to venice the traveler is more inclined to see his expectations than the city as it is. in the eighties of the century, the carnival suddenly revived on its own. the silent or screaming crowd in the square is always ready to change the world. if the crowd doesn't want anything, carnival is impossible. the mask phenomenon is difficult to understand. using a mask is a desire to change, hide, become someone else. sometimes to people. a crazy thought comes to my mind that there is no more taboo, the very energy and some kind of action, this is not observed here, not even close, and it seems to me that the russians could breathe a new spirit here, confused masks wander through the venetian squares and streets, but this is nothing more than the shadow of a carnival, why wear a mask if you are not able to give up yourself. matador, venice, winter water. on friday on the first,

this is the easy money podcast and i am its host mikhail khanov, today my guest is clinical psychologist svetlana nazoeva, you can see all episodes of the easy money podcast on the website of the first channel. one more question, this is an interesting one, it is very close to me, that’s why i i would like to ask this, there is such a danin kruenig effect, when people are highly educated, experienced professionals, they devalue themselves, they devalue their knowledge. the opinion seems to them, well, something like that, well, everyone knows that, yes, when i express my opinion , i always consider the people around me that they are at the same level, well, and i’m kind of ashamed to receive them there , yes, on the other hand, i think, well, what’s the big deal here , from the information i ’m talking about, and then you’re faced with the fact that on the other hand, people say, wow, you know so much, and so on, and you say such things, how do you know this, on the other hand, people who are at the lowest level... well, if a person is so confident,

probably so it is, yes, this is the so-called danin-krünig effect , which many successful people suffer from, among your patients there are such, you know, in simple terms, this is the impostor effect, well, giving a specific example, but here i am talking about myself, what’s the big deal, i host this program, i host this podcast, well nothing complicated, very smart people come to me, i just ask them, i try to figure out the situation for the patient there, for myself, all of you, how smart he must be, here he is sitting on tv, yes there or on youtube, yes, here how to deal with this, how to raise your own self-esteem, we don’t recognize our victories, why, i’ll explain , one patient came to me, who you call them that , well, well, let there be a patient, so the patient came, okay, the patient came , and he came to me with this request: syndrome

impostor, i say, what is it? i don’t appreciate what i’ve grown to, why, where does it come from, yes, because my parents never celebrated our victories, i got an “a” on the head, i patted it, everything is fine , you know, no matter how much they focus on it , how to get out of it, yes, start celebrating for yourself, that is, we mark for ourselves that we celebrate our victories, that the way out of this situation, that is, all ours. i will do this, i did this, i did this, that is, when we were all taught to say we, that is , this is us, this is the merits of the team, that is it turns out that more often you need to say i, i do this, i know how to do something for myself , maybe use it, you know, as a life hack from the most famous manual from the bible, yes, where i generally think that the bible is the most beautiful manual about how to live on this planet.

you don’t know how to love yourself, how do you know how to love others and what love for others is in general , that is, it turns out that first you really need to start treating yourself with respect and love, not devaluing your merits, your achievements, then learn how to do this broadcast with a greater, let’s say, degree of empathy and participation, the more you will. understand those who surround you, naturally, perfectly, they wrote it down, yes, because there was also a request, a patient came with such a request that i don’t feel love for anyone, yeah, no one loves me, i don’t know why, but oh what does she say, yes, that i don’t love myself, i don’t have this love, and when i don’t have this love , what can i give, here’s a shirt i’m wearing, it’s the only one, if...’ i give it away, i won’t have this

shirts, that's it, that's svetlana, that's it you have come, there have been such cases when a patient comes to you, well, let’s say, he paid almost his last money for your consultation, comes to you for an appointment and he comes with a simple and clear request: svetlana, i am a poor man, and this is the money i paid, this is the last money, how can i become rich, this is what you told such people, were there such patients? from time to time it happens that they write to me, today i even received a message saying that i can come to you to break through the financial ceiling, well enough, i say, yes, a consultation costs so much, and the girl tells me, it’s very expensive for me, but i ’ll find this money, we can solve this issue in one question and in one consultation in an hour and a half? i say, i can write step-by-step instructions if you do it, yes, it’s just a matter of time , we can help our audience reveal the secrets, now we’ll give you a few steps

