our morning show host is a lark. i swallowed a lump and then said, hello, i am your idol. i remember this, i just blushed deeper and couldn’t say anything more, because you really were idols for me. i just didn't quite articulate the shameful star on tour. nautilus listened only to the shameful star. he didn't turn off. that is, everyone got on the bus with some kind of quote. goodbye, it was too little to tell you that our comrade slava butusov put a lot of effort into it, he very actively promoted the album shameful star, showed it to my colleagues. yes and here's a huge respect to him for one of his favorite albums. maybe we can call him now. and i think quite, yes. and by the way, if we talk about the 2000s, what a renaissance

it was. butusov going home singing? yes , i feel like i am using the connections of my other guests. hello gennadievich yes, hello. we are sitting here with alik potapkin, and indeed mikhailov, the legendary presenter. eh, radio maximum slava hello. vyacheslav hi yeah, yes, and we remember you with a kind word thank you, you know, for the fact that you directly promoted the album shameful star at one time, right, i know that he showed it to his musicians a lot. for which i am very, very grateful to you. yes, there was a time. album yes thank you. by the way, after this album, yes, in my opinion, we decided to work together. uh, over the titanic. well, there was the titanic. eh, in ninety-three ninety- four it was recorded. as long as i remember. you and ilya addressed me precisely against the background. eh,

good luck with the album san-producing shameful star. and thanks to him , our interaction with you was wonderful. yes, of course, there was an avant-garde sound, yes, and thank you, they also remembered with great salism the work on the titanic. thank you for the fact that he gave a huge creative carte blanche to mock your materials, but, in my opinion, it turned out great. because thank you slav, what kind of material is that sound? yes, you had some kind of joint tours. well, then put on a concert version of titanic. it was huge. the project was still in the concert hall in russia at that time, and we had existing ones there and the drummers were drumming and these podgoranecki were playing along, which means that the children’s choir sang , it was a very big project, yes, which also had the good fortune to direct, even on one of

concerts played on basu on basu this later and our program is dedicated to the 2000s and 20 years later, and we, too, with a kind word, remember your wonderful hit song going home. you know, what surprised me most was that your charming melody is there, this is always clear, but i heard a smile all the time. here you are, when you sing it, i see a smile on your face, and this is a very special feeling. it appeared just for the first time in the 2000s, when i directly reported it. everyone in this song almost heard this smile. tell slava that we will have him in any condition on the podcast 20 years later, mikhail’s bone says that in any condition we will be happy to see you on the podcast 20 years later, sometime when you get together, thank you let’s slav, good regards to you all guys, big big, hi, yes, goodbye. thank you words. well, yes, slava, as always, is not

a man of many words. i say it 's okay. he's on the bus on the road. yes, it's serious now. let's rewind, maybe in the eighties or nineties of the ural polytechnic, you were radio engineers performing with guitars in front of students. this was the first time i went on stage. how did you feel? how we were received in general, we were very lucky. we often recall those times of the late eighties, the sverdlovsk club, and we consider ourselves lucky. a musician, that we did not start with apartment dwellers, but we started precisely from the stage, that is, and the ural musicians already have this magic of the stage and responsibility to the stage. it was always felt, that is, everyone was geared up for some kind of performance. not just the circle of fans around you, but specifically the musicality of the music, how it looks, how it’s presented, how it’s performed? i think that this is such a distinctive style,

and sverdlovsk what does it matter that i am a radio engineer? well, listen, almost all rock musicians in our country graduated some other universities. as for me, i have a radio engineering education, so our homemade studio was located at the ratification faculty. actually, they rehearsed there and recorded albums together. uh, tube ones, well, i must say that the sverdlovsk musicians were not spoiled by the conditions for recording and each really had their own, that is, unlike the leningrad muscovites, who still had more opportunities for this, the sverdlovsk musicians were. well, almost every group had the opportunity to rehearse right on stage. and we went on stage, as they say, not half-bent. we already felt already. as a matter of fact, practically like at home, yes, that is, these were not apartment dwellers. it was already really like that. maybe this is the secret. eh, for me , sverdlovsk is the main forge of musical rock talents in general, and not only rock, but

