this is a podcast of the psyche. my name is natalya loseva, a journalist, my co-host is a clinical psychologist, candidate of psychological sciences mikhail khors, and today we are sorting out the survey. i can't make friends. listen, well, didn't you have such a situation that you grew up changed? your life has changed priorities and someone you are not something that has ceased to be interesting. well, somehow you drifted away was, of course, what should he say? well, we just either stopped talking. i have always had a very simple large circle of people, i am a social person. i i like to have a hmm to have a lot. yes indeed friends of the company. i don't know, that is important to me , important to me there, well, that is, you communicate. i love it is important for me to communicate, and i suffer if i lose part of communication, these are different things, this is not one. and the same people are also not especially i do not know how to lose them are different things. learn

to lose the skill of losing the buzz. they just want to get lost. i’m saying that they have every right to do this, they are absolutely not at all obliged to clean up before you life loss. think okay me. now it is difficult to formulate something, because i am not talking about one person. agree the personality of all different people. they are very different because they are different. i'm talking about myself. of course, now you could, yes, how could you push them away. i would not want, uh, i offended these people with something, yes, that's why i didn't want to? why a, because we had a great communication, and the last thing i would like is that it was interrupted due to the fact that in other words the same thing repeat this question again. why are you depriving other people of their sacred right to resent you? i do not deprive. yes, deprive everything

i would like to offend people, why do people not want to? why are these girlfriends you 're talking about, as you think. that's why they refused to communicate themselves, well, or minimize communication. themselves as you most think, well, not interesting. well, i'm the first thing that i'm not interested in, how would i communicate with someone who interests me well. maybe they have a right to the fact that they are not interested in you now. they just as grateful to you gratitude for that period of life when you were interesting, and so it happens. maybe they are to the right, so that they are offended by you, or such a right? it's just weird to be offended. it seems to me, again, that you can talk, but either they can’t, of course, people in general can’t do everything , so they can offend you, of course you get worse from this. no no. perhaps this story is about the fact that you are being abandoned, as it were, you don’t understand why you are being abandoned? maybe i have pain there because

now i'm talking, already my voice is changing. by the way, a big mistake of a man. for some reason , they believe that when you throw a woman you need to. just shut up and don't explain anything for a bit. this reminds me of my friends, so we are dad when you left , you understand, and as if yes, you say, what don’t you give there? yes, of course, i give any right give the right. i do not know to throw at me. uh, dirty snow, you know? i give people love so that i am the only person on earth who should know what is happening and control everything, that this hurts me, here i am it shouldn't hurt. that is, you wanted me to be here for a long time, because it hurts me that my girlfriends, with whom we went through some period, are close and well, i open up completely. if you open , i open completely, i don’t have this here. i'm friends here and say i'm verifying. for me, even a strange concept to you, i don't have it, but rather

physiological problems. i don't get it, uh, well, you're old enough to know that opening up completely isn't the way to go. it is too. maybe you are learning. this it can also push people away from you, because imagine now i ’ll take everything off myself and give it to you. you understand, that's all, and i'll tell you the most. here, look at some. yes, that's why you leave something of your own, because this is what you dump on a person. everything is possible in this, then, too. maybe, yes, would you like to have these girlfriends? now we looked at our program with you and realized that it just hurts you, you expect from them, that they will simply explain what you did wrong. maybe you are somewhere. well, not because i'm so good,

and even just because we had some. life situations after which people, well, do not diverge so converge in fact diverge. no, you're not hurt because it happened. but because you don't expect it because you didn't expect it. yes, i reflect to you these people show now what life looks like, that's right, good people are good people. they show you what real life looks like, and you are still in fantasy that if you went through something with another person, then it should be like this for life. do you understand these fantasies, they free is the reality. i think, yulechka , that, of course, your dad's departure resonates and hurts you. i understand that my father is gone. and for you, this is still a question that has not received an answer. you are always like this a little bit . daddy's daughter is a beloved child, the only one there, and then just once and simply and leaves. well, that is, dad was yours, that very

