but i don’t know, there’s a spike on feet of clay , relatively speaking, maybe i didn’t think about it before, that is, so far everything was fine, well , everything was going well and those same questions didn’t arise that dad helped, as i understand it, until some point in your family, yes, yes, up to a certain point, well, it turns out that he was like that for me, maybe in the subconscious, just like a support and what... it was, and then it happened to me that i went to work there's a pandemic, and i got laid off, i got divorced and my dad died, it’s like everything, yes, well, as usual, that ’s how it happens, it doesn’t happen just a little, it happens all at once, uh-huh, how did you cope with such a flash piano, i don’t know how you coped, well, i can’t to say that at that moment when all this was happening, i had some kind of deep analysis, i somehow... sold it, well, somehow it seems to me

that i felt so good because i got divorced, as if i had resolved some kind of issue, that i didn’t, well, i didn’t analyze the fact that, for example, i was left without a livelihood, and that, well, i was fired, well, that your divorce will have some consequences for you, and the children stayed with you, and the children stayed with me, but... my husband supports, helps, that is, well, how would we divorce very, how to say, correctly, this is probably, well, environmentally friendly, yes, if so, yeah, that is, you have maintained a fairly good relationship with your husband, now you have a man, that’s right, yes, now i have a second husband, you weren’t alone for long, not for long, yeah, so why does this husband live up to expectations, now there are no expectations yet, now just... there is, well, somehow every time there is

a current moment, well, in these current moments he performs the functionality that you assigned to him, a person who solves your problems, meets some of your needs, yes, yeah , why are you worried, i’m worried about myself, but i don’t see how, well, as a person, as a unit, yes, that is, like this, but you don’t have such a task, so far from what you...

would please, which would you were proud, right? you do not have an income that would allow you to live comfortably alone without relying on other people, you don’t have any interests, apparently , i don’t know, it’s a hobby, that’s what you’re talking about, that means, accordingly, when they ask you tatyana, and i have reason to assume that all this should be the other way around, it’s you who should master a profession that will give you respect, confidence and so on, yes you need it. accordingly, provide for yourself

from start to finish, and, accordingly, your life should be interesting, that’s how you will understand that you are the same person, right? yes, okay, i like this approach, let's go with let's start with professions, which institute did you end up graduating from? i graduated from the kurst polytechnic institute, where your parents sent you, so you’re a software engineer , yeah, yeah, i graduated from college second, as a financial manager, well, i got a financial education, so well... both of these seem to be quite in demand today, well, first education , it’s so nominal, that is, it’s not about me at all, second education, but i initially worked there for several banks, then i worked at a company as a financial manager, then as an accountant, then i wanted to leave the accounting department and i was fired, well, accordingly , i couldn’t answer my request, so i liked your work, accounting, no, but there are people who like working in accounting? surely,

probably so, but i wanted to leave, and it so happened that by chance, not by chance, i got a job as an assistant to the director of a public school. did you like this job? yes, i liked this job, now you don’t work there, now i don’t work there because the pandemic laid you off, they laid me off from accounting, why don’t you work at school if you like it? it’s a little difficult to be a personal assistant, there are certain moments when i couldn’t, well, morally, combine this role as a personal assistant, yes, that is, i liked all the functionality, everything except that in some moment...

for a while, well, i’m interested in working, i’m 47 years old now, and i don’t see myself as a pensioner yet, that is, i have strength, desires, i want to work, but how would you like yours to change? life, suddenly it’s a miracle, the whole thing switches

mechanism and suddenly your ideal life begins, what it would look like, there in a month you have this and that, in a year that and in 5, in 10 years. you wake up, happy, well, there is this, let’s say, some kind of excitement and desire to do things, interest satisfaction, well, something internal, yes, that doesn’t mean there are some moments, why do you cry when you talk about it, well, you you’re talking about how great it will be, why are you crying even when you look there, no? i'm sorry that this is not the case now. okay, not like that now. this just a fact. why do you get upset when we talk about your fantasies? maybe i somehow don’t believe that this is possible? i have a feeling that you are talking and don’t believe me. i also have a feeling that it’s as if you really let someone down