for free, the first three steps, step-by-step instructions, the first is to understand, how will i make money, what can i do, what skills do i have, a patient came to me, and says: “i’m a musician, i sing well, but i want to have more money, what should i do, i want my own business, i say, let’s open a vocal studio, but we need to rent a room, yes, i say that you have it, what available funds are there, or where can you find investors, who can invest in you, yes, you have skills, another person has money, they connected, he opened one vocal studio, here you go, the process began, further developments, i money comes for needs, what are the needs, step two, yes, the task increase your needs, because there is such a phrase, yes, if i’m not thirsty, i won’t look for a source, well, everything is simple here, you just say what you like, you

can’t immediately buy there, i don’t know, mercedes, but you can immediately, little by little, we begin to increase our standards, little by little right now, where can i increase my standard? you choose your next goal and then you start, not exactly where, yes, but in all segments of life, and little by little, first i start with food, i understand what i like, i increase quality, that means, of my table, yes, if i ate bread, yes, for 50 rubles, i start buying it, for example, for 100 rubles, yes, it is more tasty, i start, for the price or is it really tastier, i just don’t i know, well, i mean that it’s not a question of price , but a question of taste, then, for example, for example, i want soft towels, yes , i buy one, the second according to my capabilities, little by little i increase my capabilities, little by little, this is step number two we, it turns out, have the following story, yes, so that there is more money, yes the money comes through something new, this is to increase the question of my

competence, yes, my knowledge, i look at what i should do next to develop this music studio, i take partners, a team, i go and study further. there are hundreds of examples of those same ones, yes, they are probably subject to, well, deep, well, one might say , clinical study, when people from very poor families became, as you said , deafeningly rich people, there is some common quality that unites everyone , you probably did this analysis, analyzing the stories of your patients, success stories and which you constantly bring up, that is, there are some, well, okay. not one quality, but several, that’s the quality, consume more information, learn, look for examples, try to find, when a person is there looking for examples, looking for ways to achieve the same goals that his examples achieved, the people from his examples, have not yet

give up persistence, this is the most important quality, yes, which defines all successful people, he does not give up, the same example with the frog, yes, which whipped milk into butter and got out, gives up, he goes, sees the goal, does not sees obstacles, you understand, how to become like this, this is thinking, this is the image of us, this can be brought up, or it can be brought up, it is a matter of thinking, yes, when we begin to regulate our feelings, fear, fear that prevents us from moving forward, yes, for example, i’m afraid of becoming poor, i ask the question, what are you losing, do you have something to lose, he says , well, in general, no, i say, then if you are now afraid of becoming poor, then do you have something to lose? no, i have nothing to lose, then go ahead, yes, these are the supports that i'm on i can lean on, yes, which i create for myself. so, you and i agreed that there are the first steps that will lead you to solving the problem of this transition from a state

of poverty to a state of wealth. the first is the awareness that there is a search for informational best practices, yes, best practice examples that were before your eyes or in history or are now near you, we carefully consider, we understand how this happened and what i need to do, yes, to pass in the same way, secondly, we never give up, that is, we are not afraid of the temporary. all we record our successes first of all for ourselves, we record them also for others and do not allow anyone to belittle our success in order to remain in a state of comfort with ourselves, realizing that what i do brings happiness not only for me, yes, but also to try to make it bring happiness to others. this is an easy money podcast and i am its host, mikhail khanov. today my guest is

clinical psychologist svetlana nazoeva. there is such a term, recently it was banned in our country, well, let's call it marathons, i don’t know, there’s happiness, desire, whatever else, successful success, yes, selling successful success, all these trainers, coaches, ignoramuses, as i call them, yes, as they say, there, uh, get out of your comfort zone, i i say, yes, let me at least enter this comfort zone in order to understand where i can get out of. tell me, is there at least one sane grain there, or is it more window dressing , is it more marketing, is it more of the same info, info-charlatanism, info-fraud, when it’s in the sauce, with very clear nlp neuro-linguistic programming there technologies, for the purpose of seizing, taking away money from the population, they sell you some information that you come out, say, and that it was for the most part or not, or am i wrong? now if i now put my heel on... on your foot, very hard, i will stand, i will stand on your foot, the pain will be hellish, i

