[000:00:00;00] that moment when, in which some soviet truth was laid, i would say, from which in the future all young people who tried to live and preach some principles in their lives were based, that is, panfilov for this story, which was written by the screenwriter of the previous generation needed a new actress, and somewhere in some television program, it seems, he saw inna churikova, and perhaps their acquaintance looked the way it looked in the film. but mostly her roles are small, for example, in yashaga in moscow, how to draw a horse, how to draw a horse, yes, yes, she was one of those heroines of the creative competition in which nikita mikhalkov’s character, who drew a horse, participated in the race, there were two teams, one of which featured the heroine nichurikova, you can’t seem to notice unless you specifically look, but at the same time she’s still noticeable there, that is

, it’s impossible to miss, yes, well, probably, for more viewers, she was remembered in the film drizzly, yes, mamash, eyebrows, girl, very, and by the way, in 6 she also starred in the role of such a minor friend of the main character in the film big sister. why is this important, why is it interesting, because our main character, leonid kuravlev, played in this film, but they didn’t seem to converge, they didn’t bring their storylines together, and leonid kuravlev by this time... has been filming since the late fifties, he already by the mid-sixties , a really famous actor in the leading role, but he has such a role that is a little strange, he is not a victorious hero, as in yashek in moscow, he is not a hero-lover, not an ardent communist like urbansky , for example, yes, that is, well, that is, such a heroic trail does not appear behind him and does not appear in his roles, he is rather such a simpleton, rather a guy like

himself. here in the film there lives such a guy, his one of the main roles, iconic roles that created strengthened his authority, his role on the screen, shokshin’s film, in general, made kuravlev famous throughout the country, by that time he was already quite like that all-union star, yes, and inna churikova, despite the fact that she played panfilov has no main role in the fire in the fire, somehow this film is not very popular with the audience and when a couple of years later gabriilovich brought a new application to work with ponfilov and to work with churikova, in principle everyone said, well, that’s in in general, a continuation of that story, and this is again a heroine from the people, who is now our modern heroine, a factory girl who is ugly, this very much seems to me, the right move, very direct, it is clear that inna

churikova is a special actress. gabrilovich to come up with one story to understand what is possible to write further, it is the corneto that makes no difference to him, whether in the side or in the forehead, he penetrates 1300 mm behind dynamic protection, recently they were hit for the first time from this weapon. 35 years old, still a boy, he heads the instrument engineering design bureau in tula, he said, i always demand the impossible.

this is an anti-aircraft missile and gun complex , the remains of the bpalaktar that we shot down, the sky is under reliable protection, we created a direction that ensured, and now ensured, that superiority, by the day of the missile forces and artillery, on sunday on the first. today we are specialists in the film the beginning of gleb panfilov, it was important to show in the film that our heroine, pasha, does not achieve her success, we don’t even know yet whether there will be success, it’s easy, it was necessary to show that she not only has problems in her personal life , but she doesn’t always cope with filming, and at the same time we understand that the relationship between director panfilov and actress churikova

would be right for her, for her, knowing even some of her habits, even the studio director spoke about this, he visited me, spent 10 days with panfilov and churikova and said: well, i understand, what are you doing to it, maybe tone it down a little, maybe make it a little more difficult, but at the same time there is kuravlev’s recollection that it wasn’t very easy for him on the set, remember, he actually complained, that he gave his all, tried to do something so interesting on the set, and ponfilov somehow calmly said, redo it there, and let’s do kuravlevo again... it really offended me greatly, touched me, and there are legends about it, yes, i heard stories from one of our producers about how yes wonderful soviet director panfilov, well, he behaved very rudely towards the wonderful soviet actor leonid kuravlev, they just retell it, as

if it just happens sometimes in a dialogue, when some stories are told, that is , people’s imagination still lives on, yes, there is a biography of kuravlev, very detailed, where a separate chapter is simply dedicated to this whole story about how hard it was for him to film. at first, i wanted us to watch a piece where the director was performed by yuri klepikov bullies pasha stroganova on set. no , they're bothering me, they're bothering me, they're bothering me, fyodor vasilyevich, they're bothering me, let me go, i'm not crazy, this is, well, let me go, quickly, someone give me the moves, calm down, cedi, stop it,

it’s also impossible, give me a saw, a saw, a saw, a saw, which one is more in the way, the left or the right, oh why , my hand doesn’t bother me, now you’ll find out why this is, no need, i understood everything, i understood everything, now i’ll do everything, that's right, i remember. that this second director is played by a real second director, this is really the character is lonely, played by the second director of the film, who actually worked on this film and the film, so we talked about the fact that in this film there is more than one film, and not only the love story of pasha stroganova, not only a comedy about the peculiarities of filmmaking, cinema and cinema, but also a third the film is the story of joan of arc, a medieval epic, and a heroic story, which seems to have its own laws and this, of course, led to some bewilderment, in general, when so much is mixed in one film, it always confuses the audience critics.

