therefore, these debts will not be collected from citizens. a large natural fire in the krasnodar territory does not threaten settlements and infrastructure, the ministry of emergency situations of gelendzhik assured that a forest massif on the slope of the markohodsky ridge burned down, according to the department, a helicopter operating in the sky dropped more than 130 tons of water onto the chakra, however, the flame is fanned by a strong wind gust in the mountains reaches 30 m/s. during the day. the area of ​​the fire increased to 5 hectares with about 200 firefighters fighting the fire, it is reported that it is planned to attract an additional two be-200 aircraft. in vladivostok, where , as a result of bad weather, about 6.5 thousand residents were left without electricity, the power supply was restored, the city authorities reported that due to heavy rains, companies were recommended to switch to a remote mode of operation today. primorye in the power of a new cyclone. about half of the monthly rainfall has already fallen and it is expected that today there will be the same amount of wind in addition to a sharp increase in wind to a hurricane, especially in the coastal zone, according to forecasts, the level in

the rivers can rise by 2.5 m. 16-year-old figure skater alina gorbacheva, missing in moscow on monday, she was found alive and unharmed, as the moscow prosecutor's office reported, the russian champion among juniors was found in the cinema of one of the shopping centers. earlier, the girl was recorded by video surveillance cameras in one of the cafes, but she did not get in touch in this area of ​​the moscow river embankment and the park where volunteers cynologists and divers and searched for the missing investigative committee. opened a criminal case. under control, the investigation was taken by the central committee. after the discovery of the athlete, the prosecutor's office noted that according to preliminary data, no illegal actions were committed against gorbachev. why alina did not return home was investigated by the investigators. by now, it's all good to see you.

i had two girlfriends with whom i considered friends, with one we have been talking since the age of 10 and have not been talking for probably eight years. it seems to me somewhere plus or minus. yes, we don’t communicate, we had a fight, to be honest, i don’t even remember why, most likely, it was squinting bananas. i was offended, as it happened, basically, even during this period of our non-communication. she got married, gave birth to a child and baptized him, we were already at that conscious age when we agreed and it was such an extracurricular thing that i would be the godparents of the child, she would be the red of my child. so we had close communication, and six months later, after she painted the child. she called me with an excuse to make amends. i asked her. why didn't you do it before? why did you marry in silence? why did you, uh, give birth

in silence? why are you with me with a person who, as you say, was the closest to you did not share this, she answered me in general. and then she really wants to hear how she said that i was afraid that you would reject me, we won’t make peace. and this answer did not suit you, of course, that is, she told you that she is a living person who has fears, who may be hurt, who can worry. why didn't you like this answer? i accepted it. this is her answer. i know it's great that she was honest with me, but for me it was strange what they said. she didn't want to be with me. and when her husband started beating her, and she called me for you. this is weird. just ordinary human behavior is much simpler than rejoicing with those who rejoice. you already know this

for centuries, a proven maximum. it’s just that i, uh, could no longer not trust her not to communicate, i was pushed away by this whole situation very strongly pushed you away not this situation pushed you away your pride your opinion that this situation is bad, that this person behaves incorrectly and should behave otherwise, this is communication. eh, it's close close deep. like you said, i don't could trust her you missed the word full completely. yes, and you do not need to completely trust adults mentally. they trust to some extent. you see, this was the only person i trusted; she wishes you a happy birthday and you don't. here. see what's important? uh, korin, such wording is categorical; no one wants to communicate with me completely. ah. i didn't trust anyone. she is the only person. here is this categorical. people are repelled from

you, you know how a hungry person walks. so he has no money to buy food. lies on the ground 100 rubles. where you can buy a pie, he says 100 rubles. i won't take it. i want lunch at an expensive restaurant. until they put me 5,000 here. i won’t bend down, you understand, then another 100 rubles go on. another 100 rubles. another 100 rubles. i don't need 100 rubles. just give me 5,000. that's completely what i want, then give it to me. this is how you behave with friendship. you don’t take a message, you don’t take what is internal, outwardly, you may be trying to somehow communicate behaviorally, but again people, on the other hand, somehow read you a little non-verbally. and when you internally devalue the level of communication, the level of interest that exists between you and some human colleague, for example, yes , you, if you think that this is not enough, it is bad that this should not be more.

yes, then people are so close to you and they feel, apparently karina really likes to communicate with me, once again, she is somehow dismissive of the level of communication that i can now give friendship - this is such a job. and contrary to many things , including social public opinion, there may be inequality. here is something else citizens of some kind, yes or approval friendship - this is about you. this is not about other people, if you want to be a friend to someone, be and if you need to definitely exchange some benefits from this friendship take what people can give and give what you think is equivalent to what i represent now and to that, to everything, to what i say, certain events have now led. what have i've been betrayed so many times you can't even imagine and it's probably you can tell it hurts so much

until now karina tell me this can be a traumatic situation. i have a few, probably two uh, which still resonate in my heart of this situation the first time, when i was 18 years old hmm i really wanted to communicate with one company. we have such a small stadium inside the house, and then we all went out for a walk. everything was fine in the evenings, we sat chatting and talking at some point, but people started hiding from me. i could go outside, there was no one there, for example, winter. i go out into the street no one. no. i call the guys to find out where they are because they walked every evening. that was 100%, and they told me. oh, we are at home. i call the second one, i get the same answer, and then i call, the third one says to me, yes, we really were all on the list. well, it's just that there's someone there. he just doesn't want to see you. he asked everyone to tell you, and this went on more than once singular throughout. there for some weeks