first friend. by the way, dad is a friend, and every time now, when the inexplicable happens , this is the distance of the people you feel, as friends, this pain resonates with you. i think this is michael be little that touches. if you say, well, about something, i have little that touches. e in life, when there are some lists of problems. i read somehow i calmly relate to everything. and it would seem. that's it. come on, what do you friends learn, husband. there are relatives there. i have a really good environment. and i really can live without friends, of course, but i also have friends. i have great ones, but i believe that i build relationships that are close and close with people who are still like me, you are successful people, developing here the key word is believe, people who do not know how to envy believe people know how people

have to envy. this is normal friends. well , of course they got into their heads. all their thoughts were read into the soul, the depths were recognized. here. well, somehow i believe that such and believe. well, it's better to believe in something, i don't know god. and you believe that people are, so they are not ideal, they are not ideal. this is bad, so you know how to envy. i am deeply sympathetic. mikhail is our today's heroine, as a person who now lives in detail brightly naut. maybe, and maybe she will seem to someone overly emotional and charming and with some high expectations, but it seems to me that this is life itself and your sincerity. she impresses, of course. just endless. i can only wish that my homework treats myself a little more carefully. focus

a little on yourself, stay alone, see yourself, how wonderful you are, beautiful and so complex, and you had so much of everything and childish narcissism is already enough. this is how perfect i am. ah, great michael. just don't let it all be on the stage. and you see, there on the sea on the lake for some kind of by itself. make friends with yourself a little. no one will answer you like that in friendship, and with no one will you have such a long-term relationship in your life, than with whom? believe yourself, julia , that this is julia with whom i propose to be friends. she's worth it. let's focus on her, please, okay, i don't see where yulia is not friends with herself, on the contrary. here it is

overpriced. uh self-image that, i can't envy. i'm completely honest here. open i am friends to the fullest. that 's all, it goes without saying to the fullest . it seems to me, somewhat far-fetched , you understand that with such a fantasy attitude towards yourself you force other people too. well, they cannot be like that, respectively. and neither can you, because we are human. we are not perfect. we make mistakes. we were jealous of someone. somewhere someone was rude, somewhere they said something and another person was offended. well, that's what's important, you can't offend anyone, offended, people themselves it's a choice. this is not a consequence of your actions, and in fact, when we grow up, we grow up, personally. we are just, uh, this is our circle of friends, it is slowly starting to narrow. and this is normal, a natural process, but

it requires that you have as many friends as you had 10 years ago. well, again , this is demanding to be an infantile child, so people can leave and study. now they are teaching you to lose, you understand? excuse me, we are adults. do you understand that you will lose a lot sometime close person is much closer than otherwise. learn from these examples, because in all these fantasies that you should not lose, that you are the only person on earth who can build a life in such a way that you do not lose anyone and leave everyone in your power and drown them with your love. i'm all fantasy in reality so it won't be like before. get rid of these fantasies. moreover , you will have fewer disappointments with such a calm, accepting way of thinking. well, we send our heroine to think, because that some one such solid advice

, michael and i, the medal. we have slightly different concepts. by the way, friends, you can write your advice to yulia in the comments on social networks how to make her friends stop leaving her, or maybe, on the contrary, would advise and how to live with this now and enjoy this practical task. find 10 proverbs about friendship on the internet and treat them critically, for example, like this one is not a warrior in the field. this is the right proverb or the wrong warrior. here you see, and from childhood it pushes us that if you are alone, then you can’t do anything at all. you have to be with someone. do not have 100 rubles. and have 100 friends. these are correct proverbs. i do not know on everyone chooses for himself. well, try these alleged truths. yes, just sit down on them and look at them critically. well, the truth is, it's not. is it possible to fight alone , you can have 100 rubles. 100 friends. yes?

yes, yes, yes, why do we need something yes , why do we need to choose a psyche in which i am a journalist natalya loseva and we lead ourselves clinical psychologist, candidate of psychological sciences mikhail khors, we do not always agree, but we are always united in our desire to find some truth to help our heroine julia asks why her friends are not friends with her, who would know the answer to this question. the main thing is that you will think about it, maybe i spit it out more, probably, i won’t think anymore, really. maybe some kind of permission. i need this psychologist, that they may not love you, and they can from you, and, well, how to stop the relationship altogether. this consultation of facts, in general, not very much about friendship. yes good, so good bad. well , somehow, like, i have no friends from you

