building relationships with their own with the help of a family member yes goes wireless family members. uh, and, accordingly, your own romantic relationships in the future. that is, so and so. this is important, therefore, after all, but the figure of one’s own father. yes , biologically, he must be put into context, that this is what he was like. or maybe even, but i don’t know about the younger one, but tell the older one, if he has an interest in this, and he is already asking questions on this topic, then at least tell him how we met the story of this relationship is the truth or the astronaut pilot. who else is there? the lighthouse really went sailing and never returned. here we are telling the truth. well, ah, even if it’s not attractive, yes, but we soften it, that is, soften the sharp areas, but in general. it must be true, because

why not tell the truth? yes well, older teenagers will lose any trust in their parents for lying and then it will be very difficult to simply establish contact with the teenager. is there a certain age among children, arthur, when you need to be careful when introducing a new member? any family true well, that is, if a child is in acute puberty, it is just as risky as if the child is six years old, just different risks, wait, the teenager is already used to 14 years. here's to a certain model of the world. everything is already settled for him. actually his mom, right? yeah, it seems like this is the line that runs here. uh, direct collisions are very common. this is another kind of jealousy. in general, a teenager, maybe, well, yes, but

again, it’s not the end of the world if the child is made to understand that mom is not going anywhere. well that is mom also pays attention, moreover, teenagers, especially older ones, do not always require attention. they are already slowly beginning to separate from their parents. here they are in general, dear. i will endure less. your brain. yes, he says, the mother of a teenage son, and in general, even the teenager is not lying. eh, just happy with this information in general, again. yes, if everything is fine with him, everything is fine, he is already glad to have a little distance, because teenagers still love freedom, gifts should be given. here's a new family member. or will it already be such, but bargaining, bribery with sad consequences, gifts can be given as long as it does not turn into direct. well, in return, that is, i won’t pay attention to you. i'll just give you a gift.

this is what you can do. well, that is , a gift should not be a substitute for attention and warmth; if there is attention, if there is warmth, if there is a good relationship, then the gift will definitely not spoil anything. and if the person milena meets understands that you are her person, they will also have children of their own. well, that is, with previous marriages, then at what point should you introduce the children or at least talk about the fact that these are now yours? in general, somewhere dear relatives. girl, if this happens before they become related. well, that is, even at the stage of some joint trips. yes, there, uh , trains to nature or on the way to the cinema, that is, the territory, of course, of course, are welcome. i

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didn’t raise this topic with her due to her age. but when we broke up, there had been a 3-year relationship. i just, well, in a playful way, i asked her, “i’m your mommy.” who's your daddy? well, it’s just something like this, and without a shadow of a doubt, she told me this was our man, who was the one who accepted and was not allowed through. well, essentially, yes he is, and it was it’s just such a heartbreak, because i’m so confused, because i don’t want to feel like this. well, that is, let me have the thought that, well, it’s good that you think that this is your dad, because, well, the person really deserved it with everything, both trust and actions. well, then at some point she began to grow up and actually. just after five years, when all the moms

and dads there, she had this question and her brother joined in, who already understands. and he said this illusion, that is, no. this is actually it's not yours, dad. well, how would i admit it? well , as she admitted, she told the story that your dad is also your brother’s dad. here. well, i’m not sure that she somehow understood it then, and that’s what, but most likely, she will return to this issue. well, it’s good that she already has it. uh, realistic picture, huh. she will probably want to complete this picture somehow. here, maybe a little older. yes, that may be a little later. she will want, and then you can really tell the story of the relationship, you can show photographs a and if photographs of the biological father have been preserved, including telling the story of that relationship,

again so that the children can imagine. but how did this relationship with my biological dad develop? that is, why this man appeared, and this included this, that is, it is clear that, as i said, the sharp edges can be smoothed out. well, it's better if this story is for children. eh, well, as honestly as possible, then they will have enough of everything in their heads. smooth, stable. it’s clear that everything is on its own shelves, but one day they may ask mom, why? you and your dad don’t communicate with our real biological one. for some reason you don’t bring him to us, and you did in general that i can’t influence a person to take him and bring him, then something like violence, probably, but the biological dad knows where we live, knows our phone numbers. periodically, also once a year, i

