went to college myself. your children are not like that. no yes me udi. when a child comes and discusses the teacher who is at school, and so why shouldn't it? and why should he discuss , he can discuss, maybe not discuss friends? well, we've talked a lot today. it seems to me that this is the episode in our podcast when there is no obvious answer. maybe mikhail and you didn’t manage to immediately come to some right conclusions and advice, because, probably, you really need a lot of hours in this situation with psychologist. just said five times. i myself is also a lie, not myself to you

your parents helped. well, somehow you somehow interact, ate. there is another presence. they weren’t there until five, they helped you with that, because if they were babysitting you until 5 o’clock, then you would be so strong, you wouldn’t grow every influence give birth to a child, or help them with something, you understand , you are not everything by yourself you are something by yourself and your children are also something by yourself that they are less themselves than you are not the same. you, these are. naturally, because now a lot has changed in this world. and you demand the same from them. eh what to yourself they fantasized about themselves that this is also a fantasy in general, because with her you are not all faith itself. anyway. i am very grateful to you and grateful that you came here with this problem with this question. i think he is very very often and you are a lot here in our

short conversation. unfortunately short. uh, they raised problems that i want to think about and argue about, what i press, what is in the definition of the word intelligence or in brackets mind. there is such a line the ability to adapt to changing circumstances. it is very difficult. especially when a person has not completely made himself strong-willed to people. it's not easy for hours, but nevertheless, i see a person in front of me who is very caring, very in a good way, a passionate person devoted to his family from what i heard from you. i saw that we have come a long way in the evolution of your family relationships. and even the fact that you were able to make a team not only with your mother. well, with his former mother-in-law, this is a huge achievement. it's great. that is, you are warming, in my opinion the right direction what you are asking questions are experiencing. this is fine. we are people. we are so arranged to worry about looking for a way out.

i sincerely wish you to find that harmony in your relationship with your children, when no one will be a slave to anyone, and everyone will be a little more happy with what they have. well, maybe to put on the brakes those things that seem to us, not quite to ourselves at all. it was a psychic podcast in which we spoke with our heroine vera who came to us with a request that anna is in bondage their four children. and you honestly tried to find a way out of this slavery, but came to the conclusion, probably surprises. thank you dear friends for visiting us. come again, i remind you. yes , those who want to become stronger seek help. you are welcome to refuse us. you

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friends, hello this is not the format in the studio of my beautiful co-host karina cross. valya karnaval behind me is a gypsy band. my name is anton lavrentyev and we are glad that you are with us today, dear friends. we have amazing guests today. i want to tell you that they wrote the soundtrack for my favorite movie. well, they wrote the track itself

a huge number of hits, under which i bring down densila. me too, and most importantly, they even have a recorded track in space. can you imagine vladimir and sergey krestovsky a legendary band? oh my friends, here, in addition to the legends , there is another person who flies into the charts and never flies out of them with us. thank you. why do you think you have merged one program, what is between you? maybe common friends we are beautiful. it's a fact, we actually united you, for a reason, you have

a song in which there are references to luce can be what did you do? let's go boys. we lived for 15 years. but now you've left you. no, you will give orange crying in general, damn it, and you're gone. go said i 'll be back soon every doin. how can i be alone, you left in your orange. you give at all. well, you give in general, damn it, and you left and didn’t say. i'll be back soon doin chances, how come i be. your group is named after the legendary actress umaturma, how is it that 's how we sat and decided that the group would be called uma thurman, how did it happen? because we are at an impasse. we have gone through all the possible names. and what were the options? listen. cool well, different, in fact,

there were different names and the way we had the song was already written like that at that time. one girl suggested saying, let's do nothing, let's call it crazy, fog , the birds whispered to us here that you even tried to convey, and the clip that you made is comic, and i listened to the track of the umeturma itself, i'm a different story. i met her father. it's just that he was in moscow and i gave him the records. that no one knows whether he passed it on or not, my friend gave me a gift for my fortieth birthday. he somehow found his muturman, and she recorded a video greeting for my birthday. the only thing they asked was not to publish this record, therefore, since then, too, how old i am now 47 7 years ago, how did you come to music in general. have you always

been musicians? or maybe you worked different jobs. it is interesting to earn all sorts of different jobs at different jobs. yes, of course, you work very differently at different jobs. i always loved to sing and from childhood i always sang loudly in the streets in buses. you know, my parents were embarrassed to go, because i was drinking on the bus. you know now he came in and started to sing. come on, if only she would go to the shore, katyusha , something like ours. so while i was walking to the driver. i loved watching him drive in general. i dreamed of becoming a bus driver. i sang and then, when my older brother became a celebrity in nizhny novgorod, she had her own group. he performed there. so i thought, can't i write a song. well, kinda jealous actually. well what to write i took the guitar and started writing songs. this is how the person wanted to be. uh, the bus driver has become an incredibly popular entertainer driver. i would like to, but he had a huge

number of professions. and here is a huge amount of work. you can say that lus and we are now uh, well, we are offering you a competition. you can guess who vladimir did not work with, which means that the first profession is a janitor in a kindergarten. don't look. don't look, vladimir told me let's go, and the operator of the gas station the agent selling chocolate and lemonade is the sound engineer in karaoke and the night orderly in the morgue. listen i i think i got wet, i don’t know, i’m just a suspicious person. it seems to me that there was not. yes, okay, well, then i still have a second option. uh, it's the sound engineer, because very often the people who come to the musical are the final answer. i mean, think about it, think about it, you 're confusing me. well, how do i this hint? let me be the same person who is in

the tube. director in karaoke yes, this is the correct answer karaoke was not yet only singing wow vladimir me a very creepy story continues. i worked as a night nurse in forensic morgue in nizhny novgorod you know what a forensic morgue is. yes , they bring there all those who died not of their own death , killed, dismembered, and so on, and you take away at night, as if under e, a jack on a stretcher and carry it along the walls. we just had such a blockage there, yes, blockages of slings. yes, and you're the only one there, then i have the next question. now it is very interesting, arising from this story, and this one was somehow reflected in the music. well, that is, maybe, in principle, this is reflected in a person when you are so close to death, the song of farewell cannot but be reflected.

well, the song may say goodbye waiting where perhaps you wake up early in the morning, but the movement is not cautious as the silence of the icy earth shrouded us in uncertainty. here we have been looking for each other for so long and, of course, we have disappeared. to say goodbye to

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