by not being able to get it all. who have you let down? who has disappointed you? i let myself down. who else could be disappointed in you? are you making your decisions in life? it ’s as if you stumbled and disobeyed someone who told you how to do it, maybe this your dad, maybe, who, for example , maybe told you that yul, you shouldn’t get married so early, let’s assume, or you shouldn’t marry this person, maybe not, but from what i see , the way you talk about it, one gets the feeling that now at this moment some character will come out of the darkness, maybe it’s not even a person, but who will have every reason to tell you myself... you were warned, i would like , so that he would come out, i would also look at him with pleasure, let’s get him right now as if we would call here, if we allow this fantasy, then what kind of character he is, i don’t know, maybe it’s some kind of feeling

of his own ego, well, as if i ’m like myself, well, how disappointing, yes, that is, i i don’t comply, i have goals, what are they? well, that was 12 years ago, that is, this is essentially the birth of your second child, where were you heading? why, right? ok, why? to the fact that there was an opportunity to do what you liked, and what you liked? did you go on maternity leave when you were eight years old? yes, plan

i liked it, well, somehow i liked the children, well , taking care of them, yes, but now i ’m analyzing it for myself on the other hand, that maybe this... in front of your father and in front of your husband at that time, also gave you this justification the fact that you took some kind of help from them, well, the husband is understandable, the father is less clear, well, perhaps yes, now you are saying, perhaps yes, what can i say, i, well, for me it was justified, yes, that so they support me, because i’m doing something that supposedly cannot be measured, measured, yes, yes, this time moment you clearly seemed to be already disappointed in something, and for you this eight-year maternity leave was salvation and... the birth of a second child was to some extent salvation, that you don’t need to achieve any results in

the material world, let’s call it this is so, and you have gone into an ephemeral world, for example, into the ephemeral world of good mothers, as if there is some kind of, you know, universe where all mothers are good and everyone shows their children to each other, their children have a sarf in chinese, with chinese to gymnastics, from gymnastics to swimming, then chess, english only after that sleep, they all eat well, they don’t get sick, they are obedient, here you are in this world of good people... you moved on and thought i’m such a good mother, but what happened there, well, this is the most disappointing thing , disappointment, there was a problem that even at that moment you were not confident in your husband, that he would be able to provide for you the way you need, you already saw it then and then you understood it, but you turned a blind eye, that’s what thing, instead of being at 35 there, well, even though you are now at in general, it was quite okay, but at 35 you were young, and this was the moment when it was possible and worthwhile to make different decisions.

some kind of disappointment in yourself, when you made an independent decision for the first time, you can answer the first thing that comes to mind, an independent decision, in principle, well, here’s some kind of decision for your life, any independent decision, i’ll go to school, no i’ll go to school, it seems to me that in my marriage it was my decisions all the time, well, that is, i was in my first marriage all the time, well, let’s say so, yes, this is the notorious one, who is the head of the family, that is...

yes, but i liked it, there is a feeling that along with this dominance you got the husband who did not meet your expectations in the end? well, of course, yes, i understand it now, well, the decision to get a divorce, it was also absolutely my decision and i understood that, well, no matter what, even if there is no work there, that’s all, i still can’t to be in this marriage anymore, and this decision is bold, i don’t know, i understood to another that well, it’s as if i just can’t breathe, well like, well, i really physically just can’t and

, accordingly, i also suppress my first husband, well , i suppress it, because i understood that that’s where i was, well, very, so strong , in a negative sense, strong, yeah, you said at the beginning that your request is that you are in a child's position, a child's position. and such dominance in the family like this, well, now it’s as if something like this happened, you know, like a changeling and, i’m kind of afraid of going back and becoming so dominant again, or as if would, well, let’s put it this way, yes, it didn’t lead to anything good, well, conditionally, i think that if you now, when we are talking about this, if you take responsibility for this whole experience, that’s absolutely total. responsibly, that you made decisions, you did what you did, and the result of these decisions,

the result of your actions, in general, you do not like, if you accept all this experience from beginning to end and integrate it into yourself, then rather you won't repeat the same mistake, but then the question arises: how will you act from today in your relationship with your current spouse so that your personality develops, as you say, at the same time you can count on your... like an imbalance and such and as if some kind of instability and uncertainty that do you tell yourself as if you cannot control this force, that if it exists, then it is total, then you begin to suppress your husband, you begin to dominate, lead him with you, and as if now, if you

