the elements of the legs came to life, which comes true in early spring, which came true in early spring. and by the way, i absolutely agree with our tv viewers to listen to most cases. it was frenkele who performed it directly. yeah, very sensual. yes. and who anyway? what is your most memorable performance of this song? her several times, yes, i probably did too. although she sang it right there too. yes, someone sang, but for me, my krystlinskaya. so i remember how my dad tells me that maya kristallinskaya is a singer with a speaking surname, because her voice is no longer i can’t, i can’t get around in the period, your bright and project bo. the tramp that you and garik sukachev

embody, uh, beautifully, and don’t even return to the gitakha in any album. thank you i just continue. well, it didn’t last for a long, long, long time. that is, it’s such a huge pause, when i had a period when i told garik, let’s make a continuation of everything, well, somehow it didn’t work out, and in the end . in general, we abandoned this topic and it turned out that we abandoned it for a quarter of a century until, unexpectedly, the stars aligned so well that we resumed this project. well, as they resumed, they simply made part two, that is, the bosman tramp, 25 years later, this album was already released that year. i’m glad that it happened this way and i also wrote a song for it. this is just our song about our youth , a song about, uh, how we

felt then. that’s when it’s uh, it ’s called and again the month of may and it’s like a continuation of that song by garik and for the cat the month of may is the month. month of may this is my song i proposed there for this project. well, i'm very i’m glad that we did it, because there was something very important for us in this project then and that means it was preserved. this important thing has been preserved. for me. this is good. maybe a gorynych, hello to some small one. well, it is with great pleasure to my friend, with whom we have been together for so many years, and i dedicated this song to him, that is, when it had already been written. i came straight to garik and told garik this song. and again i dedicate the month of may to you and even gave him a handwritten piece of paper with the text where it was written to my friend

garik. well, everyone’s moves are recorded, right? and i want to live along the boulevard. and new sounds and new faces all around. i'm 17 again, i'm a dashing tramp again. and the most beautiful girl.

and there will still be no yesterday. and again in the month of may, my dad and i go out into our neighbor’s yard. uncle pasha chases his pigeons. in the corner of our bench, men are knocking on domino. and i’m in a hurry, i want the guys to hunt quickly. and my dad will tell me, look, my son , the month of may is like this, guys, this is spring. for

the rest of my life, for the entire time allotted to me let's sing something. and we will play all the old ones , forgetting the words. and we will build a house and take the children to school and love you forever our city, moscow our smart avenues and quiet green courtyards will remain an echo of our simple voices. and the young punks will find new rhythms.

in a new way the old solo love in a new way the old word love. it is with pleasure that i introduce you to the song of joy, a melody that helps the construction site live, they say there. by the way, you also continue the utyosov cycle. yes, well, rarely yes, rarely, but i play. i have it’s just that the program is utesov’s program with maxim pegarov. it is called. thank you heart, the matter is clear and there are good interesting utyosov arrangements. from time to time, we are her professional bridges, trying to cling to the great glory, you know, naturally. cabernet suicide is felt by people who possessed the timbre that i, to me , so to speak, is credited with a trusting sip

, a trusting strong one, of course. yes, a man alone with a magnificent performer could not do anything. no no, this is a particular trait in singing character can be developed. but you still need to have some prerequisites for it. here in bernes it is simply presented in the most, probably, ideal form, in his direct form, that is, he speaks directly to you and leaves, he sings smiling, odessa juicy, and in bernes, well, trusting in a cube. yes , he has your attention that much. yes, that’s why some of his songs are performed by him. just working as a wizard, for example, is impossible. well, it’s simple, but for me, this is it , you know it too, intonation not repeated by anyone

unsurpassed. this, of course, is night. here he is telling you straight. right here you are sitting listening now, right? here, sash , you have all your creative, so to speak, he has a very good handicap. in this direction , relying on the best traditions. you said what we are made of. exactly. here is vertinsky utesov vysotsky vysotsky, first of all, and uh, and rock and roll. you sound absolutely russian. but yes, but of course i have my idols. rock 'n' roll. we just didn’t talk about them, and i can’t name a song there, much less perform a joyful one, but before you say, of course, i emphasize that you have, uh, in the blue eldorado or there are all the authors that i see, this is the influence, it’s clear and the presentation and that’s it.

