[000:00:00;00] stupid, there are three sex scenes and three drawings of nudity, but there is not a single naked body, because children are not allowed, there is a lot of swearing in the film, but everything beeps, because children are also not allowed, the result is something to study and discuss it’s possible, because we have freedom, but at the same time nothing should be heard and nothing seen, because we have decency, as a result, on the internet, one person says that the film is absolutely wonderful, all this is funny, and another says that on the fourth series... turned it off, both are right, and those responsible for this whole matter are the producers, well-known to everyone, ilayan shlipot ratsuk zhallinsky, but with the obligatory intervention of irina sosnova, but sometimes andrei tereshok gets into the topic somewhere, and somewhere producers bondreev and tkachenko, and i only mentioned this , only eight people out of fifteen, because the rest were executives, perhaps they did not interfere much, although this is not a fact. after watching the film, i got very tired of all of them,

even though there were two of them. i laughed every time. this is still the same grief with fire podcast, where i am its host denis gorelov talks about the most current domestic, tv series and cinema premieres of the current season. the next number on our program will be the film 1993, a film by alexander veledinsky based on the novel by sergei shargunov. the film, of course, is about the most dramatic october events of 1993, aka. full, somewhat silly due to its abundance of symbolism, but the fact is that the premiere of the film about the hot october took place in the oktyabr cinema, a five-minute walk from the epicenter of events white house, and it was not even necessary to walk, because that night, and the entire next day, along the entire kalinsky prospekt they were shooting just along the perimeter, starting from the novoarbatsky grocery store ending with the globe on the corner of sadovaya, and

a little higher along the boulevard ring the military grappled with each other on the floor, there was also a lot of shooting near the train station, albeit briefly, supplies were loaded up, but the metro was visible, the technical building was burning on one side, from the creative side the machine gunner was hitting the ropes in the direction of the malian grove, it was at midnight, what happened there 3 hours before, it’s better just not to remember, although the film remembers exactly this, and if someone doesn’t get enough symbolism, then there was also such a novel by victoria hugo, a year very consonant, proto, how dark forces, and for some light, 4 years after the great french revolution, rebelled against the great french revolution, so that the devils would eat it, as others would say, even more than 200 years later. shrgunov, as a person who, due to his youth, was late to events, but adheres to patriotic convictions,

completely on the side of the rebels, like many of his peers, in particular from... lepin and mitya alshansky, about 10 years ago, then still very young sergei, asked me with other adult comrades how it was possible to be on yeltsin’s side in this quarrel , and their senior comrades tiredly explained to them how they could be on the president’s side. sergei still stuck to his guns, but director veledinsky slightly altered the novel, making the hero more complex, more aware of his surroundings and choosing a side. how exactly speaking of the majority of people living in russia at that time, the hero of the film is former space engineer viktor bryantsev, who once left his traces on the dusty paths of distant planets by dipping in red paint, pointing his finger with a dot at the word ussr on board the lunakhod, flying straight there

, in the nineties he carried out a downshift, like many in those years, became a master of systems, driving around the city in a yellow van with a red stripe, a yellow van with a red stripe 10 years later after 9 years will become a symbol of the forces of good in the famous franchise of sergei lukyanenko and timor bekmombetov night watch and day watch, which is very important. victor began to respond to the name vitek, to help his friends in solving difficult crossfords, friends, they began to give him drinks much more often, on the one hand , zaumishche. on the other hand, for the fact that such a serious person breaks in with us as hard workers, like everyone else , evgeniy tsyganov, who plays the main role, is ideal for the role, because his melancholy frostbite, which sometimes bothered the audience in other roles, here completely corresponds to the character the main character, and my colleague friend, mikhail drofimenkov, even said that this is tsyganov’s best role, just like the role of his wife,