will say, let's pump up the financial ceiling, how will it work, no way, because that the focus of attention will go to the fact that it hurts you, and you will tell me, get off your feet, it hurts me, this is not up to the financial ceiling, and when a person has a certain kind of problem, yes, it’s difficult for him to think about financial ceilings and so on, he thinks about how to solve this problem, and if he found some kind of speaker, yes, who talks about the ceiling and so on and so on further, and at least a small part of him was hooked, and it helped him, god willing, you know, this is the story, there are no speakers here that can say some things, your patients who achieved success went through all these marathons of desires, schools of growth there, well, i don’t know this information,

information businessmen, and what they say, well, they came to me in the end to treat their problems , their pain, which, that is, you say, walk, walk, then you will come to me more often and naturally, this is such a story, this is what, what is this these marathons are like motivation, to motivate, you know, to motivate for something, but one person has such a charismatic leadership component, the other does not, he... doesn’t need it, he needs something else, you understand, everything is individual, marathons - this is generally accepted information, yes, as a belief, yes, how to see something, some example, how it can be, a push, a push, in part, but everything is very individual, there is theory, and there is practice, we are going to cut the appendix into a practitioner, not a theorist at an institute, so that he cut our lives, svetlana, this is our whole concept , doesn’t it lead to poverty of consciousness, that is, we become richer

materially, we actually become consumers, we push ourselves to a higher level of consumption, isn’t spiritual poverty behind everything? this? this is a very accurately noted fact about what psychology is, this is science and soul, we live in a society, yes, contact is important to us, emotional, intellect, what is this achievement, consumerism aimed at, yes, what? to buy a new thing, yes, to earn more money, but what about you, what about you, that is , we simply include spiritual development in one of the zones of growth points, that is, we definitely include an increase in the level of consumption in our spiritual development too, necessarily, that is , we begin to go to theaters, museums, study the history of cities, culture, architecture. 100%

this is mandatory, this is observation, this understanding, yes, that there is something else, some kind of observation is a good term in general, yes, tell me, svetlana, do you have such advice, this is what we said, our life hacks, and you tell people, write it all down, you recommend that they write it all down so that they can read it sometimes, necessarily, because we come back, what is it, a person has a neural connection, what is this experience? experience, yes, on which i rely, and i periodically look at how i should do it, and how i should think, yes, but the most important thing is that i i recommend this to everyone... between feeling and action, take a pause, think, put this checkbox, yes, think , this is what i really need, this is how i want to do it, or i don’t want to do it, you can write down your emotion like since this will be that very necessary pause and at the same time realize it, as you said, write it down, you know how to come, write it down, yes, you can do that, but at the moment when

some situations occur, yes, for example, you someone said without thinking. went into effect, flew out of yourself, let's start do some actions, and when you stop, think about what to say, who are rich people, these are truly rich people, these are happy people, this is the state inside each person, the state of how you feel, if i think, i’m chasing, who am i offended me, who upset me, yes, i am all in these thoughts, in fears, i serve these fears and thoughts, all... the energy goes there, point, realize the emotion, stop and not take action, put it in first place, at zero , before information, yes, yes, 100%, realize, what is happening to me now, what i want, exactly to stop, this slowdown allows me to feel, feelings arise in the body, yes, there is a sucking in the pit of my stomach, for example

, yes, this is a feeling, this is a state in the body, a sensation, and what a feeling of hunger. and the need to eat, so slowing down is a stop, that stop within yourself in order to feel this feeling, how do i feel now, and how do i feel next to this person, and am i comfortable with him, or am i stepping on my own throat, or am i betraying myself, everything, and when i betray myself, i begin to swallow it all, swallow, swallow and the glass overflows, everything results in an effect, great, let’s sum it up briefly, that is, the most important advice is not to act in a state of effect, that is , try to analyze all your emotions, sort them into shelves, determine where they come from, and the main thing is what they can lead to, yes, but through understanding the other, why this happened, because everything happens in interaction, this is point number zero, then the steps of transition from poverty to wealth, the first

