the introduction of new technologies, that is, everyone is still wary of this, well, this is our future, and this future is already much closer than it sometimes seems. moscow, pavelsky station, the patrol service employees sounded an alarm, smart facial recognition cameras recorded a suspicious man, literally in a few seconds and his photo was already on the tablet. the system automatically records what passes by the cameras and compares it with a database of wanted persons or persons of operational interest. in this in this case, the system produced a 97% match that the young man who passed by fit the description of the wanted person. over the 3 years of operation of the system, it was possible to detain more than 9,000 people on the federal wanted list. often, attackers try to deceive artificial intelligence, for example, by hiding their face under a medical mask, but this will not help. regardless of which part of the face

is hidden, the smart system will still be able to identify this person from the remaining part of the face, thanks to the unique biometric formula of a given person. all the victims were found in a forest plantation without clothes, the only method of murder was strangulation, it was already clear that the crime was being committed by one person. the lipetsk strangler kept the entire region in fear, the murders began in ninety-eight, and stopped only in 2005. uryvaev is one of those, this case says, the criminal came to the attention of law enforcement officers several times, but there was no direct evidence. perhaps the serial killer would have remained free if not for molecular genetic testing, which proved that the dna samples on the victims’ bodies completely matched the suspect’s gene. today, we identify the biomaterial of a criminal seized from the crime scene by twenty-one loci, that is, by a certain characteristic that allows us to identify a biological trace, to identify it specifically.

person to compare it with data stored in the federal database of genomic information. the database of genomic information is constantly updated. this year they began to include all convicts, as well as those who are undergoing in a criminal case as suspects. from 2025, those who are subject to administrative arrest will be added, no matter how new technologies develop. the main thing in this story continues to be people who selflessly do their work. and to make it comfortable, they are created. conditions, and today, in honor of the holiday , a new building of the police department was opened in moscow, modern and equipped, as they say, to the last word. alina sanoeva, liliya zorina, sergey burkeev, vyacheslav vasakov, larisa nikitina, channel one. in donetsk until at the end of the year, a new perinatal center will open, equipped with the latest technology. this was announced today by deputy prime minister marat khusnulin, who came to the donetsk people's republic to monitor how the work is progressing. in addition to the capital of the republic, the deputy head of government. makeyevka,

a hospital there will be put in order, and also in mariupol. marat khusnulin inspected the new complex of the federal medical and biological agency, an area of ​​33,000 km, a world-class clinic, and the deputy prime minister stopped by another large hospital. the intensive care hospital, the largest in mariupol, where mostly residents go, scheduled repairs are underway, the good news is that unique equipment has arrived, this is a tomograph, repairs are also underway at the same time , and in parallel we have agreed on a schedule that by the end of this year the main volume of work with repairs and installation of equipment will be completed. in addition, marat khusnulin visited one of the microdistricts of mariupol, checked how residential buildings were being restored and also held a meeting with representatives local authorities. the main issue is preparation for winter. presidential grants are a development opportunity for programs that help people in a variety of areas. medicine. charity, rehabilitation,

behind every project there are caring people who are ready to help others. the importance of the work of non-profit organizations was discussed today at a meeting of the coordinating committee, which holds competitions for the presentation of presidential grants. thousands of applications are submitted, it is necessary to decide which projects people need most. our correspondent, alexander lyakin met with the developers of such programs and those they help. i don't like it from anyone. colfolo. eleven-year-old petya is learning to hold his back in the saddle; this is not only posture, but also coordination of movement. and most importantly, he imparts confidence and calmness to the horse. i love maba very much, my mother is very good, it’s only been 3 days, but the child is already different, so happy, everything is so good. hippotherapy is only part of a comprehensive rehabilitation program for children with developmental disabilities called circle trust. new opportunities, this project was included