the best role of ekaterina velkova, lena works in the same service as a dispatcher, adheres to democratic views, in her moods and in her opinion she most of all fits the definition of a demshiza, like many in those years, and i , their sixteen-year-old daughter, like all children at that age, suffers from the fact that the family is poor and that she has never been with anyone before, so she loves bandit, the same young fool, like herself, who decided to die young, like many in those years, and victor travels by train home to the moscow region, smokes a lot in a jar, worries a lot about the world around him, and sometimes fights with the cops, sometimes something like that, torments separate members in the glasnost booth and absolute bullshit is happening all around, everyone remembers this, when in fact in our country at that time there was a big, great depression, which surpassed the american one in so many

indicators, if in the usa the drop in production was 45%, then in our country 54%, that's this means that more than half of the people were left without work, without any possibility of finding one, plus, money became candy wrappers from inflation. plus, unemployed young people became bandits and gangster groups surrounded moscow in a complete military ring, which can also be seen in the film. alexander veledinsky, the director of the film today is, perhaps, the best film adaptation of russian prose, i say with all responsibility, not so long ago in the house of rostov, where the writers' union in the head of the same sergei shargunov has come full circle. table on film adaptations and having spent a long time finding out who is really the most productive and accurate screen designer today, we suddenly really discovered that this person is alexander alekseevich veledinsky.

he has already directed limonov, the film russian, alexei ivanov, the film the geographer globus drank away, zakhara prilepiin’s series the abode, and now sergei shargunov, whose novel was very much re-shot, seems to me for the better. valendina man is firm therefore on against the backdrop of popular thought , family thought is being promoted with all its might. it has been noticed that people of libertarian beliefs always publicly swear their love for their wives, but at the same time actively cheat on them, there are simply no exceptions in my area, on the other hand, people of conservative views , on the contrary, believe that this business is wrong, not good, i must say, well, in general, the question of loyalty to one’s faithful also influences political views, just like in the movies - a girl of democratic convictions, the wife

of the main character lena, decides at some point wag his liberal tail, but in the end he comes to the conclusion that this whole thing is in vain, unnecessary, and victor, in turn , pretends that he didn’t even notice anything, and thus peace is restored in the family and peace in the country... is also being restored in some incomprehensible way, after 30 years, finally, as in general and always happens , the opposite sides are in some way ready to understand each other, and it’s good that it took only 30 years, and not 50 years, like the previous civil war, for the first time, the reds began to talk about the whites without gnashing of zubovnaya, somewhere in the sixty-eighth-sixty-ninth year, 5 years after the events, now everything, thank you, god, has changed, and many people from the opposite camp are now the closest friends, on the contrary,

like-minded people of that time, enemies of foreigners. life goes on, and at the same time, very strongly, the final title of all those who died in october is exactly to the heart, because frankly speaking, i was there and teased the judge, it was running down my ears, it didn’t hit my forehead, it was a warning to grief with fire and i did it presenter denis gorelov with a story about the most current domestic premieres of serial and cinema productions. hello, this is a psyche podcast, my name is natalya losyeva and today, together with our expert, psychotherapist, clinical psychologist, doctor of medical sciences, sergei kolov, we will deal with

the situation of the young, bright, brutal nikita koryakin, who is confused about what he wants in fact, from relationships, why they don’t work out for the long haul, and where is the freedom that needs to be found. tell your story, there is a problem that is difficult for me to trust myself, to put myself in someone’s hands, to make some kind of full-fledged relationship, because... i always feel some kind of restrictions in them, since i am a creative person, and i need freedom, and most often i need it in everyone, i recently had a relationship, it was six months ago, and it’s like, when such a bouquet period begins, on the contrary, i ’m inspired by this, it becomes interesting to me, but when this has already been going on for 2 years, it’s like this whole bouquet period , he... knows

to turn into a routine, and that a little bit of me, brings me down to earth, and my creative impulse in my work in general, some of my ideas, they are a little dulled, and i feel that in the moment - i begin to lack some kind of creative impulse, with this some difficulties begin to be felt, and of course this affects relationships, and i tell you... interest in people, i just feel, probably , that i want more, that is, i want to communicate with different people, get attention there, other girls, so that i feel a lot of attention, this is important to me, me it’s energizing, but once in a relationship, i still consider myself a good person, and it’s important for me that my other half feels needed, but when... i need the attention of other people, i think there are some problems