remind you before birthdays that we have birthdays soon, if you want. call us somehow to congratulate us. that is, all phones are in direct access, he knows all the numbers, his relatives know them, who, by the way, also don’t manifest themselves from the word completely, so i did what i could. well, i don’t see the point in trying to force someone to somehow bring them together. that is , if a person doesn’t want to, yes, that is, the person has a new family there, he switched. well, okay, at some point it was difficult and unpleasantly painful, but i accepted it, that is , at some point it will just be nicer to tell this truth too, yes, that’s about how the relationship with the biological one developed the father may be without such details, if

the children do not have questions, if they arise yes, of course, it’s worth answering them. if they don’t arise, then you can make the story a little, shorter. that is, naturally, it can indicate the separation. there may be some reasons why they diverged and now outline the position that dad has another family, so he doesn’t see you. well, yes, the child will say, i’m probably bad. we are probably such bad children that the pub doesn’t want to communicate with us , and naturally this can happen. if you give it to children, well, some kind of negative picture, so the responsibility is definitely needs to be shifted towards the father. well, this is objectively true, and the responsibility there is not on the father’s children. well, that is, uh, dad decided to leave, he decided to leave there or start another family. he left, yes, it was his choice. well, it’s just so-so, to be honest

, it would be funny if they were sad there, in any case, you don’t need to send too much of a pill. it doesn’t matter if we try somehow. well, if we sweeten this situation and make it something more idealistic, then most likely the children, on the contrary, will have even more questions and a feeling of some unrealistic understatement. something like that? what kind of complexes? yes, therefore, after all , even if it is not a very pleasant story. what is important is that the child as a whole will be able to perceive it. eh, he will have someone to rely on, and he will not feel that he left there or is somehow unworthy. this is what is important to wait for the new dad. let it be milena, i think that uh, you

really do a lot of things for your children. are you generally doing the right thing? yes from what we talked, so it seems to me that you are on the way to complement yourself, that it is really worth remembering that life is a holistic thing and it is good when there are all areas in this life. yes, there is some ideal picture that you need to strive for, but at the same time do not forget about the rest of your life. this was a psychic podcast, where today we discussed it with our expert clinical psychologist, candidate of psychological sciences arthur timofey and our heroine milena. how to find a man in a family where the father is not? how to properly meet children? what are the risks? well, where is the prospect of happiness? it is always there.

hi all. this is a free program podcast. i'm maxim tronkov. and today i have a special guest singer. presenter and the only one with whom i cheated on tatyana volosozhar yuliana karaulova good evening friends, please explain yourself, i wasn’t on the ice for myself, because the fans of our couple with tatyana call me a traitor, because i joined the village guard couple during ice age project. yes, but tanya was in excellent position. you needed to keep yourself busy with something or someone, so i saved you from obesity. that is, you are right, remember how i was groaning under you there, i remember. yes, i remember, especially the first time , when you lifted me up, i was so, yes, i tried

to make such an inspired face, because we were rolling there some number, i heard it from behind. well, that was fun. tell us how figure skating came into your life. it came with you, dear. maxim was invited to the glacier project period. as a child, you never even thought you were skating. but i skated, i had literally a couple of classes, so when i was offered to participate in the project. my dad thought i was just a professional. i can do everything. he said, you had three classes as a child, what do you know all about? well, but i knew how to drive straight and i knew how to do some sideways. i don't think i noticed all this. but okay, thank you very much. and then you taught me something. that's when the project ended. maxim told me that he would grant me status unofficially. i have his candidate master

of sports, but at the same time he told me that you haven’t learned anything to talk about you. it's like your partner. i don’t know how these two things are compatible, apparently they are. well , actually, i’ll tell you honestly. at some point i just gave up and told myself that i will just accompany you on the ice, protect you, lift you up and take on more responsibility, and i won’t do anything special to you. yes, but i want to say that it is really for non-professionals. this is a very complex project. and when i was offered to participate in it. i i understood that it would be difficult, but i, probably, being an addicted person. i romanticized this whole process throughout this project. i understood that it would be difficult, but i didn’t think that it would be so difficult, because in my professional activity. this also overlapped with a huge number of events there, including my first big solo concert and the release of an album. i was on it, and there was a large amount of promo from all sorts of different