turn it on, then also in the same way the scenario will turn around so that this does not happen, what would you do now, yul, if you decided to destroy your relationship with your husband now with your second, follow yes, follow this scenario that you followed with your first husband, with your second husband , my situation is a little different, we have a big age difference, it’s unlikely, even if i really

want to, i will be able to defeat him, yes, but answering tatyana’s question, you would try to somehow suppress him. i don’t see it in myself now , no, tatyana asked you another question, she said, what would you do, yuli, if you wanted to destroy the relationship with him, as from what you answer, i conclude that if you could, you would suppress him, that’s how you would destroy the relationship with him, but thank god, you understand that this is impossible due to his kind of wisdom, maturity, his inner strength, well, yes, well, it’s clear that you wouldn’t come directly, you wouldn’t say, look, now let’s agree who’s in charge here , well, if you exaggerate it...

in order to destroy it, in order to understand what then should be done to preserve it, that is, there is a certain idea, but about something that destroys relationships, it’s clear now that it’s not worth it, then what’s worth doing, the most important thing is that it seems to me that it’s worth talking, well , that is, communicating a lot, talking, explaining, swearing, well, in every yes, a moment in time when some situations arise, for example, or some simply... as they say, to dialogue, yes, that is, you need to find some kind of balance between destructive actions and absolutely creative actions, yes, you need to find what - such a golden mean, yes, i will give a hint such that as a man, that the value of a conversation in a couple is greatly overestimated by a large number of psychologists who broadcast today in various channels,

because in my opinion, just the opposite, in general, he will not be interested in it, that’s when tanya is talking about, you will find a balance, because that i’m sure that your spouse, in general, is not against it, only for you to develop personally, well, let’s just say that yes, naturally, he’s not like, do whatever he wants, you only want where, well, because you can rush to the other extreme now, you can

destroy it, or you can rush to the other extreme, where to maintain relationships, just create everything, run there, make every effort. spend there, but you need to find exactly yourself in this, with or without a relationship. you can find all episodes of the triggers podcast on the website of the first channel 1tv.ru, let's just say that relationships in marriage are not in the sense of not, well , not so important, yes they are, but now in the first place for me is exactly that, and about that, well , basically, where am i for myself, that is, right now. the fact that i was not there alone for a long time, well, my daughter tells me that it seems that you can’t be alone, but i can’t say that, well, i jumped right into this marriage, but what... it just happened for me, well, it just happened that way, but that’s the request at the moment that’s all i have in mind - more, that is, i

understand that marriage also depends, well , naturally, on how i will feel, that is, how much i will be, in fact, yul, you answered all the questions, look, you are exactly you understand, how you will feel satisfied is when you have a profession that you which you respect yourself, the income that allows you to be... is always connected with the role of the other partner, because these are identities that

if there is no husband, you are not a wife, if there is no child, the mother is a good mother, a wife, and so on , yes, you are not a mother, so now you just need to take this lesson, which 35 years would not have passed or passed incorrectly, because you do not like the result, and today you should direct all your strength to this. using your husband as support and support, you have a couple of years for this, believe me, no more, but within it takes two years to do this. julia, tell us about your children, how do they see you? this is just such a question for me too, i always , often ask myself that it would be interesting for me to see myself through the eyes of my children, and find out what they think about me, have you ever asked them? well, i asked and even when i didn’t ask about them.

my daughter tells me that she is grateful to me for getting divorced, they highlight some of your strengths, something that they like about you, something that impresses you, well , yes, she often tells me that ... to her i like the kind of relationship we have, she ’s open with me, it happens that sometimes she and her brother diagnose me in their correspondence, that i have some kind of adhd, that i’m some kind of advanced child, depression, multiple personality disorder, yes, now young people love to talk about it, but well, just at some point, when my friends usually congratulated me on my birthday, they often told me that you are... an amazing mother, you are an excellent mother, i have never seen such mothers i don’t know, at some point it already became like bad advertising, yes, because it’s just

