here, too, somehow there is no such kind of global. i live to do something right there. yes, it's also good, there it is. and i, too, honestly don't know. and for what here i definitely live, it gave birth to three children. there, on my silver wedding anniversary, i don’t know there, i help people. well, so to speak, why do i live globally. the devil knows, yes, we will. let's go philosophers. they are better and smarter there all their lives. uh, so in the history of the earth they did not know, what is the meaning of life, struggled with it, but nevertheless, michael is a question of the meaning of life. it's absolutely natural question of healthy evolution. they, but to demand from yourself that you know exactly what is the point in your life is to demand from yourself that very divinity. i must know for sure that i am the only person on earth who needs to know what the point is, and for everyone else he wants to make it measurable and achieve these

performance indicators, and so that he has an annual report that i have planned everything. in the sense of life this year i have. it came true calculated the debit with the credit, what are we to? yes, we mean that, of course, uh such the desire it makes you, well, better and stronger, for example, many competitors, but you can be manipulated for the same desire, and you can be manipulated. and it turns out that his vulnerable country, that is, when the excess is somewhat in some kind of even very good quality there in the white business. yes , for this inflection you can be used to speak there, but here they didn’t remake it well enough or there to reduce the price or something, and you will agree. and yes, they are not good enough, you know, so here you should work on it, what not good enough. this does not mean bad , there is one circumstance that makes the conversation,

it is especially important and great that you came to talk about it, what do you think about it today, in a month your son is getting married. and here are the children, especially since the child you get is not so early. it is true that children must be loved unconditionally. i am very afraid that this is your desire to be in everything better to be in everything. how correctly michael shows to the ceiling will spill over to your relationship with your child to your expectations from your son 28 circles, 35 tutors. and even if it's not articulated, if you don't tell him every day that he's not good enough . i don't know in push-ups, pyramid picking or in learning languages, the child will feel that you expect more from him. maybe just such a gift of fate for you, so that unconditionally love for your child is simple, because well, such a miracle , here is your continuation, he already deserves your

great love, without any achievements. maybe this state is a way out for you. yes you can get to love him and then yourself more. not for anything in particular. it's just like that. and by the way, there is a good technique here, one psychological one is to forgive yourself, but because you, well, maybe you didn’t do something, as you would like, and why would you like to forgive yourself? what do you think, in what you were not good enough, do you have any claims to yourself? well, i will adhere to such a point of view that regretting the past is pointless. i can’t change it, anyway, that is, you need to change the future, in theory super. well, let's give a recommendation to our viewers. how to forgive yourself let's, yes, here we take a sheet of paper, write a phrase. i forgive myself, and then before the word i forgive, we add the letter y yes and it turns out, i simplify myself, but

i simplify. i'm starting to take it easy on myself. i may not have achieved something. maybe he didn’t even get up at 5:00 in the morning, or is there something else? come on, i take a simpler look at myself and my loved ones, and this is a simplification of my requirements. that is, when we begin to rely on what they have on their imagination. leads to us being more we forgive more we forgive less negative emotions less negative emotions more strength to achieve again more. look, mikhail alexey shows us a rather typical picture. here is such a manager for about 40 years, who has already achieved a lot and has become a lot. that is a typical picture of such a burnout. are there any universal tips that make you feel like you're burning out, right? first, how? why do you feel something? are you burning out? yes , i don’t want to go to work, my partners are pissed off. yes

some colleagues here is what needs to be done in this situation, even psychosomatics on their knees, even psychosomatics went to their knees. you see, he understood, yes, their legs do not want to go somewhere. yes? but what to do? how about a man? well, somehow i don’t know how to gather myself there calmly, firstly. first. we say goodbye to ourselves for our burnout and the second. uh, the mistake in overcoming the crisis is to try to fill in this pain. how are you? speak black this is the state, yes, pour something positive and these tips, well, go there and relax there. hey, buy yourself anything. eat something tasty there, go for a walk and socialize, play sports. well, how to do all this if you don’t have the strength to do it? yes, therefore, the task is not to receive positive emotions, when you feel bad, and the task is to even out at least a little in peace. yes, that is, work not with positive emotions but with negative ones, but here it is important to remember that negative emotions

are not a consequence of the events that we encountered; negative emotions are a consequence of our rejection of these events. this here is our demand that these events should not take place, that this crisis should not take place, that everything should be different. and if this happens, then trouble. energy was gone completely a lie. during this time you have achieved dofiga, what? sorry , people don't achieve that much in a lifetime. how have you been for the last 2 years of your life in ukraine that for someone it is absolutely unattainable, but you did it, i had an office at the oncology center. i used to go out for a walk sometimes, people who had their lungs or mothers cut out, there children with oncology stood and smoked right there near the exit, you understand, they also have to do it. they would have to, they can’t, but you could. please don't underestimate your accomplishments. make a list of your accomplishments. look at this list. add there, something on this list can

be reduced. alexey, i got up at 5 am today. this achievement cannot be compared not with your fantasies about yourself, but with real life. see how many people get up at 5:00 in the morning a little at 5:00 in the morning. i'm glad you don't get up at 5:00 in the morning. i believe that you would now just to rest, you just started to go out. as you describe the child needs to stay, they have homework for you every night before going to bed, he almost falls asleep mentally. do you find five? reasons for this day to tell the universe. thank you. here it can be something global , it can be small. it might be good weather. it may be some of your small achievements. here, just find a variety of small and big reasons to say

thank you to the universe. and i have this addition homemade you don’t have to remember the task, you can do it, you can’t, then you just couldn’t, because we leave the choice. yes , because here again you will begin to scold yourself for the fact that only 5 were not found. well, they didn’t find one , they found it, or they didn’t find it at all, or they forgot, sometimes it’s possible. how then can i say that i already practice this only not 5 but 10, but, really, not every day and i have one more, that there is a light concept, one record, right? uh, here you have equated the concept of love and love to take it to heart. it's not the same understand to worry about something and love. it's not the same thing. let's understand the word love. well, for example, as he suggested to us to understand, the great russian writer. dostoevsky, he said, you love a person if you love him the way god created him. the same for yourself.