tours, and literally during the period of the project i didn’t have a single day off at all, then available from august to december. of course, i ’m quite tired, but this is a cool memory. it’s a cool experience. the experience is very interesting. of course, i’m very upset that i can’t skate now like i did then, because after all. spordov, who are very important and need this regular skill. eh, constant training. now it seems to me that i can’t even do anything. if i go out on a raid, but if you’re nearby, maybe something will work out, but in general it’s difficult. it seems to me that when the gum skating rink opens, every winter, there comes, uh, various girls who even participated in the same project with us, for example, uh yulia baranovskaya and so, as soon as she sees me, she immediately grabs on and says, let's go , let's go, and i, looking with a sad look at my

wife, am forced to go in pairs. she's into you. let's call a spade a spade. she clung to you and so on at the moment when your partner is taken away by other partners . no, but, i periodically clung in the same way in marina, for example, because maxim explained it very well. you didn't really explain this to me. i was driving, let me go showed. but wait, it’s connected, another story, because marina was advised by your friend with your partner. natasha podolskaya advised me when i was offered to participate in the project. i called natasha because she took part in it before me and she said, go for a ride, either with spovilons or with marinin, but they offered you to me. you were fresh, and fresh blood, so to speak, and in general, no one else was offered to me. you and i tried and somehow they immediately put us in the spotlight, but they told me that the champion is fresh,

stunning, charismatic, textured, but harmful. this is what i wanted to start with. uh, now raise your right hand up. on what i swear on your shoes. just swear with your right hand, he says, only the truth are you sure that you want this. come on, tell us about your ice age partner. everyone knows the truth, but in fact, max is an incredible figure skater. since you're asking me to talk about my partner, i'll talk about you in the third person. yes, you will be so comfortable, and i won’t be so embarrassed hmm well, come on, i’ll try to justify you right away. as far as i know, i was the first professional person you skated with, and, in my opinion, the last. yes, i completely discouraged you from doing such things. that's the truth. well, at most

it was just difficult to explain to me, he didn’t understand how i didn’t understand it. why, if it worked once it didn’t work out the second time at all does this happen? that's it, of course. max is a very temperamental person, passionate, let’s call it that , and therefore highly emotional. and y you beat me, well, you didn’t beat me, you didn’t even kick me, but once you pushed me just a little. come on, just imagine, and i remember, yes and i imagine, i remember, it seemed to me that i was saying, in general the best couple was with korulova. that's how we got there. in general, she and i didn’t fight, we were friends, we rode in perfect harmony with each other, and for the first one and a half to two months. probably, you and i really became friends right away, somehow we immediately found a common language and chatted a lot. and then, about two months later, the result analysis began

some first conflicts. it’s just that when i stayed with you as a couple, they told me, listen, he generally mocks his wife , shouts at her, behaves . don’t understand how you imagine how he will behave with you, lies. i looked at this for the first two months. just the lamb of god i thought. well, what vile people tell all sorts of gossip, that’s it. then i understood what they were talking about, but then we made up and everything was fine in the end, and for me they didn’t talk, like, then not even for days , but for me it was very an indicative story when you and i didn’t talk, didn’t say hello, but we still came to training every day and worked out in one of the uh, skating rinks. we had a wonderful challenger. now i won’t name him who offended me and maxim just stood up for me. the raid ran out, it wasn’t on the air, i almost tore

my shirt, i said, either i or this man is leaving here and apologizes to yuliana, in short, i repeat, this was cut from the air, but i was very pleased. i think, well, what a great man. i only remember good, unlike yulianna karaulova, therefore, i will say that i had a very cool guy that i tell everyone this, because really, if i had someone else, i knew others there, but you and how wide is everything i probably wouldn’t be able to ride in pairs there with anyone else. and this, of course, is not point-blank to other girls. just to please my temperament. i know it would be hard for me. i remember very funny moments from the broadcasts of lednikovy when, in my opinion, well, one of some of the first, probably, numbers, well, not the first one, but somewhere at the beginning of the project, when i played a blind girl, my hobby got stuck in your tweed jacket. at the beginning , a flower fell, which you were supposed to give me at the end. and you, that means we skate there in support. i'm any girl. with an inspired

expression on your face and you say in my ear, damn, the flower has fallen, what should i do? and in general, you ’re in my ear all the way. you say all this, then my skate got stuck. and you’re a fucking horse, everything’s gone, what should i do? well, yes, i softened it a lot and i continue everything is to listen with such a face. i remember that at the end of the rental. i say maxim, please, could you not comment on what is happening in my ear? it confuses me a little, but there is something to remember, it’s very fun . by the way, in my opinion, you and i were almost the only couple who did high support. yes, you did, i did, we did, you understood me, but i wasn’t afraid, and everyone asked me how you weren’t afraid. i really wasn't scared. i trusted you 100% in this regard. i was sure that you didn't want me you'll drop it. for some reason. this is exactly what i wasn’t afraid of, but i remember that when we skated the last number it was already the final and there you usually lifted me up. uh, well, it turns out

