of the profit that is being paid off, either you will run to hire, or we will lose all of this to the fullest, we will lose it to the fullest, but in fact it is also important, the feeling itself is important, so to speak, and comfort , some understanding of comfort, at least microscopic, do you have from the beginning of freelancing, or so far only tears and tension disappointment, listen, there is comfort, because in... in this broad functionality it is more interesting to me, because i do not only have one audience of one company, but people from different spheres come to me, i am at the expense of i also get rich from this and give it even more to my clients, well, plus you get to know other people, they also get to know you, tell me nastya, if you hadn’t left, yeah. that moment, what would

you have acquired, so that if you had stayed, acquaintances, a huge number, i wouldn’t have acquired, and a supportive environment, i wouldn’t have acquired, didn’t they support you at work, well, there was support, but it was like it was different, that is, now my eyes are just wet from such emotions, you know , you’re going through hardening, we’re making you such a...

minus to you, this is just the degree, the degree of understanding your reality, this is a very important competence for an independent path, because i don’t understand the potholes on this road, it’s difficult to go there, but it’s very important, if you feel discomfort, and you apparently do, it’s important in the team that you are forming, that is, it’s important either to find a person in the team who will really become your right hand, you need, you know, such a bulldog deputy, we delegate to the deputy. your assistant, you understand, who he'll say, you haven't gotten up yet, well, how, 30, negotiations, where are you, your employee tells you, yes, he says, you're a freelancer or where, you should already have earned my salary, anastasia, i like it, this is a very important option, because either your, your employee should take this option, i repeat, or it happens that some freelancer gets lucky, or people have such a strategy in advance and we...

in my professional lexicon i call it the cocoon effect, because when a caterpillar tries to become a butterfly, it first fences itself off from everyone, she will create a cocoon for herself, she does not hear anyone, does not see anyone, she is not interested in what is happening around her, she makes her internal transformation, yes, such that allows her from a caterpillar to become a butterfly, therefore either you - do you have support in the form of a friend or an ally, or you are completely in deep isolation, clenched your jaw, as they say, and went through this difficult path, what is the strategy?

at this stage, right now i felt what you are saying, andrey, thank you very much, here is a psychologist for you now gave a very correct installation, i am an armored train, so we speak louder, the words i am an armored train, we speak more harshly, i am an armored train, even harsher training we do it here, we do it like at trainings, listen, in fact, a great setting, i like it, i got charged, the tears dried up immediately, as soon as the armored train sounded, the tears dried up, it turns out that it works. or what? yes, it works, because - millions of people have walked along your path before you, the bumps have already been made, yes, bicycles have already been invented, it is very important that a person, starting something new, does not really get his own cones. if you take everything that natalia and i are talking about today, it certainly significantly increases your chances of realizing

your dream, of becoming a successful freelancer. how you want fame, you lisp there, solid er. and gumelev, by the way, is cross-eyed, i am not interested in life at all, only art, my face is itching, lord, these are children, something terrible is happening, but i don’t understand what yet, who sent them to death with an unshakable hand, you can’t forbid me their wow, can you? if necessary, we will forbid you to breathe, i bought you a passport, alexander vertidis, greek, you are our poet, you are an artist, you need to be protected, sleep it off,

boor, in banana-lemon singapore in a storm, they don’t understand russian, your talent is immediately visible, vertinsky. on sunday on the first, in the new season on the first, come on, can i ask you, of course, it’s time to tie up with this choir, he’s a soloist, finally, daddy, daddy, hi, why haven’t you come for so long, what did you come here for?

this is a psyche podcast, my name is natalia losyeva, we continue to analyze the story of our heroine anastasia. nastya, that’s when you made this decision, well, i understand that it was forced, did you discuss it with anyone and who supported you, who didn’t, that is, you simply

presented everyone with a fait accompli, andrey, and if nastya had gone to talk about this idea, i understand that there was a largely forced story there, but nevertheless... it was all the same, important or not, to go and even with your grandmother, with your, i don’t know, with your cat, with your neighbor, with your junior colleague, to discuss your plans, even if they are just now appearing under duress. here there is - such a practical side: if anastasia had always consulted with others in her life before, yes, she always tried to find the ground under her feet, that very support group, then it is more correct and starting a new cardinal path, in this case freelancing, the right and here this ground.

