vasilich well, it happens in different ways, but vasilyevich's drill. this also speaks of his character. he, as it were, never again came with a student call. he said that he would no longer teach, because if he spent, yes, there are so many forces e on people and led them somewhere and something to them. eh, well, he promised anyway, it turns out in the profession. nobody needs this, then he will be more tired of this business, look. e, when hmm well, even natasha's year is over. here is the course. eh, it was the first year of perestroika, when everything became. you can when a little vera happened and that's it. it seems to me that with such an attitude to the profession, it’s as if andrei vasilyevich suddenly sees this on the screen. yes, then everything began, as through a carbon copy to shoot from the americans. uh, look, some indecent fighters have appeared. well, i can't even. i can hardly imagine andrei vasilyevich's participation in this story and he left pedagogy. and then i dragged him once i managed to bring him to the school studio for one of our courses just to talk

with students, and he spoke like that. i again say andre vasilyevich well, why go teach? well, it's necessary. people don't, it's character. this is such maximalism and also it is further, because what is senselessness to you, and the street will re-educate. what is it like in dry land, or its meaninglessness. here, as if i can’t own my own yes, because it suddenly became unnecessary for anyone in one day in an instant it ceased to be necessary and valuable, remember. yes, the films of these years are on the floor, as if there were time , yes, it’s curious, but andrey’s next then he stopped filming. it's further everything already. and so, yes, another life began to be saved by this writing, apparently, well, they traveled a lot. they really were very connected. and so the human hair of vinchevsky is also our classmate who went to denmark and they talked a lot, went to him, traveled around europe with volodya volodya somehow took care of them for a very long time. but there is an amazing letter, which

well, there is volodya a letter from andrei vasilyevich and where he writes, but in general about what death is and volodya read it to us somehow. why after some time because of what year the letter is about already somewhere here, well maybe some anew before he died. well, it’s just that we were then or maybe a little earlier we were shocked then, but volodya read to us much later, when andre vasilyevich died, we were then shocked how much he thought about it in advance, how he formulates it, in general, that such is human life. yes, there's just a level of some kind of hmm huge intellect and a philosophical-philosophical attitude to life to the world is closer to karamazov, who matured, yes, absolutely 200 years. yes, i remember that at that time we were simply all shocked by the fact that how he formulates, how he thought, and in the general sense of life. that is, he prepares himself, when you count. yeah, well, he, of course, he thinks about what life is all about. well, i don’t know this, i mean, i

never noticed it, i didn’t see it. well , listen, what an interesting question, somehow i didn’t think about it, because it seems that yes. this is their privacy. this is their modesty. yes, but such selectivity is not omnivorous when no passion for money e we how interesting. well, it was never advertised at all. it's definitely the last time. i've seen andrey vasilyevich well, the funeral. it was the same with dima, it's amazing because he came. he already felt bad, it was obvious. well, well, he came this last time we saw each other. yeah, he is. well, they loved him very much, of course, and in general, well, some person in my life is such a beginning of life. yes, with such a teacher, right? how much humor was there? how many jokes? it's impossible that the clothes are fools these are all feklistov goats of brusnikin. these are separate people, as we had a rehearsal.

she is in the theater to you hut. well, he was still a student. for some reason, we wanted to rehearse for you here on tverskoy, which is big , this moscow art theater, which is now kekhnov named after gorky, which also had cars there, and he is also a fashionable wood that he is driving a car. then, in general, the car was distributing and talking, and here this zhiguli was standing near the theater in the parking lot. and now the car was winter and these fools, then, started talking and rolled away his car, just rolled back and hid- well, like a little around the corner and so happy. it means that everything was set up so that they leave asia after a rehearsal such quite often there is no car. in general, for some reason everyone thought that he would be very happy and laugh, as if at a joke, but he had such a thing in general, i remember getting angry and upset. well, he went along the track, looking for his cars, which means that they returned to the foot, it is standing there. well, they are idiots. i remember that andrey somehow didn’t have this kind of humor no, and what was his reaction he cursed, cursed at them very yes, it didn’t work out humor, no. well, it was a lot of fun. he,

