[000:00:00;00] a pleasant moment, but this is the most important thing here, that is, this is a solvable issue , it is unpleasant because we will have to add additional forces for reconnaissance, strengthen missile defense in dangerous directions in order to neutralize these flights, we will have to transfer command and control points, warehouses, airfields, nothing will have to be transferred anywhere, you will just have to strengthen the missile defense system, you will have to install additional nodes, additional connections, deploy adjacent defense areas, then this is really in the category of a nuisance, but a small threat, so you think, yes, this is not a fatal threat , that is, all the more so, it will absolutely not affect the course of hostilities in any way, so the most important thing here is the political moment, the president said very precisely , we are talking about the fact that the united states of america is being drawn into this conflict to an even greater extent, in this context we must look, generally on

a geopolitical scale, because why... is this happening, such actions of the united states of america. the point is that the transition to multipolar world, when all civilizations are on equal terms, and the exchange is fair, uniform, equal, then western civilization in the form we know it today will not be able to exist. it was formed in conditions over several centuries when there was an inadequate exchange, they sucked resources from the colony , lived and prospered on this, developed science and industry, when this does not happen, it will be strong, everything will be very seriously changed, the western elites in these conditions and the current western elites may fall, and not just fall, but disappear economically, politically, and many physically, you know, i agree with everything you said, and i agree, again with the president’s very precise expressions, but the president is responsible

for the state therefore... every his statement, especially in such a sensitive area, should be balanced, it’s absolutely true, my statement, it doesn’t have to be so balanced at all, therefore , only on my personal behalf, i will say that from my point of view, we are no longer talking about just the participation of the united states in the conflict around ukraine, and we are talking about the fact that the united states is turning into a direct and immediate participant in this war. now. how should russia react to this? what should russia do in response? this is a very difficult question, because naturally , if russia does something, russia should think about what the answer might be, from my point of view, what is needed here is greater awareness, greater thoughtfulness, a great sense of responsibility, well, from my point of view,

united states indeed. they are pushing russia, as the president spoke about it the other day lukashenko, the united states is pushing russia along the path of escalation, and every time russia shows reasonable restraint, it is used in washington, not as an argument that it is possible and necessary to negotiate with such a responsible, moderate russia, but is perceived as an argument that we need to go further higher, along this... ladder of escalation, i personally don’t know at what level of this ladder, escalation, they will get hit in the teeth, but the fact is that this could happen, and if washington doesn’t stop, this will most likely happen , in this i am not i doubt it, it was a big game, we’ll see you

on the air tomorrow. hello, this is a psyche podcast and we continue to put our psychological puzzles together, no matter what they concern , today the expert of our meeting, doctor of science, family psychologist, andrey zberovsky, hello, andrey, good afternoon, father, artyom, who came to us with a request , which now confidently responds in the heart of almost every parent, let’s just say how to tear a child away from a gadget, everything is so, absolutely, but why are you going to tear a child away from gadget, i have a daughter, she’s in her eleventh year, eva, she’s a wonderful child, but 95% of her time she spends her time on the phone, on the computer, she watches endless

video hosting sites, she plays some kind of games, these games are bad plus, now in these on these internets of yours, yes, yes, well, i, yes, yes, in these in these of yours. i constantly have to control this and any other action, but my wife and i are trying to get her into a music school, get her into dancing there, into a modeling agency, she does all this, in principle it works out for her, but it’s more interesting there, yes, in this world of hers it’s more interesting, let’s figure it out , what worries you more, the fact that she’s on her phone or the content she consumes from there, worries me: what this is almost all of her free time and any other action causes resistance in her, we live in sochi , let’s go, go, go shopping at the sea, but it’s better for me to finish playing something there , watch almost any action, she

constantly wants , this is your beauty, yes, this is my beauty, after all, you didn’t answer my question, what really bothers you, the time she spends with a gadget or the content she draws from if she... sat on her phone or tablet, but at the same time, i watched some good films or some cool educational tutorials, or some i don’t know, there are films about travel that are educational, games that are educational, you would be less bothered by this educationally, probably less, but there is too much of this and there is practically nothing else , there is nothing else i would actually looked at this problem from different aspects, because in my opinion both are important, it is also important what our children do, gadgets and how much time they spend, we’ll probably start, let’s start from your scientific point of view, that today, in your opinion, at the moment the gadget or

