whoever has a speaker at home , who programs it, says: there, dear masha, in half an hour we have curfew, in 15 minutes we have curfew, yes, that is, she begins to teach it very gradually, it turns out that this is good, the parent does not play just this punisher who walks and talks , after half an hour, after 15 minutes, it ’s some kind of device, some kind of technique, but in general, it’s not me, it’s a technique, but we naturally explain to the child in advance, why is it important, at 6 years old we can talk about what is. cycles of wakefulness and rest, why is it important for the head to sleep , for the brain to rest, if the child does not understand why he needs it, what is its benefit, he is fine as is, then of course, there will be no result from this, so it is very important to lay out a theory, so the same as with questions, when he already knows in advance everything that we will ask him, there are funny situations for him when the child himself comes from school and writes, okay, ok, goodbye, well, that is, yes, he already knows all the standard questions, i always say, perhaps, if you are too lazy to drive it into

on the internet, open questions for a child, why am i contacting you? i’ve heard your interviews somewhere around hundreds of thousands, i myself have taken part just how many times, they are really very interesting, when you can ask a non-standard question that a child does not expect from you, and there i am i don’t know, there you know , today i was driving down the street, i saw a rainbow , i thought, if it wasn’t called a rainbow, you would have called it differently, but the child is not waiting for this question, that you will ask him now... talk about school, he told him, he forced to get involved, well, that is, from what relates to school, what are we asking about, what interesting things did you learn today, which of your friends surprised you today, what event upset you the most, what you most didn’t mind spending time on , this is your most well-spent time today - what is it? yeah, what did you feel sorry for spending time on, yes, that is, this does not mean that we have to dump a list on it, then there will be an answer, that is , one or two questions are selected, about which...

it’s quite enough for communication, here it is development, you understand, no one will teach him this in english courses, no one will teach him this notorious emotional intelligence, about which all the bells are ringing, that it is not there, it is lost, children develop intellectually, do not develop emotionally, they have forgotten how to feel, they they are not interested in our emotions, our experiences, because we tune ourselves out, we always tell them, okay, normal, good, from a very early age, oh, mom, you have tears, no? i got a midge in my eye there, why? school is forcing you, don't go, don’t breathe, don’t look, we walk there in pairs and so on, the parents say, don’t interfere, don’t interfere , shut up, that’s it, yes, we cut off these feelings, but there’s nothing more important than this emotional component, when you, you have empathy , when you empathize with close and distant people, on the one hand we sound the alarm, we shout, the world is cruel, the world is cold, what is it, on the other hand... in our families

it’s actually very often the same thing. tell me, how to teach, so that children engage, i don’t know, with each other, play, so that this doesn’t it was, here a lot depends on the age difference , of course, it depends, because, well , almost all of our children also have an age difference of 6 years, 5-6 years, and this is a very complex interaction, they are far from each other, because they already now these generations are changing so quickly, the utys, the ikhses and so on, yes, they change very often, not like before it was there for 20 years. they have different interests, different goals in life, no, well, but some families somehow cope with this, i know, my master course for tamovich astrakhan, he would also have a huge family, and i know that this is his the wife there is lena, they always have elders there looking after the little ones, there they work with them, lena can already be like that, she’s somehow brought up in such a way that she can do it like a queen, they somehow understand themselves there, they don’t understand me either they work with themselves, simply because there are a lot of them, especially the little ones, the little ones all have a smaller age difference, so they seem to be interested in each other, so they run after each other’s legs, push scooters, and

so on, and that’s why they somehow interact with each other, you know, i have a little another position, i raise children this way, and the house is a fortress for them, including an emotional one, they each have their own room, or if they are large, if they are apartments, people live in apartments, they always say, make them some kind of then our own corner , which is inviolable, because this violation of each other’s private property often leads to arguments, and at home we try to do everything so that they can relax, so that they really have this opportunity, then they themselves become interested, for example, my eldest son, who is 16, he has no problems when he exhaled, especially like this, he’s already just rested, ate, slept, he can come up and say, oh, mom, let’s go with the morfusha , i’ll take a walk, and marfusha is six months old, he himself is in pleasure, he likes it very much, he can do whatever he wants with her , he goes there with the stroller to play laps, he also relaxes like this, listens to music, he can put semyon, who is three, to bed, well, he likes it, but we never he was not