also electronic talents in russia, because you can have different attitudes towards the st. petersburg lesson of the underground. there you can go to moscow but the brightest groups. that's my opinion. these are the same ones there i don’t know, there are teas meaningful hallucinations. well, thyus pompilius agatha christie after all. this is why svetlovskaya is the main forge of such talented groups. this is the main growth forge of the country. thank you for such a high rating, slava groups are the best. well, of course, these are some of the best, but , undoubtedly, our colleagues from st. petersburg and moscow also gave very high results. as for the sverdlovsk lesson, it seems to me that this is where most of all, uh, two principles are correlated. physics and lyric poetry are quite modest for us were conditions for recording, so near each group there was some kind. uh, a soldering iron, some radio engineer who figured out how to do this, the famous colonel alexander who recorded, uh, the legendary track, that is,

studios made gadgets on the go. and this one, and the collegiality between uh, creative people and those who are involved in music production and sound production. this is one of the generally distinctive features of sverdlovsk rock. but because there really is always some kind of so that it is somehow recorded. eh, and it’s not just that you know, as it were. well, let's write everything down beautifully so that this happens, like the art of ordering a recording, which we already talked about today. i really felt this , plus the merging of the fact that if you take any sverdlovsk group there, then there is one, then two people. schools, that is, in any case , there was someone from music education and that’s it , one way or another. yes, of course, the level has already improved. that is, there was a fusion of technology and professionalism and musicality and just natural talents. here, as if taken away, and here i am the formation of musicality, nature. you see , this is exactly what played into what, uh, how. we recently discussed with vadim that

sverdlovsk, uh, rock bands have no followers, she is alone and is not like anyone else. that is, they were all, as it were , each occupying his own shelf hmm well, yes, techies or hard workers, like tea, also shahr. there , he was almost a non-working installer, a construction worker. yes, they were a little different from the sverdlovsk club. yes they seemed to be in the sverdlovsk club, but here the style that they promoted was precisely this kind of rhythm plus and such traditional rock and mouth. so i think that they are great fellows, that they sort of kept it and insisted on it, because they, of course, were significantly different from everything else. at that time there was ural rock, but you see it’s time to put everything in its place. and what did they do ? people love to stay in yekaterinburg. and why are you now special people from yekaterinburg flew to us for which thank you very much ; in general, our team is now three some of them live in the musical capitals of yekaterinburg, some of them live in moscow, some of them live in st. petersburg, so we come together , work, and then leave. listen a.

you produced the project. rog is a hero, in my opinion, if i’m not mistaken, there’s chi- chicherina meaning you’re hallucinating. and look, this is what we were talking about - music production. uh, this topic is very interesting for me and for rivers. interesting. we worked quite hard. eh, with parents in the studios, they helped the starting team. that is, you take it as if this uh, like i mean i tell them, my task is to take your diamond and make a diamond out of it to come up with a cut for it. and for him to start playing, that is, these are the first steps when a young aspiring author. or the musician does these processes, as if passing it through himself, giving him energy, uh, and some kind of undeniably renewal. this has always occupied us. let's say this. so, not the most gratitude. in fact, for the lesson the producer invests the young man and then expects to get some kind of return for himself as a young man, when the tower becomes

does it happen that it breaks? well, this is a normal situation. here. and as for the e -hero projector. yes? this was just a project that we also did from a music radio station. since there you know a lot of things that were brought to the music station, types of cds. well, i decided to just do a review of them, listened to them, and thus, first, it turned out to be some kind of mail, then it turned out to be a whole platform. eh, that's a huge number of musicians. by the way, i 'm going to uh, project hero to revive the class, because now uh, there's a lot young talented musicians and ask what and where. the question is often asked which was easier. eh, now for musicians or for us then , this is right, i think there are pros and cons, that is, there were much fewer of us then. we didn't have that kind of access to technology. here on one side on the other side. we still had a limited quantity. well, there are a dozen bands from st. petersburg, a dozen from moscow, and now there

are thousands and an amount of musical material. it is completely unsorted . okay, the platform does some selections. we don’t really know what criteria to use to compile all this . therefore, i believe that it’s exactly the same as it was in our field in the late eighties, when rock clubs were born. now it's really about musicians and the music community. those who are engaged in video sales , management there, designers , photographers, that is, unite again. and this is a trend about the creation of new youth cultural clusters. this is a trend. in my opinion, it’s correct , because here we are, having lived for 30 years like this, well liberal and individual such a mentality, yes mentality, that is, everyone is on their own, my success is my path, so to speak, we are all even competitors to each other. yes, now it seems to me that we have come and how, society and even more so, how young musicians are back to that story when, in order to continue to get lost, they need to get to know each