content itself poses a great threat to the child, you need to understand that gadgetomania, which has now spread, and there is already gadgetomania, which has become relevant for the last decade, it is connected with the fact that what for ours. psyche, there has long been a proverb: it is better to see once than to hear 100 times, in this regard, video information is digestible, it is very easy for a person to perceive, especially a child, whose brain has not yet reached the working mode of an adult, in this regard, because when we read a book, when we read a word, which is a complex symbol that is unpacked in our brain, this requires certain analytical work, we need to connect the word with other words, otherwise video... content, any video content, it enters the brain very easily, it allows you to absorb it all in a relaxed mode, as they say, it’s natural, we are a little lazy people, but we get what’s easier for us, i’ll interrupt you, not

only lazy people, you know what if my colleague, an evolutionary psychologist, were to tell us now, he would immediately draw our attention to the obvious thing that moves evolution, no, not about that, not about that, look, what would an evolutionary psychologist tell us, that... to see something , look, see, collect a picture with the brain, and we understand when we look, yes, we have a variety of different parts of the brain involved, yes, some are responsible for taking information, others for comparing it, the third for completing the image, such a machine of incredible complexity was given to us by nature, god, yes, we were born with it, reading is something we learn, no, we are not born. but he wasn’t born, you know, yes, if you don’t teach him, he won’t be, that is , for a person, it’s not even that he’s lazy, it’s just

natural for him, look to hear, that’s all, you know, as you rightly say, yes, it’s not just to see the letters and that means to reduce them into a certain word, take the word, place it in some ... part of the brain that will pull out the meanings, compare them, this well, well, this is a gigantic work, why do it, when , please, everything is shown here, what you say is all very cool, there is scientific progress, i understand what comes there, i don’t want her to read there a bunch of books, i want my child to be social, so that my child communicated with parents, with dad, with mom, ate on time, happily went to classes there, and plus she spends 2-3 hours there working on gadgets, all the time there, all the time the gadget was stolen from you by a child, well, this is gadget mania, yes, which we they said, but let’s take the second side , on the one hand, it is easier for a child’s brain to perceive video information than to read books, on the other hand, you need to understand that

the creators of these video games, entire video worlds , entire video universes, yes, game universes, there are also specialists, psychologists, very good level, which of course models a person’s emotions, because the main specificity, so to speak, of such gadgetomania is that the child is emotionally involved in the game, he receives those emotions that in ordinary life, even with very warm parental relationships, are for the child. in the family, he won’t get how super-bright these colors are, yes, super-emotional, and that’s why we now have a very good, in fact, topic, because millions of parents are faced with what artyom will face, because with ordinary instruments, that is, musical school, and then drawing, you can’t take a walk in the park in the evening, with a child, from a gadget, from playing , because you won’t give these emotions, so

i want to say right away, yes, as a practicing psychologist. that in this situation, if the child has really been hooked on emotional dependence on the game for years, has become such a gaming addict, let ’s be honest, the same centers of the brain are involved, this addiction is located on the gadget, exactly there where is the addiction to alcohol, sweets or drugs, and the endorphin center of dependence, they in this case, that is, you as a dad, with the full support of your wife, you must offer the child something that will be acutely emotional for him, which can be an alternative to the emotions that the game gives, in this situation i will give well, such a recent kay, doctor, what about him, i can’t even imagine what he should do to make it comparable in such a volume, you know, she always has a gadget at hand, and there’s this flurry of emotions, he in huge quantities in bottomless, what is this dad must do, that is, every day he must arrange some kind of quests and adventures, so that she - you said, you already said one, one wonderful word that we use in practice, so i

will give you several cases this year, let’s say, yes, in one situation, there is a child, also a girl, a little older than your daughter, we suggested that dad and mom began to actively attend quests, that is, this story is now developed in almost any city, quests are now fortunately this is already an inexpensive story, that is, they started systematically, every weekend, attracting the girl’s friends, that is, to gather such a microgroup , go on... quests that give a very emotional, scary reaction, yes, because quests are most often built on such fears, and there to overcome some obstacles, well, too, i personally have questions about most of our quests, but this is a topic for another, yes, but in any case, this is the lesser evil, but in a situation when the child has already started studying, when the child the emotional sphere went, because again here artyom correctly said that getting addicted to gadgets gives a negative , aggressive... reaction of a child to being distracted from the game, because the child simply

