[000:00:00;00] in practice, and my idea, which appeared during our, so to speak, connection, to make such a small document, printed, if you can call it, from the practice of a jazz guitarist, i worked on it, came up with something, it exists, as such, it you can find, uh, but playing two guitars is a wonderful , uh, resource, these are two orchestras that are intertwined, at first not... nikolai was a soloist at the very beginning and i was only an accompanist, then we crossed paths, properly, when we met on steel - to work out all this, i apologize for the word, on kitchen, just polishing, delving into each other, finally they began, and he can accompany and solo, and i can accompany and solo, we change, we mutually, it turns out like two orchestras, in fact, in our composition in the lifezhaz you have alexander pharaonvich, pharaoh

, we are having a dialogue, the same one. we continue to look at the album of alexey alekseevch kuznetsov , this is a festival photo from 1968 , a festival also of youth ensembles, like this trio, i play, ivan vasenin on the double bass, he unfortunately died in a fire in the hotel russia in the seventies, there was a big fire, and many died there, and vladimir musunov on drums, this is a trio, but it is significant because this year in sixty-eight it was me... that was then, she is now there is, and sometimes they play it somewhere in schools, there was already a compositional moment, yes, this is the sixty-eighth year, in 67 , a year earlier, i also played in the trio with anatoly sobolev and igor levin, my original catchy blues also sounded there toys, he is also being played now in my

program and so on, this is our three... '68, the next photo, this, and this is the same thing, and a repetition , only different angles, and another angle, too , the eighth goja 68, here's the guitar i have here , bjarton, swedish, in my opinion, i voiced it on it, 17 moments, yes, that’s what it sounds like, we move on through the album, well, we’re returning to the cinematography orchestra , a wonderful friendship, i’ve already mentioned the collaboration with the composer kozhlaev, here he is, as it were, conducting us behind the bars andrey chernyshov, orchestra soloist, alexey splotovsky on the bass guitar, not visible here, to unfortunately, the pianist igor nazuruk, he is next to us here, and i am in the middle, this is already with gibson, this is already the seventy-third year, somewhere, this is a commonwealth, it has passed through many years, and still remains, and we are

connected always with muratovich. alexey alekseevich, it’s a pleasure to talk with you, you know, your intelligence, it can be heard in the music, only you can help vocalists open up like that, in any case, if it weren’t for you, i definitely wouldn’t have touched the heritage of the 5-60s , i think it would be, well you you know, how sometimes they perform well, but still this is a restaurant, thanks to you , this is art, because, a different musical mood, precisely in my confidential voice, that’s what i call my timbre, it responded, there is some kind of chemistry , so you are an absolute wizard of your favorite thing, i don’t even want to say the word craft, but just your favorite thing, because your life is a dream come true, you dreamed of being

a guitarist, and you became and are a guitarist with a very large capital letter, a real one the wizard of the guitar, people's artist of russia alexey alekseevich kuznetsov was a guest of our podcast melodies of my life, thank you, dear tv viewers, you can see all the podcasts on the website of the first channel, 1tv.ru, alexey alekseevich kuznetsov, valery syutkin, and lifejaz, thank you, i'm just working as a magician, eduard kolmanovsky, with poems by oshanin. goodbye, see you again. i fly to different places. who knows where we will be

tomorrow? there will be rain, i will bring it to the desert, i will distribute the sun to good people, why, my friend, why? that i didn’t learn life from textbooks, i’m just working, i’m just working as a wizard, a wizard, you’re walking, walking through january, it’s cold, the marks are like dots, do you want me to talk to you? i’ll give you a hand and the path will become shorter, why?

my friend, because i didn’t learn life from textbooks, i just work, i just work as a wizard, a wizard, do n’t spare anything for a friend, think about others a little too, that’s my simple magic, maybe you can help me with it, why, my friend, because i didn’t learn life from textbooks, i just work, i just work a wizard, a wizard,

why, my friend, yes, because i didn’t learn life from textbooks, i just work, i just work as a wizard, a wizard. take care, hello, dear ones. we are tv viewers, you are watching the triggers podcast, with you is its host , psychologist tatyana krasnovskaya, psychologist, psychotherapist sergei nasebyan, today our guest is pavel, and we will hear his story, hello, pavel, hello,