other, support each other, exchange energy with each other, move on. that's actually the hero's project. it’s about this and cultural clusters that need to be done now creative. i don't like the word creative creatively. well, in general, a lady of culture, i think this topic is good, especially in small towns or live performances . eh, so that it was a community, because that’s what the sverdlovsk club was. there was no one there, except for the musician there were music lovers , absolutely all photographers, designers, historians, journalists, film assistants. yes, alexey balabanov is all one core art, united. something is born from it; at that time, let’s say there was an educational radio station, at most. we tried on everything that i have now, that is, we were an educational platform, a kind of beacon that we were reaching for, what could happen now, could there be some kind of radio station that would play not hits, because there already is one, but

, which would only play fresh new russian groups, or it should be some kind of internet platform, some kind of portal, on which, firstly, there would be a very correct moderator, like you or vadim , who would select and pass through tons i would select this musical information posted only better. people would come in and vote and download there. eh, i don’t know these hits and then based on the results of, say, an annual vote. we would organize some kind of horn festival exclusively with young artists, i absolutely agree , and i think these two ideas need to be combined into one , that is, there really is, uh, some kind of portal promotion, yes, a selection that i think will be a breath of fresh air for the country, because there are a lot of young teams that are looking for this contact, but they can’t go anywhere. uh, that means moving, and so this is definitely the phenomenon of my rock hero project in

2006, when the internet was still weak, yes, but only thanks to the fact that, uh, i gathered young bands and immediately staged them. they immediately appeared in the portal. this person just posted a composition. you know , listen and a hit parade is formed. there very quickly a community of people gathered there who composed and sang something themselves, and to make it free ferroity, set a mandatory condition that download these songs and use them on the air other radio stations there may not pay for young performers. eh hmm what is it called copyright? well, how could i argue, because they are not young yet. listen to this for promotion later yes, that’s it, they are already leaving this portal, and then they are already taking copyrights. in addition to the ideas that have now been voiced on this matter , i want to say that it is essential that the community of musicians itself listens to each other each other communicated with each other interacted and so that the choice of which of them was better was made by the musicians themselves, as it was

everything in a russian club is exactly like that in the st. petersburg family and the moscow rock laboratory, and we still don’t have any music awards in russia, which would include academicians from the musicians themselves. so i think that carrying all of this in one is just a few ideas that would help consolidate the musical community, because, well , there’s a lot in music and i can tell you, it’s very advanced people. now the youth. eh, there’s one that’s simple. well, if the result is not fantastic, it needs to be regulated somehow. need this shown name the platforms. i really hope that hero version 2.0 will happen because, well, we are already big monsters. yes, and of course i want to dedicate it. eh, the rest of my creative life. that is, this is not only very strong. actually, our creativity is new, but also in order for this clearing here to be watered , so that someone will follow us further to eat. they communicated with each other, just as we used to help each other communicate with our opinions.

this is actually how we developed. just as perfect, so all the young i invite musicians to listen to each other, of course, we communicate more. yes, with a friend, do not perceive each other as competitors ; your creativity will be enriched. for everyone. this is very important, competition should only be positive. yes, and there is already this polyanka. where should you send some to me directly, they simply find it there and social networks send the compositions. eh, it’s just that right now i’m finally finishing a big album after agatha and i’ll be able to get serious about all of this because the stribnost is big, it’s very simple, this is the third will there be a remix album or what? it’s just that after agatha christie wasn’t allowed this year, my brother and i officially separated. i have released several singles and several old solo albums, but i have never had such a large full-length album. and now, uh , now it’s almost ready like a hot cake. everything is fresh, everything is fresh. yes

very cool. i don’t know. is it convenient to ask what happened to you? why did you come in, and the moment that we had to separate from my brother. it was obvious from the very beginning when you were on the cross, because it was clear that he has his own creative system. i have my creative one for a while. we existed. and what did she write, like the author, like the musicians, like, israel israel yes, from the early uh, well, in the album second front, quite a lot already. yes , the birth of agatha christie is considered - this is already with gleb. the fact is that we are growing up. yes, if we are still in our youth, well, we can have fun. even though the images are almost theatrical in the compositions, yes, there in creativity. we haven’t yet lived through some kind of life drama as we live through this drama, but we, as poets, want to express some of our more personal point of view. that is, we are moving away from the fictional hero more towards our personal hero. my brother and i are very different, very different in many ways and antipodes, so it was clear that ours were these personal heroes.