in the top 100 recipients of presidential grants. there is such an atmosphere here, everyone is so kind, everyone is so sweet, delight, it’s just , to be honest, it’s very difficult to find words. all classes are free. what else was very surprising for us, i didn’t know, and firstly, that a lot of attention is paid to the parent, so i just came out of an hour and a half individual psychological session, classes, worries, endless visits to doctors, it takes up all my free time, over the years, parents themselves begin to need help and support. children very often are not aware of their condition, let’s just say, yes, parents are in this atmosphere 24 hours, 7 days a week, and so they need to be helped, they need to be pulled out. from this state, that’s when we came up with the idea of ​​a family rehabilitation center. we have now covered 17 regions of our country. our classes are aimed at parents and children, with a psychologist, classes in dance-dynamic therapy, master classes, excursions are planned

according to their program. medicine, social projects, health care, motherhood and childhood, science, patriotic education, currently 3,349 projects are participating in the grant program. as a result of the work of the presidential grants fund, more than 40,000 projects have already started with a total budget of 125 billion rubles. positive changes have affected the lives of 15 million of our fellow citizens, and there are cases when the beneficiary is a saved life, when emergency medical care is provided, where it is really very difficult to provide, especially as you know, this was associated with projects that are being implemented in our new regions, history... about this the girl is leafing through the medical atlas, she is not only studying to become a doctor, but she has experienced several surgical interventions herself after being injured in donetsk, from the arrival of ukrainian hail. i have a wound on the entire left side of my body, a direct shrapnel wound to the eye, accu-trauma, that is, when my membranes flew out, i didn’t hear anything, but

burns in the first second degree, what else do i have, well, you know, shrapnel, well, in the hundreds osolkov, yes, multiple transplants, like my left eye still cannot see in my skin, both artificial and today she is in moscow with the support of the fair help fund of dr. lisa, her eyeball and cornea are being restored so as not to have to go to doctors from donetsk, she was offered to transfer to a moscow university, but darina refused to be cut off, she gathered in donetsk, this is home, homeland, there are parents, family, she doesn’t want to go over for anything, here are children from donetsk, lugansk and other cities of donbass, the fair aid fund dr. eliza received a grant to work with those who needs support. in the new territories of russia, these are disabled people, pensioners, and low-income people. they have a very difficult situation today due to the fact that these are front-line territories, and people do not yet have a sense of stability and 100% security. and we, here are part of this

security, we are the russia that comes there with love, with care, with protection, even if we are small fragments of it, but russia, it is made up of small fragments. nonprofit organizations often respond faster and use money more more effective than with direct budget financing. those who believe that charitable organizations are a kind of patching up of holes that were formed due to allegedly incorrect actions of the state, this is absolutely not true. charitable organizations are a quick response to emerging situations that require help. today the results of the work for the past year were summed up, well, for the first grant competition of next year with more than 10,500 applications, the winners of the program will be announced in january. alexander lyakin, valery kuznetsov, olga gerasimenko, darya rabakova, yuri yarchenko, channel one. the international forum of victory volunteers began work in nizhny novgorod. 200 people came from different

regions of russia and from other countries, south korea, jordan, kazakhstan, and moldova. preserving the historical memory of the exploits of heroes, helping war veterans, caring for military monuments and other tasks. everything is centered on this. form and more details about this important mission in the report by lyubov filipova. you look great, handsome. ena, dear, lord, so many worries, even in my soul everything is bubbling. each of elena sashchikova’s wards becomes family, she is a victory volunteer, and so with a bag of groceries on her shoulder she comes to pensioners, to the disabled, for example, to needy large families, despite the fact that the all-russian movement has a long to-do list, victory volunteers improve memorial sites and military graves, conduct memory lessons, the immortal regiment throughout the country, and of course, takes care of veterans, evgeniy ivanovich makarov, served as a maternity nurse, celebrated victory in berlin, i’m proud of you, you see

great work so that there is peace on earth , the veteran volunteer himself is thanked standing , thank you, at the international forum of victory volunteers in nishny novgorod , two hundred participants from all regions of the country are making plans for the eightieth anniversary of the victory and developing new formats. i saw what was happening at home, how our military conflict began, and i wanted, of course, to figure out the truth and i wanted to tell this truth, we must come and tell, not as teachers at school, but as their friends, first of all, we are under shelling and veterans were congratulated on 9 may we visited everyone, we have an amazingly simple team , volunteers from all over the country help new regions, sergey mikheev came there from murmansk several times to conduct classes... with children and not only, we are going for a specific task, but despite this we get carried away in