sergey, hello, tatyana, tell us , what did you come to us with, i’m an entrepreneur, i’m 31 years old, by the time i’m 31, i’m running away from problems, a good start can be formulated from different angles, well, for example, i don’t finish things, or when the need arises to make some complex, difficult decision, or a decision that will significantly push me out of my comfort zone, then i simply begin to escape from of this, it can be expressed in different circumstances, for example, 2 years ago i decided that i would completely cure all my teeth, i went to a clinic in the city, chose a good clinic, they prescribed a treatment plan, the treatment plan, naturally, is broken down by year, well then there is it lasting process, so i started treatment, but reached

the process when it was necessary to make implants, at this point i became scared because i would experience pain, and accordingly i stopped, did not finish the treatment, and accordingly i suffer now, because i have untreated teeth, this is one example. let’s say another example, also 2 years ago, i decided to buy a car, but i set a goal, chose a car, entered into an agreement, made an advance payment, and well, i earned money for it, but the car quite expensive, and when the time came to make the next installments, that is, when i already had this money lying around and i was ready to buy a car, for some reason i spent part of the money, and bought an apartment with part of the money. also not bad, there was no joy, well, that is, everything was out of necessity, but if we proceed from the concept that life should bring joy, and accordingly, we need to realize our goals, that is, i specifically had a goal to buy a car, this one, and i for some reason

i jumped to buying an apartment, yeah, you started do what you need to do, yes, yes, and what do you get joy from in general, there is the joy that i get from simple things. from the simplest possible, that is, these are the small joys of life, yeah, and there is joy from goals from some big goals, from the process of achievement itself and from the fact of achieving goals, and what big goals were achieved and did you enjoy? the first thing that came to mind now is sports, some time ago i was involved in long-distance running, that is, i am self-taught and came to a distance of 30 km, and well, i ran it a certain number of times , and it brought me great pleasure , and even here, i want to run a certain number of kilometers there, not because... to prove something to someone, probably

first of all, in order to prove to myself that i can do this and to understand that i am the kind of person who can run this distance, i gradually increased, increased, that is, i started from there with one, from 3 to 5 km, to 30 km, this is also indicative, i stopped, did not increase further, although i had thoughts and had a desire there, well , running from one city to another, and also the internal discussion of this process caused... me some kind of pleasure, but for some reason i stopped. now, what is your big goal? currently purchasing an apartment in moscow. well, relatively speaking, there is a goal of buying an apartment, there is probably some kind of vision of a plan on how to do this, right? at what stage will you quit this dada? well, if we take this big goal specifically, why are you so sure, firstly, that i am you are already sure, pash, not me, yeah, that's why they ask.

if you looked back now and talked to us there, i don’t know, 2 years later, i would ask, pavel, did you buy an apartment, you would say no, there, well, they would probably further explain to me why not bought, but i’ll ask you at what stage will you quit, at the stage when i would start to succeed, when i would begin to understand that the apartment is about to be bought, yeah, well, that is, when there is already some amount of money there will be, for example, an account, yes, at that moment you will give up this idea, yeah, why would you give up, i don’t have an answer to... this question, yeah, why an apartment in moscow? well, because this status is, by and large, the standard of living, but where is the joy? well, the joy probably comes from the fact that i will probably look cool in the eyes of others, i don’t know, so i ask, where is the joy? well, exactly in this, but also, in whose eyes, in whose eyes, well, i actually don’t see specific eyes, that is, i don’t have people. in front of whom specifically i

would like to show this something, it’s most likely something in my head, some kind of image, well, here you are can you imagine the status, this is the status, it exists, now you have achieved it, who is around, who is looking at you, who understands that you have this status? well, the first person who comes to mind is my friend , with whom we implemented many business projects, with whom we had such, you know, competitive achievements of different... yeah, okay, and how will you feel, now you you have this apartment in moscow, but apparently he doesn’t have it, well, your picture can also buy it in 2 years, well, he doesn’t have it, but what a feeling, what a feeling, but the feeling is really unpleasant, that is, a feeling of some kind of unpleasant superiority, that, as if i had proven that there i am better than this person, and why is it unpleasant to be better than him, well, because it's unnatural, why.