you were holding me by the back, upstairs. like this, and then you lifted me up, either sideways or downwards, and i saw how really high it was. you know, i looked down. i remember i was so scared. i realized that this is really very high. that is, firstly, you are tall , plus skates, plus outstretched arms, in short, it was scary, but i can say that then during the ice age. i was simply at my best. and if i had a daughter, it seems to me that she is in better shape now. thank you so much. well, i was so-so there. thanks a lot. and so, and so, with this toxic, every day the abuser and toxic, if with love, now again in all the public pages, the user hits him with fire. no. by the way, he doesn’t hit at all; max will develop a touching attitude. and in general, tanya is simply the best great woman, i

told you, then i told you, you tell her, this is now for everyone tanya is simply amazing, amazing woman, amazing figure skater. well, you can figure it out for yourself there. but yes, you are a super harmonious couple. thanks a lot. i think that you and andryukho, thank you too, and tanya came through, came to our training , helped and even tried to explain something to me , she went out on the ice a couple of times already with such a big belly. it was very touching. well, look, the ice age is over. and with that, figure skating is over for you, or whatever. maybe you once watched the olympics, maybe you were sick for someone. maybe you know some of our sensational olympic champions who are now well-known. you know, uh. of course, i watched and was sick. i remember that when i came to skate in one of the shows , girls came up to me to take pictures and among them was sasha trusova. so i recently crossed paths with her somewhere, and i she says i have a photo with you. and i, in my opinion, it

was even broadcast somewhere and i was re-tagged in this photo. i saw that i had a photo with little sasha and i was like wow class. wow, what a cool photo? i was very pleased, but in general, of course, this is the most beautiful sport, one of the most difficult, the most spectacular, and it’s great that it’s connected to music. that is, this is art and sport and that’s it. with such a know-how, and a delivery with such energy, in short, well, for me this is probably one of my favorite sports. and if we talk specifically about olympic sports, then, probably, figure skating is the only thing i watch, perhaps, with rare exceptions, and, in principle, our country. to me seems to like figure skating most of all. our country. you love figure skating, just as yulianna karov loves it. it seems to me that this is true, because, uh, this is the most beautiful, brightest, one of the most difficult sports and i’m just amazing that

the level is growing so much every year, yes, that is , look at what the olympic champions were doing there, even 10 years ago there for a decade back. and i have no idea what’s happening now. what is it like to be an athlete relevant in this sport, because the level just grows from year to year. what keep up with these new records, new achievements in the number of elements. this is simply unrealistic on the one hand. this is cool. from that point of view exactly. how the sport is developing. i think figure skating. this is probably one of the fastest growing sports in this regard, well, recently. yes, he has become very progressive, and such a colossal improvement in this sport has occurred over the past 5 years, on the one hand and on the other, of course. this is associated with a large number of, probably, some kind of psychological trauma, because there are a large number of examples when people go. from a distance, this, of course,

affects their mental state in their future lives. and this, of course, is what raises questions when you think about whether, for example, to send your child to big sports, including figure skating. well, by the way, i remember your story. you once told us about the need. we all have a little something to tell about athletes. by the way, uh alexa yes sport is the son of yulianna karaulova. yes we have. uh, by the way, andrey cherny. yes, the difference between our children is quite small, a week. yes, there is a very big difference between our son and our son. yes, alexsov of sports, figure skating, hardly. well, thank you for this, i didn’t want the figurine for myself either. in general, i know that maxim and his son always wanted to be a footballer. i also want to be in the hospital, but it happened at my mother’s request, mom, thank you, eh. and what about maxim becoming a figure skater, and now we

have such a wonderful champion, by the way , on the channel, well, you’re the presenter on channel one, and i am the host of a podcast, for example, the host on channel one is a free program podcast. i'm maxim tronkov and my guest is a singer. tv presenter yuliana karaulova is a juliana, not only a tv presenter and an athlete. and also, and above all, a wonderful successful singer and have you heard anything? i’ll be honest, i haven’t heard these tracks, but i don’t mind. why not? you take competition calmly. well, no, to the fact that people who are you because you graduated from gnesinka, you are a singer by training. i said in