everything that is possible, because educational organizations there do not work on saturday and sunday, but at that time we helped the mariupol hospital in delivering food from the catering unit to the department, it was in donbass that i donated blood for the first time and joined the donor movement, we are in one of the headquarters of the victory volunteers, work is always in full swing here, right now, for example, they are simultaneously collecting parcels to be sent to the special operation zone and here they are packing food packages for those in need, which will be distributed around the city, here is pasta, cereals, something tasty for tea, in general, exactly what those who call the hotline ask for, and calls are received right here, there are dozens of them, every day pensioners usually call, asking for medicine, well, to take them to the clinic, today what is there interesting, girls, for example, a veteran of the great patriotic war came to us, she needs household help, it ’s as simple as washing the windows, wiping the dust, taking out... the garbage, but in general we provide help to everyone who needs it, these are people with with disabilities, these

are the families of our mobilized citizens, participants in a special military operation and, of course , elderly citizens who are most vulnerable now, we provide assistance to everyone, however, sometimes it is important not only to tidy up the apartment, but just to talk, it’s your birthday soon, we’ll sit with you and drink tea, yes , the forum shares the best practices, a unique project of the nizhny novgorod region, graffiti with portraits of veterans of the great patriotic war, we also want participants to appear here, and also there are victory volunteers from south korea, jordan or india, irina bajazh’s grandfather was a participant in the great patriotic war, he is from irkutsk. i grew up hearing stories about world war ii from my parents, so even though i live in india, i've always been drawn to learning about russian history, in 2021 i saw a group of volunteers on social networks and joined them. the youngest forum participant, david, is only six months old.

and he and i have already gone to see the veteran, we have already held events with him, if some stories like this are properly instilled in the family, and this is very good, and i think that then he will grow up to be a worthy citizen of our country, he will honor, he will remember , will know, he will probably be able to become a victory volunteer himself, now there are already about 700,000 of them all over the world, lyubovpova, roman serebrennikov, channel one nizhny novgorod. at the exhibition there is a forum of russian dna, today is the day of the sakhalin and amur regions. an excellent opportunity to learn more about these two far eastern regions. the new cosmodrome is the calling card of the amur region, and the sakhalin region impresses with its tourism potential. our correspondent, anna kurbatova, was convinced of this. she worked at the forum today. the amur region is a big trade area, and in general a cosmodrome, of course. cosmodrome. eastern cosmodrome, we say amur region, we mean cosmodrome

eastern, so it is not surprising that the journey to the region begins from there, the landmark in the pavilion is a model of the angara rocket, you can’t pass by, here they say that they are launching it in the amur region, many of its parts are made in omsk, and they also invite you to visit inside, this it’s as if we’re flying, they show it like it’s there in the sky, you see how a rocket flies and even launches it into space, the mountain is unique in that it can be arranged depending on how the load is planned for launch into orbit, different things can be arranged accordingly the number of stages that will allow different different masses to be launched, a full-fledged rocket should fly in our country in the twenty-fourth year, that is, you can visit here a little in the future, of course, just like that, start it up, move it to launch the rockets, press, let's go, let's go, i i invite you to the amur region, you will see all this, well, maybe they won’t let you press the button directly, but you will be able to touch all this with your own hands, it will be amazing. i invite you, thank you very much, and one more event at vdnkh space wedding. alexander and alena