with this definitely doesn’t cast a shadow on you, but in general what kind of request do you have, when you came to us, that’s what, so that we can answer your question, but how to feel free in a relationship, because i’m already 26 years old, and i want, the parts are ticking, yes, well, mine is a little slower, so i want myself develop in relationships, because when you... lead some kind of superficial relationship, you don’t get emotionally much deeper, and since my life is connected with creativity, i’m sure that there is also something to gain there, so that later it give out to people. nikita, you know what i just heard in your monologue, i heard a lot, a lot, a lot , yes, yeah, you said, trust yourself, i myself, now i’ll figure out the way. beloved precious,

i can’t do it like this, but to whom, this priceless gift, me, nikita koryakin, 26 years old, photographer, graduate student, bring it for long-term use, i also heard that you get bored, yes, that is , routine sets in after the bouquet period, as you called it, yeah, routine sets in, and you no longer want anything, it doesn’t make you happy, yes, it’s not inspiring, and the third thing i heard is that relationships, maybe i’m wrong, i’m saying this, the way i hear it, this is a resource for you to be inspired, for you to be an artist, for you to realize yourself, where is the girl in all this? yeah, good question, this should probably be the first thing for me music, which, i will give it energy, it gives me and that is, so that it is a mutual energy exchange, at some point, as if our wires are lost, this energy

disappears somewhere and that is, i don’t feel that i want to give something to this person, and at the same time, i don’t want to keep the person next to me so that it’s like i would play around, ala and we just separated, but i want the person next to me to be happy and give him only positive emotions, but as you know, it doesn’t always work out that way, here’s something i don’t believe you, do you understand? something is not right here, you know, it’s as if nikita koryakin is sitting now , yes, sitting is an actor who plays a young man, so enthusiastic, so subtle, who came to us to show himself, girls, look

, what i am, don’t count on more, because i will be there all the time, that’s what i thought now, if i wanted to show myself, i probably wouldn’t want to talk about my problems, because i came here with that problem to sort it out with the concept of freedom, because freedom is, of course, good, but when you feel this freedom, you have too many paths, when there are many paths you can get lost in something and not reach the point you would like, but tell me, what is lack of freedom for you? lack of freedom is when i have to do something that i don’t want, for example, what, for example, i want to think, this is what i like to do, great, is that also? great, i love cleaning, but for example , i want to spend time, i want to go somewhere with friends, simply because we have some common interests, but one way or another, i am meeting a girl there for some other reason, not because we both love photography there, yes, but i want to meet people with whom, so that the girl

will let you go, well, that is, there will be no hysteria, there will be no scandal, there was understanding, and it wouldn’t be for sure, the problem is that it’s starting to gnaw at me with... that i don’t take it, as if i ’m not interested in her, there are people with whom i ’m more interested, yes, or there, feel guilty moment, i feel guilty very often, i believe that i have empathy i’m in a pretty normal position and probably she allows me to feel it, and often empathy is my enemy and friend, because sometimes i feel too much, and at the same time it seems to me that it’s a person. it’s uncomfortable with this, but it happens that a person actually doesn’t feel so bad about it, but i just imagined it for myself, and, further, an example, i want, maybe, to go there on vacation, with my friends, i have both friends and female, but at the same time it is always accepted, and if i say, a friend is

a real friend, nothing more and by the way it’s interesting that i perceive, as it were, my friends, i put them first, for now, because i think it’s logical, why , because a new person comes into your life, you meet there for a year or two, and you have friends, with with whom you have been working for 20 years, 10 years, and they seem to be a priority for me, and perhaps there is also some nuance here , why is it difficult for me to build this, so you understand that every year this length of friendship increases, there will be increase, you know, and the chances that you will ever meet a girl, for these reasons by your standards, which can compete with your friends, it simply minimizes well , or unless you lose all your friends, listen, an interesting case, although the story at first seemed rather banal to me. sergey, what’s wrong with us here? nikita, do you have a close, warm relationship with anyone? yes, there is, i have a friend, with whom we have been friends for 20 years, from first class, and i can safely call her my sister, with