honestly, no, being better than others, in principle, is probably not very natural, but i would really like to, but i just need to understand why it is unnatural to be better than others, there is some kind of emptiness in my head, well, you are clearly better than many , people on earth today who have no money for clothes, there is no money to get here, well, a lot of things, yes, if you think like that, then you are clearly better than them, but at the same time you seem to cope with it calmly. today, while you were driving here, you passed thousands of people, better than whom you can officially consider yourself better, but why, when we talk about a friend, it seems as if it ’s unnatural or this unpleasant feeling, well, as if you can’t be better than others, or in other words, i would suggest, as if it wouldn’t actually make you better, as if they know, well , we’re talking about a friend now, as if he knows you are such that buying an apartment will not make you better.

well, the way i really am, and what you really are, if only someone knew, it’s very similar to yours, well, this belief that you can’t stick your head out, you can’t be noticeable, you can’t be manifest, this is very present in my life, it’s always been like this, since childhood, but i didn’t have it, so i say, i’m a star, yes, there is such a thing, well... look, i say: i’m a star, yes, it doesn’t matter, moreover, this not a fact, it's not true, i'm just saying, i'm a star and you're not star, yes, this is our usual dialogue, ordinary dialogue, opinion. in this sense, i need proof of my stardom, it is important for me at this moment to declare and defend my right to call myself that, not the right in the sense of the fact, but the right simply because i said so, in front of someone, for example, of course, well in the sense resist, yes, that is, you begin

to doubt it, why is this a star, a star, with whom could you not resist in this position? well, with my parents, of course, with my father, that is, i think, well, with my position that in childhood, there was strict authority, that is , authority in the sense of authoritarianism, yes, yes, that is, the father is always right, but i have no opinion, and you are the only child in the family? no, i have a brother who is a year and a half older, well , it’s the same with him, well, that is, essentially you are the youngest in the family, and the youngest in the family is worse than a dog, maybe. and your relationship with your brother, what is it like, a good relationship now, in childhood there was a bad relationship, that is, we constantly fought, we had no mutual understanding, there was no common company, and i always strove to join him

company, well, my parents always made it so that my brother would go everywhere first, there in the same school, let’s say i’m a year younger than him at school, and then you kind of follow the beaten path, as if you’re always second, yes , by the way, there is something about the second one, i even have this in my head, and it carried over into competitions, so i remember it for sure, that it would be better for me to come second than first, this is very familiar to me in this sense, and the attitude of conviction security that being second is kind of good, i was involved in wrestling in childhood, for example, in in the fight, being third is better than being second, because it means that you won the last fight, third place, second - it means you lost, i never managed to be first, well, it’s true, if we now look at it from a psychological point of view, then i remember how i got to this point when i realized that, well, really being the first means attracting a huge amount of attention to myself, only later,

as an adult and communicating with my friends, who then trained with me, but they became big athletes, we once talked with them, they discovered an unexpected truth for me, that it turns out that the champion of anything, the world, europe, a city, a country or the olympic games, he is a champion only while he is standing on the pedestal, as soon as he has descended from pedestal, after the award, he again became equal with everyone, but only now everyone wants to defeat him, but now he also knows that he was already this champion, this does not add joy to the athlete at all, believe me. no way at all, because it means he has more work to do more, because now he needs to prove, he must defend this title, confirm it constantly, confirm it, as it were, well, here you are challenging the world boxing champion in some heavy weight, but he is already a world champion, it seems, yes you essentially have nothing to risk, but he takes risks, so he

is burdened by this title, but you are not, so you take any risk, but he cannot, and psychologically, of course, this is for them. he shuddered for a very long time, probably three or four months, when the plane flew, there were fireworks, they were gathered by our military in the basements, my adopted son was in the same group, how maria lvova belovova made a ukrainian child happy and at the same time became a victim of kiev propaganda, russia does not kidnap children from russia, it does not kidnap children from anywhere, as well as the famous italian singer pupa, i allow myself to sing in crimea, i automatically become the person of nongrat in ukraine, exclusively in ours. anti -fake, premiere, tomorrow on the first, why are they like this, already 3 hours under the spotlights, here plus 40, no less, it itches, there was no need for naked put on the body, are we royal or