begins to get irritated, begins to conflict, moves away from his parents, drug withdrawal, a completely pure endorphin withdrawal, which already becomes so adrenaline , aggressive, in this situation, let it be a quest, i have her in conflict, yeah , that is, she needs to have a conflict there with her mother, she was like that or became in the procession, she was, but she’s getting bigger, she’s becoming more, she’s in conflict with their peers quite often. and i understood why she needs emotion, she needs a strong emotion there, to be pushed there, somehow, that’s what she needs, yes, to get endorphin, she lacks these emotions in normal life, she needs conflict, that’s why artyom, standard, standard techniques, like dancing, singing, something else, you won’t solve the issue, you need to give the child alternative emotions that are manageable, yes legal, creating problems for her life, but just emotion, regular

weekend trips days on a bike, but not here to ride around the district, and 50, 100 kilometers, these are, accordingly, other territories there, and with an overnight stay, somewhere there in these roadside motels, the child is scared, the child discovers the world, the child is interested, again, if he is traveling with your parents, or you can again take with you a certain number of girlfriends, friends, it’s just a sharp emotion controlled, i’ll repeat this, not a problematic emotion, but a sharp emotion, only it will allow the child to find something alternative to toys, precisely in this the problem is with parents, they go the usual way, which doesn't work. andrey, still, i’ll clarify, this needs to be done constantly , or is it like a reboot, we are saying so that our dear listeners do not be afraid of us, we are talking about a transition period, a period when we remove this very dependence temporarily, yes, and then of course we lower the speed a little and introduce the child into more systematic, normal activities, but at the stage of breaking away from the child

who is deeply immersed in play activities, this is unfortunately necessary, my wife is a super traveler, even i don’t fall into her rhythm, so i’m not all her i go on trips, and the child goes with her, this year they traveled to bukhara, tashkent , samarkant, it was all on some terrible schedule, they visited kyrgyzstan, flew in, so what’s the point, she came to the hotel and demanded the internet. veda vodka, a product of stellar group. this is a psychic podcast. my name is natalya loseva, i am a journalist, our expert, family psychologist, doctor of science, andrei sberovsky, our guest artyom tikhomirov , the father of eleven-year-old eva, we are talking about how to free a child from the captivity of gadgets, and have you tried giving your daughter to some kind of to be a sport, i once took my child

to wrestling, but here i couldn’t come to an agreement with my wife, because she said that after all, it’s a girl and wrestling isn’t exactly good. and the girl liked it, it was interesting, my girl likes boys since kindergarten, and thank god, she was happy for you, and there were so many boys, she of course liked it, she liked it there, well, as if it wasn’t a section, i mean like some kind of section, it was a school of soviet training, classical wrestling, well unfortunately, my wife and i couldn’t come to an agreement, but if you now, so to speak , from the podium of the first... channel say that natasha, the child should be sent to the wrestling section, then perhaps she will listen, no, well, not necessarily to wrestling , well, listen, it seems to me that all three of you need to agree, especially since when the child is 11 years old, i already think that her voice can be taken into account, of course, and most importantly, the struggle is precisely that highly emotional activity, precisely the presence, if you

even say that the child has there is a certain conflict there, a certain demand for something so sharp around her, then she should get it, without getting it in such a legal, useful mode, in the same sport, highly emotional, but from work experience, let’s say mine, again, i advise in such cases, not just sports, sports where there is a team, volleyball, basketball, football, that is, where there is also the energy of conflict, because any group activity is a conflict, in this case the child will just get, he will get those the most emotions that a child may not make it - well, in real life, if he is so highly emotional , so this is the thesis that our dear listeners should hear, that alternative emotional activity is needed, each child can have it individually, yes, that is, we need to understand, for some, some kind of panda park where there are climbing frames or a climbing wall will give this very emotion and distract them from the game , for others something more sporty or more educational, by the way, in this situation, that’s

when you described that your wife's daughter i went on a very interesting trip, maybe it was n’t worked out in the situation that i could read the history of these countries and cities with my daughter. i’ll get there, yes, accordingly, looking at something is educational, and maybe in a real trip it would be included in just those very educational materials, the next topic that i would like to discuss with you, if little by little, is what is called cultivating showing child, i understand that this work, well, almost titanic, will sometimes seem in vain, you know, artyl is wasted work, yes, this can also happen, but this is a path that, in my opinion , makes sense to take, especially since the children are adults. try to come to an agreement, yes, say, listen, look, let’s look at this, look at this, look what i found, i found look what a cool quest on the phone that improves physics, especially since there are probably such toys now quite a lot, i’ll tell you your thesis in unison, because here it’s important not just