they will diverge at some point , that is, for me it was obvious from the very beginning and alex witnessed that gleb understood this from the very beginning, so agatha christie separated by the decision we made in 2008, that we are recording a farewell album, going on a farewell tour and actually. this is also zero. so, these are adult decisions of two adults. e people who realized that they needed to move on. you said you are so different. i remember you on stage in the golden period of agatha christie for me and you looked alike, because you had similar identical haircuts such as forelocks and and i was like, damn, this is definitely inspired by robert smith from ekir, but on gleb the influence of smith was exactly big, as for forelocks, but i don’t know, i don’t think i know that yet, it was early period. here is the left dated hair, literally you had you were similar to us. this was the ural scam. honestly, i’ll tell you the shirts are covered in cucumbers. and here it is. yes, and

to add in the 2000s, in my opinion, these were your first, uh, two solo albums that you recorded me. yes, within the framework of agatha christie, vadim recorded two solo albums. it turns out that there is more to listen to on the peninsula. two of them have published good works. yes, a podcast 20 years later, i am the host konstantin mikhailov and my guest is the agatha christie group, the end of the first episode of our conversation, second school is coming soon, how stressful is it for parents and children, how to actually cope, how to properly adapt children to first grade? well, mom, too, to all classes at once

, our today’s expert knows what we are talking about, he is the father of your children, he is a family psychologist, doctor of science. andrey beberovsky. hello. hello andrey. hello. thanks a lot. as i understand it, this is not your first parenting experience; this is not your first time sending you to school. yes, that's right, i have two children and my eldest daughter. already in sixth grade, so first grade. i've already passed. i already have some experience in this matter, and this year, this year, and this year my youngest daughter is going to first grade. she is 7 years old. and in general. actually. i came to your show precisely in order to possibly get some tips. yes, live this experience again, because as i understand it, it will be a little different, based on what kind of younger daughter they are because they are very different from the older one, and the younger one is very emotional. she perceives

everything is close to the heart and sometimes even if we are at some kind of birth event, for example, when emotions are overwhelming. yes, even if these are positive emotions, and in the evening, and very often this happens to her, what she needs. here, uh, what has overwhelmed her during the day, and unloading this too hmm usually happens in the form of some kind of hysterics, and, well, absolutely out of the blue. and actually hmm, because when a child goes to school, his life completely changes. yes, that is , a certain routine appears, and the load on the child is great, emotional, mental, including, yes, and, in addition, my children also do sports acrobatics. that is, this load will also be in the evening. yes, our work is different, so hmm well, how can you make sure that the child is your youngest girl? no, this is the eldest, she just went to first grade, that’s when the photo was taken, but this is the youngest, already a cool girl. this is a dance being filmed, sports

acrobatics, and what are you worried about? well, i'm actually worried. that's exactly the evening these are the possible hysterics. that is, their probability. yes, uh, how balanced she will be. yes, how much it will be. her calm emotional background worries me very much. well, actually mine too , because, well, the burden is heavy on the parents, including, yes, even despite the fact that , for example, i have an eldest daughter. she's already in sixth grade, though. i still supervise some lessons. yes, there is something to send from some parent chats and to her for some information yes, which she does not can you get it from other sources , except, for example, you control hmm because i am engaged in raising children, in addition, i also have a job. yes appeared from this year due to the entire marital status. yes, we can get a divorce, that is, the child has additional stress, well, stress. yes, well, i think that today our psychologist will have something to talk to you about for me to listen to, but

first i wanted to ask this question andrey and that’s why the beginning of the school year, i generally feel like going to school, is so radical some measure is such a radical turn, just 180°. that is, the child lives his normal human life. yes , he gets up, plays later and goes around to some circles. and suddenly it means that the guillotine is rushing on september 1st of the first class. well, that's it, he turns over into his uniform, puts on his briefcase , and collects his teeth for school by eight. i cleaned it on the go, without waking up, i brought the lessons with the parent chat. and that’s it, this is a bunch of wishes from the class teachers. and that we can’t gradually take our children to school, but why do we do this to our parents and for children, this emotional meat grinder is simple . why can’t it be done gradually? well, look