the right questions, that is, working with objections, where would be, yes , where accordingly, where would a person, nastya, yes think, yes you look, in this conversation several useful tips would be born, several of those nodal points. use as a technique, in fact, when you come for advice, and as you very accurately said, you are talking about someone, it is not so important what you hear in response, write down for yourself immediately after the conversation, what questions caused the most acute reaction in you? yeah, and the more negative the reaction is, the sharper it is, the more irritated

this question will be for you, even if it does not sound from a colleague, not from an expert, from your mother, grandmother or some person who, in general, you , well, in this area, do not feel like a prompter, the more likely it is that this is an unprocessed story for you, that your subconscious, your intuition tells you, nastya, you are irritated now not because the question was stupid, not because you are incompetent, but because you feel anxiety inside yourself, which means that something here is unclear to you, it’s just your expectations , optimistic, illusory, they tell you, so they lull you to sleep, don’t pay attention, close your eyes, sleep until lunch, you are beautiful, everything will be fine, the money will come. yes, they are already on their way, they are on their way, just take it, and i want

to ask you about this, andrey, look, there are two like that, two types of approach to the future, in business, in life, by the way, too, it means, some managers, super optimists, they are like, yes, everything will go great, don’t worry, tune in to the positive, visualize the ideal result, then like... when the result is not ideal, then well, there are happy people who don’t care, everything is a piece of cake, and there are those who are frustrated and worried, there is another type of people who say: so, uh-huh, this will go wrong, this is a risk, this is a threat, this is where they will set you up, this is where they will let you down , this is where i got burned, oh well, or there we work on the most pessimistic path. it seems like they have a high probability of winning, but at what cost, yes at the cost of this

neurosis, tension, irritation, well or missed opportunities, here is what path in your opinion will generally lead us to success with a greater probability, what suits anastasia, what to learn, as strange as it may seem, but so in contradiction to what we said in the program, according to statistics, those people who are not quite prepared, who... are more often successful. afraid, they most often remain there in employment, because they are too smart, they are too , that is, those who see more risks, as it were, they ultimately do not set out on the road, more often the strategy works, when a person is somewhere a little optimistic, a little naive, but in this case, here we have also paid attention to this today, allies are important, if , having encountered real. sees risks, this

is precisely the collaboration of two people, this is the synergy of two people, this is the most correct form of success, therefore the largest companies, the most large structures that have developed are most often founded not by one, two people, they can then quarrel, argue, divide the business there in the courts there with hatred, but it is precisely... two people started and compensating for each other's personal psychological features achieved this success, therefore in your case, on your optimism, find yourself an ally and everything will work out for you. and in your case, based on your psychological type, you need an ally, as andrey, a pessimist brusga, said. is there anastasia or someone from those, friends, who have gone through a similar path, are now thinking about maybe returning to employment, so they are making this decision, to return. that is, to return to the boss, to return to a stable job, and i would not like

you to feel defeated, but i do not yet really understand how to properly set myself up for this step, it seems that back, but maybe not, you know, but i emphasize, practice shows that a successful start occurs on average in only 10-15% of 100 possible, and i repeat, that is , about: 80-90% of people roll back, but and of those who rolled back, about 2/3 say, so, stop, stop, that's it, i'm not going anywhere anymore, and about a third say, so, i 'm getting something useful. just do some additional preparatory work in this case there is no defeat, there is experience of just better preparation for your new start yes, this is a restart again, this is not a refusal to go back, this is a restart, this is just an exit

again in a more prepared situation, well , let's say, sometimes we left the house, we leave the house, and i forgot my keys or wallet there yes... or something else, and it’s not a shame to go back, because if you went back, took what you needed and went on, it ’s better than you’ll walk around all day, excuse me, without a wallet or without keys, but she didn’t just go back, she came back beaten, yes, that is, she came back with experience, she’s still enriched, even if in anastasia’s case we see that there’s not only defeat, yes, there are just a lot of connections, a lot of new skills, a lot of stress that was lived through correctly, yes, that is, such a seasoned psyche, we see that...