in the sixties, you can very often come across some kind of reviews that are called a genre, but what, yes, these complaints are addressed to self-contained films, for example, the film beware of the car, when the critic does not understand, in fact, which film is dealing with a comedy, with a detective story and some other film, here everything becomes even more complicated by the end of the sixties, and the director gives us three films for the price of one, as they would say today, this is the story about joan of arc, because where the film begins, yeah look at us they are deliberately deceiving us, when the credits of the film begin, we see a story about the trial of joan of arc, at this moment the camera, after some kind of liminal scene, moves away and we see the general scene, which turns out to be... actually a film set, which is not the truth is the middle ages, and this is true filming, they show us how film production works, yes, that is, it’s like this sudden transition from one genre to another, made due to camera work, but in

fact completely changes the understanding of what kind of film we are watching , and this happens very often throughout the film, we have a scene of the execution of joan of arc, which, well, in general gives the impression of a scene that could have been... in the film the life of joan of arc, that is, this scene was in the beginning of the film, but joan of arc could have been in the film, it would have been an auto remake, but in general, from the beginning of the film we see what the film could have been, color, probably full-length, wide screen, wide format, gleb ponfilov’s film the life

of jeanne dark, an unmade movie, a favorite section. give me a cross, give me a cross. give me some gr. what went wrong, what went wrong, dreher managed to film a danish director who made an absolutely french film called the gift, but in the twenties in silent films with a french actress in france, however, the main question is for a character named jeanne arc , the directors always have the following question: where do these voices come into their heads, how is it all, where does it wake up inside the heroine

, this passion, this desire to change the world, the desire to start a revolution, start a war, transform something, where does it come from? everything is taken, and each director, in depending on the era, your personal taste, it decides in its own way, well, actually, what happened to this panfilov project, it became one of the many projects that were not embodied on the screen. unfortunately, on the one hand, it was a matter of money, it was a really expensive production, the french, of course, were not particularly eager to finance it, as one can conclude from some documents, we don’t have very many documents about this film, of course, but unfortunately not so many documents have been preserved, but there is a version indirect, which confirms that the soviet leadership, in general, did not want to touch on this topic much, but panfelov wrote the script in line with marxism-lenism.

he received feedback from academician skazkin, the name of the historian , who said that everything about joan of arc is correct, but at some point inna churikova writes a letter to comrade germashash, the head of the then mutography department, who says that i am for the sake of this project i gave up everything, that is, i ’m putting it off, that is, my personal life, i’m not involved in other roles, why don’t you are you launching this film into production, why don’t you give the green light, as they write... source, ermash didn’t even respond to this letter, he ordered to just put it under the carpet and forget it, that’s why we don’t have the film jeanne d’arc, the next film by panfilov and churikov came out only in the seventy-fifth year, i just asked for the floor, that’s how long it took them to let go of the previous project, but we have the film beginning, which received the komsomol prize in the early seventies, and as i said, churikov received recognition from the audience

, but this still doesn’t fully tell us why we should watch this film now, for me, of course, this is different, that’s why we need to watch this film, which by some very, very subtle transition instantly transforms into a completely different character, you understand that it was one character, pasha stroganova, and then zhonna dark suddenly appeared, you have no doubt that this is not pasha stroganova, who plays zhonna dark, but a real zheladarka, yes, her work, even you can't call it a game it’s... incredible because it seems so simple, just think , she played one, played another, played this girl suddenly played joan of arc, she makes it so easy, so simple that every time it’s like such a thin ligature , it’s just some kind of filigree, i don’t know, medieval quality, yes, that’s what the watch was used for, at the stake. blood and so on, and from this comes something so embroidered with gold, incredibly