whom we spend a lot of time together, in general , i have an understanding of what deep relationship, but unfortunately not with the second one. so far it’s not working out with the other half, that is, you know how to do it, but something is , because i feel when i choose a partner that it’s like i ’m swearing an oath on something if i’ve chosen a person , then that’s it, he’s mine, i’m her everything , and that is, for me this is some very, very important step, which i don’t know what needs to happen for me to overcome and say yes, that’s it, i’m ready, i’ll swear on blood, figuratively speaking, look, it turns out, he seems to bet you only have two poles, yes, so he says, i’m with her, and i have no right to look left or right, even if this is a friend of my childhood, he condemns himself to this, then he himself

begins to suffer from this same self-sentence, self-righteous , it turns out, nikita, you seem to have two parts of your psyche, one wants some kind of close, long-term... relationship, and the other wants freedom, and if i understand correctly, you understand freedom as the desire to fulfill all your desires, that’s what you you want, then you do it, yeah, and if there is some kind of restrictions, and this concerns this story of desires and freedom, only relationships with girls or in life in general, in life in general, it’s very difficult for me to control in terms of this, because as soon as i feel lack of freedom, i even lose interest you know, some kind of indifference towards this person wakes up when they try to limit me in something, and i immediately feel discomfort , some kind of energy, it somehow sinks and is lost, and i immediately feel somehow

uncomfortable and heavy. in a feeling of lack of freedom to live as you imagine, after all, the other person and any girl, she has her own desires, her own ideas about freedom, i understand this perfectly well, the idea of ​​a relationship is collapsing in my head, because i automatically turn out to be like no longer happy, because the first tick here fails for us, nikita, it’s true, any relationship is certain restrictions, and you understand how you pay for your freedom like yours...’ the problem is that i don't feel lonely never, that is, because there is always someone who compensates for this, since i often go filming, it’s a lot of acquaintances, a lot. people around me, also then, if you want to tell something, share something, there are your close friends who compensate for this, but

why do you then need a relationship with a girl, why, you have a friend, a close need, a warm relationship, like for well, for relationships, intimate relationships, for example, he is a young man, and this is also an important part of our life, probably just like that, you know, to engage in promiscuity, somewhere yeah, in any bar, he doesn’t want to, right, because ? there comes a moment when you want to go to bed, not alone, yes, with someone to feel this warmth of a person, but the problems are in some deep relationships, that i want this, but something is pricking, that’s what is pricking, i want disassemble this and somehow, as if we had already said, the limitation of desire is injected - girls, uh-huh, well, because she has her own desires, for you this is a limitation, and you seem to. you can bear the desire of the opposite side, yes, but this is in no way

in any case, don’t think that i have every desire, i’m not ready to tolerate it, if i understand that somewhere i have to give in, yes, i understand that, but there comes some point of no return, when it’s as if everything is over, boiler it’s boiling and i can’t give in any longer, that’s it, i want freedom, and i need to rest , that is, i had a relationship for 2 years, and well, again, we call it 2 years, but at the same time we had some pauses, why, because i just needed to rest, and i was gaining strength and was like, hi, how are you, let's try again, and i truly believe in what happens, then we go, the relationship begins, everything is cyclical in a circle, that i need rest, i get there, go somewhere to rest, take a break from the person, then i start to get bored, because i still feel for this person , that is, i can’t say, it’s somehow different, but what is love for you? for me, love is when

, in spite of everything, you think about this person and in other people next to you you can see this person and desire him in any case nearby and some kind of story that you both you want to be together, but something separates you, she still doesn’t lose this feeling of love inside for this person , that is, feelings, yes, this is how i am with my feelings, yes, i worry, there, i suffer, i admire , this is a psyche podcast, my name is natalya losyeva, together with doctor of medical sciences , psychotherapist sergei kolov, we are solving the difficult situation of our hero nikita koryakin, have you ever had pets, mine personally, you haven’t, but some kind of flower, there is. flowers at home, what about you? love them, your flower, madly, i take care of them, you can’t imagine how i take care of them, but please tell me a little more in detail, i really wanted indoor plants, because i