you know, sotka on mine during this time is all a melody of joy, alexandrovskaya well, probably hmm one of the melody of joy, eh, i would call the song of the moscow route this is my melody of joy when i perform this song, and i rarely perform it at almost every concert . there are concerts when i don’t sing it, it’s wrong. don't sing such songs at a concert. i naturally this joy. i want to convey this to my audience. but this is one of those few songs that i sometimes hum in small pieces, generally outside of a concert, not so much the words themselves, but just the feeling itself, that’s why i chose it. as one of the songs that can be called sklyarov's song of joy, let's moscow route acquaintances wave at the neighboring insect, randomly attack the wide ring near

the gardens of muzenky street. green yes, come on lilac look plyushchikha three poplars your brown eyes for pilaf is better than this station to the south to the right it will be to me by train and putty. i'll go, i'll go to nowhere. well , airai, where i heard the cry of an owl, where

the cold of this horse is melt water. this is not my life. you are moscow thank you for being weak and going through moscow routes and not only together with alexander thank you watch our podcast, my dear childhood, moscow

school as a stress for parents for children, how to actually withstand it, how to properly adapt kids to first grade? well, moms too, to all classes at once , our today’s expert knows what we are talking about, he is the father of your children, he is a family psychologist

ph.d. andrey sberovsky. hello. hello andrey. hello anastasia , congratulations on the beginning of the school year. yes. thanks a lot. i understand that this is not your first experience as a parent, nor is it your first time sending you to school. yes that's right. i have two children and my eldest daughter is already in the sixth grade, so first grade. i've already passed. i already have some experience in this matter, and this year, this year, and this year my youngest daughter is going to first grade. she is 7 years old. and in general, in fact, i came to you on the program precisely in order to possibly receive some tips. yes, how? live through this experience again, because as i understand it, it will be a little different, based on what kind of younger daughter they are because they are very different from the older one, and the younger one is very emotional. she takes everything to heart and sometimes even, if we were at some birth events,

for example, when emotions are overwhelming. yes, even if these are positive emotions, and in the evening, and very often this happens to her, what she needs. here, uh, what has filled it up in a day, and loading and this hmm usually happens in the form of some kind of hysterics, and, well, absolutely out of the blue. and actually hmm, because when a child goes to school, his life completely changes. yes, that is, a certain routine appears, and the load on the child is great, emotional, mental , including, yes, and, in addition, my children also do additional sports, such as sports acrobatics. that is, this load will also be in the evening. yes, our work is different, that’s why. well, here's how to do it: so that the child of this is your youngest girl? no, this is the eldest, she just went to first grade, that’s when the photo was taken, but this is the youngest, already a cool girl. here they are filming sports acrobatics. what are you worried about? well,

i'm actually worried. these are the possible evening hysterics. that is, their probability. yes, uh, how balanced she will be. yes, how much it will be. her calm emotional background worries me very much. well, actually mine too because that, well, the burden is heavy on the parents, too, yes, even despite the fact that , for example, i have an eldest daughter. she's already in sixth grade, though. i still supervise some lessons. yes, there is something to send from some parent chats and to her for some kind of information yes, which she cannot receive from other sources, except for the way i control hmm , because i am engaged in raising children, in addition, i also have and there is work. yes, it appeared from this year in connection with in general, the whole family position yes, we can get a divorce, that is, the child has additional stress associated with it. well, i think that today our psychologist will have something to talk to you about for me to listen to, but first i wanted to ask this question andrey

and this is why the beginning of the school year in general, it’s like going to school, this is such a radical measure, such a radical turn just 180° . that is, the child lives his normal human life. yes, he gets up, plays later , some circles go around. and suddenly it means that the guillotine is rushing on september 1st in class, everything turns into a uniform, put on a briefcase, and collect my teeth for school by eight. i cleaned it on the go, without waking up, i brought home lessons and brought parental chats. and that’s it, this is a bunch of wishes from their leaders, rulers, etc. and that we can’t gradually take our children to school, but why are we putting this emotional meat grinder on ourselves for our parents and children? why can’t we do it gradually? well, look, this is stress, which undoubtedly takes

place; it is due to the fact that the child is a preschooler and has a limited set of social contacts. she has a teacher and a nanny. well, a group of one or two people is small, which means the child is still isolated. he does not communicate with children from another group. actually , not by other dionic educators, that is, the child is in some kind of soap bubble. yes, in such protective contacts, as it were, there is less stress, he receives less, respectively, when a child goes to school, there are a dozen teachers there at once. as a matter of fact, even if it’s an elementary school, it’s still like there there is a physical education teacher, in fact, there is a substitute teacher who has to get sick, the teacher, in fact, is. just others at home who make comments to the child. and there are children who correct the class. from older and even now, although we reduce conflict and , accordingly, stress by highlighting primary school. this is already a separate progress that has happened over the past 20 years , as it were, when we removed first-graders from intoxication with eleventh-graders there or ninth-graders, let’s say, this is already a withdrawal