forced to do this, he was not forced, but since he knows that mom is also tired, and she needs help, he always gladly does it himself, this is also, again, this kind of barter, yes, mom does a lot for him, he does something for mom out of strength. of my own capabilities, i am a supporter of the fact that you give birth to children for yourself, not so that you have ready-made nannies whom you gave birth to there before, they are already grown up, so they can do what for you, you infect yourself, to please yourself or what you give birth to yourself, because only you are responsible for it, then, unfortunately, in the modern world, despite the fact that i one husband, all children from one husband, and we have been married there for 28 years, but nevertheless, in the modern world it turns out that a woman is generally forced to do so. often bear responsibility for the child she has, because the world is very unpredictable , certain events constantly arise, and we don’t know what will happen tomorrow, whether we will have some kind of male support, well, children need to be taught to take care of themselves too bear responsibility, children must definitely be taught to bear responsibility for themselves, so for me, for example, it is important that he does not

he watches his brother there or his sister , that he will wash a plate, that he knows how to use a vacuum cleaner, that he will iron a shirt, yes, that starts with yours, of course, therefore, and this can only be achieved through together, a wonderful word, family, it’s all about being together, that’s why yes, we have semyon, 3 years old, he knows without any problems how to make an omelette, where to get eggs, where to get milk, how to turn on the stove, the only thing we do is control that he i suddenly didn’t knock over this frying pan, you’re watching a podcast, sit down okay, today we are talking with psychologist larisa surkova, we are trying to understand how to raise a harmonious personality, tell me, please, we need to take the child to kindergarten, now for those who do not go yet, now there is no definite answer, yes, no one says it definitely, yes, they always say at the discretion of the parents, i absolutely agree with this, there are children who need kindergarten, simply because they really love communication, they

love children very much, they are comfortable existing within the framework of the regime, there are children who need kindergarten not needed, because they want to be with their mother, they are comfortable attending individual classes or classes in... groups, of which there are three to five people, and mothers make a choice that since she does not work, she has the opportunity, she takes the child in different sections and everyone feels good together, it is impossible to say that a child will be successful or unsuccessful at school, depending on whether he attended kindergarten or not, this correlation has not been proven by anyone, it depends solely, we are back again to when the child is still small and this is all endless training yes, what development, yes actually now. fortunately, i can say that for me, as a psychologist, this fashion is still passing, because some time ago, about 10 years ago, but if you did not give up your child in a mantessor, you are a bad parent, well, when i went to these clubs are wonderful, i felt a little scared myself, because there are so many manuals, some

special boards, special toys, it’s unclear where creativity is in all this, our most important task, especially in the preschool period, for a child creative potential, because play activity is leading, the child must definitely move a lot, and learn a lot, invent a lot, invent a lot, and the more we give him the opportunity to develop in this creativity, to express himself, to draw as he sees, to sing as he wants, in the end , to jump on his ears, to play sports, the better the result will be at school, the easier it will be for him at school, because here he realized everything that he had to realize, there are no standards in this, right, but how teach artist, it seems to me that it’s impossible, that is, it’s like human life is also about individuality, that’s right, finding yourself, i need to draw just like that, i need to sculpt just like that, yes, i need to speak out exactly like that, as if yes, when children are driven into

all these frames seem to be my separate pain, but why, why, how can you give a rating for a drawing, it was never clear to me and it is still not clear to me how you can evaluate iso, why is it that if a child draws the sun in blue, he should be given a ... why, just listen him, he probably has an argument, the simplest one is that he simply didn’t have yellow paint, maybe, and the most difficult one is that he sees some kind of his own philosophy in this, why two, it’s not clear, so there are of course a lot of such factors here interesting, but children, they won’t give you a chance not to develop themselves, that’s what i want to tell parents, now there are children who know a lot, well, first of all, because they watch cartoons, of course, there are wonderful cartoons. which sometimes you yourself watch some fixies, finally you will find out how a microwave works , yes, that is, they really give you a lot of different questions there, because we don’t limit the fixers there, but they turn it on now, as if it’s very difficult to limit it, yes, you put the fixers there, look, you’ll come up in 10 minutes , and there are no longer fixes,

some will be easily limited, for us everyone is trying, everything works and parental control formats exist in any way. on the device we call it a tv, yes, because we don’t have television there, but there is a device, and stepan, who is 16, he is responsible for the content in our house, i need to enter this too. it’s really good, why, when someone has some kind of responsibility, such an adult one, he really likes it, he approaches it very seriously, he studies the question, what, especially for that one, who is three, he now i’m interested in cartoons, what’s possible, what’s not, what my colleagues, psychologists, said, he sometimes rolls out reports like this for me, he blocks it himself, knows how to do this, understands this technical part, only he knows these passwords, no one will get in anywhere, where they can’t, if stepanan. yes, our girls only have access to tablets on weekends