imperial, attention to the question, don’t be related to her, colleague, motor, camera, extras have gone, let’s keep the penguin gait more fun , attention to the priguns, we’ve got ready, we ’ve finally begun the extraordinary adventures of experts in the winter series of games, on sunday first, you are watching the triggers podcast, with you is its leading psychologist, tatyana krasnovskaya, psychologist and psychotherapist sergei nasibyan, we are talking with pavel about his big goal about new approaches to its implementation, probably the most important thing about where to get confidence in her own goals in her own strengths, her achievements, look, it turns out that our family is like... well, like a pride, within which there is a hierarchy, and being born the youngest, you are a priori

the youngest, that is, the last, if for if your mother gave birth to four more boys , then you probably wouldn’t be talking to us about this now, but it turns out that it’s as if you don’t have anyone over whom you could triumph simply by virtue of your birth, in fact, by right of birth, second or third, it doesn’t matter, and that’s all for you i wanted to challenge time, well, it’s normal when you want to challenge your older brother, challenge your father, it’s like an ordinary male game, here the question arises: this battle can never be won without buying an apartment, without buying a car, or without buying a car, it doesn’t matter, you are still always the youngest in this family, but the fear is that if i suddenly declare now, then i will receive, respectively, at that moment anger, doubts from my father and from my older brother, well, i’m exaggerating this now situation, that is, if i come with i am now in the main family,

accordingly, the older brother’s dad can even imagine the picture everyone is unfolding, why so who is older here, and then you will have to resist, just, of course, at this moment you have to resist, and of course, it’s good if the family gives such an opportunity, well as a rule, they don’t give it, it’s scary here, well, let’s talk about this fear, what kind of fear is it when, relatively speaking, your older brother and dad look at you, and you say that i don’t know there, i’m the best at reading, suppose, either i write the best, or i dance the best, and they question it, well, for that matter, i think that, in principle, i don’t remember cases when my father supported me in something, maybe it’s the way my psyche works that it has erased it, but for some reason i it doesn’t occur to me that my father said there, you got a b, well done, it was like that, you got a b, why not an a? that is, i didn’t even have a reason to declare that i was a star as a child, but i just told you, reasons

are not needed, the question here is that there is no need to look for a reason, here is the ability to defend it, well because having bought an apartment, in the end this apartment will turn out to be a little smaller than someone else’s, the area is a little worse, a little further from the center, i don’t know, the ceilings are lower and so on, that is, you won’t buy in comparative categories anyway the best apartment in moscow, even if you buy it, in 2 days someone else will buy an even better apartment , it will be built, and so on, and of course, again it won’t show up, that’s what allowed you to say, i’m a star, you had the support of your parents, it allowed, allows, i agree, yes it allowed, but i didn’t think about it, yes, they still supported you, now it’s clear, of course, now everyone supports you, i can’t say that my family was very supportive in this sense, it’s a matter of decision, a question of internal decision, when you... suddenly realize that you don’t need any conditions , but you have to rely on something, you have to understand that you will stand, what

allowed you to think that you will stand, well, we are exaggerating now when we say that i understood it then, i can do it now, leaning back, understanding what i’m doing now, when i say that i’m a star, it’s a willingness to be left alone, well, because being a star alone is easy, well... this fear is what i have, yeah, although, how not it’s funny, i’ve basically done everything lately in order to be left alone, well, now i’ve come to this, and what is this loneliness, emptiness, lack of support, but at the same time it’s yes, but at the same time it’s and lack of criticism, because of this you become alone, because you run away relationships in which you can be criticized, yes, but support is more important, it does not cover criticism, how should this support be expressed?

in accepting me as i am and - let’s say, if i want to be something and manifest myself in some way, accepting this fact that i can be like this, it turns out that they still don’t accept, yes, you know, i a long time ago i read a book , this is a book that was written, in my opinion, by an american woman, a doctor, she spent 6 months in the desert together with the aborigines tribe in australia, so she describes their way of life, and these are people who have no, almost no speech, there is very very simplified speech , they have no writing, well, that is, they live right here at the level of the primitive communal structure, practically, and she describes these six months of living with them and she was surprised by this fact, in contrast to the cultures she knew in which she grew up, which she studied, she means a doctor there, and also an anthropologist to some extent, she discovered an interesting