of course, incredible humor in an incredible person. you somehow value sibur all the time, in people. if there is humor, great, you know , a normal person, he never portrayed himself, did not try to please, and he always had some kind of readiness. and here is such a collection. you know that he almost died at our place during the filming. yes, it's an eerie story of power. uh-huh the episode when he is sailing on a swallow on a boat, and he is very close. i just don't know the name. uh, that's what a screw is, yes, and he very close to him to this screw, and the boat was heated and it was sucked in. it was terrible. it was scary, because when the glasses and the hairpiece floated to the surface. andrey vasilyevich is gone. everyone understood that what

andrei vasilyevich experienced was generally incomprehensible, but there was no hysteria, nothing, well, thank god that he is alive. for example, i can hardly imagine another actor in his place who would have had such a reaction, because everyone was afraid to describe what kind of responsibility the director and cameramen are. scary, well, this once again speaks of the dignity of the human self to some such internal culture. well, i want many to have had it. this is a podcast of letters reminding you and visiting me. maria brusnikina. i still think about the cruelty of the profession all the time. so andrey vasilyevich was forced to shut himself off from the world. this is their right, and these ubiquitous paparazzi, who in recent years have been tracking them somewhere anyway, they were filming not very

healthy asya, sad like this and andrei vasilyevich how warm was it? here she was holding her hand all the time, well, yes, well so, here i am, you started this topic with internal culture, there really are many such people, yes, and when you come across, you start to measure yourself with these people. yes, all of us are not national explosive temperamental people, but artists are already yes, and like at the moment when all of a sudden something like this happens to you. i very often actually remember this school of andrey vasilyevich, this is restraint. and this is very rare. well, yes, it's internal. it's like respect respect for a person for people who are nearby, yes, and for themselves and for themselves. how once i sasha feklistov. and sasha too. we have a perfect classmate. he is somehow for me with himself in many ways the measure of the world. he was so good at putting me in my place. i am such a temperamental person. i remember once and told. how is your opinion and sasha suddenly speaks to me so calmly, are you

sure that you are always right and somehow i am so glad i remembered it for the rest of my life, or is there what intelligence is? that's what sasha said. well, you know, you're going to be a scammer. let the other pass , and it is also so simple, and with andrey vasilyevich it was yes, respect for the other is not to himself, although it is clear that, probably, there was a sense of his significance and his talent. yes, but you are respect for another, he is a serious attitude to the profession. that's what he invested, of course, in us. and you know, he had some kind of compassion and uh, hmm, in general , understanding of the situation and you can’t say, well , he felt sorry for me, but there were situations when aleksandrovich was not very to me. uh, well, there was a brutal romance squeezed. yes, he was cruel to stones , and andrei vasilyevich, he saw that i was all like a string with me. and it didn't help my work. on the contrary, i closed, that is , someone needs a kick, and he goes and plays and

is wonderful. i need to love and praise, and then i'll say, no, it's me, i'll do it to you now. better oh, thank you very much, i’ll go and do it if i say, yes, i don’t like it, well, everything else, that is, i can’t, and andrei vasilyevich understood this, and somehow he began to help me like that, he began to close me like that. i understand it now, i understand it now, but then it seemed to me, well, yes, well, since mothers. helps me too. that is, then he took it all for granted, and why is there no old man for him there, 42, where are the old ones? well, he already was. well, there was some kind, uncle. mm. but in this film , you vibrate so much because of this fact, because of this tension. apparently, due to the fact that just something like something recently. i got in too. it's just such a person, vibrating turned out. larisa oh thank you. that is why andrey vasilyevich, of course, happiness, that here i am, and thanks to him that he was in

my fate. i don't care these people form anyway, that's how you are. well, you had him, and taught for four years. and we worked for six months and over the years you understand the significance? yes, of this presence, of course, a very bright bright star and then no, well, in the theater, then we worked together for a long time and played together in the seagull and also like that. yes, of course, and he introduced me to chaika, that is, we came , and you always called him andrey vasilievich and you i also called him for you, but andrey i myself am so-so and i decided that i’m already an artist and i’ll be like that for you but i’m all called to you, but by name. no i also, as a rule, everyone is on you. but andrey vasilyevich is not here and he introduced, roma lena mayorova , the three of us we were taken to chaika there before. here vertinskaya hmm katya vasilyeva mash played for me on masha lena on niva roma on andrey vasilyevich and andrey vasilyevich introduced us. and i also remember how he did it, how