, girls only have access to tablets on weekends, not on weekdays , because they don’t have time, and well, no, this, in general, is my mother’s will, because there is, there is a decision that must accepted only by an adult, of course, but only an adult can decide when to use a gadget, understanding that there is time to fit it into the life of a small child, and 10 and 7 - is it a small child or not, and accordingly, he... on weekends the girls give the girls tablets and an hour and a half later he takes the tablets away, the girls , it’s already late, this needs to be done, this needs to be done at some point earlier, when all the girls already know that stepan controls it, there are no disputes or scandals on this topic , but no one controls stepan, because he is 16 years old, he himself speaks perfectly, listen, what kind of computer, when i come after school and courses, crawl, do my homework, i only dream of seeing your bed, and he says, mom, i’ve now come to the conclusion that only on weekends i turn on what cartoons do your children watch?

well, now we have three cats in use, a blue tractor, all this atrocity that then turns on you at night, in fact they are not bad in meaning, they really carry some kind of educational meaning, and most importantly they are short, anecdote you know about cartoons, now i remembered the children's, when when the child is often with the nanny, well, the nannies change, the nanny does not really understand her child and he says: pray, repent. baby and carlson the child asks to put the kid and carlson to the question that our children are very often with nannies, unfortunately, or fortunately , as they say, it’s easier to find a husband than a nanny, really, little girl, well, come on, practically in the end, here are 10 tips from larisa. how to raise a harmonious personality who will fully develop and enjoy life, the first

thing i advise, probably the first such recommendation, do not compare children with each other, remember that children are all different, people are all different and your comparison can to traumatize for more than one year, indeed, to bring a lot of harm into your child’s life, do not compare with other children, well, with no one at all, brother and sister are also other children, do not compare with anyone, the second one probably. what can i say, pay more attention to his achievements than to his mistakes, because this is also our big problem, we spend a lot of time on mistakes, very little on achievements, praise yes, let’s say a girl says how beautiful you are, the most princess, the best, yes, if we go according to the classics, it is recommended to praise for a certain achievement, that is, the child drew a picture, we tell him, listen, how great you did, beautiful, she just came out this morning, she is such a doll, yes of course, we will kiss her, say yes you ’re just like me... a beauty, and what wonderful cheeks you have, and your nose is so neat, and your legs are long, that

is, it’s not like the most, because the most, in principle, the word most is already a comparison , well , that is, yes, there is someone who is not the best, just right now, what i see, i sing, everything i want, everything that rushes out of my soul, be sure to tell your child, because this is very important for him, don’t forget, let’s move on to the third, don’t forget about tactility in general, because as the child grows up, his parents give him very little... they start hugging, kissing, scratching his head, but if you go and put up a stool here, they are still given, and here, well, this is a feature of course of our gymnasium, because families in mostly large families, i used to say if the children were there in the past school, there were five children, i say, we had five children who all fainted, now you will say seven, and some have nine, some have 10, but in general everyone has a lot, this situation is also for us of course it helps a lot, because everyone is parting. children kiss them in the morning, regardless of age , everyone wants them, but you know when

you want to give them a handyman, you take your son’s handyman, he’s like that, but mine, on the contrary, is always very much like that. i don’t have an older one; there’s no older one; i don’t have an older one; i’ve already grown up ; you can get a handyman with him; and he’s 14. he's so like mom, well, he will also grow up soon , yes, that is, you need to wait, in short, you need to wait , of course, without violence, there is no violence , we don’t forcefully kiss and we don’t take you arm in arm, but humor always saves us, this is probably the fourth one. i really want to go with such a handsome boy, he’s jealous and so is he. well, somewhere she will be lenient towards mother ’s whims and will probably support us in this , so this is also very important, and fifthly, still try to devote individual time to the child, even if it is not every day or even every week, even if it will be 15 minutes, but the child is interested in what is interesting, and if he is not interested in anything, then let him lie on the sofa in your lap,

you pat him on the head, maybe even silently, this is exactly what he needs in order to go further into the world. create some of your own successes and what else is probably important to say, be sure to switch your attention with your child from school activities to any other, because very often it seems to us that rest, we are good parents, rest is about weekend load their theaters, museums, excursions, something else, in fact, for him this is also an educational activity, this also needs to be turned on, sit, think, analyze something, you ask... the child, what would you like to do in day off, maybe he wants to jump on trampolines or take a walk in the forest, or do something else, something that will not look like an educational activity, because there is no better rest than a change of activity, everyone knows this, this is for children absolutely applies, and i also know, by the way, for sure that you you can’t deceive a child, let’s say, you think, now we’ll watch a cartoon together, and you’re sitting so quietly, that is