beautiful, and this is also, of course, a reason to watch this film, but also something that maybe we haven’t said enough about, humor, then as far as panfilov succeeded here , again, to talk about everything, well, quite easily, but about the absurdity, it is a very spectator film, that is , it does not present any particular difficulty, yes, this is not some kind of festival film. it is deep, but at the same time it does not scare itself away, does not push itself away from the screen, and in fact, this is exactly the topic of our podcast, from einstein, these are films and the skill of directors that do not repel and not cinema is not for everyone, yes, but cinema for everyone, just how cinema becomes such an art that is capable of attracting absolutely any viewer to the screen, even himself. cinema, and it was a podcast of witnesses from einstein, where two

film historians, me, natalya ryabchikova and my colleague , stanislav didinsky, talk about how, by whom, why, classic, unknown, cult, famous, never-before -seen soviet films were made , we are trying to help modern viewers watch these films with great interest, with great understanding and great pleasure, until we meet again. thank you, see you again on the screen. you have you been brought up since how old? i was 8 years old, a tough upbringing that my mother allowed. punish me, i could get hit on the head with a bream, slap on the head, for what - were they punished? i had a very favorite rabbit, i came after school and talked to him and he insisted that you were not adequate, my mother did not like that not everything was going according to her plan, and if the house was not cleaned after school, the dishes were not washed, could get a frying pan, a plate could be thrown at a child, we didn’t have

family outings, we didn’t have family i sat and the conversation started about the fact that you need to be checked by a gynecologist when i ran away from home, 14 years old. they also needed to take you to a psychiatrist, they asked me a question, why did you run away, i naturally said directly, i say, i’m already tired, just the butt, my mother was very nervous, worried, now, for example, now i understand it, what’s it like it’s hard, if my child did something like this, you beat your child, you beat a child, no, i don’t spoil her, i’m a very strict parenting, strict is not the plan there to beat her and scold her, now the relationship with mom has improved, yes , thank god, for a long time we could not communicate normally, why was he never... not heated with a frying pan, that ’s all for this, masha got it very badly, in this situation , you are not a very good mother, that is , i must admit, why are you crying, baby? perhaps it’s my mother’s and my mistake, that at the age of 16 we should have hugged each other, told them that i didn’t like anyone, i kissed someone, everyone told me that i gave birth to a child early,

you can’t give me any education, i i really tried to make an ideal out of her, meet the first zhenya, hello, hello, my name is ruslan, it was very nice, sitting in the room, watched it on tv, ordered two tickets to minsk, it’s myself, thank you, ruslan, 24 years old, owner of a mobile accessories store , dreams of scaling his business , lives in minsk, is proud that he is his own boss, admits that he does not like to give holy gifts, warns that he will be in charge. he was like his mother, so i didn’t understand his jokes at all, i hope that maria will be on the same wavelength with him, hello, i can, hello, it’s very nice to see you, and we want to give you a small, cute, but pleasant bouquet, thank you,

thank you very much, your friend doesn’t like to give flowers, but you do it with pleasure, thank you very much, but why so greedy? not greedy in principle, but what then ruslan, somehow i don’t know, no bullshit , of course 2 days after this , you need to throw away yes you need to give away gifts, if you give correctly, the guy takes care of his teeth , i think that this is important, this is an indicator of personal hygiene, which i have a good attitude towards, you like adult women, well, in general, yes, i had a girlfriend, so you came for my mother then or something, but not really for my daughter , i would like it, she’s still 21 years old, yes, i had an older relationship, that’s all for me girls, well, like 30 plus, there’s 35, and i’m kind of tired of it, i want to find someone my own age and move on with her, build a family, and what happened at that age, well, there was already a family, there i think it was too much for them, you were 20 years old and she was 44, i had

22, and she was 44, i think maybe his mother is more suitable for him, we need to see who he will pay more attention to, and did your mother know yours? well, not right away, but then i had to get acquainted, and what my mother said, well, no matter how closely i introduced her personally, because she had a husband and we only met, yes, we only met when she said that goes for a walk with her friends, in the end, and so you were just her lover, fresh blood, probably it was her husband who was her lover, i already thought so, acquired a young boy whom she just i kept her next to me for fun, well, maybe i kept her for fun. well, of course, now it’s ego, ego, just tell me straight, what kind of jokes are there that she couldn’t stand, my friends told me that why do you need like me there, well, i’m so old, you know, like, yes, grandma is there, like , in a couple of years she’s already approaching 50, like, what are you going to do with her, like, well, i kind of told them that i’m not there for serious people, well, it’s clear that i told her there that it’s serious, well,