step is an information drink, observation, that is, we observe, we absorb the information of examples, we try each of them on ourselves, the second step, after the zero and the first - we do not see obstacles, we perceive each obstacle as a point of growth and continue to move forward and never give up, point number three , we record all our successes, do not allow ourselves to belittle them and do not allow others to belittle them, naturally, rely on your opinions, knowledge, visions about yourself, and do not settle for less, and the last key point, right? cultivating a specialist within yourself is a task be the best in your field, then you will be in demand, then you will have money. on this most wonderful note, i propose to end our program, because the topic is truly immense, like psychology, like the human brain, thank you very much, svetlana, for today you revealed to us and gave us the first three steps and a zero and some final

point, like come to wealth, how to go from that state... well, there is poverty and lack of fulfillment in which you are now to the path to success and prosperity, thank you thank you very much for inviting me, let's get started, oh, i can't, i've arrived, hello, hello, welcome.

hello people, listen to the decree, people of the city, in my name, by god's grace, we, peter ii, emperor. and the autocrat of all russia, we command the festival of kindness to be held for the eighth time, take away the measure, well, i like it well here, music, songs, cheers, sun, partying!

well, zakhar, welcome again, city of petrov,

peter and paul fortress, yes, 320 years of the city of st. petersburg, white nights, mood, let's go, let's see who came, let's get acquainted , yes, yes, yes, yes, for example, what a beautiful cossack girl, where are you from, belgorod region, village of khotmysh, sing, sing, sing for us. sodyonushka was walking there sosnovy dontsy dombovy klentsy oh yes , don’t shy away from you, my heart sasnovy dontsy dobovy klyentsy, oh yes, don’t shy away from me, this one? bravo, look, what a beauty, young girl, balalaika, where , where, from samara olizran came from, what is your name,

sasnaya, but milka cheated on me, i cried stupidly, i went for a walk with someone else, any five nakiva, remember, you are as sweet as falling in love. you gave me lilacs, called me yours, and i won’t give up, you said, one more, let’s sound good, oh , she’s mine, she’s mine, without understanding anything, oh, everything

is on his heels, take your wheel, give me my gloves, well done, anya , well done, thank you, great, what a yakut, son of a yakut, come on, come here, invite us , you have a real horse tail, you are a yakut, also real, and where from yakutia, it’s big, what ulus do you have, suntarsky ulus, what, i didn’t hear, suntarsky ulus, suntarsky, ok, so what?

i suarganinan bitin tottan, as if you were going to nakonda, okay, i arrived in st. petersburg, lured me, there were bonfires and lights all around, then i met you on the yaluna night. i won’t let you go home, on a jay of roses and kamonda, and i will always be with you, like a short wife, and i will always be with you, i am like a woman’s short,

with me an accordion i will take all the songs only about love, i will hug you tightly and kiss you yes , i won’t let you go home for zorkeros at dawn. cold i will always be with you i am so wifely very short and i will always be with you oh how

the night is short and i will always be with you oh how short the nights are oh how short, how short the night is, a simple rural guy , anatoly poluyanov, haven’t seen each other for 100 years, it’s great, really, hello, you’re a komi or a komi-permyak, komi-permyak from the city of kudymkor, perm, kudymkovsky district, and you’re already playing, you can’t, right when you speak, you immediately play, you think in the komi language or in russian, in komi in russian, and then greet all the spectators with approval and play harmonies of burlundag , hello to everyone who is in love with the accordion, peace health to you and a low bow, beautiful,

old woman, but without you the village is deaf, i came to you in the village to play, but i need a new shirt for my baby’s belly. the accordion was stained, and the quotation marks were made, with only the topkin. oh, remember, small, that place where i persuaded, white snow underfoot, melted to the ground, here is my town, oh when, umalsadu

molaytsy, the post office for the accordion walks, come on, dear, washed up, have fun, we are not somewhere we are in our homeland, ancient people called this place peramaa, which means distant land, so it was until then, until catherine the great decided to found the capital of the ural mountains here. and now it’s a feather, one two, one, but the fact that i’m without a skirt is