to go with your child to some educational topic, i recommend that parents still try to determine a possible profession and self-realization: a child, i emphasize, at your child’s age, of course, we can make a mistake, the child ’s interests and goals may change five more times, but nevertheless, if we even preliminarily outline some kind of goal, then with the child, look for some kind of educational programs on the same internet there, accordingly, tying it to the task that you want to become great there - a businessman or a chemist or a physicist there or whatever something else, let's look at materials that will be useful to you, and this will be reflected naturally , positively and... on grades at school, then we will interest the child better than just as parents say, well, look at something educational, there, well, look , there are so many interesting things, it’s just that the child doesn’t yet have a request for something simple, he wants to have a practical aspect, so if we add to the cognitive programs the child’s target task, his game of profession, we show

the usefulness of gaining additional knowledge for something and it is desirable that this the goal was probably closer, yes, that is , it will never be useful to you in 10 years, but will it be useful to you this year? she has been attending programming with us for two years now. do you know what one of the most prestigious creative professions is called game designer? these are people who come up with scenarios and plots, plots of games, game scripts, so maybe it really is now in your specific one, i’m not saying that for everyone, friends, this is not for everyone, in your specific one, that is, i can relax, child on the right track, no problem, that i don’t see the child, i will have her. no, you’re cringing now, look, to become a game designer, what do you need to do , you need to read, you need to read a lot of classical literature, you need to study, perhaps, mathematics, physics, chemistry, because you don’t just have to come up with some... then the script, and you must understand, for example, the action

takes place on the moon, and how on your moon an object will come into contact with the surface of the moon, with what force, in fact, artyom, in your case, if really your child has such a creative imagination, plus the child went to programming, you can actually say, child, you can be a successful person, earn good money, but in this case, let’s look at these games without getting emotionally involved, treat it like as an expert, look at the game, what can you take from it to create your own game , create your own virtual world, in this case, if you start with a child, talk about it, daughter, what kind of world would you come up with, let’s come up with a set plots, a set of characters, what kind of characters they will have, what they will overcome, if you teach your child to write down his thoughts, you can create such a mini, family laboratory to discuss some new scenarios, new moves, maybe this will gradually captivate your child and we

then we will really get a bright , successful specialist in creating these very gaming realities, and we will solve all your problems, and the child will receive a prestigious profession in the future, will master those subjects at school that will be important for this, that’s it it’s actually a very good, correct script, yes it’s god that it should be like this, but she doesn’t watch the content from me, so you can kind of say that thomas is there. i don’t know what we watched, there are the adventures of petrov in vasechkina, she watches the same bloggers , narrow-minded, who are now overwhelmed with everything, and accordingly, she copies them, but i don’t know how to attract her, let’s watch a movie with you there , timur and his team are there, she’s not interested, there’s one more important point i wanted to discuss with a psychologist, the only way to control my child now is or, as in... a gadget, as a punishment, accordingly, turn off the internet there, we have no other way, and of course we use it, that is, we did our homework, turned on

the internet, got a bad mark, there will be no internet there today, we come to the theater at a beautiful ice show there, where we're watching a circus, the child just falls asleep in the fifteenth, second, third minute, that's it, she wakes up when everyone is clapping and that's it, that 's it, because you described the picture when the child is already... that's it receiving those emotions, he does not fall asleep there, because it is no longer competes, yes, real life cannot compete with cannot, unfortunately, that’s what we said right at the beginning of our conversation, that parents’ attempts, so reasonable and beautiful, to distract them with something standard that distracted them in childhood no longer works, so artyom in this case i advise, you can still say, child , let’s have some kind of transitional period or such a transitional type of activity, so you played a game there, spend 15 minutes or half an hour there to tell me and my mother about

what did you play there, what alternatives are possible, what would you do differently in this game , we are trying to verbalize this game, we are trying to make it more intellectual, in fact, your child is probably developing, andrey, she really wants to copy these bloggers, she repeats, i say, let’s shoot beautifully , mom will support the light, i’ll support the camera, we’ll do everything beautifully, let’s see what kind of background we have, so let’s create it somehow, write a script, she tells her mom, i say, i'm ready to help, let's do it with pleasure, we are ready to participate, we filmed something there, the fact that she categorically refuses our participation, why is it that she is the content that she produces, that is, she also makes some kind of content, yes, well, like everyone else, schoolchildren, she makes content, but what’s there, what’s good, what’s interesting, what happened, what? “i’m glad that he does this action, that she not only absorbs, but tries to give something to this world, i really like that she is