wonderful he did it, moreover, as you always do. there are solid stars there, there is someone there , it’s clear there, there are stronger ones there. uh, savina around. yes, there lavrova also did not go to the rehearsal. she means softly everything put him in the department and then, when we already saw him on the run on the stage, these so everyone was surprised, the innocent were very surprised, as if you see three new performers here, that is, for all the game forgings of all of us somehow and also so he it was straight level, but not lower. and now i still know what surprises me all the time. that's why, for example, ali kinkovsky. here at the mention of agentkus. here he is a star. andrey vasilyevich is a brilliant artist, but you can’t say about him like oleg ivanovich yankovsk, yes, a star, and not because he did not go to the festival, not because he was not a public person there. he was never talked about, never gossiped or slandered. well, i don't know, but on the other hand. you see, it's still human. here he spat into

eternity. here he starred in the defense of fate, which they say that he did not love and was very worried, which is shown every year, but did not love later. yes, he laughed. there serves on the novel. he starred in irony of fate. well, the whole country knows this man, well, until now everyone knows will know, and it will be a star always. yes, that is also how to manage. hmm, it’s clear there that he had a lot of films, but these two and well, it’s clear that it ’s a cruel romance and everyone will always know this story, that eldar alexandrovich himself wrote poems for the song e yes on his films and hid it in ministry . yes, he in general, three vasilyevich but made up like you and andrei didn’t like everything very much. kalnul not very much. he got angry and offended, and in the next picture, in the garage, he gave him a wordless role. yes, he took revenge, and then he sang this song by andrey vasilyevich. i remember how i'll throw out the panorama or somewhere he sang this song. he sang beautifully, he had a wonderful

ear. he never drinks in an office romance. or even he was not trusted to sing, but in general he was amazing in this sense. for example, he never read the elements aloud, yes, and he thought that it was so and i remember it, it’s very good that it’s so personal in general, everything that concerns poetry is so much and what you experience while reading. it's that, it's so personal that it doesn't need to be transplanted anywhere. here. i just do it i remembered despite the fact that i had knowledge there about the love of poetry. here personally is not present, publicly is not present to sing. no, just curious, yes. although, this is also included in the acting profession. this is something so personal. yes, but he rarely allowed himself to read poetry or what? something to drink. yes, how amazing some beautiful life of 85 years. these rumors are no gossip, no dirt, and no omissions, there was no broken fate, for example, here, he could play alyosha karamazov there until the age of 30, well, there are a couple more roles, and he, too, would

remembered. we would sit there and remember everything, well, such a very beautiful , wise, meaningful life has passed. yes, i was just thinking about it too, that somehow i should leave and always command respect throughout my life, look. and how i fell in love in my first year. yes , asya came, and he saw her and realized that she was his woman for life, everything is beautiful in his life. it turns out, and she answered him in return, she also considered something like that in him. yes, i saw it for me. this is just a sample. here is the couple. well now on the troekurovsky grave near dim brusnikin. not far away, andrey vasilyevna ducks. andrey vasilyevich survived everything for a long time, i don’t remember, it’s just that they looked after her, of course, there, but the fund artist is absolutely wonderful.

yes, this organization and a didn’t connect, and olga, the director of the artist’s fund, helped a lot, because it was quite difficult that she didn’t accept the axis, no matter how, by the way, things weren’t all right, then she got used to some kind of then a woman who wonderfully helped him there too there have always been doctors and everything, that is, here is a fantasist, just a huge overgrowth. andrei vasilievich did not need. uh, here he was leaving, that is, everything was enough there, there were also doctors and care. yes, and then when she was left alone. and yes, but she didn’t let her in pretty much either. so you couldn't come. by the way, she didn't let me in. the only thing that could be done was to organize it through science fiction writers. that's all help. eh, as if care and concern, and they did it all and a big big thank you to them. how it's great that there is a continuation in his students , you have, uh, a brilliant course, and you are somehow special, but all those who have been listed. here they are yes, we have some kind of charge efremov and myagkov a. boris well, yes, this charge we have, apparently,