, yes, and you’re like, like you’re watching, like a cartoon, but in fact you’re not turned on and that’s it. doesn’t work in any way, that is, and at some point, mom, well, you’re not, that is, you need to completely, that is, you need to switch off completely , and if you’re watching the cartoon, then you’re watching, you ’ve given yourself, that means we’ve given ourselves to him, and you know , you’ve brought us here to the next very good recommendation don't lie to children because always i’m surprised by the parents who come with a complaint, my child is lying, i tell him and you tell him i, well, a little bit, yes, there’s something there somewhere because the child is our mirror. well, well, it’s very difficult, we want , well, let’s say, yes, i just know from myself, it’s not that i don’t want to watch a cartoon, but my phone is just ringing off the hook, that is, i kind of i want to watch a cartoon, but i can’t, and you kind of can’t, what will happen if you pick up this phone in half an hour, no, but also you just have to too, nothing will happen , yes, that is, again, this is probably the next recommendation, i don’t remember which one,

educate yourself, educate yourself and change yourself, because if we are sincere, yes it always seems to us that we are in the process, we are doing something important, but if we honestly answer the question, what will happen if i do all this in half an hour, the answer will be nothing, i actually want it, it seems to me that this is important, now i’ll touch on the topic, i it seems that this is a good ending to our general program about children, and we are all we want to raise our children and make something out of them, but we don’t work with ourselves at all, and first of all we need to start with ourselves, because we have become completely trapped, absolutely, like these squirrels in a cage, yes , it’s as if we ourselves can’t stop, we ourselves... don’t understand our purpose, we haven’t figured it out with ourselves, we’re trying to do all this with our children, as if yes, we need to first ourselves somehow absolutely unconditionally, you know, probably, also like the ending, such an important thought for me, i’ll say that we we often talk enough with children, and when we talk about the future and the future, including when we are not there, and in particular i am there,

at a certain age children are interested in the topic of death, they ask what i think about it, i say. you know, yes, i won’t be there, but the best thing i can leave behind is you, so when we’re gone, no one will care whether we answered the phone right now or not, maybe this is the cartoon that we watched it with your child, he will remember, retell it to his children, ours grandchildren, and for him it will be really important, so just prioritize, thank you larochka, huge in fact, i can talk endlessly, and i hope that we will not end here, because there is a huge number of topics that arise, and their it’s simply impossible to say to yourself , it’s very important , let’s see each other, we’ll talk, and i think everyone will be interested in learning a lot of things, in fact, things that we already knew, but when you say it, it starts to sound completely different and as if you begin to understand it differently, this is what it seems to me, but as if the esses of psychology, yes, yes, of course, thank you

very much, thank you, it was a podcast, sit down normally, today we tried to discuss with larisa surkova a psychologist about seven children , how to still raise a harmonious personality, to fast or not to fast, and if to fast, then why and how? hello, today we have gathered our thoughts about the nativity fast. ksenia alferova, tv presenter, actress, priest antony borisov, associate professor or professor, no longer, associate professor, associate professor, but older, maybe associate professor of the moscow theological academy, hello, dear friends , hello, hello, please tell me, it seems to me that the first question that a person has may not be very familiar with the church,

at least i heard this, well, lent - that’s understandable, why christmas? ancient church tradition suggests that for every significant holiday, celebration, special feature such as the feast of the nativity of christ, which in its meaning, if inferior to some other...' church holiday, then only easter, well , it’s probably worth preparing for this celebration, and the actual traditional church preparation is fasting, as such an ascetic practice, rooted in the depths of centuries, but everything is completely different and the christmas fast especially, i honestly admit to you, until recently, as you just said, most people didn’t understand, that is, it’s not that i didn’t understand, but i didn’t even really think about it, what? i thought that well somehow the christmas fast, it’s not so , well, i don’t know, it’s obligatory or something, or this word is applicable, well, how would it be, well, in general, you can