andreichenko, employees of vostochny , have been assembling launch vehicles together for several years, and today they exchanged rings symbolically in the cosmos pavilion. in the hands of our cosmonauts is the globe, which today belongs to our spouses. the amur region is, of course, not only a cosmodrome, which you can find out about, for example, like this, it works out great. while you are pedaling, your phone is charging on the screen. region, the longer you travel, the more you learn how electricity and water appear pass through the turbines, when the turbines are spinning, electricity, but if you know the answers to more difficult questions, for example, what is the name of a large reservoir in the region, you can win a trip to the amur region, this is probably a zeya quiz, because there is a zeya hydroelectric power station, well and of course, at the exhibition you can taste the amur region in the pavilion , the house of russian cuisine, this is wonderful amur soybean, one

of the best plant proteins, and the amur region... the leader in soybean production, very tasty, in the seventy-fifth pavilion next to stand of the amur region of sakhalin and the kuril islands, where you can literally touch the island of iturub, where white rocks, lava fields and ash, probably from a volcano, well almost, magnetic sand was brought here from the island of ituru, it contains volcanic rocks, as well as titanium , it was delivered by plane, here you can try coal candies, how do they taste? something, something fantastic , unusual, cosmic, i would say, as if you are eating a stone, putting it in your mouth, and it is sweet, so i advise you to try it, and also see the slopes of one of the most popular ski resorts in the country, dive to the bottom of the ocean, what is the most vivid impression, of course, a real crab? the present,

they caught it just before the forum, however, today the governor’s region speaks about the catch much more. we will build the largest fish processing plant in the asian-tehok region, with refrigerators and freezers nearby so that the holding of fish, holding of seafood, including crabs, will be in sokhalin, and not abroad, that is, in fact, we are now changing logistics from so that the russian federation does deeper processing and becomes a fish distribution center. sakhalin, kamchatka, primorsky krai, all at the exhibition forum russia. “we are the far east and here at vdnhalny vostok today it seems closer than ever before, in general there are many events here every day, in the pavilion with, for example, today an exposition of the ministry of health opened in the service of health, today we are proud of our healthcare, in 2000 ,

only 92" on behalf of the president , a colossal project was implemented, child care, nursing newborns, starting from 500 g, from 22 weeks, and today's infant mortality rates are the lowest in the entire... history of russia, already almost 20% lower than in the united states of america, lower than in china and many countries. the following projects are no less significant in scale. and this is just one of the days at the russia exhibition, the final chord, which is like another declaration of love for our great country. the ural mountains are my

country. i'm waiting for you in the soviet union, i was made in the ussr, i love russia, we love russia, we were born in the ussr, she is in russia, greetings from talyati, a huge country with wonderful people , with a big heart, russia, we love you, one forever, one forever, anna kurbatova, pavel likholetov, veronika ilvutchenkov, nina khorevova, ekaterina ovsyannikova, sergei nashchekin, channel one. our golden ones: russian wrestlers won four awards of the highest standard on the first day of the samba world championship; sayan khertek, elmira khakhramanova, vladimir leontiev and zagid gaitarov became champions in different weight categories. our team also has silver and bronze medals. the russians perform in a neutral status, however, not

the spectators, not the rivals, no one in the sports world has any doubt that the winners represent russia, the country that gave this sport to the world. single combat, this is probably not our last success in yerevan, the world championship will end only on sunday. hello, dear viewers, you are watching the triggers podcast, with you its hosts, tatyana krasnovskaya, psychologist, psychotherapist, psychologist of psychotherapists. visiting today is beautiful elena, let's talk about her story, hello, hello, elena, tell us what you came to us with, i came with my story on

the topic of relationships, i would like to tell you about what kind of men i meet on my way, and i very often i am faced with abusive relationships, and usually in a row, yes, that is, the first relationship ... of this format was with the father of my child, and yes, it turns out that we lived together for about a year, and as a rule they tried to change me in this relationship, i was 25 years ago we met he was older than me, everything happened in such a way that it was as if i was wrong in everything, i was younger, and thus, yes, there was some kind of suppression of me all the time, and i was always noticeable in the girl, let’s say, she wanted the principle of always being liked by others, from a very early age, from kindergarten, probably yes, i had