, this is stress, which undoubtedly occurs; it is due to the fact that the child is a preschooler and has a limited set of social contacts. she has a teacher and a nanny. well, a group of one or two people is small, which means the child is still isolated. he does not communicate with children from another group. actually , not by other nanny educators, that is, the child is in some kind of soap bubble. yes, in such a protective way, as it were, accordingly, contacts are less stressful. he gets less, so when a child goes to school, there are a dozen teachers there at once. as a matter of fact, even if in an elementary school, it’s still like there is a fizruk, in fact, there is a substitute teacher, who is sick, the teacher, in fact, there are just other teachers who make comments to the child. and there are children who correct the class. yes, sorry older and even now. although we reduce conflict and , accordingly, stress by highlighting primary school. this is already separate the progress that has taken place over the last 20 years seems to have happened when we removed first-graders from communicating with

eleventh-graders there or ninth-graders, let’s say, this is already relieving the stress of the negative impact there; the child there, well, for a long time does not see, at least there, smoking or drinking children around the corner from the school. yes, unfortunately, some things happen there in reality. therefore, uh, a certain minimization of risks occurs, but the number of uncontrollable social contacts becomes greater. uh, changing the baby's routine. uh, adaptation and plus require a change in the parents' regime. the most important thing is that our parents are for us. the worst thing. this is the uncontrollability of the environment around the child when we pick the child up from kindergarten at six o’clock . we understand that the child there has a telephone. he didn’t correspond with anyone there on some strange things, so the school opens such a pandora’s box specifically in social contacts. this worries us, of course, but in fact i want to say that in many countries of the world in private children's in kindergartens they are still trying to conduct this at the level of the preparatory period. and several teachers who come and the child already understands that there can be different teachers.

yes, that is, it expands social contact, but of course the transition from kindergarten to school is everything, but it is a hugely stressful story for the child and here, of course, it is very important to immediately give our drivers advice so that we parents do not increase the burden on the child. eh, this pressure of stress is caused by intimidation. look , you went to school. now there's no one here for you will feed. you won't sleep. everyone will question everything there more harshly. watch how he will offend you. you've grown up. yes, you have grown up and now you will be offended here and there, as if a child is already he is often intimidated by us parents at this stage and intimidated the child in the form of the child’s frightened eyes. we, too, as parents , continue to get scared. although we ourselves are the source of this intimidation, so it is very important, of course, to treat this as calmly as possible. a dear child is a plus, not a minus for you. yes, that is, it shows that that’s it, now everything will be worse. on the contrary, you're great. you've grown up. you have grown up, in this case, our beautiful mashenka is going to school. yes, accordingly, it’s like, mashenka

, you’re doing great, and we need to present it to school as some kind of achievement of the child and the child, of course, we are therefore in the game. yes, and we’re like, you’re doing great. you've come this far. it will be better for you, you will become more mature and serve the child. absolutely right. you understand correctly that is why positive presentation, not the loss of something, lunchtime sleep yes, the notorious and casserole legendary, yes, this immediately gives the child optimism. in addition, you need to show that you will have more friends, because there are parallel classes. they always seem to be absolutely right. and what, what will he get as a result of the fact that his whole life will change completely plus that is, it is necessary, what is called here the concept, there is the right way to sell the school, yes, such marketing is so our parents, that is, the school. yes, serve it right. and, of course, we understand that there are many difficulties there, there are its disadvantages, but it is necessary to show the advantages and the child. eh, let's go with optimism and positivity. well, this will increase his own mental reserves. and this, of course, will be

a big plus for you, as a mother. you can tell your stories that i studied there, also in the first grade, there it was, how it was, it was great, as if this breath in your maternal voice would give optimism to the child. you described it very vividly and very vitally. this is the state of that, here is the tremors of tremors and so on of parents, uh, who work themselves up more than their children cheat on children and so on. where does this fear come from anyway? in front of our child's school. what is it? what will happen if my child comes with a bad grade, but you know, we are adults, having already gone through life. uh, and in this case, here we have anastasia for the third time, it turns out she’s going to first grade herself, when she left, uh, the eldest daughter, respectively, here’s the youngest, of course i’m going to first grade. we are parents. we are very afraid that if we grab threes there, let’s say. or, god forbid , the school year started with two grades, the child develops