pattern, so in the morning, she gets up and says i am today the most beautiful in the world, it is clear that the world of this tribe is contained by this tribe, yes, she says, today i am the most beautiful in this tribe, she takes some flower, puts it on her hair and says, i ’m so beautiful, everyone tells her, yes, you are the most beautiful today, and there, after some time, another one wakes up and says: listen, i’m probably the coolest musician in the world , today i’ll give a concert in the evening, well , what kind of concert is there to beat some kind of drum with bones, and everyone accordingly tells him yes, yes, here you are today at the same time about a morning in our house, but this in no way prohibits someone else from doing the same thing the next morning, that is , there will be no competition in this, it’s just that today we all honor you, gorgeous, if only everyone lived like that, but we

we don’t live like that, we have to prove all the time, declaring that i am the best pianist, stapler, doctor, and i don’t know, translator, psychologist, we have to constantly challenge and defend this right, to call ourselves that, but after all, this is a tribe, that’s why they support each other, because they don’t have competition outside, they generally don’t care, well, the best musician is great, what ’s the problem, and here it’s the same, this is the same loneliness that you talk about as a lack of support, but about the lack of criticism at the same time at the same time, in this we need to look for support in our own. when there are no other people, no other apartments, no other men, no other women, there is only you and your goals, and when you understand that your goals are what you are committed to, then everything else stops just making such sense, but how only you attach more meaning to the assessment of others than to commitment to your own goal , at this moment you find yourself on a very slippery surface where

it will be very difficult to stand, because obviously for support you, well, as best as possible. let's try to consider them, what you can rely on, for example, goals, so, a goal , a plan to achieve a goal, okay, well, my actions, of course, are good, but let's look, i will, for example, question and your goals, and your plans, and your actions, how you will build a relationship with me, accept the fact that you criticize it and accept that if you criticize it, then you do not believe in me, but let’s assume in yourself that you cannot achieve this? cunning, but it won’t work with me, it won’t work with me in this sense, i won’t take on this part of your protection, i can just continue to act, look, you can definitely continue to act, that’s a fact, what

you will rely on what you can influence, i can fence off. certainly you can, and moreover, i’m saying that you will have to isolate yourself from me, like from thousands of other people who may doubt your expediency, there, i don’t know, your correctness and righteousness, sincerity, truthfulness, it doesn’t matter, but there is also , for example, your principles, if, for example, you rely on your principles, then it will be much easier for you to build a support within yourself that makes up your internal ethos, and not mine, for example, the morality that you... take yourself, i will come to i’ll tell you, listen, no one does this, you’ve probably heard this, yes, uh, expression, it won’t work, no one has done this, they don’t buy apartments this way, well, that is, people will say exactly that, and you , accordingly, based on your own principles, can say, no one has done this before me, and i will do this, for example, here a very important aspect

is precisely that your actions, but it depends on you, to do them or not to do them. your principles, based on which you will do, what third you can come up with, what would be the third such leg on which you can rely, for example, on my achievements, well, that is, some previous experience, yes, that is, the fact that i achieved something earlier, that is, i can at least repeat it, and if i can repeat it, then i can multiply this and, accordingly, in this way reach my goal as an option, in general, yes, well, in life, by the way, this helps me a lot, namely the fact of past experience. this is the setting, setting, yes, that is, there are three elements that need to be adjusted, standing in the center of this tripod, you can then do this rely on, you won’t need the support of other people in this sense, i don’t cancel the value of support, but waiting for this support is what makes you weak, well, i get it myself,

i’m shifting, let’s say actions to achieve this goal... what it will give me strength that others will think well of me and this will help me move towards my goal, but this is not true, this is not true, because if you walk with this to others, well, how would you a priori automatically give these people the right to you judge, well, just to get out from this scenario, you need to understand why, why interrupt, how you interfere with yourself, we already understand how you can achieve, we also already understand why to do this? well , the most important driver for me has always been, well, exactly the one that comes from the heart, which is as sincere as possible, this is interest, that is, if i’m interested in something. then i always achieve this, you said a very important thing at the beginning, you said pleasure, everything that is necessary and necessary, i refuse