or it hurts, i really persuaded people so that they would not communicate with me, but be in the company. basically, all the young people were there two or three girls and these girls. i thought we had a normal relationship. but first of all, too. basically. i wrote about whether they would go for a walk or not, and on their part it was necessary quite rarely, but i tried not to pay attention to it . wait this was happening somewhat stirred to stop communicating with them after the first time. after the first time, i didn't understand that in fact this is completely communication against me, they explained this to me, then karina why did such a situation arise that your company did not want to see? i don’t know, i ask this person repeatedly, but he would only say that he hates me, that i slowly say that i somehow communicate incorrectly, that is, in general, he found some superficial , but a phrase in order to describe to me, this young man was. yes, yes, then afterwards, he

went into the army and suddenly. the whole team in general company. she has completely changed and all the types wanted to communicate with me, that is, he is such an opinion leader who was not ready to communicate with everyone. he came and started the whole situation. everyone openly said that he was against it. what is the betrayal. i'm not saying it's a betrayal. i say that this is a painful situation for me. and what were the situations when i also had a situation. the girl with whom i talked and in general, whom i considered myself a friend for myself, and she argued with my young man on me and here it was a very cool betrayal. i would rather not go into full details. which means i met a very rich man, and she madly wanted a man with money too, frankly. ah, i introduced her to his friend, who also had money, but

we will introduce my young man. just the same, my friend, he argued with my young man. they told my friend all this, as she thought. she was aware of what these people were going to do to me. she made me into the place where they were nowhere going to do it and didn't say so. she said after, but after it was very late , so betrayal. she, uh, would swear to live that she does not communicate with these people, however, with the guy there, my ex, she lit together. i know this very well, but even photos with this person. what should i do? after that, you yourself said, this is the real betrayal, this is an absolutely vile, vile act. this man, of course, is no friend. it's not even an enemy, it's some kind of it's just an abomination, yes. it also happens that there are a lot of people in life, everything, goodbye. she left your life. i also had a friend who on my

birthday gave me a choice, either my mother or her friend, which was completely absurd and natural. i immediately sent it very strongly to such people who made the situation. yes, then it was 21 years old. psychic, my name is natalya loseva, my co-host is phd in psychology , clinical psychologist mikhail khors and our guests karina, who doesn't know how to be friends karina a here is the person with whom you are friends, he must be some kind of well , i don’t know how to correspond to you, there is no external provision, that is , here you don’t have any social barriers, some kind of social selection. no, michael has a question for you. for me , after all, the concept of friendship. it still has some kind of such. well, not quite, let's say material and rational let's say. uh, shade and explanation, because it

really happens. here, like. here are different people, this is a nice interesting person - this is a nice interesting one, but with this i want to here to share communicate be silent together in a cafe go to the cinema go uh, share something like that, well, sad or joyful, but not with this. what it is? what makes people friends? that's at some level that is rationally difficult to explain. well, if we remove, on the one hand, mysticism, and on the other hand, something like that is simply not quite material rational. well, there may even be some smells, for example, from childhood, there are pleasant or unpleasant. yes, one smells like this, with such notes there are perfumes from another in a different way, and that’s all here, but the main number of problems and difficulties in relationships are not because of this, but because of our attitudes because of ours , this maximalism of yours, which you

impose on yourself in your work. yes, as you draw, so you also present it there for you. but this one is less than i want or what i expect and bad. it will be almost the same, but in fact it is not, but there are a number, and a huge number of negative events, and they are not interesting for people, which repels me very much from people. i can say, that some people with people. i'm just very well afraid to run away from me right away. look again, it repels you. you will try now. don't push me away. yes, but to hear just for the sake of what you came for this repels you, not how people behave, but how you feel about your expectations. yes, fears are derivative opinions that this behavior is bad and wrong and should be different. here is the opinion. it is , of course, driven into your head by someone or even

let's say by someone here, but this is an opinion reality does not correspond to the opinion that you need to be completely good. as you an artist, and other friends. yes, it is erroneous in your head there is a map of this world , an idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthis world. and in this map, if it is correct, that is, it corresponds to this world. then we are guided by this map, we live, and what we expected, we got. but if the card does not match, then there are high expectations in it. false erroneous expectations , then every time we fall into a hole, where we thought there would be a bridge, and it hurts us. so here's how get a card? which corresponds to reality. there is no way to check

, only you can understand, you can go and see what kind of reality it is and draw your map in accordance with what your artist is. yes, in this world we are walking on a huge beach. the sand on which lies and we go and sometimes we see in this sand some brilliant, uh , sparks, we bend down, with an effort , we raise this sparkle and look. no, it's also a grain of sand. good bad no, song. well , let's go on looking for emeralds, and, probably, to some extent we will find, but most gems in this world, when they are found do not shine. but once again study other people, you have a ban on e to reveal their depth to people who generally want to communicate about themselves. mostly. this is a behavioral story. want more communication. they say