you love yourself. if you love yourself the way you are now. but if we begin to worry that we are not the same as we fantasized about, this is not love, by the way, we will continue the dostoevsky christian concept self love, really. this is fundamental. if you love yourself and accept yourself, then you will accept the rest of the world friends. this was a podcast of the psyche, where i am a journalist, natalia loseva and my co-host psychologist mikhail khors, candidate of psychological sciences. here are such difficult situations that they disassemble and unravel complex, but actually typical for residents of large and small cities who strive strive strive strive and sometimes their aspirations themselves and get confused our guest alexei came with his problem, which lies in the search for the meaning of life, we are not sure that mikhail and i could find the meaning of life for him, but, probably, we marked the fairway along which it is worth sailing.

you see, here's a thing, it turns out. andrey nikolaevich ditty. one came to us scored nonsense. it does not matter to take it, let's wait a little. kovalenko remember this. well , of course, i remember this, the city of yaroslavl, this is mommy ben, the guys who composed a song about a fun-comotive. this is one such chorus, let's say one verse, namely, dedicated to my honor. yes, and there was also about egor in damadian, it was about dima krasotkin and about the whole team and about the judges and to catch a cold too. yes, that is, these are, uh, such ditties that they composed in 2002, after the championship, uh, season, just

about the second. ah, championship season. these ditties were already spinning and spinning constantly both on the ice rink and in the cars of our fans and hockey fans and in our locker rooms. naturally, also olympic andrey kovalenko today is a guest of the podcast lab program we are talking about hockey hockey football is a lot of topics, because continental hockey is developing and you haven't been seen for a long time andrey kazachya what does he do when he was last on the ice on the ice. last time i was literally this wednesday. uh, i live in the city of yaroslavl and do social work. i include difficult teenagers, athletes and so on for youth policy. about what plast can be opened , yes, and so, we train twice a week on ice, no one has canceled, but you have to be distracted by nizhny novgorod, your son plays there. he's a better scorer thought about what u you will be a dynasty. you know, when my son was born, i really dreamed that he would follow in my footsteps, but whether there would be a dynasty of hockey players and

whether he would succeed in hockey, no matter how much i thought about it, i tried to help him. and what's the best way to do it? how do i see this hockey? yes, in the current situation. well, i would say that it is still too early to say that this is a dynasty. yes, he progressed all these years, since the age of seventeen, since he got, uh, into the first team of lokomotiv yes, he progressed in the same youth team when they won the cup kharlamov and the world cup, but today, i would say, probably in adult hockey. this is the best season so far. uh, you can see that he has grown, you can see that he has matured, but for a good athlete. you must repeat what you have already done. that is, you have to keep your bar you. keep your level and then you can say that you have succeeded as a hockey player and accomplished as

an athlete. and if you ride the waves, but as they say, up and down up and down, today this result showed tomorrow there is no saying that you are good hockey player or athletes. it is hardly possible, but another thing is igor nikolaevich because larionov yes, he created this team and i must say that the second season will be a big test for him, because he already has such charm. it may not be from that hockey that shows the lower but i think that they have already had the test for the first season. and when they just started showing. this is hockey, many skeptics. many experts said that this was not for long, that there was not such a difficult preseason as they used to see it. yes, why this hockey will end quickly now the team will fall the team will lose when there is no such preseason, indeed, it soars. and it seems like, well, it's over, i 'm honestly kind of a skeptic. it would not. this is visibility. that is, guys.

we worked hard, no matter how hard the preseason was. it was just directed a little differently. eh, in our soviet good times. you have to re -sausage tons of iron there, yes, drag it over to distill. you have to run kilometers there, but you just were preparation, but a slightly different plan, then we saw with you what, well, now a month or two will pass. of course, they are definitely rolling towards winter in the wrong place. by winter, they’ll definitely pilaf then, they’ll definitely well, pilaf and iron, as if they were flying there. yes, it's scary, but fortunately, as they say, they passed the test, of course, always. uh, second year. that's how they say, the second - the championship year is harder than the first. why because everyone wants to beat you, they want to throw you off. speedy began to prove that they are stronger than the same, and here igor nikolaevich with company. ah, hockey players with leaders. yes, we will fully call it a common torpedo. yes, that is

, it will certainly be harder for him, because from the second year everyone will want to prove that their hockey is better than this. on the first channel news time. my name is yury shcherbakov hello, russian troops have improved their tactical situation in the kupinsky direction of the special operation. motorized rifle units of the grouping of troops help to hold the lines. west fighters do not allow the enemy to group up to build up forces with air situation is controlled by drones. scouts found several enemy militants.