the ice age project, too, it turns out that she was practically a figure skater, so it seems to me that if a person has a desire , he has the opportunity to try himself in something new and he enjoys it. why not? and another question. if over time a person understands that it does not find a certain response, that it is not for him, then it means that he simply does not go further along this path, but at least he knows that he tried. you know, like in that famous book and film, that at least i will know that i tried, if i really wanted to. if a person had such a dream, i don’t mind, i’m not a prude, and it seems to me that on the one hand, certainly. everything should always be professional, but we all started somewhere. we all went through a certain path. and well, we probably need to be more lenient in some things, including many of our people. figure skaters try themselves and skaters too. if,

damn it, i'm trying to be a tv presenter, it's become popular now, so like figure skating, channel one, uh, broadcasts and thank them very much for that, and our girls are trying themselves , uh, tv presenters, maybe, you, as already a professional tv presenter, will give them a couple of tips and at the same time , i wouldn’t say that they’re a professional tv presenter, but thank you very much, first of all. let's start with the fact that the athlete's age is professional. it's very short and you imagine it like no other, there really aren't many sports. and yes, in which athletes in our country will stop as stars why i said football player, because they are mostly figure skaters. who else tell me, well, rhythmic gymnastics, maybe synchronized swimming is less common in gymnastics? okay well, just a few. and it turns out that a person has a lot of media

weight, but his professional path in sports is over, but at the same time he feels strong. he feels potential confidence. and most importantly, he has a desire to develop further, and he knows what to say, what to say, why not. i don't see anything wrong with this. them more so, if we talk about the girls you just mentioned. again, you talk great. do you feel free in this? why not. you have commented on a huge number of competitions. you communicate well with people. you easily find a common language, and you can joke on the edge in a timely, relevant and cool way and quite daringly. you know, on such a right edge, so this is also something great . everything here is just like that. thank you, but in fact, this is what the ice age did not give. a lot of athletes. more precisely, almost everyone who participates in it. they say it's all great, so much. there are so many things and it’s so cool,

the only plus for me that i got was meeting you with the stars and very amazing interesting people. i think that this is the main thing in general for the ice age thing, because it helps you develop, because when you see how easily the stars communicate there, well, mine are there, naturally, my partner, elena karaulova, my friend anzhelika kakashirina, and so on with that , with whom i talked, katya varnavy is there and so further, with whom we are finally alla mikheev. yes, with whom we hung out, were friends, spent time together, it gave me a lot. i actually thought, why not, that it seems like they’re all simple people, nothing like that, the supernatural doesn’t exist there , i definitely didn’t want to ride. yes, i remember how maxim said. i hate figure skating. i just can't believe what i'm hearing. how this is possible, i don’t know. i looked at all this from the side, physically it is very difficult when you are not a professional athlete to compete on ravnya with professional athletes it is quite

a ruthless world that should be noted. because during the project i first had a crack on one side in the rib. and a week later, on the other side, maybe there was a fracture, i don’t know, i didn’t do it. but i didn’t take a second photo. because the difference between the x-rays was a couple of days. i didn’t want to be irradiated again. the fact is that i repeat, it was maxim’s first time skating with a non-professional. and you squeezed me very hard, because naturally i don’t have such a muscular corset as tanya. yes, like professional athletes. so, basically, we broke two of my ribs. and i remember that at some point i felt like this. it's a pity i came for training. everything hurts. i just can’t help but sit, and, well, it hurts to move. i remember this moment and breathe and laugh, would you have anything to do with such nonsense? absolutely yes, and you just won’t take me there? with my hand it hurt everywhere, and in the end they injected me with painkillers

and applied special tapes. and at some point i just felt endlessly myself. i'm sorry i remember sitting and crying in the locker room. i’m still tired, you know, chronic lack of sleep , all this has accumulated. so at that moment you understood what sport is? yes, i realized that he absolutely ran away from high achievements, and at some moments he was absolutely not focused on your personal feelings, because there is a certain path that you have to go through, regardless of everything, and you cannot stop. you can't quit the race. you can't lose face. you can't let people down, you can't, in the end let yourself down i i thought. okay, listen, so many people were riding. eh, so many people were injured and it’s okay, perhaps, you know, it was a little different time, because the project was 7 years ago, in my opinion, there was or eight, and now it’s hype time. and perhaps by now some kind of story would have been exaggerated.