a misconception about himself from the teacher this will affect the teacher’s further perception of the child, or the child will occupy some kind of not very comfortable niche in the class, respectively, he will be considered a c student or a d student, or suddenly the child. let's say there's a mobile phone there or there will be sneakers there. and cheaper than someone in the class, he will fall into such a category there is a loser, let’s say, as if about sneakers , let’s focus on teachers, firstly, this is also a question for the teacher, who you see that the child comes unprepared. or he’s bored or doesn’t master the material or sits with a book under the desk? this is actually a question for the teacher , are you interested in the child enough, and it seems to me that it would be good for parents to be their child’s lawyer in this situation, but he seems to lack some kind of self-confidence. and what do you do instead, so that instead of being a lawyer for your child, we think. how can we do it right? maybe buy a curtain for the classroom. maybe we should write something there, not something for the teacher, yes, that is, we

are trying to build a relationship with the teacher for the child, so that the teacher looked at us, how diligent i am, my mother is so wonderful and helpful, my dad would bring a relationship. this is so positive for me. yes my child. it seems to me not very honest and not very useful, or i’m exaggerating. well, you need to understand that children still do not have that social experience of adaptation. that is , for us, and therefore, when parents and their husbands try to soften their child’s entry into the classroom. when a child really takes a very long time to adapt to food, of course there is some kind of complicity of the parent in accepting the child’s teacher should also be, but unconditionally. eh, it’s very important for the parent to stir up the child socially a little in this regard. this means that the child does not feel psychologically constrained while in the classroom. let’s say your child is coming. first grade. yes, i went to the first grade and the situation happens somewhere: a child goes to the first grade with some of the children of his kindergarten group

, sometimes there is a completely unfamiliar new school there, for example, and in this regard, if the child is in a completely new school, your the task is as a mother, but to get to know other mothers, because as a rule, the picture is the same, let’s say. mom is getting ready. e by the time it ends. there, children studying near the school are talking, your task is how mothers turn out to be sociable met other mothers, including yes, make friends of your child, your girl, with other children, as if through parents yes, because not not all children, what is called the same active first even a month many children are even 2 months old. they walk in the classroom lost they are not they remember who’s name is, they haven’t played with anyone there yet, they haven’t made friends, because again , when playing in kindergarten, a child gets closer to each other faster; in this regard, our parental task is to help the child get to know each other by name, at least there masha natasha elena seryozha with other children to visualize them to see that my mother

communicates well, and with another mother and a child whose class already has at least 2-3 acquaintances loved ones of a person. yes, now he’s more comfortable himself will be. he will not be shy at the board. he won't be there, uh, afraid to teach or huh? because he will feel like he is in a small society. this is what we can, of course, help our child adapt to school; a child who goes to school runs to school, knowing that he has friends there from literally the first weeks of schooling, they are there by the end of the first grade. when it usually happens. he certainly feels more comfortable. being with your child increases your comfort and makes you more willing to go to school. yes, then it is not purely for lessons. yes, namely for the purpose of communication. this is because school is, maybe we understand and in pedagogy there is such a concept, the leading type of activity for a child, it’s still necessary. let's be honest, but gaining knowledge is important, but for a child the main thing is not playing or communicating or a child, let's say the age of your girl. there are the first years. it's still a game. then closer to

the age of 10 years older, communication is unknown, unfortunately, we must understand this in this regard as well. uh, the faster we can make the child friends with other children, and the more it will remain. he already has time to gain knowledge. pentalgin extragel contains special components for better penetration into the source of pain and inflammation pentalgin extragel against more inflammation in muscles and joints free vtb credit supercard - 200 days without interest on everything and 20% cashback. switch to vtb and that’s it, your child will need a free tinkoff junior card and transfer money at any time.