these heroes, games, these videos, cartoons, she draws them, i like that he draws only these characters and no others , she did it well, well, well, draw the same characters for two years, you told her that, and did you ever say that you like what he draws, moreover, he draws these characters much better than she went to art school for 2 years, she liked them more, and you again suggested telling the child, here you are doing some kind of activity, let’s do it we will do this activity at a more professional level, then there, we’ll call a good stylist there, we can find you an interesting design for your clothes, we can hire an animator who will animate your drawings and try to make it, here was, excuse me, was there a photograph? well , here’s the first photo, my wife is engaged in photography, at first as an amateur, now she’s growing up, she photographs it,

getting the child to take photos with micaps means in the studio. but it also needs to be said there that you won’t go depriving the internet, well, how do i, how do i give birth, yes, well, there’s a very important nuance here, man torment her, but return your passport, there is a very important nuance, if you tried at least once or twice to slightly professionalize what she films, try to raise the quality of this content, at the expense of other people there, and at the expense of specialists, show your child what you are watching, then why are you filming yourself and getting 500 views? and what we did with the involvement of a professional gave immediately there 1,500 or there 5,500, or maybe then, maybe here, likes are the main currency for her, if you and your wife come up with it now, that’s for real no fools, how to monetize her content, this is where she will become your ally, these were the attempts on your part, have you tried them? yes, and how? here again, when there was

a noticeable increase in content, i myself am partly involved in journalism when we started. in these experiments with the internet, with youtube, the first thing my daughter did was she destroyed, she had access to my youtube channel, she erased all my videos, from which there were 100-200 thousand, a small aggressor, and for me too , that is, well, i didn’t even hit her, but the fact that the shock went away from it, you it just doesn’t seem to me that they didn’t realize, that is , everything that he himself is like a video. competitor, you know, just erased, in the literal sense, she said, i thought, dad , you don’t need this video anymore, this is a psychic podcast, my name is natalya loseveva, i’m a journalist, our expert, family psychologist, doctor of sciences, andrei sberovsky is our guest artyom tikhomirov, father

of eleven-year-old eva, we talk about how to free a child from the captivity of gadgets. artyoma, look, now your child undoubtedly has some group of those bloggers who she follows, who she follows, who authority for her, in this situation, you are like an adult smart dad, your wife, you can contact one of these bloggers, you know, my daughter is a fan, she draws well there, she understands something quite well there this story, perhaps you need some kind of assistant there, yes, it’s possible , a person there who will be useful for you, as a respected blogger, can you write to my daughter or call my daughter, in fact, especially through dad , through mom or directly to her, if you she has such an understandable nickname on social networks there or somewhere else, and say , listen, girl, let’s do this there , or this is what i did here on a more professional level with your participation, it ’s rated, it’s

it is more interesting, accordingly, now there is direct contact, that is, you are like father and mother, unfortunately , let’s be honest, the child is apparently not 11 years old, this is normal, that now for her some bloggers close in age are showing such fantasy life in general, yes, it is clear that they are much more enjoy authority than close, significant relatives, we can involve them, we can involve them in the pedagogical process, we can make them your ally in this case, that is, my advice is not to go into such a counter ... entry and frontal, conflict, which will only push you away, because the model is either turned on the internet or turned off, this model is a dead end, unfortunately, it can work, but for a limited time, until adolescence, at 14-15 years old, your daughter will just, well, have secretly from you, the second phone, as if it will not take you into account at all, so find some kind of expert, and a benevolent, adequate one from this internet world, try to involve her in

some kind of activity, that is, let's try to find everything -an ally. because for psychology the most important thing is to find an ally in communication with a child, try this resource , like this, but how will it free up the girl’s time from the gadget, because this is another problem that the girl spends almost all her waking time on the phone or tablet, but if we make this communication and spending time manageable , if we attach practical benefits to this, when the child will not just waste time, but learn... something that will help him in his studies, will allow him to get a profession, the child, again, when an experienced, say, blogger says, child, and i’ll tell you right away, if you play there for more than two or three hours, you will lose your eyesight, you will lose your other communication skills, and simpler ones. , that is, we need authority, but if i understand you correctly, then the strategy