is powerful. is it true? well, in general, yes, at the age of 17 you don’t understand anything, you get hands on someone. yes, there, well, of course, efremov never took the course, you have to go to efremov, because here is efremov, but you are there myagkov yes, the idol is sitting. i will never forget how appreciating fate is. we were sister and home some winter vacation in some kind of camp site. and when i remember, i leave this room. i was just empty everywhere on the streets. it was just that no one went to the dining room. in the dining room there was a tv set in a trout, which means that the pipe was behind a wooden one and the people were hanging, not that it was packed on the chandelier. the entire staircase was crammed. everyone was sitting somewhere. lean into this tv. in general, it was still snowing outside the window. nobody went to the empty dining room, because everyone was watching the irony of fate and understandably. it was, of course, like this, when you see the admissions office, soft. oh, somehow you don’t understand how you get into some people. and who shapes you further for 18 years, it was possible to shape what has shaped us. here are such serious people maria, here is what is like for you . here are ours. here you, for example, but did not allow

that, of course. this is outwardly in uh restraint , modesty, respect for other people, a serious attitude towards the profession. and that's all . that's probably the main thing, but i remind you that this is a podcast of letters, and my guest is the honored artist marina maria brusnikina. thank you huge. this is a podcast of the psyche. my name is natalya loseva, a journalist, my co-host is a clinical psychologist, and i am a psychologist, mikhail khors, today's our heroine, julia, hello. julia, hello, came to us with such a question, friends stopped being friends with me. everything is not, than you dispersed them not all, but the best friends are the best, even here, probably,

three people. i can er, immediately yes it appears to my head, which just surprised me. maybe i surprised them so far the question remains open, because i am a fairly communicative person. i think i like talking about problems. i think i'm talking about problems. i write, i call and often for me friendship. it's a little love. here you have three friends. i had a lot of girlfriends, for example, even here are four. uh, my birthday was there 3 years ago. these are four people. i open. now these four people are not around at all. and with me, for example, i’m there. congratulations there on the birth of children on the wedding, and with some events, someone is on it, that is, you don’t quarreled. they just dissolve into the horizon, gone into tone, right? or, for example, here is the closest friend, with whom i am even the last one today,

here is the last day, when i, probably, have already been crucified, tried, well , take some a-a step aside. yes , i wanted to invite, for example, to sit and talk, and hmm to meet, because i treat my friends. tremulously. i love them. i respect them. i understand that i spent 24/7 with a person. yes, for some time not just like that, but because it's interesting educated. this is a person close to me. in general, sometimes i have a gradation of friends and relatives. she is somehow my friends are a little relatives. although this is true. so not very cool, of course. it's okay, wait. it happens like this. this is indeed a very great value and a rarity. but it happens when girlfriends or family friends are so close that then you can’t distinguish who is closer to you, who is relative, then friends. i understand that this is not your case now, and your girlfriends have disappeared with the horizon. we are so far

they don't really want to communicate. that is, for example, i can write to invite them to the theater to go somewhere with me, but for my part , you don’t offer any joint ones, well, events, or do we have a woman friend? yes, the answer does not work. the answer does not work. some people don't want to date. some people don't want to talk on the phone. now is also such an age when people do not like to talk on the phone. i like to talk, basically, that's why i like to talk on the phone. i love it when my phone rings. i love calling. well already there, when you come across people who say they listen, i don’t like to be called, you start writing, it will be convenient there if in an hour. i take it on a trip. i say the answer in a day, i do not understand your answer. well, good. well, it's embarrassing what you wanted. write down your goal. i didn't want anything else. yulka it seems to me when you get uh in response. on i want to speak with a text message, what do you want? write your goal to tell, thank you, goodbye. well, pay attention. i am