only a small part of your personality, and what did you manage to create in relationships with them, what do you think, the most important thing is with children, uh-huh, it seems to me that it didn’t work out, i managed to keep them, well, real, that is, they are like that, well, in my opinion i also understand that loved ones... are not so spoiled, they are, well , such good children at home, yes, well, in a good sense, not in the sense that they are from the greenhouse, they have grandmothers, grandfathers, mom, dad, well, sort of so we can say that, in principle, the family is a full cup, but they have a good happy childhood was, that is, you know how to love, in fact, yes, well, that’s great, look, it’s the same thing, just give it to yourself now, and are you right, your daughter? when he tells you that you underestimate yourself, because essentially you now, here you are 47, have the opportunity to show them another very important thing, that you are an adult, you can do anything, and you will

do what you like without looking back on them, on parents, on husbands and so on, so they should see that 47 is only the beginning in this sense of life, when we begin to enjoy our life, when you can love yourself, you were able to love them, that’s it, that’s all with them, and now only for yourself? in the good sense of the word, you have a beloved man next to you, in general, in the near future everything will only be wonderful, i think you need to find yourself, that is, the you you want to be, you know how when a chumrashka asks a crocodile gena, says who you work for, he says to the crocodiles at the zoo, can you imagine how harmonious this is, well, as a child you weren’t embarrassed by this answer, to the crocodiles at the zoo, he ’s either an idiot, or cheburashka is an idiot, whether we, who are reading this, but no,

but we need to find this self, who wants to be realized through some position, through some profession, through some kind of activity, don’t look for a job, find yourself, who wants to be realized through one profession or another. there is a very simple coaching tool, you can take a piece of paper, when you leave here, or in the notes in your phone, now you will be riding in a taxi, write what you want your day to look like, here you woke up, where you woke up, what’s around you, where did you go, what did you become what to do next, what is your job, how do you feel about it, when did you come, what? meets you in the evening, who meets you in the evening, what do you do, through these simple steps you will little by little, little by little feel, i’ll try, no need to try, i’ll do it, good, good that you stopped yourself, thank you very much, thank you, you’re so interesting you cry, and despite everything , the past and the future are a little confused in your head, you look at your future, but see only your past there, well, yes, there’s probably this moment that i’m like

like the future. and to be our guest in our studio and to understand the issue that is interesting to you personally, fill out the form on the website 1tv.ru. if life deceives you, don’t be sad, don’t be angry. a day of despondency, accept it, a day of joy, because it will come, the heart is the future, the present lives, sadly, everything is instantaneous, everything will pass.

what passes will pass by, by the poet’s anniversary. this is the easy money podcast, me and its host mikhail khanov, and today we are looking at it. how to secure your personal data in the digital economy, today we have visiting candidate in physics and mathematics , cybersecurity expert, andrei mosalovich, hello, andrei, hello, well, when we were, literally not so distant, we were more worried about our physical safety, at best about economic safety, about money, and this it was also like physically, yes, money that hooligans could take away there, taking it out of their pocket,

or we ourselves... but in the conditions of the digital economy, i would like to understand what it is, a digital profile, this is our image in this digital economy, what is it, please tell us in more detail, well, let’s try, let’s remember the film 17 moments of spring, and employees of various services walked there. where there were dossiers on each other and they trumped with these dossiers, here is a digital profile - this is exactly the same dossier, only electronic and much more complete, let's see how it is formed, you were born, you have your first records, what is your name, parents, their place of residence, date and time of birth, place of origin, everything, they went to some kind of digital file, now it’s starting to accumulate on you in this digital dossier, which is then a digital image about one thing, now it’s... a very

dispersed database, there are many of them, there is such a term big data, big data, this is a big data base, which are different companies, different people, different organizations collect for different purposes, but they have learned to be friends with each other, they are friends, so they exchange with each other, a dossier is actually accumulated, it can be quickly built in one place, this does not mean that it is physically all somewhere -everything about you is stored, but to build, it is very easy to collect in one place, and moreover, at some point you can collect the so -called golden record. where literally everything about you will be stored, let's list that, you have identification credentials by which you can be identified, where you live, who you are, who your parents are, where you came from, where you worked, and so on, once, second, your medical data, in general, the holy of holies, what you were sick with, are sick with, is not there, among serious illnesses, yes, this is generally very, but they also leaked there, then further, all your types activity, well, in fact, any of