believe that they bring comfort to the home, and i love to create comfort at home, and when i got the first plant, i realized that it needed a companion, i got more, and they thought about how this plant feels, yes, that is, i constantly water it every day, because it’s also watering for me is a stress reliever, just like cleaning. are you smoking in this plant? yes, i have a convenience there, i know how much is needed, when there, and what do you feel when you do it, they loosened it there, added fertilizer, and after 3 days new leaves appeared, i feel some kind of satisfaction, like i see my work, and i see the result, and when you see the result, you understand, great, that means i did everything right, that we have achieved a new leaf in this case, well, you are happy, of course. you understand that you didn’t seem to be doing all this for yourself, yes, but it won’t change your

life, but when you see the result of your labors, your investments, your lack of freedom , you can’t just leave for a week without agreeing that someone will water them, right, yes, this is not freedom, by the way, this is terribly not freedom , you enjoy it, it’s interesting, but the flowers are standing still and waiting for me, with people, unfortunately, this is impossible, they will wither if you don’t take care of them or? they'll have some bugs. sergei, maybe he just didn’t like him? well, there are doubts, yes, from a scientific point of view, love is a little different, there, say, if on froma refer to, he clearly describes different types of love, not only for a woman, neurotic, for god, for children, for a mother, there are clear scientific criteria, let's say, yes, that erich from is one of the followers of the school of psychoanalysis, which very much i wrote just about love and about emotions from a scientific point of view, everyone’s art is work, uh , the art of love, and we won’t list everything right now, but including, here’s caring for another, when

a person loves, he thinks about the object of his love , he... it’s not an obligation, he just i want to give this person something about him, this is one of the criteria, if there is no such need, well, there is also a kind of criterion, then there is already doubt, even if the person says that he loves, well, from a scientific point of view, there is already questions, and we can doubt, yeah, that is, it turns out that if i don’t want to give something to a person, then most likely i do n’t love him, most likely you are using him, my dear, but who said that i don’t i give it to the person, because you, i don’t remember this, but then i made a mistake and i want to say that it is no longer possible to give a person not only some financial needs, yes, although in this regard there were no problems with this either, that is , i really love making people happy, and it brings me wild pleasure, for example, giving

gifts and choosing which ones to give - surprises, this brings me great pleasure, but what’s important is... it’s important for me to see a bright emotion, that is, when i see that a person is very happy, then it’s some kind of important moment for me, to see emotions and give a lot of everything, everything, i want even more, more more, that is, the story is again about you, yes, you give something, you need to see that the person is very happy about this, yes, expresses emotion, your dafabines begin to be released , all sorts of other neurotransmitters that are responsible for the anticipation of joy, joy. yes, different mechanisms are triggered, physiologically, you experience pleasure. yes, nikita, you would like to know more about how you build relationships? certainly. don’t you think that our relationships here in our company have turned into a sport? yes, natalya says something, sometimes i say something i say, and you seem to be opposing us, what do you think on this topic? well, there is such a small

impression, even as we sit. okay, but you generally tend to argue, that’s how you build relationships, and i like to prove my point of view, and my mother always doesn’t like this trait of mine that i will always push with arguments until the person tells me there is nothing to say here, but it seems to me that this is how the argument is structured, that you share your arguments, you either agree, find some kind of compromise , or disagree, which is also norms, but at the same time, i don’t think it’s okay to argue when you simply say your arguments in a calm tone, that this is somehow unconstructive, and what would you like to get as a result of an argument with us, so we wanted and, in an argument, i i would like to understand that somewhere i am wrong, in order to

cover up this gestalt of my own, what turns out to be, and relationships. in some near future i will be able to have, here is natalia’s metaphor, my references to authorities, well, for me, at least, and as i understand it, for natalia, they are not arguments for you, they did not convince you, of course, argument, but the question is that i can understand all this, yes, but i can feel it , well, that’s what the famous philosopher said, it’s a metaphor, yes, great, but how can i feel it inside and apply it in practice? when for some length of time i stop feeling it, it’s just as if these are not thoughts but feelings already sergei, and maybe in general there are people who are not given this gift - such a giving muscle, such love, and maybe nikita is just us suffers from the fact that he does not fit into some social stereotype, and thinks, well, i