kind of a feeling, that’s what i had to do somehow the night, uh, spent the night, well, the night together there was a matter of vezazh, as if he fell asleep. and well, she came in the correspondence, i called her like that, you know, there was a dog, like, that’s what the text message sounded like, and well, it sounded like, now i’ll let the dog go, like, well, i’ll come to you, that’s it, she’s that i read it, saw it, woke me up in tears, left, really liked about this dog’s name in correspondence with my friends, honestly, my opinion, that’s how i feel, there was no desire there to offend my woman or anything in this way, you know, usually a man, well, after girls runs around, tutuna has already started to run after me, but my breed was similar to the breed, but everything is puzel and mos, okay, it’s like a dog, so it’s like, right away, like, i was trying to achieve it, and then , you know, i already it became as if, well, because to me, why did you break up, were you jealous of her husband or she broke up with you when you were young, because you know, it was

somehow all at once how to say, like on both sides, like love, then, well, sort of i knew that she was married, but she told me, like in 3 months, like wait, like 3 months will be divorce, 3 months pass, she tells me again, like, wait there for 2 months and get a divorce, well, like, how long can you wait, like , you know, it’s already been six months, and then she cheated on you, well, it was, yes, in short, i celebrated it’s my birthday with friends, i go to the club, and she’s sitting there with the guy, well , she’s dancing there next to her knees, everything seems to have completely turned me off, listen, what’s the lock , what did she have, that she’s with her living lover and more someone there in the club behind them had a house and as if she says like the husband is there on she lives on the second floor, and i’m on the third, i say , well, what’s the point of a husband then, in general, like, well , to hold on, well, to live together, i didn’t understand, well, she had children there, she had two children. this one is not ready for responsibility, we are already minus one competitor, we are waiting for a second groom, you want your girl to be a housewife, the main thing is to cook well, if

she doesn’t cook well, i read it out, and if something happens, i have to make up her strength, i will cook, like this? by force, well damn, i think she sees that the husband must, well, the husband comes hungry, what kind of force will be the force used, well, i’m definitely not going to raise my hand, how to do this only if you feel unwell, but you’re... just a little mouse, check the food that she will cook for you with force? no, well, there definitely won’t be any hand-holding either, and i think it’s strong, well, maybe i’ll try to talk somewhere , well, that means mendelssohn, please tell me, this craving for older women in young boys, what does this mean, but i don’t know, it’s somehow you are mendelssohn, or what? the second artificial intelligence has appeared, tell me , dear, what kind of thing is this? now i’m going to unplug you from the outlet, ruslan.

in fact, psychologists say that almost a quarter of young men choose mature women as wives. often they really look for a second mother in this partner, older women are preferred by the sons of single mothers, quite often, but experts believe that these relationships... will not happen, yes, because here i was courted by a couple of young men, i think that they think that i’m rich, but they don’t know that i’m greedy, i’d rather buy something for a child, not a car for him, because grown women should spend money on young lovers, mendelssohn, do you think this is fair? i absolutely agree with you, so who helped anyone with money, were you your older lover or she sometimes gave it to you, well, it was all right away... of course, at the time i went to the cafeteria there, i went to restaurants, i courted her, then she rented for her money apartment for us to spend time, and well, it was me already, when she

started renting, it was like, well, she was indifferent, so i think, well, just i took it off, i think not, if it was used by her, as for her benefit , satisfaction of herself and him in the same way, just warmth between two people, i just encourage you, i give five points to the class, and you also warn that your word is law? well, yes, i think this is true in all respects, well, yes, i think yes, yeah, no, no, you have the right, and also, regarding money, i was really interested in this, yes, that is, that means you you think you will manage, listen carefully, he will manage the budget in the family, that is, all cash flows flock to him, there is a wallet, a pocket, i don’t know where, and why, because the man must have the money, and the girl must come to him and ask for this money, including her own, as i understand it, all cash flows flow to you, no no, well, like