help. today i am before going with you for a conversation. yes, after all, this is serious, yes, and i, as it were, really, i even wanted to call yesterday and ask, listen, come on, just tell me, why are you so that i did this to you? where does such hatred come from, because in sms there is even hatred all day long, and i want to say that, for example , misunderstanding begins after, for example, a person violates my personal boundaries. we sit down. i say, look, here we go further friendship will not work, because you can’t tell me i need to marry. i don’t need to get married, i don’t need to communicate with that person, i decide with what age of people i am in common. i mean, who are these people? well, as if they simply tell a person that it won’t be possible for me to dictate something, maybe it pushes back its boundaries that it once violated, i don’t know hatred. what was today's sms i wished you a good day. i was told all your wishes to you in triple size. let them return. well, why hatred, because everything came up. here are some for me

some problems some sayings to read the problem of the current time, when people start by text sms guessed you know, before michael about digging psychological uh, context, and your problems. what i'm trying to say is that i don't have an answer to, uh, these questions. i am rather reasoning, and they are in two planes on two pluses, that is, the policy of the first such. i think it's a social phenomenon in general. he overestimated friendship a little, you know, that is, it’s supposed to always have friends, and you too, so i don’t have friends like i have few friends. i'm not good enough for friendship. i'm bad friends. why should you be friends? don't want to be friends? for example, yes, why do you have to have friends? why don't you feel good with you?

one side, the other side, the second pole between which i rush that , of course, friendship is part of our kind of m-th essence of our social formula, but then friendship should be some kind, probably more natural, or something, that is, friendship , cannot be traded. it seems to me so, that is, what i definitely would not advise doing in friendship. well if i were asked my advice is to reconcile the balance. uh-huh, now, did you get enough in return of what you gave? well, if you had a cat, a kitten, they picked him up, and now you would have picked up an unfortunate kitten with a gouged out eye of skinny uh-huh in fleas. yes, what do you do spend a lot of money. you would find the best food for you, kitty. maybe it pays with something, well, except for the fact that he will become plump, we will shine animals from people

, too. you have just told us. it's literally in the first three minutes, maybe released further. you even considered what we heard. now you have calculated quite scrupulously. and they tried to report to us, what did they give? what didn't you get? in response, i pass you on to mikhail, hold on. i have more questions. but you wrote to us that it's like 2-3 years. yes, the last 2-3 years of the last. yes , i started to change like this, and my girlfriends too . we are different, there is a coach, for example, who , god forgive me, yes, who are there one about one another about another. we can even , as it were, also talk about this and not agree on opinions, but to me it's, well, not my girlfriends of my life for these 3 years. have there been any serious changes in other areas, not in relations with a girlfriend.

well, yes, why am i so acute now too. hmm , here we have the director of a construction company. you were always her director when you became director a 2 years ago. we had changes in your ordinary life, and your girlfriends , these of those three, one congratulated the other, did not congratulate. they are married now. but no, that is, you are the only married among them, yes, that is, i have some other ones yes, close to my girlfriend, and who even, probably, maybe there are three of them, too, yes, that is, like 3.3, but these other friends are they, but they perceive me as i am, again , that is, whether something changes in my life , whether i get married for me, for example, it’s very strange when it’s on your birthday or on yours, it’s very important for me. it was a date, and close

teenagers do not congratulate you. got married. well, yes, for me it was in a friend in another country, and they were in another country, therefore. not called physically. it was impossible it was possible, but you didn't call their wedding. we will just do the painting, that is, the wedding was not such a thing, why i asked about changes in other areas of life. i periodically conduct such an experiment in my group sessions. i sit a few people next to each other in a circle. and when they get comfortable. they are used to sitting next to each other. yes, there are personal boundaries, everything is one, i ask you to stand with your feet on a chair and rise above this circle. here i am asking those who left to sit there are three types of reaction. the fact that someone has become higher than the first type of reaction is