something different, i don’t have a long-term relationship, i get tired of girls. in general, there can be such people, yet nikita described himself as an empathetic person and who gives a lot, nevertheless, he loses interest, i understood everything correctly, yes, then i will again return to where we started, restrictions , which are the desires of another, uh, person, and this seems to be connected with the fact that you are losing interest, but while you were talking, i thought: about what is possible, this empathy for everyone, and i then in a relationship i want to somehow compensate for this by saying that it’s time to think about myself, maybe i was looking for this corner when i don’t have to think about others for a long time, that is , because it’s true - in my work, it’s very important part, because if you don’t feel the person in the frame, you won’t get

some beautiful picture from it, that is, you are constantly this resource. you take it out of yourself, because you constantly need, you present your relationship to us, we, of course, look at the situation through your eyes, yes , definitely, we can think about how you think about yours a girl, well... at least the one with whom i had a relationship for 2 years, uh, imagine, uh-huh, everything we know about her, as you present her to us, she is such a rather unpleasant type, she only shows her desires, she doesn’t care about you, well, in general, apparently she loves you too - not very much - and the way you introduced her to us, i don’t even want to take you in company, but i don’t want to take you , you need to take a break from her, maybe even he is shy? jokes somehow awkwardly in front of your friends, well, you have to

to be ashamed of her, and you presented us with such an image of a rather unpleasant person, i don’t agree that i tried to give some such image, because it absolutely does not coincide with reality, but i feel that they love me more, and i am in the position of that , who... uh, allows you to love, and this is about the feeling that i said that he doesn’t love, ah, an unpleasant person, no, very pleasant, and uh, i’m probably more comfortable with this person than with anyone else , when we're alone, but when not for a long time, so uh, i'm with this person is interested, but we have completely different interests, that is...' we are more likely to be fixated more on our relationships than on our common hobbies, interests, and so on, and what do you mean by finding out

relationships, that’s what you think, let’s talk about why you and i tire each other out, you keep saying this all the time, saying it, by the way, it’s useful, but if in the world, we often talk about it, because i also think it’s useful , but of course it's like that a difficult stage, it has become just such a center of your communication. yes, clarifying the relationship, how to treat a friend, yes, at this moment we are very interested in this dialogue , they are both very interested together, and when it becomes something, well, it’s good for us to go somewhere together, watch a movie together at home, eat delicious food, and i feel maximum comfort next to this person, and this is my kind of safety zone, that is , such an island where everything plus or minus is good, but then you feel the boredom of this... how you want to combine passions, some surprises, and high emotions. sergey, i’m a little confused, so you expect this from a girl, that she

should somehow create these emotions for you? no, it seems to me that this should be something, it should charge me, something for me to do, let’s say some actions, the universe, who will charge you, the person next to you, well, after all, it’s from her, what are your expectations from her. well, let there be general contact, but it somehow gets lost on us. this is a psychic podcast, my name is natalya losyeva and together with doctor of medical sciences, psychotherapist sergei kolov, we are solving the difficult situation of our hero nikita koryakin. i will return again to the understanding of freedom and your desires. have you ever thought from a different perspective that you are a slave to your desires, and not... a person, okay, okay, yes, interesting, a slave to your desires, but, well, i definitely need to think about this topic, because

i don’t feel that i am controlled, and my desires, that is, i can approximately, what does not concern relationships, again, everything that concerns the other part of life, it makes me very suits me and i feel like a very happy person, but there are such sad evenings, moments when you realize that... something in life is missing, you attach great importance to the development of yourself as a person, yes, well, i i don’t know what your concept of personality and personal development is, but science believes that development is overcoming something within yourself, including your desires, including, i can also refer to many authors, well, take my word for it, this is overcoming your own desires and limitations. including this one for you history, i deliberately asked some questions before, it is believed that if you do not overcome something within yourself, your internal