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tinkoff, we approve your plans, money on the card immediately, deferment of the first payment for up to 90 days. apply for a loan in the tinkoff application and receive a deferment of the first payment for up to 90 days . tinkov is the only one. my name is natalya loseva i am our journalist today expert family psychologist doctor of science andrei zberovsky and our heroine anastasia with whom we talk about school as stress. we very often encounter that a good school suffers from such achievement, when children literally from the first grade get a job under the future grades and parents it is very difficult. he is the one to resist, because well, you yourself sent your child to this good school. what are you talking about now, it seems like you are complaining, but you see that

the child is not pulling. and so parents in this situation need to understand, and for themselves some decisions and somehow the right correct dialogue from school, what else is needed. at the same time, remain calm, you won’t get irritated and react to the child in some way. , don’t install it yourself. this means that in a textbook sense it is important to take into account two points. here is the first point, if we talk specifically about your child about high emotionality, then high emotionality. she's filming firstly, and physical activity, but your child goes again, but to the section, right? well, as i understand it, yes, but still not five times a week, that is, on those school days. therefore, on those days when the child does not go to acrobatics, i advise everyone to do some active form of physical activity. let's go run and take a walk together. this is the first. uh, second. this , of course, gives the child the opportunity to speak out, that is, question the child, because the huge problem for children and parents is that the parents sent the child to school. it’s clear we don’t seem to have enough problems of our own.

and we don’t seem to be interested in the child’s life, the child feels that school is only my business, no one else ever needs it, as if there is not enough time, but still in order to ask the child about what was happening. kolya’s friendships are actually 15 minutes 15 minutes, if we keep the timing, if we clearly control and regulate this problem, it’s actually not difficult to do. and the third, of course, advice is tactility, because children who are prone to emotional breakdowns, tactility, bruised back, massages. this gives. eh, it’s the feeling of release, so helping the release is necessary and definitely important. and as for this achievement, now, unfortunately, it’s the last decade. there is a huge problem, who are our listeners, our parents, dear ones, you should know, look, education at school will be found in textbooks and , accordingly, that this teaching is a textbook. this book is correct, that is, the child walks with books. but the trouble is that for the last decade our children have been our parents with books. do not see. we stopped reading them because we have tablets and smartphones, as many

parents, in principle, are not very good readers themselves. as a result, there is a child inside. reading. you are a young girl sitting with books, but we ourselves do not give examples of this. she understands that the child is pre-teen . built on the rise in price of his psyche. he imitates his parents. why will our prices rise? if we don’t count, that’s why it’s very important that you, as a mother, give the children prime for at least five to ten 15 minutes, or take a book, or read together something so that the child can see that you at least have a book. maybe you rarely open it , you open it like that for the sake of decency, but we must show the child that his story is with the book. it is close to us as parents, and therefore we cannot control and cannot persuade a child to read if we ourselves do not read the child’s a’s and b’s anyway, this is the result of reading correctly. and this is the reading we must show, well, besides the reading, uh, and the textbook, which the children need to read. you know yourself how dad is handed over to do a project some kind of presentation, a 7-year-old child, what kind of presentation anyway? well, let's start,

let's be honest. it’s not yet like they’re collecting a herbarium, of course, or gluing a source, like, yes, and again we’re doing it as parents. yes, i'm divorced now. it works for us. yes, two children. she needs, therefore, to collect a herbarium and also read a book. when you have, you know, we have a tradition of reading books before going to bed, you don’t always want to, because sometimes you just sit without force. and so the children carry these books. well , because they already know it, like reflex probably, such a feat was pulled out in our names that your children are dragging older ones to him. by the way, perhaps thanks to this. only now i realized this, and she loves to read that dear parents. the most valuable thing you can give a child is to instill in him reading, if the child reads, if he enjoys it. if you tell the right books, then the child will be motivated to do it further on his own without your participation, without

involving you there in the school program. here, like anastasia is right, but go to the teacher, she understands that there is something. just needs to be discussed. this is also a rather complex dialogue. you understand that your child depends on the teacher, if the teacher doesn’t like him, the teacher will be angry . the child will suffer, that is, you need to somehow build a dialogue correctly. how to properly build a dialogue between young parents and uh, such venerable teachers here. yes, i have some practical advice like this. firstly, it is very important that parents support the teacher, because, to unfortunately, as a practical psychologist, i constantly deal with situations where parents discuss things in front of their children. yes , the teachers there are not like that. listen, i remember from mine we weren’t very good there, yes, and who is she there? yes, she’s been there for almost a week, she’s just young. we have like our parents, or a young teacher. i don’t perceive it, or she’s already become old.

she is already there, her knowledge is there a hundred years ago, that is