hello, well done. please tell me, but regarding love, what happened personally? that's when the moment of that conclusion was somehow that's it. i'm waiting for there to be more of me. this is an inspiring phrase. well, it happened and it happened and it passed. oooh, handsome, really. well, yes, it's very simple. well, like, anyway , there were probably some interesting ones, someone looked after them in an unusually beautiful way, you won’t believe it, they gave them. do you remember? no, they gave horses, everything was given by plane, it was fierce, they gave flowers by plane, and flowers. i think they didn’t give away the planes. well, at least in principle, in the nineties i asked for an airplane instead of a horse. maybe, plus or minus , the cost of flowers by plane is the same. i just won’t fall asleep today, until no one gives me a small motor airplane. no, it was very romantic. we were flying on his plane, and a plane was flying behind us. wow, behind another

person, do you understand? i found it calm there. i also know that you worked as a vocalist. with philip kirkorov, i am not only a backing vocalist, and i will say right away. this is written incorrectly on the internet. he stole me it was from the wives’ advice that we met at the morning post office. he was so handsome that i went blind when i saw him, they really were very friendly with me. until now, it’s like he’s like this, and he says, everyone, come to work with me , you’ll drink salt for three songs. this was the most key well, and at the same time you will be there for me, well , help song, i say okay about money, no one said money. it was very little, but no matter. but there were three solo songs in the concert. and why if i hadn’t gone to him, maybe, no matter how unknown, how my creative and career has worked out . many thanks to him. and what am i saying to my teacher? why did you break up? well, somehow i once showed him two songs that someone wrote there, i don’t remember. well, how do you like it? tell him, he

listened, and we and kirkorov went abroad. this was very valuable, because at that time it was almost impossible to get abroad, even if we got to germany for the first time in our lives, then we were going to some other countries. and so we had a hassle. we had been preparing for it for several months. i waited it's a hassle. i saw it in a dream. i think, lord , it’s a hassle, it’s a hassle, my god, what is this? and here i am , you know, for a suitcase like this. and so he flies to us tomorrow. eh, it’s like i even gave my passport, and he called me, he says okay , in general, you’re not going to morocco. now you are truly an artist. well done. kind person. this is also how on the platform the steamer leaves the suitcase, standing in such tears, and how and what you will change. and where did the rented apartment go, i was hanging around for 2 years. it’s there or a year ago i remember that there’s something on these in two songs i earned something, and in one case, miraculously, i got a director. and now you see lenya.

we met him, and it was necessary to go to warm up the group carmen and thanks to whom i, too , by the way, lada dance appeared, already real, but i only had three songs, in my opinion, and six conditions were needed, but i stole three songs on studio gala one whether kistar another. in general, it’s good there in the back there, lika there, i moved out altogether, i know, zhen, that you really love basta’s work in order to catch up when you started in make music in general. i downloaded his tracks and read from above. that is, it was sometime in 2010, when i just downloaded some program onto my computer and focused on him, and right now, i’m even afraid to meet him. by the way, you can say that yes vasya cool, i adore him, mikhalych tell me, mom, how much is my life worth, my life is a drama, my soul is a drama.

fate knocked me down. i have always heard, get up son, these ballads, visit all mothers, wait for your love they give us tell me mom, how much is my life worth to your life. tell me how much my life is worth, my soul is not the sun, we are the soul. and now you can’t even see the sun here. i want to play with you.

now, i will name the artist. here, you choose from the options i have proposed. eh, who really? that is, what is your main profession? who is the artist, he probably didn’t work for whom he studied, right? what kind of profession is an artist, he won’t beat me, no. so olga buzova is actually a nurse, geographer , history, historian, diplomat, most likely, she learned to be some kind of diplomat. yes to me it seems, yes, so okay, your version is geographer , probably, and that’s correct. this answer is zero pavel volya teacher of russian language and literature physical education teacher, music teacher literature engineer cook teacher of english and french actor interior designer one, two, three actor and the correct

answer is an english teacher i learned garik martirosyan musician, mechanic, crane operator neurologist, psychotherapist, neurologist psychotherapist. this is true. rosa syabitova artist fashion designer, postman software engineer organizer of mass events for the postman, it looks like a programmer engineer. i know you have an album coming out soon. yes, a few words, an album is coming out soon, which comes out to order your skill, as your ability, which is what i came to show to share excerpts of my life. what kind of life