limitations, and some external ones, and do not somehow adapt to them, your personality begins to degrade, uh, in that , this applies to relationships, relationships with yourself, but this also applies to relationships - with any person , including a girl, if you don’t make any efforts, everything is only according to your desire, yeah, then the development of relationships should not be. occur, however, like individuals, yes, but in any case, this is, if we talk about relationships, yes, i agree here that i’m more likely looking for some kind of position that is convenient for me, so that i don’t have to change much, think about something, yes, okay, but there is another side, me, this my profession, where you have to change a lot, very much, since i have freelancing, work, and you are always

responsible only for you, you have no beginning. you have to agree on filming, communicate with, you must always manage your life, you are people, that is, it’s a rather uncomfortable life in this case, you want to say, there’s a different nikita, he’s getting into a relationship some other one, that is, there is one story, but here it is completely, who only wants his desires to be satisfied, nikit, i have an association when a person wants, but i want this, i want that, this is not... this is how children behave, then if this hypothesis may be true, that i am just what i kind of want, then you are not looking for partnership stories in a relationship, you are looking for a mother, but the girl doesn’t know about this, she - he thinks that we have a man, well, look how personable you are, well, right, well, i saw

and natalia, well, it’s a real match, right? in my youth they would have caught you, we called it using live bait, that is, the girls will be interested in exhibiting there once, and there the friends will get it, since there’s some kind of company there, but she thinks she’s wow, with whom , now she’s going to talk, but it turns out, well, i won’t call you, babies are babies and it’s necessary, as it were , and you start to be offended, but she has no idea , maybe even i don’t really hide it, in fact, that is, i’m super kind, gentle man, and i won’t be very masculine in relationships, that’s it, and i don’t consider it somehow a minus for myself, i’m probably even proud of it somewhere, but the problem is that yes, there is some kind of appearance, most likely, at the beginning of a relationship people expect something different from me, and even at some point i think about shaving this beard, because appearance in my case is really deceiving, that is, i don’t... feeling

like some kind of giant who will understand everything, that is, me, but how do you react if a person, fascinated by you, can to be disappointed in you, that he’s an ops, he buys it, and then it turns out that it’s it’s not at all how you react to disappointment, i don’t remember this, to be honest, that is, the girl continues to be deceived, probably, yes, not a fact, but what is your version, what? he begins to lose interest in her and leave them so that they do not become disappointed in him, this is a fear that when a rapprochement occurs, she will look and say, yes, i thought he did, but he and this may be an underlying fear, no one knows , it may be very scary that she will be disappointed, then your defense will abandon her first, well, in any case,

i don’t feel this understanding in myself, because i apologize to everyone - this doesn’t mean that you’re a weakling, yes, i’m just finding other solutions, i’ll comment on what seems to be happening now, it looks like it’s not just an argument, but you’re already making excuses to me, i hear some kind of your thought, which does not coincide with reality, in my understanding, in this case i need to tell you, sergey will very accurately reformulate what you are saying, because you are the one who is saying that i really, well, i want one so that i give my all to everyone, i want them to take care of me, that’s how i am here you are all defenseless, fragile and so vulnerable in these, this is how we heard it, maybe there is a question of some kind of your self-presentation really or in some kind of conflict, sergey, what if nikita started a relationship with a girl who... .him, who

would be similar, maybe to his mother, yes, you probably have a very warm relationship with your mother, with yours, i think, right? true, i think it’s not a matter of the age of the girl or woman, it all depends on her character, she may be younger than him, but if she has such strong her needs are internal maternal, that is, to take care of, entertain, take to clubs, organize a holiday there, what else do mothers do there, entertain so that her child is interested, then this is not literally at all, and it may not be a holiday but a trip somewhere - i don’t know, at sea, for example, it’s expensive, it’s a surprise , but so what, what’s an option? and you seem to have come to something, you didn’t argue with us the first time and didn’t say, but maybe the girl is just not the same, i’ve been thinking for a long time, maybe it’s

a habit, but no matter how we haven’t seen each other for six months, it’s still ours when we met, everything is the same inside, the same seething, the desire to be with this person, well, that is, after all, you’re not so bored with her if six months later you meet her and your heart starts beating. yes, yes, yes, next to her there is a seething inside, that is, it has not gone away for 2 years and no matter how many times we have separated, it is all the time, all the time this feeling overtakes me, there is an erotic male part, there is another, her - you can call it different things, a children’s room, there ’s something infantile there with its needs, it looks like they are in conflict inside you and you cannot deal with them, ball to the right, ball to the left. and maybe this is one of the main problems, in a smart word, it ’s called splitting, this is the psyche, this is a defense mechanism, what to do? there are technologies that should lead, well, to integration, yeah, we are all