fast, you can not fast, great, but it’s clear that somehow it’s just necessary to fast, but for me the understanding of why this is important, for me, yes, came when i began to read a lot about it, since i have my literary project there, where i tell, every year i talk about christmas, to you has to. i read, well, that is, not theological but more literature, otherwise how it was, that is, how it was in russia before, there is shmilev of the same thing, the memoirs of various poets and writers, if you take biographies, then not one can do without christmas and easter, that is, this is always such a special childhood experience, here shmilyov has a lot, not only him, it’s about just about fasting, that’s when, like them, like a child, well, by virtue of fasting there to the best of his ability, and then this... he’s going through his last day there, if he - i ate it there or didn’t eat it, and after reading this, i think, well, i need to try it somehow, well you also wanted to relive me, i remember

how it was, but still, the mood is somehow different, but the new year, which is before this, is somehow disrupted, well , it’s clear that a person only values ​​what he gets it’s difficult for him, so sava mazhuko balanced me in understanding this post, i read his book, and he writes there that well, that’s why exactly so many days, and he somehow, well, how to say, he’s more loyal and he writes that in general it was different, it was a week, it was, well then there is originally, in tradition, and that mm , i really liked it, i literally looked through this book today, and it says that, well, even if you ate porridge with this unfortunate milk, like a parable, you are all worried about milk, creamy butter, oatmeal, but it is a simple porridge, this is also fasting than if you have some kind of very. that he

writes well there, that fasting is modesty, here ’s something else 2 modesty, something else, that modest is not modest, and accordingly fasting is modest, that is, everything that is simple is lean, modest - this is just not lean, but look, this is how i say it, that is, not modest, that is, not lean, and i came to the conclusion that when you prepare for this, when you understand what event awaits you ahead , well, it’s like this wonderful magic of the birth of not just a child, well, the birth of a child is magic, of christ himself, and why is this necessary, because when you read, as it was in russia, well, no one forced it, it’s impossible to force it yourself actually fast, well, that’s it, if you’re just yourself with its own, maybe such an ancient tradition, we always fasted, i remember there are some medieval descriptions of the orthodox there with... who came to russia, they just so to speak, excuse the poverty of speech , were stupefied by how russians fasted, because they pray and pray, can i just continue my thought about

how it was and what it was for, it ’s still a cleansing, well, that is, because not the body of the soul, but, well, everything, really, and the body, and the soul and houses, well, just the in fact, the external is also important, if it does not remain only external, that is. they understood that before such an event, well, they simply couldn’t , well, that is, they cleaned every corner of their home and there were, well, traditions, like separate icons, special brushes that were used to clean the corners there, which they only got before christmas and easter , and this is also a kind of action, which, well, that is, how to say , what we have now, in my opinion, lost, that is, not from fear, not from punishment or fear, it is precisely when you are permeated by this and not because it is necessary, yes, no, but by the anticipation of this really big miracle, and you are waiting for it all these days, and you are preparing, therefore, therefore, all these days,

gifts, because you are like the wise men, and good deeds, that is, there are many components, in addition to the fast of all this, which is also part of this fast or something, it is all about goodness, so that, because you cannot appear before the eyes of the uh, savior, the house there is dirty, even the poorest people cooked there's a clean new shirt or something new skirt or something else, but because how else, well it’s impossible to do otherwise, that’s why for me somehow this is some kind of cleansing, which... always, that is, as soon as you, how to say, even if you have the intention, to do it, it’s already good, but i i mean, that is, there is temptation right away, naturally, it ’s there somewhere, yeah, so you decided, well, well, there are a lot of them, i just already learned, me, for example, since i have a very close friend there , she’s a nun, and somehow i learned to listen to my confessor, and for such spiritual people, for them it’s kind of like

if only this were the norm, they are so simple. they say about this that, well, yes, we don’t live here alone, that is, there are also angels and devils around us and they are all nearby, and at some point you begin to, well, also somehow relate to this, how there’s no one, well, yes, that’s it, he’s here, so it’s important for me to capture this moment when he pokes, and you’re like, thank you, i need it, i understand, i know why this is happening now, after all i will continue there, but i’ve stopped, well, yes, ksenia correctly noted, of course there should be a frame, indeed, it is always easier to live in the mainstream of some kind of tradition, when you do n’t really need to think about how you can outwardly show your religious feelings, your beliefs, but the most important thing is that this frame does not remain hollow, so that it really has a religious , sincere content, because in the end, as it cannot be, no no, it will sound scandalous, but christ was crucified by religiously sophisticated scoundrels who knew perfectly well all the traditions and carefully