the child there, well, doesn’t see a certain amount of stress and negative impact for a long time, at least there are children smoking there or drinking children around the corner from the school. yes, unfortunately, this happens in reality there. therefore, a certain minimization of risks occurs, but the number of uncontrollable social contacts becomes greater. uh, changing the baby's routine. eh, it requires a change in the parents' regime , adaptation and plus. the most important thing for us is construction. the worst thing. this is the uncontrollability of the environment around the child, when we pick up the child at 6 o'clock from kindergarten we understand that the child there is true; he did not correspond with anyone there. some strange people came in there, so the school opens a pandora's box of social contacts. this worries us, of course, but in fact i want to say that in many countries of the world in private kindergartens they are still trying to teach at the level of the preparatory period. and several teachers who come and the child already understands that there can be different teachers. yes, that is, it expands social contact, but of course the transition from

kindergarten to school is everything, but a huge stressful story for a child. here, of course, it is very important to immediately give our drivers advice so that we parents do not increase the cost of the child. eh, this pressure of stress is caused by intimidation. look, you went to school. now no one will feed you here. you won't sleep. everything will be tougher to ask everything there. look how offended you will be when you grow up. yes, you have grown up and now you will be offended here and there, as if a child is already he is often intimidated by our parents at this stage and intimidating a child in the form of a child's frightened eyes. we, too, as parents, continue to get scared. although we ourselves are the source of this intimidation, so it is very important, of course, to treat this as calmly as possible. a dear child is a plus, not a minus for you. yes, that is, it shows that that’s it, now everything will be worse. on the contrary, you're great. you've grown up. you have grown up, in this case, our beautiful mashenka is going to school. yes, accordingly, as it were, mashenka , you’ve done well, and you need to submit it to school, as some kind of conquest, the achievement of a child and a child,

of course, that's why we're in the game. and we're like, well done. you've come this far. it will just be better for you, you will become more mature and mature and serve the child. absolutely right. you understand correctly. that is why a positive presentation, not the loss of something , lunchtime sleep yes, the notorious and legendary casseroles, yes, this immediately gives the child optimism. in addition, you need to show that you will have more friends, because there is a parallel class they always seem to be absolutely right. what, what will he get? as a result of the fact that his whole life will change completely plus that is , it is necessary, what is called the concept here, it is correct to sell the school there, yes, such marketing is so our parents, that is, the school. yes, serve it right. and, of course, we understand that there are many difficulties, there are downsides, but we need to show the upsides and the child will fall for optimism and positivity. well, this will increase his own mental reserves. and this, of course, will be a big plus for you, as a mother. you can tell your stories

that i also studied there in first grade there it was, how it was, great, the best period, how it would give this breath in your maternal voice. eh, the optimism of a child. you described it very vividly and very vitally. this is the state of that, here is the trembling, tremors, and so on of parents, uh, who work themselves out more than their children, winding up their children, and so on. where does this fear come from anyway? in front of our child's school. what is it? what will happen if my child comes with a bad mark, but you know , we are adults, having already gone through life and in this case, here we have anastasia for the third time, it turns out that she goes to the first grade herself, when the eldest daughter left, so the youngest daughter, of course, i’m going to the first grade. we parents are very afraid that she will grab , say, threes.

or, god forbid, the school year started with two grades, the child develops a misconception about himself from the teacher, this will affect the teacher’s further perception of the child, or the child will occupy some kind of not very comfortable niche in the class, accordingly he will be considered a c student or a d student, or suddenly the child. let's say there's a mobile phone or there's sneakers there will be. and if it’s cheaper than someone else’s in the class, it will fall into the loser category, let’s say, about sneakers. let's naturally focus on teachers, firstly. this is also a question for the teacher, which you see that the child comes unprepared . or is he bored or not mastering the material or sitting under his desk with a book? this is actually a question for the teacher, whether you have interested the child enough, and it seems to me that it would be good for the parent to be his child’s lawyer in this situation, but he seems to lack some kind of self-confidence. and what you instead, we do so that instead of being a lawyer for our child, we think. how can we do it right? maybe buy a curtain for the classroom. maybe we should write something there, not something for the teacher, yes, that is, we seem to be trying for the child to build a relationship with