anastasia armored train, which will ultimately still achieve the success in life that she wants to achieve, but you will do it more rationally, yes, that is, you will already build up this armor, you will already write out a normal plan, you will already return to your previous job or to another job in the office, you will already know, so i get this skill here, i do this, and how will this come in handy later in my big plan, that is, you will already rationalize. this is your aspiration, this is your dream, and most likely, it seems to me that in the second etoration a person will no longer sleep, yes, undoubtedly, you will be less complacent, you will be less illusory, you will be less optimistic, you will be more collected, you will be more critical of yourself, yes, of your cases, of your various, as we can

say now, skills, yes, that is, this is a very important story, and i emphasize, in any case, there will be no anastasia before and the new one... anastasia will be more successful, more effective, stronger, wiser than the one that was, so no matter how your trajectory goes, in fact, the very fact that you are communicating with us today, the very fact that you are asking the right questions, the very fact that you are finding answers for yourself, shows that you are on the right path of transformation. it seems to me that these tears are wonderful, these are just the tears of the birth of the new anastasia, yes, you feel it, this is the new anastasia, i feel it, loudly, i feel the armor belt. excellent, and accordingly, your customers, your clients and your team, in fact, these tears should not be perceived as tears weaknesses, these are tears of strength, because a person who works on himself always becomes stronger, thank you, i would listen to you andrey, just endlessly, inspire, friends, well, today we have so very -

radically and intensively reborn our heroine, who left the well-known freelance, received ... there is quite a lot of stress, disappointment, despair, but it seems that we with our expert andrey sberovsky managed to use this potential, maybe negative, in order to right before through your eyes, right in the studio of the podcastlab we have a new, strong, cool manager nastya, and we believe in her, thank you, this is a podcast psyche, watch all the episodes of our podcast on the website of the first channel: 1tv.ru. hello, you are watching precious stories. my name is ekaterina varkan , our guest today is elena vinogradova. she came

to us from voronezh, and it is not just like that, not far from voronezh. such a first prince of the kingdom, so to speak, yes, indeed, he was a handsome man in the full sense of the word, tall, his huge blue eyes... framed by very long eyelashes shone with intelligence, there would hardly be such eyes in the world - wrote one of his contemporaries. well, here we see

a completely remarkable portrait, a real beauty. dmitry was born into a respectable family and had a good education. dmitry received an excellent education, in which, of course, his mother anna nikolaevna, née princess bolenskaya, participated, who selected for him. with love mentors and teachers, by the way, many of them later became teachers at the moscow imperial university. by the age of seventeen, dmitry venevitinov had completed his home education, had acquired excellent encyclopedic knowledge, he had a brilliant command of languages, and in particular greek, because his teacher, the greek bailo, taught him, and... this subject and he was not just a home teacher, he was a famous scholar , the publisher of plutarch. but we have a certificate that dmitry received in the twenty-third

year at the university, and it lists all the sciences that he actually knew , the grades that he received. here is very one small detail is interesting, it says that the certificate was issued according to the decree of 809, and the decree is quite interesting, in my opinion, spiransky. he came up with such a thing that all people in the civil service had to have a chicken of some public higher educational institution, and many already respectable people who occupied decent positions did not have such crusts, and that is , confusion arose in society, respectable uncles had to come, sit down at a desk , take exams, it's quite funny, all these people who did not have official crusts, they had no right to enter the service were called minors. that's where this wonderful word comes from, moreover, those who did not serve, which means, well, many counts and princes had a brilliant education, but did not have chickens, were also considered minors, and you can

fantasize, say, how they sign some important papers, well, for example, a deed of sale or a will, they write a minor count or prince such and such, well, in general , it's pretty funny, but all that means, parents, naturally, began to take care of their minors, well, young ones, naturally. the fact that vnevitinov, it is known, played the piano well, he was also engaged in composing compositions and in 2010-11 we had such a friend, thank god