observed them, but for them.. . their their own religiosity turned out to be more important than god, yeah, in fact, their religiosity was elevated to the pedistal of veneration, and god remained somewhere in the country, i know, i would like to ask about this, because by and large, the nativity fast and lent, they last 40 days, yes, but the christmas one is longer, but this is no longer considered a great fast, and in addition, it turns out longer, they are both connected with the fast, which, in fact, with the 40 days that christ was in the desert. yes, that is, the tradition goes back to this, well, great advantage advantage, but nevertheless , it is also 40 days, why is the nativity fast 40 days, now, because christ was in the desert for 40 days, and i actually wanted to ask you about this, in this story christ is in the desert, and at the end of it, the devil comes, approaches him, begins to tempt him, this is what for you, father anthony, the most important thing in this story, it seems to me that it is very important to emphasize here, it is not that christ was hungry these 40 days in

the desert or ate... very, very meagerly because what could he find there? what we are talking about here is precisely that a person who has decided for himself that he will fast in preparation for the holiday must understand the important thing that fasting is, of course, not a diet of any kind, that , along with abstinence from food, must be in his life there may also be a prayer, since christ did not just wander through the desert and , i repeat, starved, yes, the gospel directly indicates that christ prayed all these days, yeah. and the third component is an attempt to overcome one’s selfishness, because the temptations that the devil addresses to christ this is an attempt precisely in christ to arouse this most selfish feeling, i am , yes i am, how powerful i am, i can turn stones into bread, though it is not clear to anyone, because there is no one in the desert, for what? for the sake of what, that’s the point, because that’s all, in fact, we are here in

an obvious way. we feel what - this is the gospel lexicon, why he makes a distinction between miracles and signs, that is , signs are what they are, they are something grandiose, something that amazes, but has no practical application, and miracles they are very practical saviors, and christ then turns these five loaves into some incredible quantity, so that only 5,000 men were fed, including women and children, but the devil asks... then show your pride here thus, then throw yourself off the roof of the temple, show that the angels will catch you, demonstrate that you are the messiah, and the third is the entire kingdom of the world in front of you, and it is interesting that the logic of the devil is what, all the kingdoms of the world belong to me - says the devil, yeah, they all serve me, bow down everything will be yours to me.

and there is contact. results of the year with vladimir putin on december 14 at 12:00 moscow time. today we gathered our thoughts about the meaning of the nativity fast, ksinenia alferova, priest anthony borisov, we continue. i know, i would like to ask about this, man is a creature, excuse me, psychomatic, yes, it is clear that everything is connected with us, you have already said this, but nevertheless, this is really the measure of just barbecue there. for sitrines, yes, lobsters, which are technically, in general, not prohibited, yes, what a mess milk seems to be no longer a lean product, that’s the measure, how to determine the measure of fasting, besides the fact that there are students, pregnant women and diseases, yes, when after all, the doctor should probably tell you your

measure of fasting, that’s how for a healthy person who has not graduated from pregnancy, pregnancy is now on par with ill health, this is through, well , look where all of our ideas about fasting... non-fasting food came from, they arose on the basis of the following logic, that’s how st. basil the great reasoned, thanks to which formed in many ways our ideas about what food is lean and what is not, was still very simple, lean food should be, firstly, simple, secondly, accessible, thirdly, cheap, yeah, simple, simple, porridge with cabbage, my sauerkraut favorite food. and the idea of ​​seafood and fish as lean food arose in a very specific historical cultural environment, when it was really a waste product in the mediterranean, when you

went to the market and there it was, actually, cheap fish and cheap seafood, who generally gave almost nothing, why because almost algae, sea grass, no one then, you know, admired the oyster mushrooms. yes, this, by the way, was one of the items on the agenda of the pan-orthodox council that never took place, a revision of the idea of ​​what, in the current conditions, is considered empty, but can i ask you, in continuation of your question, this i once had such a case when we diligently made this buckwheat, buckwheat, buckwheat, buckwheat, i just remember, it was just buckwheat, there was squash caviar, i don’t know, what else can you eat there, yes, yes, yes, and then we went in. i went to visit our friends , who, he is a restaurateur, well, that is, he loves to feed, he eats deliciously, but they are such church-going people, that means they are like that, that’s all, everything that they offered you, there are no illuminated lobsters, and there are no lobsters there there wasn’t, there was more of me