, such fangirls i have friends. i live just when i realized that i have no friends was relieved. all this is surprising to no one. hello dear viewers on air podcast melodies of my life. i am the host of this podcast, valery syutkin, today a wonderful bright artistic artist rodion gazmanov rodion came to visit me hello dear. it's very nice to see you mutually here and together with our podcast, and we we will be happy to learn about various details and events in the life of rodion gazmanov, but we will do this through melodies, because the melody is the best memory keeper heard the melody and down to the smallest details.

i want to remember something, and what we don’t want to remember, we won’t remember it. that's right. well, always the first. uh, in our podcast, the melody of childhood. here is the first suck. this does not mean that right in childhood this song is full of holes, just listen to ask, what did it sound like for young rodion listen, well, the song that i most associate with my childhood is the song that now always asks me at concerts, because yes, because it was my first such stage debut, and there are a lot of stories associated with it. uh, at some point when i retired from music. there, in the summer , somewhere around 13, when my voice began to break down , or at 20, when i was studying at the institute, i decided to return. we started playing corporate parties, and people were interested, they sang something there and i had a terrible dislike for this song, because everyone always remembered her, they always asked, i decided not to sing her at all, they warned me right away. lucy we don't sing and i had

uh a director back then, uh, who is so very commercially-oriented diplomacy. and he says, let's do it differently. we will say that we do not sing, but we will say that he did not love her, but for separate money. you can and called some kind of horse. yes, but called such a horse project, so that people immediately, so that people would not be ashamed to retreat. we played with some gold miners. uh fits somewhere in middle of the performance. i have a lot of my author's material played, in principle, they liked dancing there, but such a little bit is already very cheerful person. i say heaven, come on lucy the director would take it. he says, i'm sorry, we're just on and they go to talk. a minute and a half later, the director returns with such eyes. i mean, once we sang three times, in short, uh, i won't name the money, but there is

a very yes, the main reception itself. yes, the trick worked. like this one time, and then me one person who is highly respected is not in music said, let's go idiot , why do not i rule out, but why are people ready to kill for having a song that they are asked for you have such a song they ask for it, but you do not sing, this is wrong. i also support your opponent. we must play. i always fulfill and vasya what he asks. and by the way, with great pleasure. but you remember, here is the time when you performed lucy , because oleg, the father of my today's guest , mikhailovich gazmanov, he is. e said he changed. there was another name and not at all about the dog song was a problem with ligaments famous stories, yes, about a girl whose name was lucy and that's when her father had a problem with ligaments. he could not all uh, at let out exploit. let's exploit child labor. but like

a child about a girl, he would spend everything. here is your first. we'll definitely play it together now. here is the feeling. here you sang, probably, at the beginning it was pleasant. i think so, it wasn't that i didn't like the song. it's just that strangers asked me so many times in childhood, in general and further i found my dog ​​that somehow faith in humanity was lost. it's about, you know what? it looks like when in childhood we talk to birds, and that's it. i want to move on in life, but now all the time , like any adult. well, as your lucia they are, and that's annoying. well, i imagine, i 'll draw a parallel about now, probably, there you sit in a restaurant from this one, like, you know, some kind of tea there. there brewed very cool. and uh, the waitress comes over to set. well, as what you need, you need to wrap it. she mocks and that's it lucky phrase. it is so successful. well, let's have a small fragment, and i propose, by the way, to be in time. e. original lyrics of lucy how do you see fit? yes , let's premiere the song colored advertisements on the important

pavement are trembling, we met her when the rain i ran it's a pity there was no time to talk and only what's his name, i asked him his name. very in the audience, mostly production veterans and my director appears in

the wings and to get my attention do this. i know that i'm out and i need to sing 15 minutes. there let's say the prefabricated end. and i only heard the first song. i’m backstage, i’m watching the director stand and show like this , hitting the pocket. i think he wants to tell me. he so again shows how i perceive. this is valera, the money received is finished well, well, roughly speaking, the theater of facial expressions and gestures perceive it. just taking a step, dear friends, thank you very much for the warm one. okay, i'm taking a step. he says, valera , i'll show you the main songs, guys, don't grow old with your heart, you understand? and after that before going on stage. we have become ask direct you have grown old in your heart. today, he says, you can work as you get older, that is, at our age, only with an advance payment, but this is not important in life. let's