to do it, i sabotage this process, everything that brings pleasure, i strive for this, but for me it is synonymous with, one might say , interest and pleasure, that is, everything that is interesting to me, a priori brings me pleasure, which means i need to find my pleasure in achieving these goals, it doesn’t work out of necessity. it turns out only from what i want. you are watching the podcast triggers with you, its host, psychologist, tatyana krasnovskaya, psychologist, psychotherapist, sergey nasebyan. we talk with pavel about how to achieve big goals, and where to get and draw strength for your own confidence and confidence in your life goals and actions. there is also such a moment that there is also such a phrase in my head: i can’t want. well, that is, all my life i have been doing something essentially for someone in terms of the fact that, let’s say , i have a family, and i earn money for the family there, yes, but there is a large share of my selfishness,

i do it all out of my selfishness for the family, but i understand that this is also an unhealthy model, and well, why should you do it for yourself, somehow it works, it’s for others, well , somehow you move, why do it for yourself? good in fact, the question is, here is the habit of doing this for yourself, it doesn’t exist, well , you get up in the morning, make coffee, for example, or tea, for yourself, that is, there is a habit, but just such a conscious goal setting for yourself, these are the habits, so you need to make it conscious, look, from such very small elements, because one morning you will wake up and suddenly realize that it turns out to be more important for yourself in the morning... a glass of warm water, and not making coffee, for example, yes, because coffee is this is part of the ritual that came from somewhere, well, let’s say, a glass of warm water is something that would be good for you, with lemon, i don’t know, with honey, who

drinks what, yes, when you understand, well, first you can start just like this am i talking about coffee for myself? peter levine has a good tool for working with trauma, and before you even start self-healing trauma, he writes about it, and he says that first you need to get to know your own feelings and offers this instrument, he says: look at some photograph, well, suppose you and i open a magazine, some kind, which usually publishes very rich, beautiful, successful people, we look at the fact that some blogger bought himself a rolls-royce, yes, that i , what do you feel, looking at the fact that this blogger is sitting there in this rolls-royce, you have, some joy, some... envy, some contempt, some mixed some feelings, he says, but how is this expressed in television, well, somehow you will find this in your television, but then he asks the question why

you decided that this is your feeling, why did you decide that these are your sensations, this question is a very important bridge through which we move to another way of perception, to another perfect way of perception, we kind of create a metaposition, inside , which we are able to really see, whether it’s mine or not, my desire to drink coffee now, or i just saw an advertisement for coffee yesterday before going to bed, and this is my desire to do this or that action, or i just think that all successful people drink a glass in the morning warm water because i i read the top 10 tips from elon musk, or someone else, but it’s like, because we don’t even notice how it forms... precisely that through such doubts, we are slowly establishing a completely different contact with reality, with yourself in this

reality. sergey, you say that the sensation is in the body and we ask the question whether this sensation is mine in the body, but it is in my body. and at least it seems so to you, right here, no, look, this is not, not a cure, this is not, this is not an implicit healing, yes, this that through which we are establishing a new contact that did not exist before, now you say, this is my feeling in my body, and you are very convinced of this, and i, so to speak, relying on levin. i suggest you doubt this, perhaps you will see very subtle elements where completely different feelings will appear, but what i really want, that’s what will appear there, that’s where the choice appears, that is, i become identified with my actions, of course, that’s there there will appear that pavel who can truly want, who can ask himself the question: i am buying apartment, for whom? yes of course, how will i feel when i buy it, how

will i feel. i recently wrote a post about the fact that we very often confuse the absence of evidence with the evidence of absence, well, for example, my son says, i will not believe in god until you prove to me that he exists, but not to me, not to god, not i need to prove to my son that he exists, but he says, like, you can’t prove to me that he exists, i can’t, but the absence of proof is not the same as proof of absence, when we... wear ourselves into our future, trying to form a vision of achieving a goal, we have no proof that i already have an apartment, but we begin to doubt it, it is in this doubt that the very strings on which we play begin to arise, which cause inside this deepest uncertainty and unwillingness to be disappointed in the end forces us to give up halfway , that is, if i don’t have an apartment, it doesn’t mean that i can’t... buy it, yes,

i didn’t have an apartment, i haven’t yet i’ve never bought an apartment, but that doesn’t mean at all that i cannot do this, i can face it, but this does not mean that i cannot , you see, there is such a philosophical approach in this sense, when we try to raise this conflict to the level of - well, such a paradox, and here a completely different thinking, i think that some smart physiologist or ... neurologist will be able to suggest your problem , at least solve it by taking some medications or drugs, supplements there and so on, because i will say, yes it’s just that you have a shortage of, i don’t know, zinc in blood, so you get tired quickly, this can also be the case, i suggest you look at it a little from the other side, precisely from the one that you don’t believe, when you build these three legs inside yourself, that faith will be born