, what the girl earned there, well, i think that should be hers, but what she wants there, well, like, there are additional expenses of her own, well , for a cosmetologist there, for example, for herself, there, i think, let them spend it on themselves, that’s right, with their own money, no, but i i also think like a guy, why yes, because your word is law, it bothers you that maria has a two-year-old child, no, it’s not repulsive at all, because i say, i have... almost many girls with whom i, she also had a child, okay, show me a surprise, i wonder what kind of surprise she will have, she will sing, dance, or maybe show some kind of trick, only today a deadly act,

taming a dangerous cobra. these outfits fit, yes, well done, thank you, very beautiful number, of course, i wouldn’t call this girl cobra, i would call her anaconda, because i have a feeling that she is not at all subject to his flute, how do you like the groom, lyubov mikhailovna, mm, the groom is okay, but he is not suitable for masha, masha more

needs someone so powerful that her ego, so to speak , a little - but why break it? and there is no need to break her, she must fall in love and so that she can, as it were, give wonderful moments to this person, and why don’t you like ruslanchik , it seems to me that he is very soft, he is not soft at all, he is just young, he is 24 years old , he's not ready for anyone yet nothing, he had adult women for entertainment, because an adult woman does not pretend to anything, and next to them he was absolutely free from all... obligations, that’s interesting, maria will go to her husband, because ruslan is from minsk in general, she shouldn’t decide about ruslan, you see, it depends on the daughter who to choose, that’s right , so i think, let’s see what she says, maria, and what do you say, how do you like ruslan, it was an original surprise, but i’m very fond of him a lot of questions, and you can ask, yes, what questions, well,

first of all, why did he decide that someone would write? under the vodka, the second point about the food, why did he decide that he would decide who would cook, because in the world of adults, and since the last century it has been this way, a woman, a home, a family, a kitchen, comfort, peace, cleanliness, that’s all on a woman, a man protects his family, common children, he’s a spoilsport, he’s normal, and if you’re such a philipper today, pouting your lips, you say , i’m like, yes, i won’t cook, i’ll earn more than he does, i’ll be like that, dance to the tune i won’t, no one should toe the tune dance, you are not ready at all, just even on a ten-point scale of 0.5 for a family, you are absolutely not ready, mash, just like in adolescence you resisted your parents’ upbringing, you did n’t want to hear anything, you don’t want to now, okay, he i am ready to bear responsibility for my

financial waste and training. then i have to cook, who in general, how which of the men is even ready to do this? so, which woman is ready to be a housewife, a worker, please tell me, is there love in your family, did you cook? i cook, yes, that is, for you this is the norm, that is, you understand, yes, that your mother did this, your grandmother, yes, that is, you understand that the children came from school, they should have the first, second compote, right, yes, why is your daughter, so, who was she so brainwashed? i don’t know, well, the queen, i’ve had her like this since childhood. you’re ready to take her to yourself, well, of course, i’m saying, if i weren’t ready, i would say, but you see, if i like a girl from any side, i’ll take her to me, the main thing is that she wants it, that ’s what well done my stepfather, he can sometimes get up to cook for yourself, but it also happens because of this scandal that she has to cook, i believe that if a man wants a woman to work on an equal footing with her, then be on an equal footing, if not, then take her away from work, let her she cooks, washes, and i’m ready

to wash my socks with my hands if my husband provides all my financial support. no, i’m ready to spend some amount, i don’t know, for some household items, yes, but in general i won’t, i want to save my child for a good school, everything in life has laws, there is such a law, if you say, i want live in a couple with a man, and it doesn’t matter whether you have an official marriage or not, you want to receive affection from him. some kind of care, some kind of warmth, you must also give him, except for this one, i won’t dance to your tune, which means there will be someone who will cook for him, who will greet him, you know, like a woman, and before that another 12 hour shift from work, yes, if not , for god’s sake, then don’t go into a relationship, don’t make women out of your men, why do men make

men out of us, who makes men out of you, neither one man who... comes, doesn’t declare, but i want her to plow from morning to night, i want her to give money to the common wallet, i want her to buy meat every sunday, no, they say, please, her money is for him, dad, hers . didn’t kill her, he fucked her, now she’s disgusted, now she, i want a queen now, i want to dictate , it won’t happen like that, lyuba, the girl needed it, of course, this is something during the life of the story, if a man takes you away from work , will pull all the financial waste, then i’ll cook, daughter, potential single mother, not a single normal man, and you know who a normal man is, will agree to such a philosophy, mother-in-law, god bless everyone , definitely will not agree, a priori man, the one you choose, this shouldn’t even be discussed, he should work, earn money, take care of it, and bring some piece of meat to you with grapes, you know, well

, what you owe for the family, this shouldn’t be discussed either, you know, well, by the way, there was an exchange with my mother, maybe something like that, there eskra arrived too, maybe it did, well, i i don’t know, meet the second groom, come in. maria, hello, hello, my name is danil, i smell your perfume, and it shows me once again much more clearly that something unforgettable and enchanting is waiting for us. i hope danil, 28 years old, head of the supply department at an energy company, is proud to have a swimming rank, admits that he is a perfectionist in everyday life