am i in now, in what environment? what's going on? that is, this is no, this is a single , yes, which is simply what this album is about with a whole story. i know that you, lada , love jazz very much and even prepare your own jazz program, so i don’t prepare a jazz one. it’s like i have it. i'm cooking you know your solo concert, you already know this voluminous one, where i’ll sing everything , they invited you to give us your song, please. only in jazz performance, the aroma of love of love. i loved madness. so what about the sun, it was shining for me then. with a ripe apple, valya breathed on her lip, she only grew richer and she flew in the clouds. o love.

eternal rules are not the essence for us, the apple tree sergei appears and the aroma of love brightly awakens and says goodbye. this is us very cool. and i liked it. and i liked it, let's be friends at home. zhenya we are friends with them. we are friends with you at home it's a hit. it’s a hit, because you’re already here and there’s nowhere to go. it turns out to be a hit-fit, that’s what it’s called, we

come up with a theme. we come up with everything and then it is born. right here, because right here we are all about this story, yes, on ourselves. i'm ready. there is no need to embarrass lada. i'm not needed. okay, something like that is spinning in my head, from me. i didn’t need this one, i want a daughter to fight. good . this is a cool format, my friends, today there was a wonderful, very bright, kind and

most importantly sincere podcast that gave birth to new fit these two wonderful artists. today we had studios online for you birbit and, as always, my wonderful knowledgeable karina cross. valya carnival, my name is anton lavrentiev, the ensemble is sitting behind me. jeep siband is a guitar roman drums. anton on keys, natalya and alexey on bass guitar. listen to good music, look not at the format, but at this stage i am performing. in the movies, but you can still see with your rose-colored glasses, only the clouds don’t care about anyone and

that’s why you’re alone. i won't interfere, i'm hooked. you got me hooked. you are not in this world of beauty simplicity is enough and we are hooked. well, i was hooked. you got me hooked. i'm sitting here smoking, and alone can't save me. nicotine. you forgot, don't remember. just remember tomorrow, but you hooked me, you hooked me. i’m sitting smoking alone and nicotine saves me for putin, remember. i’m just going to see you tomorrow

, many more reasons to stay. well, you got me hooked, you got me hooked. i’m sitting here smoking, and being alone doesn’t save me. nicotine. don't forget , don't remember. just forget, don’t remember, but you hooked me and you hooked us. i’m sitting here smoking, nicotine alone can’t save me. for putin remember. just forget me. i'm coming to you, i'm coming to you.

with the psyche podcast, we continue to unravel the complex tangles of human lives. this is done carefully so that both our heroes and those who know themselves may see themselves reflected in their situation. they found some way out for the fate of our hero. or at least looked. perhaps from a different perspective on the situation that worries, worries and prevents us from being happy, our today’s expert is a clinical psychologist, candidate of psychological sciences artur timofeev at 7:00 morning. hello, and our heroine milena, she was left alone with two children; her personal life is not going the way she would have liked . milena herself will probably tell us everything.

hello. hello, i am looking for a potential husband and am currently going on dates and meeting men. and i have this question. at what stage should i introduce this person to my children? how to understand? is it even worth introducing this person? will we have a sequel and actually how to introduce this person to children so that hmm, don’t traumatize their psyche, don’t give them any extra hopes that this person will stay in our lives for a long time, because there’s already been a certain bad experience. and hmm , i would like now not to step on the same rake and do everything damn. so, when you talk about a bad experience, do you mean your husband, the father of these children, or do you

mean those men who were then both, well, it turns out that uh? my brother ended in divorce. unfortunately, we do not maintain a relationship with the father of the children, respectively, men. yes, and dads in ours there is no life, but it so happened that literally a few days before the birth, i, and the higher powers i don’t know what else to call it, sent me a wonderful man who became a part of our lives for 3 years. well, literally my man, father to my children. i mean, he's like, damn , let's do it. so you, uh, divorced your husband. well, in fact, we separated when we were pregnant with our second child, and yes, it turns out that this man who came into your life did too. he basically accepted. this is for the second child. yes, that is, he accepted both of them somewhere like that, that is together. we did not live together, that is, the person