our actions, any. leaves a digital trace, you passed by a bus stop there, the sensor beeped, to the fact that in all police tv series, police officers, i beg your pardon, this is already a standard phrase for now... it’s a common myth that our image is in the hands of the special services or law enforcement officers, law enforcement officers of the special services are fed from the hands of private companies that know much more about us, for some reason there is a company, well, a pizza delivery company knows where you are exactly, who you are with now, how many of you there are there is a room in this room, but this is at this particular moment, but in the special service, in order for this or law enforcement to find out something, they need to get there. to the base, i tensed up when you said that state special services, state intelligence services, law enforcement agencies do not have these databases , they go for certain information databases to private companies, the same marketplaces,

but here are the platforms that unite sellers, well-known to everyone, and electronic , in fact, each is obtained from these sites , a collects, b stores, c uses this data, yes and g it is also private, that is. it is not responsible to you as a state ; however, it is guided by federal law 152, it is guided by maximizing profits there and the value of the company, well, in these places such as marketplaces, it’s not just our data, it’s our financial data, that is, there’s credit data cards, and with a cvv code, the same three-digit one on the back side, which allows you to write off money without acceptance, well, of course there is a bank there.

well, for example, this very pin code, so i can add up the sum of the digits of the pin code, divide by five, you get the balance, you have the balance written down, you tell me, tell me the sum of the digits of your pin code, the balance, i say such and such about coincided, that is, you cannot restore it, that is, if it is someone else and he does not knows the very algorithm that will not help, he will not be able to use your password, he will be able to check whether you are correct or incorrect. they sent it, but it won’t be able to restore it, fortunately, that is, in this regard, there is some kind of reservation for our privacy, in this place natalya kasperskaya would she said, everything that can leak will leak, so i

’ll add on my own behalf, everything that can leak has leaked, the bank, how secure is the storage of your personal data, well, the first answer, the answer is no, it’s not protected, but not because the database is not protected , the base is protected close to... integrity, then now banks have a very high level of self-awareness, a very high level of internal protection, control, and the struggle for reputation, which is very easy to ruin then having to worry about restoring, so, but - banks are caught first for employee account disloyal, that is, when leaks occur from banks, it’s either hackers breaking the database and downloading there, well, often, by the way, with the help of insiders, or a disloyal employee simply takes your data and sells it, you know, i can honestly say, years , probably six, even more ago, i watched a film about just hacker groups, and what was my surprise when there were very cool , very cool guys, computer and calculator guys, as i say, they

were all stuffed with sensors, they were very they typed quickly and quickly, the program code was moving, there are a huge number of server monitors, but all the major autopsies were all done with the help of social engineering, what is social engineering, what andrey says. when there is some employee who threw a piece of paper with a password in the trash, so they specifically rummaged through the dump looking for garbage, office garbage, where there could be some data suggested, that is, you wrote down the password on the computer on velcro, someone is i saw it through binoculars through the building, then they threw it in the trash, they specifically go into the trash there tanks, rummage, pull out, that is, this is the so -called phishing fishing, in fact , you yourself just said that we ourselves... in fact, yes, well, in this case , employees of a banking organization, that is, the very human factor that gives the hands of criminals hold the keys to hacking databases, it turns out like this, well, wait, right up to the last phrase, we listed four or five different methods there, and that’s not all and not

the main thing, let’s figure it out, so, first, we don’t store passwords carefully, uh-huh, second, our passwords are not strong, let me remind you that a strong password now, well, according to the requirements of, say, kaspersky, is at least eight characters, at least one letter, one number.

i shrimped and looked at the passwords, i won’t say that the blondes won purely, they have a complex spiritual world there, but the hackers and admins lost purely, that is, a person calls himself a super admin or a super hacker, he either has a phone number or some other identifier either the date of birth or the surname is written there, well, for the most part, yes, well, it’s directly visible, that’s pure one girl with a sixteen-character password won, i looked at her for a long time, and it was really persistent there and by chance the service characters ended up there in the file, i remember it in the same way in general, then i looked at it, saw that it was written in english letters in an english layout russian phrase: why am i such a fool, there’s no need to store it, the burtforcer program itself is any, well , the password picker on it will break, so the girl is great, well, let’s move on, so look, you didn’t protect them well with the password, password yours is unstable, then the worst thing is that the worst gift that... a person gives to a hacker is repeated passwords.