the teacher, so that the teacher will look at us, how diligent i am, mom is something wonderful and useful, dad and would endure the relationship. this is so positive for me about my child. it seems to me not very honest and not very useful, or i’m exaggerating. well, you have to understand that children still do not have that social experience of adaptation, that is, for us, and therefore, when parents and their husbands try to soften their child’s entry into the classroom. when a child really can take a very long time to adapt to the diet. of course , there should also be some kind of complicity of the parent in accepting the child’s teachers, but of course. eh, it’s very important for the parent to stir up the child socially a little in this regard. this means that the child does not feel pressured psychologically while in the classroom. here, let's say, here's your child coming. first grade. yes, i went to first grade and the situation happens somewhere: a child goes to first grade with some of the children from his kindergarten group, sometimes there is a completely unfamiliar

new school there, for example, and in this regard, if the child is in a completely new school, your task as a mother , but to get to know other mothers, because as a rule, the picture is the same, let’s say. mom is getting ready, and by the time it ends. there, children studying near the school are talking, your task is how mothers can become sociable, met others mothers, including yes, let your child and your girl be friends with other children. yes , because not all children, what is called the same active first, even a month are even 2 months, many children. they walk in the class lost, they don’t remember who’s name is, they haven’t played with anyone there yet, they haven’t made friends, because again, when playing in kindergarten, a child gets closer to each other faster ; i can’t really roam around there, so in this regard, our parental task is to help the child get to know each other by name, at least there masha natasha elena seryozha with other children already visualize them to see that my mother communicates well, and with another mother and a child

whose class already has at least 2-3 people close to him. yes, he will be more comfortable now. he will not be shy at the board. he won't be there, uh, afraid to teach or huh? because he will feel like he is in a small society. this is what we can , of course, help our child adapt to school; a child who goes to school runs to school, knowing that he has friends there already literally the first weeks of training, they are at the end of the first grade, as usual, it happens. he certainly feels more comfortable. being with your child increases your comfort and makes you more willing to go to school. yes, that is, not purely for lessons. yes, namely for the purpose of communication. this is because a school can be psychology and in pedagogy there is such a concept, the leading type of activity for a child, it is still necessary. let's be honest, but gaining knowledge is important, but for a child it is not the leading game or communication or a child, let’s say the age of your girl. there are the first years. it's still a game. then closer to the prompt age of 10 years older, communication is ignorance, unfortunately, we

must understand this in this regard as well. eh, the sooner we can make friends between the child and other children, and the more will remain. he already has time to gain knowledge. this is a psychic podcast. my name is natalya loseva i am our journalist today expert family psychologist doctor of science andrei sberovsky, and our heroine anastasia with whom we are talking about school, like stress. we very often encounter that good schools suffer from such achievement, when children literally from the first grade, the husband is building for the future of the olympiad for some yes, correct grades and parents are very difficult. he is the one to resist, because well, you yourself sent your child to this good school. why are you now, it seems like you are complaining, and you see that the child is not pulling. and so you need to give birth or in this situation you understand some decisions for yourself and somehow the right ones

to enter. e build a dialogue from school, what you also need to remain calm at the same time. you won’t get irritated and react to the child in some way. yes, not to become christ yourself is important two things. so take into account the first point, if we talk specifically about your child about high emotionality, then high emotionality. it is removed firstly, and by physical activity, but your child goes again, and to the section, right? well, as i understand it, yes, but still not five times a week, that is, on those school days, therefore , on those days when the child does not go to acrobatics, i still recommend some active form of physical activity. let's run and take a walk together. this is the first. uh, the second thing is , of course, to give the child the opportunity to speak out, that is, to question the child, because the huge problem for children and parents is that the parents sent the child to school. it’s clear we don’t seem to have enough problems of our own. and we don’t seem to be interested in the child’s life, the child feels that school is only my business, no one else needs it, as if there is not enough time, but still in order to

ask the child. about what happened at school friends girlfriends. this is actually 15 minutes 15 minutes, if we keep the timing, if we clearly control this problem and regulate it, it’s not difficult to actually do and third, of course. the advice is tactility, because children who are particularly prone to emotional breakdowns are tactile. when they bruise their back, give it a massage. eh, it’s the feeling of release, so helping the release is necessary and definitely important. and as for this achievement, now, to unfortunately, the last decade. there is a huge problem, who are our listeners, our parents, dear ones, you should know, look, uh, learning at school will be based on textbooks and, accordingly, the textbook. this book is correct, that is, the child walks around with books, but the trouble is that in recent decades. children and parents don’t see us with books. we stopped reading them because we have tablets and smartphones, as many parents, in principle, are not very good readers themselves. the end result is inside. we will. here's a child reading. you are from a child with books, but we ourselves