is something like this, in order to free a child from the captivity of this thoughtless and gadget pastime and from this black... it is necessary, that is, we are looking for something to cling to, where is our resource, the resource is we have the fact that she doesn’t just watch, she’s still smart and well done, she produces her own content, and this is a hook for you and me now, we need to grab onto it, yes, and we need to pull this thread, maybe then the strategy is like this , what are we saying, dear, you are doing great, truly the world gadgets of this internet content - this is your world , you are great at doing digital things, but you need it, then either artyom and his wife, or as you say, one of these allies tells her, listen, you live in sochi, maybe you can make a series of mini-videos about your extreme parks? so we did this and what do i like, but she doesn’t like what she does, then listen to what andrey says, let him praise her, let

him praise her for this content, here, here i am actually, i would like to use the platform of the first channel and contact bloggers, dear bloggers, who are engaged in children's content, please, somehow contact me, because i need a child... so that you say that she is great and that she is more i spent time in the family, and not on these internets of yours, not only in the family, but i did something, i did something out of mentality, including, and by the way, arttyom, in this case, here’s some more advice, we know that in many cities there are certain grant programs when a child who, let’s say, he’s filming some kind of content about his hometown, he can also get money for it, i emphasize, i immediately understand that the competition in this field is very strong, it can be very difficult to actually get through to these grants. but again, i know examples of parents who acted out such a miniature, and such a micro-scene, the child said , let’s apply, we actually applied, didn’t win anything, but the parents tell the child, listen, but you won, that is, we are deceiving the child a little , we manipulate in

the good sense of the word, we say that uh we were allocated a certain budget, this is your budget, the parents’ budget, this is some 5-10,000 conventionally, that is, we are not talking about millions, and we say, here we have a task, we have a technical task that we must implement, from some strangers, but of course it’s cool for you to compete, your mom is a professional photographer, your dad is a journalist, well , of course, with such a team you will do better, that is, it must understand through some other people that it's not like mom and dad edifying ones are running on the grid, which means they are flapping their wings that the gadget stole our child, and dad and mom are allies, allies, in this case the child increases his authority, he feels responsible, because leadership is responsibility, and i repeat to us, too the most important element is practice

-oriented, that is, if we find orientation in real life to what a child does in a gadget, if we pull it from the internet, from virtuality into reality, in this reality it is monetized with real money or real praise, then this is that new emotional dependence, but it is correct, because it does not push the child out of reality, but on the contrary , returns it to this reality. everything you said, thank you so much, i hope that this program will serve as a lesson for her so that she takes my mother and me into her team of bloggers or developers, it doesn’t matter, but the most important thing i would like to say is, here’s andrey, i have two children, i have an eldest daughter who is already 23 years old and... growing up very quickly, that’s all we are here we say, it’s cool, you can make money there, get a grant, do it there, a cool project on youtube, well, i already understand that i want to be a dad, to be with my little

daughter, who is already 11 years old, who in 5 years will already be an adult as a person, i wouldn’t, no, well, too, i just really want to receive this daughter’s love and give my parental love to her, because the time of childhood is very short, artyom, but there’s only one way? forms of interaction, this is actually what this parental feeling of closeness with the child will give you, by the way, i continue your request in this case and to our listeners, including bloggers, i want to say one more side to this problem that you described, the fact is that, unfortunately, many bloggers, including young bloggers, adults... they create among children , among those who consume their content, among teenagers, the illusion that it is easy, they do not tell that in fact they have screenwriters, professional videographers, that those girls and little ones, a minute takes hours,

in fact, and the most important thing is that the very girls and boys who seem successful and independent to our modern teenagers are actually worth the mothers and fathers who invest in them, and that this is actually an illusion, because many children do not understand this, they buy into the illusion that i... bah, i got millions of views there simply because i successfully held the camera in my hands there. this is not so, so let our dear bloggers, realizing that they create huge problems in families, they create huge... problems for children, because many children are sincerely upset that they can’t do something, this creates huge psychological trauma for them, often, even if they still convey that any successful project, blogging, teenage blogger, children's blogger - this is a collective work and then children like your daughter, millions of them, will understand and will be interested in the help of their parents, and then you, as a dad, will get your parental feeling, and interaction with the child, and the child will know, that dad and mom not... who take away your phone,