such a desire to be in the center of attention, and i believed that if i am next to a person, he should, on the contrary, be proud of it, what if i'm walking in some nice clothes, yes, i don't mean any provocative ones clothes, but just yes... somehow say on the topic that look, why these bright colors, you need to be more modest, yes, you need to be more modest, i didn’t understand who needed it, yes, at that moment it seemed to me ok, i will be the way you want, yes, as long as you like it, as long as nothing could separate us, let’s say, then gradually, gradually i felt that there was no longer me left. in these relationships, in principle, as an individual, that is, i already do what a person likes, yes, i do this all the time,

as he wants, and when this relationship ended, it ended with the fact that they told me that there is another, and more, let’s say, flexible, more, who does not try to be bright, tries to be what needs to be, then for the first time i i was faced with the fact that i don’t know who i really am, that is, having left this relationship, i’m basically like a white sheet, transparent, i don’t understand who i really am, leaving this relationship, plus yes , i was pregnant, but they told me that i’m sorry, so and so, he knew that he leaves you pregnant, yes, yeah, and i gave birth to a child, yes, some time passed, i basically didn’t see anyone around me, i basically didn’t even consider any relationships...’, there was a certain state of searching myself, gradually, gradually

i became interested in something, yes, i went to sports, went to the gym, that is, somehow i tried to distract myself, yes, i tried to become better, so i just wanted to be some kind of ideal, and yes, not only for myself, probably, but also in order to prove this to the world around me, in the end i enter into a relationship, talking about that no, i don’t need a relationship at all, but again, i feel something, when i get into a relationship, that a person is weaker than me, and it’s kind of easier for me, the relationship wasn’t long-term for me, yes, that is, one relationships were replaced by others and then another relationship, then subsequent ones, let's say i entered into a relationship with a person older than me, gradually, gradually, i again begin to feel this state that i am no longer there, literally 2 months after the relationship , that is, i’m trying to adjust again, i want to be perfect, i

i prepare lunches, dinners, breakfasts, and so on, and at the same time not understanding that for me, in principle, a person does nothing to somehow admire a man, i came out of this relationship, very depressed, that is, i already have there was such a...' critical moment that i realized that the relationship was, in principle, not my story, that is, maybe it’s better not worth it at all, probably, having said these words, i literally got into trouble in a few months with the same relationship, these the relationship lasted for several months, but what if we we’re talking about the last one, yes, my relationship, it lasted 9 months, before that 2 months, you lived together, we lived there for six months together, one way or another you describe all these relationships as abusive? i think yes, let’s, for our viewers, and for me, first try to sort

of agree on what an obligatory relationship is. that’s how, well, i understand that it’s very fashionable now, it’s clear that we read a lot, and you read, here you are, abusive relationships, as you describe, relationships in which, yes, in relationships in which, the line of your personal boundaries is erased, and the line of who you are is erased, very often a situation occurs that you are wrong, no, look, it’s actually not so, it seemed to you, no, i’m right. wrong, that’s where your worldview is subject to doubt, yes, yeah, and your vision of life there, of realities, is constantly criticized and doubted, right? yes, yeah, why do you agree to this, at what point does this happen? at the moment of falling in love, when it seems to you that the person completely corresponds, uh, to the image, okay, so you tried, some the time you spent on becoming

perfect, you became. ideal, or are you closer to the ideal image of yourself? good question, i think that ah, i have become better for a person, but not for myself, yeah, if it’s still for myself, len, how would you feel, if you would get some, i don’t know , there’s a diploma, a certificate, and a certificate that says that’s all, you’re perfect, how would you feel, lousy, probably, why? but because this word ideality somehow hurts the ear, yes, that is, there are no ideal people, i basically think about it i understand, and try to please, yes, again, i understand this with my head when i get out of a relationship, from these, what then turns out that the desire for this certain ideal that you describe is more like you trying to please, yes, well, these are different things, then yeah, yeah, but he’s trying.