was from another country, and we met, that is. well, we had a fulfilling relationship. even at a distance, but he squeezed. uh, that is, i know his children. yes, he came to us. we visited him, we spent time together, yes, what happened? why did such a wonderful relationship end? unfortunately, something happened in the world, that circumstances were irresistible forces that separated us, and yes , i mean precisely these circumstances, and for some time we still had hope that we would get together, but given that, that it's already 3 of the year. it was already a long-distance relationship, then, well, at some point i simply couldn’t stand it psychologically and was the initiator and suggested letting go of this situation. well, in general, we

discussed it together and said yes, because we didn’t find a solution. how to be together? damn, well, if i asked you who you are looking for first of all, you are looking for yourself. uh, a male lover's friend. are you looking for a husband, as you know, social status and as some kind of support point, or are you looking for a father to your children. understand? that, of course, in an ideal world we we want. first second third compote, well , what is the main task for you now. that's the motivation. really. yes, in my ideal world, i am, first of all , a close person with whom i personally will have a good close relationship. i am a young woman, i am interested in this person being both a romantic love partner and on this basis. if everything goes well, then in general i would like to get

married and end this relationship. specifically straight to the target. what's the status? i need a husband now, i don’t have one that’s married. i already had this status. he doesn’t give anything if there are no relationships within the family. mutual understanding and respect for love , your photos with children are very cool. thank you , you are just such friends. yes, this, by the way, this photo shoot was just a man for us , this is the love that was after marriage, this is what he did, he is milena. please tell me, when did you break up with the man. yes, when the relationship was at a distance, a pandemic happened. how did the children perceive it? let me start with the fact that the eldest son is older. he still remembered dad, they still had moments like this. have a nice childhood.

yes, that is, the child remembers dad, and he was bored asking where he was, what he was doing, and when there was a new man , yes, that is, roughly speaking, he replaced, yes, completely this one, and how old was he at the beginning of the relationship? was about 4 1/2 years old, and well, it so happened that i even came on the first date with the baby, and that is , and somehow and then all of our dates, in general , almost at the beginning, while the baby was little, everything happened together, but accordingly, i didn’t even have the option of not introduce. and somehow everything went on and on by itself. these 3 years were great, but then the real question for me was that i didn’t know what to tell the children, how to explain to them that there was a situation in the world, that something had gone wrong, that we were adults here people. it seems like we can’t agree. that is , it was a shock for me and for the children. and i still have this question, what should i say in such a situation, because

i’m making up fairy tales. what was said? well , i said that it so happened that airplanes are now they don’t fly from one country to another, that we live in one country, and the person is different and , accordingly, well, we all flew together and now they don’t fly on airplanes. but we can’t see each other and how much it will be like, my mother doesn’t know and how the other person on the other side doesn’t know either, so for now we live the way we live and how the son perceived this information, essentially. he seemed to understand, but from time to time, of course, he approached me with a question. what, when will we see each other? well , sort of, when it all gets better, that is, well, there weren’t really any big differences, but the kids were already used to them. they expected that a person exists, that he will exist, and it turns out that at

some point, when we had already resolved this issue. i realized that this was for an indefinite period and that the children needed to be prepared for something else, and i said that the sun is so bad, so, well, dad and loved ones. we can't see them. and what i said is that dad is the person who raises you, who is with you and that we will find a new dad. well , milena promised, and what promise did she make to the children? it turns out, but i sincerely wanted it myself. well, arthur, what's done is done. yes already, i understand that you need to avoid making such promises to children, or is it like the story about santa claus to hold out until the last while they believe. well, it’s better not like that, not

like that. uh, there are some ages at which children really won't be able to perceive information normally. and in general. most often they don’t even ask questions. these ages, as a rule, are up to 5 years old, up to 5 years old, and all the children’s questions are very childish and because their conceptual apparatus is very childish therefore, the answer is that we cannot see dad there, or even the man, because he cannot fly, this is a completely understandable answer. but from about five years old, from 5.5, maybe six, they differ a little. yes, these frameworks, depending on the child himself, the child will already ask more targeted questions. he will be curious and therefore any information that comes to the child is connected , either with promises or with a story of something

unrealistic, but the child remembers it, and in general, and in general, he will be interested in it somehow to react. we become hostages. these ones, uh, by chance or on purpose i didn’t remember that there too, maybe they were children. well, then, we remember, i have the feeling that we, in some kind of social stereotype, continue to associate the happiness of our children, necessarily with a complete family. yeah and again in an ideal world. this is how it should be, but the world is not ideal, it is different. now it might seem to me, milena, that you have refuted this, but it seemed to me that for you your family happiness is connected, well , practically with the obligation to be present in in the house of a man and the children’s father, it turns out that everything that happened to me? yes, how many points out of ten? eight out of ten