allies who will help you move forward in this world, this is a very important nuance. andrey, look, in the end, you can’t just give up and seem to be hostage to technology and say, well , let’s go to some bloggers, here we’ll dance and here we’ll make an offer, but in the end, yes the moment is coming to punish, invent the internet, no, maybe not even to punish, he just speaks like a father, you know that dear, i... after all, i’ve been living for a long time, i’ve seen a lot of things, i’m telling you now, it’s not useful, it’s harmful to you, all 2 hours a day, eva, we agreed, 2 hours a day, that’s all, i said, you’ll grow up, you’ll understand, excuse me, 2 hours a day, that’s not to prohibit, this is a compromise, we are still obliged to give the child an alternative, because we live in a world of high emotions, and the internet and games only warm up the emotional background, and without giving the child something that will be brightly exciting for him, but... we simply

cannot overcome this history with bans. in this case, i have three girls, yes, three daughters, that’s just the middle one my daughter is 12, she is also naturally passionate about various games, we have a very simple scheme : if a child gets bad grades there, then cs or, god forbid, ds, then of course she sits without her phone and the weekend, there the next week, if the child gets good grades for a week, then we give, accordingly we expand the window of play, and communication on social networks there or games , and our child is motivated, this balance between study, behavior and play has been adjusted in this way and it is very very simple to learn, you need make time in order to learn, accordingly, this is the time, the child voluntarily then removes himself from the gadget in the program, or are you afraid that there will be a conflict and scandal when you ban? i ’m not afraid, this is the only method of control, there’s just no other, you can’t come to an agreement with her, but i emphasize, like through those windows.

time, when there is a week or days , many, maybe several weeks, when the child is without play, without phones, without social networks, it doesn’t matter, we must find that form of activity, emotional, that the child will allow you to get something, well, i think that this path is ahead of almost every parent, modern, modern, because really now there is a struggle for our children between parents and gadgets, we should not. parents and of course, only understanding the psychology of the child, understanding the world of teenagers, will help parents succeed in this story, thank you very much for the advice, it was a podcast psychics, psychologist, doctor of science androvsky, our guest dad artyom, talked about how to snatch a child

gadget addiction. greetings, friends, this is a podcast chronicling the end of times, my name is evgeniy dodolev and today i will tell you about how, at my suggestion, changes were made to the administrative code of the soviet union. this happened completely by accident. at some point i was unemployed, but it was impossible to be unemployed in the soviet union. there was a norm in the criminal code, in my opinion article 209, according to which tunyatsev , that is, people who were not registered and did not work anywhere, could be imprisoned, and i am a mathematician by education, and my friend worked in a newspaper moskovsky komsomolets, was the host of the famous soundtrack section, and he told me, well, why are you even bothering about work, you write something there anyway, and

we all... wrote poetry there and some pseudo-scenes and i got a job at a newspaper, uh, i received this moscow komsomolets certificate, and since i was not burdened , firstly, with a specialized education, i repeat, i am a mathematician by education, and secondly, i was completely unaware of any existing taboos or prohibitions, i became just like an akyn who sings about what he sees, i began to write that's about what was interesting to me personally. no one actually gave me any tasks, because the only thing there, i don’t know how it is now, was to give out a certain number of lines, and so - i surprised my colleague all the time, i said, let’s interview galina breshneva, everything is so, wow , like galina leonidovna herself, the soviet princess, daughter of the former general secretary, i didn’t understand what the actual problem was, why you couldn’t try

to interview someone, and now, in fact, we are approaching, that’s the moment that, well, in my journalistic biography it became, to a certain extent, a turning point. and for - thousands of thousands of women employed in the body trade industry, especially since we are talking about prostitutes already, or rather about the now forgotten word putana, this word was used to call currency prostitutes, that is, those girls who worked with foreigners, prostitution was not prohibited, because that officially it simply did not exist, there was no such shameful phenomenon of a capitalist society in the country, that the country was socialist in moscow, well, if we are talking about the disadvantages the soviet system was very bad with public catering , it was pennies, very cheap, but let’s say you could drink good italian coffee, well, in three or four places in

moscow, foreign currency, and uh, it just coincided that next to the editorial office of the moscow komsomolets on the street in 1905, it is still there to this day next to the building in which it was in the mid-eighties, and we are now talking about the year 1986, so there was a so-called kontik, this is what is now called the international trade center, in my opinion, the hotel is international, then it was called a hotel, and there you could drink coffee, real coffee, the entrance there was closed, to mere mortals, as in foreign exchange places, but not for journalists, i and my former classmate, also a mathematician, went there to drink coffee, in this kind of place the atrium existed in this contik, at any time of the day, right from the morning until late in the evening, there sat girls who could not help but

attract attention, well, because well, due to the presentation, neckline, short skirts, naturally, there would be it’s just insulting, i think attitude towards girls in general, if they had not tried to enter into communication with them, and how to get to know them, they quickly explained to us that if there is currency, no at all, no questions, right there, right there, in general, you can get to know each other, as closely as you like, the girls and i became friends, they turned out to be, in general, for the most part, of such a cheerful disposition, and since i will repeat myself, i usually wrote about what was interesting to me, but this phenomenon interested me, i decided to write an essay, sketched it out, took it to secretariat, well, i heard from the executive secretary there the question is rhetorical, are you crazy, well, let’s just say it sounded different, but the message was like this