normal, normal, men dance too, russian people are different, they want to understand why you’re crazy and you love nature. they understand faster than german. are you going to lunch? i don’t care much about this, i still don’t eat what they eat, our robot even has such a nickname all over the world, kalashnikov from work equipment, let’s sit down and go deeper. is it possible to get stuck somewhere? if you get stuck, what should you do? well, you can come down a little, then come out later, the life of your own, the premiere, today. on the first! old barrel cognac is a product of the stellar group, what kind of idiot even wrote this letter, and what

a cool, cool kostya kinchy, they really could have been imprisoned, because rock musicians were imprisoned, if roman kostamarov had not been a famous legendary athlete, you would have fought for him in exactly the same volume, any celebrity who gets into shock... will end up on the same bed, on the same machine ecmo, on the same apparatus and we don’t have any divisions, consideration of the case of kamilla valieva and of course, they want geniuses like her, because she is truly a genius, they want this to be born in their countries, because if she is on our side, we will defeat them always , any person who wants to adequately assess the present, of course, must know history, now they don’t ask, it was you who flew into space, now they say, it was you who starred in the film challenge. but it’s different for me, he tells me, well, you flew with yulia, i say, no, it’s strange, so similar, he says, you flew, i know that you recently had a very difficult accident

, i flew from the back seat forward, i have a concussion, a man got into a standing accident at a speed of 110, he didn’t brake at all, podcast lap, all nights with you, i was just returning home and... thinking about life , don’t say anything, but life is wiser than all of us living and wise, hello, you love me, and if you love me, you must obey me, you will obey, yes, in this house temperamental people live, look, oh, shadow theater, well, at least about the father i thought, and you’re thinking about him, the person needs to be intimidated, or moved to pity, yeah, this night will end in the police, i feel it. good evening, son, how are you, dad, blood, no, i told you what’s the matter, nina, great joy, listen, brother, where have you been, i can’t look at you, i just want to cry, you

won’t stand on ceremony with me about this, you don’t need me, you rubbish, get out, well , in general, i’m glad that you found me, but i don’t want to be your brother anymore, what? but what kind of people are you? the eldest son is on the first day today. oh, look, dear tv viewers, what a beauty, a new facility was opened in our beloved st. petersburg this year, very nice, very cozy, for tourists, for relaxation, wonderful, and labyrinths, and skating rinks, almost palm trees, a paradise forest, one might say, this one is a delight, of course it's a wonderful city and we're glad we came here.

for dobrovidenie, for the international festival dobrovidenie, this is the eighth time it’s been held, we’re on the fourth, that is, we’ve definitely visited half of it, yes, we hope that this dobrovina will give us new meetings, we’ll meet old acquaintances, and of course, we’ll make you happy, dear tv viewers, sing, walk and dance, really, and have fun without looking back. vibakt, russia, vivakt, st. petersburg, iva dobrovina.

so, what are your favorite filming locations and play accordions? one of the most favorite things is a boat , so that we, yes, so that we can be in st. petersburg and not go, go sailing on a boat, this has probably never happened, but as you can see, we are not the only ones, that’s why people are catching up, the sunset is approaching, because the most important thing will be, the attraction of the white nights. in the city of st. petersburg, look at the bridges, how many ships, yachts, boats, horses, in people, yes, there are a lot of people there, i don’t know if they’ll take a camera, but it’s clear that people are waiting there, and we are waiting, waiting,

they are flying by, young goats, and i am from surgut girl, i sing in surgut, i will cross all the seas in front of the balats, and we are pictor guys, we will not get lost anywhere. as we go, we’ll take off the wheels and open up all the bridges, right, at the bridge, at the bridge, at the bridge on the bridge, on the neva, on the neva, everyone’s just sad,

don’t give it to this one, don’t give it to that one, because all his diesel fuel is gone. my leningrad, my dear brother, my rosina,

i'm coming from the mountains.

where, where do these cossacks come from, and the terek

cossacks, that means they come out, they wanted to ask zakhar who the masurians are, well, guys, lads. he's coming, the masurians are coming, who are the masurians, the robbers, the robbers, the robbers, a little bit like those who lie in a bad place, where they sleep more softly, and those where the food is tastier, and, in general, the masurians, our people, ours, ours, greetings from voronezh, dedicated to the 320th anniversary of the city of st. petersburg, oh, little head , i can’t live through the evening, i can live this evening

, they buried me in the evening.