, it is still important for me that we have a complete family and have a man in ours, and if this does not happen. but this is not, you know, a managerial task. at any cost, i need to find a children’s lamp like this, or this nail, if this doesn’t happen, i will continue to do this directly with my life, and help children grow up by realizing myself. i'll still go on dates. and even according to the theory of probability , someday a person should meet in time, you give yourself. this is what i have my whole life ahead of me, i will not limit myself in this. start earning more with the tinkoff investor card let your money work for you. apply for an investor card with free

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psychologist candidate of psychological sciences artur timofeev and our heroine milena artur i don’t even know, now i’ll ask you, as a man or as psychologist. let's ask in one bottle. and what is the correct strategy and tactics for a woman who is left with a young beautiful woman, who is left with two children and still wants her happiness to be like this? well , as we know from books and good films with a man and children, we don’t like the word right . but here it is still important. what does milena herself want if she really sees her family as complete. yes , when there is a man next to her, yes, and for the children, he becomes, maybe, a foster father. yes, or something like this respect, then why not? yes? these are her paintings. she wants to be so comfortable, if it weren’t for my positive experience with the last

man who inspired you, who i would have probably just thought that this doesn’t happen. and when did this happen in my life? i just don’t want to give it up now, and i understand that this happens and this is probably hope. it will not just be with you for the rest of your life. well, i even have hope that this person and i can talk about this someday. three years ago we broke up correctly i understand. it doesn’t matter when the decision was made that you could never see each other. and when it was pleasantly accepted, my daughter was just about three years old, so now i measure everything against my daughter. this was a formal decision made on your initiative. well, we approached this together, that is, we talked and we discussed options and did not find options

that everyone wanted to live together and could not go there. that is, there were no questions there. did we want there was a question that he couldn’t and i couldn’t have a solution that could possibly help us save. unfortunately, it was not possible. at that moment, therefore, how long can a relationship even last. at such a distance, relationships are a very dynamic thing, and relationships are at a distance. they seem to freeze, that is, somewhere there a person develops himself. and you yourself are developing here and when you meet there in a couple of years, for example, you can understand that you have nothing to talk about? we live in a digital age. yes , now you can speak, uh, with your voice for an infinite amount of time literally online, by chance speakerphone and spend the whole evening together,

not to mention the video. yes, you can absolutely agree, but this is not at all the same thing as living together on the same territory. well, what do you mean that there is no one to say, dear dishes today, you think, well, unless , of course, i take the most important intimate sphere, but nevertheless, for that there is emotional contact without physical existence. he cannot walk for a long time, but it is much more difficult and there is always a risk that, well, after all. uh, when people are together, they are under each other they adjust a friend, yes, relationships are dynamic things, they develop and develop. because both each person in a couple changes, as well as the relationship within the couple . and when such a break occurs, despite the fact that yes , you can communicate, there is a video link, nevertheless, the lack of living together, the lack of the opportunity to constantly

contact each other creates... , well, some barriers and risks of rupture are increasing. well, plus we know that physical intimacy is very often such an anti-crisis yes, and very many marital conflicts quarrels and moods. they are just hidden due to the fact that there is this part of your life, so i wouldn’t do it. uh, again, be super categorical and say that no long distance relationships always end badly there. but i would say that this is still a rather complex relationship thing. under ideal conditions, this is a complex thing. and the divorce statistics show just this. and if we also create some new difficulties, like distance, the inability to see each other and some sensations uncertainty about what will happen next , apparently, because as far as i understand, the break in relations occurred when there was

complete uncertainty. and it continued for several months after the lock downs, which i was alone with the children and realized how important it was for me to still have a person, that is, before that. well, once upon a time there, when we were young, there were these stories that we were able to correspond with someone there for a year, we thought. oh god, this is my love, then we met once and realized that it was goodbye. i see you i don't want to know. and here, of course, 3 years. we still saw it. we had different contacts. there was a lot of warmth and emotional support there, both at a distance and at the same time, physically there was this, for which you could feel supported and meet. and when i realized that there was nothing for 3 months. and when the next contact will be unknown. it was scary. it was a terrible tragedy to lose this. of course, i didn't have enough. just calls