, a sex machine in bed, warns that he is not ready to support a woman and solve her problems. danil forgave his beloved betrayals, let them down money, pleased her in bed and patiently waited for reciprocity, hoping that maria would not play with his feelings. hello, hello, this one is already older, 28 years old, looks more confident, bed sex machine , he says, but this is a very bold statement, immediately on the shore you announce that you will not solve a woman’s problems and support her, although i am in a previous relationship with you that's exactly what they were doing. yes, in fact, this was the case, in all my past relationships, in particular, i did exactly this, maybe in some degree, i expressed myself very harshly and not entirely correctly, i strive, why is it incorrect, you just expressed your wishes,

your reluctances, you have the right, what’s wrong with this, in my model of behavior, relationships with a girl, with a wife, with a future woman, of course, i i strive to take a leadership position, well, you won’t take it out on them for past grievances, no, under no circumstances, this is my... directly principled position, i give every new person a new round, and what about this woman i cheated on , you are everything to her forgive me, tell me? the situation was a stalemate, for me from the very beginning, i should have been more far-sighted, but i was young and stupid , accordingly, i could not completely separate myself, very much, even extremely, i would say, he just unrequitedly loved his girlfriend, and she loved him cheated, i don’t know, it seems to me that this is generally for a guy, it’s a knife to the heart, i just didn’t have time to discern in time, let’s say... the true motives and true desire of this girl, and how old was she? she was 2 years older than me, that is, if you count those years, then 24, well, i’m 24 years old too drank your brother’s blood, so be

it, is this normal in your younger years, when she is not your wife, you are not her husband? i was no one to her at that time, i just didn’t take into account one moment, that the girl was married, and you were such a blue-eyed boy for fun, you were green-eyed now too, well, yes. yes, it wasn’t just for fun, that is, the situation was why were you needed when you were still a young boy? there was a thought coming from her, which sounded like i had a bet with someone on her, that i would prove to you, friend, that i i will be able to spend some time with her together and so on, i was surprised by this judgment, i sincerely just walked because i liked her appearance and how, but she used you financially or physically, more i used myself, to be honest into her picture of the world. i tried to fit in, she allowed me to do this and deftly tried to control me like a puppeteer, but what was the picture, at least describe a couple of moments, she is married, she has a child, right? no, no, no, but

she was married, she had an unpleasant the situation with her husband specifically, after which her husband told her to go to court, that is, once, twice, she was left alone not in her hometown, but in my hometown, she was left, roughly speaking, abandoned by everyone. here you meet, i was naive, that is, i was just scrolling through, well, like a popular social network, i saw a photo of this girl, the first... the thoughts in my head that were born to me, this is ha, a pretty girl of my taste, and most likely she lives with his parents, studies at the university, it won’t be difficult for me at all, these are not my first relationship, repeat the whole scenario of a past relationship with her, well, apparently i feel that it will work out better with her, you had a relationship with her, we had love first, she left her husband or continued to live with him , she was divorced at the moment when i met her, that is, she already had no relationship with this man, absolutely none,

why didn’t you move in together or was it too early? i was not yet mature, i was a fourth-year university student, i lived in my hometown, i had an apartment, but it wasn’t invited you to live with me, of course, i was a gift, i needed it, so naturally, she had other relationships with other men, that’s right, they were, but hidden, and you see, he tolerated it, which means, well, maybe there’s a real there was love, it seems, if there was love, we would still be together to this day, but you also see, time has passed , we broke up, so it’s not like that... or there was love, and you, uh, somehow fantasized about future, well, we understood that in a year or two you would become her husband, you would have a family, or deep down i understood that i she doesn’t love me, and she doesn’t need me for nothing, but they wanted this very love, they wanted it with her , well, they somehow achieved it, but did things that were no longer done later, was more reckless and was, well, give some example , you bought, for example, i don’t know, i bought 10 one rose, more than once in my life it was for this girl