she still exists, zhanna antonyan, a music teacher, she said that she found in the archive in the lenin library notes that belong, in fact, to the hand of venevitinov, a four-handed karkovyak, and i was then working on the new pushkin prize project and we actually performed. khovin, and he considered him a philosopher in music, in the consequences, well and as for musical dmitry's works, his friends said that they wanted to publish his poetic

experiments together with them and musical works, so perhaps there really will be new discoveries, work is underway, well , yes, it means that people are debating, this is called scientific work, but the main thing would be a find. there will be debaters, as we know, he was a handsome young man, romantic, enthusiastic, and we know that he spent the summer in this estate in the name of an animal near voronezh, yes, after dmitry successfully completed moscow university, he enters the service, the moscow archive, the college of foreign affairs, but here for a short time suddenly... he needed to leave for novozhivotiny to his estate, and he goes there to the memories of his childhood, indeed , he went with his parents to the estate in

novozhivotiny, he loved it very much, and you know, a very beautiful legend is connected with the poet's stay in the estate in childhood, the legend of the butterfly, of pavlenny's eye, it happened when mitenko was very small, and one day , walking in a large garden, he saw a magnificent a creature that flapped its wings, flew from flower to flower, and dmitry asked his brother peter what kind of creature it was, he explained to him that it was a butterfly... every morning began with dmitry running into the garden and looking for his girlfriend, and this was such an impression of his childhood that he later retained, and being already an adult, an archive employee, a poet, he in a pocket album for his sister sonechka, draws this butterfly pavleniya's eye and dedicates to her a small poem in french,

a small butterfly, fluttering. flower on on flower, and it was so touching, we found this album in the forty-eighth fund, we have it, we can look, we know that he was also, besides being a musician, an excellent draftsman, yes, we have portraits, of his sister sonya and a self-portrait, they are generally so wonderful, also at that time, apparently painted, here is sonya's sister, to whom he actually gave this pocket album, yes, and there is a self-portrait of the smallest one.

a butterfly, a glance of the eyes, and i looked and said, master, here everyone immediately understood, oh what are we talking about, that in fact this estate and those portraits that i pointed to, the portrait of dmitry, this butterfly, they are somehow connected, they all began to bow and pronounce the owner, the owner, our caretakers even froze, everyone began to smile, the chinese understood everything, at some point...

but all these wonderful people they were regulars at the then famous salonade of the princess on tverskaya street he found. magnificent voice, why, why did you sing so sweetly, why did i listen to you so greedily, jesus drank the poison of your beauty singers' dreams and joyless passions, so to speak, you can read some kind of passion, uh, which arose in the young man in relation to

this woman, in the house, it means, there were a lot of all sorts of wonderful, famous people, it is very interesting the memories of prince vyazimsky about how pushkin appeared there after his exile in mikhail.

the house, just, yes, this is the house of balkonskaya tverskaya 14, in fact, where everything happened, according to the recollections of eyewitnesses, even the walls sang there, there are steps, you touch the step, a consonance will be heard, well, and venevitinov, of course, was in the galaxy of these magnificent muscovites, who simply could not help but be there, there in the salon at the bookstore, it was right here that... for the first time, probably, he experienced those feelings, feelings that would later grow into his very deep passion for the queen of musa's beauty, into

this love, but a suffering love, an unrequited love, because volkonskaya, she, of course, noticed dmitry as a very talented young man, promising... great hopes in the field of science, in the field of poetry, he had already shown himself as a poet, but he was also interesting in that, that he had deep opinions about art together they even agreed to create a museum of fine arts, but love, tragic love, and there was only one date, a date to which she agreed in the park of simonov monastery everything happened... with peals of thunder, lightning strikes, a thunderstorm overtook them, the culmination of feelings, dmitry confessed, and here she stopped, she could not reciprocate his feelings and broke the heart of the young poet, in

his poems he confesses this tragic and unrequited love, why, why did you sing so sweetly, why did i listen to you so greedily, really he...