, well, after what happened, you no longer communicate. well, the first year we supported communication, yes, that is, yes, he called , congratulated my children on their birthday, even sent gifts there through friends. so at some point i said that it was just too painful for me, that let’s not do it at all. well, but still once every year or two. well, as if this year, too, i also wrote to him and couldn’t resist asking him, somehow he was very happy to say something. well, in general, we talked and agreed that we would be glad to see each other again, but when it’s not clear, because he doesn’t have anything has changed. he cannot come to russia. and i also can’t get into his country. she is neutral territory. we also can’t meet now, or well, there were other

stories, there were other men, not just this man, yes, like those with whom you met your children? tell us more, will you? yes, at some point i realized that i needed a person, i needed a person here and i had a friend who, in general, observed my situation, and he, let’s say, came out of the shadows and i imagined him as a friend of a family friend for the children, that is, well, we are together too spent time walking in the park and celebrating a birthday. but our relationship did not work out and in fact we separated and it turns out that the person was in our life and again the person in

our life is no longer there and the children also have questions about where this person is now. what happened and it was difficult to navigate, what to tell the children, but at the same time to be a person with whom i understand that, well, it wouldn’t have worked out for us, and the relationship that i would like in general. this is traumatic for children. it depends on how you say it, because uh, as i already said. yes , over 5 years old, after all, children begin to understand a lot. and this requires some openness with them. the child in general can understand that people have separated and the understanding that a separation has occurred will not necessarily be traumatic for the child. well, because the children in kindergarten, for example, also became friends as part of their relationships. yes, we stopped communicating. and

the child has this concept in his head. that you can start communicating, or you can separate? and if this information was presented to a child, something began to be found, even within children’s terms. yes, they started making friends there. okay, the child will accept it. stopped being friends. the child will also perceive it. the concept of love for children is more complicated, but actually it’s also possible. it’s clear in simple terms, simple concepts, but actually, it’s possible, yes. there , first, uh, we can talk about friendship, we can talk about the fact that this person. eh, she likes it. she likes to be with him and slowly introduce him into, well, let’s say, into the children’s world. yes, the children see this person, no one , well, or go to some amusement park, for example, and only when children will already accept this person. they

already have some credibility in him. they treat him well, then we can already say that there is a feeling for this person, for example, to marry him, and then the children will ask there whether he, for example, will become a dad for them, and this is also important moment. you already said that dad is not the one. everything is about who is raising, and considering what? well, after all , children, at least the eldest one, he’s of school age. yes, he is 10 years old and from 1 it is obvious that he definitely understands. he understands everything and to a sufficient extent, and then naturally, you can talk to him normally, but about these things? and how much younger the baby is, she’s already six, and she already understands, too, and i understand that everyone understands everything and this is

what their friend, who was truly different, needs. he can imagine that this is my friend. yes, great, why not? why not, right? but in response to questions about whether he will become a dad, but in principle, in principle, psychologists usually recommend doing some dilutions. what and yes there is, for example, a biological dad yes and even if he is not with him relationships in fact, yes, we still talk about it and there should be a separation, because for teenagers, for example, this is usually important. so for teenagers it is often important to find out what happened to my biological father. where did he go? if this topic is taboo, it will create some tension for the teenager. well , literally some kind of instability and likely to interfere with building relationships with their

own with the help of a family member will become a wireless family member. uh, and, accordingly, their own already romantic relationships in the future. that is , so this is so important, so after all, the figure of one’s own father. yes, biologically, he must be put into context, that this is what he was like. or maybe even, and i don’t know about the younger one, but tell the older one, if he has an interest in this, and he is already asking a question on this topic, then at least tell how the story of this relationship met, the truth or the astronaut . who else is there? the lighthouse really went sailing and never returned. here we tell the truth. ahh, even if not attractive, yes. that there are some sharp areas to soften, but overall.