, well, i was crazy, i was crazy, in general, i didn’t take the material, the paper was government-issued, i went to work on something there something else, but somehow the secretariat and the senior comrades, not so much senior in age as in rank, in the secretariat did something clever with this material, and it came out, the material was called night hunters, although initially was called moths, and there was a huge code like this, then there is from the editors, this is where it starts, from the editors, it takes up, well, a quarter of the material there, and there is so much in this: the material, they said that words like that cannot be uttered, and there about such a shameful thing, then boom there’s just a combination of letters prostitute, that is, the word cannot be pronounced, but it was said, because as i understand it, a huge number of people ruled there, this

material, that is, it went through the authorities, someone generally called a spade a spade, this material came out, the next day, when i arrived at the editorial office, literally the editor-in-chief invited me for half an hour, i came to his office, to pasha , of course no one called him pasha to his face, everyone was behind pavel nikolaevich, but they called him pasha behind his back, so there were two people sitting with pasha, people in civilian clothes, so what was he chewing on? having added, well, again, he didn’t say exactly that, but that’s the point , that was the question, portraying such a kind of anger, severity and... that’s dissatisfaction, but from such cheerful sparkles in his eyes, i realized that not everything is so bad , that no one will take me to the lubyanka now, in general, these were two officer yes, the lords, colonel, as they introduced themselves, they said that it was a very interesting article, but you are very right

, however, there are nuances, the fact is that they did not care about the security officers at all, this whole moral, moral side, uh, and they were very interested a purely utilitarian aspect, they were from the department who were fighting against the illegal circulation of currency, the currency could not be stored, owned, or used, they said that they were completely fed up with the situation with the circulation of currency, that they were being asked what to fight it is necessary, there is a whole cohort of these prostitutes who take this currency, wrap it up, therefore, and something needs to be done with it , they said that they will help, firstly, they will introduce me to girls who will tell me what i cannot hear from them, while drinking coffee in the atrium, they knew by the way that

peetya and i often, uh, visit there, there is an important nuance that in these hotels, such as the national, on gorkov street, nishny tverskaya, kontik, continental and in all these other institutions, there for a position the doormen, the people who stood at the so -called gates, were hired exclusively from veterans. security forces, that is, people from the special services, this is no less , a police chief, there must have been a person in his previous life, well, or a state security captain, no less, well, of course there are no retirees, they naturally continued to cooperate with their like -the departments reported something there, as it turned out, as it turned out, and from this conversation, they said that they would present the so-called

the invoice, and the invoice by the way was impressive, they brought, let’s say there telephone bills , girls who were in development, there telephone bills, let’s say they were 3,000 to 2,000 rubles per month, the salary of an engineer there was 120 rubles, 150, there the editor-in-chief of a magazine or newspaper received 250, but here just for... negotiations , well, it’s clear that international with clients, that is, it made an impression on me, absolutely, when i looked at these printouts there, i was like wow, it’s interesting, we’ll work, we’ve arranged it so they are giving me a date, it’s just in the national with the girls who were told that they needed to talk to the zhurik, this is an offer they couldn’t refuse, i didn’t ask questions, why

the hell are they being frank with me , this happened in no place, not in the lobby, not in the unit, just in a hotel room, because in every hotel there were these types of recruiting - such - apartments, not apartments, points - with listening equipment, and so on, by the way, a little, to the side i later... after after the moscow komsovo member soon moved to the first private soviet newspaper, which was created by yulian semyonovich semenov, it was called top secret, i was the first full-time employee of sofsec, here is our editorial office, the so-called headquarters, as yulik called it, yulian semyonovich, it was located on kalinin street , on kalinin avenue, now novy arbat, in the building where the melodiya store was on the ground floor, just one of the recruiting apartments, that is, the apartments where prostitutes worked, where