like it, this means that your, as smarter colleagues would say, locus of control is absolutely external, and you evaluate yourself by how others evaluate you, and how long have you had this in general, in principle, this is the desire to like to others? well, basically it was from childhood and, it seems to me, it was to attract the attention of my father, please tell us about your parental family, are you one daughter? no, there are two of us? yeah, you’re older or younger, and i’m younger, yeah, and i have an older brother, i remember very well, uh, this moment when - let’s say, i started such an active life in kindergarten, i did extra work there gymnastics, my mother took me to gymnastics, then dancing for 12 years and so on , and i had one dream, connected with the fact that

i really wanted my father at least once... to be present at this event , well, at least at one, which meant for the girl lena that dad came to see, well, probably delighted, yes, that my daughter was on stage, uh, some kind of pride, it seems to me that this was really lacking then, yeah, basically, like now, but what was your father proud of, what did he admire, so you looked, this is a man who lives essentially parallel to you life, but you... you know what he loves, uh, what he does, by the way, that’s a good question again the topic of what he loves, i didn’t know what he loves, he, you deliberately praise me all the time, you, well, this is the second time you praised me for asking, well, really, because it’s a good question, or because i’m a man, no, just a good question, and how do you know if it's a good question or not, which i like, so, let's talk

about it? and how do you understand that you liked him my, well, that is, he gets into some kind of essence of uh, yes, me and what happens inside, and what, that’s what happens inside you, when, as you say, i i get caught with this question, but well, the question is on the topic that yes, in my father, what he loved, i honestly don’t know what he loved, and even this surprised me a little that i don’t know, but i’m just saying that you know, well, basically no, i know he loved very much... company, yes , cheerful company, he really liked to relax, he really liked to be the center of attention, and he really loved to be the life of the party, and that makes me very happy inspired, of course, and you wanted to be like her, like him, and he was a very authoritarian person, that is, everything in the house had to to obey his will, and nothing else, that is, the father was in charge and the mother took care of the house.

yeah, that’s how it was and there was such a certain ideal picture of the family, of course, there’s no way out of this, you say, dad was there, dad is no more, yes, dad... and he died 10 years ago, you were 22, yes, i i was 22 years old, for me it was probably the biggest shock in my life, well, such that in my life there is no longer a person who for me was, well , i can’t say that the ideal of a man, but probably that very first ideal, in childhood yes, which the girl receives, that is, a state of protection, security, yeah. it was my father who gave me in childhood, yeah, so for me it was such a kind of state , on the one hand, on the one hand, fear, yes, as now without him, on the other hand,

liberation, freedom, because there was this authoritarian disposition, yes, that it’s possible this way, it’s impossible, it’s only like this, studying and so on, only b’s or a’s, there’s no other way, either this way or not at all, that’s what it was like, and on the one hand, yes, i actually lost one of mine parents, on the other hand, no matter how strange it may sound, as if now you have the right to choose, the ancient people called this place peramaa, which means distant land, so it was until catherine the great decided to found the capital here. ural mountains and now it's feather. one, two, one, there. and the fact that i’m without a skirt is normal, normal, men dance too. russian people are different, they want to understand why you

are mad and you love nature, they understand faster than german. are you going to lunch? i not much about it, i still don’t eat what they eat. even our robot. there is such a nickname all over the world, kalashnikov from work equipment, that’s right, we sit down and go deeper, is it possible to get stuck somewhere, and if you get stuck, what to do? well, you can lose weight a little and then come out later, the life of your own, the premiere, on sunday on the first, the premiere of the season, well, major, for now, as they say, i’ll gain experience, oh. unless of course he doesn't mind, actually i'm against it. is kovalev a knowledgeable, experienced employee, ready to work under him? i'm working with you only the radio amateurs group did not benefit us. and

this is with the help of vvm? yes, i can teach you this too. qianu made me jealous, he says, i winked at kovalev. that's right, we have a new murder. we are all slowly going crazy. we found something missing, but where? i won’t bother you, he’s already dragging us all down with him, maybe he was once a brilliant cherkasov , but now he’s just a stubborn old man, but can i spend the night with you, don’t trust or confide in anyone, brains - cherkasov’s last thing, if you want me to report, you can so to speak, no, i won’t, you will, and we won’t dig up your old affairs. from monday after the program the time is first. you are watching the podcast triggers with you, its host is tatyana krasnovskaya, psychologist, psychotherapist , psychologist, psychotherapist sergei nasebyan. we listen to lena and