do not give examples of this. she understands that the child is pre-teen. it is built on imitation. and in general, how he imitates his parents. what amazes us is if we don’t read, so it’s very important that you, as a mother, give to your children. hello at least there. again, 10-15 minutes either took a book, or read something together, or so that the child could see that you at least have books. maybe you rarely open it, open it like that for the sake of decency, but we must show the child that his history with a book. it is close to us as parents, and therefore we cannot control and cannot persuade a child to read if we ourselves do not read the child’s a’s and b’s anyway , this is the result of reading correctly. and this is the reading we must show, well, besides the reading, uh, and the textbook, which the children need to read. you know yourself how dads are handed over to do some kind of projects. yes, presentations for a 7-year-old child, what kind of presentation is it? well, let's start, let's be honest. this is not yet the case, how would a herbarium be collected there, of course, or a source they glue it, as it were, yes, and again we make parents who mister divorced. now

he brings in the work. yes, two children. she also needs to collect a herbarium and read a book. when you know books, we have a page to read. it’s good before bed, honestly, you don’t always want to, because you’re just sitting there without any strength. and so the children carry these books. well , because they already know this, like reflex , probably pulled out such a feat in our names that your children drag older ones to it. by the way, perhaps thanks to this. here only now i realized this, and she loves to read. so i say that dear parents, uh, and the most valuable thing you can give a child is still to instill in him a love of reading, if the child reads, if he enjoys it, if you confirm the correct books, then the child will be motivated to do this further on your own without your participation, without involving you in the school curriculum, as anastasia is right, but go to the teacher, she understands that

some issues need to be discussed. this the dialogue is also quite difficult. you understand that your child depends on the teacher, if he doesn’t like the teacher, the teacher will make the child angry. to suffer, that is, you need to somehow build a dialogue correctly. how to properly build a dialogue between young parents and such venerable teachers. here i will give some such practical advice : firstly, it is very important that parents support the teacher in the third, because, unfortunately, i, as a practical psychologist, constantly deal with the situation when parents they discuss it in front of the child. yes, those are the teachers there. no, listen, i remember from mine we weren’t very good there, yes, and who is she there? yes, she’s been there for almost a week. yes, she's just young. we have like our parents, or a young teacher. i don’t perceive it, or it’s already old , it’s already listed, in general, the knowledge there is a hundred years ago, that is, that’s why we ourselves, parents , often form frivolous attitudes in children that are disrespectful towards teachers, so it’s important

to say. listen, you're so good she listens a little, please follow her recommendation and instructions on this, the correct settings, firstly, key, of course, of course because there is some kind of negative experience , than of course. of course, but we must proceed from the presumption of the goodness of teachers and still. let's treat it this way. and in this regard, we need to set up the child so that the child please. listening to yourself as a teacher. he's good to you. this is the first thing that is objective about the teacher. let's say this, accordingly. and second. if you let's say you know the characteristics of your child, that the child there is emotional from chur, for example. and he may hesitate at the board to come up in advance, that is, don’t sort things out later, when the problem has started, but come up and say, dear revanna. eh, sergei petrovich is there, it doesn’t matter, as you know, with my child. there are such features. if possible, please take them into account in this regard by a teacher who, especially, already has some work experience. of course he will be there somewhere, please don't ask my child he is there first afraid first. if possible, there, please

let the child think a little there, but because there is. no matter who is shooting, not all children immediately start broadcasting. yes, someone needs to get ready to concentrate. i got greedy from something else. it is very important to give these instructions, in addition. nowadays, school psychologists are also appearing in schools; some are well trained, and we can also approach them. as a mother, you have every right to say. you know, my child is very worried, and the child also has difficulties communicating with peers. yes, or he is afraid of the teacher. if you can play there, if you can play along, if you can, just give it to the child, because it’s the same school psychologist. just let me tell your child, mashenka, how are you? all good. everything is fine and the child knows that there is someone who can pay attention to the child and the child will already feel comfortable. strictly speaking, therefore, your task is to show that the child has allies from those who may be suitable and, again, speaking with adults, you will still form in advance the right attitude towards your child and we will avoid a head-on conflict, because we will have to find out with the teacher. oh, you are bad there. oh