go back to childhood. say, after the performance of this song, the parents bought the dog, like the cartoon kid and carlson do you remember there they bought a dog from the kid. uh, i was 9 years old because 10, i guess i asked for a dog. just every day i got a german shepherd. there is no serious event, but his name was korby. and yes, from the scottish raven, by the way, it is translated and he was a big dog. i was ten boy and it is clear who walked whom, then when it was my turn to buy a pet. i chose a cat. it's a maine coon. oh yes. his intelligent name is sheldon , this is actually a lynx with a tassel at all . here is a taken, and walks along the street builds neighbor's dogs, periodically red or diamonds. no, well, such a multi-colored, here are the maine coons, in principle, they have a good character, but, they always have one owner. this is the one to whom he allows himself to be fed

with pills with the need to entrust someone when he was fed to leave, yes, a no, and if not with you, no, and customers are real estate, is there anyone to feed? yes, always anyway, here, but he's bored. he does not give views, but it's easier with dogs, their emotions are always understandably ready. you need to be able to read. and when you understand your cat so you understand what he is trying to show now. you understand that their range of emotions is much, deeper, more intelligent and subtle than that of a dog. i understand, here i am the weather of the birth of a dog, and my beloved women, she is just a cat in the year of the rabbit and the cat was born, therefore, with cats hard to agree. well, it's great that we remembered. so, through lucy, the childhood of rodion gazmanov and now you are growing up, i understand that lucy had enough and you got a little tired of show business. and now,

let's call young rodion gazmanov. maybe this is the melody of youth , that is, the formation of the choice of the future path at the time of youth, when we formed our musical taste. i listened to three russian musicians. and oleg mikhailovich gazmanov because i was still writing. yes, but i listened to a lot of leonid agutin and i don’t the rating came, but just the most important thing was left for a snack by valery sudutna, and yes, here is an album that is what you need and an album of radius roads. i listened to holes. yes, i went to study in england, great britain. so i constantly listened to musicians in my room. i can listen to one album for a week in a row and absolutely i won't get bored. and when the british began to come into my room , he says, au syutkin, i immediately understood that i listen to my last name enough when i go somewhere where there is no understanding of russian

language. uh, i'm very pleased when they tell u to check you in. according to your last name? i say i did not understand initially. and this is royal forces with skirting. again, please, please, so well, here's the song that a hmm right now i wanted to play. although, in principle, i can, probably any with e , well, from which comes what i need to know for sure, i can tell ours there , some are more complicated, dear viewers , it’s nice that the guest has such a taste, you understand, sometimes they will come, and then it’s immediately clear that he understands the brain, come on if you get tired buy eyes. glasses black glasses are like brakes for almost everyone. you can't be recognized in them, you can't catch up with them, you can swim and fly.

buy buy and wear these black glasses in dark glasses boredom. so damn it, you want to sing. you just want to not blind with your eyes and take off your glasses. do not rush. i want to say. this is the first song, the first one i'm with igor balashov with a guitarist. we were on tour. he replaced yevgeny havtan, sometimes he took and igor took such a small port-studio with him and said, valera, let

's try something. here, you are the music compose. well, yes, well, since as the author of the text, maybe some one says, just let it not be, it seems. i love bosonova, funk like that. there, and that was the first one. i was immediately hot in the summer, and i saw such a direct object, you know the associations. and why not make such an advertisement for them, then the director immediately told me, she would definitely contact someone, yes, and sell glasses to the company and went out. yes, there was another time, and hell, well, the song, but the song remained so very pleasant. remembrance dear friends, you watch the podcast melody of my life on channel one. i am valery syutkin, my guest today is rodion gazmanov. and how, after all, the music called me back. this is the decision point. people do not understand legs, if you are born in the family of a famous musician, they

think there are only pluses. in my opinion, the cons are much greater, because you go through all the time. this is, well, a comparative spectrum, whatever you do. it should be two heads taller and something in your repertoire that you can take as a compliment. have at least hmm 2m strong hit. this is in pairs in parallel and the first gravity. yes, yes, and thank you, and i want to say this on my wave, they are like that. well, gravity is absolute. i first write a song, and then i analyze why i wrote it like that, that is, i'm not trying to get somewhere in style. and i also have two associations in the song of gravity. here are two such references - this is natural, valery syutkin and the leap year group. i remember yes, it turned out to be some kind of some stylistic fusion, which i realized after as he wrote the fact is that the most important