her story. did your first relationship happen after your dad died? the first relationship is not there, just, let’s say, a slight teenage crush, it happened yet. have you met your father? there was not a single man whom i introduced to mine, that is, you pretended that these guys didn’t exist, you hid them from them , or just, well, just if i hadn’t hidden it, maybe i don’t know what kind of conversation would have awaited these young people, and i probably would have been the first to pass here turn, both for them and for myself, but what should dad have done, well, understanding the words that i heard from him, that... but if i just find out certain things there, then ... there will be some kind of conversation, i was very afraid of this conversation, what things, what should you have done, why did dad have to be there? well

firstly, i was always worried that they wouldn’t meet his expectations, then i can tell you as a dad, they definitely don’t meet his expectations, it’s kind of normal, i don’t know how it happened that i really chose, it seems to me that these were the most... these, well, as they say , yes, hooligan guys at that time, that is , the very, very best that were possible, because there were a lot of prohibitions. violate them, but i would still like to clarify, let’s try to give free rein to our imagination, since dad clearly threatened, this is a threat, that if suddenly god forbid they find out, i can’t imagine what i’ll do to you, but you still imagined somewhere, here’s a fantasy, if you let go of yours, then what dad should have done if if he knew, well, let him down the stairs, i don’t know, something else, well, like this, i’m from home, in relation to you, in relation to me?

well, i was worried about some physical things, yes, but i’ve never had anything like this, but at the same time some words were like that, i mean, he never beat you, but he threatened that he might beat, kill, kill this, yes there , well, i’ll kill you if you, not so, well, there will be a very serious conversation, yes there, but in the hearts, how could i say that there, i don’t know there, i’ll do something like that, well, they’re watching us now, i don’t know, millions of people, believe me, 99% of them, at least once in their lives, heard threats related to death from their parents, but this is well it’s not obvious that they will kill you, but i ’ll kill you if i find out that you smoked there, or i ’ll kill you, i’ll throw you out of the balcony from the window, or well that is, some kind of threats, just now you said, as it reminded me, i’ll kill you, so these are moments like this, yes, i remember, yeah, well, it’s obvious that dad basically taught you to be afraid, yes, yeah,

good, and apparently, well, while dad was alive , you never managed to reach that level of perfection so that he would finally say, well , now i love you, now i praise you, now you can, no, not succeeded, uh-huh, that 's what a feeling, what kind of feelings arises inside you, uh, when you realize that you never met, well, that means you don’t meet now and most likely will no longer meet the high bar that dad set for you, that’s how you feel this conflict within yourself? i really want, of course, i still want to be told that they are proud of me, yeah, okay, after all, if dad loved to be in the spotlight, dad loved big companies, dad loved to relax, that’s when you were as a witness to these large companies, you probably... saw how dad shows

sympathy for other people, it could be women, men, friends, girlfriends , it doesn’t matter, just remember, you don’t even have to call him by this person’s name, but remember, someone, it could be there, i don’t know, aunt dasha, aunt zina, it doesn’t matter, anyone, yes, you understand that dad likes her now, not in the sense that he likes her as a woman, he’s pleased that she’s here, she laughs at his jokes, he laughs at her jokes, just like you they saw how dad became in this, very kind, kind, very kind, very cheerful and, in principle, a general sense of humor - this seems to me to be what set him apart from other people, yeah, the most important thing, so bright, for me, it was his sense of humor, his ability to maneuver, yes, in certain situations, yes, to be able to laugh at any situation, because of course, he told me such words, yes, now we will return to the fact that i will kill you, but then, when supposedly everything is ok, everything is fine, he says, well done , okay, but still it was more