, that’s not how my child perceives confrontation - this is the last thing that can happen at school, because again, the teachers have extensive experience. well, they’ll think, well, listen, well, it’s like two people worked for 10 years. it turns out that the pedagogical staff there are not competent, there is something else there. there are teachers, of course, who exist, well, somehow it ’s categorical, there are pedagogical ones, there are unprofessional ones, and in this regard, if you see a blatant situation , let’s say it’s related to the incompetence of the teacher or he, when he crossed the line , got personal with the child. yes, this, unfortunately, happens rarely, but sometimes there is no need to be afraid to go to the school principal. yes , talk to him, as it were, so in fact you can defend yourself, but any preventive actions are always much more correct. but here i would like to clarify, because sometimes it happens that the conflict is actually resolved within the class and then with the parents, it turns out like this the choice is either to take the child out of school, or to go to the director, or to go, and the director can

support the teacher. just based on something like that. well, a quasi-pseudo professional environment, and then you need to go higher and then the parents give up, because they think it’s good. i'll go now and write with a stinger. yes, i'm trying now. influence the situation, and then it will come back to haunt my child, especially if there is nowhere to transfer him. here’s how to correctly psychologically build tactics in a conflict situation. well, you know, after all, uh, you know? that the school administration is also a director or director. they are not interested in the conflict developing, most often they manage to find some kind of compromise point, that the teacher changes something in his approach to a particular child, but the parents also, again , take their child there somewhere somehow under greater control so that the child better fulfills those standards, these standards, which we are obliged to fulfill, like a schoolchild, correct negotiations. this is the whole compromise, what is there, we hear you, you will hear us go and others take on some obligations. this

is such a form of conversation, it usually ends positively. and in general, everyone is happy. but if we see some kind of, well, head-on conflict situation, where you are definitely absolutely sure that you are right. as a mother, yes, then she move on, if education management, in fact, is always the mayor’s office, that is, there are people who are authorized to resolve the situation, because in fact, of course, i don’t really like how a psychologist transfers children from school to school, because in fact, any translation is quite difficult, like history. eh, moreover, many teachers there, as a rule, know, they can call you from school from school. why was there a conflict situation there between parents, there will be, say, teachers or school administration somewhere that will also be tense. i will add this. it seems to me that here, uh, in any case , it’s a losing situation with the child’s position, because either the child perceives the situation that i lost and therefore we have no other choice. how to translate either something of its own to take shape. yes, or he will say

yes? i wanted to and i was already transferred by manipulation. yes, of course, but these are teenagers, so a psychologist. eh, of course, i don’t like translations. i understand that translations are only necessary when there is a conflict within the class, when a child has become an outcast, when there is such overt bullying, when a large number of classmates are involved, that is, it is already difficult to correct this with the teacher, in fact, if he is a sane person, but for the most part he still teachers, these are sane people, let’s still treat them with understanding. it is possible to reach an agreement, it is important that no one raises the question of the principle, that there is a discussion platform. my name is natalya loseva i am our journalist today expert family psychologist doctor of science andrei sberovsky, and our heroine anastasia with whom we talk about school, how stress there are some other things that confused me in the story anastasia i would like to discuss this with you friends when anastasia spoke about

her eldest daughter. i heard two things which alarmed me. the first is anastasia’s control over her daughter, who is already 12 years old, and the second one slipped. the parental pain of our time is parental chat. let's talk about control first. up to what grade should you do homework with your child? up to what grade should you go into the electronic diary and look, which means that the child has been assigned, in general, yes, parents are starting to find out, parents are starting to send each other, so messages in instant messengers, what have we been assigned today? uh, history and math. this happens very often. not children parents. well, you know, i’m for, hmm, of course, trust in the child, but you have to understand that the child is in his teenage years. it’s not always possible to cope with this trust, so our parental control. then, what about the child’s academic performance, and is everything done there for homework, of course, for the next lesson, we

still have to do it, that is, in this regard, i am a supporter of control, he should soft. this should be control that is not offensive to the child. yes, when we don’t doubt, it’s impossible even to put it on you. anything so as not to sound like these franks, yes, after all, we must control, but he says that control, but praise every success, homework done there , every successful a should not remain underestimated, because, unfortunately, you have verbally. yes, here’s a way to express it. yes, this is the problem of parents. unfortunately, it has always existed and will exist, and for a long time we are in the fact that we take fours and fives for granted and did not tell the child. nothing, as it were, but twos and threes, of course, evoke negative emotions in us. as a result, the child has uh, gradually an association with school and communication with dad and mom only arises through negativity. it’s just that we only react to negativity, so i’ll emphasize this idea. we must give a reaction to any grades, including four and fives. don't take it for granted so to speak. oh, what a fine fellow you are,