thing is that the song this wanted to tell something, but there this story is catchy. it's not just a pretty word, you know? how not. so tell me, this is the moment. i'm wondering what pushed you into music, you returned thanks to what, and that's it. i just realized that my music won't let go when i started writing songs in the margins of my notebook in my first year. and then i realized that it was with me, but always i was stubborn. i did get a financial education. i worked. uh, a few years specialty, then in all sorts of building trades, there and so on, and at some point i suddenly realized that i want something else. that is, there was a business there, as it were, i spoke somewhere. we made acoustics there with friends and colleagues, but suddenly i realized that i still want to immerse myself in music completely, because, but here it’s impossible to combine . i think the director can always explain the strategy to the director of his brands.

like, of course, and at some point i just quit all projects, uh, business projects, whom i was and started making music. well, that's right. because any occupation. it must be a dream come true. they exchange troubles for money, as often happens, you exchange troubles for money for everything good. rodion is a melody of love, a song that calls to her for a dream. at school, i had such a big first love. and here's the song then i listened very closely to the band roxette oh yes, our swedish bunch of friends and incredible melodies of course, and uh, very good language actually, which is written in the song why let's say many modern, but english-speaking performers do not fit me at all, because there is no text in the song. and here are the times of the beatles roxette sting and so on. yes, there was content, and in fact

it is very difficult to compare russian and english in terms of texts, because, of course, the russian language is much more colorful. but english fits into the dimensions in a completely different way, so, uh, well, nevertheless, write a beautiful song with meaning, but in english . it seems to me more difficult. just because what is less, as it were, not such a tool; less colors; less beauties. absolutely true and to be of interest. yes, and with the girl of my first love, i danced to the song it mass even love s leila, he

comes through the noisy window, beautifully dear from the heart. say offended. you then with object. we had a very short romance, in fact, then we saw each other several times in our lives, but we saw each other in random companies, but still nice. now

it's not anymore. that crazy regret that you did something? wrong you know, here love is such a thing, in fact, that in your heart there always remains a place for the person whom you even when you loved in the past tense, and if there is a negative, if there is some kind of resentment, some bitterness, unfortunately, this is not love . this is already a feeling of one's own feelings, resentment, a feeling of some kind of injustice. this is not love, because when you love, you want the person you love to be fine, even if he is not with you. this is called when you are from a person, except for him , nothing more is needed. you are very important touched the string from the melody of your life. i would like to tell our viewers, guys , girls, do not fill your head with negative emotions. that's completely simple in your head. there may simply not be room for something bright and very pleasant, so think more about the good, move from

the melody of love to the melody of sadness, that is , in fact, sometimes there are all the greatest songs in the world. they, in my opinion, are written either in anticipation of love, or because you have lost it. that is, these strong emotions, catapult, she gives colossal everything to writing all the good sad songs. you are not, in general, all the songs on earth. these are catchy melodies that you want to perform and drink. this is when the soul sings it precisely because of the absence. difficult times appear when you can accurately assess, either what you have lost, or you are hoping for a new meeting. it is in this state of mind that a melody of sadness is created. what is rodion gazmanova?

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you can endlessly say, it is that in my heart it is the shape of my heart, yes, a card suits of spades are the swords of soldiers. uh, clubs are a weapon of war in english diamonds. these are performance fees. but this is not the shape of my heart, so he told me that his guitarist dominic miller was warming up before the concert. classical guitar exercise , in fact, it is really on this exercise, he came up with a melody, that is, the guitar move itself, this beautiful one. well, that's how it happens sometimes. i played it my way. it is

generally in a different key and in a different position, this is a beautiful melody as well as freijol. he is a very thin person. you see, our idol is dead, another insting song. this is the messaging. well, this is interesting, i heard somewhere how it was played in such a sound by a cover band in a restaurant. i listened. they also did it in a completely different way, and my own version of the camera was born in my head, which i periodically also perform at the apartment houses. here, yes, it also turned out interesting with the style. my story is connected. do you remember, when the new year was filmed on channel one, there was also an instinct there, and in general, in my opinion, everyone before just a performance.