like condescending praise, but not that a triumph there of some kind of genius of yours, a talent that dad admired, well, yes, yes, and this feeling, this one, which you describe as a desire to still fit in, is similar to the feeling that you experience in relationships with men, yes , so good, now, when you are talking to us, you would like, as a result of this conversation, to find... this button , this trigger and turn it off so as not to feel this way anymore, or this is what you are trying to achieve, my main question is probably since, well, i read various literature, yes, i consider myself a strong personality, i consider myself a strong woman, and yes, very often i hear in my surroundings that a strong personality is usually attracted to weak men, strong women, i mean weak men, probably the main... the question is how to be

in such a situation, if i don’t want to build relationships with the weak, in your opinion, the abuser will be a weak person, a weak man, so we just agree, so a strong man would behave in your opinion, i think that a strong man , will not put pressure in order to get what he wants, that is, to get some the picture he imagines, yes, that you should be like that, but if i have to be like that, maybe then it takes a person to be the person you imagined him to be, yeah, and your dad was a strong man , yes, why then did he suppress your mother, again a good question, yes , a good question, yes, i already understand from your facial expressions when i ask the right questions, good ones, not even the right ones, good, i like it, they praise me today, well, it was probably easier for him, so that it would be easier for him to suppress his mother, well, yes, well then you are avoiding

my direct question, after all, if he was a strong man, but still suppressed his mother, then somewhere you got confused, or did you evaluate it incorrectly today? or you allow your dad something that you don’t allow other men, maybe you were obviously raised in such a way that it’s not difficult to force, persuade, convince you to fry cutlets, cook breakfast, i don’t know, clean, do laundry, and so on further, well, so that you could be like your mother, but in fact, because your mother, as you say, took care of the house, we and you generally understand that she was to some extent a serving element in the family, right? yes, i saw this exact role of a woman with myself, but i myself am not like that, that is , this is probably the very root of the question goes to the fact that i have my own business, i work, but for myself, i’m quite, well, such a straightforward person, i don’t like to keep things to myself, but

when in my last relationship i tried very hard to play this role as a mother, i really wanted that... here i am, beautiful my wife, there was already in her thoughts at that moment, it seems to me that i was already building this for myself, and at the end, when i turned around, i looked at the man, just at the moment when i cooked borscht and just looked back, and then i looked at this whole picture, i had a feeling that this was not mine at all, that is, i asked myself the question inside, why are you... deceiving yourself, for what? elen, when i asked the last good question , about the fact that your dad, being a strong man, in your opinion, still suppressed your mother, something happened to you inside, well, you’ve changed, let’s say, what kind of feeling did it cause when i practically forced you to admit that either dad was n’t as strong as you thought, or you

’re wrong, i’ll go from the opposite, i like to go from the opposite, maybe i i'm wrong. that is , it’s easier for you to admit that you’re wrong, that is, you can’t just remove dad from his pedestal, it seems to you, right? i’m just trying to understand now why he suppressed my mother, i really don’t know why, listen, well, judging by your, as it were, worldview picture, because he was weak in his relationship with his mother, he was a wonderful dad, he was a so-so husband, perhaps, but you are looking for a husband, not a dad, but as you think, and your mother was happy in her relationship with your father, as she says, yes, it's good that she says that. that is, she, when i ask her, i say, like this, she says, this is my life, this is my choice, and i made my choice, well, yes, i ’ll still come back to this, yes, what will happen if we all - well, my dad got along with them, because you really, well, how can i say, you are a strong person, it’s true,

you really have such a dense, rigid personality structure , yes, but at the moment when i asked you this question, and you went inside like that, as if to think, you blushed sharply, and i know that you know for sure this kind of awkwardness is behind you, and like all people who blush, you probably avoid it in such circumstances, but i will assume that at this moment, if you follow me, you will agree that i now suspect your father, and it’s as if there is something like that, you know his betrayal, that we seem to be talking about it not very correctly, not very well, well, there is such a thing, there is such a great thing. but do you understand that if you put a man in place of your dad, then you will also put your father in? well, i will betray a certain image that was created in my head, of course, this is a strong image, and yes, probably yes , how would you feel now if your father told you right now that

your daughter, you know, in fact, i never