you can’t keep the same password on different services; it will collect information about you from different sources, put it together when it turns out that the same password is not found out, it even becomes clear when the same password is leaked somewhere, it’s easy , well, i can go on for a long time and a hacker will definitely try on all your services, well , that is, let’s take the first rule, let’s start recording audiences. i use it in in a chaotic manner, periodically forgetting which is which. here andrey, where to store all this? it is best to store it in some kind of encryption pad, that is , it is written in the real world, so that another person cannot read or understand, this is a specific piece of paper, for example, here, well, now i do it differently, i have had pin codes for a long time , the pin codes were numbers from credit cards, that is, these four numbers, this credit card. this is the pin code of this one, which means it’s always in front of my eyes, yes, but

i don’t have my pin code written down anywhere so and so, you yourself remembered, i remember that these numbers are these, and there are also options, there are few options, i can always go through them, even if i make a mistake once, the enemy will not be able to, but once again, these are the so -called techniques zero cryptographic strength, if the enemy recognizes them, you have lost them, so you also need to change them periodically, then passwords. how sad is it, you have to change them once a quarter, they really leak, well , really, you type a password while under some kind of camera, your device often turns out to be infected, that is, with the keyboard can be considered if we move on to the questions, but how to live in such a situation, how scary it is to live, how to live, you need to form some harmless image of yourself next to you, here i have a card, there are no more 3.00 rubles on it, even if everything is from it they will suppress, they will suppress it.

he is very busy, he is very highly paid, and he really does not like problems, that is, as soon as he sees that messing around with you is problematic, he will become uninterested, or look uninteresting. this is the easy money podcast, i am its host, mikhail khanov, we continue the conversation about how to protect your personal data in the digital economy, how to save your digital profile, andrey mosalovich, a candidate in physics and mathematics, helps us with this today.

try to get the money in the bank, if you have it in the bank, walk to the branch, write a statement that all transactions above this amount are only in my personal presence without a power of attorney, without electronic payments there only in person, so we remember, that is, it’s very simple, and banks accept such an application, in principle, change the bank, there are banks that accept, in principle it turns out that if some kind of operation took place, they said that if you called remotely, you are not in the visa card, that is, the bank bears responsibility, according to this agreement, that is, in principle

, it turns out that one of the most effective ways to fight with cybersecurity scammers on your digital profile. this means that they were the first to conduct research in the states, there is no correlation between resistance to fraud and income, position, professorial rank, that is, all adults and children are being scammed the age of both the tops and just managers of all,

you don’t have to think that this applies to grandmothers or children, of course, these are those same mass schemes, those same scripts, yes, that you plant there, but also... a person doesn’t the highest intellect, but due to your enormous, as i say, observation, experience, yes, experience, thousands of such conversations, calls, and not in the most abstruse ways, little by little, you begin to speak some information in papahs, but if you were also made to feel emotional, why? achieve, they bring out emotions, and you can say this or that information there, which in the end will lead to losses and very, so right away, as they say, we pull out the cord and go out to the light.

in the world it is called loveful interception, legal interception equipment, in russia it is called the sorm system of operational-growth events, this is equipment that records your access to the network and there records your most important identifier ip, ipres, the address of your computer, which assigned to you for a while, when you enter the network, there’s a sign like this, and the provider knows who you are, well, he must know your last name, so that if something happens, there’s someone to ask. get there, this place is tracked, so if you want to look somewhere, where you shouldn’t, there are two ways, one way is to use to remain invisible, if you want, well, there are two main ways, first, if we don’t take crime at all, there’s someone else’s sim card, someone else’s computer there and so on, the first one is called a proxy server, that is,

you go through someone’s server to look at well, he kind of turns your traffic into his own, i do that. in this case, he sees you, well, you have violated the server, you have violated the zero trust environment, he is someone else, most likely he belongs to some enemy or a scammer or just some company that at an unnecessary moment you will pass, but you violated, you trusted him, you violated the rules of a zero-trust environment, so he sees your traffic, but...