what a fine fellow you are! our words go away and well done. they edit the child better. as a responsibility, it accordingly reduces our need for further control, so there should be control, but not only for the purpose of identifying these same two, which is so the question is how to respond to them, because the concept right here honestly takes one’s anger. so, when you look at this electronic diary. you see this three there , you wonder where it comes from, psychology. yes, people are learning. there are two types of positive reinforcement, negatively correct , of course, yes, that’s why i’m a theorist, of course, yes, because, as a practitioner, of course, i also react very violently to bad grades. this is true, but in theory, i understand that you need to praise for a b. even if we understand that this is a b in physical education and against threes. e in mathematics for an a, all the more praise. but for a c for a d for a building , you need to understand and help and understand the emphasis not immediately from the position, there are accusations. there is hatred, irritation and so on.

let's see what was difficult there. listen, well, it's not that difficult. in fact. let’s solve 1-2 equations on the right or one or two similar problems, as if we’ll solve it, that is, we still have to try to look for solutions. or he might say, listen, what do you think, maybe we’ll try a tutor hire lessons. i hope this is a question for tutors, because not everyone always has enough time with their parents. yes, if i suddenly understand that i myself can no longer help, then of course tutors are especially now our online time - this is a serious argument and many parents, of course, take advantage of this and i don’t see any negative in it, because that, again, there are parents who, well , they don’t have enough patience or time, because parents can also be very different, but do their homework with their children. it's just a lack of ability, because it can be much more difficult to explain than to do it yourself. and therefore, very often it turns out that instead of explaining to the child, he simply does not know how to

do it himself. yes, they're made just like that. like this. why do it like this and we do it badly. this is a small life hack. yes, in this situation, those parents, and who, let’s say , have. he has free time, let’s say, now again many parents work remotely or your regime allows you to be at home with your child some days, the main problem. here lessons - this is because parents try to help the child do homework or do it together in the evening, when the parents are already tired during the day, when the child has already forgotten a lot, the child’s memory is not that long, so i advise. if there is an opportunity to be at home with the child during the day, at least try to practice not every day, so that you do your homework immediately after coming home from school, as if, of course, if the child there is hungry, we will feed him, give him, he has 15 minutes to rest, but i did the best lessons right away, while the child is still involved in the educational process by inertia, when he has not yet forgotten, as it were, yes, if there is

such an opportunity, and again, when i come home, i still say that it is better to do my homework right away, then have dinner. even if not everyone is there at six, but it’s already eight nine, but they decided to immediately submit the deadline, because when the parents arrived. they ate there, rested for 8 days and fell asleep. and then there are lessons for you, that’s when it happens. the most important thing is that conflicts choose the time for lessons as early as possible people work this is a life hack that parents are not tired of. if possible you, generally parent chat. let's talk at the end. it seems to me that this is the source of neuroses. e and others. eh, hmm, not very much there, even if the child has one chat with his parents purely, yes, some of them are the teacher, and there are very few parent chats, as far as i know, in which it is possible to hold such an even constructive discussion. yes , the position of the teacher and the position

of the school administration are slipping very important, because school chats are now, of course, a huge problem, because as a psychologist. during the school year, i see there almost every week and there are just some kind of conflicts. you are between parents, and the insult goes as far as fights , like threats that even resulted in the death of daddy, and it comes to the point of criminality in that serious stories come to pass, so it is very important for me. in this case, uh, i try when i work with parents and say, dear parents. you will agree, uh, with the teacher, your class teacher, and the school administration that there is strict standards of behavior in chat. no one personally discusses topics not related to the school, no one rolls away, there is a certain strict framework when we are just touching on the lessons. here is the topic, here are the essays and nothing more - donate money for graduation. yes please for second grade. sorry yes, that's why it's very

important that teachers and school administrators don't lose control of the chat, because as soon as they lose control, a dominant mommy, a dominant female, a dominant male will appear, which will, in fact, already exist. there will be threats and pressure. and what is weak, and that you are poor people there and it begins and in this situation children, as a rule, get involved in this story and the child feels there that we are poorer there than others in the class or, on the contrary, richer. i can behave too arrogantly in class or in relation to ukraine. it’s very important to reach an agreement with a healthy core of parents and get the support of the school administration, so that there are more chats to control, you generally need to be, including where there is a class teacher, to say that everything else. please report to me individually . and here is my advice to you, as a mother, that it is advisable that everyone in the class make one or two friends so that in any difficulties, and you have a coordinated position that your children, again, would be such a core of friendship between ourselves, but in this