, we are dual by nature and the world is dual, we live in it, there is definitely nothing good, nothing bad, you can look at it this way, you can look at it that way, but usually, according to philosophy, positive parts fight in their unity and develop a person, but they force you to remain stuck in one place, you have no relationships. sergey, please tell me, this work is exclusively for nikita and it doesn’t matter what kind of woman it is, whether this woman or another, or what is called family or partner joint therapy, i would recommend individual therapy first, nikita needs to first deal with himself and his people. for example, directly opposite tendencies: one wants intimacy, the other wants freedom, and so on, so that everything will be as i want, and so that my mother does not show any of her wishes, but this and that part is you, they are both really

important, but it is important to understand and integrate them, manage them, yeah, with this i really agree, because i feel in myself, maybe... even some three sides, yes, parental, something in me definitely has some needs, i also have some serious needs for something, and there are also such nikita, a student-party-goer, for whom it is important to feel that you are still young, everything is still ahead, that’s what i thought, that when - i enter serious relationship, it’s as if i’ve come to the end of my life, this bright, cheerful life, these three aspects, they probably need to be somehow mixed into one lump and made friends. well, friends, we saw such a complex nikita, who is a little confused, not in relationships, but for now, or already in himself. i hope that something has become clearer to you: where does the plane

of your real freedom lie, where do you need to row? yes, mushroom, it was very interesting, thank you. it was a psychic podcast, and we, along with our expert, clinical psychologist, doctor of medical sciences. we looked at the situation of nikita koryakin, who at 26 years old is trying to understand what he really wants from a relationship with a girl. hello, dear friends, this is the one right now. a meeting that, as a rule, leaves no one indifferent, someone once took the melody to a company and published a record by hari prosad chaurasi, so it probably had something to do with our friendship with mrs. di, but something else

happened , we began to listen to raghu, we began study this culture, and it is 6,000 years old, in no way did any of us become hindus , you see, from orthodox... one does not interfere with the other, but this culture, we loved our generation with all our souls, and today we welcome these brilliant people with special pleasure musicians in our studio, first of all, you need to know pavel pravin, here he is, a leader, a tireless composer, and bansuri, here she is, the same bansuri on which hari prosat chaurasie played, and you saw him personally, yes, yes, i met him several times, my teachers introduced me to him, they are related. wow, so he said: “you have a wonderful teacher , you need to study with them, and you don’t need anything else, this is an unarrogant person, he is the most humble person, this. being the founder of the whole style of playing the banzi, they

tell a story about him , when he’s at the hotel, his relatives are all asleep, and he’s working out in bansur, he’s working out like that, quietly so as not to disturb his sleep, well, your co-workers, who are they, well, it’s a great honor for me, i don’t i know how lucky i am so in life that i can play with these people, but genetically he, in my opinion, is gennady lavrent. yes, yes, yes, a fantastic multi-instrumentalist who plays both ottoman music and byzantine music , even byzantine, yes, i had to, yes , i had to, yes, yes, he plays with yanis, a greek who sings byzantine chants, here and here india, right there, as you can see, there are metal gadgets, we know what these things are, they make the guitar roar, as you understand, you are blackmore. it’s just a matter of time and

that’s what we call it, a heating pad, that is, just yes, and of course, tochburgov plays the sitar, and this is an eternal conversation, ivan muralov, yes, this , he is not just a sitar player, he is a setar player from varanasia, he is his tradition in varanas, that is, it is a city, a portal, people come there, in hundreds thousands of pilgrims come to say goodbye, to leave their path in life, having listened to the wonderful... sounds , including the sitara, then let’s not delay, let’s carry out this procedure with our