and me, so my mother received them, she says, i was waiting for them, she says, well, you must be hungry, i say, i’m hungry, she says, well, what do you want, do you want these pies, pancakes, something else, i think so quietly, well so that i say, so later, he says, so they do later. the owner i have the only phrase that was that it was possible, i say, and we eat buckwheat alone, so he explained to me what, what is my question, what is my question, he explained, he says, this is it should be a joy, that is, fasting is a pleasure and a joy and something like this, so there can be lenten pancakes, lenten pies or something else, but everything is really very simple, the task of fasting, we back to the topic of selfishness, to the task of fasting enters. that for us to at least forget about our loved ones for a while, saving money on groceries, this money is given to those who need it, so lean food should be simple, accessible and cheap, well, by the way,

this is very important, i wanted just to talk about this, these are works of mercy, yes, as an organic and obligatory part of fasting, it seems to me that this is generally something that, well, let’s say, a wide circle of fasting people don’t always think about, and that’s exactly what so many of us are talking about, that’s all , there is a separate christmas genre stories, well, it’s like a separate genre, all christmas stories are necessarily about, or about how you help, that is, about a miracle, but a miracle, that is, in any christmas story happens, that is, i understood, that is, what should, what should happen during this lent, or on the holiday of christmas, it is usually absolutely wonderful during the holiday, that is, some kind of transformation should occur in your soul, that you should... open up, that is, there, and there it is very interesting, there are some kind of love divisions, well, some kind of transformations, oh, and me, or there, when a wealthy person there suddenly realizes that i deceived her, didn’t give it to her, and he goes, even dickens’s christmas tale, yes, that’s the change in scrooge, yes, yes, that’s it, well, yes,

it all started with this, in fact, with this work they are all about this, and it was mandatory that you definitely had to, that is, then they bought food for christmas itself, both for the family and for that is, the house was open, the kitchen was open to everyone, that is, you could go into any house, well, more or less wealthy, from the street needy, eat, go further , eat, go further, yes, it’s interesting that not only during lent, yes, you do these good deeds, but i mean that not only before, but on the holiday itself, that is by and large, what is a holiday, how does a church holiday differ from a non-church holiday, and the fact that on a church holiday, in addition to sitting there with friends, breaking your fast, you still did something else, so on this day or there, well for those who cannot, for example, who is there in the hospital, yes, he cannot, it seems to me that even this, first of all , perhaps, is what you do for someone, we now call this period of abstinence fasting, as if fasting -

these are three components of food fasting, prayer, and works of mercy, yes here is the saint 's mouth, another, here is a saint of antiquity, how he talks about fasting, if you are fasting, he writes, let not only your stomach fast, let your tongue fast, so as not to say nasty things, your eyes, so as not to look at bad things, ears so as not to listen to gossip, hands so as not to take someone else’s, and feet so as not to to visit, shameful places, if, if for every, every post, at least this one thing, well , as if by choice we made, there is, it would just be a regional land, and the problem is that we, unfortunately, are so sometimes let's concentrate on this ascetic component.

that when a holiday comes, many people just seem to lose their brakes, and yes, finally, finally, it turns out that this entire period before the holiday passes in the format of not learning something good, waiting for when i 'm eating, when will he return to my life? sausage, yes, i even remember one person said: i say, i dream about cheese so much, i wanted to give it to him... from a person, yes, well , it’s interesting that saint philoret drozdov, a saint already closer to us in time, who lived in in the 19th century, the great-grandfather, the saint , was forced to attend all sorts of secular receptions; it must be said that we live in some illusion about our piety. century, i must say, our nobility did not really fast, the fillat

had to attend noble receptions , including fasting, so here he is, so as not to to attract attention, he picked something on his plate with a fork, and sometimes he ate something, well, just so as not to look like a black sheep in this sense, yes, why not be heavier, so as not to offend people, well, that is, when you come, and the hostess has prepared everything, but she doesn’t have... fasting, i’ve often encountered this, and if you suddenly, oh, and i’m fasting, she starts to upset, yes, well, what’s your porridge? , i and she cooked, it seems to me, here, but there is another moment when you come, you say, i’m fasting, i think, well, the hostess has prepared something, and well, mother, come on, it seems to me, silently, it’s just better to eat, but yes, that’s christ’s advice regarding fasting, if you ’re fasting. help your head with oil, that is