that i didn’t buy it for anyone else to this day. did she appreciate it? she smiled, but appreciated, i think, the concept, tell me, was she financially independent, firmly on her feet? after her husband left, she was left in difficult financial situation, she needed people's infusions, that is, be it me, be it someone else, and just, well, let's say, it wasn't enough, now as a psychologist i've already gone through my life, my experience, i understand that this is an absolutely incorrect model behavior when you try to do everything for her. in the questionnaire, you clearly wrote that you warn for the girl, you will not take any responsibility, he believes that she should take responsibility for herself and stands confidently on her own two feet. an example of what kind of responsibility are we talking about? it's not that i don't want to contain, i i just want our thoughts to move in one direction and we create something, and not so far

that i’m an example of what to create? do you want to build a house, my dream, i want to build myself a house and i want my wife to want to live in the house too, but no, look, it doesn’t bother you that maria has a two-year-old daughter, it doesn’t bother me in any way, just because i think she’s happy that she has a daughter, tell me, doesn’t it bother you that she’s so obsessed with this, why should she cook, in general, why should she to be a woman, so she wants to put on beautiful lingerie in the morning, you should defrost the cheesecake there, i want to say this, that is, i ’m a little bit in this area, probably the wrong man, i don’t... i don’t know, firstly, for everyday life, everyday life , i like to take care of it myself, that is, cleaning is for me, well, it’s my part , it’s my soul, i get wild pleasure , okay, and you also do a little bit of post-making, cook some borscht, stick some cutlets there, i hate cooking with all my heart, well, i asked about cooking and not about the fact that i won’t go near the stove to cook in any case, this is unacceptable for me and a woman must cook or you will defrost semi-finished products, so of course i don’t eat semi-finished products, i am an athlete in

the past and i remain gray. well, that’s why, but just let there be something and you feed the child, prepare even dumplings, even dumplings, no, there won’t even be budebrodov, yes, i said that i will cook the vow, dinner , since the man will work, he will eat somewhere in establishments, because i too i’ll earn no less than him, i’m listening , she needs a guy who earns money significantly more than her and can finance her in all her requests and some moments, approximately a month, let it be 100,000, i earn more, then i cook breakfast, feed the whole family, he goes to work, i leave my job, the child goes to kindergarten and then it’s like, well, everyone, and then everyone eats separately, and in the evening you say goodbye, and saturday, sunday, well, saturday, no problem, if it’s my day off, i can cook food, i can calmly, by the way, how do you feel about sex, yes it’s normal, please show me surprise what?

do you think what kind of surprise he has prepared, well, damn, i don’t know, maybe he’ll sing, dance, it’s interesting, of course, damn, if he hugs my future wife, of course, i won’t forgive him for this, you have a very interesting story, you and i are very similar, i also ran away from home, seven times, but it was really tenth or eleventh grade. minshes don’t run away, no one scolds minshes. and that’s it, quickly, the bride, apparently she didn’t even have time to feel anything, how do you like danila, well

, honestly, for now it’s like that, looking after, because something that won’t be held responsible and won’t take on any, i don’t know, problems, this is... strange for me , that is, i’m used to men immediately starting to help or somehow trying to interact in this, well, you don’t want danil handsome, former athlete, tall, young man, he has a very high opinion of himself as a man, that’s why he says today, why am i going to strain myself, they want me and love me, but his bar is high, he doesn’t need a girl with a child , and even with a character like yours, i agree, but what do you say? yes, good coat, you need to take it, if it doesn’t suit maria, maybe lyubov mikhalovna will take a closer look at it, and lyubov mikhalovna is married , a nice girl, a nice mother, even though she didn’t say a word to me, as it were, but i

read everything in her eyes, i hope to everyone i liked it, meet the third groom, come. hello masha, my name is sergey, i really love sweets, and i already like you very much. sergey, 37 years old, psychologist, works part-time as a digital equipment repairman, lives in moscow, dreams of winning a nobel prize, having lost 23 kg and given up computer games, admits that he eats stress with sweets, watches cartoons, when sergei realized that family life killed his self-esteem, exchanged his wife for a personal psychologist, hope that maria will restore his

faith in love, hello, good afternoon, there is such an expression, pleasant, here is a nice sergei, it’s nice to look at sergei, but for me personally, he seems to evoke only positive emotions in adults. young man, who cut off your wings, who so smeared your self-esteem, wife, in our relationship it happened that i took the position that i must, we had a period when we wanted to buy an apartment, and when i came to moscow, well, to earn money, here i began to engage in earning money, so to speak, that is, i earned, earned, earned, collected money for an apartment, in the end it turned out that i was used to giving, but did not take what i needed, that is, i absolutely did not look after myself, my life, in the end it turned out that if, well , during life, if a person does not take care of himself, he self-esteem simply begins