45 percent, what? how do you think rejection, probably, yes, move away, yes, yes, when someone abruptly becomes better, some people move away. and the second type of reaction for another 50 percent is to try to seat him at his level again at the usual and the remaining 5% - what type of reaction do they not notice? there is no difference. if there is a difference, they also try to rise. you see, the society is arranged in such a way that it tries to equalize. and what percentage let him stand, let him move away anyway, because you already understand uncomfortable, it seems like you are sitting and looking at about the same level. yes, i can tell

my friend. she told me in her time. no. i want to say that i have a very developing. yes, positive directors of a friend and that's it. they are just wonderful. but we are not friends. yes, well , probably, here, but why do you annoy them with something? than your straining, maybe not annoying. maybe we don't stress. maybe some different went, yes, not bad, but once again it's about half of the reactions, yes, move away from those who have become dramatically better and stronger, more beautiful, and so on married and all that is one question, when women talk. oh, about men. you know, they say, listen, yes, we sit down and we talk. i and my boyfriend here can solve such problems. i teach him to speak. and when exactly the same way i try

to talk to my girlfriend say. let's talk two here maybe. and i answer you, what is this phenomenon called? what is the name of the girlfriend, if she talking on one side? i appreciate when they talk, excuse me for interrupting you, but on the other hand. he says, i do not want to talk to you, then this is a hypocrite. wait , maybe it seems to her that she herself yulia yulia is a little puffed up in this situation, that you are trying to engage in moralizing and speak. i teach my girlfriends not to give each other any advice at all. wait, you just said, i teach my friends not to give me advice. why can't a friend give him advice? a? well, at some point i realized that i have e and the solution to be from a triangle. pocket. yes, this is the rescuer

, the aggressor, the victim both in friendship and in love in everything a and well, yes , there was such a power, when you are talking now, look. here, listen to this phrase. i teach my girlfriends not to give. they me we are all teachers to each other. we teach each other, if the global philosophical look at some things is wrong. no, we learn from each other. if we study. yes, i think that is where you are digging. here we are learning, it's about me. i learn from others, and i am a teacher for others. this already some, then you are talking about them as a newcomer tapping there. but friend - who is this? please express your opinion, a true true friend is a girlfriend. this is who, well, here, uh, there is, i have a saying a friend is known everywhere. a comrade who

walks with you through life, who rejoices in your best moments of life, which develops, looking at you. or you develop by looking at him, who shows you. but it was possible this way, or this way, and which, in difficult times, also does not turn away, because me, too, recently these events occurred, for example, before my marriage was a difficult moment. and this minute also tested those people whom it seemed to me, well, i think, god, well, probably, maybe not a single one should just go through life, this is important. and what happened, and i broke up with a man, and left work. wow, yes, it was in one week and well, there were problems, financially, too, of a nature. yes, and that's all. well wait, you said that there was a situation that became a test. yes, and what happened? who supported you? who disappointed you my brother and he

still a thief with me is my support, the best, and none of my friends seemed to be, but a friend who is always also there together, and she still is. well, you see, there is already a girlfriend. i would like to already, and what is everything that your other girlfriends have done, that's what you would be waiting for, whatever you want they did not do. well, the call, i probably didn’t expect anything else, the call is some word, maybe pleasant. that is, you did not even have enough material assistance there, just some kind of participation. yes, well, yes, the most expensive, actually, what could be? well, can i now talk about friends again? yes, i did ask a question. who is a friend and there are really two answers to this question the most common is this one you gave you described a friend and uh the least

common answer to the question when a person talks about what he is ready to do for a friend, who is a friend friend - this is for the sake of which i am ready to sacrifice myself friend, this is to whom i will come to the aid of a friend this is who friendship comes from me. and here's what you said. yes, we talked about our requirements for them. and not about what you are for them. not good, not bad, but just the answer that you gave 99% of people give. i'm talking about partnership. yes, probably. that's about. and you, he should come to me. he should tell me, there are gentle things. he must support me, that's all, that's it, then he's a right friend. yes, the word friendship should generally somehow not very much. well, i don't. you know

, this is the essence. if i start now, you will say, because you love only yourself, just, you understand, then then it is equal in rights. it's clear? well, you see, no, if you're for the sake of man. then you choose who your friend is, you took it, so he looked at such a person, they said, you are my friend. i'm ready for you. look, yulia is trying to get the formula of the right friendship from us, mikhail. i'm not sure it exists. i 'm not sure friendship exists. and this is known, only more often over the years. i'm probably disappointed here. you see, this is a consequence of what, and yesterday i wondered from what word the spell comes from? well, enchantment is what it really is, or what what is not. in fact, i am very much like that. here is a man imagining himself. here is a very beautiful table and i will try