that moves mountains , as we heard, i will definitely try this, i have another wall inside, which very much hinders me in terms of achieving goals in terms of dividing for myself, this is what needs to be done for others, well, that is, how will you do it for yourself when you have so much others around who don’t have something, who lack something, and i understand that i ’m making it up myself, that they lack it, and it comes to the uttermost. and doing for others distracts you from yourself, is that what you mean, it’s not that it distracts, it completely switches me to this process, to the dependence on appearing good in the eyes of those people for whom, because there you are you get satisfaction very quickly, because where people said, it’s great, of course, it’s a quick, fast-paced nirvana, it’s like when we were kids we drank jupi, thinking it was orange juice, it’s just

the speed of the elements. but if you start doing what we tell you, it will turn out that you will disconnect from this perception of fast fast glucose, fast carbohydrates, it is always much easier to eat a sweet cake than to eat normally, yes, i’m all about physiology similarly, well, of course, so this is what we need to get to this through, that’s why i say, connect your body, doubting whether this is mine, whether i really want it now to do something for someone else, i ... am in no way dissuading you from altruism, but i can definitely say that healthy egoism in general will force you to make sure that people around you are also happy, because how then you will be satisfied, it just seems to me that you can become a real altruist only when you can be yourself, satisfy yourself, understand what, what is in this for me, otherwise it’s dishonest, well, yes, here you already need to read the holy fathers who in general, this has been described many times, that

we cannot give if we ourselves are not able to be filled, but from the point of view of support, so to speak, at the end of our conversation, i also want to tell you a very interesting phrase that shocked me at one time: you need the support of people, yes? and i will ask you a question, how do you support others? good question, if you dig deep, it turns out that i don’t give effective, high-quality support to others, of course, so give what you are looking for. learn to support others, and you won’t notice when suddenly, one day moment, you will support yourself so easily that you will not need others. that's why in general. absolutely all religions today that we know call on people, in moments of depression, or some difficult life circumstances, to pray for others, because when you begin to direct your prayer so that others are happy, others are

healthy , the very power of your word, your intention becomes so strong that you just need to direct it towards yourself, and you will already perk up, so give this support for others, learn to support others and... you will be surprised, well, these are two non-competing tasks with each other, that is , first fill yourself, first do not deviate from your goals, see what is in this and the achievement in this, when i achieve this goal, what will be in this for me, and at the same time give away what and this will actually fill you? you want to receive the support of others, at some point it will be filling, this is the philosophical program we have formed today, come on? let's make it practical, what exactly do you want will you do it? well, i already have a specific goal, i set it, yes, an apartment, i set it a month ago, i also have a specific plan for achieving it, great, but what will you do in the context of our conversation, that is, you essentially need to find three

- four people who have the same goal and support them in this, by the way, it’s interesting that this is not the first time in my life that i’ve heard that this is exactly the method of achieving a goal, they even suggested that i somehow find it... well help people reach this goal, then you yourself you will come and it is as if you need some kind of committed action to douse yourself with cold water, yes, this is a well-known method, no, but i actually have a committed action for this purpose, i do it every day, super, then i wish you good luck, yes, thank you, i wanted to thank you for the fact that this format of programs, it helps, i don’t know, there are thousands, tens of thousands of people to look at themselves from the outside, it helped me a lot, for which thank you, that you come and people can see it. thank you, believe me, and we will we also look at it from the outside when we talk with our guests, and then we discuss how difficult it was for our children, well, you watched the podcast triggers with you were its

hosts, me, sergey nasebyan and tatyana krasnovskaya. we talked with pavel about achieving the goal and how we could approach this issue differently. you will open your eyes, you will see the light, you will feel what is no longer there, you will open your eyes, you will see us, you will become like this in an hour, evenly inhaling the night air,

you are sure that it has always been like this, you calm in the captivity of the mother's breast, the light has appeared, you are back in and this may be, we paint pictures , creating waste, this may be, we love, give birth in dust up to our throats, and this may be, we are children