regard. well, i understand that the life of a child. it doesn't just happen at school. if you can , again, as a mother of two children, make friends and with them there after school sometimes two or three children take a walk together, when two or three well there on weekends there at the kunsian place. this gives the child a feeling of comfort in the classroom and you, as a mother, will be calmer and , again, you will be less upset; you will send your child to school as a safe , comfortable place for yourself, this also all matters. i recommend these meetings. i advise you to come sometimes, at least for a bite or to get to know him personally, because the teacher actually always treats him well when the parents specifically called and have not yet attacked him. not with pressure. just hello. i that's where my phone is. if anything, you mean, again there are some nuances there, like a child in this regard, when i analyze the stories, uh, there is discomfort, and the child is at school. i was just asked, do you even know the teacher, uh, i often don’t know the subject there, in general , such difficulties arise, everything that we

don’t even understand who the child is there with in general, therefore, the involvement of the parent in the school is allowed for those who are reasonable, of course , within the limits of knowledge , at least what the director looks like, what it looks like respectively teacher? it allows the parent to take the school more seriously, and a serious relationship between parents and the school creates a serious relationship at school and with the child, so control. let me remind you that we return to the issue of control. there should be control, well, correct, soft, friendly and i emphasize the positive. after all, the carrot still works better than the stick. well, i don’t know, anastasia, how are you, but somehow i felt better, and andrey built some kind of correct strategy. yes, you can have pictures when the picture doesn’t look like that such a catastrophic, disbelieving friend. today we talked about school as stress for both parents and children, and our today’s expert is a doctor of sciences psychologist, a family psychologist. andrey beberovsky showed us from a different angle

, a different strategy, attitude towards school and building relationships from school. this is a psychic podcast. and you can watch all the podcasts on the first channel website one tv.ru hello dear friends, not so long ago, as part of our television academy, we distributed teffs region in ufa lord, the results of this trip could not be ignored fall in love with this brilliant musician , dear friends, ufa bashkortostan, this brilliant man lays a bridge between the past , present and it seems to me, and the future, he takes the national turkic bashkir melos and makes it the music of the 21st century.

this is fantastic, that was the goal when we created this project together with the people's artist of the republic of bashkortostan. we wanted to come up with what is fashionable modern, what you can dance, but at the same time, so that it is associated with antiquity, and with culture, ethnicity and in my project i play at 15 instruments and everything. this is combined with fashionable modernity. the music turns out to be this kind of show, you don’t have to look too hard. it seems to me that in bashkir villages all this is still sung, it all exists, it all exists. this is all sung. and so it happened. my father dreamed of becoming an artist. wow, he uh, well, somehow it didn’t work out in soviet times. and when i was born, he didn’t start playing the kurai kora every day, that this kurai is, uh, a bashkir national instrument. this is kurai this reed, which is in the south ural can you give me some reeds, please? i even brought some reeds to show you. and

here’s another one, comrades, you saw, here’s that second one, where is this beautiful girl , what kind of kyzy and or khanum is this? i don’t know how to say it better, but this is kurai, this reed that grows in the southern urals is a flower. this kurai is depicted on our flag on our coat of arms. uh, seven flowers - that means seven genera. e bashkir, and i specially brought this reed. and this is how he grows. we are plucking this reed. and i’ve already prepared it in advance, so we tear it down and put it away. e. then i will specially hold the flower in front of you, please, i will cut this edge . i cut it, kurai tell me please, now i’m making five holes. wow, i made five holes, i made five

holes directly with a pen and it turned out to be such a wonderful instrument. a very vegetative spacious sound reminds the indian bansura only a homeless person, the whole world knows okurai, many of us ourselves, dear friends, just found out that night. so here i am, if possible, right on this instrument now live without you needing it or not, not necessarily, my dears. let's leave our viewers alone with the arrangements. i would like to sing an excerpt from the little one.

but it’s necessary, but throat singing turned out to me, this is mongolian stuff. no, but you’d rather play the trombone on the trombone, of course. well then, now we’ll listen to the trombone, what

will happen in the hands of a talented person. i would like to thank my dear friends again and again. uh, bashkortostan, which gave my colleagues and me a meeting with such a talented person, new conquests for you. a dear friends, new interesting meetings, like those that just happened, wish you all the best.

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