, it was a good idea for those times, get better, yes , do your hair, decorate your mind and face with festive clothes for the day, so that no one knows that you are fasting, because a feat performed in secret is much more expensive, than this obvious, this clear pharisaic manifestation of spirituality, i have some feeling that maybe this it will inspire someone, now all sorts of psychological trainings are very fashionable, it’s terrible, look at all kinds. i’m not talking about, i’m not talking about training , i’m talking about the fact that this is a very fashionable topic now, how to quit bad habits, and there’s something like 21 days needed, it’s empty, it lasts a little longer, pumping up personal effectiveness, i don’t know that, no, fasting lasts a little longer, i just know from myself that if you either don’t do something or do something during fasting, well, i don’t know, you start reading the gospel there, yes, then, since, as long as it lasts more than 21 days, she really remains a good habit with you, from something that you. you don’t even really want to do it after this, you kind of get out of the habit of it, this

is absolutely understandable, but if it’s a post, then you then have several things in one bottle, well, that is, you have, getting rid of a bad habit or acquiring a good one, plus you are still fasting, as if there is some kind of problem there, what is the problem, friends, i understand that in principle i am superfluous here, but can i still interrupt you for a second, look, firstly, as the same psychologists say , as far as i understand, look, i still wanted to return to this temptation in the desert, that’s why, since we had such a frank conversation, look, the gospel story, why the devil comes to the end of the fast, because he... understands that a person must be exhausted, he is tired, he has fasted for 40 days, that is, he believes that he is at his weakest, at his lowest point, yes, in his weakest state, and he is mistaken, because for christ these 40 days are like once again, well, gaining strength, and this is for us , well, it’s clear that we are now, that god and man are, so to speak, a completely special story,

and we’re not talking about that here now, but about what, in theory, for this is also a model for us , that is, by the end of lent you should feel stronger, but it seems to me and i have a question for you, father anthony , first of all, as a pastor, and in your pastoral practice, are we able to achieve this strength ? because we usually crawl towards the end of the post, i can tell by myself when there is this paska when it’s not because of food, of course , that is, it turns out that it’s not so, by the way , here the christian specificity of fasting as a spiritual practice manifests itself, the fact is that abstinence from food is bowing. well, as if prayers, as if in themselves, some other manifestations of religiosity, this is not a purely christian story, after all, both muslims and jews, representatives of other religious movements fast, which is actually the christian feature of fasting, this is exactly what it consists of is that

when you cheerfully begin a fast, yes, by the end of the fast you realize that, lord, you have almost no strength left, right? you barely crawl, here, here, here you begin to experience what the virtue of humility is, because humility is not humility, not some kind of artificial self-abasement, the word humility comes from the concept of measure, measure , yes, when, when on the one hand i know my measure, i understand how small it really is, by the end of the post i begin with experience, if i really approached this matter responsibly. i start to understand that god’s power is truly made perfect in weakness, that my measure, that’s it , it’s all over, i have no other ways but to turn to god, that ’s really from the depths, that lord, that’s all i really need your support , that ’s when

the christian content actually manifests itself in full, what you ’re talking about now, but it seems to me that the most difficult thing is the middle, he was wrong, you mean? horned, which, of course, it’s all very, when and by the end it’s the other way around, you already get used to it, i just remember, this is the first time for me this year, well, as if the river flows, it’s not a question for me , as it turned out, or there isn’t something there, then i myself, well, how would i come up with some other additional ones, no , i’ll come up with additional ones, not food, but something, and here i am this year, for example, it was really not the nativity fast, but the great lent, which i regularly went to, well, that is, i went to services there and talked with my confessor, and i liked it so much, i think, why didn’t i do this before? did, and father alexey tells me, you’ll see, you’ll miss this, you’ll really regret that ended, and i also thought, why should i be sorry, if, well, if it’s over , why can’t i continue, but this is

an interesting psychological moment, like, when if it ends, that you might not do it anymore, i’m probably really judging with the priest’s. take part in the divine service, the longer the line for confession, the more people want to receive communion, the more intense and greater this spiritual communication becomes, and of course, of course, the closer the holiday, the less and less it becomes a force, and you now understand that without there’s no way to get by with christ’s help here, well , your strength, they’ve arrived, after all, that’s what i shared, that’s it.