to fall very strongly, that is, he does not feel his now let’s get these psychological mansas, these, i’ve already heard them and heard them again, just tell me about your life, well, in general, you didn’t live for yourself, but what is this for when...’ apartment, wife, i realized at one fine moment, that i’m tired of living like this, you won’t have rivals, but no, of course, i’ve never had and never will have competitors here, these are good thoughts, all that’s good is to wait, there was a moment when i plucked up the courage and chose in this life exactly yourself, and you already started taking psychology courses, no, then i didn’t i started visiting, but for me there was a video on the internet, i saw it and when the person was a psychologist , he asked directly how the soul looks and asked, are you happy, then i honestly answered myself that i was absolutely unhappy, and i wanted to change my life, in that moment i chose myself, after that the psychologists began, you know how many, these

unfortunate psychologists made lonely people unhappy, how many families they broke up, how they, with this vulgarity and such on top... lead astray, it was normal , what do you a young man came to moscow, worked, earned money for a common cause, for an apartment, you know, and some idiot on the internet clouded your brain and said: “seryozha, you are alone, go ahead, you have the right to be,” you became happier because it’s unlikely that they got divorced, no, no, they didn’t. no, you have melancholy in your eyes, well, here, in fact, everything is clear to me personally, and you don’t even need to be a psychologist, it’s just that sergei most likely at some point in time failed the balance of significance with his girlfriend, failed the inversion of dominance. and accordingly, how she would become a leader. i chose myself, not because i was happy, i chose myself and

then became unhappy, i chose myself because i understood that i didn’t want to live like that. i know my single friends who have been converted, who also chose to live for themselves 165 years ago, so what? well, that’s what they are, they are all lonely, they are unhappy, the point is that why the relationship did not work out, because, firstly, it is very important to know the psychology of the opposite sex. this is all philosophy for nothing, has it cheated on you? no, but did you dream about children? yes, we were thinking about children, but why a child? not born? because they were not confident in each other, but at the same time they earned money for an apartment, yes, but this money went into a common pot, was it divided later, or did you keep it for yourself? when the divorce proceedings began, i decided to just leave... this part of the apartment, which was intended for me, it was she who, what do you think

, liked it so much, at first glance, well, perhaps, even it seems to me, she doesn’t look at him at all, her eyes, what, well, i can’t say yet, but when do you plan to buy for yourself, but now my strategy has changed a little, what if i used to invest everything money for real estate, but what? and now i invest in myself as a specialist, i go in for sports, i take care of... myself , that is, proper nutrition, i ’m talking about money now, where will you live, if all this happens, will you go to her, no, live forever can we rent apartments, tell me, sergey, please, come to you, as a specialist, you are a certified psychologist , yes, you can help our bride, do you think she has let go of childhood grievances, they will interfere with her in building her own family, yes , she let go, but the resentment - the fact that she has the opportunity to communicate with her mother now and i don’t know how frank she is, how much she can communicate as with

a friend, that is, a friend is not one who criticizes, but a friend who will listen to even any nonsense, although mom should be a friend, and this is very good, when parents can, when there is a person whom you can tell everything , i doubt that he is looking for a girl, will allow the girl he finds to dominate him to the same extent, at least as she did before wife, i think if this is...' outwardly, yes, but the fact that she has a two-year-old daughter doesn’t bother you? no, what kind of education did you have before you decided to become a psychologist? economic, do you already earn money as a psychologist? yes, and in what field do you want to receive the nobel prize? i want to make a contribution specifically to the sciences, parts of psychology, i want to come up with something of my own, which has not existed before, because menderson, please tell me, dear, today there are only one square of psychologists. million, and do you think it’s possible to achieve some heights without special

psychological education, just by attending some of these schools and courses? well, it’s hardly possible to achieve heights anywhere without some kind of basic education, the question is, what kind of flock will you find, if they don’t understand anything at all, then you’ll always earn your thousand, thank you, what’s the surprise so far? yes, well, maybe a surprise, how will you surprise, well, perhaps, perhaps, perhaps you will like it, what do you think, there will be a surprise, a surprise, to be honest, i don’t even have any guesses, the test of trust consists of the fact that you need to become, get on the mats, turn to me back, and now you have to fall, come on, like this, oops, wow. this trust is already there, it’s already a plus, you’ve already earned a good plus,