to lean on it very nicely to get up, what will happen to me and me. i am a fantasy person, really. fine. let's get back to me here to discuss with you. julia still has a request for friendship. yes? well, judging, because three girlfriends are such shakes, three of these girlfriends hang out with these girlfriends there to talk. and then why did the request come to the request that you were underestimated, maybe that you might not have received it. uh, there is enough enthusiasm there, recognition of the admiration of the academy, maybe people give just such an assessment, if i underestimate, why should i demand some kind of assessment of myself from them? perhaps my assessment of myself is high there for someone. no, i didn't even think about it. not just come to tell us about those friends who are for me to communicate with you. it's what we tried that hurts me. and you even tried to talk to one of them. yes , i tried with everyone. why does

it hurt you? well, well, because, for example, listen to 8 billion people in the world out of these 8 billion three, because with these people we went through interesting periods of their formation and mine, when i supported me, supported me, and inspired me, impressed me, lived in difficult moments. yes, there were later, when my birthday was december 12, december 13. in the morning, i receive an sms from a friend not happy birthday, yul, i have courses. come to my courses. well, she might have forgotten. 2 years in a row she forgot my birthday here. it's strange for me. i can not do that. if i am friends, i happy birthday man. i'm in touch with him. i am natural to him, and i congratulate him on all his wonderful events. i am happy for him, and it is surprising to me that there you can not answer some and i am disappointed, these are different things. you know what's

amazing. well, honestly, they are disappointed not because they behave this way, but because you fantasized other people with different actions. they didn't fit into your patterns and your expectations. and it’s good, if your person didn’t congratulate you on your birthday, 3 years in a row, but then, when some trouble happened, and he brought and gave 20,000. eh, there or 2 million rubles. and he said, here's 2 million rubles for you. just solve your problem. and for another 2 years i didn’t wish you a happy birthday. i can not imagine, well, i can not answer. is he a friend or what is he? that's what it is all about, even if he didn't bring me 2 million. but it's just that once upon a time you already have a bunch of claims against him that he doesn't wish you a happy birthday in himself. well, damn, we just got told about it. i need to analyze. why do they stop with me to communicate with my girlfriend, if they stop communicating just because it happens everything

is everything, and you have a request. yes, i will say. wait , you're acting like a suffocator. do you understand? with a bunch of claims with this will be with these weighing scales weigh this one gave me. it gave it gave it. it didn't give. it's you somewhere inside you understand, and tell me why you're not good enough for me. and i'm not good enough. tell me why it's not enough of course i must be the best in the world people and you should all recognize me. this is a request, yes, not for friendship, but for how to support your here this far-fetched, again fantasized status is the most beautiful in the world. e friend's best communicator and all that stuff, well, no, well, not better, not better,

not worse. and what is the best is generally unknown, so once again people just become different and grow up. yes, they change , someone begins to envy someone with other interests. you annoy this is already normal. age changes other outlook on life other values. it just happens that way, and you try to keep everyone, as if, just like at 16, it doesn’t exist now. you are not 16 people, someone is walking back and forth closer to you, someone further away, and your phrase that you have three friends, who here they definitely perceive you as you are, is also a lie, don’t get in. you will also idealize them in their heads, that these people will definitely perceive me, these people will definitely be with me for the rest of my life. tomorrow something will go wrong, you will also be with them. how disappointed am i? that's it. well, well, sooner people. this is a podcast of the psyche. my name is

natalya loseva, a journalist, my co-host is a clinical psychologist, and i am michael khors of psychology, and today we are sorting out the survey. i don't know how to make friends, listen, well, didn't you have such a situation that you grew up changed? your life has changed priorities and someone you are not something that has ceased to be interesting. well, somehow you drifted away, it was , of course, how it happens to talk, but we just either stopped talking. i have always had a very simple large circle of people, i am a social person. i love to have was a hmm so i had a lot. yes indeed friends of the company. i don't know, i mean, it's important for me, it's important for me there, well, that is, it's important for me to communicate with you. i love it is important for me to communicate, and i suffer if i lose part of the communication, these are different things, this is not the same people, too, i appreciate. i especially don't know how to lose them.